The End of People Pleasing

[@SABRINA-kn9ef]

Thank you so much! This resonates with me very deeply. I see it in my children as well. I am learning and realizing so much about myself these days. So grateful! Much love to all... 💛✨✨✨

[@leeharris5682]

Beautiful share ❤️

[@MayaNature113]

En empowered empath.. YES! They look distressed- they are the one's to resolve it! My world, my better place! Omg, leave them to deal with their anger. Of course, they hate boundaries but it is also their problem to resolve. Don't take anything on, really.........:) The change in consciousness is here!

[@NinaNour]

Exactly that happened with me! And I have to close myself and be very strict with my boundaries

[@angel772921]

I moved countries a week ago away from dysfunctional toxic family members. .my people pleasing and trying to heal them and others because of trauma bonding and conditioning nearly destroyed my life for decades..I am highly empathic and a spiritusl healer and teacher..when the body says NO. .listen and act on it..it will save your life..quite literally!. A tough lesson well and truly learned..YOU first..eh There will be a aftershock but the freedom you feel after all has calmed will feel like rebirth. .you are so loved beautiful brother..huge hugs to you and all fellow warriors of light present..xxx

[@leasli222]

Thanks for the reminder Lee. This has been a very very big lesson for me recently. Over the last 4 years in particular I've been in a pattern of putting everybody else's needs first, and not looking after myself, to the point where I had been getting sick and run down a lot. The beginning of this year I decided to make a big life change, putting myself first, and it went completely 'tits up'. I drove myself mad asking why this had happened and thinking the universe was against me 😅 but I've just had a big realisation the last couple of weeks that I had essentially blocked it from manifesting because I was holding a lot of guilt for putting my own needs first. Big lesson! Really gonna take the time to nourish myself in 2019 Xxx

[@straighttalkingtarot]

Very accurate. I just let go of a rental contract that I felt in my body to be wrong and that would not serve my life despite the owners disappointment and persuasive tactics and something’s felt off - it was a challenge as it meant releasing a place, losing money and time already invested, with no immediate alternative but most importantly I have learned to stand by me and not to fall into the trap to make it okay for another over my inner sovereignty - on a different note I asked a friend this weekend for a book I had lent her a few months back while she went on a sojourn. She asked to keep it longer as she was now reading it. My clear answer to her was ‘no’. I felt she had it long enough and I wanted it back now. And she was to buy herself a copy. 🙏🏼

[@MrBasinator]

Thank you!!! Exactly. I've given everything and my health, and it's been a major theme. I was an extreme people pleaser. I've been getting better and better. Healing. Unlearned people pleasing. You can't pour from an empty cup... healing ourselves first and THEN help others can. Albeit not on the level of before this understanding and knowing you can't help someone who doesn't want to be helped, and some people are just energy vampires/narcisists. And... *"I can only show you the door, you're the one who has to walk through it."*

[@ankurable]

Thank you Lee. I'm a huge people pleaser and have been suffering a lot because of this pattern. It's time to change. I needed this video right now. Much love for everybody trying to grow ❤️

[@serenahallowell9805]

Just last week, this totally came up big time. I have a close relative who wanted use of something of mine. I realized that I had that anxious feeling in my belly over "giving this away". It is my nature to want to please, and then I was faced with the discomfort of being honest, about how it didn't feel right at this time. It was a huge moment of holding on to my own power and being okay with the consequences. Even when we are "loving and giving" people, we have to create healthy boundaries and show up in ways that may be uncomfortable, but necessary. Thank you!! Going to keep working on this one. Much love!!

[@cynthiahinton6483]

Thank you for this message, Lee. A couple of years ago I was at the energy tune-up session in Atlanta and we talked about a stressful situation I was in with a difficult boss. I am finally going to be moving to a new position and I find myself afraid of disappointing my current bosses when it is time to give my notice. I people please to shield myself from difficult emotions, even though I can feel inside it is crushing me. It is definitely an area that needs more work for me, but at least I have found the courage to leave. And I will power myself through my fear of disappointing others.

