The Difference Between Compromise and Workability in Relationships

In this episode, Teal Swan clears up the confusion around compromise and workability. She explains why compromise is detrimental to your well-being and your relationship, and why workability is essential for harmony, mutual satisfaction, and success.
She also gives you some practical tips on how to be workable without compromising yourself, and how to deal with unworkability on the other side. If you want to learn how to avoid compromise and create workability in your relationships, this episode is for you!
Listen Out For:
- Compromise is giving up something that you value and it causes pain and disharmony
- Workability is finding a solution that meets both your and your partner’s needs and desires
- Workability is based on communication, mutual respect, and willingness to work together
- Workability should be about the smaller things that don’t conflict with your values
- Workability preserves your values, enhances your life, and strengthens your relationships
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[@kingangelofficial]

My ex called me an hour ago so I waited until Teal posts this video (I knew it was going to be about compromises because of law of attraction) 😂😂 Now im going to watch it and apply it.

[@annikabirgittanordlander6887]

”For a relationship to be harmonious, mutually pleasing and successful, we need to be workable. When something is workable, it is flexible, negotiable, pliable and adaptable. It can be influenced, molded or changed so that it produces the desired effect or the desired results. When a person is being workable, they are settling a dispute/conflict or reaching agreement/alignment by way of flexibility by adaptability. By finding a win-win. Or by letting the other person have their way because doing so does not conflict with something they deeply value”. Teal Swan. Thank you Teal 🌎💕🕊🥰

[@crackheadvibez5318]

I love you people who put the important parts so I don't have to view the whole video ❤

[@coreycox2345]

@@crackheadvibez5318 Like me, you may have ADD and only seem like a crackhead.

[@annimalasenko7326]

Sure the idea that we don't need to 'win' an argument like children, but should conversate like adults is good, but not revolutionary. As I said the way this woman brings across some points can be harmfull, even if some truth seems to be within. For example predetory people that have an advantage on the other person if this way of thinking is conditioned in them. I hope that explains what I mean

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

It always comes down to the why we're doing something, it seems. The intention behind it.

[@netherworlde]

I have never been in a relationship because whenever someone approaches me with romantic intentions, and I ask them what our theoretical relationship would look like, there is always an element of compromise that I, alone, am expected to make. I will love and support someone from a thousand miles away if they are strong enough to not compromise their vision or mine. But few people can understand this. People expect such a life to be lonely and unfulfilled, but honestly, my life keeps getting better and better. I get many remarks on how mature and sure of myself I am for someone my age.

[@anthonyfaanos]

That is actually genius, I think I might try asking that too, along with all the other questions of compatibility I already had in mind. Thanks, L

[@madeOfStone319]

Yeah but it's easy to be mature when you're not testing yourself in relationships. Or having children

[@netherworlde]

@@madeOfStone319 Who says you can only grow from romantic relationships? Who says that because you do not have biological children of your own, you cannot learn from others'? I've worked as a children's educator and caregiver, and matured tremendously from the experience.

[@madeOfStone319]

@netherworlde OK well fair but how many single non parents would that apply too really

[@netherworlde]

@@madeOfStone319 That, I don't know. What I do know is just as there are mature non-parents, there are also immature parents. Maturity cannot be measured by the types of relationships a person has, but by how they navigate them. You simply have to learn about the individual to know.

[@TealSwanOfficial]

Incase You'd Rather Read About It Instead: tealswan.com/resources/articles/the-difference-between-workability-and-compromise-in-a-relationship-r582/

[@dockaren76]

I have a friend on the brink of divorce who I believe would benefit from hearing this. Thanks, Teal!

[@theultrawarrior7448]

Thanks for being a good friend and a Samaritan. Be blessed, sister in spirit.

[@drivethruabortion280]

The brink means it has been over, and only one has to be miserable, or think they are miserable for it to end. There is nothing the other can do. I assume your friend is the wife. She has to lose him. And then she might realize her error years from now. And if he has any guts, he won't take her back.

[@dockaren76]

@@drivethruabortion280 That's right. The reason why she needs to leave is what I'm getting from this video. I think it'll open her eyes so she can move on sooner. We all take our own time though.

