The Emotionally Unavailable Nice Guy Who Can't Commit...Or Can He? Signs Of An Guy who Can't Commit

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[@beccawhite1887]

Just because a guy is genuinely nice, doesn't mean he isn't using you up till something better comes along. Harsh, I know. 😖

[@How.Dare.You.]

Im the best tho

[@gaillewis5472]

If a man gets everything he wants without a commitment, he'll never commit.

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Gail Lewis amen!

[@metalchick82foeva]

Very very true

[@fayfrau381]

What do you call everything? The thing is you have to make him want more of you because you are more than what he gets each time.

[@hannahscott6604]

Gail Lewis yep

[@shellymarlenemartin2779]

True.

[@SarSarge]

Run 🏃‍♀️ Because if you end up with feelings for a guy who can’t commit it will only end painfully

[@annc7739]

That was what I’ve learned from experience.

[@tulinbeyduz920]

Yep .. was painful

[@nofybn7794]

Yes, I learned too late.

[@ML-ro6in]

Run. Find someone who won't waste your time!

[@LinaP]

So.... basically don’t entertain a guy who has just come out of a relationship.

[@leahlove3263]

Lina P. Pretty much... I’m going it right now smh. They not ready for something new. They might say it but actions says nope.

[@himariana_2755]

*not unless you’re truly willing to accept that they probably won’t want to commit.

[@npkrn6764]

I understand this (the difference between having emotion for someone and wanting to commit to a relationship), but I think the problem many of us women have with this is that many guys will wait WAY too long to be honest about this. Often, a guy like this will wait until we women have deep feelings for him...and to me, that’s shitty of him. As in your example client - if the guy knew he didn’t want a relationship, why didn’t he say that ON THE FIRST DATE?!?! Not a month or two into things! THAT is what makes even a “nice” guy an ass in our eyes. This is common sense.

[@Tiggim0n]

For the most part it’s to secure and have a consistent supply of sex.

[@SamanthaLove148]

been there it’s sucks but oh well it’s his lost those not mine

[@catdev587]

They don't tell you up front because they want all the benefits of a girlfriend without commitment .

[@danicamarie6225]

If he keeps seeing you (6mo) and can't commit it is because he thinks the grass might be greener on the other side. The emotional excuse is BS. Start seeing other people put him on the back burner. I would Lose his number !

[@hannahscott6604]

Danica Marie yeah I’m moving on and going on dating sites to try to date someone

[@renatelewis538]

Is that you? Lot of BS. But he can commit to go to bed every time. Tell him get lost.

[@mufl6216]

Preach!

[@Vixinaful]

THIS guy I can actually understand! To just have come out of a relationship and to be dragged into the next without having had the time to heal from the first? Not good, let the guy heal. If it was meant to be, he'll come back.

[@tenea24]

My exact situation rn

[@Vixinaful]

@@tenea24 Well, turns out the guy I had atm was a mental case so if they come running straight after an ended relationship, watch out bc theyre after validation.

[@karllydolly]

This guy I was seeing is this guy, I thought we were making progress because at the beginning I just saw him as my fuck buddy but he showed so much interest in me that it change my way of seeing him and we started something beyond sex, but later on I found out he can't handle emotions very well (it has to do with his family), and now he won't commit. So now we cut communication and I'm starting to understand that even if he's a fantastic guy and we have a brilliant relationship I won't wait, I want and deserve more than what he's willing to give me.

[@hedheiclark6048]

This guy told me he wanted to be with me, but wanted to wait until he got all of his shit together(he moved in with his sister after his apartment flooded). I respected that. He invested time into me, took me on unique/quirky dates, and texted and called me on the daily basis. We weren’t together, but he would refer to me as his girl, whenever talking about me to someone. He even introduced me to his family... as his girlfriend. The love we made was very passionate, and wherever we went... people would compliment us on the chemistry we had. He gave me so many different pieces of his favorite clothing(hoodies and shirts). We also experienced one of the best nights of our lives together. We attended a rock concert, and he was so protective of me. He pushed through the crowd and saved me from a moshpit. He was actually about to get into a fight with a guy because he thought I was annoyed with him. Not only that, but he was extremely affectionate at the concert. HELLA PDA. Interlocking fingers, sweet kisses, tight hugs, slow dancing(yes... at a rock concert). Told me he needed me. Told me I was his other half. Told me he didn’t think he could feel this way about a woman again. Told me I felt like home. Told me I didn’t have to worry about him going anywhere. I said all that to say, that he left me a week later. Did a complete switchup and broke things off. Told me he wasn’t in a place to take things further, and I deserve someone who can give me stability. We were supposed to take a trip to California this summer 😣 Guys will play with your emotions ladies. Be careful 😞.

