The Greatest Technique for Letting Go | Do This When You Can't Do Anything

How much time do we spend thinking about something that happened in the past? How much of our thoughts are repetitive, negative, or judgemental? Because these minds of ours are designed to constantly assess potential threats and dangers, most people would say way too much.
All of that extra, non-useful thinking our brains do is getting in the way of our peace and happiness. Because we can't leave the past in the past, because we can't let go of whatever weighs on our minds, we suffer.
In this video, I share a very simple but incredibly powerful tool for letting go, putting down the baggage, quieting the mind, and learning to not just accept each moment, but embrace and love it.
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[@ToddPerelmuter]

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[@carlavela7106]

Mantra: "I do not need to be perfect." "I do not need to have a perfect life."

[@davidbrewer9777]

True.

[@judyj2551]

I am approaching my 73rd birthday and I can still hear my mother's angry voice saying to the child me " If you can't do it right the first time, don't bother doing it at all ! " The need to be perfect is paralyzing .

[@xenatron9056]

It is shocking how the mantras of our parents sound so loud in our minds decades later. I have one... 'Take what you're given or have none'. I can see how many of my 'poor judgements' and 'poor decision making' throughout my life wee chosen... I grabbed and held on tight for fear of losing everything or never having another opportunity. I needed to change this mantra, but I have only got to the point where I can be OK with missing out.... I haven't reached peace and acceptance of how things might have been different had I been more understanding of how life works... I feel so sad mostly when I realise what I have done, but then I have to say... I need to learn to value what I HAVE learnt and be OK with that. Challenging until I look around and see and hear other peoples stories.... even with what I missed out on, I still did OK. Me, I am ordinary. I am ME I guess.

[@katierose1893]

Take care of yourself. My mom is 73 and had a very traumatic childhood. The world you guys grew up in was horrific and basically most baby boomers have trauma. Their children (us) consequently do as well but not as severe. Her brain couldn’t handle life anymore as she was neglected as a child and scolded by nuns and priests for over a decade. Her dementia started at 55 and became progressively worse. Now she cries daily for an imaginary lover. “I wish someone could love me I am worthless”. I was just on a message board reading about dementia and this anonymous comment really stuck out to me “My mother is 90 and has Alzheimer’s was constantly asking “help me! I don’t know what to do” she’s not saying that anymore she’s repetitively saying “can I say my prayers am I doing it right” very anxious and out of breath for being so anxious then she’ll say “I’m being good” over and over we try to calm her she just continues.”

[@judyj2551]

@@katierose1893 Thank you, Katie . It means a lot to be heard and understood. My best to you and your mom.

[@neonaviolett6281]

an odd person your mom

[@maryannestevenson5993]

Well that was a lie

[@samone487]

It's our obsession for control that screw us.

[@tjgreen6204]

Yes, I think your statement is correct. I find it to be particularly difficult for myself when I pay someone money to do a particular job and the job outcome doesn't meet my expectations. lt's hard for me to drop my anger when I feel taken advantage of and have no recourse.

[@69LOLIN]

@@tjgreen6204 The samev here, I have lowered my expectaciones and it kid of helps!

[@maryisabel2115]

Powerful words, I did need to let go of my obsession for control it was to avoid my greatest fear which ended up happening anyway

[@rebbedoes]

Yes!

[@Wil_Dsense]

@@tjgreen6204 Surely the lesson is only pay them after the Job based on how well they did… why on earth would you pay them before the work is done? 😅

[@jerrianderson4867]

As Nansen put it several hundred years ago -- "... give yourself the same freedom as the sky. You call it neither good nor not-good."

[@Loke61686]

Fritjof Nansen? ( 1861 - 1930) 😊

[@gypsygirltarot2451]

Wow, this is mind blowing for me and I think it will help me so much, thanks!

[@huyuli]

Thank you for that quote. Joshu asked Nansen: `What is the path?' Nansen said: `Everyday life is the path.' Joshu asked: `Can it be studied?' Nansen said: `If you try to study, you will be far away from it.' Joshu asked: `If I do not study, how can I know it is the path?' Nansen said: `The path does not belong to the perception world, neither does it belong to the nonperception world. Cognition is a delusion and noncognition is senseless. If you want to reach the true path beyond doubt, place yourself in the same freedom as sky. You name it neither good nor not-good.'

[@conniemilman7842]

We wonderful practicing self love

[@jg3381]

My mantra is I love myself as I am.

[@redwoods7370]

I am 67. A lot of letting go has happened organically and unconsciously as I age. It's a great perk of aging.

[@Earthtime3978]

It’s easier to let go if money is not an issue, especially at 60. Just a simple fact.

[@timorean320]

I lost my oldest 15 years ago. You really only have 2 choices. You can be bitter, angry, full of blame, miserable, or you can understand that nobody, nothing is "yours". Everthing is on loan.