[@theultrawarrior7448]

@@drivethruabortion280 On the brink of means on the verge of. Be blessed

[@andrew5222]

prerequisite: expose your subconsciously-suppressed values to yourself

[@SilentShiba]

Big 🧠

[@Nina_Kowsari]

This was perfect. I feel like the last part especially with all the “whether” questions is a great way to clarify the difference between workability and compromise, forever. Also great to illuminate a lot of potholes in our subconscious mind. Thanks Teal ❤

[@roshomosho]

There are soooo many layers to this. My ex had gaslighted me into believing that he was being workable with me so that he gets an ego boost about how good a partner he is, he "allows" his girl to have "rights" over him. Compromise and workability are two different things, now layer gaslighting done with lots of "love" on top of it. Also I feel most Indian men expect their female partner to always FREELY compromise or get workable real quick, and then get another ego boost out of it like "of course she'll do it coz she's my slave, she loves me!" so any genuine compromise or workability work i had done was seen as "woohoo" "she's bent herself even more for me" (and lowered her value by her own self) when in reality I have actually done the work to make something workable for both of us AND ME. When other person cant even see what level of work their partner has done, all of this directly goes out the window and i dont know how many Indian men train themselves to do any of this work, coz they have never done anything!

[@ida1462]

I see you. I agree with you. This topic can be SO complex!

[@ChannelYourInformation]

Indian men (and probably a lot of other men) think they are God's gift to women. 🙏📿

[@kittysnowshoe6475]

Indian men are notoriously bad when it comes to this, I agree.. I feel even with Indian male friends I am always sidelined and expected to defer all decisions to them.. even something as innocuous as ordering a tea with my meal and being told not to.. to order it after my meal.. like hello, I want it now! Who are you to tell me when I should order my sad little herbal tea?! How is this decision affecting you?!

[@awildbecoming]

I’m glad Teal finally clarified this more deeply

[@justindean-411]

Boyzone - Everyday I Love you, this song just relaxes me and completely, immediately calms me. Listening to it now. :) My emotionality and mental state is often like a train wreck. I long to find myself a soothing, nurturing, loving and lovely girlfriend, for myself, who is proud of me, proud to have me, and proud to be with me publicly, would forget the world and I become Her World, someone who just knows me to the max, when my soul is hurting to the core, without me having to say a word. Someone who would defend me. Someone who will never betray me or use me. Who would stand by me as I build myself up for my dreams - and not get in the way, so in the end, I can turn it around and give it all to my Wonderful Lady and absolutely nothing goes to my family. Everything for my Soul-Tribe family. My blood family permanently means nothing to me. I long to find myself a sweet partner like this. No one conniving, indecent, unkind. And I will be the loveliest boyfriend ever. I will never be abusive to my girlfriend, never treat her poorly out of nowhere, always will take care of her in the ways I can (I am short in height, so can't do many things Conor Mcgregor can easily). But I will be the most gentle, loving, devoted and respectful boyfriend. I am a gentle soul. A sweet soul, who often experiences critical suicidal ideation, because I will permanently feel as if I don't belong in this world (people like I) and that this world is always for Other People and Other People's Love Stories and Other People Other People Other People, always. I will always feel inadequate and worthless, not clever enough, always a bit dumb, and as my Lifetime has reminded me, I am ''not a human being with human rights'' -- My mother's words. Hopefully now, I hope you can understand me a bit better.

[@idabutterfly1600]

What to do when the other person can't see, that "a little thing" is a big thing for you. You are not workable, but it is not accepted. I think that is hard, but maybe a beutiful gift that teaches me to accept and respect my own boundaries for the sake of truth and love, in the longer run ❤

[@paulmccrone-noaafederal2436]

I think you have very good ideas here. I think your ideas are VERY tied to the semantic definitions you have chosen. I do think you have done a good job of laying out the issues. Thanks.

[@oneuniversesol1790]

Wow the universe is really working in my favor. I just got a promotion so I am more interactive with the owner of the company and he is a piece of work. I was watching your video either about energy exchange or the codependent one. A lot did resonate but told myself I'm good, I'm not in a serious relationship right now and I work independently. But a few days ago I was telling myself I need to watch that video again, then, you uploaded this!!!! I'm so grateful for your existence Teal. I don't say God I see God!