[@mirrormiddle]

I'm sorry for what happened. How long have you been dating this guy before he left?

[@tulinbeyduz920]

Ladies stay away from avoidant men . Go for secure attachment types ..

[@Inmyownlane808]

I dated a guy and probably me and others dated him as well. I dated him for over 3 years, with no commitment. He came close, but He would always pull back as though he never brought it up. Then during the later part of the dating, he even said he didn't want to hurt me. Bottom line, they have anyone they want including you, ex girlfriends, new prospects, and you and you have nothing.

[@Doidao-xx5vf]

He didn’t get married to you? What a smart man I would buy him a beer

[@nofybn7794]

@@Doidao-xx5vf Sexist. And wrong. You men need us, we don't need you.

[@PS-xb9hc]

This is so true! I met a good guy but started to make excuses and that was the time when I just backed off. Gotta save myself a heartache!🤪😊

[@34Graywolf]

Well I have to say that is weird, how can you like someone, or have feelings and not automatically want a relationship with them, that doesn’t make much sense. Men put women through too much Bull shit it’s a wonder to me that every woman on this planet doesn’t have PTSD or end up in a psych ward

[@ChristineSpringerElaine]

I appreciate your videos and advise, Elliot, but this video is a bunch of BS. It's time to stop making excuses for unconscious behavior from men. Equally, women need to pay attention to men's actions and words too, and stop thinking we can change him, or if we just wait around long enough, he'll change his mind. If he knew he wanted to be single, he should have told her that from the outset and hypothetically she should believe him. He is just making excuses for his lack of self-awareness and the effects it has on the people around him. It's time for this kind of unconscious behavior from men to stop. I refuse to make excuses for men like him anymore. It's time to raise our standards, ladies. Cut these men loose early and move on.

[@melc8388]

he is contradicting himself , he has said in many videos before if a man thinks that you are high value he would commit. He even gave the example of Jennifer Aniston

[@bellabong8862]

Yep. I agree. We ladies need to operate from this truth and not settle for less: If we are left to wonder whether the guy truly loves us, the answer is NO! He is not really a nice guy, is he, if he is selfishly using us for benefits (sex, emotional comfort, ego stroking, enjoying our companionship, etc.). If he does love us, he WILL commit and not risk losing us. Why would we stupidly settle for being just a placeholder until we get the heartbreaking news that he took the plunge with someone else and married HER? Happens all the time. Go for the guy who shows by consistent ACTIONS (be deaf to his sweet words) that they want us and removes any doubts of his love and intentions to have a future with us (i.e., proposes with a ring that hurts his pocketbook and sets a wedding date). And for heavens sake, do not give it up to any man who won't commit! As Pat Allen wisely says, a woman who gives up her parts gives up her heart. A man who won't commit does not deserve our heart (and certainly not our parts). We all must raise our standards, ladies, and be role models for our daughters or other young girls!

[@kristinaldridge1712]

This is my life. I've been waiting for you to address. I have a neighbor friend lover situation. Been going for 2 years. We are close but he can not and refuses to commit because he is traumatized by his ex so emotions are a bad thing. He doesn't date anyone else. Basically I cut it 1 month ago. Doing no contact except hellos on the street because that's unavoidable. He needs to address his emotional unavailability and decide if that's a place he wants to stay for the rest of his life or does he want to progress. I'm glad you made this video because it does exist. The nice emotionally unavailable man.

[@lanehill9660]

She should always date other men until he commits.

[@sexyndacityable]

Truth

[@madisonandthefarm]

Yes!

[@Unaminousverdict]

I’ve followed you for years Elliot I just want to say thank you for your videos I met a wonderful man online he told me he didn’t want anything serious so I remembered your advice and played it cool for 8 dates went and had fun and enjoyed each other no pressure and then gave him the ultimatum…. Now I have a boyfriend who’s talking long term commitment 😍✨

[@ElliotScottDating]

Thank you 🥰 that means a lot

[@donnasilva1659]

Girls....and Elliott! It never ends. I am a Sandy 62 year old going through this for the first time with a 61 year old man!! Never been married (red flag ignored)! He has been doing this his whole life apparently! Wtf!!! Thanks for the advice Elliott but I am giving him the boot and moving on!!