[@kizzi444]

I am a people pleaser and I said "No" yesterday. It was not a big deal but it was emotionally very difficult.

[@MsCaterific]

#PeoplePleasing = #SelfImprisonment while sacrifice = spiritual/energy growth. There's a delicate balance I need to master.

[@THELUNEINNATE]

Such an important message- where is your energy going and what's at the root of this need to please and not let anyone down. I see this often manifest in ways such as feeling like no one "picks" us, or that we are unimportant, when we should in fact be "choosing" ourselves and demonstrating our own priority of self. Thank you! Be seeing you! 👽😎

[@leeharris5682]

Lucid Dreaming That’s not the reality I see, and I am highly aware of the types of people that you speak of. But I come into contact with many who are grounded in their spirituality and wanting to help move the world forward through their actions. Hope you meet more of those people soon and big love to you X

[@leeharris5682]

The Lune INNATE Loved meeting you last week and yes, be seeing you soon. Thanks for your words here and big love X

[@lauraelizabethgoodyear31]

Great point at 3:20 re People Pleasing. I immediately channeled HS’s Wisdom (that I’ve been practicing/experimenting with in all of my r’ships for 2.5yrs): “ Until we become comfortable allowing the children in your life to Be Angry At You! This goes for both the young, And, the older Pretending to be Grown/Mature “Adults”), we will Continue To ‘Worship (give all your Allegiance to) at the “Alter” Of others, rather than Source via your Own Interior Guru! NOT LIFE-AFFIRMING, Right? As We/ the collective evolve toward moving our Allegiance Back to Source-Creator, via our Higher Self, then Soul, We WILL Balance the discord/dissonance in both the mind & heart to where they begin to actually communicate, move onto balancing via the Infinity Breath between them, & our Throat Chakra Will Finally Clear/Clean, Balance & Power Will re-Turn, reinstating our Innate Will-Power, Which is Required to make Any lasting Shift in our commitment to Self First, Others 2nd! #ENERGYFIRSTMATTERSECOND This is the Invocation, Intention & Conscious Choice I Send to the Beloved (And, To my Blesse, Innocent ‘Inner Child’, Who has been waiting Patiently for 60yrs, while I was spiraling DOWN the matrix path of Supreme World-Record Caregiver, then routinely Pinged & Finally Woke Up- Into my Interior Dark Night Journey. Though Seriously painful, lonely & Often suicidal (convinced I had NOTHING LEFT to give self or others), I was unknowingly gaining Mastery at Intuition... the Interpretation Of Energetic Data (Only Possible as we See Self & ALL people, things & events Objectively, as Energy & Energy Only... via Constant self-experimentation with Every bit of new, broader info. That becomes, Knowing, after which we Receive the next Level’s Wisdom & get to start the experiments all over again at this Higher Plane. “I SURRENDER to My Higher Self, for Our Greatest Good, Our Highest Joy & the Most Benevolent Outcome for Us ALL! And SO IT IS” ~*~

[@andreaclairepsychicmedium5954]

Holy smokes! Your video just helped me IMMENSELY!!! I just attended a family "celebration" yesterday and felt absolutely NOTHING in terms of connecting with them. This is a first, as I have always played the "people pleaser" with my family. I was feeling a bit strange about this, until I listened to your message today. Thank you Lee. You're such a blessing. Sending you great love from my heart to yours xx

[@momione11]

It's like my body has a life of its own. Although I didn't understand it myself. Already started as a 7-year-old. Perceive people's energy. Automatically around certain people, my people pleasing went on. Almost like watching a program go on. Sometimes I myself have felt strange. But the body goes on sometimes without me knowing. Like the body has its own life. All my life. Have I thought that when this happened, it was love. But today, 50 years later, I know that if I feel this, I need to leave. Or can feel it now in my body without acting on it. Before, as I said, it is as I just starting to give and give. But August 2021. I fell into a trap. Picked myself up from the toughest most painful thing I've been through. My whole life passed revue. Got to see my whole life. Why it looked like they did. Have learned so much. But above all to never leave myself again. Because I left myself as a 7-year-old. Takes care of me now. I'm almost 50 and ready to be involved in my own life. Also see how I have been controlled by energies. My body reacts. But now I can sit in energies without acting on them.