[@nicothecat1648]

I actually view the word compromise to mean what you say is workability. Your definition of compromise is what I would consider to be sacrifice or to be self sacrificial. Whatever word you choose to use, I agree with the overall sentiment you are expressing.

[@kinethecoach]

Speechless. Thank you. That was so enlightening. So the work will be to get clear on boundaries, values, needs to know when things are workable or when it is compromise. And know who to choose for which role in one's life. This video was life changing. Thank you again. ❤

[@cassandramartin-smith3354]

love this i have always been win win and workability never met a man who is workable to

[@terryrustad1800]

Absolutely Brilliant... Very Well Articulated 💫

[@paulacretu1263]

You are too good to be true. Thank u once again, Teal!

[@breathecarv]

I love your efforts to clarify these 2, thank you

[@lissafunny]

Teal, I would love to get to know you outside of your videos and seminars to see how someone with all this insight acts and handles things. Maybe it could rub off on me 😂 No, but truly I do often wonder what someone with this insight would act like. All your videos really make me think, or make decisions I didn't realize I even had a say in. It's amazing timing too because I recently realized I don't actually know who I am anymore, and these videos make me feel like the Scarecrow being given a brain so I can think of things I never thunk before.

[@HananBenNafa]

Thank you. I think you are the person who spoke most accurately & interestingly about the topics of relationship compatibility & compromise ❤

[@chudbabies]

Holy cow. This is why I need Clones. We're still using this as an example for talking about-- !! When we could have just practiced transparency in relationships to begin with!

[@foeke7555]

Dear Teal, I have a episode idea/question. First thanks for all your wisdom. I love your work, I do the work, integrate and practice. I also follow Joe dispenza, and his practise looks like your episodes about integrate your furture self and about your heart that your heart has the power to integrate. Can you make a episode about how it's possible that people heal in one seminar, and what you can see with your extrasensory ability? I am very curious 🥰

[@tjbohmier46]

Awesome perspective! Search for and allow what is workable into your orbit in life. Compromises will only chisel away at your soul and peace. Thanks.

[@sage7172]

Well said Teal

[@rosemarry49]

I admire u alot teal, you have helped me spo much

[@magickittenz]

So Positive

[@Indigoindeed]

What if your partner knows exactly what they want all the time, and you don’t really know what you want? The partner always gets what they want and it’s your own fault for not knowing what you want.

[@andersnielsen6044]

Why would you be someone elses support and service slave?

[@jayc326]

So much wisdom here

[@Breathoffreshair88]

Excellent video Thankyou Teal. :)

[@CloserTOnatureWrldwd]

Hi I just wanted to tell you that I admire after all you have been through.. that you are doing this… and people come to you sometimes with very banal problems… I have to say I believe everything you have been through and if I could I would join your group to help you

[@Demian_Stoic]

Wow. This video is super helpful and super intricate with the other compromise/compatibility videos. This is worth saving and listening over and over

[@Sikanderisa]

Thankyou. Have a good week too ! 🙏🏽

[@shadowish90]

Hi Teal. This comment has nothing to do with this video. I just picked up the last posted video that has the most chance of you reading it. I found your channel in november 2019. Since then i started the long journey of working on my self. I got your book how to love your self. I did all the work as i knew best. And now after 4 years i am still stuck. Something i do is wrong and i dont know what. You said suicide is the worst self hate it can get. For me i have no view for this toxic society, i have no hope for mankind, no purpose like the "drones" that wake every morning to get to the job and get paid at the end of the mounth.Is this still self hate? Ofcourse my mindset is more then that but for this comment i am simply askeing if you personally can find the time to speak with me one on one. THANK YOU

[@sylviafeuerherm4334]

Pretty amazing content Teal, congrats on this one😍

[@Growmetheus]

Been waiting on this vid!

[@esotericgamedev]

Great video thanks so much Teal

[@JSMI]

Happy To Watch And Listen

[@eddywolton6397]

This is spot on, so much misinformation out there

[@firefoxchibi]

What if it's impossible or extremely unlikely that you'll ever find someone who meets most of your needs and desires in a relationship? And yet you really don't want to end up alone? In that case should we not learn to switch off some of those needs and settle for a bit less? Aka is it possible that some people are so emotionally messed up and have too many complex needs that they actually do need to compromise?

