The deception of the baddie aesthetic

[@noluthandomnguni]

"Modesty will never be out of style. With Baddie aesthetic it is always changing and goes out of style." - Sihle

[@ckngivdtb37910]

I hate the baddie aesthetic. It's become the unofficial look of black women online. Something about it bothers me. The dependency on makeup, sexualisation, weave and dumbing yourself down.

[@Sihleeey]

I agree💯

[@kram9076]

When you look at the baddies look. It goes with the makeup and hair. The face has to have a sharp thin nose from the make up. Rosy checks doesn't that sound like a white person. Somehow we are always trying to look like the other race whether it be Asian, white or Indian. Cause whites also have this when they put make up to make lips look full like blacks and they do the bbls for big bums like blacks. So we are all so obsessed with looking like someone else other than ourselves. It's a sickness and I'm afraid to say demonic. 😢.

[@PerennialQuest]

And they are proud of it shem 💔

[@korexoxo]

what part is "dumbing yourself down"?

[@SnakoMsi]

even the music we listen to influences these aesthetics , personalities & morals.

[@Sihleeey]

Yes that’s why we must be careful what we listen to

[@dintle_kubheka]

Ma'am I'm always called uncool for enjoying old Soul and RnB😂👍🏽

[@Akha141]

I am a 20 year old woman and one thing i have realized is that the quality of a friend is more important than the quantity of friends... And i live towards confirming before conforming, i dont follow trends or follow people who follow trends... The only friend or friends i keep are the ones that have what i need in a person not want.

[@HisPrincess_]

I hear you sis I’m in my mid 20s well close to but I’ve noticed that me not having friends actually led me to my sanity, purity and the type of lifestyle and quality of life I have created for myself 😂. Even though I do crave some genuine friendships not having friends actually did get me through it all

[@Cvuntykind]

​@@HisPrincess_ real I found that today's friendships are about aesthetic and how good y'all look in group photos rather than having stuff in common and if they do have anything in common it's usually very shallow and not rooted on a deeper level. Yes I do crave female friendships but I'm well aware that I'm not esthetically pleasing to those females to be considered they friend cause who I am is the opposite of who they are so like it's really hard to make friends when you're not part of the social pack

[@phumlanindlovu5653]

you cooked sis omncane🤌🏾🔥🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@AriaSeymour97]

💯!!!!

[@duduzilepinkysikhosana]

Yoh Sihle , the way i relate to this. I don't own an iPhone or nice clothes and I remember trying to pressure my mom to get me these! I used to screenshot iythombe zama influencer and wanted to pose like them, speak like them! Every mannerism yonke!! I was so insecure NGL, However I've found my identity in Christ and nothing bothers me anymore yazi , I've been validated by Christ internally such that external validation does not fulfil anymore!❤ G

[@Tsh-p9y]

I am a 19 years old girl teenager. And you really empower me. A big sister that I need

[@Sihleeey]

Love to hear this 🥰🥰

[@mvikelidlamini4421]

Self-respect will never go out of style. You’re raising awareness Sihle.

[@Oarabile__M]

The baddie esthetic is aging the youth

[@duduzilepinkysikhosana]

The yoh I yoh' d!!!!!!!!!!😭😭😭😭😭😭

[@okokokoklala35]

"Gurl you're bringing the group average down"😂😂😂😂❤ learning a lot. I appreciate your channel.Love you, Sis Sihle👌.

[@Sihleeey]

😂😂🥰🥰🥰

[@SMCSMARTSNIPER]

Sihle, you are so on point. This is more spiritual than anything. This is why I'm turned off by "social media ladies" no matter how beautiful they can be. Once I see a gorgeous lady doing these crazy poses I'm instantly turned off!!

[@GalaxiBeatz]

We need more mindsets like yours in this era.🤞

[@Sihleeey]

😌🙏🏾

[@CryptoHustleLive]

you’re a blessing to social media. I would like to donate a brand new DJI wireless mic set to you so that you don’t have to pause. They have perfect noise filtering. How can I donate this?

[@Sihleeey]

Thank you so much. You can send me a dm on Instagram @sihleeey

[@malwandesondaba5747]

You are a true blessing Sihle .I am not on tik tok but my friends sent me videos of you saying you have been raised for such a time as this and I am so happy you have expanded your reach to KZbin and hopefully a podcast soon . I was also about to ask how we can donate towards your equipment but I see Mr GreyBTC has kindly offered . Looking forward to more of your content . Praying that God keeps you - stay prayerful ❤

[@Sihleeey]

@@malwandesondaba5747thank you so much ☺️ unfortunately he hasn’t responded since so I guess he has changed his mind and it would’ve really been helpful

[@camerongriek9784]

sharing the simplified Bible version on how women should conduct themselves. Thanks for your testimony❤ Keep on doing the works of God sis. For God’s glory!🙏🏽

[@rebeccalukusa3538]

Modesty will never go out of style ❤ Well said Sihle.