[@anm9059]

I am a woman, and there has been plenty of times I have been emotionally unavailable. I would date very cool people who have a lot going on, but I was just not there. I get it. There have been people I have broke their hearts, and a little while later, they found their soul mate. There is a small possibility that someone emotionally unavailable will eventually commit, but it is usually not worth it.

[@cr4228]

Maybe he is a user or narcissistic. Either way, keep your own options open...he will either fake coming around, or truly commit or leave....but avoid him and more of his conditions.

[@judyjb2305]

Always enjoy seeing the cats in the background. :)

[@topcat2033]

I'm not ready for a relationship, a year in a situationship he leaves me for "the one" watched them fall in love all over social media 🤢😭 so essentially he was a bullshitting user...

[@redroselace9545]

He wont commit because you just dont look good ENOUGH, or he knows he cant give you what you want, and doesnt care ENOUGH to see if he could.

[@anonnymous6490]

Is this true? He wont commit to his marriage because he is on search for someone more beautiful?? In other words hes not sexually satisfied with his wife or her looks?

[@redroselace9545]

@@anonnymous6490 watch Sheraseven1 on KZbin dear you will get all the answers you seek.

[@chupah93]

Funny bc I’m living this with my bestfriend since 5 years. He got his heart broken in pieces by his first love and I met him just after. This year, i had no contact with him during 6 months until now bc I was tired of this situation. I lived my best life, found a new job, went to sport, hanged out with my friends... I was forcing my mind to not being addicted to our beautiful relationship. And he came back so strong this month I let him in... just for the friendship. But he was acting like a lover lol. He now starts talking about marriage, being serious and tired of inconsistency lol I’m seing him on Saturday. Men are so weird, I’ll keep my guard anyway 🤷‍♀️

[@C3rul3anxi1Lu5i0n]

Don't let him rush the relationship. Rushed relationships typically don't last long.

[@chupah93]

C3rul3anxi1Lu5i0n I’ll try my best honey, I like him a lot, but he has to show me where he’s at mentally and if he deserves me (I know what I’m talking about ahah 🤦‍♀️).

[@toscadonna]

Tell him that you'll be glad to get together with him again as soon as you're married.

[@dforgr9257]

Chupah93, can you update us , please? How did it go? Where are you with that relationship now?

[@chupah93]

@@dforgr9257 Well I didn’t trust his words, this man wasn’t heal… He was lying to himself, he missed the way I treated him. I really wanted a pure friendship at the beginning to see how he’ll handle the situation but he was way too « close », truly a big lack of physical contact imo. When he tried to get closer I cut all contact with him and realized I will never marry this man in my life. He tried to come back but I stayed on my position. Heard he got married with one of his fwb that was in love with him since 6 years. Hope they’re happy bc he wasn’t nice to her back in the days….

[@carinafine5809]

What do you mean this is what you do for a living and you can give us an answer that’s a little crazy Elliott

[@deanarodriguez4258]

My same experience like your client. We have all those traits. Good intentions, time, energy, effort, money..a solid friendship...a lost love from 30 yrs ago. Love doesn't quit. I'm comfortable with hope. Thanks, Elliot.

[@kirazinn]

oh boo! guys that can't commit is not because of emotion, it because he still got feelings for ex- girlfriend. let's call the shit for what it really is. If a guy gonna waste my time by having me get emotionally invested in him, that he can't commit to me, then i might as well have other options. That all he gonna do anyway. It not fair for a girl to be a rebound to an emotionally unavailable guy either. I get so sick of these types of guys, cuz this is what becoming common now. Which is why i'm never gonna try to like just 1 guy again, cuz he might not be serious enough to be with you. So it best to have many options with other men just in case the one guy you want, doesn't want to commit to you.

[@shellymarlenemartin2779]

I had this terrible problem. This guy literally was the nicest guy I ever had. He was fully invested in me FOR YEARS. He was consistent….but he couldn’t commit due to a lot of baby mama crazy drama. What a heartbreak that I had to deal with that. Worst thing ever because he was my favorite. I broke it off. Nobody does seem to compare with him….sucks so much. Nothing compares to you is a real thing. Sucks. I guess time is the only thing to deal with this sort of heartbreak.

