The Fascinating Personality Traits of German Women🇩🇪 Admiration from a New Zealander

[@BeWeRo]

For me as a 66-year-old German, it was interesting to hear how positive you perceive German women. Thanks for the video, take care!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm glad you enjoyed the video and found it interesting. It's always great to hear different perspectives, especially from someone with your background. Take care, and I hope to share more content that resonates with you!

[@Vohalika]

I'm not sure I'd call us confident. It's just expensive and inconvenient to give a fuck about certain beauty standards.

[@ropeburn6684]

I'd call that pragmatic. And that again is trait I like in women, or anyone for that matter.

[@raraavis7782]

Yeah. I would love to look more polished. It's just not doable, if you live in a city like Cologne and get around by bicycle or public transport/on foot. Try wearing heels here and see what happens (damn cobblestones). Make up and a fancy hairdo is inconvenient with no air conditioning when it's hot. And when it's not hot, it's probably raining and windy. I leave the house, I look disheveled after half an hour anyway, so why make an effort in the first place. And likewise clothing needs to be practical, unfortunately. It doesn't make me feel good about myself, though. I feel much more confident, when I put some effort into my outfit and put on some makeup and do my hair. I also think people here look really boring and unstylish in general 😆

[@ArmandoBellagio]

LOL

[@2Ten1Ryu]

Well, it seems some women are insecure enough to go through that hassle regardless. So not giving a fuck could indicate some confisence, too. For me it's a bit of both. I like to look presentable and have my own standards, although I could do more if I wanted to. Then I see young girls on the bus, having their lips done... I see it in the face of the cashier in the supermarket, I even see it in the doctor's office and I think to myself: thank god I have a natural face! I might not be trendy but at least I'm being me.

[@juleungewitter7513]

I think that's a northern European thing. Women in Scandinavia are also 'self-confident', hardly wear make-up, etc. The more egalitarian a society is, the more 'equal' the genders are. Apart from that, it is seen as rather vulgar to dress up too much or even to undergo visible cosmetic surgery. It tends to be seen as a tic of lower social classes. As a plastic surgeon once told me: 'German women all want to be beautiful, but they don't want you to see if they've had plastic surgery.' Unlike in South America, for example, it is NOT a status symbol here to have cosmetic surgery. And as for travelling alone: (Northern) Europe is a relatively safe place to live. I've never been afraid of travelling alone here.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your insights! It's fascinating to hear how cultural attitudes towards beauty and self-confidence differ across regions. Your point about the egalitarian nature of Scandinavian societies really highlights how these values shape perceptions of makeup and cosmetic surgery. It’s also great to know that Northern Europe is a safe place for solo travelers-definitely an encouraging thought for those considering their next adventure!

[@andreasrademacher5715]

" The more egalitarian a society is, the more 'equal' the genders are." In scandinavia, the countries that have put in the most effort, to make sexes the same, people CHOOSE to do specific things, that are traditionally regarded as typically male or female, at least in professions. Theses studies exist. Women i.e. CHOOSE being a nurse after their own will and men DON'T. I believe, natural looking (being themselves) women, that don't want to be paid or married because of their looks, but rather want to do, what women do, embrace female qualities, are much more feminine and less likely painting themselves like clowns.

[@Why-D]

I know a woman from New Zealand who is confident enough to make KZbin videos!

[@lorisutherland7728]

I’m glad you talked about this. It’s important for women in other countries who are scared of being who they are.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for your kind words. I'm really glad you found this topic important too. It's crucial to support and uplift women everywhere, especially those facing challenges in expressing their true selves.

[@Mamaki1987]

There is nothing wrong with playing with makeup and dye your hair whatever colour you want. Or modify your body if you want to and then feel better about it. It only becomes a problem, when you are expected to do all those things in order to fit in or whatever. Yes, grey hair looks amazing on some people and I like that as well. Especially when you are cool toned. If your mom rocks the grey hair, it is very well possible that it will be the same for you when you are eventually getting to that point.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Absolutely! It's all about expressing yourself and feeling confident in your own skin. 🎨✨ You're so right-it's wonderful to play with makeup, hair color, and body modifications as a form of self-expression. The key is to do it for yourself, not just to fit in. And yes, grey hair can look stunning on the right person! It sounds like you have a great appreciation for individuality and style. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@andreasrademacher5715]

I disagree. It's completely wrong. The psychological state behind something like plastic surgery is frightening. How messed up you have to be in your head to harm and wound yourself willingly?

[@nadbri]

Thanks for your praise of German women. For a lot of the traits you described, I would not have considered them as confident, because it is just normal for us. I have no idea about New Zealand, but when we went to the US, I did not see a lot of women with a more natural look there (I realized that just now). And, when it comes to travelling solo: You don't have to be in your twenties, neither do you have to be on your own, to travel solo. I have 2 kids and a husband (and and house and chickens and cats), but a few years ago, I did travel solo. Not for months, but I did a bike trip solo from Berlin to Kopenhagen. That was amazing! Really try it, even if it is only a few days. I then met my family in Kopenhagen and we had a few additional days there together.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts! It's great to hear about your experiences and how you view confidence as a normal trait. Your solo bike trip from Berlin to Copenhagen sounds incredible-what an adventure! It’s inspiring to see that traveling solo can be done at any stage in life, even with a busy family. I appreciate your insights and hope more people consider taking those short trips to explore on their own. Happy travels!

