The Evil Sorority Email & What It Says About "Sisterhood"

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Uncover the infamous sorority email that sparked controversy and what it reveals about "sisterhood" in college Greek life. Explore the impact of the evil email that's now going viral on TikTok and the Delta Gamma saga with Rebecca Martinson in this video.

[@revelreads]

there is a huge difference between sororities at large colleges (esp southern ones) versus small colleges. i was president of my sorority at a college with less than 5k students, and it was genuinely a wonderful experience that lives up to all of the promises sororities usually make. but BOY did the girls from larger chapters have stories

[@bubblezzxxd15]

Small colleges are where it's at. I've had more than one professor vouch for me because we were able to form personal relationships

[@Roo-kw7hy]

Mine was at a large public university at it was nothing like this either. It was a great way to meet people in a smaller setting when you have a class of 5,000 lol

[@chillarypuff]

I went to a smaller school and the hazing was CRAZY

[@kcchristens2]

Came here to say similar, I went to a massive public university in the northern Midwest. The support I got and the friendships I made are what’s gotten me through not just college, but life after. We had GPA and charity requirements that helped me stay on track. I didn’t experience negative things like this, but heard about this type of stuff from southern and some coastal universities.

[@MysticOceanDollies]

I went to fsu and the Greek life kids scared me there. All the sorority girls looked like clones, and every year there was a frat that would have issues spiking girls’ drinks.

[@nicolebelcher6769]

Greek life is wildly different depending on which school you went to. There's a reason its Bama Rush specifically that went viral. My sister was in a sorority at a private tech school, and it was an incredibly chill experience to what you see from the big state schools. Mostly because they only had a handful of sorotities and fraternities, and also because the type of people who go to private tech schools are not the same type of people who do Bama Rush.

[@Mostie-ev7oh]

I think also it depends on just if there’s actual Greek Life houses too. Because my sister’s university has Greek life but there’s only one old house and it’s owned by a frat.

[@TheMimic12]

There were rumors on UA campus that sorority pledges would get pulled out of bed in the middle of the night, forced to sit on top of a washing machine in their underwear, and have anything that "jiggles" circled with a sharpie and ordered to get rid of it (which Tyler highlighted for a sec but dang).

[@Sam_dea]

I absolutely loved scream queens and I had NO IDEA the email was a real thing I am blown away. It’s kind of a work of art.

[@victoriavasquez4911]

it's so funny because Ryan Murphy also used this speech in a scene in Glee 🤣he must've really been inspired by this email lmao

[@courtneycoleman6849]

Stooop I love this story I went to Highschool with Rebecca 😂😂 Ok further into the video, she wasn’t a drama kid but she was in band!! She wasn’t a really popular girl in hs she was somewhat quiet and kept to her small group of friends who were mostly in band. This was honestly such a shock to everyone that grew up with her but for girl has a way with words 🤭🤭

[@maggg8450]

That is nuts. I know you said everyone is shocked, but would you have any insight into what the catalyst for the major 360 in attitude was?

[@thespraybottle7619]

What instrument did she play?

[@Kenz150]

^this is the most band kid question and I am here for it

[@janewaysmom]

That's hilarious! As a Rebecca, I aspire to get to her level of cursing. I'm so surprised to hear she wasn't some kind of Regina George type in high school.

[@courtneycoleman6849]

@@thespraybottle7619 we both played clarinet

[@histskins]

kind of validating to hear you acknowledge that eating disorders never fully go away. I've been in that boat for like, almost 15 years now and I can confirm they truly never fuck off. BUT i think knowing this makes it easier to live with over time. it makes you feel like less of a failure every time you have an ED Moment (tm) and that alone can really help you get over that bump. and one day i promise it will be less like jumping over a high hurdle and more like stepping over a wee pebble so you don't trip

[@RaspBerryPies]

I think it’s like another other mental illness (since that’s what EDs are even though people frame it like they’re not) you will have it for life, but you just learn to manage your symptoms. That’s not to make it seem hopeless but be realistic that struggles can happen and you can relapse just get back on the horse once you fall off and you’ll be fine. The worst thing to do though is give up.