[@elizamoore4535]

Main component of relationship is commitment so ladies protect your heart and put yourself first.

[@shaniac22]

His room looks so heavenly with all those lights

[@Tanyax]

Dude thanks for the vid your cat is adorable just like you :) this situation totally sucks you’re right.. and it’s kinda nice to have it left open because sometimes being told what to do in a situation interrupts the natural flow of things... blessings x

[@naemack1441]

I remember you said before there has to be a high interest level, and regardless what the guy is going through he will commit. You used the Jennifer Aniston example. So could it be the guy isnt that interested in her as much as she is interested in him and therefore cant commit?

[@reaganhiggins8963]

N.L Macklin that’s what I was getting. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but sometimes, the guy is just not that into you. Better to move on and find someone else instead of trying to rationalize his actions. 🤦🏾‍♀️

[@melc8388]

he said high value, sounds like hes changing his tune this video contradicts the rest!

[@gisele2926]

I appreciate this video and found some good advice. I do feel that the comment section could benefit from this relevant quote..."Never try to teach a pig to sing. It wastes your time and annoys the pig!"

[@jennifermaccy9311]

Great video, very informative! Thank you so much. God Bless you Mr. Elliot Scott!❤

[@leaahmed1952]

Date other guys... if he dosent want to pin you down then you are single 100%. I been in this situation and after while I manage to meet someone who I am attracted to that want to commit. I did continue to see him even if he didn't want to go further. And he is a good guy too but now he will have to suck it up.

[@metalchick82foeva]

Yay your back! This is what I'm dealing with RIGHT now!!

[@nk4086]

This just feels like a bunch of excuses for guys really. Not every guy is like this. There are honest men out there with good intentions and who have the ability to keep it real.

[@antihackergrlnow]

lol yeah a lot of girls I've met don't understand that, I do actually I tend to distance myself from guys lately though, mostly because I don't want to hog their time and over load them with stories of my life, it's important to have a mystery about yourself if you like a guy, there's a guy I like right now, but it doesn't mean I want a commitment with him because I really don't have a desire to even get married anymore, i'm not the commitment type of girl guys like this usually work better with me though because they usually prefer open-relationships, if they do fall in love. It gives them more of an option to explore and have fun. As long as your honest about it. It's pretty hard to read a man's mind, because they say one thing, and then they turn around and suddenly have an awakening and now suddenly they want a commitment if they see a girl like me that won't accept a commitment. Always wanting what they can't have, women are pretty simple, make a decision, stick with it, and then we will stop being so crazy. It's pretty hard to know what anybody wants unless they stop lying about it.

[@lizavila1379]

As usual, another great video with good advice 👌

[@rebeccajones8628]

If they are too emotionally unavailable nothing works. It is so frustrating....

[@gabbztorrez1209]

Thank you so much for this!! I've been so confused for such a long time looking at so many different videos but none explained this specific situation. I couldn't relate to any of the watched videos since they never mentioned anything about a guy that is so good to me in every way. This only made it that much harder to understand why he could never commit but now you finally addressed it and I finally understand. Thank you!!!

[@LinhPhan-le2kc]

I have dated with him for 7 years and he just said he didn't think marriage is important. Just a piece of paper... . He told me he didn't have a connection with me after we have been dating for 7 years then he just shut me out suddenly when i asked about it. I'm in pain and feel so stupid. Wish these guys can stop hurting women who trust and love them.

[@madds8624]

Literally my situation...was hoping for advice tho :/

[@mwadjumamukamfizi2216]

Wow this the best video ever it makes sense emotions and condition !!!i had the guy told he really really like me but he is going thru too much to make of us!!!i was ok bye then

[@elharrop]

What the heck happened to 'if i a guy really likes you he wouldn't put himself in a position to lose you..?' Everyone got shit going on in their messy lives, why does this guy get a hall pass for free sex and companionship?

[@immahana6854]

Ooh 😄....during the session i almost thought this time Elliot didnt feel the presence of his favorite cat _miaooww😉...then that pet just wound its way to his arms n i was like....wow!-thats attachement😎

[@hkvideos9674]

I miss our car talks! 🚗

[@RobinTaylorMusic]

So if the guy can’t commit, is it best to move on? What is the best move

[@IamKarryanne]

walk away and never look back.