[@ronlangelaan1488]

Thanks for this, one of our two sons also got taken back just under 8 months ago, it is very tough 😢

[@timorean320]

@@ronlangelaan1488 My deepest sympathies Ron. This is 1 thing, nobody can truly understand unless they have experienced it. What I can say, is it doesnt get easier, you just learn to deal better. Pain is the best teacher. I learned a lot about myself, what really matters, I take nothing for granted, and I express my love, and appreciation of others, and what they mean to me on a regular basis. I know it's hard to see, but in the end, you will be a better person for having gone through this ultimate loss. My faith kept me going, and strengthened me. Ecc 12:6,7 "to dust shall it return as it was, and the Spirit shall return to God who gave it." They are with God, what could be better?

[@ronlangelaan1488]

@@timorean320 many thanks for your heartwarming words 🙏

[@rebeccaspratling2865]

This!

[@mirovinac3968]

Actually, you are not right. Special people WILL BE ALWAYS yours. And you will be theirs. They will be with you all the time. We are all connected.

[@honorahs.3262]

Perfect wisdom… “I do not need to be perfect, I do not need to have a perfect life.” Nobody’s perfect. ❤️

[@Ibelieveyou8]

Only the thing is that the universe doesn't 'hear' the word 'no/not' ... So be careful what you call for...

[@TaniaMeira8]

What if I do want to improve as much as possible? And yes, I need perfection. I really do.

[@newdatlas]

I was thinking the same thing. I thought mantras and affirmations were supposed to phrased as positive statements

[@sacred_space2228]

I’m going through an awakening at the moment and in recent months I’ve lost my job, my home, special relationships, my identity etc etc. Needed to hear right now your voice and this message so thankyou ❤

[@mila7809]

Lost all as well...those videos keep me hanging by a thread Sending love 🙏❤

[@alimccreery755]

I’ve had that happen to me as well, you’re not alone. The series’s of unfortunate events haven’t stopped yet but I’m still hopeful that I can keep these assholes out of my life. I don’t wish anyone to ever have to deal with these types ever. My biggest wish is if in the future we can send them back to their own planet and keep them there for all eternity.

[@rachelklein2319]

Genuinely hope you swim through to the other side of these waves crashing over you. Envision something better for yourself and plant the seed that will become another form of your life. I hope it takes root and grows beautifully for you. I feel your pain. I'm in a life, unidentifiable and trying to breathe and keep moving onward, upward. If nothing else, know someone in Cali is sending good intentions your way.

[@devovray]

this happened to me too..things will improve...keep on your path of awakening...it's totally worth it...but you already know that 😉

[@carpediem4179]

Every ending is a new beginning

[@falconbritt5461]

Interesting! I also heard a hypnotist who said the subconscious is like an extremely loyal but not very bright dog, in that the subconscious mind takes every word very literally (never say "it broke my heart" for example), and it does not even understand negations (words like "no" or "not" which reflect things that aren't reality) so it blips right past them. If I say "My life does not need to be perfect," for example, the subconscious hears, "My life does need to be perfect." So instead of telling myself, "I do not need to be perfect, my life doesn't need to be perfect" maybe I will say instead, "I release my craving to be perfect and my craving to have a perfect life. I am always happy now."

[@jessifreedom4793]

I am wondering about that too. I always hear that an affirmation should be free from the word 'not'....

[@keithalan8720]

when you lose you gain ....be grateful

[@grapplepunk5977]

People pleasing,black and white thinking, critical inner voice and perfectionism. Four characteristics of an Adult Child. I think I have these. The only consequence of perfectionism is disappointment. Fantastic video. Thank you.

[@raymoralesjr]

Hello Todd, I’ve been on a journey of healing after my wife’s death 13 months ago. I’ve been practicing Nichiren Buddhism, breathing, chanting, and meditation. I had no choice but to let it all go. Or we could say cancer took it all away from our young son and myself. I just want to thank you for your guidance. I was born with happiness in my soul, and I’m finding it again. Love you man.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Your courage is an inspiration 🙏

[@Cadia369]

I’m sorry for your loss. Respectfully, there’s a song called “Silent Lucidity”, that I feel compelled to ask you to listen to. I feel you may find comfort listening to it. Peace be to you.

[@kazparzyxzpenualt8111]

I need to express how I wish to extend comfort to you and your son at this time. There are no words...no words that can mean anything more than to say: I read your words and have your well being in mind. Please connect with the all everywhere you may find it. For without a doubt it is there. It is there for both of you. "Peace , courage, wisdom!" Courtesy of Pete Seeger

[@semiprecious007]

Sending you both my thoughts and love ❤️🙏🏻

[@timizo691]

My wife also had Cancer. She is still alive but it changed her so drastically. She decided she no longer wanted to be married. I have been so heart broken. I want to let go but I am struggling. We we’re together for 14 years.

[@studentofabrahamiamavibrat3615]

HEARING THE FREQUENCY THAT CRICKETS EMIT HAS ALWAYS FELT GOOD TO ME❤️

[@christinamarcille5280]

I have four in my basement that keep me up at night if you'd like them 😅

[@creativechristiancontent]

@@christinamarcille5280 Lol 😂😂

[@maryisabel2115]

I needed this,my spouse ended it after 12 yrs,I'm beyond heartbroken,your video helps me 👍

[@rickdworsky6457]

One of the most difficult aspects of life is giving ourselves permission to be happy. Many think there is something wrong with being happy.