[@ESB7241]

As somebody in a sorority from 2010 to 2013, this was an iconic throwback. Thanks Gen Z!!

[@Useernaamee]

That woman writing that email was so UNWELL it's actually funny and sad and then funny again

[@confusedlizard]

Was very briefly in a sorority and was curious why so many former members were no-contact. Then I went no-contact with those loony tunes and it all made sense from the outside 💀 The culty rules, weird traditions, and us vs them mentality was so much

[@_Liv_]

I don’t have any personal experience with sororities however I do have a friend that was in one and it left her with body issues and a drinking problem that she’s trying to fight to this day. Not all sororities are like the ones that make headlines but there is a pattern that I feel is too loud to ignore

[@Moldydog]

Plugging the Most Popular Girls In School video where they read the sorority girl letter but honestly Tylers rendition made me snort iced coffee out of my nose

[@SabrlIna]

Love mpgis 🙌💗💗

[@yona4121]

Omg i was just thinking about MPGIS when she was reading it out 😭

[@Merelvanpoucke]

I didn't know an email could be THAT intense 😅

[@gabby4542]

The dramatic reading of the letter by Michael Shannon is one of the best things I’ve seen on the internet. If you haven’t watched it, I can’t recommend it enough.

[@arbyswitch5580]

Alright, I know what I'm watching AS SOON AS this video finishes

[@Butterflier00]

he should have gotten a tony or an oscar for that...idc

[@idoitforchina]

As someone who was in a sorority in the Midwest back in the day (09-12) this took me back so bad 😂🤣 the way girls were throwing each other in the wood chipper over wearing yoga pants to class (a cardinal sin) or even worse, with sorority gear, was truly something else.

[@stormstrife6211]

i was in a sorority in the midwest but it was the late nineties, and I got in trouble for wearing the same sweatshirt twice to my 8 am class! Like girl how are you remembering my wardrobe when I can't!! Some things never change haha!

[@sarbearr4]

“That how swear words are meant to be used” 😂it really is

[@madi-l1n]

Praying for you and everyone you know Tyler! My sister lives in LA and is currently at my house because of the fires so please stay safe! I just realized there's a glee quote in there. Season 4, Brie, the mean cheerleader tells Kitty "You have 51 weeks out of the year to love your sisters from Glee Club, and this week is not - I repeat, NOT - one of them. This week is about winning Prom Queen for Cheerios, and that's not gonna happen if you're off campaigning for Kimchi Cohen-Barf or whoever." Also in that same monologue "Are you an idiot Kitty? That's not a rhetorical question. I literally want you to tell me if you're mentally slow so I can be sure you're not nominated for future prom courts." They literally copied this whole monolouge

[@mabsie2249]

Giving an entire month’s profit from merch to charity is awesome work. More big content creators ought to be like you (Edit: oooo I remember seeing this on tumblr! I’m not American and I was on fandom tumblr so it wasn’t like, a huge thing in my circle but it popped up. Girlie had huge reach)

[@allys744]

I’ve never been a member of a sorority and this is probably one of the reasons why. Nothing says sisterhood in a sorority like making them adhere to ridiculous, shallow rules to fit their standards. Talk about the Chanel’s in Scream Queens

[@myneckhurts_tt]

help why does this email read like a 10 year old who just discovered 5 swear words

[@lazyperfectionist3978]

it's like the evil spirit of a 13 year old x-box user in a CoD lobby possessed her as she was typing this

[@lynneelizabeth]

Stay safe, girl! I got myself a "never be cool" sweatshirt and I'm psyched for it to arrive.

[@wetpaint86]

As a Navy veteran she is channeling military banter to filth 🤣🤣 someone in her family had to be a vet lol.

