The Future of Romance: Terry Real

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Terry Real is a god! Along with Esther Perel, they are the world leaders in relationship dynamics, and give all of us hope for the future :-)

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If you only have 11 minutes Listen here first 23 min - 34 min - 3 phases of relationships/ Normal Marital Hatred = Disharmony phase / - Limbic system/ Repair / ? for therapists- Wich part of you am I speaking to? - If the Couple wants intimacy - the first thing you have to do - is come out of your woundedness and into the Adult Self. Who you "are" will determine whether you are successful or not.! Terry Real - " Other workshops Teach you Skills - We deal with the "part" of you that won't use them.!!! < If your way of dealing with relationships is to complain about what is wrong in order to change your partner's behavior - How's? that working for you?.... If you're trying to get ... more of what you want by complaining about what went wrong.... to your - therapist/friend/self/ - you're probably stuck in the wounded child - who speaks the loudest in your relationship. The one who does not know about tools and won't use them even if the Adult Self does. The dilemma is - how to know when your - " intent " - in relationships comes from the Hurt part of you - or the Healed Adult Self that doesn't react from the past hurts and trauma's in a relationship. < It's my personal belief - until this is fully understood, and we recognize how to heal the "broken hurt parts/feelings" before the steps from therapy- and techniques from self-help books - can be lasting in intimate relationships >