The economics of *pretty privilege* are extremely ugly

[@mrir1769]

Also since I was born, with both sexes, all popular boys and girls were the attractive ones. The "weirdos" and the bullied ones were the ugly ones. And in the middle, average people being averagely respected. Looks determine many aspects of our life, and it's horrifying to see sometimes.

[@natashadickson4819]

You can have a good life as an average person. And if you take a few extra minutes daily to be well put together, the effort pays off. And you are worth it. If you don't have a beautiful face...have a beautiful hairstyle, nails, clothing, accessories, light makeup, healthy weight, etc. You deserve the benefits that come from it.

[@McOofy]

It's known as Halo Effect. You can see this in politics. Ugly politicians like Tim Scott get extreme hate that isn't reserved for people with even worse policies.

[@mrir1769]

@@natashadickson4819 did you insinuate that i'm ugly lmao. It's just social interactions that i noticed

[@DestinyAwaits19]

It's no good being jealous of your betters. Be it looks, money, height or anything else. Just accept the state of the universe, and stop being envious and resentful.

[@theoldworldkitten]

@@mrir1769 I just had to laugh at your response for a sec because god damn that was kind of funny.

[@yoloti9993]

I've noticed that when a woman is dark skin she has to have an extremely beautiful face (small features) and the perfect body in order to compete in this disgusting dating market for wealthy men. Noami Campbell is a perfect example. She was literally associated with the most powerful men on the planet and only dated men who had a lot of wealth. This was because she had a beautiful face and the "perfect body" meaning slim. Its honestly disheartening

[@bfbmain]

Yes, and then the common back-handed "compliment", "you're so beautiful, for a dark-skinned girl". Smh

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​​@@bfbmain I'm a dark skinned BW and I've heard that all my life! SMH It's called featurism. They'll say it's okay if you're dark as long as don't look too... "Ethnic". Rubbish. Colorism and texturism tie into all of this.

[@Lanafox1020]

It's also sad to know that it's a men's game and a social construct created by them. No wonder there are so many perverts and pedos from all social levels, disgusting. I hope things change for good.

[@Lanafox1020]

Also, the same men who praises beauty can also be jealous and try to bring you down if they are insecure, be careful, there are a lot of monsters and pricks out there.

[@wiltdwxtch]

@@doll.ov.poetrii4682i benefit from “featurism” and I know exactly what you mean. I’m dark skinned but people often treat me better than the same kind of girl my skin tone who’s also beautiful, bc my features are more “acceptable”. My nose is straight and my lips are small which affords me many diff privileges

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

This is true. Men's stock in society = resources. Women's stock in society = beauty. A beautiful woman can get just as far in society as a rich man if she REALLY wants to. "Unattractive" women and broke men are regarded equally in society as far as treatment goes. It has always been this way, still is this way, and will most likely always be this way. Anyone saying pretty privilege isn't real is a case of cognitive dissonance; it's literally apart of our wiring (to an extent).

[@kathiaserrano7740]

Anyone who doesn’t believe in pretty privilege needs to talk to someone who had a glow up after being an ugly duckling, or the reverse.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

​@@kathiaserrano7740 Exactly!

[@rudy2538]

I agree with you but men also get pretty privilege mainly by being tall

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

​@@rudy2538not really height. Yeah maybe in terms of dating but in general if you are tall and ugly as a man you don't have as much pretty privilege as a young Tom cruise or a jermy Allen white who are 5'6"

[@LoveAndSnapple]

@@rudy2538 I once a picture that said “is he really attractive or is he just tall?” 😂

[@kolonarulez5222]

When i see those clips of Susan Boyle smiling it hurts to think someone would call that ugliness.

[@mittag983]

When I have seen young pictures of her she gave me Björk vibes she's not ugly to me she looks so so kind

[@cici35official19]

When I seen Susan in her first performance, I honestly didn’t think her ugly. I just thought she was a regular older woman. Age looks different for many people, but still, aging in itself is not ugly to me. However, I know ageism and pretty privilege are pretty much interlocked, and looking over mid-30’s seems to be a death sentence to women’s social status in many cases. My aunt has told me herself she wished she would have taken advantage of her youth to advance her career because she feels it’s stagnated as she’s aged, and honestly that scares me for my future as well. Not only because I am a woman, but I am an average looking, black woman.

[@Phisherman10]

She’s below average attractiveness. I know women and men communicate differently, but if I met any of you in person, and told you you looked like her you’d be insulted.

[@pallavidawson7933]

This is the ugly truth unfortunately. I remember that first Susan Boyle appearance; I really understood what was happening there and it was so condescending. I still dislike those judges for that!😆

[@bfbmain]

Yes, I never forgot Susan Boyle because I was literally so traumatized for her back then (and still am)

[@LindseyObrooke]

It was done purposely, for TV viewers, so that when she opened her mouth people would be as shocked as the judges feigned being. It was fake for TV.

[@i.aint.1.of.ur.little.friends]

That's a good example of A phenomenal talent can take the place of beauty, but you absolutely must be exceedingly more amazing than the less talented, possibly even mediocre attractive person next to you.

[@lolatiffhur]

They really kinda empowered the audience to give gross looks to her. If they hadn’t done that, the audience wouldn’t have done so as much. The audience really just followed the judges in their reactions towards any contestant

[@757Princess]

A while back I was thinking about her when she was on tour and her net worth is like $40 million now!!

[@nicolesherman8974]

“Pretty privilege is associated with capital”. A topic that was discussed in Da’Shaun Harrison’s book Belly of the Beast 🖤.

[@bfbmain]

💯❤️

[@carrino15]

Is it a good book? Got interested to read

[@legalfictionnaturalfact3969]

Prettiness correlates positively with capital insofar as men value it.

