the dynamics of female friendships.

[@lexxxus.crxwnzlexxxus.crxw5990]

Can’t wait to find great friendships!! I’m not giving up!

[@princesshazell]

Literally.

[@dabaddie3281]

Same ❤ I feel like God has someone for everyone

[@czarinadaipan2997]

same bestie! big luck on your journey getting genuine female friendships✨️

[@estheradao]

lol

[@ndongo-rk1mk]

We’ll find our ppl eventually

[@princesshazell]

girl friendships are so important I was literally just talking about friendship. I can’t wait to be around genuine girls.

[@thetruepath4534]

for realll girll

[@LuvKitKatt]

Truth!! 🙏🏾even if it’s a small circle

[@LevityBrevity]

Im a girls girl...born in the 80s. My girls are my BFFs! Ive kept my friends for 20+ years. I typically dont trust women who "dont like women" cringe.

[@imanielohiykem3751]

Times were different then. I feel like that was one of the best times to have friends because the women were just different.❤

[@kelceynicole]

@@imanielohiykem3751i do have to agree with this. my mom & my aunts all have had friends for YEARS & I love that they all still do things with one another. it’s such a beautiful thing to see!

[@theleahalexander]

Love this!

[@Missbombastic-k8c]

Female misogynists are more dangerous than male misogynists. Girls girls are blessings ❤

[@Tasha8626]

First and foremost I will say childhood experiences shapes the way a lot of people show up in friendships. When you are an attractive woman you can honestly catch HELL from other women. You maybe as humble as pie, but women can still be vile and catty. You may see them as your friend and the whole while they’re seeing you as competition. Even fellow attractive women. It’s really difficult being friends with women, people do not talk about it enough. Women on jobs will go out of their way as well to sabotage you.

[@vivianosvaldo]

I knew this one girl and in the beginning of the friendship she would always tell me “well I would hate to be pretty cuz that means u will get hella evil eye” I was like what? everytime I told her little inconveniences and problems I had she would always be so excited and point out that someone jinxed me .bitches are truly wierd! If anything she would be giving me that evil eye😂

[@LuvKitKatt]

Bingo

[@jamilaamia]

she was jealous of u

[@Niesha364]

I’ve seen plenty of women give their girl friends chance after chance and turn a blind eye to bs, including me, so the narrative that women only give their girl friends one chance and their men many chances does not ring true in my book. Friendships bn girls have certain dynamics that are toxic and hard to break from and honestly rather than fixate on building sisterhood, I’d rather have 1-2 solid friends I know I can trust. Haven’t been the girl to have bad experiences with girls and say “I’m just gonna have male friends” bc no thanks. Being comfortable with yourself is a great blessing tbh. That’s how you ultimately meet your people.

[@goldenlioness868]

I agree with everything but one thing. I’m genuinely a bubbly and happy person so when I meet someone new that I feel we have a lot in common I am naturally positive and will hype them up. That’s just my personality but it is genuine. Everyone seems to just have a nonchalant attitude these days and it has killed my energy to the point where I can’t even be my real self because it’s seen as a red flag…… It’s draining.

[@lovepositivity2632]

So true same here

[@C_theesiren]

Dam.. I feel seen 😂

[@lovelymartha3961]

Same !! 🫠😞

[@char6081]

samee bby but we shouldn’t change ourselves. The right ppl will find us ❤

[@Hiiiiitsdevie]

i felt this so real, like i'll hype you up and be so supportive of you more than of myself.

[@LuvKitKatt]

I would say for the spending more time with your bf part in the friendship part of it. I feel like you should balance that time & making time with your significant other & your friends/family.. there’s WAYYY too many women who put their romantic relationships OVER their friendships & connection with other people. That’s super unhealthy! You should have your own life & friends aside from your relationship. Just learning how to spend time with your friends & your partner is very imperative

[@alayna_lasha7545]

You ate this miss mamas, this KZbin content is definitely your lane, I need you to do the dash in it. You have IT . ✨

[@theleahalexander]

Thank you 🥹💞

[@musikmusik4457]

I onlyy have good female friendships truly a blessing and its healing me more than anything else ever did. Im truly blessed, alll of them are the best one of a kind beautiful people i love them more than i can describe. I feel so heald and happy knowing they exist and we nurture eachother every day. I have so much love in my heart and i tell them my love everyday ❤ we are having deep conversations everytime we meet, everyone of them is so special and beautiful its unbelievable. This year for me is all about platonic unconditional love. For me its the most wholesome and unconditional love ive ever encountered bedides my family. Woman are so incredibly amazing ❤❤❤❤❤ i could never be jealous of them because im just so happy if they have sucsess i wish them the best❤

[@symonem6982]

I loved the way you described this lol , I can’t wait to find my real close friend lol

[@aliyahbeanmean]

I always listen to ur vids while studying, me and my bestie have know each other for 12+ years and I prefer just having one solid friendship. I've always been in big friend groups but that gets draining after a while, so I'm good with her 😂

[@theleahalexander]

I feel that ! A solid 1-3 is always perfect for me.