[@Lulaa-993]

Im 16 and for a while now I've desired to be a baddie,but thank you honestly. All i needat this point in time is to know God better😊❤

[@Treasure_Tshabalala]

Your audio and visual are great.

[@Sihleeey]

Thank you 😌🙏🏾

[@ezrayasharahla9672]

As Paul instructs aged women to be "teachers of good things". My sister, we hope for good not only from the young girls but also from you as well. Much love

[@Sihleeey]

Amen thank you 🥰

[@andilehf]

You’ve won my subscription. Your content Sisi is very mature

[@KB-jx1xx]

Sihle we appreciate you and your content.

[@pamaerysovershares7373]

Giiiiiiiiirl I loooooooove what you said about using what you have!!!! May God bless you abundantly 🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️🕯️

[@givenmabussi]

I'm a 20 year old male, and this video isn't geared towards the male demographic but I really appreciate the fact that you're setting a standard for the young black woman and the effect of parasocial relationships and debaucherous behaviour & trends that are promoted on social media. These conservative values are seen as "boring" and it's just polluting the mind of the young black girls & woman to fit and live according to this type of aesthetic - scantily clad clothing, sexualizing themselves & being ratchet so it's great to see a woman holding other women accountable, and spreading this message for young black women specifically.

[@DrTebelloMatsela]

love you and you are doing so well😄i love this informative videos

[@Lilitha_Cebisa]

You don't know how many young girls you are saving, do not ever stop!! 🥰🥰🥰

[@Linomta.Tabata]

Hi Sihle, yho I must say firstly I’m glad you took a step back from TIKTOK because that platform didn’t really give you the space and time to REALLY ARTICULATE yourself. I watched the whole video and I agree as young ladies we are driving ourselves into a path of lustrous destruction. And men lusting after us and sexualising us is the symptom of that.

[@ZeentHussain]

"Oh no chommie wait for me ".that one amused me😂

[@mduwestcon]

I wish this can be spread as far wide as possible ngoba this Baddie culture is going to destroy so many lives

[@bambiibee5943]

also another thing that has been bothering me is how these retail shops (MRP for example) sexualize young girls (toddlers, bro!) clothes. 😭 like how , why? why?

[@amandlela9466]

It's very weird

[@dintle_kubheka]

Even our clothes, there are barely normal clothing on the hangers😩 the shops are filled with baddie aesthetic yoh

[@SpindarellaMotloung]

Keep going girl! May our Heavenly Father grant you more grace and wisdom♥️

[@ot6896]

After watching this, I understand a lot more about you and your perspective. Glad I watched this♥️

[@Riverwan312]

The 'Why' matters.

[@thamimahlangabeza6639]

"You are bringing group average down..." 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Happy now that the girl who was lost, she has now been found

[@Sihleeey]

Amen to that 😂

[@komsanenondumiso9896]

😂😂😂❤

[@SiyaFrans]

ey young man here saw you on youtube i knew i had to click on the vid , love the content sihle ;)

[@calvyntecia]

@Sihleeey keep pushing hey, me personally I am a 30 year old male, l created my KZbin channel to talk to men about God and Psychology but decided Iet me go to school and study. Doing my second year this year and I am a qualified radiographer and states of patients that come in is mostly men. That triggered me to wanna find out why and causes of such. 😊

[@Sihleeey]

Love this thank you ☺️

[@blissful_vibes2604]

Yooh Sihle, the truth in this💯 I can relate so much but I don’t think I went as far as you did. One time I was told I should NEVER smile when taking pictures, I should have a “kinda mean face”. I don’t even wanna dive into how some of the content for IG taken😫 I came here to check what you had to say about baddies “this time around”🙄 cause I thought you are ALWAYS on baddies but then I subscribed right away😂 New subscriber

[@MadamThandi]

your truth is the bitter pill to swallow

[@abiding-g6x]

Please don't stop, much love from Namibia. Not a lot of young people think like you do.

[@Sihleeey]

Thank you 🥰

[@GrowWithMissT]

I am so proud to watch such content from a young lady!!! Keep it up dearest and keep walking with God in His light !!! May God continue to richly and abundantly bless and watch over you !!!