[@Jules-740]

I am facing this exact question now after meeting different guys through my life. I am now 40 and none of them seem like anyone I want or feel connected to. Until last month i met the perfect man for me! Unbelievable deep connection, chemistry, values, compatability, personality, and then he was GONE! soon as I realized he would be so compatible for me! He ended up ghosting me. Now I am thinking indont want to be alone but also I dont think I can settle. I might have to be alone.😢

[@anthonyfaanos]

Don't make your partner responsible for meeting all your needs. Have a group of friends where each friend has at least 1 need they meet, that way you will need less from your partner.

[@drivethruabortion280]

I want you to be alone, and like it.

[@Jules-740]

@drivethruabortion280 Thank you for that wish i love it and it is heart warming and encouraging to me. I also wish it too for myself and every human being on earth. And I have experienced that for several years. But then I met a man, and I just never had felt happier than that. Im just at q point in my life where I desire a partner. I've been 12 years single not allowing any men into my life deliberatly , so I accomplished the work in myself that I needed. But I guess not enough?

[@The_Gohan_of_Crunch]

Add more friends to your life that meet different needs. That would take the strain off your primary relationship and allow them to show up fully for the things they can and want to do for you. My EX wanted me to meet all or damn near all of her needs and I told her time and time again, I cannot and do not want to do it all. I wanted her to have friends and she would fight me and say you have to do it needless to say, it ended badly. But I learned a valuable lesson. I hope that helps.

[@cornwallismorgan874]

Okay but sometimes compromise is required for a relationship to succeed. I personally have an anxiety response where I pick my scalp obsessively, and my most recent ex was bothered by it. So even though this anxiety response is my truth right now, it is arguably detrimental to me and to my relationship with her. She didn't let me fix it and reprogram my brain and sabotaged all the progress I would make, but that's only one reason why she's now an ex. Just because you value something and just because it's your truth, doesn't mean it's good or healthy and should be enabled to continue.

[@millanferende6723]

Amazing! Thank you!

[@Dequa21]

Thank you Love ❤️‍🔥

[@scottcox9108]

Words don't teach, only life experience ~A Hicks It's no secret, but youre not really here to learn Youre here to play

[@TM.M.d.M.-xv5su]

3:35 the ❤ black magic markers keep my brain calm .

[@jo.k.4210]

was waiting for this topic yess

[@mattmcknzi]

Teal this is such a good video!!! 😊

[@rick3461]

A fellow 1984 child. I knew it.

[@SunyChi]

Thank u

[@nicholasblakiston6297]

Compromise is impossible until communication is opened up.

[@blue_sky_bright_sun7599]

thank you!

[@DARKELLAKEL]

Brilliant Teal, but won’t this make everyone single?

[@lourry2010]

Dear Teal, Would it be possible to talk about imposter syndrome please?

[@mmerivka]

Brilliant insight...though new to your integrated knowledge, I distinctly feel you are a domineering hypocrite after watching the "Deep End" documentary. I was happy for and relieved that Blake chose his own direction...his own authenticity and to not be beholden to rigid rules and "ownership". You have shamanic abilities and deep wisdom but at the end of the day, I prefer more positive "leaders" walking the talk.

[@elvinsimon5008]

very difficult stuff.

[@sherececocco]

Yes. Should is a control word. You trying to control you. Should is the equivalent of rubbing a puppies nose in poop to train them. It doesn’t work. When you Should on your Self it is the equivalent of you rubbing your nose in your own poop and when we should on others it is the equivalent of taking a poop and rubbing someone else's face in your poop and expecting them to make better choices. Can you learn this way? I would be confused AF if someone did that to me. This happens from the time we are born. Not to mention should is a narrow minded view. Only one right way is the purpose of should. Control, is not connection. And connection is our collective biggest need.