[@colleennicholl1044]

But not now , I need me for me,, then become stronger in me, to lead my own needs again, your advice is so wonderful thank you.

[@rumberaladyv]

I don't know how but I received this message right at the moment I needed it. I swear, it really resonates with my situation right now. It's so important to take care of ourselves when we are the ones that are the lightgivers and energy givers. I have this situation right now with a loved one and it is not easy. It has become the expectation that I am supposed to soothe this person and really my cup is running on negative empty. Thank you so much for this message. It's a helpful reminder to me to take care of myself first!

[@Starlight22215]

Great message. I needed that today, you must have heard me earlier having a bit of a meltdown. I think it's make or break time.

[@Biracialbaddie]

I feel this so deeply in my soul. I said about a week or so ago i'm DONE people pleasing!! My spirit rejected that energy. I feel so empowered now to really focus and accomplish my soul mission.

[@kevabela6307]

Your video today helped me say "no" for once today Lee. Thank you!!! After my initial feeling bad, I felt really proud of me, standing up for what felt right for me. This video will change my life 🙏💕🌈

[@SafeAndSounds]

Oooh yes :) It amazes me how I am at one frequency with you the past 6 months, dear Lee. This shift in people pleasing/filling my own cup and needing validation from other people, is going on for me, and accelarating in the past months. These few weeks I am making a jump in the process. It is so easy to see now what and how people act and I am suddenly able to communicate a very friendly no, without even saying no, and in a way that even gives a positive message. It feels great! This was one of my main issues all my life (57 years) and never coukd quite get it, or get over the anxiety and fear, and now it suddenly peachy pie :-)

[@SafeAndSounds]

Thank you Lee, all blessings to you, thank you for being here.

[@jenniferbissell6271]

Thank you so much for this! It’s as if you just plucked it out of my brain! It’s been about 8 months of a relationship that has woke this up inside of me! I think about it every day!

[@cosmicgoddess5085]

Wow. This was divine timing. Thank you, I needed to hear this!

[@tareqalmashaqbeh]

Thanks Lee.. i just wana add small thing.. in the science of human design we've been told and we also observed this habit in people who has a specific biological energetic design in their body in a center that is called Emotional center and its receiver in this case, others have it transmitter and we work together as one... for open emotional (receiver people) they always have the tendency to please others not to feel these emotions (not to receive it) ... i highly recommend if anyone identify of being a people pleaser to check their human design chart and consult a professional that can highly help in this and give amazing simple solutions ... Thanks for your great videos and best wishes from the middle east in Jordan. Tareq

[@philippahall2510]

Hi Tareq. I’m been learning about the Human Design System these last few weeks and although my emotional centres are defined, I’m blown away by how knowing about this system has given me answers I never thought I’d ever get, thanks Mercury Retrograde. I very much resonate with “people pleasing” but over the past couple of years I’ve been strengthening my sense of self and it’s been quite a journey. I’m glad you bought up Human Design Systems as it’s a really useful too 👍 😊

[@heathershaw9122]

Thanks for that Tareq, I shall investigate!! In return , check up Donna Eden, energy medicine, the 'Zip up' technique, to stop people leeching your energy!! Or dumping theirs on you!! 🤗

[@indirasudan4059]

🙏 perfect timing for me....just saved myself.thank you 🙏

[@migdaliarosado4137]

Oh my goodness❗❗ This is how I feel today.. Thank you, for putting my priorities in order..