[@MoonLightt57]

You are a breath of fresh air! How is your skin so beautiful?!💗

[@melodicwisdom321]

You're a blessing never ever doubt that. God corrects wayward women through you. He gave you understanding and appointed you to be his trumpet of reason, do not let HIM down. Much love!

[@Sihleeey]

Amen thank you 🥹

[@Its-Ayola]

I wish KZbin also had an option to repost videos

[@jsNkutha-eu3iu]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kellythobejane4149]

Thank you for the content🤗❤️. One thing I’ve noticed is that they all look the same and it’s scary, there is no authenticity and uniqueness.

[@realestatecoachestv]

Noooooooooooooo this is okay!!! You're an empowerment content creator,All you need is your mind, your voice and what you are working with now!! Keep up the good work!!

[@karaboramusi6861]

We love your content, yaz i wish this young women could watch your videos. Don't stop please keep up we love you 💯🙌🏾

[@nkululekomengcane6371]

The only SA lady that will hold people to account for their actions.

[@penelopetlakula4620]

I live for your channel ❤

[@dipuokgabi2588]

Just bumped into this channel, had to subscribe after this video. 👌♥

[@jongoldau1339]

Been looking for this girl ever since hearing her take... On the chidima fiasco

[@ThePaafricaPodcast]

Good on you baby girl. As a kempton park local girlie, I'm proud of you.

[@nkosingiphilemthembu5786]

Silwa nobufebe, siyabonga sisi keep educating so yhe next generation wont suffer from the behaviour of the present generation

[@sanelen_]

Sihleee. How did I not know you have channel? I love your tiktok videos. Thank you for always being the sound voice.

[@ckngivdtb37910]

G-string or thong bikinis. Hate it all so much. They then wonder why certain establishments don't want them around. It changes the vibe of the place. Family restaurants and someone is acting like sexxy red. No man.

[@nmatsaba2383]

Keep this content lady, the young ones need this 🙏

[@katanamainn]

i love this video. i felt the exact way about this “baddie aesthetic”. it’s a serious pressure faced amongst women and it’s becoming toxic as more and more girls try to chase this unrealistic beauty standard

[@andiswakona5410]

Finally someone said it, thank you!

[@acidicsoul4978]

Yt has been recommending your videos to me and I kept scrolling past it. Today I decided to view a vid and this is the 3rd one I'm watching in a row 😅. I struggle with acting like a Christian, I look at how Tyla is dressing in my head I want to go with that style, in my heart I feel that it's wrong .. anyway I'll get there 🎉 Looking at your video's from last year and the ones you've made this year, I've seen a massive change in your appearance 🙌

[@OT_7776]

Wish there were more woman like Sihle. Most woman view life in the "Social Media lense"

[@richardzungu2447]

All baddies have a price tag.

[@Nokukhanya.Khumalo]

Thank you so much for this enlightening video Sihle may it find the suitable audience❤ May God continue to lead you and bless all the work that you do sis, may He be glorified in all that you do sis. You're doing absolutely amazing👏

[@ndumisoqolintaba8224]

If these younger girls can listen to you they can learn alot 👌

[@Born_A_Star]

Wena Wena You deserve to get more view because more ladies need to hear this ❤😮😢

[@cheranehlahla]

I’m here for this ❤❤❤❤

[@mbalii_mtsweni]

Thank you so much sihle for this ❤

[@otis3744]

What a lot of people miss is "they are all just one person", your identity is tied to your soul, a lot of people die while still very much alive by trading in who they are for who they think is better, a person and identity manufactured by the world, the world itself is dead and if your identity is a reflection of the world, you yourself are dead, watch GOD resurrect you from the dead.

[@FCSOnlineTrading]

You nailed this one, those with ears will agree with you.

[@syeh779]

I am so proud of you ❤

[@bafentsemogole4004]

baby love we juss need audio boost visuals are okay

[@TheCeoDesk]

Thank you boo ❤

[@prince_percent]

very informative 👏 ❤

[@moosankuna7736]

Ai I just came across you my babe. I love love love everything you say. Just subscribed.💗❤️

[@tashaaaa._]

Yho, thank you for changing my perspective🤍

[@ThapeloRamoshaba-zm6bm]

Real talk 👏👏❤️

[@taasolesela3157]

1. Women need to understand that men will not sexualize them unless they sexualize themselves. We are very good at identifying insecure women. And we know that women that sexualize themselves have a history of some sort of trauma or abuse, and therefore are easier to manipulate. 2. Baddies are for recreational use not marriage! Men use them to fulfill the sexual fantasies they are not willing to try out with their wives or real girlfriends. The baddie in this instance thinks she's winning because of some monetary gain while in actually she is just disqualifying herself from any future marriage (because men see her behavior). Women will always get attention from men (whether you are attractive or otherwise), but what you want from a man is commitment. That's how you know he values you.