[@Moonfeather476]

You really nailed it when you spoke of the balance between being a mum and working. There are so many opinions from outsiders judging you like "why is she still at home, her child is 2 years old already?" or "She is already working again? Poor 1-year old." But not everyone knows about the family's circumstances, what the mum's needs or values are, how they live etc... So thanks for saying this!

[@autorin2291]

Just a little addition: Stay at home mums are more a thing in Western Germany. In the Eastern parts (former GDR) most women use the Elternzeit, but usually return to their work after a year.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing that insight! It's interesting to see the differences in parenting trends between Western and Eastern Germany. Your point about stay-at-home mums being more common in the West while many women in the East return to work after Elternzeit is really valuable. I appreciate your contribution to this discussion!

[@wollfaden1979]

​@@AntoinetteEmilythe socialist GDR was more feministic than West Germany. The East German women worked AND took care of housework and children. They had the double work. It is still normal in the younger generations. But it seems to change in the very young generation. I hope the young women will know their worth and expect 50% housework from men.

[@sandraankenbrand]

​@wollfaden1979 western German here - even my father in law was committed 50:50 in housework and he was born 1945

[@isabelhuppmann4871]

I think in Western Germany it depends a lot on the profession. I am a pediatrician and me and my colleagues all have gone back to work after a year and many nurses that I know too.

[@afternoonsunjeans9180]

@@wollfaden1979 i have to disagree. its not feminism if individual choice (the right to not work) is oppressed. women were expected to work because people were expected to work because individualism was cultivated as something to get rid of. that has ultimately the same effect as work under capitalism; it is not feminist if the right to choose being a housewife is treated as lesser.

[@Kelsea-2002]

I will be soon 21 and live alone with my dog full-time in my camper van. For 2 years we have been traveling Europe, Scandinavia, and Iceland. Now my planning for 2026 has begun, because then I will drive the whole Pan Americana from Argentina to Alaska. I now know some solo traveling women who are also on the road with their vans. For us, it just feels natural.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 🌟 Wow, it sounds like you’ve had an incredible journey so far with your dog! Traveling Europe, Scandinavia, and Iceland must have been such a fantastic experience. Planning to drive the Pan Americana from Argentina to Alaska in 2026 is super exciting! It’s great to hear that you’ve connected with other solo traveling women too-there's something special about sharing those adventures. Wishing you all the best on your travels ahead! 🗺🐾

[@achimschroter8046]

Maybe there is a bond between having a loving mother around in ones first years to build that basic trust ( Urvertrauen ) that allows one to later travel the world with confidence

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Yes! It’s fascinating how those early years with a loving caregiver can lay such a strong foundation for trust. That bond really does seem to empower us to explore the world with confidence later on. Thanks for sharing this insightful thought!

[@annaschie]

I find it interesting to read how women from other countries perceive us Germans, I have never heard this specific topic in similar posts and would like more of it, please! Warm greetings from Germany👵👋

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hello! 😊 I'm so glad to hear that you find this topic interesting! It's always fascinating to explore different perspectives, and I appreciate your enthusiasm for more content like this. 👋✨

[@TheFiolito]

We are the country of the „Übergangsjacke“, that is hard to combine with eye lashes, Long Fake fingernails ect. 64 old and from germany. 😊

[@rosaschmitt2837]

As a German Woman myself i'm Happy that you have such a positve view on us🙂😀greetings from Baden-Württemberg, Germany 🇩🇪

[@Flo-vn9ty]

I think the natural look is not just a matter of confidence. I think it's also a matter of societal norms. Society here doesn't expect woman to wear makeup and you don't stand out if you don't. People are used to it. I think even many German men prefer woman with a natural look, at least I do. That doesn't necessarily mean no makeup, but just a subtel makeup that enhances your natural look.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

hank you for sharing your thoughts! You make a great point about how societal norms shape our perceptions of beauty. It’s interesting to hear that many prefer a natural look, and I completely agree that subtle makeup can beautifully enhance one’s features. Your perspective adds a lovely layer to the conversation about confidence and beauty standards!

[@dorisschneider-coutandin9965]

I stopped dyeing my hair 10 years ago when I was 53 (so, as you can do the math, I'm 63 now). It did so much damage to the hair, and is also considered doing other health related harm to your body. I'm not fully grey now, only partly, but most importantly my hair stylists keeps on telling me that my hair looks so good and is very healthy the natural way it now is. Happy about it.

[@barbsmart7373]

I am curious to know about any evidence or studies about the other harm it does to the body, and how widespread the knowledge is?

[@AnnetteLudke-je5ll]

I am 63,too. I turned grey with around 35 and never changed my natural haircolor.I .like the way I look.

[@dorisschneider-coutandin9965]

@@TabeaSerenety Ja.