[@sharranjami]

I've had experience on both ends. When I was younger I would get free everything, I was given opportunities to learn and grow in my career with "hands on" training (sometimes eww) but most of the time it was genuine. Now that I'm older, I am taken more seriously in the work place; but there are those moments when I walk into a room full of guys and the first question they ask is if I'm bringing coffee and I have to let them know I'm the PM of the construction project. oh and I still get called "darlin'" or "sweetie" and that boils my blood. I am your superior you dolt (that's what I want to say, I actually just correct them professionally).

[@randomlyswatching9481]

A amount of men who will call you sweetie online even if you're 42 cringes me all the time. Like it's talking down to a woman. Don't call be sweetie UNLESS I call you dum dum😂

[@McOofy]

That's normal, it's called being a young woman (it's hard to be unattractive as a young woman) and then getting old.

[@blackseed9293]

​@@randomlyswatching9481Then just be a man.

[@gbecks3672]

Same here! Now I think I’m average. Which is nice. I can say there were positives and negatives on both sides

[@McOofy]

Y'all are literally describing the average young woman. Women with true pretty privilege get scooped up early by future C suite executives (trophy wife), basically get vaulted into/remain in the upper middle class. Most women will not experience pretty privilege, they were just a young woman. Most men will also never experience privilege in this or other ways. @@gbecks3672

[@kathiaserrano7740]

Listen I love Bollywood/tollywood cinema like everyone else, but the blatant colorism is wild. Some of the most beautiful brown skin actresses end up skin bleaching. Ex: Rekha.

[@doll.ov.poetrii4682]

I'm not Indian, but the colorism in India breaks my heart even more once you consider that indian people are inherently a dark skinned people. Before India was colonized and Europeans mixed with them, there were records of other nations describing them always as people with VERY deep skin tones. To be colorist against a dark skinned Indian is to be against INDIA completely in my opinion. Same goes for the black community where the MAJORITY of the population are dark skinned people.

[@coolbreeze5683]

And the skin bleaching looks horrible. Beautiful dark skin that suits the person looks 100x better than that greyish sickly tone that skin bleaching gives.

[@savioblanc]

​@@doll.ov.poetrii4682Modern Europeans have left an extremely small genetic imprint on the Indian subcontinent. Colourism in the Indian subcontinent pre-dates them by atleast 3 to 4 millenia. India's racial admixture comes from a mix of Dravidian/Iranic/Indo-European peoples. The Iranic/Indo-Europeans made up the majority stock of North Indians, whilst Dravidians made up a majority of the South Indian stock.

[@minuit6305]

I realized i wasn't good looking by the type of men i was attracting. 😂 Wants interesting is i always have women saying im pretty. I know now its a lie and they were probably being nice. The type of guys that approached me were sub par and always acted like i needed to thank god they even looked at me. I realized i will never find anyone so now im just going to invest creating my own business. I can be lonely with money 😂😂😂

[@Enriquez2222]

Men are just entitled, if you give them attention they think they’re blessing you with their presence

[@purplelove3666]

God*

[@PeeyJeey]

I wouldnt jump to the conclusion that because women are saying you're pretty that they're lying because of the type of men you attract. What women find pretty in women and what men find pretty in women are typically different. My partner and I have had plenty of discussions about women we deem attractive and our preferences are completely different. It could be something as simple as me saying a very tall woman is attractive, like her features and the balance of them are generally attractive. He would throw all of that away because she's too tall and he doesnt find tall women attractive regardless of what her face looks like. Thats not to say that women dont also do this.

[@leoniep9231]

I would not say that the women were necessarily lying, either. Many men that are brazen enough to approach women without any previous encouragement often already have very inflated self esteem, which might also affect the way they view their own appearance (at least in my experience). So be confident not only in your character but also in your looks, and believe those women who complimented you! :)

[@MrShankaPerera]

I see some irony in this comment. being lonely is the choice of many average women, as they never give a chance to the men in their own league.

[@multistanhuhue1601]

Korea is a perfect example not only celebrities but also normal people your chance of getting employed are significantly higher

[@Phisherman10]

Agreed, when women graduate the first gift they get is plastic surgery. The US is the complete opposite, “everyone is beautiful!” Two polar opposite extremes that are incredibly toxic.

[@multistanhuhue1601]

@@Phisherman10 true but imo Korea is worse because in the US your weight or looks don't determine as much as in Korea you can be ugly and still be great whatever but in Korea your chances of employment in regular workplaces are significantly higher

[@the80386]

South korea is the perfect example of what NOT to do. Capitalism run amok, turning the society into a dystopia (and in multiple ways, not just the 'beauty' industrial complex)

[@WhoWellOk]

@@Phisherman10but incels point this out everyone says they’re crazy but truth is looks matter

[@Phisherman10]

@@WhoWellOk looks obviously matter lol. Why else would there be incels? It’s not like that’s a fun thing to be. 2+2=4

[@AlyssaAska]

I was one of the so-called "gifted" children when I was younger, top in school, good marks in everything. I was also always considered the "ugly" one, I've always been that ugly friend that men would be nice to to get to the hot girl. I was picked on daily at school about how ugly I was and I was always the only one never asked to dance in school dances. I always thought I would be ok in life because I had abilities and could work hard. I have definitely watched other women in my field do better while working less and it helps that they are good looking. I have always felt I had to work 2-3 as hard as everyone else.

[@minuit6305]

Same boat. I think that women like us need to build our own businesses and generate our own income where we answer to nobody other than the client. Let the pretty people keep their unearned top positions.