[@Ilovetruecrime545]

Always walk away. If he wants to get his shit together, you’ll know soon enough because he will go after you and won’t want to lose you.

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Yes, walk sis. Men normally make it known upfront or at least a month or two in if they wanna be with you, if a certain amt of time has passed and you havent moved forward with the title of your choice, its a safe bet you never will. I know this type of man. I just got out of one. The experience will leave you frustrated and many times questioning your self worth. I even developed low self esteem because he wouldnt move forward. Then i came to the conclusion, hes just not for me and i did nothing to merit his lack of interest to move things forward. I know im damned good girlfriend material and he missed out and certainly someone else more deserving will come into my life when im done working on me and manifesting what i truly want in the future. Move on. Thats not the man for you. You deserve more coz we all do. Dont take crumbs. Dont be happy with scraps. Know your value.

[@RobinTaylorMusic]

Calico123 Linus he always comes back. For the past two years he keeps coming back but I stopped talking to him a year ago because he didn’t seem like he wanted anything serious. Now he’s come back and I told him I can’t do the fwb thing so I wished him well. He apologized to me and said he knew where I was coming from. I still haven’t responded. I might see him on Halloween since we all have the same friends but I’m putting my foot down this time.

[@patricmira]

​@@asmallbitchybanana I went through the same shit... You start to get feelings over a guy, and you can't walk away. I became sick because of the anxiety of being with someone who wouldn't commit or give me security and afection, and also for meeting other new women. I think women can not tolerate these players and attention seekers no more. If after two months he doesn't commit, you walk the f. away! And watch out recently divorced/ separated men. Those are emotionally unavailable, normaly during 2/3 years. My experience.

[@asha_vere]

This whole video is just making excuses for the guy. Someone who is actually a genuine nice guy, won't lead you on only to not commit. They're being selfish by doing this, period.

[@JaneDoe-nr8wu]

Elliot, is this a joke? The guy just can't stop himself from sleeping around lol. That would be hilarious if women did not believe you

[@AnFChick85]

I’m going thru this right now. I’ve been in a relationship with him for 4-years and I thought he would be proposing soon, but we ended up breaking up instead :( he said I didn’t do anything wrong, but he has commitment issues. So painful :(

[@pennir8834]

Ok I'm English...what's 'white castle' sounds like beer 😂...also what's in the big box, i kept expecting a naked woman to jump out, shouting 'ta da'. 💃 Cool vid btw missing your lives though Mr 😢😢😉

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Penni Rowe sliders (smaller sized burgers)

[@pennir8834]

@@asmallbitchybanana he don't eat meat LOL thought he was vegan 🤔🤔

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Penni Rowe hmmm right.

[@FuturePsychNurse]

Penni Rowe White Castle is not sliders or burgers it’s a restaurant chain that serves burgers in the United States and Canada. They offer vegan burgers along with other fast food.

[@pennir8834]

@@FuturePsychNurse Ah kk makes sense lol sounds like a pair of slippers here in England 😂😂

[@LG-wv5eq]

I just go with the flow

[@BellaEstrella7]

Helpful video. Thank you 🙏🏼

[@jenniferhowley5103]

I been watching eery couch for 4 months ...EVERY ONE .24/7 /////// I just joined ur club..I need a phone session

[@underxratedxrage]

He was strong at first, I knew his heart wasn't ready to love after our first date, he made that pretty clear... But we continued talking for about 5 months. And we enjoyed our time, but once we got really close, he distanced himself and said to just forget him, sorry for leading me on. I'm like... I know. But I still care about him. He says he doesn't want to "ruin me, getting my hopes up for something that may not happen"

[@ninjacat508]

So your video began with a Matt Hussey ad. I found that a teensy ironic 😉

[@loganross4774]

Doesn’t follow through on plans. Won’t give you his picture.

[@ArtsyMegz_On_Etsy]

I feel like I have the type where he has good intentions, but he can't seem to move us along and progress. Because I pulled away from him for two weeks (because he decided to play mind games on me for 3 or 4 days, but I am wondering if he was testing me), and then he threw a tantrum because he was trying so hard to win my affection, but I didn't show any signs of budging until he invested more effort into me. His interest has always been high, but he seems to be afraid to get too close, and it's confusing the heck out of me!