[@dorisschneider-coutandin9965]

@@barbsmart7373 There's clear evidence that hair dye causes some allergies. Also, it might be the cause of problems with the liver (the essential part of the human de-toxification system). This, however, is just assumed, not yet scientifically 100 % proven. But still, I think it too toxic at the end of the day.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your journey! It’s wonderful to hear that you've embraced your natural hair and that it’s looking so healthy. Your experience is a great reminder of the benefits of going natural, both for our hair and overall well-being. Keep rocking that beautiful look! 😊

[@annereinig7876]

As a almost 43 year old with very visible grey or rather silver streaks I always say: I've earned my silver streaks the hard way. Life has given me grey by many hard times and I am proud to show it. I talked to my mother when her badly died hair with very visible grey coming out near the scalp and told her that this kind of thing fooled noone, it just looks like someone trying to hold in to a youth that was long gone. I encouraged her to show her natural haircolour and she did. It looks so much better. Embrace your age and the look that goes with it. Women in their 40/50/60 or even older desperately trying to look 20 ist just sad. They don't look young, they look fake, sad and desperate. Not a good look.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s wonderful to hear how proud you are of your silver streaks-what a beautiful way to embrace life’s journey! Your encouragement to your mother is truly inspiring; showing our natural selves can be so empowering. It’s important for everyone to feel confident in their own skin, regardless of age. Here’s to celebrating our authentic selves! 🌟

[@zwiderwurzn5908]

I also travelled to New Zealand alone when I was 22 😂 I hitchhiked most of the time I was there (on South Island it was a little bit tricky...), and I didn't have a single bad experience. The people were absolutely fantastic and I had many wonderful experiences. I met several women travelling alone along the way, and I think New Zealand is so attractive to women because it combines great nature with good infrastructure and great personal safety. I also travelled alone a lot before and after and never felt like I couldn't do it because I'm a woman. Maybe German girls read more adventure travel stories and are encouraged by them? When I was 16, I travelled alone for the first time (to the UK) and that experience boosted my confidence. And once you get started, you can't stop...

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 😊 It's awesome to hear about your solo adventures in New Zealand! Hitchhiking sounds like such an awesome way to explore, and it's great that you had such positive experiences with the locals. You're absolutely right-New Zealand really does offer a perfect blend of stunning nature and safety, making it an ideal destination for women travelers. It's inspiring to see how your early travels boosted your confidence and encouraged you to keep exploring! Adventure stories can definitely spark that wanderlust. Thanks for sharing your journey; it’s sure to motivate others too! Safe travels on all your future adventures! 🌍✈

[@annebraun581]

That was a beautiful video! Thank you so much!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for your kind words! I'm thrilled to hear you enjoyed the video. Your support means a lot! 😊

[@annebraun581]

@@AntoinetteEmily ☺️

[@TinaH302]

And regarding women in high positions: yes, it's getting better at middle management. But top management still only 28.7 % have been female due to Statistisches Bundesamt in 2023. Still a long way to go. And I'm not a fan of quotas, but the framework conditions have to be changed so parents in general or rather everybody will not be forced to decide who - father or mother - is going to sacrifice family life or work life balance and potentially mental health.

[@floodgates182]

Not a long way. One third is considered indication of equality. Everything else is statistical noise. Also, do you want to be CEO? Not me. Having to engage with all that back stabbing and politics...

[@TinaH302]

@@floodgates182 No, I don't want to be CEO. But If I wanted to, it should be easier to be one 😉

[@floodgates182]

@@TinaH302 So what do you want to do? Put a chip in the brains of competitive people so they're less competitive?

[@Meckermaxxe]

@@TinaH302 it's never easy to become a CEO. Not for man. Not for a woman. But it's always interesting how women demand better chances becoming a CEO. All this equality bs is about the upper 2% of jobs. So it's not about equality, it's just complaining on the highest possible level.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You're absolutely right-while progress in middle management is encouraging, there's still a significant gap at the top. It’s important to create an environment where everyone can thrive without having to make such tough choices between family and career. Your insights are valuable, and it’s great to see discussions like this happening.

[@anhe3409]

I live in France. And yes, you nailed it. I traveled at 28 alone around the world, I almost never were make up, don’t dye my hair and prefer 100% the natural look. 😅 I feel sometimes very different to French women here. Only the work point, I do it the French way, full time job with little kids. In a higher position and good negotiated pay.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience! It’s wonderful to hear that you embrace the natural look and have had such an adventurous journey traveling the world. 🌍 It's inspiring to see how you balance a full-time job with family while still staying true to yourself. You definitely bring a unique perspective to the mix! Keep shining! 😊

[@lisamirako1073]

Very interesting (and positive) observations!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@AnnetteLudke-je5ll]

When I had my one and only baby with nearly 40, I chose to celebrate my late motherhood by staying at home for the first 3 years,. I was always. Happy afterwards with my choice even uf we obky got some money for 6 months at that time!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your experience! It’s wonderful to hear how happy you are with your choice to celebrate late motherhood by staying home during those precious early years. Those moments are truly special, and it sounds like you made the best decision for you and your baby. Wishing you all the joy as you continue this journey! 🌟

[@AnnetteLudke-je5ll]

@@AntoinetteEmily Now our baby is 23 years old, doing her bachelor in design and we have a wonderful and trustful relationship. We never ever had that much troubles in education,but lots of fun in our camping holidays in Italy, France or Germany. I never regretted my decision.because more money does not mean more happiness! And now I don't work any longer and we still travel with a lot with our daughter, e.g. to London this year, to Rome three years ago,!