[@maryss8767]

I could understand it

[@jvnd2785]

On the other side of the struggle is...STRENGTH! This is how I see it. I have always been the shy, bookish, "ugly" girl that nobody wanted (not even my own mother wanted me), then was in an arranged marriage with a man who did not care one bit (we got divorced) and for the past 10 years I have lived with multiple daily seizures which means I live on a disability pay check and cannot do any decent jobs. All my life has been one huge struggle. But you know what? Despite all of these things, I am better off than all those pretty women who look down their noses at me. Because I have a mental strength they don't have and never will have. If things go south (and they are bound to), I will the one who wins- by the sheer power of my will. Meanwhile, all these pretty women with cushy lives will be having panic attacks and will be toys in anybody's hands. Working much harder than some "pretty face" may not be an easy-to-swallow pill...but the more odds are stacked against you, the stronger- and more compassionate- you get. The more you are tested, the closer you can be to G-d as well.

[@tfkdandsvkc]

Same exact experience beautiful women get better treatment in this sick patriarchal society led by men who treat women like objects

[@WhoWellOk]

This what incels been saying but u all decline decline… looks gets you ahead of everything

[@ayomidedareabel5525]

I was always seen as dumb because my looks by both teachers and students since growing up. And the fact that i was very anti social and didn't talk like the other kids they thought i was special until the teachers saw my results lmao. Even when i switched schools in the middle of high school i got the same reactions from my classmates. They only started being my friends because of that thing parents say "always make sure you're friends with the smart kids" i could tell they were using me but i just needed the validation tbh. I always felt like i had to compensate to get people to like me especially boys so I'd so i went out of my way to help them in exams or show i was just as knowledgeable in sports, video games etc. In hindsight now i see the stupidity in that and I'm glad i got over being a pick me.

[@bfbmain]

🩷❤️🩷

[@trezanjeri3810]

The world is UGLY but there are also BEAUTIFUL souls...You can never please a human being!!!! I am tired of these weird standards

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Well stated

[@Amberrechelle]

There were some nuances in the video that I caught even outside of pretty privilege . I also noticed that women are having to put in a lot of thought to please or accommodate the biases of other people.

[@livictori]

Can I add a perspective without being attacked. What if instead of pretty privilege it may actually be unattractive punishment. My reason is attractive is subjective yes but everyone technically thinks they’re pretty so other people’s reactions seen more subjective. Instead we can notice with more ease how people are PUNISHED for not fitting a standard especially when there are group dynamics. I’ve seen attractive women cluster then size each other up and give poor treatment to the least attractive. Compared to society as a whole yes she fits the standard but she is punished as the ugliest of the group

[@SOMETHINGTOSLOW]

Yeah I second this!

[@LindseyObrooke]

I'm not watching these videos anymore, because there's something really f'd about them. It's like a new campaign to make women feel absolutely trash if they don't play up to beauty standards. It's got truth to it, this subject. I am staying away from it for now, because it really feels like a new era of forcing women to buy into plastic surgery, make up, etc etc in a way that takes the stigma out of it because 'WE HAVE TO LOOK PRETTY NOW' or we risk not being paid well, getting a good romantic relationship, etc etc. I am choosing to remain skeptical to this, because I think the ugly truth of it will eventually surface. We are living in an age where people are trying to make themselves look like computer generated filters. The beauty industry is making trillions from it. This is a part of it and though I think it's important to pay attention to the way we present ourselves, and have realistic understandings of pretty privilege, I think this is moving the dial in the wrong direction.

[@bfbmain]

I appreciate the sentiment of this comment, and I am in absolute agreement that the obsession with aesthetics is getting out of hand, and beauty standards continue to be an unattainable moving target. The intention behind this video is in fact to acknowledge the ugly truths that exist in society, so we can actually move away from them, not lean into them.

[@McOofy]

Whenever women talk about beauty standards, you really need to take a look at yourself and wonder if YOU are a narcissist. Why are average women crying about not getting treated like beautiful women? If a 5'8 unathletic man was crying about not being in the NBA complaining about standards, people would call him a narcissist.

[@LindseyObrooke]

@@McOofy It's a narcissistic tendency more than legitimate narcissism, but I am sure it's easy to adapt when you live in a society that rewards and upholds incredibly narcissistic behaviors.

[@McOofy]

True, I know probably 5 women in my whole life who are legitimate beauties who should even be concerned about this. Same why I know about 5 people who either could play or played in the NBA. People need to stay in their lane and be content. @@LindseyObrooke

[@neverstop2493]

The reality is the average looks 34 -35 year old successful woman looking to marry and have children with a well educated financially successful man will likely have poor outcomes as she is competing with younger prettier women. Evolution based mating strategies means the 25-26 year old beautiful woman with the less accomplished career and education has a competitive advantage. The vast majority of Financially Successful men are attracted to fertility cues:youth and beauty. Believing otherwise is delusional

[@maggiemacaskill1037]

Being pretty is only a privilege if you consider being considered dumb good fortune. The tragic outcomes in the lives of many of the most beautiful women in the world show that being desired by mn is not actually improving the quality of women's lives. IF you think women should accept the price a mn assigns to her value and that that value being high is a priilege, I feel you're not considering any of the downsides of being regarded as an object. That in itself is dehumanizing.

[@danidiaz2377]

It’s so true and it’s funny because I think slot of people assume beautiful women have it way easier b than average woman when I notice sometimes life’ is even worse for the pretty people for example all the gorgeous women I’ve been friends with always end up with some womanizer cheater and it’s the average looking ones who normally have more stable true relationships, maybe it’s because their partner values more than looks or maybe it’s lack of opportunity, but I just noticed that even in Hollywood all the most famous beauty’s still don’t have good love lives

[@abbygirl3000]

Women are considered objects by men at all attractiveness levels. It's the "value" assigned to you as an object that makes a difference.

[@Lostsoul_123]

​@@abbygirl3000same thing women do to wealthy and tall men

[@PraveenSrJ01]

The darker the skin complexion the prettier she is in my honest opinion

[@irene4633]

I agree ☝️

[@teamTERF]

Better skin quality 😀

[@Lambdamale.]

We all have our preferences. It's not racist to find a certain type attractive.