[@erichermanny1796]

Dear Lee, thank you for your message posts. I came across one of your energy-update posts a couple of days ago and was impressed by the impact it had on me. Today, I sat and watched a few of your youtube videos and they have lit up a myriad of fireflies around dormant areas of my psyche. It is amazing! So many answers coming up in a such a new and uplifting way. Forever grateful for your work. Cheers!!!

[@bryanvanhulstmiranda4006]

I definitely feel like im in this transition away from people-pleasing. People pleasing for sure came from empathy in part, but at a fundamental level i felt that pleasing the wishes of others was also what I gave as a currency for love, the fear that if i wasnt pleasing the other, love would be withdrawn; something largely to do with childhood trauma and parental neglect. What i want to get at, i feel like chronic people pleasing has a lot more to do with our own open wounds and fears rather than people that are just 'naturally' empathetic. I fear that 'empath' is becoming an identity, which almost constantly requires feeling and soothing the other in order to perpetuate itself. im trying to move more towards the importance of empathy as an act, which implies "i get it, i have been there, i know how that is" and "i see you," but with the awareness of boundaries and distance. Does this make sense?

[@CariMachet]

Bryan van Hulst Miranda yes it Makes sense - thanks for sharing it ... yup i see you and you are över there and i am right here ... as an empath i actually carry others around with me even when i havent known them for years or even consciously thought of them ... the completion process is so helpful with this aspect

[@itsoneAM]

The timing of this message is divine. Thank you Lee.

[@itsoneAM]

P.S- I also have them cursing me when I say no and that scares me, the thought that this negativity may linger somewhere in my energy.

[@YourBestHopesWellnessCoach]

I really like this perspective - trying to allay someone else's discomfort at the cost of your own comfort is something I tend to do frequently. Gives much to think about. Thank you.

[@marie-roselaurette4956]

Thank you for helping me make a huge shift which was very much needed! Forever grateful! God bless!

[@BubaAnika]

So true! And so difficult to break the belief of what is right thing to do and what is not.

[@HarmonyEnergyHealing]

Thank you for the message! I am in the process now of changing things within my so that my cup is full

[@jj-no8fr]

Thank you lee yes I'm a p.pleaser. but now I be more aware much love and peace be well

[@cmug1220]

I love your videos. So clear and to the point, unearthing the core wounds in us that need to be seen, felt and healed. I know I have a tenancy to people please, I guess there is part of me that is scared of any negative reactions from others so I'd rather smooth things over. I am alot better than I used to be but as you say, there are deeper layers to still look at. Thank you for sharing your videos. ♥

[@jaclynh9343]

So deeply love this video, so needed for so many, myself included. I have struggled with this for all my life. It has really caused me such anguish.

[@BeTheChangeUWantToSe]

I love the clarity in your explanations. Perfect. Thank you.

[@visam28]

This message was for me 100% thank you Lee.

[@TwisterChrisable]

I so needed to hear this. Thank you!!!!

[@AnnaMmusic]

I am learning to do this with my cats too. So demanding! In fact I've spent last year just doing me as spent most my life trying to make everyone else happy. Had to find me again after loss of parents. Thank u Lee. 💙

[@DJ-ll4mq]

Yup.... Lots of burnout over here.... Thank you

[@pascalevenus87]

hollala lee ton message est dans mon instant présent!! que la lumière continue de te guidé!! un tout lumineux merci! pleins d amour et de lumière!!