[@EsterHorbach-it9tb]

I am old and feel old. It seems there isn't a part of my body I can control anymore including my hair (natural color would be white, because I 'skipped' grey). My not so funny joke about myself is I can't get that old the way I look. So my choice is to dye my hair. Not blonde, because I don't have the skin color that compliments it, but a lighter color than my former natural hair, a lighter brown. Yeah, I have to admit I mourn my younger days. 50+ came with a lot of health problems. And don't tell me about the equality of men and women. A friend told me she gained weight after retirement and her husband called her out. I only know him being with not that much hair and severely overweight. His remark made her feel like a lesser person. Times haven't changed for us women. The 'love yourself the way you are ' is all nice and well, but not lived. Women are supposed to stay young, no matter how old their gremlin of husband is or looks. When they're not young anymore, they're exchanged for younger women. Men and women aren't physically equal and facing the same problems when aging. Even illnesses are manifesting differently. Often they aren't diagnosed properly because the symptoms are different. It's easier to diagnose a woman as anxious or depressed when she's over 40 instead of looking for the source of her medical problems.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts so openly. It sounds like you’re navigating some tough feelings about aging, and that’s completely understandable. Many people can relate to the struggle of wanting to feel youthful while dealing with the changes that come with age. It’s really frustrating when societal expectations weigh heavily on us, especially regarding appearance and health. Your friend’s experience highlights a reality many women face, and it’s important to acknowledge those challenges. Remember, it’s okay to mourn what was while also celebrating who you are now! If dyeing your hair brings you joy and confidence, go for it! Embracing change in our own way is a powerful step towards self-love. And you're right-men and women often experience aging differently, which can make things feel even more complicated. Take care of yourself, and know that your feelings are valid. Here’s to finding beauty in every stage of life! 💖

[@TinaH302]

You're right, many German women prefer the "natural look" and only wear subtle make-up or not at all. But the whole thing also has a dark side: makeup shaming. Anyone who likes to wear more eye-catching makeup is often called a slut, a bird of paradise, a whore, "painted" or even confronted with sayings like "Well, fell into the paint pot today?" Of course, often behind the person's back. I know it myself, I've heard it all. Just let people do what they feel comfortable with!

[@Goldzwiebel]

I agree with you. We should also not forget that heavy makeup was first worn by women who came here to find men. So it is associated with desperate women. We also have a big problem getting immigrant women, in whose culture makeup is a must, into the job market, because employers do not invest in women who look like they will quit as soon as they find a man again.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You bring up such an important point about the pressure and judgment surrounding makeup choices. It's true that everyone should feel free to express themselves in a way that makes them comfortable, whether that's with subtle looks or bold colors. Let's celebrate individuality and support each other instead of shaming! 🌟

[@AK-cm9or]

There is an satirical old german song where poeple talking bad about a woman wearing bright red lipstick. At the end one says "better a painted mouth than a malicious one" 😉. I hope I've translated it correctly, its a long time back, I learned English. I always said it doesn't count how you look, it count's how you act.

[@DwynTwo]

I kinda think that's sadly a thing everywhere and has more to do with the hypocricy of women "always doing everything wrong". Wear no make up? Ew! Wear too much make up? Ew! Fat? EW! Care about your figure and try to avoid certain foods: omg you're so shallow and obsessed with your body, I prefer a girl who can eat a whole pizza in less than ten seconds!

[@christinauhlmann2390]

Yes, many women stayed at home, when they had children. So I did ( I'm in my 50th now), but I think i'ts changing more and more. Younger women are now often forced to work earlier. One reason might be there careers, but it's also a fact, that they will have very low pensions, when they are older. Many women are poor in there later years, when they did. But of course: for children i'ts the best. On the whole, good observed, I agree. Best wishes from Upper Frankonia, Germany

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It’s great to hear your perspective, especially as someone who has experienced these changes firsthand. You're absolutely right-many younger women are navigating different challenges today, balancing careers and family life while being mindful of their future security. It's a complex issue, but it’s encouraging to see discussions around it. Wishing you all the best from wherever you are! Best wishes back to you in Upper Franconia! 🌼

[@PotsdamSenior]

What would be wrong with grey hair? Looks beautiful!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

I totally agree🙂

[@folkehoffmann1198]

I think New Zealand is pretty popular among backpackers because of it's nature. I haven't been there myself and I never considered being a backpacker but even I have heard that New Zealand has a beautiful nature.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! You're absolutely right-New Zealand's stunning landscapes and natural beauty make it a top destination for backpackers! Even if you haven't visited yet, it's great to hear that you've heard so much about it. If you ever decide to explore that adventure, you'll definitely be in for a treat! 🌿✨

[@jajajajaja357]

I am german, 55 yrs old and living in Italy for 26 yrs now. At my workplace EVERYBODY is wearing heavy makeup and EVERYBODY has now started to get small face interventions. I never wore makeup and I will never let someone make incisions or injections on my face I love my natural stye (while I do not love my sagging skin and greying hair and wrinkles) and I am coming to realize that this probably is really a GERMAN thing. I never thought about that. On a recent trip to Germany I noticed that people 40 and above wear so so so much less makeup than here in Italy.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hi there! 😊 It's great to hear from someone with such a unique perspective on beauty standards across cultures. It sounds like you really embrace your natural style, which is wonderful! It’s interesting how different places have their own trends and attitudes towards makeup and cosmetic procedures. Your observations about the differences between Germany and Italy are quite insightful! Embracing our natural selves can be so empowering, no matter what society trends may suggest. Keep shining in your authentic beauty! 🌟