[@denverbazer8034]

You let go when your able ! YOU CANT FORCE IT ! but you can move on to other things in the meantime. Eventually you can forgive. (Yourself and others)🙃

[@Earthtime3978]

I think it’s just that you can’t keep up the negative energy towards certain people forever, so we just put it aside and rationalize that its “forgiveness.”

[@katerogers6463]

Or “I am imperfect! I am ok with an imperfect life!” Love the message brother!

[@deedavis9511]

Oh boy, that finally gave me a profound release from the burden I’ve been carrying around all my adult life!!!! Thank you so much!!!!!

[@peterjehu5461]

Visualizing yourself into the future self where all this is forgotten now. How would it feel. Live there. Shortly it becomes your instant reality. It’s funny how brain doesn’t distinguish the feeling of future, present and past. ( think when your most happy, it will happen again now. Think of your past pains , you feel them again now, think of your future limitless self, you will feel it now.

[@surlyrabitt1253]

true, now is all we have - ty

[@Fnberg744]

I'm not seeking perfection. I'm asking for respect. The same respect I give.

[@BATgirl57]

I do not need to be perfect. I do not need to have a perfect life. There is no such thing as perfection . It’s all just are up baggage we do not need to carry. Let it go and live free with joy, forgiveness and love. Be your beautiful true self. I love you❤️

[@brenki]

You have a friendly face and I like the nature, sounds of little birds. Very nice presentation and powerfull message. Thank you. 🙏

[@kolethall2716]

I cried, meditating. And felt so much better... my whole perception on life changed. It was... so relieving.

[@bonnieclark8069]

Thank you, my daughter is healing too with your teachings. a traumatized world needs and thanks you.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

That's so wonderful to hear. Thank you so much. 🙏

[@enough1494]

WoW, Todd, thank you! I am in my garden and had a similar thought. I am now without diesel and power. I have gone thru this before and for longer time. I noticed My garden is recovering faster than I am… I woke up angry, hurt and in despair. So, I thought I need to be as kind to me as I am to my garden. So, very grateful for your messages!

[@ani93f]

I accept myself the way I am I accept life the way it goes I am here to be

[@firasaya449]

Unbelievable, I tried to stop but I coudnt stop crying. I just feel so much love for you and everyone. Thank you for freeing me.

[@mb5612]

I need to listen to this message every morning for the rest of my life.

[@jayong1977]

Love the nature walk. Thanks for this helpful perspective. After 24 years together my wife left me, out of the blue, for another guy at her work, and I'm in the process of letting go completely.

[@jayong1977]

@@marciestoddard730 thank you 🙏

[@simoneevans6824]

Was it really out of the blue? Perhaps if you reflect on it the marriage might not have been great and you’ve now got a chance to build a new life. No happy marriage ends in divorce. Best wishes .

[@deadreckoning6288]

Sorry brother. I wasn't married but have had to let go of a similar situation. It's really hard.

[@MsCLAUDIANL]

I'm sorry for your situation. I've been there, it's painful beyond belief but it'll end. The pain will end, I promise.

[@kiraalialeeonfairythegreenone]

No woman leaves out of the blue...she would have, over months and probably years informed you, shown you, expressed to you that she was very unhappy and needing heartfelt connection. You were so disconnected and not truly 'seeing' her and taking the relationship and her for granted ... that you were experiencing cognitive dissonance ( living in a fantasy in your mind and avoiding the reality in front of you.) Take some responsibility and truly examine your contribution to the failure of the relationship.

[@allenmorgan4309]

You let go by letting go of the idea that you have to let go. Who is it that wants to let go? When you discover that there is no individual "I" that is responsible and that we are simply an arising, a manifestation of life that has been shaped and formed by the forces around us. When we recognize the unreality of self and/or freewill all else drops away of itself because we recognize that there isn't anything to do, there is no goal, there is nothing but life simply happening of itself and when we really get that it is an expansion and in that release everything falls away. It is in seeing the truth of our own being that we are free.

[@EnlightenedCarnivore]

Also, it helps to remember...I don't have a life...I am life...THIS is life...right here, right now. Nothing is being gained or lost in THIS eternally flowing movie...(The bucket of your "Bucket List" has no bottom. Photos and memories are great, but THIS is real...right here, right now. 😆 ) If I appreciate this moment in front of me, Life is Good. When I fight or argue with the moment in front of me, not so good. Better to LOVE what is...whatever it is. It's ALL good, even when it's not. 💖🙏💖

[@barbarawinkle1042]

Love the comments you shared. For me, I added my own thoughts just a bit... "I don't just have a life, I am life. Learn to love what is, but also continue trusting in your ability to infuse creativity in any given moment as well!" Thanks again. Oh, also love your "bottomless bucket list" comment as well.

[@jackiefindlay1264]

I've been pondering this message for a couple of days now and it has had a profound effect on my well being. Much gratitude! 🥰🙏

[@valerierogers9609]

Good point about our subconscious. Never thought about it. Perfection isn't my problem but clinging to familiar circumstances and inability to move forward is. I'll try this mantra.