[@gabriellagreenidge9212]

I have low self-esteem but I'm aware of it so I never really express it anyway to others,especially. Like if I have a bad thought about myself I'll just keep it to myself. I'm trying to be better and your videos help me a lot so thank for the advice and these videos

[@theleahalexander]

You’re so welcome 💕

[@char6081]

ur beautiful love ❤ keep growing

[@makalayoung580]

Yeah, I have friends who are really active and love hiking and kayaking and I’m more of a go out to eat/shopping/get Starbucks kinda girl. Plus being a mom makes things infinitely harder to really run errands together and do the same activities

[@myas.6485]

me personally, I'm a "don't fund genocide" typa girl

[@LuvKitKatt]

@@myas.6485me personally I wouldn’t make this selfish comment

[@Datb2]

It’s always the jokes. It’s really sad. I can’t even say wat some use to say it was so gross and rude 😔 It comes down to desirability when ur more attractive. A trauma bond is not the way you describe…it’s the emotional bond between an abuser/perpetrator and a victim

[@theleahalexander]

You know what that is the textbook definition so you ate that! I hope you're able to still understand what I meant in regards to forming a friendship for the sole purpose of bonding over shared traumatic experiences.

[@lexiediazxo]

@@theleahalexander honestly a lot of people misuse the term because it does sound like what you explained despite that not being the meaning of the word, we did fully understand what you meant tho. really good video so far i'm only partway in.

[@Datb2]

@@theleahalexanderyess I completely understand it make sense

[@yazzyinc16]

This vid couldn’t have come at a better time. Thank you Leah.❤️🙏🏾

[@kalopsias]

this is amazing ?? i feel like i've never watched a video and related this much. this was like talking on the phone with a friend telling me something i need to hear. love it, thank you !!!~

[@theleahalexander]

I’m glad you loved it 💞 tune in for part 2 on 2/20!

[@Itskiarawoods]

Codependency. I resent some time in college where I invited certain people so many places because now their involvement and the fall out is cloudy. Support wasn't equal either. What you said about being pretty is so real. I appreciate this channel.

[@selissitngdivinity]

I have a friend who I feel like has secret animosity because she thinks I'm mens 'preference' compared to her. Ive never really been attractive until the most recent years so I don't make looks my main identity. But she says things like 'oh you're a biracial baddie', and how I'm not black and telling me I could never have 4c hair. idk it sounded weird to me. She's not a bad person but do you think it's worth me trying to have a friendship with her if she learns to be more secure with herself? Also lovedddd your video, definitely needed to hear this

[@NallahBrown]

Have you talked to her about the way you think/feel?

[@theleahalexander]

I think you should have a convo with her about the comments & see how that goes first

[@clairegumbear]

This was amazing, funny, and very insighful!! Thanks

[@Janiqua_Dominique]

I love this! ❤ had me over here emotional lol but the weird tryna push their way into being your friend is crazy! I always knew it was weird just didn’t have a word for it 🥴

[@jeseniabutler-castillo6374]

Leah your videos are so helpful & your delivery is so easy to engage with. Love these podcasts pls keep them up

[@theleahalexander]

🥹🫶🏾

[@SparklyPsychic]

Honestly you hyped up female relationships so much 😭 I want to hear your take on romantic relationships!

[@kerensita9760]

I relate to you so much girl and I love you for sharing and being real. ❤❤

[@theleahalexander]

❤❤

[@jjq9360]

thank u for supporting women

[@XiomaraArielle]

This is so real!! I love it sis, thank you for sharing 💖

[@GHO5tMod3]

I’m too old to deal with female friendships I’m picky on who I let in

[@kaya6478]

Another great video💕

[@livgrey25]

The only thing I have to say about women who give partners more chances than their girlfriends is because they are trying to build a life with the partner. It’s a very different set of expectations. And let’s be real, friendships can and will be seasonal. Also before anyone jumps down my throat, I don’t believe in cutting people off so quickly, I think learning to compartmentalize friendships is a smarter approach. Okay sis isn’t someone to talk “X” about, that’s fine but your other friend you can. Your friend doesn’t have to fulfill all of what you’re looking for, just like your partner.