[@dorotheaduwel587]

Hallo ! Danke für dein interessantes Video. Ich schminke mich nicht oft. Nur wenn ich zu einem Event gehe oder mir so ist. Kleidung und Schuhe, die von guter Qualität und chic sind, trage ich gern. Aber nie overdressed. Wichtig ist, dass man sich nicht verkleidet, sondern die eigene Persönlichkeit unterstreicht. Ich bin in der DDR geboren und habe, auch nach der Wende, immer gearbeitet. Meinen Beruf habe ich geliebt und meine Arbeitgeber ließen mir viel Freiheit darin. Beim Alleinreisen ist man ja eigentlich nie total allein. Man trift immer auf freudliche und hilfsbereite Menschen, wenn man selbst offen und zugewandt ist. Das sind meine persönlichen Erfahrungen. Neuseeland kenne ich nur aus dem TV. Es ist ein schönes Land, dass ich aber nun nicht mehr bereisen werde, Liebe Grüße ❤

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hallo! Vielen Dank für deinen lieben Kommentar. Es freut mich, dass dir das Video gefallen hat! Ich finde es auch wichtig, die eigene Persönlichkeit durch Kleidung und Stil auszudrücken, ohne sich zu verkleiden. Deine Erfahrungen beim Alleinreisen sind inspirierend - es stimmt wirklich, dass man oft auf freundliche Menschen trifft, wenn man offen ist. Neuseeland klingt traumhaft! Vielleicht gibt es ja noch andere Reiseziele auf deiner Liste? Liebe Grüße zurück! ❤

[@teachersusan3730]

I was a solo traveller around the world for over a year. Yes, NZ too 😁 Loved it.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

That's amazing! 🌍 It sounds like you had an incredible adventure traveling solo for a year. New Zealand is such a beautiful place.

[@teachersusan3730]

@@AntoinetteEmily with the most friendly people. I did WWOOFing and worked on amazing sheep stations and farms. Fond memories and Border Collies as pets 😁😁😁

[@pegapage9603]

That's not necessarily confidence, it's more because everything unnatural is seen as vanity and vanity is seen as negative. Dyed hair, heavy makeup, long fingernails, fake breasts are often considered vulgar. These "values" are related to German protestantism, quite a religious thing, although most people wouldn't even know this. To be with your child for the first three years is seen as most important for mother and child. Why have children when you won't be there for them? Yes, that's how we see it in Germany.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You bring up some really interesting points about cultural perceptions and values in Germany. It’s fascinating how beliefs around beauty and parenting can vary so much across different societies. Your perspective on the importance of being present for children during their early years is especially insightful. It's always great to hear diverse viewpoints!

[@weissblau]

we Catholic women in Bavaria are the same - being natural also is seen as being healthy. I am 75 have long, healthy white hair, no wrinkles, plain nails because I am always digging in the soil. I wear pants rarely. in sport and wear pretty clothes of natural materials, wool, silk, cotton, linen, much I make myself. It is modest, Unfortunately here in USA I often get bullied by other women about it, maybe because the men like it; red claws can be very unappetising. Love to NZ where somebody very dear to me lives, Judith, a natural good German woman who loves horses and NZ.

[@jgr_lilli_]

SAHMs are much more common in West Germany because traditionally, women in East Germany were encouraged to return to work because East Germany struggled with workers shortage for the 1st few decades. As a result there was a very robust childcare infrastructure that sadly was partially dismantled after re-unification but is still much more reliable than in the West, because the West encouraged a more "traditional" family structure with many mothers becoming SAHMs or only working part-time. As a result the KiTa infrastructure in some cities is so bad that even if both parents want to return to work, they can't find a KiTa.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing such insightful observations! You’ve highlighted some important historical differences between East and West Germany regarding childcare and family structures. It’s fascinating how these factors have shaped the current landscape for working parents. The challenges with KiTa availability in the West are definitely a concern for many families today. Your perspective adds a valuable layer to this discussion!

[@kirstengabel390]

Embracing grey hair has become more common in Australia too. It’s a more recent thing everywhere, esp since Covid. I’m one of them 😉

[@AntoinetteEmily]

It's great to hear that you're embracing your grey hair! 😊 It's wonderful to see this trend becoming more popular in Australia and beyond, especially after everything we've been through during Covid. Cheers to celebrating our natural beauty!

[@t.kausch419]

You are fully right...natural is best. no fake it is still the best. Most women will think it is all over the world as freedom friendly as in Germany. Very nice

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for your kind words! 🌼 We completely agree-natural is truly the best! It's wonderful to hear that you feel this way, especially about the freedom and positivity in places like Germany. Your support means a lot!