[@MyriadLove]

Beauty has always been a currency and always will be one because anything rare and unattainable is highly valued in commerce driven societies. Beauty can be purchased, which gives it leverage ie. privilege. Discourse can enlighten us, but I doubt it will change. Human nature is competitive, and just like cash or fancy cars, humans want a piece of anything that grants them more than the next person.

[@jazzzzzmingarmendia]

i knew of pretty privilege because my very first best friend from 4 grade to 8th grade, she was deemed the prettiest girl in our grade, other grade girls would want to say bad things to her and boys were chasing her left and right, she dated her ex boyfriends friend and the boys fought at school because she was in the middle of their frienship... i remember a girl in 7th grade told me i was lucky my friend liked me or i would be hanging out with the ugly girls, who didnt care about looking older than they did and dating boys... its so engrained in us to see how being pretty is powerful.... makes me sad. because yes i admit, she was very pretty at an early age, but we were friends because we joked and laughed with each other...

[@DestinyAwaits19]

It's nothing to be hateful for. Human females are extravagently beautiful, especially the 'attractive' ones. We may be one of the most attractive species in the entire cosmos. That's something to take pride in.

[@hechovisto]

Thank you for this & I especially appreciate that it’s also from a Pakistani woman’s perspective. I’m a sindhi girl & my whole life I’ve been called ugly! I’m okay with it, but when people deny my experiences when I tell them I’ve been passed over for jobs/promotions, treated horribly by guys (even assaulted by one and cheated on for a year by another), treated like garbage by my own extended family, etc - it makes me feel nuts. Guys sometimes fetishize something about me and that’s the only time they seem to “like” me, but we all know that’s not true real love lol

[@MarkL-we8uk]

There are 2 choices, get angry at the world or get out there and be the best possible version of yourself...

[@757Princess]

I thing you missed the point entirely. Nobody is angry but observing. All of the higher management at my job are thin or no overweight. Its just an observation.

[@gravemind3859]

Something I find hilarious that deals with this, is Dolph Lundgren. He was quite intelligent and had a promising academic path on the horizon. Until someone approached him about his looks for modeling/acting. Beauty is the ultimate currency and paves an easy path of least resistance. His looks afforded him wealth, lifestyle, and leisure. Things his original "normal person" career never would have materialized.

[@keithbrunson7190]

My girlfriend for eight years was a Dallas Cowboy cheerleader "type." Her world required nothing, but for her to go anywhere or walk in the door of any business, and immediately be accepted. So, it IS true. Here in America, if you are beautiful and female, it's a free ride. It's just the way the culture is. But if your 300 pounds even if you have a Phd in Economics, you'll have a very rough time. We are judged in this world based on three things. 1-What we look like. 2- What we say and...3- The Way we say, what we say. So although it is Unfair, it's true. And I've been in the image business myself for twenty years. Excellent Video.

[@ellinooridashwood]

I think there is a line. My life experience, both professionally and personally, has taught me that I’m good looking enough to make a good first impression in many scenarios. However, I’ve also faced a fair amount of disinterest and rejection. Could I potentially “up my game” by getting a nose job, straightening my hair regularly, and lasering off my freckles ? Probably. There’s a difference between putting in effort to bring out the best in yourself and striving to be a “10.” It all depends on one’s goals. Higher status social circles will reward aesthetically pleasing people, so if that’s one’s goal, they have to be ready to held to its measuring stick. Which leads me to think of people who are born into wealth but don’t measure up to their world’s narrow beauty standards. It must be a lot of pressure.

[@marieschroder9622]

Before my nose job I was weird and ugly. Now I’m still a kinda weird, but people say it’s in a cute way. Ridiculous world.

[@suisenshirasaki8298]

As long as men control the means of production and remain in charge of the decisions that matter, women will be at the mercy of their arbitrary appraisal of the latter's attractiveness.

[@femalesupremacistoverlord6800]

At least a larger number of women today have it better than our foremothers ever did. Most of us can vote, use the internet to make our voices heard, and accumulate our own wealth and resources. I wish that was true for women everywhere 💔

[@MA-gu2up]

​​​@@femalesupremacistoverlord6800 But your earnings are still affected by your attractiveness to some extent, so are you really in a better position societally in this area? Especially because when the public sphere was the men place, they didn't interact with unrelated women a lot, so a man probably didn't see many "attractive" women in his life, such men will be more likely to think an average woman is attractive than men now( if you are starved from something, you will enjoy even the "lesser" version of it by societal standards) Your voting isn't really a big deal in this area as long as beauty standards exist, it seems

[@anastasiamaliuha5481]

​@K.C-2049I have to disagree with you on men in corporate spaces experiencing lower standards. While yes, depending on how strict the dress code is, women have to often deal with heels, only specific type of makeup, pantyhose in summer, etc., they still have more room for self-expression and what they can get away with. For men it's always suits, non-negotiable, long hair is a no-no, same for makeup, it's pretty much unthinkable, no nail polish, but nails must be always taken care of, so essentially a manicure and so on. Then again, that's my Eastern European experience, so perhaps it's different in the West.

[@dailybls]

Nothing to do with men..women are harsher critics of looks. That's always been the case for me. I'm super smart but of average to above average looks and I've always been able to get top guys when young.. Women hated that and often made negative and resentful comments.

[@MA-gu2up]

@@dailybls May I ask? Top guys in what regard? There are top guys in sport, in school(studying), in social status (family)...

[@deborahmeek6529]

Pretty privilege is real, I am (41) and still asked out daily by men, maybe coming to an end in the next decade but I am 5”9 and 125 pounds which is why I think a lot of people sometimes think I am 25 or 30 ish. And now my 14 year old daughter is really pretty too. But the downside is sometimes women are mean or rude to you for no other reason then that you are pretty

[@neboyshanicolich761]

Women can be hard on each other...but most of the time if You're good looking You're Cool...and if You're Cool You have respect...and if You have respect You have authority...it works like that with Us Men.