[@UGAIMES]

I was (I guess still am- alumni) a Delta Gamma at a very large southern school and my experience was completely different. Sororities can vary wildly by chapter. College me (even all the way back in 1999) wouldn't put up with that crap. The ableist slur is especially disgusting.

[@sweb23879]

I’d highly recommend Snapped: The Podcast. It’s a pretty deep dive into sorority culture, both the host’s own experiences and others and some of the history of greek life and the scandals/tragedies that have happened over the years. It deals with SA and hazing/wrongful death so just a heads up

[@melissam.6652]

Checking this out! Thanks for the rec

[@1020mikki]

at my college the only sorority i liked hanging out with was the honors sorority (i forget what it was called). i felt like they were the only ones who had their own personal styles and actually interacted with us girlies who weren’t in a sorority. they were also all genuinely kind and cared a lot about the service events they did!

[@haygrl6272]

As someone who went to a smaller D1 school, my sorority overall was less restrictive with appearances, so we were still allowed to dress and look like ourselves. However, one year during recruitment, our Recruitment chair sent my friend home to fix her hair because she wore it naturally curly. Mind you, my friend still used styling product to make sure it wasn't frizzy and it actually looked really good. What really sucked was the same recruitment chair allowed a girl who literally looked like she just rolled out of bed but had wavy hair stay. Honestly, how strict our appearances were was fully based on who was in charge each year.

[@miss.emaline]

This stuff is crazy to me bc I’m in a sorority at a big Greek life school, but my sorority is genuinely super chill and inclusive so hearing some of the horror stories is crazy is to me

[@iknitwhenican]

I was a foreign exchange student at a state uni about 10 years ago. I was like 20 and it was my third year at a university. During the first week there was a fair and all the sororities and fraternities were advertising themselves. They were encouraging us to rush and it sounded very nice: community, sisterhood, activities, connections... but as I was in my third year, I knew I didn't need to join a sorority to meet people. I was living in a dorm so of course there's people there. Do some sports, meet people. Go to a party, meet people. When you're living on campus, it's really not that hard. And when I heard how much it costs.... uffff no thanks

[@rhilavender]

i definitely reccomend the podcast “SNAPPED”. it’s all about sororities from a girl who had a horrible experience and she goes deep into how these issues aren’t an unfortunate symptom but are fully baked into what a sorority was created to be. super interesting!! also, your eyebrows look amazing today so you have found your way lol. your makeup is gorgeous 🩷

[@dilly_wildflower]

you are like the older sister i never had. you give advice, encouragement, stories, and you have such big sister vibes

[@drowsypoppy]

There's definitely a real Serena Joy energy coming out of the sorority system. But I rushed a fraternity that was coed and made lifelong friendships (including my husband) so I know good things can come out of the Greek system. It seems like a lot of groups have some harmful base assumptions that we do not need, but if you find a good group it's awesome.

[@haegennelson6431]

Eye makeup is slaying Tyler! Glad you’re safe ❤

[@kaykat111]

lots was lost in the memory but i can surely 100% guarantee sorority rush songs will live in my brain 🎶until the D A Y I DIE🎶 truly a traumatizing experience that makes me giggle how ridiculous they are

[@runningwithchickens]

I cant even lie that email is a work of art

[@izznt]

This was such a fucking gift and you read it so well, you did it justice 👏👏👏👏👏 I'm so happy

[@Em-sb4cz]

All of the fraternity appeasement/coupling up with the fraternity bits in that email as well as the general cultural push to have sex being talked about here threw me for a loop because like at my old university, I distinctly remember a girl slutshame women for NOT being in greek life. Like. Literally called us promiscuous because we didn't want to spend an extra 10k every year on forced social gatherings.

[@Forceprincess]

It really makes me happy that you guys have rediscovered that one. It lives rent free in my head all these years later.