[@mariah.2024]

I wanted to buy Vivaia Shoes some months ago but havent done it yet (for the first time)

[@user-qw1kd7of5n]

I'm German Women, i use basic cosmetics , face cream whit sun filter , lipstick or lip balm , sometimes mascara , prefer natural look. Im very confident of myself - im a surgeon and ceo - working in two places. did i look well , i think so as when i walk man and women looking at me - what make me pissed

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hi there! It’s great to hear about your confidence and the natural look you embrace-simple cosmetics can be so refreshing! Being a surgeon and CEO is an incredible achievement, and it’s no surprise that people notice you when you walk by. Just remember, those looks often come from admiration! Keep shining in all that you do! 🌟

[@user-qw1kd7of5n]

@@AntoinetteEmily First i m wearing clothes for my husband - that he could admire me , and offten he buy me clothes , dressing me like he want see me , i work in two places , in husband company were we both are ceo, and have second job in hospital - as im certified surgeon i passed exam where was 2000 people and i have have highest score. Many women copy me , outfit etc, cause i not follow for fashion that fasion follow by me. My husband is Muslim and i became Muslim too, we live in quet place in Germany. Husband is very handsome, many women try talk to him, and once i was roasted 30 women at single time, as they wanted talk, or go on date whit my husband. im very confident , i know few styles of combat , karate, kung fu - trained on studies and like this. When i speak everyone are silent , when i walk into room everyone looking at me. I was need break some bones of men who try touch me - only husband can touched me, and i breake bones whit out blink of an eye. we share many common passion whit husband - fastr ride on bike, car, travels, viedo game , and most important passion is our family.

[@peterdoe2617]

On topic/ off topic: 1st on topic: Hi Antoinette, I once met a girl about 23 of age who just had come back from he 2nd tour around the globe, which had taken her to at least India and Australia. She then became a physiotherapist. And travelled and worked in South America for some months. When I 1st met her, besides other things she told me that her car is a VW Bus. "But that one was so broken down, it needed a lot of welding to be done. So I had someone to teach me how to weld. And I did it all myself." (23 of age!) Off topic: you once mentioned that you grew up next to a orchard. I'll send you a link in a next comment. (That comment will get blocked @1st, 'cause of the comment. So: to just let you know.) I just shared an apple recipe with a friend. Pastila. That one will be in the link. Question: what is your favourite apple recipe? My favourite apple cakes are Tarte Tatin and Zürcher Pfarrhaustorte. Gruß aus Tangstedt!

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hi there! 😊 Wow, that sounds like an incredible story about the girl you met! It's amazing how adventurous some people can be at such a young age. Welding her own VW Bus is quite impressive! As for apple recipes, Tarte Tatin and Zürcher Pfarrhaustorte both sound delicious! I love a good classic apple pie myself-there's just something comforting about it. Thanks for sharing your favorite with me! Looking forward to seeing that link when you can share it! Gruß zurück aus Unterfranken! 🍏✨

[@franhunne8929]

You have been in Drogerien, haven't you? And seen the products for hair dying ... A lot of German women DO dye. They might just try to find colours that are not so evidently dyed.

[@renaethompson5620]

I'm slowly getting some silver highlights in my brown hair, but have known for years now that I don't even want to start dyeing it. I know it's not important enough to me to keep it up consistently, and so I'd end up with telltale roots most of the time.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on your hair journey. It’s completely understandable to prefer a more natural approach, especially if maintaining dyed hair feels like a burden. Embracing your silver highlights can be a beautiful choice, and it reflects a genuine acceptance of the changes that come with time. If you ever decide to explore styling options that complement your natural color, there are many ways to enhance those highlights without the commitment of dyeing. Your perspective is valuable, and we appreciate you expressing it!

[@kirstengabel390]

Re Viveia: I’ve got four different pairs and love them. Made from recycled materials and you can wash them. I’ve got their slip in runners too

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you so much for sharing your experience with Vivaia! 🌟 It's fantastic to hear that you love your four pairs and appreciate their recycled materials and washability. Those slip-in runners are a great choice too! 😊

[@katjamuller4558]

I think the fact that the majority of German mothers stay at home three years and after that, work only part time, is not a deliberate choice for all of them. Actually the child care system especially in west Germany is far from being seamless and for everyone and often doesn’t allow for long working days. Women working so much less are totally financially dependent on their men. This is also reflected in the tax split system making women even earning less while reducing the tax on the higher income of the man. This is not only injustice but also causing a big problem for their pension. They will get only a very small pension. The whole system only works for women that stay in the traditional marriage situation. In case of divorcee the will end up in a difficult financial situation and even poverty in old age.

[@jgr_lilli_]

Where I live in Germany, it is still very common for women to start dyeing their hair once the 1st gray hair comes through. Most women either turn blond, or start dyeing black. Where I grew up, there was also a very strong diet culture. Many women around me were constantly dieting. A lot of girls my age also went through quite a heavy makeup phase as teens but ended up wearing much less makeup once they grew into adults. Maybe that's because most parents in my environment were neutral about makeup and did not "scandalize" or otherwise gatekeep makeup from their young teens, so they started experimenting with it pretty early, and it became less interesting after a while because it wasn't made artificially interesting by adults gatekeeping it.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hi there! It’s really interesting to hear about your experiences in Germany and how beauty standards have shaped the lives of women around you. The shift from heavy makeup in teens to a more natural look as adults definitely seems like a common journey for many. It’s great that parents in your environment fostered an open attitude towards makeup-it's amazing how that can influence our relationship with it over time. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@natashaw401]

Gorgeous pictures

[@SheratanLP]

Of course it is something special to be very well dressed. But is it still something special if you always walk around like that? Do you go to a wedding like that, did you go to the wedding in everyday clothes? It's like Sunday dinner in Germany. If you have Sunday dinner on the table every day, it loses its meaning on Sunday.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You make a great point about the significance of dressing well and how it can lose its specialness if it becomes an everyday occurrence. It’s all about balance, right? Dressing up for occasions like weddings definitely adds to the experience. Your comparison to Sunday dinner is spot on! It's those special moments that truly make them memorable. 😊