[@maryss8767]

But still pretty privillages have more good side

[@McOofy]

Getting asked out isn't pretty privilege, getting a

[@vklnew9824]

Poorly aged white ♀️

[@PraveenSrJ01]

You are my age since I’m turning 41 in October. You are quite beautiful 🤩

[@VentiMacchiato]

Yess 🙌🏾 I love finding new commentary channels to watch ❤

[@joelprince4170]

This was very informative but also sad. We should not be this shallow as a society but its just how it is. But also wanted to acknowledge Men also get pretty privilege aswell.

[@lostandfond2163]

I’m so happy I stumbled upon this channel ❤

[@jimmyjimmy5574]

Why would I have average-looking people in my expensive Bollywood movie? People don't want to pay to look at the average on the big screen.

[@closingtheloop2593]

Props for using the word delta. Nobody outside my engineering friends knows what that means.

[@karllyfeng]

I've have been acutely aware of pretty privilege since I was a teen especially when it comes to opportunities. It's definitely partly why I stay on top of my appearance. also omw to go check out Aura RIGHT NOW :)

[@bfbmain]

🩷❤️🩷

[@Samalkab]

I was rejected from tourism major because I have ugly teeth !! And the major preferred normal to beautiful people to represent the country tourism!!! Yes it’s true ** I had braces and getting a second one tomorrow and I looke better!!😅

[@victoriamonari]

YESS OMG SO i'd love to hear your take on the recycling trends "clean girl" "mob wife" aesthetic and how it ties into beauty standards there's loads of theories going around hehe

[@ftft98]

Pharmaceutical companies have hired young “pretty” sales reps to promote their products to male doctors. Eye candy for male doctors worked wonders for sales numbers!

[@teamTERF]

Pretty privilege is not going anywhere.

[@nawal10]

Making more $ in a man's world the better looking u are shows men hire good looking women simply for their own pleasure. Like eye candy.

[@deforestshell3037]

It's a part of our genetic. Women only take men seriously if they are successful or high on the social market. Being good-looking help. I got no attention from Girls when I was younger but when I became better looking it's amazing the things they assume about you. Since the beginning of time men have been valued for the resources by women and women have been valued for their beauty and fertility by men

[@nawal10]

@@deforestshell3037 that's why men lack character and real value these days. Just the value of $. Empty lost shells. They used to be more than that. My ex was broke and I helped him with his resume and interviews till he landed a job but because he was a foreigner and had family issues he went back home and couldn't come back and I no longer wanted the long distance thing. His potential and kindess is what made him desirable not $. He had no $. Men are valued for being leaders, humble, intelligent, strong. It's not just $.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

That is just messed up 🆙

[@nawal10]

@@alexesquivel8566 no and this doesn't apply to my comment

[@MSaleh-vy8rr]

human biology is messed up

[@TableForOne01]

Susan Boyle looks like Helena Bonham Carter but with a double chin. Helena Bonham Carter is considered a sex symbol because she has cinematography and photoshop in her corner. I personally have never seen an ugly person because once someone smiles they transform into some kind of angelic creature, it's amazing.

[@drvren030]

Love this video! I just wanted to add, Yes it's important to be practical and balance that with your inner self worth and value, but I feel like we should also encourage society fighting against pretty privilege though, even if it's not practical and is something that is existed and has been embedded for centuries in society unfortunately. I feel like if we just give in at some point and accept it as it is and adhere to it 100% without question, it will just make things worse, because no one is stopping the beauty standards from going even higher anymore. It's because we got voices like yours taking a stand and addressing this, that atleast higher ups in the job market are somewhat ceasing from increasing the beauty standards even more. There has to be a part of us that accepts that pretty privilege is a thing, because it's unfortunately an engrained societal standard, but that shouldn't make us put aside our basic human ethics of connecting and interacting and giving people value for reasons other than something so materialistic and temporary like outward looks. I don't mean hygiene or health, I mean looks that visually appeal to men but blind them from seeing beyond that. At the end of the day, if someone had to pick looks over potential/talent, it should be part of good consciousness to always pick the latter. in an ideal society, we will have people who are internally aware, and know their value and contribution to society and remain unfazed, and more importantly can afford to be unfazed, to societal beauty standards.

[@carlurbananimals]

The thing I dislike about pretty privilege is the actual hot women dont get it, it's only the kinda hot women who are envious who get it

[@ladeutschevitabyGraziaCosta]

In my job, I have to appear less attractive because I work with women who can be very jealous. I am always mistreated by my boss's sisters when I look better than her. I am looking for another job! It's been almost a year feeling like sh*****Wish me luck ❤ I am not pretty or full of myself, but I take care of my appearance because I like to look good, but that annoys less attractive women.

[@sunnymeee]

If you are attractive enough they be a content creator on social media, attractive people have high chances of growing channel fast on youtube, find a niche, then you don't need to take sh!t from boss or any of the colleagues

[@deedee7780]

I'm considered "pretty," but it's not as simple as you and others put it. I get a lot of powerful and successful men trying to trick me into dating them, promising me all sorts of stuff, and when they find that I am not interested, they retaliate. Or I get a lot of women treating me poorly due to jealousy. It's sometimes lonely being beautiful. A lot of men find me intimidating and don't approach me, except overconfident narcissists. Also, people can't accept others being both beautiful and intelligent and treat me like I'm stupid. I struggle with self-esteem because some people resort to negging me in order to bring me down to their perceived level.

[@ulrekmachina2183]

Sorry to break it to you. Men don't find you intimidating, they just find it a waste of time to deal with a "pretty" girl like you who supposedly has a lot of privilege and rich boyfriends. Not surprising, I would argue.