[@janacinku9699]

Thank you, sweet soul and much love from sLOVEnija

[@serenlove3270]

So very true. I use to people please all th time but now I am only looking at the subtle people pleasing I may do. One thing for sure is that I'm feeling the trigger before I even know what the problem is. Amazing really how I have started to feel energy from other people's to locations and even whole towns or cities. Love your insights Lee Thank you x

[@LimpiooTecSAS]

Thank you Lee, you r so right....., So often I m asking me why I m loosing my Energy amd now I have the possible anwer. We the healers need to rescue other people and we r forgetting ourself... thanks and love

[@Honey-qp6ti]

Interesting, I have the same theme at the moment. Thank you. 💚

[@bkswanson2461]

Yes, Very empathic!!! Difficult to know where that "fine line" is!! Thank YOU Lee, have been sooo exhausted more this yr than ever!!! Much Lovexxxx

[@queentourmaline9366]

What a timely message, but of course it is since you are so in tune. Thank you. ✨💖

[@dakotamatthes1568]

Thank you, Lee!! I struggle with people-pleasing a lot, and your video gives me good insight to listen to my inner self and do what I am needing.

[@LisaGray_heartinnergetics]

✨💗✨this is definitely a message I was guided to hear today. Thank you so much for sharing this message, Lee.

[@joanleenakayama7939]

Omg!! It just happened to me on the 5th !! Thank u for this ! 🥰🙏🙏

[@sarandipitycoo]

I really needed this reminder. Thank you Lee!

[@orscha6126]

This is one of the best and straightforward video on the topic, thank you

[@allanahmills6527]

Wow! you are so right, this has been coming up for me. Really needed to hear this right now. Thank you! 🙏❤️ ✨

[@debbieterruso5233]

Thank you for sharing this important message. I have seem and felt this for the past several months and am working on this everyday. It is so womderful that you take the time to share you gifts with us all. What a blessing you are. Happy new Year. Love, Light and Peace Deb T.

[@emmadedic4483]

This is exactly what is showing up for me! Just came home feeling like I haven't done my job well ( pleasing others) and looking for answers your video popped up. It resonates perfectly, in my mind I saw a movie of me like a flash back of what i normally do.. and how I wish to change my conditioning. But how to fill the void, how to feel validated than? I think most of us who ppl.please seek validation by it and love. Its a new path,- but how to love one self, when realizing all this. Need major change, new expectations, values and beliefs.

[@sophia3371]

Thank you I needed to hear this today much love.❤

[@martinafairydust6179]

Thank you Lee just happening to me:) I just quit my job:)

[@kevinrudiger6739]

Super interesting. Thank you Lee !

[@bartyllal]

Thank you. I had an incredibly impactful, wake up call anxiety attack last night that happened because of this realization. The past 12 months have been filled with more revelations, healing and connections than ever before in my life. I am finding the lessons within the mirrors every day, but last night really whalloped me. I spent the entire morning wracking my brain over how to go forward, now knowing how much opportunity for growth surrounds my relationships. And here you are, you beautiful being of Light. Thank you, thank you, thank you. My Spirit Guide's lead me to your Energetic Transition videos all the time. You have been such a treasure and teacher in my life. I pray for you and your partner all the time (especially with these forest fires, which are showing us so much.) Sending so much love to you and your Spirit Team, if I could hug you all I would! Elizabeth Anne

[@indirasudan4059]

Perfect timing....needed the guidance...thank you 🙏🙏

[@scout3444]

Thanks Lee for this message! The timing is on point and I've been reflecting upon this very shift :)

[@A.Dajlida]

That's splendid. Thank you very much.

[@beckyoliver3398]

Thank you. Very on point and resonating with me. 🙏🏻❤️✨

[@lissoerensen1752]

Thank You so much 🙏🙌🦋💜

[@Mersades1977]

Yes. The subtleties. They are so revealing.

[@thecoolestgingerkid]

Thank you, Lee. Did people pleasing this morning and will continue addressing and ending this pattern. ❤️

[@shiftyourlife1111]

Oh my God This is so accurate for me !!!🙏💜😊🌟

[@reignofaragon6890]

Thankyou!! I soooooo needed this at the moment

[@jessicamaitri8805]

I am so incredibly grateful for you and for this message!!