[@TheHeuristicHeretic]

This is the first video I've seen from you. It was really hard for me to listen to these words because they struck me like fists. As hard as it was to hear, I needed these words. Thank you. I'm feeling lost since I started this new spiritual journey. I've listened to many people, read many things and I now find myself in a place that is unrecognizable and it is scary. I'm drowning in methodology without taking the time to filter what is suited for me and what isn't. I'm trying too hard to get it right.

[@davidbrewer9777]

I ask You and myself to be still and quiet. I ask we both are to seek rest and rest alone. Restfully stepping to wherever we are. Precious creator; we are thankful, regardless of the way we exist.

[@pamelaforehan4249]

I loved today’s message Todd. Since leaving my unfaithful, emotionally abusive husband 3 yrs ago, I been slowly rebuilding a new,happy and peaceful life. My Psychiatrist is extremely pleased with the progress I’ve made and has reduced my medication to a minimum. MYSELF as well as my two daughters, grandson and very loyal friends have helped me more than they could ever imagine. They are the reason I’m still alive and enjoying my second chance of living the life, I only ever dreamt of, for the past 13 long and mentally challenging years. I have slowly illuminated all the unnecessary things from my life. Donating them to my local charities. You’re so right Todd, I felt great lifting the unnecessary weight from my shoulders. All that is left, is for me to forgive the two men, who hurt me so much in my life. Only then will I feel ready to join my GOD in eternal life ! I’m 69 years of age, so guess I better get working on that one. !! I’m sure with prayer, meditation and your encouragement Todd, I will get there. Kind regards your Aussie fan😘 Pam . 11:46 🤗🙏😃

[@ChooseCompassion]

I don’t believe in coincidences and this video proves it. I am in my 60s and I’m still struggling with acceptance of what was and is. I know this video was divinely sent to me. Someone who is very spiritually enlightened likened mantras to records in a jukebox. Replacing the old records with new ones. It does work but it’s not magical. It has to be maintained and nurtured just like our bodies do. Thank you brother for the calming reminder. ❤

[@Light_Worker]

I feel the same that it come to me on purpose. I try to ignore to stay positive but it seems that other energy sits and always waiting for me when I get into real moment to remind harm again. Important always to stay on truck kzbin.info/www/bejne/aKCxY4OFgNKqhMU

[@seannamei]

I’m pretty sure it’s just algorithm

[@shelleysmith6667]

I love this. I need this every day. We are all perfect beings having a conditional experience to learn from it for expansion and evolution for the collective. Our personal challenge is to wake up in it and bring forth heaven on earth. And we will realize perfection is unconditional love & perfect understanding of our true connection to each other no matter what is going on. No judgement.

[@christinescholtz4386]

💜

[@jewel2022now]

Yes, sounds 👍

[@onlypearls4651]

Sometimes, the system wrongly oppresses us, and it's not "wrong" to point that out.

[@Danielsenreunion]

Had a really rough day of work yesterday where I couldn't let go of am mistake i made and it forced me to question everything I did afterwards. I felt victimized by my supervisor as well and lose my confidence. Wow i needed to hear this today thank you

[@timst5965]

Thank you for this. This message came at a point in my life where I'm getting older and I truly want to let go of the negative baggage.

[@studentofabrahamiamavibrat3615]

I REALLY LIKE THE PEACEFUL ENVIRONMENT HE IS SOEAKING IN, AND THE WONDERFUL NATURE SOUNDS.NICE AND SIMPLE, AND GENTLE ON THE SENSES. HELPFUL MESSAGE TOO.

[@gracesanity6314]

I needed this. Idealism was my suffering. How l and others and life should be. Thank you

[@LibraVibesSnice80]

Wow! I totally needed this; it just popped up… I suffered a horrible childhood and this helps me to remember to not let my mind go back to those awful days but to stay present and grateful for today ❤

[@svire3370]