[@McOofy]

It's interesting how you call others narcissists, but claim you have all these "powerful" men after you, you're so beautiful, and intelligent (with no profile pic). I know other countries princesses and MANY good looking trust fund women, they don't even have all these powerful men after them. Interesting.

[@Bunnnnbuns]

Absolutely!!!

[@ernestkhalimov748]

How old are you?

[@i.aint.1.of.ur.little.friends]

Men neg any woman they are trying to get if they percieve that you are "better" than them or they feel you are "too good" for them so dont feel alone in that aspect. I believe its also and ego and control thing so they feel like they have power over you. I appreciate you sharing your experience. For me, as a person who only gained some pretty privilege as an adult, despite the negative aspects, most of us would not trade for the opposite experience.

[@l.c.3351]

When i was little we've had in history this legend/story from ancient Greece about the beautiful Helene ( but not the one from Troy) that murdered her husband and was declared for innocent because the court thought such beauty was not able of murder. That was jn the 90s this story disappeared from history books later because obviously didn't fit in the time we live in.

[@blackseed9293]

Basically, the world is not fair and has never been fair. This is life. Have you seen some athletes, some get paid 50 million a year.

[@Sassayyyyy]

Did you select the number of ads on this video? 😂 Get your bag, girl 😂

[@ericsonhazeltine5064]

And now that I think about it, if a guy is short he has more difficulties too, with women, getting hired, salary, and on and on. These “prejudices” are all molecularly hard wired into us and therefore nothing to be ashamed of.

[@WhoWellOk]

Exactly what incels say but women deny

[@zoomed66]

Samuel 16:7 ►But the LORD said to Samuel, “Do not consider his appearance or his height, for I have rejected him. The LORD does not look at the things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the LORD looks at the heart.”

[@stacytacycy]

I teach in a university and i do exactly the same: come to work looking put together and elevated to look older 😂

[@naoe0305]

in my life, if anyone said *pretty privilege* doesn't exist, 99% of the chance, that person is the "pretty one", you can think of many reasons why they were saying that, but none of that would be for the "not pretty", it was only for the pretty one to feel better for themselves.

[@dusklvr]

Pretty privilege is real. I used to be pretty.

[@vector3d654]

What happened now?

[@vklnew9824]

Poorly aged white ♀️

[@PraveenSrJ01]

The photo is pretty. Is it an outdated photo?

[@PiouStarcraft]

I'm a portrait and fashion photographer. Beautiful women have A LOT of priviledge... you would not believe half of the stories some of those girls experience on daily basis.

[@sonderexpeditions]

Pretty privilege affects tall men too. Most presidents and ceos are 6ft +. Also a privilege for dating in general.

[@HushedIT]

What a beautiful complicated video I love it ❤❤❤

[@vklnew9824]

Poorly aged white ♀️

[@TaylorM]

Great video! Thanks for sharing!

[@foodbeforepills8749]

For the majority, perhaps being fit and thin portrays you as someone who is disciplined in limiting junk food. Discipline is important to being successful in any line of work. Just being on time puts one in the top 10% performance category.

[@acd1168]

I knew very early that I didn’t have pretty privilege (because dark skin) so I decided to put more effort into my character and my mind. I’ve felt more beautiful the older I get but that is mostly because I have put in work in many areas of life and not just beauty wise.

[@whiterabit09]

Life is unfair. Do the best with what you have. You're not changing biology.

[@maryamdiao1509]

Yep

[@cyntiaoliveira8076]

I'm shock as hell , I'm sorry but I never thought Susan Boil ( i probably wrote wrong ) was ugly... Come on guy... Okay i was like , 10 or something at the time... But still. Jeez people are scary.

[@anthonycoyle2889]

I spent 3 year working out, better hair and face styling better food and starting to only date wealthy women now getting married gone from working class to upper middle class from been fit not from getting smarter

[@ganjagangja]

You stated that society is the reason for the beauty standards numerous times in the vid. Beauty is not just a condition of what society has dictated. But it comes for millions of years of evolution. It's not a coincidence that women's beauty peaks at the same time as her most fertile reproductive years and they are seen as beauty objects.. And it's also so surprise that men are viewed as success/ provisioning objects. For a long time men were needed in that way to take care of a pregnant women and her young. We wouldn't have survived as a species without it.

[@maryamdiao1509]

Bingo exactly. Sex sells the more youthful a woman is and in shape the better chances for men the stronger they look or more resources or charisma better chances. Also lighter skin is favored too

[@nataliakrumova535]

the fuck, so i have to be thin for my husband to make money 🤣

[@tammygomez3936]

I was raised in a family where presentation did matter, in a sense. (Clothes, Hygiene, Hair, Face) Yet, Vanity was heavily discouraged. Is it nice to look nice? Yes. Is it the only purpose in life? No. We were influenced to put consistent work and attention on our skills and personality. So when I was "recognized" as gifted from a young age. It felt like a smack in the face when I was told oh your so "lucky" or I bet you never "suffer". What?

[@alleycatalog]

Men like Roy Orbison who have great voices but aren't great to look at get the benefit of the doubt. Ella's Fitzgerald had a hard time getting her start because of her looks. Chick Korea originally rejected her saying she was ugly. Lucky for us she didn't give up.

[@robinkithan5519]

I have been married to my wife for 12 years, she's kind of dumb and childish but the only reason I married her is because she's beautiful and hot. So yes, pretty privilege exist in all walks of life.

[@ExoticalT369]

😂…good lord. 🙄

[@Goldenfly737]

have some shame

[@robinkithan5519]

@@Goldenfly737 nope. I'm proud

[@Goldenfly737]

@@robinkithan5519 I don't think it is privilege to marry you😂😂😂

[@shilohbell1573]

Dang, you came with receipts!! 👏 👏

[@dropdroppie1653]

SUSAN BOYLE WAS A UNICORN !