[@luisaramirez0]

Hahah oh thank you for this very helpful insight.

[@alexandrineb7752]

That's exactly my bf I mean ex. A really nice caring guy but he let himself float completely in the relationship. Nothing would happen if I wasn't taking all initiatives and he admitted being lazy and that he probably wouldn't be enough for me so I walked away after almost 2 years of relationship.

[@allywolf9182]

Great video....

[@wenderella81]

I met this guy except he wants to remove sex and intimacy completely from his life. He still calls and wants to spend time together. I'm trying to just live for today and build a friendship. Nicest most considerate guy I've ever met. Just not available emotionally.

[@hannahscott6604]

I found out this guy was a jerk recently that I was friends with. I thought over time we could start dating and had changed my mind and changed things. He was very physically affectionate to me for months. I will never get that. We knew each other for 5 months before he gave information away that “there was nothing that would prevent him from being in a relationship with me, but he’s in a break and if a relationship comes looming he’ll take it” Then later he said: “l don’t know what I want, I don’t know how to change it, I don’t know when I’ll change it” This guy was physically there for me but not verbally emotionally there for me

[@maryqc8418]

I love to see you w your kitty cats. That's sometimes the funnest part..

[@starburst2245]

Has anyone ever thought of the idea or a reason that a man can't commit, would be because maybe he has some personal issues that he's dealing with? Maybe he's going through a lot of health issues like psychological, emotional, and physical health issues that make it difficult for him to feel adequate enough to be able to commit to a woman whom he cares about and really likes. Nobody ever really bring that subject up everybody always thinks that if a man doesn't commit that he has a hidden agenda or that he's trying to keep his options open in case another woman comes along, or that he's just trying to have his cake and eat it too. But there's not a lot of coaching advice videos about the reasons why some men cannot commit is because perhaps they're struggling with personal issues that make it difficult for them to commit.he could be struggling with psychological issues such as depression and anxiety and that would fall under the category of mental health and emotional well-being. But nobody ever really brings that up or talks about it. So there's another legitimate reason as to why a man would find it difficult to commit to a woman whom he really likes and cares about!

[@BrooklynBaby100]

So they should leave women alone then. Fix the “issues” and leave women alone. Access to women is privileged.

[@brendagilbert482]

This is my situation. I have a man best friend who says he loves me, but refuses to be in a relationship with me. He has a serious illness, and because of that, he doesn't want to be a burden, or to be tied to anyone. He says, "I can't be anything but selfish at this stage." I disagree. I think it's never too late.

[@tenea24]

He told me he’s scared because he feels like women go through a phase where they become infatuated, but he feels it dies out eventually so he just wants to see who is “for him”. We’ve already had relations sooo I’m just stuck right now lol. I’m actually disappointed in myself. We’ve been friends for 15 years but lost contact for 3. Idk guys. We’ll see what happens.

[@chocolateicecream6995]

that honestly sounds like an excuse for not trying. Like it's the woman's fault they felt out of love? Nah, he just wants to not commit, and then say they weren't for him, when it's his issue

[@carolmaz8675]

Look there’s no rocket science here if they the one they commit and that’s men and women ..

[@mollykam8294]

I have a same case now...thank you for this video

[@loganross4774]

Cat Cameo! 🐈‍⬛🐾🐾💕

[@andreaberryman5354]

I'm in this EXACT situation as her. I do not know wherher to just take him off my contact list so I quit talking to him. He asks me "How are you gorgeous?" Something like that every morning, so...😔💔 Do I just stop talking to him and get him off of my mind now? He'll keep talking to me, but I dig him SO much I can't see other men as long as I talk to him. He's a great guy too.

[@Loverofartsandmusic]

Just saw this video. LOL. your cat caught my attention haha.

[@biancapierce639]

I may have missed it but canyou do a video about when you meet a man who has a friend with benefits and she keeps lingering around. It's obvious from a female perspective she wants a relationship with him but he is not interested. She won't move on and is always lurking and sexually available. If I kick up a stink then it looks like I'm being jealous but she is so persistent to the point of buying sporting tickets for both of them to go. If he went with a male friend I would not mind but it irks me that he goes with this female friend. It feels more like a traingle than a pair.

[@Pattie-o7f]

that's called triangulation which is what narcissists do...I'd run if I were you. They come off as emotionally unavailable which they are but there's more to it.