This video found me at the right time. I am a biology masters student currently writing my thesis and this morning I had to face the fact that I did not make it in time. And it was so incredibly liberating! Because for me always the greatest pressure has been time. We each have our own lessons and mine was accepting myself the way I am, accepting the fact that I do things in my own pace and that I need to feel passionate about my work and my life without the pressure of time attached to it. To learn to not follow internal or external pressure, but look to my inner guidance and make sure that what I do is aligned with my heart and soul. This video found me later in my day, after I had collapsed from exhaustion in my bed, after a week of no social life, crying, sleeping 3 hours a night, asking people for help, stressing myself out "What if I don't make it in time? What if I don't hand it in? My mom will be so disappointed and upset!! She will yell at me and say I needed to start earlier, I needed to attend less events, I needed to focus more..." Truth is, when we have the constant internal amd external pressure on ourselves, it is impossible to do things lovingly or joyfully. At least for me. The pressure is what spoils the fun in anything! My brain refuses to work under made up pressure. It sabotages everything I do under fake pressure, and it recognizes fake pressure better than my conscious mind does. Joy and genuine passion is a huge factor for me of why am I doing things in the first place. The pressure I and other people put on me guided me in the complete wrong directions, because I forgot about joy, I forgot about interest, it seemed like an unpleasant chore. Nothing is mandatory in life. Absolutely NOTHING. Ever. But your life will be much better if you know yourself, your feelings, your mind, when you can accept yourself unconditionally and work on your growth, focus on things that matter to you and do everything you do with a heart. This morning I surrendered my ego based "I HAVE to make it in TIME, or I am worthless" approach, and instead gained a different one. It doesn't matter if I hand in my thesis today. What matters is the quality of it, and wether I learned everything I wanted to learn on the way. I started studying biology because I loved it! Where had that disappeared? I had somehow stopped being passionate about science and just wanted to finish and get the degree to be done with it... I had constant imposter sindrome and a fear of missing out on all of the other things in life, and the amount of worry and information just overwhelmed me every day. And now I am learning to stop, breathe, recollect, look within and set healthy boundaries with things, people, myself. It's a very valuable life lesson. And what makes it better - when you accept the things you need to learn with love instead of judgement, even sad things become incredibly beautiful! It all depends on the perception and inherent beliefs! Thank you for this video, the background ambience and the amazing advice was just what I needed today! ❤ It affirmed to me the lessons I came to today and reinstalled a newfound confidence in my own path and self acceptance. One thing I wanted to add - I think that "I don't need to be perfect" is great, especially when you still have that belief that you "need" to be or do something, but when you add "I am" or "I do" statements after that, when you are ready (when they don't sound fake anymore), that makes it even better. It's very powerful (if and when) you can tell yourself that you don't need to be perfect, accompanied with "I love and accept myself just the way I am in this very moment" and really validate all you feel, let it through, affirm to yourself that you are loved by yourself - those do the real magic for me, they make my heart fly. ❤ I will still finish my thesis but I will be able to find more joy in the learning experience, I will have time to dive deeper into the topic and even write a couple of publications before I hand in the final version. So it's definitely a win to take things slower this time.

[@Devi_123_]

I was feeling very sad since morning, thinking about all the struggles i've been going through, my health, my sister always giving me problem for no reason being sarcastic all the time, my husband always putting me down but i take it all in for the love of GOD. I feel better after watching your video. I don't have to be perfect for anyone and i'm not perfect.

[@jeffreygleaves2931]

Good stuff....I've found as I get older I agonize over embarrassments and traumas of the past still feeling the pain. I realized how silly it was when I was reliving an episode of humiliation. It dawned on me that, "wait a minute! I was 7 years old when that happened! It wasn't my fault. Why the hell should I care about it now!" What's helped me get over such things is realizing what the physicists call Super-determinism....that is, everything that happened was going to happen. People hate this because it negates 'Free Will', but really how much free will do you think you have? How often has free will overridden your bad decisions? Even if you had made different choices shitty results would still have come your way. We're all just on a ride to who knows where. We can get dragged through it kicking and screaming, or we can do what Thoreau said, choose to live our lives deliberately and let come what may.

[@Earthtime3978]

True but we can also be 60 and reflect on cringy moments from our 40s, or even negative life altering decisions. I get all this awakening (I think), but I just find that if you are broke, it’s all so much harder to embrace.

[@jeffreygleaves2931]

@@Earthtime3978 I remember a wise man once saying, "I've been rich and I've been poor. Rich is better." He's not wrong Even after all that shit you hear about 'money can't buy love, etc. Sure it can. .....'Money is the root of all evil." No its not. There are a thousand evils in the world that have nothing to do with money. Money is just a thing like fire. You can warm yourself or burn your face off. It's a power....a force. But its not the only one. Whether you believe it or not you're a force of nature. The proof of that is because you're here. You exist. Because you exist you can create. Create what you want. The sky's the limit. it's not easy. It involves letting all that old shit we were just talking about go and centering yourself to right now. It's a bitch to do but its doable. Remember that goofy-ass Barbie Girl song? Well, taken for what it is she says something very powerful in it. "Life is your creation." She wants to be a Barbie Girl and that's her ride, but you can choose your own. Look around you. Maybe you're living in a van down by the river. Fuck it...make that van down by the river awesome. Wash and wax it. Rake the leaves in front. Air up the tires. Organize the rocks. Re-channel that energy of agonizing over the past into creating right now. Right now is the only thing that matters and its within your control.

[@xenatron9056]

We know these things, yet somehow, our humanity makes us strive for more. Thankyou for verbalising such simplicity, but I do think that we have been on a treadmill and we have forgotten that we are just 'ordinary' with a few special pieces. Somehow, all my life, ordinary was not good enough..... there was always more. These days, yeah, you are right..... we can't let go even if the dream was shattered, we still want what we want. We have never really been shown how to just 'be' and see what happens.

[@theresamcgallicher]

The paradox is that relaxing and accepting what is allows our dreams to take shape. Always trying so hard crowds them out.