[@amethystdream8251]

Look, at some point we need to just decide to see aesthetics from a more playful perspective, and value the non aesthetic aspects of life more. We can complain about it forever, or actually shift our perspectives and reward those who are not shallow. I'm a woman who has the kind of pretty privilege that has totally backfired, even economically, and I'm honestly just fed up of everyone's obsession with aesthetics. God damn people just enjoy the sensory experiences of life, aesthetics are not supposed to be taken so seriously. Pretty privilege is not god. It's just one small aspect of human existence. No one, nothing, is forcing humans to operate in this way. Who cares about the rich shallow men? There's plenty of petty bs going on amongst more marginalized communities when it comes to pretty privilege. We can address that and our strength in numbers will give us significant leverage over these rich men who only value aesthetics. They're honestly not that powerful, they're just humans filling a void.

[@bfbmain]

I agree in that we absolutely should strive to move towards a much less shallow society, and reward those that can rise above it. Aesthetics have always been in play for generations, and so dismantling the associated societal wiring will take time and effort; the problem as always is that in a divided society, for every 50 that lean away from the obsession with aesthetics, there will be 50 that will give into it. Hopefully we can skew that divide for the better with time.

[@amethystdream8251]

@@bfbmain With these conversations and openness to new ways of being, I like to believe there is hope that we can shift that ratio over time indeed :)

[@MA-gu2up]

​​@@amethystdream8251 The problem is, the beauty standards don't come from a void, a lot of them are constant things that will always look attrative to the majority of men specifically Another problem is that as long as men continue seeing attractive women in social media and public, they wouldn't value the looks of their partners as much (when a person sees attractive people a lot, above average people in attractiveness become about average or less).

[@amethystdream8251]

@MA-gu2up Yeah but what is attractiveness really? If you know about body language and sexual chemistry, and if you've worked in fields where attractiveness is a factor in your ability to effectively do your job, you know that "attractiveness" is very subjective. There is a difference between what people actually find attractive and what people are willing to label as attractive because they associate it with some kind of status. I want us to question this, because it's not as real and set in stone as one might think. Also, go to art museums, see the different body types and looks that have been idealized throughout history. Sure some features are timelessly attractive, but not as much as you think. Also, consider the possibility that there may be many shadowy experiences and heavy responsibilities that do come with having pretty privilege at any given time. That pretty privilege only exists if the person with pretty privilege is not challenging people's egos lol

[@MA-gu2up]

@@amethystdream8251 I don't think men are affected by trends in attractiveness that much I tend to believe men agree a lot on what they see as attractive, women vary more If men of a certain country find a certain woman very attractive, she will also probably seem very attractive to men of a different country and culture. Yeah, true, I believe being pretty or sexy especially for women can attract unwanted sexual attention and more extreme things, so it isn't all privilege.

[@sonderexpeditions]

I work in big tech and people in the office I shocked I'm an engineer because they point to how I dress so nice 😅.

[@victorianeumer5361]

I know this is a bit off topic but I thought you looked so gorgeous in this video

[@bfbmain]

Aww thanks so much! 🥹❤️

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I agree with her but I’m a man 👨

[@artbygilik]

Also, some men gain more value and power with age but women are considered less valuable as she ages 🙁

[@JohnQPublic345]

I'm white, my gf is Indonesian. I find her skin color absolutely beautiful. My ♥

[@scj3188]

But your skin color is still more valued than hers in this racist world.

[@theauthenticcanadian131]

My girlfriend was Indonesian too. Pretty one even with a dark complexion.😊

[@bryceharper446]

Lots of this is true. I had pretty privilege for a long time as a matter of fact, I was told that I got a job once based on my appearance I also met a lot of men, especially wealthy men, married two. pretty privileged does end I’m 66 now and it’s very different. I can’t depend on my charm and my looks anymore because it looks silly as an older person so you have to have self-respect and act mature not as a pretty young thing anymore. Men lose interest in women over a certain age even if you still look good for normal standards.

[@maryamdiao1509]

If u don’t have the looks then have the brains

[@johnaddaquay1114]

I think a lot of this also applies to men. Case in point is Jeremy Meeks who got his sentence shortened because of his looks. Pretty privilege as a man even affects your ability to get promoted. When we look at people like. Elon Musk, Jeff Bezos and Mark Zuckerberg or even Bill Gates there is a temptation to ask what about them? They are billionaires and aren't the best looking. The difference is that these guys started their own businesses from the ground up and built their empires and were not influenced by superiors above them who picked and chose whether they would be promoted. Pretty privilege matters especially in roles where your face is exposed to a lot of people either physically or digitally.

[@mhroa1261]

There's another side that I wished you had touched upon. How a beautiful woman isn't exactly allowed to deny anything from men. Like how she's this showpiece that isn't allowed to frown or get angry or cry ugly; that is unless she gets old. The amount of vehemence that people;men and women, project onto a beautiful woman is astounding if she refuses to engage with them or not accept their invitations. Or if she says something they don't like. There's that italian(I think) movie that touches upon this subject, I unfortunately forgot the name. It's somehow even worse if she is dark-skinned. I mean you're probably screwed already if you're a dark-skinned woman who stands tall and doesn't bow down easily. They will do everything to break you.

[@abbygirl3000]

Malena is the movie

[@Iamany.Batuan]

Really good video!! Thank you.

[@samiam5434]

In America …the beauty standard is racially ambiguous. It used to be white blonde women but that has definitely changed! I’m actually an actress and have an agent and they confirm that they want racially ambiguous and olive skin tone women as leads.

[@jimmyjimmy5574]

You're not getting the pay increase because you lost the weight. The correlation is with the behavioral changes. People with the behavior and the mindset to lose large amounts of weight can also apply similar tendencies in their careers. And it will have a positive impact on salary.

