The Easiest, The Fastest, And The Best Ways To Fix Your Marriage | Paul Friedman

Everyone is looking for the easiest, fastest, and best ways when fixing on something. For this video, the fix is about marriage. Paul Friedman explains the essence of The Marriage Foundation philosophy and details -- the three paths to having a fantastic marriage even if yours is currently in dire need of help. He also discusses his books which will help most marriages and the courses which are only needed for marriages that are truly on the brink.
I was a divorce mediator and I was frustrated with the number of clients I had to be quite honest and the kind of problems that they had coming in for a divorce. I just knew they shouldn't be divorced, they should work through those particular problems and yet, they were coming to me from marriage therapist, that's where I got virtually all of my leads. So, what I did was I broke marriage down in a way I want to share with you so you can understand how I approached it. It's not rocket science but it is science so I asked first, why do people get married in the first place?
What I started asking all my friends I got to where, I was asking people I bumped into it Starbucks, "why did you get married?" And the answers that I got almost all of them began with, "well he or she really..." And I said, "No, why did you want to get married, not why did you want to marry the person you're married to?" And you should ask yourself the same question, and then I started getting the same answers, "Well, I wanted a family." "I wanted to be with my best friend." "I wanted sex whenever I wanted it." And I thought those are not universal answers, not everyone has the same answer but we're all human beings and I wanted to know why.
Why? Why do all of us want to get married?
We all know why we want to eat not because we're hungry but because we have to sustain our bodies so I was looking for that kind of answer and while I've been talking, I know you've been thinking about what is the right answer and I'll share it with you. The right answer is because we want to be happier. It goes further because then I asked that it can be very unique for each individual but it's not universal. I wanted a universal answer. The universal answer has to do with happiness and the question that I had to ask and the answer was, what is the one thing that makes every single human being happy without exception?
The answer is experiencing unconditional love and that's why all of us get married. We want to experience unconditional love. There's a lot of subconscious stuff going on that drives us you might say, but what difference does it make? The bottom line is still the same, we want that unconditional love and I can explain it to you. I mean I've done a lot of thinking about this and research too mostly scriptural, it doesn't change the answer. We all want love. Now I could get into basically, what I came up with because I started working with the same clients who were coming to me for a divorce. I would say look, let's try this other approach. And what I did was I came up with the easiest way to fix your marriage, and I say the easiest because it's a template that works on virtually every marriage but... so here's what the template is, the template is a guideline of do's and don'ts.
Most people who were coming to me after I converted my practice to helping marriages always stated the same problem, "Oh, we have bad communication." There were a few others but 80% we have bad communication, sort of the catchphrase. It covers a lot of territories but it's not true. You got to look at what's behind the communication, what is behind the communication is a lack of effort on both parts of both individuals not wanting to please their partner unless. It seems like everyone gets into marriage with this idea that "I will get" rather than "I will give." The ones who say, "I will give."
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Sincere and determined people need truthful information and a good plan to escape the cycle and hole you are in. Incredible marriages ARE possible. They are achieved by: 1. Learning about the mind and mastering it so your changes are permanent and you are always growing. 2. Learning how to behave, and not behave in marriage friendly ways 3. Making unconditional love and ever-expanding happiness your primary and constant missions. Go to themarriagefoundation.org and get the course if you need it. Now is not the time to experiment. It is the time for positive action.

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[@andreanabaruk5963]

What is the title of your book and where can it be purchased?

[@SetTheCaptivesFree4797]

I prayed hard to God after I hit rock bottom 🤦‍♂️, I could see no other way out and I couldn’t draw the strength out to fix it. The next day I found your videos and listened all day until I got home. Your videos helped me tremendously, of course along with the spirit and power of God! My marriage now is everything my wife and I ever dreamed of. As long as I put her first and love selflessly she responds back in love and adoration. Thank you, thank you , thank you!

[@planetaryPoem9]

All teachings lead to the same thing - presence, mindfulness, awareness of the mind's thoughts - it blows me away! Thank you for this.

[@w.1683]

God saved my marriage through you!

[@JuliaMcCoy]

Great thoughts and advice, Paul!! Please keep sharing. The world needs more of this. ♥

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

As long as it is God's will it is my honor to serve in any way I am able. 🙏

[@JHKCreations]

Very helpful! Best content/ channel I've found on KZbin about marriage.❤️

[@jessicaaubel3788]

Thank you Paul, so far the BEST info on marriage tips.