[@biancapierce639]

@@Pattie-o7f I'm not referring to when a man is a narcissist and is playing the women against each other. This is the case of a pushy, highly manipulative woman who knows how to guilt trip him. His female friends do not think that he likes her because they remember how differently he responded to a woman he was in love with but who ended up dumping him. The one male friend that I spoke to said that he did not think there was any relationship between them. I moved on because I do not think he fell in love with me, I think he still isn't over the girl he was in love with. However, this woman is going to make it hard for any woman that turns up on the scene.

[@Pattie-o7f]

@@biancapierce639 good move on your part.

[@tahamenepark]

So if a guy cannot commit would this be the best time to try and the no contact rule?

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Tahamene Park how long have you been dating?

[@tahamenepark]

@@asmallbitchybanana since the end of May

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Tahamene Park if you are truly ready to not have him in your life, then ditch him. Theres always that possibility he may not return in no contact so if youre ready for that then by all means do so. However i think you wanna do no contact to see if he might return and miss you and sometimes they do. Sometimes they dont. Also , if it has to take no contact for him to realize your worth and value then do you really want a man like him? If he cant commit to you at the peak of the attraction like Elliot says, and commit to you during the beginning when things are hot n heavy then why would he commit when things are in the middle stages. I learned this the hard way, sis. They mostly wont if its been sometime and theyre not showing signs of wanting exclusivity or taking you off the market.

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Tahamene Park i started dating the guy aroujd the same time you did. He never committed, strung me along, ghosted, then i called him out and he eventually dumped me. Its still very painful but i am moving on.

[@tahamenepark]

@@asmallbitchybanana you make a good point

[@picklespip9213]

I am in thos situation right now, I have met his parents and everything. He pulls aways then comes back, I feel so confused and upset at the moment. I want to pull away at the moment, it's just so hard

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Can you do a video about men who use women as a placeholder because they are indecisive.

[@ChinaWhite4life]

Unica Hija hi sis 🌸

[@asmallbitchybanana]

China white✨BOA💯supporter🖤 whats crackin’! I hope y’all’s happy. Everything good on the home front sis?

[@lovelyjoy.01]

yes I agree

[@AliciasHealingChannel]

This is the video- he doesn’t commit with nice placeholders

[@hannahscott6604]

Unica Hija yessss

[@Blueivy2345]

Why don't these guys just leave women alone if they don't want anything it's selfish

[@BrooklynBaby100]

Facts, they’re entitled.

[@IsabelSmith31]

This is it. This is my guy. This the the one lol 😂

[@Pattie-o7f]

What's your definition of committing??? Exclusivity, cohabitation...

[@estherb.6433]

“You’re the best color in the world” 🤣😂

[@irapancho4632]

Would it be safe to say, I feel like I'm the one who can't commit. I also see that we're both treating the "relationship" equally in a sense that we like each others company, but we seem to not really fully commit to it. I told him I wanted a relationship, and he said he wants a relationship too. Although, I think he was just scared to hurt my feelings, and now we're just seeing where it goes.

[@mthecat9250]

Lmao thanks was looking for this category everywhere

[@alexandra9985]

He told me he cannot commit, but suggested an more "open" relationship, without barriers, responsability..He got off an 10year relationship and don´t want to get through the pain again, that´s what he told me. Now, what should i do? I´m in love with this guy...we haven´t talked since then..i told him mine conditions "that i want a relationship"..we haven´t spoke since then..

[@catdev587]

Good riddance.......His rejection is your protection.

[@kimlec3592]

What's goin' on, everybody? Gold.

[@mitchell070604]

So, going off of this video/message, is it commonplace for these men to eventually come around and be ready to commit or do they tend to just always be hesitant to commit? Also, should a woman who is in this situation, keep some level and type of minimal communication line open with the man but on a friend level to let him know that she is still interested when or if he does come around?

[@bellabong8862]

Don't wait and don't keep a line of communication open. Move on. If they "wake up" and see what they've lost and want to rekindle, do you really want that anyway? You should be Hell Yeah! from day one, not a Hmmmm.

[@catdev587]

Hell no........

