The Friendship Fix You Need to Try

[@deanh1627]

We don’t need our problems solved. What we need is to be seen and heard

[@kumar056]

How is it not same as attention seeking?

[@deanh1627]

⁠@@kumar056is this what you do to seek attention? Your comment shows your lack of awareness and intelligence. It’s common knowledge that humans need to express and felt understood. Now I agree there are narcissistic people out there always trying to stir the pot for their own “entertainment” seeking out attention likely because they have an attachment wound. Sound familiar Kumar?

[@Toanir]

​@@kumar056 This is talking about dealing with emotional crisis. I'd paraphrase it as: "We don't need our problems to be (immediatelly) solved. We need to know, we're not alone in dealing with them."

[@lw5592]

​@@kumar056"Attention seeking" has been bastardized to denote ego stroking. Sometimes people REQUIRE attention! Nothing wrong with that.

[@SafetyatHome]

Such a beautiful reminder at what can be such a very lonely time of year for some. Thank you ❤

[@kaylathrop5574]

A code word between friends...❤

[@anu3291]

Extremely important

[@brain_respect_and_freedom]

A real power of listening.

[@M.C.Blackwell]

I've done the exact same thing that your friend did , I think it's so difficult to ask for help or admit that we're in an emotional crisis that we underplay it by sending a benign text. I'm implementing this from now on and already texted one of my friends to use this going forward.

[@julietkeers2016]

lovely reminder - thanks

[@Undermineded-333]

I’m not afraid I’m all in!!!!I know I’m completely alone !!!((his will his way!!!!

[@rangavembar]

So true

[@scottcates]

Thank you.

[@Kk-ed1gr]

Absolutely mind blowing. 8 mins. Superb advice

[@XenAlphaVideo]

Indeed

[@nooname9176]

A fiend is not your friend, so no fixing is required. ❤

[@alexs.8401]

December 21st is the day with the fewest hours of daylight - in other words, 'the darkest day'. I've long made this an opportunity to reach out to friends and colleagues whom I feel could use a boost, particularly if they're facing hard times around the holidays. It's easy to couch that outreach in terms of a brief "merry Christmas" or "let's get together in the new year" message, a shout out for our friends, the families we choose, instead of the families we have.

[@SharkyJ40]

It’s winter solstice, and it’s the reversal of the darkening, so the welcoming of light. I personally don’t like the texts from people who think I’m lonely and need a boost around the holidays. I simply don’t partake in them, and I’m happiest in my solitude.

[@brucepeters9575]

Damn! I’m stealing this.

[@kathyaclaude4966]

❤❤❤

[@paulabarnes5613]

Because as some have memory issues, some are in dentist chairs when they get the text, and then get sucked into their life that is why you need code words such as that. I would probably go 911 and an alphabet designation like no alpha immediate need, A ASAP, B breakdown imminent, C need to share a laugh before I forget or whatever is important to your relationships circles. It's quick and less thinking.

[@jeronimotamayolopera4834]

❤

[@darrenscott1111]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@Nova-m8d]

I don't have any friends for the sole purpose of gaining 8 minutes of my life back.

[@priyabalakrishnan6294]

😂

[@nandomanification]

Wow

[@Goldenheart2911]

The question I continue to have every time I have seen this clip over the years is why do our family members, friends or ourselves have to be in distress or crisis mode in order for us to put the time aside to want to be there or spend time with them when they ask? 💛 A great reflection question for all of us is why does a text saying do want to come over as opposed to I need you to come over because I’m in a bad spot make you feel the need to choose to say yes to one text and no to the other?✨ If we have time in one situation why do we not have it in the other?✨ Reciprocal friendship is a beautiful blessing in which we are givien the opportunity to deepen our connection and trust in ourselves and one another when we continue to show up for each other in the good times and bad.💛

[@elstcman5]

yeah I agree, he could have taken 8 minutes to clarify and probe deeper about what she needed through text tbh

[@RareMaestro]

Why do they feel the need not to make known their crises and rather hope for a response instead. We are all busy with our own lives and if we get a common text we will not consider it urgently unless there is clear evidence there off. He did catch up with her the next week which suggests that he always intended to visit but didn't prioritize it as there was no indication to do so I think the lesson here is communication, don't hope people will figure out what you meant but say what you mean

[@whatisahandle221]

@@RareMaestro👆yes, clear communication is a key: many of us don’t read between the lines well. Having some standard, private messaging signal between good friends is a great idea. I think the overall point, though, is that we should try to be ready to give just a little bit of time to someone who crossed our path: but we neither need to try nor expect to “solve” their problem(s), nor should we expect to. Just be there and be willing to listen a little when needed.

[@Serendipitous-Synchronicity]

💞

[@araeshkigal]

"Anyone can step out of a meeting for 8 minutes." Yeah no...that would get most of the workers in the world fired, but the rest of what you had to say was doable.

[@realwillwilder]

and if anyone needs 8 min, i gotchu

[@ilyasipek8515]

I tried it, but idk why the hell my gf got upset when I said "your 8 min is done, I will call you back when I finish watching the game"

[@The1ne2]

Without a shadow of a doubt I'm a good friend. Thing is is I will never ever allow myself to befriend or be befriended by anybody ever again...

[@dhirusha]

Dear Simon, there nothing wow about this video.. bcz u just simply text u want to talk u r problem.. why go for super code .. life simple... I have fews closed friends we talk for hours when others need us..if my 1 hours of less sleep give my friend the time he needed than its worth it even a sleepless night talk. Thats what friends does be there for each other

[@stripper4950]

It seems you need a neon sign to know what is going on,

[@jjhenry3338]

The problem is when you're in real mud you wont get 1second.

[@KCass-fe9kv]

You might need some different friends…

[@maartenmidden1651]

Write a letter

[@Rob-df6py]

man woman camera tv?

[@realwillwilder]

will you be my fren

[@Smudgemom2003]

OR….hear me out….stating the obvious….answer her texts regardless if you think they’re important or not. You are not a friend by making HER qualify her messages. It’s very self-centered. He is the WORST kind of friend…doesn’t acknowledge her AND gaslights her by saying ‘no, you didn’t!’ What an AH

[@moonhunter9993]

right

[@Rob-df6py]

bingo

[@andrewdenny5571]

Respectfully, i don't agree. Be specific. Vagueness doesn't achieve anything in a crisis

[@mindisdope3740]

Man Woman friendship doesn’t exist. Let’s be honest please… Man who accepts their wife to go to other man house for “talking” or “dining” ahaha yeah ok 👍