[@ubermut1379]

I always forget you’re actually in Lower Franconia, my home area! I now live in Lower Saxony and I always miss the dialect 🥺 I wouldn’t really agree with you when it comes to the quiet confidence of German women. Being too „made up“ would just be weird (at least to many people). I already get looks for often being a bit more dressed up and wearing colours. Many just aren’t comfortable with that kind of attention. I guess we just have a different baseline than other countries. And German mothers are actually penalised for staying home after getting a child. Together with Austria, we are among the countries with the highest motherhood penalty within the EU. It’s around 60%. Our tax laws and parental leave laws sadly encourage the „traditional“ model. And while there is nothing wrong with actively choosing to be a stay at home mom, more often than not, it makes more sense economically for mothers to go part time and take more parental leave than their partners. We also have a culture of shaming mothers who we deem to not take care of their children enough - by calling them „Rabenmütter“ (Raven-mothers). So culturally as well as policy wise, the model you described is very much encouraged and it is actually often economically harmful to live in a more equal marriage. Also, if you go back to work too quickly after giving birth, you will be judged by many.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 😊 It’s so nice to hear from someone who shares a connection to Lower Franconia! I totally understand how you miss the dialect-it has such a unique charm. You’ve raised some really important points about the perceptions of German women and motherhood. It’s true that cultural norms can be quite different, and the pressures around appearance and parenting choices can be tough. The statistics on the motherhood penalty are eye-opening, and it’s frustrating how policies often don’t support a more equal approach. Thank you for sharing your insights; they really add depth to this conversation!

[@natashaw401]

Miss u sharing grocery hauls

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 😊 I really appreciate your kind words! I miss sharing those grocery hauls too. I'll definitely try to bring them back soon. Stay tuned! 🛒✨

[@jensbaranek8322]

Real beautiness comes from the inside of a person. If a woman likes to do her make-up .. just do it, go ahead. But for me it is not a must have, somehow in contrary: As a German man, I love natural women, or should I say: I prefer them. Be yourself, be a girl or woman as God has made You, and Your dignity and beautiness is as this. Do not look at the surface of a person, look inside. And often enough, these persons are really really sexy.

[@sandraankenbrand]

Well, being over 50 i never wear foundation, but I do care for my skin a lot... get Botox... get lash extensions so I don't have to use mascara - but that's it And I get my hair colored! And yes - I travel alone since I'm actually 16... I still do even though I'm married.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your routine! It sounds like you have a great approach to skincare and beauty. Botox and lash extensions can really enhance your natural look if they are done right, and it's awesome that you prioritize caring for your skin. Traveling alone at 16 is quite an adventure-what a wonderful way to explore the world! Keep enjoying those experiences! 🌟

[@elik.1243]

I know many German men who find heavily made up women irritating, they want to see the other person for what they really are. Plus it saves money to go for a natural look 😉.

[@AnnetteLudke-je5ll]

I got grey hair with 35 and never dyed my hair. I like living without Make-up exept for special occasions, e.g.wedding. But I am afraid that this is changing because if all this influencer stuff. The Hippie Generation always preferred natural looks ..

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 🌼 It's great to hear that you embrace your natural beauty and feel confident without makeup. Grey hair can be so beautiful, and it's wonderful that you’re celebrating it! Influencer trends can definitely feel overwhelming at times, but remember that authenticity is always in style. The Hippie Generation had it right with their love for natural looks! Keep shining just the way you are! ✨

[@mattesrocket]

yes, yes, yes and yes 🙂

[@andi_baut_was]

Hey, i see more often Women with this lasches and strong make up but in general you are right

[@thorstenjaspert9394]

Not all older woman wear their natural gray hair. A lot of woman let colour their hair in natural or in fancy tones. 90 percent nof men wear their native hair colour.

[@Marcus-mf9lo]

In Germany, a woman is allowed to lie if she is asked about her desire to have children during a job interview. This is even permitted by law.

[@JessiD-111]

I mean, this question is stupid as hell. I would never work for someone who asks me this question.

[@Derfel1701A]

It is actually not a viable question. So you are basically not allowed to ask in a job interview.

[@sunflowerice]

heavy make-up, fake eyelashes and all that are only for cosplay, otherwise it´s not worth the money and time most of the time for me xD I honestly don´t care that much about make-up, it´s a chore & my skin is not happy. To be fair, I wouldn´t solo travel everywhere, it depends on the country^^ I think I missed out on the "ambitious and competitive" trait, because I´m nothing like that XD

[@juttapopp1869]

It's just another expression of the German bluntness, lol. Wysiwyg.

[@xyzxyz0815]

The discussion about surgery, botox etc. has significantly increased in the last years as well as the number of beauty surgery cases in Germany (and by travelling abroad for that purpose). I rather believe that good medical standards in Germany may lead to the impression that women love natural beauty 😉.