[@niennasaralonde4061]

Perfect Timing, Thank you 🌞

[@roroi9027]

just love u lee such a gentle and kind person thanks

[@elizabethcollins1307]

Oh my gosh Lee!!! I swear you're in my head!!!!! I have spent my entire life doing this! AND I AM exhausted!!! THANK YOU! It's like you just gave me permission! I seem to have never had the tools to understand what I've been doing except for the occasional person telling me I had to take care of myself before I can take care of others or you can't give out love unless you replenish it in yourself. I may sound stupid but I just don't know how, of course especially when I see others in need. I was just turned on to your energy updates this year and I am so grateful! I just read a comment by Tareq and many others. I will be focusing more on how to do the things mentioned and to put your advice in to practice in a better way. It's just so hard when I see people are in need and there is no one else around to help them....especially when working with the public!!!

[@7msjster]

Thank you Lee! this was so good and confirming.

[@louisedebling2777]

Thank you, These are questions I have been asking myself on why some people that I had been trying to help and how i just had no time for it any more, it made me question am I had for feeling this way but now I understand and know what and why I was feeling this way

[@charlotteblom1743]

This is really good. I mean, I "know" this, but I am still learning it... Thanks for the succinctly excellent reminder/reinforcement. -CB

[@lisanorman2329]

yes!!!!!! ya hooooo.....brilliant!!! thank you.....depletion over....rising!!!!! love to you xxxxx

[@frederikaz5085]

Thank youuuuu thats exactly how I feel !

[@sandradale5409]

I so needed to hear this Thankyou xxx

[@sallyjeffries5377]

Thanks Lee. I didn't realise I was a people pleaser until I listened to this. Absolutely makes sense why you shouldn't be, but not sure how easy that will be to put into practise. I'm going to give it a go though! Hope you, your partner and the mogs are able to get back home soon?

[@leeharris5682]

Su Jay we are home and safe Thankyou! Big love ❤️

[@colleennicholl1044]

So greatful, thank you.

[@adorasau]

Excellent! Thank you so much💗

[@ascensionmojo5910]

Perfect thank you for this. 🙏🏼

[@twinflameloveletters8081]

4:42 the truck horn mirrors your air quotes lol 😂

[@2ndchancehypnotherapy]

Didn't hear any truck horns.

[@sophia3371]

So true that is what I have been doing for a long time.❤🙏❤

[@anjuarhat1723]

Thank you Lee🙏🙏

[@jeanahernandez7261]

Man that was good. 💗💗💗

[@magdalenef2360]

Trying to help a schizophrenic son has been traumatising and exhausting.He also manipulates me and he enjoys it.Will he get back on track? I seriously doubt it after three exhausting years,Bless you for this message.

[@dankelly2484]

Right on queue!

[@sunflower3694]

Absolutely on point🙏🏻💙🌟🌻

[@masterofjoyouslife6618]

Wow dear Lee, very apt message in an apt time most needed to me. Have no words for your great co-operation giving to me. Thanks and hugs.namaste.❤🙏😊👌

[@ginaderamo7110]

Another awesome video

[@7msjster]

hahaha, I am way ahead of you Lee! hahaha! I agree 100% I start dreading events, cause I am empathic I read pattern so I hear it in their voice, most just whine. Lot's of whining.

[@ronboar]

thank you...

[@summerlamkintruthseeker7683]

Many thanks ❤🌠💕🌠💜

[@KendraStrand]

I love your videos! Thank you

[@alessandracampelli6090]

Oh yes, this is definitely coming up right now. The nooooooos are spoken out naturally, it seems I have no control over them. And I get angry, easily. I'm worried to hurt people, then I see how it is much more about me than them, how the subtle need to please others comes from fear of their reaction. Brrrrrr, who is this person I'm inhabiting the body? :-\

[@TheJanet4321]

Yes, 100%.

[@A.Dajlida]

Thanx!