[@trevourchaitezvi4278]

men will still cheat and abuse, even if you are modesty. Women `s role should not be about pleasing men, but modesty should be for yourself not another individual.

[@Lilitha_Cebisa]

Ohhh sweetie pieee, God will bless yo. It’s only a matter of time !🏆

[@StrangeTimes-ji7lv]

Wow, quality indeed.

[@fistosravenscroft6651]

I like time, time will reveal the real fool.

[@afri900]

There is never going to be a Marie Curie, Naledi Pandor or Mia Mortley that will come from the baddie culture. We all know the results of this trajectory. Thanks for elaborating on it

[@ballleee]

Love love this 💕

[@MrMsomi]

Very empowering. Sad that SA doesn’t care much for people like us who push out and empower the nation. I would pick you for a wife and best friend. 🥰

[@thabisohitchdladla]

Hi Sihle , beautiful and powerful introduction … well done and all the best fellow KZbinr ❤

[@joycemasusu9890]

I love it here ♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

[@sifisofakude9176]

You're beautiful Sihle

[@lisamsuthu3394]

Atleast you have grown proud of you. ❤❤

[@michaelptthompson1433]

You are fantastic, Sihle🎉✨🎉✨🎉✨🎉✨🎉 Love your content, love your channel✨💯✨💯✨💯✨💯✨💯✨

[@palesaradebe-bz4qu]

I really wonder sometimes just how lucky the guy who will marry you will be I am also drawn closer to you because of your love for God

[@Sihleeey]

Thank you so much 🥹❤️

[@lefacalebmogotsi5368]

I like this type of content

[@thembisilepraise]

Talk your talk girl

[@dintle_kubheka]

13:56 yoh Sihle yoh😭 futhi yazini im leaving the hun alone shame

[@ndivhokharivhe]

You really do attract what you are…if you are a surface level thinker who lacks the ability to self introspect then that is exactly what you will attract, in friendships and in relationships. This is not about men….this is about women learning to love and value themselves without approval from any friend or social media app engagement. Women are incredibly special beings who should be protected and cherished, it all starts with self respect and how you carry yourself…. It’s very hard to respect someone who doesn’t even respect themselves

[@maggiemakgatho9618]

Lack of identity is what this is, nothing more.

[@yolisagumede7178]

my wife bethuna kunin kulindil yoh god is good😭😭😭

[@entlehlazo9598]

So at which point did you realize you need to change your ways and that you're inn too deep?

[@zeenhlengcobo]

SZA is genuinely pick-me, emo, insecure girl music. Nicki Minaj is boss bitch, pretty girl, aggressive Rap music, and Jhene Aiko is alternative, sage, spiritual, enlightened, self-discovery, radical honesty music. None of these girls are promoting baddie lifestyles; you're just saying that because they're popular...and popularity doesn't necessarily make one a baddie.

[@manny8042]

Shout Out to the Eastrand! BeastRand!!!

[@sirk3690]

Thank You

[@SibongileMahlangu-jc4eq]

This is human evolution where by those who choose to adapt will be judged 😊 and those who don't will....I don't know.

[@Gangster-y9m]

Adapting and being influenced are two different things 🙌

[@SibongileMahlangu-jc4eq]

@Gangster-y9m okay you win.

[@Gangster-y9m]

@@SibongileMahlangu-jc4eq thanks 😊❤️

[@khunli7]

It’s those capcut templates 11:53 😭😭😭

[@AlwandeMkhulise-u7x]

idc if a girl/woman does not have the same mindset as Sihle's she cant be my wife, im sorry🙏.

[@sibz1101]

Yaaaaaas girl❤

[@FxrtuneMaker]

Girl you smart teach them to reach them

[@anonymous-g6b3o]

We men have been saying this but yall don't take us dogs serious😂😂

[@kekeletso3958]

Bruv it had me totally believing that women are crazy. And I hate that it makes you iffy about every girl that comes in your life, weird ass shit, because u are somehow how expecting her to turn out like most these baddies out here, maybe she's low key just to cuff me. Madness