[@tenchii555]

When you said „you do not need to be perfect.“ my whole face muscles started relaxing and everything tingled in my body as I became aware. It was really an spiritual experience and definitely what I needed to hear at this exact moment. Thank you from my heart ❤️🙏🏼

[@luciamixon4156]

Sorrow is the problem. It's a doozy. Sad. Thank you. Excellent advice.

[@jenifernadeau]

One of the times I'm grateful for the algorithms of KZbin LOL what we are talking about and pretty much what we're thinking LOL and then these things pop up in perfect timing.. grateful for your video!

[@ellispandit-spaanderman3742]

It's more than just not being perfect. Challenges happen as a result of our choices while we can't see the outcome. I can see the lessons in these challenges (what did it teach me, what is it teaching me). I am today 67 years of age, I live an unconventional life, made "wrong" choices and as a result I had and have to face many many challenges. Yet, I have no regrets, none whatsoever, because it has made me who I am today, a wise person, who can teach others, doing lightwork, motivational speaker. I inspire many people, young and older. That gives a feeling of satisfaction, that I am able to help. I wouldn't want it any other way. I am immensely grateful for all the challenges, all the suffering, leading to the realisation that true happiness lies within (the Kingdom of God is within) regardless of the circumstances. 💜🙏

[@casey8454]

I found you this morning. Letting go I know has held me back for so long, years in fact. Fear of making another terrible mistake has me stuck in "freeze" mode. There's nothing to justify any benefit in hanging on. A decision I made 33 years ago and realizing it the very next day has me imprisoned in not being able to forgive myself. I barrage myself with " you knew better, you knew better, you knew better". So much so it changed the course of my life and I wallowed in alcohol and drugs. Then the problem resolved itself and immediately I set a new path and was easily able to put the vices down. Now the voice has changed to "too late, you ruined your life because you didn't have the strength to change it yourself". Chilhood trauma must be resolved or in my case it walked with me every step. At 64 now, I'm seeking to redeem myself for myself.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

That's an incredible amount of awareness of your own thoughts and patterns. That's the first step to healing and understanding. You got this.

[@patrickvanzu]

There is a higher truth: 'Everything is always in perfect harmony'. In other words: stop seeking, you are already perfect. Just start looking more inside. Om shanti...

[@constantinak6648]

I needed this video. I suffer from from holding on so much that I can't even grasp. I try to control things in my life, but I feel out of control. It's like my life goes a totally different way than I want or try so hard for it to be the way I want. It's time for me to let everything happen by itself.

[@smssms7167]

wow i feel the same. Iam feeling everything is collapsing. My old self is not the same anymore. Iam handling it very bad and i dont like change. But, iam trying to embrace it somehow

[@Manikese]

“I do not need to be perfect.” Yeah, I felt that vibrate through my whole body.

[@xyzv8640]

Spot on. Made a (wrong) decision several months ago when I declined a job offer due to the thought that I wouldnt like it/ that it was not attractive for me. One month agoafter having had several other interviews, I painfully realized that I was wrong - it was surely no perfect job, but what in the world is? It had lots of good benefits and challenging tasks, however, I didnt see it at that time/ I was not mature enough to make a rational sound decision. Still, the time since that realization (beginning of may, so since 30days ago) I fell into a deep hole since I started to imagine myself having taken that job...making another (=better) decision..hard times. Your advice hits it home. Thank you for that.

[@Lilo-A]

It helps to remind myself that everything is happening exactly as it is supposed to.

[@Esmeralda18026]

"All you had to do was being perfect" and then abandoning me and going totally uninterested left me with hurt anger and most stupidly guild and now unable to let go also bc I held this person in such high regard. It is true I don't have to be perfect but still wish my life was getting better without being hurt once again. I'll have to accept though. But my mantra feels better saying you are perfect as you are and my life is perfect as it is.

[@kolethall2716]

This saved my life I think. It came to me in a great time of struggle and honestly, I'm so much happier after meditating on this, and truly giving it some thought. Your 100% correct. Thank you for your great words of wisdom.

[@colcooper9928]

Thank you, if practiced daily I can see how this would heal anyone's heart. Self mercy is the greatest gift bestowed onto mankind. Blessings and appreciation

[@IvanDude1]

"I do not need to be loved".... It's really come to this...

[@Miranda505]

I have made mistakes that have had lasting consequences. I've tried to let go and forgive myself but nothing seems to make me feel any better at all. Some decisions I have made were because I didn't know what else to do but they didn't make me happier.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Don't judge your past self by what you know today

[@estrellagapuz6202]

Anything we could believe works for us for a moment

[@joeyfarrell188]

Thank you, thank you, thank you - as a “perfectionist” this mantra is what I needed today 🙏😊🔥🔥🔥

[@RobTi]

Perfectionist here too… been trying to look for answers and ways to get rid of it, or be comfortable with letting go.

[@leeroy7597]

Love, Light, Lee ❤

[@KikiAndJeffreyPearl]

Beautiful setting!!!! These issues are just all the layers that were put upon us after we were born into this life as pure love…… our journey here is full of choices. Our greatest gift in this life is freedom of choice. We get to choose which layers to keep and which to remove….