[@emmasawyer3571]

Rebecca's giving Makenzie Zales: Head Cheerleader, Homecoming Queen, Part Time Model and I both love and hate it lmao

[@justin1858]

the "it never leaves!" got me lmfao. AHHHHHHHHH

[@_Liv_]

Such a fun video! Also, we need a story time with your makeup routine because you’re always glowing and I need the list of what to get

[@toericabaker]

thank you for digging up that artefact from the 2010s.... ahhhh "cnt pnt" i remember that being popular... i even used it 😍😂

[@jonflora1]

The dramatic reading of said email by Michael Shannon is a horror film classic.

[@FishareFriendsNotFood972]

No joke, she should be a scriptwriter, that was like a thrilling novel.

[@jeremydoeshair]

My god to be a sister in that chapter and get that email? I would have been LIVING

[@georgiasf]

I joined a sorority around the time that email was sent 😂. It's a service sorority, so we were more focused on volunteering than socializing with other fraternities or sororities. I never felt pressured to look a certain way. "Don't mix alcohol and letters" was probably our biggest rule, so our "brand" wouldn't be the stereotypical drunk sorority girl. Overall I had a good experience and I'm still involved as an alumni. 😃

[@arbyswitch5580]

13:44 I really appreciate your humor in this moment and I also really appreciate your candor in speaking about something so personal but also common. Sometimes it can feel like ED recovery never ends. Love and solidarity to you 💕

[@RadiantSaff]

My experience with frat life is so weird and underwhelming in comparison to this particular version! I was actually a girl in a co-ed fraternity. I joined because I had transferred to a new school and wanted to make more friends. It did help me get more social but it also felt like being assigned extra homework on top of everything else. Probably the biggest difference is that we didn't all live in one house, we had meetings and parties. I was also told that my year wasnt treated as strictly as the previous so idk what I missed. I don't really keep in touch with anyone I met there

[@fungalcoffee]

I know I'm a cis man and all and this video has given me 90% of what I know about frat/sororities, but oh my god that fist email was fighting words, how that didn't end with the girl who sent it getting dentures I don't know.

[@allieconzola]

So true that ED’s never go away. I also got an ED when I was 12 and I’m still having flare ups 20 years later 😣

[@des1993]

Omg I randomly think about this story all the time. I was in a sorority at the time the letter went viral. It was a time 😂

[@Jennifer-my5dm]

Why am I not surprised the chick who wrote this unhinged email is now a copywriter. I've worked at various writing careers including copywriting, and there are so many mean girls in those fields.

[@109digitsofpi]

Both of my college roommates joined the same sorority at different times. The first one got bullied so badly she transferred and the second get her boyfriend stolen 🙃 Both seemed really confused about why I wouldn’t rush with them and I didn’t know how to tell them it’s because I can’t afford it

[@YouEverSeeAFrogKid]

Love you Tyler ❤❤ thanks for cranking out the vids keeping me entertained in these trying times. You’re a real one boo boo ☺️🤙🏼😘

[@mkh103]

The DG email came out my senior year of college and my friends and I were literally SCREAMING while we read this 😂 I even had to block someone from Sigma Nu because I posted something on Facebook about how ridiculous Greek life at UMD was…and he took personal offense to it lmao

[@zenaida9432]

omg was rebecca the actual president? bc i’ve heard she was just a sister

[@mkh103]

@ As far as I know she was just a sister…which made the email seem even more ridiculous lol Like…ma’am calm down 😂

[@sarahliedtkepacker]

I was in a sorority for three semesters and our chapter president got caught buying drinks for her underage littles and she resigned from her position by sending the whole chapter a long ass email that ended with "good luck, you're gonna need it." and then i got in trouble for commenting on another girl's post who used that as a caption because it was not "sisterly behavior"

[@nafeesanaz]