[@terrancekayton007]

Another Universal Law discovered by this guy! The Law of Gravity, the Law of physics, the law of attraction and now the law of Love & Marriage! This is brilliant. Thanks 🙏🏿 for sharing it here with us on KZbin. What a blessing this Wild Wild Web can be!

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

🙏

[@KarmaWatersSailing]

Wonderful, most grateful for you sharing your knowledge.

[@CelebrationLuv]

Your ministry is so valuable and so needed. Thank you for the work that you do!

[@danielstan3345]

You are giving me faith and a plan to work towards!!Thank you so much!

[@patriciaheaggans6847]

So much awesome knowledge you give. This knowledge you are teaching is mind blowing. Never ever were taught any of these things about how to save our marriage. I'm looking forward to taking the course and probably get one of the books too Paul. Our marriage is worth saving by understanding the teachings your giving us for making it awesome. Thank you Paul for truly inspiring us all to fix and not give up. Continued blessings to you and your family

[@laurieanderson9290]

Excellent point of view!

[@ayebazibwebabra5368]

Thanks for this insight

[@fatimainlondon938]

A big thanks for you 🙏🏽 you helping me alots to save my marriage good luck for me and for everyone.i hope my partner will work with me about this.

[@terrancekayton007]

This is great stuff Doc.appreciate you sharing your talents with us. I’ll be keeping this on repeat.

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

I appreciate your excitement and I felt the same way the more I discovered. But, just for the record, I am not a doc, though many of my clients insisted on honoring me with that title. However, I am just a "someone" like you.

[@terrancekayton007]

@@TheMarriageFoundation gotcha. Yeah, well you sure fooled me. Thanks for clearing that up doc 🥕

[@magdas1698]

Amazing stuff, Paul! I keep watching your videos and I'm so grateful that you share your knowledge with us! God bless:)

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

God bless 🙏

[@dblbhatt7235]

U r a true soul for doing this man!

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Thanks

[@mementomori6585]

Very grateful for your video. I’ll be able to utilise so much of what you’ve said. Thank you very much.

[@mementomori6585]

Im looking through your videos now, is there anything along the lines of how to support/help a spouse with their anger management issues. Thanks again.

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Itis not the palce of a soulmate to point out their partner's less than desirable traits, only to discover our own and work toward our own perfection.

[@lydiakomanyane7961]

Unconditional love sir, its true. In here no competition

[@ingridaccount]

What a fantastic video!

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Thank you very much! 🙏

[@soniasandhu6657]

Fantastic 👏 👏 👏

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Many thanks

[@terrancekayton007]

😂 new year’s eve resolutions that last 30 minutes!

[@jeffcauthen6434]

I have such a problem not reacting and being defensive when I am attacked. I didn't used to be this way. You are absolutely correct. We're going down in flames I'm afraid.

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Don't go down in flames! Do something about it and the most effective would be the course for men. Why give up?? You didn't know.

[@zulyg8393]

Hello I really like all the videos I’ve seen! Wya book of your do you teach about being reactive and learn to control our mind?

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

This all-important topic, which I consider a true requirement for happiness and a first step for fixing a marriage is covered in both of my books in the chapter on the mind. However, for those who are on the edge, the courses are immeasurably better because I guide you every step of the way towards controlling the mind, which means contentment and happiness comes rather quickly.

[@snarks4087]

Can you recommend someone near San Diego county that has the same approach as you do?

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

Our courses are online and are exactly what I recommend. Its the right approach and will work, and work fast.

[@Heart-cy9tb]

Which book of the two would you recommend to buy? My marriage is shattered and its worth trying.

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

When yoyur marriage is shattered you need the guidence of the course for women, the book is not enough, unfortunately. themarriagefoundation.org/

[@ladylullaby190]

What can I do if it's just one person not putting in the effort? I have been watching your videos for a while and I notice that there many thing my husband stopped doing such as pleasing me. I still try to make him happy no matter what, but I don't see him trying.

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

You can do it yourself, kzbin.info/www/bejne/jZWtZ5SVa8R5ibc

[@robertcarr272]

Which are the two books? Or, which one is best?

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

From what you describe skip the books and get the course for men themarriagefoundation.org/

[@naomirivera232]

I would like to talk to you maybe in private I need some advice I'm separated almost 2 years in December I just need a advice I'm still married he's very angry I believe that he loves me I don't know

[@TheMarriageFoundation]

here is the link for that themarriagefoundation.org/meet-with-paul-friedman/

[@drana4895]

What is your books name pls?

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