[@a-scend_.712]

I had a friend that lasted from freshman year til adulthood. Once i couldn’t give her what she wanted one time she started airing out her true emotions she felt towards me secretly. She use to take horrible pictures of me that she kept and would randomly send to me. Majority of the friendship was based off of her lack of self esteem and her needing to humiliate me to make herself feel superior. I use to think we had a sisterhood but now i know i was never her friend.

[@makalayoung580]

Yesss omg trauma bonding is toxic fr

[@jameetoussaint7958]

Literally lost two of my best friends because I decided to spend the day with my bf who had a child on Father’s Day instead of going to a concert with them I took accountability said sorry and told them I’ll make it up but if our 14 years of friendship wasn’t worth it 🤷🏿‍♀️

[@liveentertainment4841]

You probably did it before in another way

[@bearsubs]

hi, i just wanted to ask if it would be possible for you to make a video of like being a good friend. i will definitely say there’s been times i’ve been jealous that my friends have closer bonds with people, but i have learned to appreciate that i get to have my own bond or active part in their life. i’d like to make sure that i won’t make any mistakes with my friends as it isn’t their job to call out negative behaviour.

[@theleahalexander]

Hi babe, I can definitely do that.

[@bearsubs]

@@theleahalexander thank you!

[@C_theesiren]

Side note your makeup is on POINT can we get a tutorial?!

[@Havilland_Sameera]

This video was helpful!

[@youngblisslife4308]

When I was in high school, my friend and I was talking to our teacher about something and out of the blue, my friend mentioned something about my buck teeth. I think I may have told her that I wanted braces at some point. Me and the teacher just looked at her because it was clearly our of spit. I will never forget that. I've since fixed my teeth and people get veneers to have my teeth 😂

[@star9506]

Can you talk about how to make friends. I’m in my 20s never went to college (went to school online) and it’s sooo hard to make friends. I’m so lonely

[@yomijam7712]

Just found your channel! You are absolutely gorgeous!!

[@LovelandaB.B]

And on that note, a perfect way to end the video! 😂 #thebiggestickkkk

[@NallahBrown]

The intro snapped lol

[@NallahBrown]

I just want to say that your teeth are AMAZING.

[@theleahalexander]

Thank you 💞

[@ligma8772]

Off topic… your makeup looks good, tutorial please!!!!

[@Mersaydz]

Wait I need that MacBook case ! 😍

[@Adrieanana]

Your taking all of the words out of my mouth about girls not to be friends with "very weird " is exactly the word hence why i have no women friends 🙄

[@Barbiekalee]

I love u babe ! 🤍🤍🤍

[@theleahalexander]

Love you more 🫶🏾 thank you for watching !

[@alexisk5978]

Sayyyy it !!!!

[@Stacy..H]

Can you do a makeup routine?

[@Divine_dialogues2]

Trauma bond friendship always form in toxic work environments!

[@bria4776]

I’ve given up. Like genuinely, I understand when ur attractive girls won’t naturally want to gravitate towards u but I’m doneeee I’m in uni and all I get is dirty looks and stares. And my only friends are guys like not on some pick me shit.

[@PinkColor-w7c]

Where is the jacket from? 😍

[@Ravalos3260]

This video was a complete waste of my time and I lost some brain cells. I’ll stick to my factual videos instead of bloggers and self proclaimed influencers trying to make their life seem relatable 😂. I’m conventionally attractive also, but I prefer privacy and would never post something like this online just to boast about myself having wisdom when I’m actually young and still growing in life; just like you. I’m happy for you that you claim to have good friends, but you’re not actually giving your audience advice on HOW to find healthy, mature women as friends. Perhaps try suggesting ways your audience can introduce themselves to good women friends. Tell your audience How to be a reliable friend, how to respect their gfs, and how to have patience with them. Red flags to look for in female friendships; like moochers who expect their gfs to pay the lunch bill. Perhaps try sharing some scholarly articles that share productive ways to maintain lengthy women friendships. Also suggesting ways on how to approach conflict in friendship; like feature one of your friends in a video & reenact a scenario where conflict is addressed in respectful, mature manner.

[@theMadame.M]

🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵🩵

[@tkx683]

thank you for putting this video out, really needed this 🤎