[@CatsAreNiceMeow]

or they are still talking to their exes even though they don’t have children together

[@cr-mo1op]

Why u want nice guy to provide u and your child who belong to other man or to provide u when u banging your alpha man . And if he commit to you after some time u will get divorce then that nice guy who is providing u is now homeless ,he lost everything . After divorce u will get new alpha men ,but in nice guy story there is no one, he's just homeless poor guy ,he can't get a gf because he's poor so now hes working hard to improve his life. Don't blame nice guys they know that if they fall for someone ,the life is gonna be hard sooner or later.

[@soumiahadjer9323]

Guys i really really need advice ! I'm desperate that's why i'm posting it here ! So i have a male friend that i've known for 3 years now, from the very first contacts we had a great connetion, we share the same passions and are on the same page on pretty much everyrhing ! When i met him i had a long distance boyfriend and he was very flirty and so was i and all of our friends noticed ( it was hard not o notice) and a lot of people thought we were together, i eventually broke up but we never got together ( long story), we remained great friends after that, few months later he had a girlfriend but again, every time we all got together our friends couldn't help but notice that something could happen between us, a year later he finished uni ( a year before me) than broke up with his gf , that's were we got really really close , he used to come to see me , we talked ALL THE TIME even when he's at work or super busy, he always answers me immidietly even if it's the stupidest thing ever ( a meme a video a song), it was a real honest genuine frienship, he has my back, i could talk to him about anything and we would open up to each other about anything, so much love and so much trust and true friendship, so far i forbidded myself from any romantic feelings, BUT, in june while he was talking to me at one point i asked him if he saw the video i just sent him he said he's on the phone , i assumed it was a gf but i thought it was weird he didn't say anything , i didn't paid much attention to it, then during the summer we got even closer and the conversations were deeper ( until 2 Of the morning like always) until during a conversation same thing i sent a video, he didn't see it but we kept talking, asked about the video he said he's on the phone ( like litteraly he was texting me while he was on the phone !!!! ) so i said ooow you never told me, he said yeah i did , referring to the other time , i said no u didn't and spit it out now, he said he wzs tired and he'll tell me everything another time, i was pissed and he knew it, so i took a break from internet and disappeared for 10 days, i found a lot of messages from him asking where i am, almost every day, i said that i wanted a break, we talked normally after that but he started pulling away , he rarely initiated so considering how dear he is to me i thought maybe something's wrong with him, i ssent a text saying that he's distant and if anything is bugging him my door's is open anytime, he only replied with thank's it's nice, but the day after he was talking normally, he went to a vacation yo paris and of all of our friends he told only me but whzn he came back he stopped texting me so i pulled the breaks and didn't text either, 13 days passed and he appeared yesterday sending me a funny picture to break the ice, i was cold and shortly answered his questions and didn't even ask how he's been and i left it there ! Now i don't know what to do ! I'm pissed at him for ghosting me like that and i'm glad he reacged out and he's veeeeeery dear to me and i miss him so much but i don't know what to do ! Should i talk to him again ? What to say ? What to do ? Please help ? ( ps: i know for sure that it's not serious with the gf and she'll probably ask him about marriage and he's far from ready, and should mention that he always avoided ti talk about his relationships but mentionned line a few rimes out of the blue ) help me !!!!

[@gbeverly32ify]

And... What if he "likes" you but leaves you on read alot?

[@KYRA_FX]

He has options

[@asmallbitchybanana]

Ky ky plenty of options

[@gbeverly32ify]

Thanks. Just curious.

[@Ilovetruecrime545]

Don’t waste your time on someone like this. You deserve better. Actions mean more than words

[@gbeverly32ify]

@@Ilovetruecrime545 thank you. Its hard. Im gona try pulling away slowly.

[@faezahjumahat4196]

Why Do Some Guy's Or Some Man's Act Nice And Sweet But When They Are In Need Of Cash They Are Rude And Not Really That Interesting And Not Responding To their Queries Or Just Ignore Only? Are There Really A Good Guy's Or Just Plain Ignorant?

[@vlj9013]

Like doesn't equal relationship

[@Mary-mx3ec]

Perfect timing. Thanks ❤

[@lorieammons9370]

I love u Elliot but title says “Signs a guy can’t commit” What are they???

[@humblewolf2474]

Giving your energy if she’s around you only guys

[@ilenek.5428]

Another hair style to beat ;)

[@larakay9783]

awwwweee the kitty 😺♥😍

[@anonnymous6490]

Why wouldnt a man commit to his marriage