[@NAD33N2.0]

You are a guardian angel for me right now. This message was speaking directly to me. As I'm preparing for meditation. This is the mantra that my soul needed. Thank you so so much. 💛💛💛💛

[@natureg4696]

i needed this ive been smoking weed for 25 years to escape my problems im quitting for a while now

[@captainbobsparrow9092]

“Progress doesn’t happen in a smooth, perfect line. We are flawed humans. There is no perfect life.”

[@aliciawelch1473]

I really needed this message today.. 😭 I've never come across amy of your videos before, but I woke up in a pit of despair and regret and self judgment today, and said "I don't know how to let these feelings go."...Really I was asking for guidance. I opened up KZbin and received this. My humble thanks to you, and also my spirit guides 💓🙏

[@av26]

Amen ❤ our quest for perfection is truly damaging

[@MindVersusMisery]

Truer words have never been spoken. But I would add - as a longtime perfectionist - that my striving to be perfect has many times held me back and actually set back my performances, relationships or even for career opportunities. Setting the bar too high is a very good recipe for fatigue, decreased wellbeing and ruined health, and many of the things we value in life require energy, wellbeing and health, so it's so contraproductive to strive at being perfect, or even "above average". We can try to improve here and there without being too harsh with ourselves. You do you, I do me, and we can respect and love each other in all our strengths and shortcomings!

[@440SPN]

@@MindVersusMisery Thank you for the truth well spoken. 🙏💕🌏

[@TereseJames3]

Thank you Todd, wabi sabi, practice of being okay with imperfection. I bought this symbol ENSO, it is in metal art form to remind me I am not perfect and neither is all of reality. It keeps me in the moment that I am okay with my fate (amor fati, love your fate) and that I accept my world as it is now. I didnt say it out loud as you say but now I will say it and shout it. I do not need to be perfect! Peace and love to you.

[@rodrigobiagi]

I don´t need to be perfect, I don´t need to have a perfect life. Thank You for this.

[@DihelsonMendonca]

My father used to beat me if I say something wrong, or even if I slip and fall on the ground. He did when we arrived at home. While he was beating me, he often said: "That's because I told you not to go outside". Most of the time, I really didn't know why I was being beaten. He also forced me to be the first in school. He said that I had no more things to do unless study, so, I should be the first one in everything "the perfect boy". Well. I don't hate him for that. What happened is that now I am 57 and for a big part of my life I suffer from melancholic depression, dysthymia, generalized anxiety, and panic attacks. I am insecure, fragile, all fear, but I got to be always the first one on the class, thanks to him. Perhaps his method was too strong, but I understand him. He wished my best, but he didn't have a good education to teach me without having to do that. He employed the method of fear, like a dictator. We all should comply. 😮

[@EleanorRigby417]

“The Root of Suffering is Attachment” ~Buddha

[@abdelrahim5184]

It's really trying to make ourselves perfect that causes a great deal of trouble. You can't perfect what is already perfected

[@maristahuddleston6213]

Exactly perfect is not for us to be perfect 💯

[@lucidity_world]

I've been thinking exactly this for some time now. My original motivation was to be kinder on myself so not too look back on things too critically and give myself a hard time. I was also expecting that it would also motivate me to do more things as my big problem is procrastination which holds me back, in fear I think, fear of embarking upon a task that I will put pressure on myself to do. But it didn't actually do that. I became less critical of myself when I didn't do things perfectly but I didn't do more. The trap I fell into of procrastination was always there. However, with the mantra you give here "I do not need to be perfect, I do not need to have a perfect life" this phraseology seems to appeal directly to my motivation and procrastination manifests like an opaque wall that slowly crumbles and then disappears before my very eyes revealing to me that what lay behind it was composed of exactly the same material as the things that are all around me already and that truly the only thing in the way of myself doing it was actually myself. What a beautiful lesson you have given me. Heartfelt thanks 🙏

[@luannd62]

Resonates deeply. I beat myself up over so many things, especially poor choices made in the past that hurt someone I love. This mantra will help, thank you.

[@jeanniegichigi2765]

Timely...synchronicity nicity.....You are the Sky and NOT the clouds!

[@adamencjo]

Nature sounds in the background and your walk sounds are so calming ❤

[@323martyrstreet8]

Success is an egoic hallucination.

[@MrAkosFintor]

Lost a wife, a good paying job, 2 homes; one to a wild fire, became homeless, no friends or family. Once you lose everything you are free. Free to die , free to live. Don't make a big deal out of living or dying. No thing matters absolutely, so why hold on to any thing. Willing to live, willing to die at any moment..... peace

[@itzajdmting]

I feel you man ✊🏽. I have very short moments where I can dwell in that peace, but I'm still often swept up in the mental cyclone of my mind and it's tortuous ruminations.

[@TheSubpremeState]

I will keep it short. I was thrown into hospital in agony that lasted 5 weeks to the day. The fast for 20 hours (no painkillers) not that I was getting many. That brought me back from the brink but the worst wast to come. I desparately meditated for 5 weeks continuously. Continuously I mean. Thinking was going to drive me insane. I became immune to pain but anxiety remained. Suffering is our cure. It won't matter in the end.