I honestly feel like you gave sorority life way way too much grace. It's not just "a little misogynistic" it's extremely misogynistic. It's beyond disgusting that they pick apart the appearances of freshman girls, sexually pressure them to engage with the fraternities, create a toxic "friend culture" etc. And that email seems funny but it's actually so dangerous. I've heard countless stories about girls who were were being harassed at a frat party and turned to one of their older sorority sisters to help them out only to have that sister get angry at them and tell them they need to just do what the guy wants so it doesn't make the sorority look boring. The thing is sororities like to maintain a certain reputation. Some focus on being good looking, some focus on being posh, and many want to have the "Fun sorority" reputation. And by fun they mean girls who like to do certain drugs and are more likely to hook up. So when girls in the sorority do something that contradicts that reputation (Such as saying no to a hook up or gaining some weight), they're scrutinized by their sorority sisters. I truly do not believe Greek life should be a thing. I think conceptually it can sound cool and fun but realistically it just grooms girls to build their self worth on male validation and popularity. Not to mention it completely strips you of your individuality. They all look the same and they all try to act a certain way to keep their reputation I think we need to acknowledge that just because something is fun for some people doesn't mean it should continue to be a thing.

[@briannacorrigan1256]

Omg I had zero idea that the episode from scream queens where she writes that crazy email was based on true events lol

[@loremjay]

I’m glad you are safe! ❤

[@quatchsass]

Yay! Another video ❤ thanks again kiddo. Hope you're having a good day!

[@MeeYeeWeeWee]

This email feels like it came from Big Red from Bring It On

[@stormstrife6211]

I'm a Gen X'r who went to college in the late 90's, but I joined a sorority basically to meet people since I went to an out-of-state, fairly large college and didn't know anyone there. I quit after two years (most people do, tbh) but I remember it being mostly just boring and too expensive, with silly rules that I eventually grew tired of. However, I do remember Greek Week had a competition element that including earning points for the Blood Drive. And one sorority got in trouble and went "viral" (or what counted for viral in 1998, lmao) for an email where the President told the members to just "lie and give blood, I don't care if you shouldn't, we need the points." I can't say my experiences were negative beyond being mostly bored and it was too much $$$ --and I can't imagine how expensive it is NOW if it was pricey almost 30 years ago! It seemed like an outdated social organization back then, too, honestly. Loved the vid, as usual! Your channel was my fave find of 2024 :D

[@Kirsten_is_cursed10]

I was in the most “party-oriented” sorority at the most “sorority-oriented” colleges in CA. Let’s just say it was…interesting. 😅

[@Kirsten_is_cursed10]

That letter made me laugh…it was SO accurate.

[@demureworm]

i’m eternally grateful that i went to a uni without any greek life. toxic af

[@janeswart7503]

Love your content!❤

[@livelollobotomy]

6:51 why would i watch the new season when i could patiently wait for you to do a recap 🥰

[@tylerbenderr]

Working on it today don’t you worry

[@livelollobotomy]

@ YASSSSS GIVING THE PEOPLE WHAT THEY WANT

[@bubblezzxxd15]

It's giving Regina George 😂😂

[@taishea]

This email! 😮😂💀 I literally rewound this so I could grab a snack!

[@jeanie7555]

Is it bad that I want these women to tell me what to do so I can get my shit together? Something tells me a sorority would get me into the gym 😂

[@jillianhernandez]

did nobody watch scream queens/exist on tumblr at the time? this email made the ROUNDSSS in pop culture and on social media

[@highbrbieee]

so chanel IS a real person 😂😂 i know this was probably traumatic for the girlies but that email was so funny

[@alexisstockwell673]

I was in a sorority at a large SEC university. Because I was in one of the "bottom tier" sororities my experience wasn't as severe, but the restrictiveness and fear/competition mindset was all still there. I made some of my best friends out of it, but since we graduated we all just make fun of it

[@mountainrose12]

OKay I'll rewatch ABC Family's Original Hit Show Greek (2007)

[@justemmalyn7934]

I'm an autistic girl. Sororities are both fascinating and my worst nightmare lmao

[@kynm1480]

I was in a sorority at a medium sized school. Only 5 sororities and the school population was 20k. I feel like i got a healthy dose of the toxicity of a big school and the sisterhood of a small school. I made some life long friends, but i still felt like i was involved w highschool drama. Popularity still mattered when it shouldn’t have. The sorority status still mattered when it shouldn’t have. What frats thought of us still mattered when it shouldn’t have. It felt like a full time job on top of school and you had to pay to be there. I’m still coming to terms w how i feel about sororities, but i can confidentially say i would not have rushed if i went to an SEC school. No way.