[@KristinaMaca8]

awesome

[@--OFFLINE]

Like this comment if you want teal to make a video about social anxiety-- ever since Covid it seems like this has gotten way my more common

[@kingangelofficial]

she already has tho

[@oliverrojas3185]

Thanks

[@RH-gl6vs]

I Compromise, I eventually feel resentment. Workability, she feels she’s compromised and becomes resentful. Imagine that. 🤷‍♂️

[@Legendaryexingear]

These things are so extremely basic. Most people are extremely misguided im realizing now :(

[@Ragingknight12]

I want people's opinions on this, so I have a friend who prefers to socialize and game at 10 at night since he doesn't have to be to work until 1 in the afternoon and is off by like maybe 9 pm, where as I get up and get ready for work at 4 in the morning since I have to be there by 5 am, so I have to be in bed at 9 to 9:30 at night, how can he and I compromise when he says that anything before 10pm is inconvenient cause he does other things how can we work things out especially when we only game online and never meet up in person.

[@biesanzz]

No segs?

[@nousha666]

You are so smart

[@user-oj3rx8qi5w]

Yay!!! I will be happy to talk to you!

[@Nina_Kowsari]

Long enough list for you? :D lol - Say no to compromise!

[@north40lady98]

Clear it up Teal... Word salad here...

[@TM.M.d.M.-xv5su]

Teal teal since the beach day I just realized that all the girls I've dated have your look did I mess something up or was that me I always like that look your look how to say not racist but I'm second born generation that your look is my type

[@jadaaleeshamindexpert7365]

Ride on time

[@missanthrop0cene]

I really miss the green screen backgrounds 😅

[@user-wc3jm8yg4z]

Maine Diya Maine nahi Diya pata nahi

[@AliHussein-hy7fx]

❤❤❤

[@AshleyNeal369]

🎉

[@soklarstarr]

Can you do a video on the uprise of only fans and sex positivity culture?

[@randy5829]

No Kidding.

[@justindean-411]

You love to get your way. Lol.

[@ahmada6679]

❤

[@pruetoricangirl]

😭

[@ZFern9390]

Hahaha my ex husband couldn't compromise his love of alcohol and social media addiction.

[@anothergodlessheathen]

What no man will hear from ANY American woman: "Thank you" or "I apologize".

[@drivethruabortion280]

The first they will deliver, not truly feeling it. Just courtesy. The latter, you will never hear. How could the morally superior victim ever be wrong?

[@eleonora_vappolewild2132]

Devo dipingere casa per te?

[@jasoncoker1625]

🤘💯😑

[@Andrea-Rose]

🐇🐇🐇

[@nicothecat1648]

Your logo is very reminiscent of the Gilead logo from handmaid's tail. Creepy...

[@HansImWald]

I want to Marry her

[@annimalasenko7326]

There is never a 100 percent accurate answer to boundries because boundries are individual, no matter the definition of compromising... for example when you go through rehab it is very uncomfortable to do so, but it is necessery to get better. It is NEVER nessecery to do something another person find's to be better. This woman is not a professional and people like this can do a lot of harm by giving people the wrong ideas. Compromisses are needed in every realationship, but what this lady is promoting is straight up unhealthy, even though SOME truth is being said. Be carefull to listen to people you don't know.

[@pavanrajshet2438]

Intelligent women goes nothing 😂😂

[@jeanjacqueslundi3502]

Pijama spirituality.

[@davidwartski7213]

Do you compromise on all those different camera angles? Who are you talking to? It doesn't make any sense. It's like you're talking to us when you're looking at us, and then you're not. Or you're talking to someone else off camera. It's weird, man. Distracting. Fire your director! Also, really bad editing. Come on, man.

[@kingangelofficial]

I've never laughed harder. How did you come up with this BS? Her videos look very professional. Editing is on point.

[@stever507]

Says the guy with no followers

[@andretokayuk8100]

..)/* When it comes to spliffs, don't compromise.. stick to Bugler papers.. they roll the fattest spliffs...)/* Anybody else think TS has a wonderful voice?) Sure wish this vid was in song form..)/*

[@MncMm]

Openness, empowerment 🫶

[@avilesandres]

❤

[@annimalasenko7326]

There is never a 100 percent accurate answer to boundries because boundries are individual, no matter the definition of compromising... for example when you go through rehab it is very uncomfortable to do so, but it is necessery to get better. It is NEVER nessecery to do something another person find's to be better. This woman is not a professional and people like this can do a lot of harm by giving people the wrong ideas. Compromisses are needed in every realationship, but what this lady is promoting is straight up unhealthy, even though SOME truth is being said. Be carefull to listen to people you don't know.