[@thesevenkingswelove9554]

Then why doesn't it apply to men? Why does looks always matter when it comes to women? Also looks have nothing to do with how productive you are, I know fat people that are extremely productive when it comes to studies, work etc

[@jimmyjimmy5574]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554 Because of nepotism. Because of friendly dealings. Because society is unfair. You could be a fat pig and a lazy sloth, but if your Daddy owns the company you'll rise up very quickly. Women's looks matter because men value women's looks. Men are half the population and that creates a very dynamic marketplace. You can complain about it or you can take advantage of it.

[@coolbreeze5683]

I partially agree but I think there are several factors. Mindset and behavior to lose weight can also correlate to an increase in confidence and self-esteem. Considering society puts more emphasis on women's appearances, the increase in confidence for women due to physical appearance is likely more profound than for men, leading to a more positive attitude, which can be a factor in why there was the increase for women and not for men. Many men don't let their external appearance effect their attitudes as much as it does for women. We still can't ignore that pretty privilege exists though and that in many cases, people are judged on what society deems as attractive.

[@Dita1994]

@@thesevenkingswelove9554fat with 5 degrees lolll sorry that I have pcos but I’m not lazy, men need to lose access to the internet

[@cheetavontiebolt9971]

Looks are impottant not everything

[@natashadickson4819]

Very good video. ❤

[@rajinfootonchuriquen]

How you thought that you are "middle"? I clicked this video because you are pretty 👀

[@Misana]

Wonderful video.

[@canadianpirateanders9951]

Hate to say it but sounds a lot like survival of the fittest. I mean it’s been engrained in us over thousands of years to seek out good genetics. We just animals after all

[@maryamdiao1509]

Yes the new culture of body positivity backfired

[@somerandomvertebrate9262]

The opportunities of men are also defined by their "pretty privilege" or lack thereof. You need to be tall and handsome in life or else it generally will be over before it started.

[@based_windwalker]

5:19 Am now going to use then word delta, thanks. Lol

[@zma8080]

I like the effort put into this video and the topic is very interesting but it is full of logical and statistical fallacies ..

[@solinvictus2045]

Explain then

[@garettzeek1067]

It depends not everyone cares you're pretty ..... being pretty doesn't always mean everyone's gonna be nice ......

[@TheFloozi]

It's almost as if people like beauty

[@CheAnn-jd5yg]

No offence, but I already know all of this and yet I’m “paranoid”🙄.

[@sarahchong9616]

I love how you use science terminalogy.

[@Samanthasosa-i8q]

Having light eyes , light hair and tan skin is the European beauty standard. It is quite opposite to the rest of the world. European colorism is about having blue or green eyes light hair and a tan and thin nose matter what her facial features look like.

[@spivackl]

Ok, So, Susan Boyle has "pretty voice" Privilege. Personally, I can't sing a note. She can make a great career out of singing and I'll never make a penny doing that. You see we all have genetic advantages and disadvantages. If you're 7 feet tall you have a much better chance of getting into the NBA. I guess that's height priviledge. Frankly, I don't see how you're going to change any if it. Because it's reality. Appreciate what you've got. Don't worry about what you haven't got!

[@Doe3Love8]

wait did u change ur channel name ? or is this the first time i’m realizing it 😂

[@bfbmain]

It’s been the same name since I started 😁

[@Doe3Love8]

@bfbmain Damn I've been watching u since ur first upland but I didn’t realize till u read ur ad read and I chuckled like oh that’s funny and then I realized it was ur channel name 😭😂

[@bfbmain]

Lmaooo 💀

[@Ssookawai]

I was always drawn to the titles of her videos + her thumbnails are always beautiful (including her face haha). Girl, I didn't even remember the name of her channel! 😭😂

[@Doe3Love8]

@@Ssookawai THIS 😂 I don’t know the majority of channels i’m sub to 💀

[@drwayne_carter9115]

Its nature. The ones who are at the disadvantage will try to convince you its culture. You ever have a man try so so hard to convince you that you are attracted to him but you just cant. Its the same situation here. You cant undo millions of years of evolution just because you think its unfair. Women are born with the breasts and more emotional sensitivity to care and nuture. Men are born with the larger muscules and aggression to provide and protect. Women decide this by the mans resources (momey/status). Men decide this by the womens sexual features (appearance/traits).

[@maryamdiao1509]

Yes it’s how we’re socialized bla bla sure it’s a cultural thing and different countries evolved differently with preferences but as they develop and ppl get too comfortable and delusional it changes back

[@gurcereal]

I love the transition screens that you use!! Do u make them yourself? And howww

[@Iamam313]

I wanna see the video with the blond guy at 3:44. do you have a link?

[@craigdalbock1117]

Even in Bantu society a woman is considered more beautiful the paler she is.

[@maryamdiao1509]

Yes I would say it’s colonization but it’s also evolutionary too

[@sanghoonlee5171]

The "beauty privilege" debate belongs under a bigger, more important topic: personal value. People will treat you better--in other words, give you privileges--if they perceive you as valuable. Good looks are a quick and easy way to become valuable in other people's eyes, because looks are always visible whereas other types of value are not. There are saints who treat everybody well regardless of value, but such saints are few, and we cannot persuade all people to become saints. A mature person shouldn't complain that beauty is admired and sought after. That's human nature and it will not change. In fact, if we all stopped admiring beauty, that would be a bigger problem. With effort, we may educate people to stop treating unattractive persons badly. But we will never be able to convince people to stop giving special treatment to attractive persons. Attractive people will always enjoy perks that less attractive people don't get. We can try to curb some of the excesses of beauty privilege but we cannot remove it entirely. If you lack beauty, but you wish to be treated well by those you meet, then you must cultivate other ways to increase your value in their eyes. Be funny, be friendly, be skillful, be successful. Most people will treat you well if they like you. So show them some aspects of yourself that are worth liking. Or, just stop caring about how other people think about you. These are the only realistic choices for a mature adult.