[@fabdragon2071]

Well i think the idea that it started off for rich people to party with other rich people when Universities gained more access... means it is corrupt to it's roots. That being said I loved my fraternity and pledge bros.... Did not love the fees....

[@deptofcarstereorepair]

This reminds me of how much I like the movie "Everybody Wants Some." Does a great job of subverting the tropes we'd typically expect from a movie about a Texas baseball frat in the early '80s.

[@shinyy5184]

The letter was sooooo scream queens it's crazy! Also the downgrade from season 1 to 2 in that show needs to be studied 😭

[@phoenixyfriend]

"this email inspired Scream Queens" jfc I CAN TELL HOLY SMOKES

[@violetis2cool4u]

NEW TYLER VIDEO OMG

[@sirplancelot4085]

We NEED a season 5 recap of the rhoslc ASAP (once the season has fully aired)

[@tylerbenderr]

Done ☑️

[@MegaSuperBingo]

Everyone outside the US: “what the hell is this??”

[@Allieisskibidi]

that feeling when you have your airpods on and listening to Lana del ray and then get a notification from your Australian siri that Tyler Benderr just uploaded a full length video🩷

[@amylou22snowhite]

I couldn’t afford it in college. So I didn’t rush. I got two bids. I had to explain that if I couldn’t afford RUSH, I couldn’t afford to play friends.

[@antytrend]

I think the pressure on teh bros to be cool at the "match up" is probably just as real.

[@TehMomo_]

michael shannon ate with this...

[@katlynblom9018]

Omg I loved that show ❤

[@annjay2581]

I am BEGGING you to watch the video of Michael Shannon reading this letter, its glorious. I come back to watch it at least once a year. I think its the reason people still remember that letter 😂

[@nourabed1116]

In my experience (going to uni in a conservative part of Fl) most ppl who join sororities are conservative and come from families who were generationally conservative. I think most girls who are in a sorority agree with/understand the darker aspects of the sorority and accept it. They definitely interact with other students who aren't in a sorority and see the difference in lifestyle, but still chose to be in a sorority. I don't think girls who are in a sorority disagree with the misogynistic practices of sororities, they could easily leave but may just face social consequences I guess.

[@elfsongtavern]

OMG NEW POETRY QUEEN POST

[@NiinaSKlove]

Aaah! "Siterhood!" 🥰🥰🥰

[@Simpli_sleepi]

Love the thumbnail kinda unrelated but still love that show scream queens has to be one of my favorite shows ever I have binged that so much

[@LMCPG25]

Please everyone, look up Michael Shannon Reads the Insane Delta Gamma Sorority Letter, it’s the best!

[@justingerald]

When I saw this title I assumed there had been a more recent one, but no, it's just the same one and I'm old

[@TheTimelyTaste]

Tyler Bender is the hardest working Boss Babe in the YT sphere rn

[@jannadee77]

That email was a work of ART. 😂 Your rendition of it was *chef's kiss

[@annamendoza3479]

Man, I can definitely hear Chanel Oberlin saying these things 😂

[@averillerdody3421]

Not the Meredith Marks reference 💀

[@tacrewgirl]

This is ridiculous. Thanks for the laughter Tyler!

[@manskame]

your theatre kid skills really came out w this Staged Reading

[@parisolivarious]

Oh my god I remember when this came out. It’s just as good 12 years later.

[@Caitlin-e1s]

it reminds me of that one scene in Glee where the cheerleaders gang up on Kitty re prom queen

[@f1nnick.f1lms]

so fucking excited to watch this video 💞💞💞