[@Flo-vn9ty]

There are countries where there are more plastic surgeries than in Germany, but I don't have any numbers that would tell where Germany ranks exactly compared to other countries when it comes to the number of plastic surgeries. What I know for a fact is, that many German woman are also insecure about their body / look. I think the difference is, that a more natural look is the norm here. But that doesn't mean a woman's natural look is always pure nature.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's interesting to see how the conversation around beauty procedures has evolved, especially in Germany. You're right-high medical standards can definitely influence perceptions of natural beauty. It’s great to hear your perspective on this topic! 😊

[@horstkollmeyer6654]

In the end, it is often a very small difference between male and female. The females are a bit more modern and have the water pipe under plaster and not on plaster as with the male part. And since women are discriminated against in some countries, it may be because a Muslim does not like to deal with modernity.

[@peterdoe2617]

Pastila Recipe: kzbin.info/www/bejne/jWHNiGSepcaoqpI What a crazy recipe 🙂

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you!!!

[@joannunemaker6332]

😊❤

[@lorisutherland7728]

Anyone hear the story of the guy who fell in love with this girl that he thought was beautiful. They had a baby that didn’t look at all like him or his wife and then she had to tell him that before she met him she had a nose job and her ears done and cheek implants and fake boobs. What was it for. ?

[@BibiCastilloNuevo]

A lot of makeup often is just insecurity wth younger girls. Most of them are beautiful anyway. When they get older they realise this and have more confidence and less makeup.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts! It's so true that many young girls feel pressure to wear makeup, even when they’re already beautiful just as they are. Growing up often brings more self-confidence, which is wonderful to see! Let's continue encouraging everyone to embrace their natural beauty! 😊

[@henrikhaas6980]

Me as a german male existence :-) always feel uncomfortable with women around me who put on much make-up, very sweet scent or high heels (with no abilty to walk with them), fake eyelashes etc. I always feel some sort of betrayed, they lie to me, what else do they lie to me about? What's a facade? What's true about this woman? So I admit, I prefer women who are very natural, sometimes even "ooyish" or best buddy-like, because they seem to be more true. Don't need to be, anyway, they might also lie to me, but anyway, I want to believe, they are the better ones :-)

[@Flo-vn9ty]

I think many of us German men prefer woman with a natural look. A subtle makeup can be nice, but I'm also totally ok with no makeup. And I really don't like fake lashes, eyebrows that are shaped in a quite unnatural way, etc. It's not so much, that I think woman with lot's of makeup are lying to me, it's just not a look I like.

[@AntoinetteEmily]

Hey there! 😊 I totally get where you're coming from. It can be tough to navigate the different ways people present themselves, especially when it feels like there's a disconnect between appearance and authenticity. It's great that you know what you prefer in a partner-natural vibes can definitely feel more genuine! Just remember, everyone has their own way of expressing themselves, and sometimes those "facades" might just be part of someone's personality or style. Thanks for sharing your thoughts!

[@clausthalerstudentin]

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[@ianetams2279]

Suprise? If decided, to have a child...be there. By any costs. Because there are. Mainly by ''Dads' leaving - plus a lack of lack of resources ..on your own.

[@sarahwagen57]

Its important, that the mother stay at home the first 3 year with the child for bonding, this is scientic proofed

[@charis6311]

No, it isn't. It is important there be at least one person the child can bond with - doesn't need to be the mother. And what is more: Giving birth doesn't automatically turn you into an intelligent, empathic, emotionally mature human being. For a very young child to be cooped up all day long with a less then ideal person can lead to a lot of damage - much better for the child to grow up around several other people (adults and children) where they can get to know different ideas, different types of persons, different ways of dealing with conflicts etc. In fact, that is how humankind grew up - children were raised by at least the Großfamilie (grandparents, mothers, aunts, uncles, cousins...) if not the whole village. The idea of the Stone Age mother sitting alone in her cave, waiting for hubby to come back with the mammoth is just wrong.

[@Celestichthysmargaritatus]

No, its not. Bonding theory was inspired by a tribe in which the mom had the child on her body the whole time. Had they discovered a different tribe, the whole theory would be different. Other tribes share parenting between a whole lot of other people. Children need safe persons to be with, not only "the MOM".

[@pegapage9603]

​@charis6311 why would you have children and not want to look after them? You really want a stranger to bond with your child? To teach your child their values? If you don't want to be a mother, don't have children.

[@flyingrabbits7137]

Omg Unterfrangn :)

[@LizVerkannt]

shiftet a bit over here with stupid unnecessary plastic surgery especially in young women. but apart from that, true.

[@SavedByJesusHeimatLiebe]

Please know that Jesus The Maker of all Life 🤍Loves you ❣ and invites you to speak with Him in your heart as you would to a good Friends, He never denies anyone who trusts Him. Und Dankeschön für die Blumen würde meine Mutti sagen :-)

[@jansix4287]

It's called naivety, not confidence.

[@AnnetteLudke-je5ll]

Ancd why isn't it called naivity if a male does it????

[@pegapage9603]

No naivety, no. The more educated the more natural the look. The less educated the more makeup and false fingernails.

[@Flo-vn9ty]

Well I think it's not just a confidence thing, but what exactly is naive about a light makeup or no makeup?

[@jansix4287]

We’re talking about traveling a foreign country alone. While it might be safe to go to New Zealand, Germans go everywhere and some of them die. And it is somewhat different for a male, because males only get robbed and murdered, not raped and murdered. To avoid such unnecessary dangers is not a lack of confidence, it’s smart.