[@browndiamond457]

I literally cried when i heard the mantra,because it really is part of what i need right now to move forward. Thank you❤

[@ZenMasterNahc]

People say all the time, "you/it doesn't have to be perfect" .. but wait till you make mistake. Just ONE mistake and figure out that everybody is just a liar. Just playing their role in this extravagant play.

[@googlemusiconly1138]

I have said this mantra 2 times and already I feel my system relax, settle and feel at ease. Thank you so much

[@JamesSteven-mb8zf]

Brother yes best explanation. I'V HEARD SWEET THANK YOU.😊

[@RetoBuri]

same for me

[@pip915]

With great power comes great responsibility ❤

[@kennelson3848]

Accept - Accept - Accept what is.

[@ponse7912]

Todd you may not read this but I'm happy to hear you touch on manifestation, mantra's, positive thoughts. I've been reading deeply into spirituality and having a somewhat Christian background, I feel like I've finally found what I've been looking for in "God". It makes me feel less crazy to know there are other people out there walking a path similar to my own. Thank you for your thoughts on this and I hope all is well. Stay blessed

[@christinescholtz4386]

you are not alone. much love from you to you....💜

[@bryansmith5620]

I'd be curious to know what you found in God? I am searching to understand what God is and is Christianity the only way.

[@ponse7912]

@@bryansmith5620 hey Bryan, it took a lot of reading and soul searching for me to come to a conclusion of what and who god is. I’m more Christianity leaning but I do not involve myself with the rest that I don’t agree with. I’m more involved with what Christ specifically teaches. Everyone has to find Christ on there own but if you would like some book references I’d be happy to recommend some stuff.

[@mila7809]

@@ponse7912 Thank you for posting as I have ortodox christian background but don't find Jesus in church,rather through spirituality. And don't live in USA which makes it even harder to meet people who share the orientation... Books recomendation would help a lot. 🙏🌼🕯❤

[@ponse7912]

@@mila7809 hi Mila, I’d be happy to send some recommendations. Do you have a social media besides KZbin that I could send a message to? Much easier to screenshot my bookshelf and send it on. Let me know I’d love to help out!

[@Jamie-zi2nf]

Thank you for this! While I've been hard on myself (due to being a perfectionist) for most of my life, I have always believed in the fact that we are NEVER broken. This helped me realize that we only have broken expectations - not a broken heart, not a missed opportunity or mistake - but a learning experience for growth. Growth is never perfect! Thank you again, namaste ❤

[@jennystephenson1234]

I LOVE LOVE LOVE this!!! Thank you! You’re right so simple but how many thousands of little instances throughout my day am I expecting perfection & instantly internally blaming and shaming myself- my new mantra-I do not have to be perfect-my life does not have to be perfect!! It’s the simplest truths that we’ve lost sometimes

[@lanettafrench5539]

3 yrs of self investment to self this and self that all summed up in 2 small simple answers . Thank you and your gift.

[@dawnr7798]

I’m going thru such a soul changing life change right now and I’m scared. This video popped up on my newsfeed and it was exactly what I needed to hear. I am that dangerous combo of “do gooder” and “perfectionist.” I’m also realizing that my life might be one of sacrifice in terms of providing for my children. I will repeat this mantra, despite the fact that I could barely say it without crying. Clearly I needed it to hear this. Thank u ❤

[@kartikeyaaditya2202]

Hi Todd, believe it, the mantra would only work for those who are impure inside. But whose soul has gone through purification through certain practices, it will drop one down instead of lifting up.

[@adikeys]

Gratitude for this timely message❤ Namaste 🙏

[@TadiKAT]

Thank you 💗🙏💗 I'm struggling to forgive myself. My adult daughter married a true psychopath, addict, narcissistic abuser. After him beating her, again, she picked up his meth pipe & became addicted for 10 long years. She dropped her 2 very young children off with me to care for ( she knew she couldn't). The children had been molested in a motel room when she was gone somewhere leaving children with another male addict. After she dropped off the children, I panicked & called Child Protective Services... a HUGE REGRET that haunts me, still, 20 years later. The children were put in foster care then adopted... they went through HELL. They're grown now & doing well but the damage was done. I WISH I'd never gotten involved in the System! ( like you said, I know down deep it was the only option I felt I had, to protect the children from my Daughter coming back to get the kids.... I was terrified at that time as anyone would be. I think constantly "What would've happened IF I'd not called CPS?" 🤔

[@ToddPerelmuter]

You are doing your best. We really don't make decisions. There is no brain cells responsible for that choice. It was a decision that was made on its own based on infinite factors. Your care and love will guide you and your grandchildren well.

[@BoniniDave]

The mantra he introduces in this video is so incredibly powerful. I am so grateful to Todd for making this video and sharing this mantra. It helped me get through a really rough time. I use this mantra often, and I have even personalized it to help with my inner child healing. I have made it specific. Some examples are "I do not need to look perfect. I do not need to have a perfect body." Or, "I do not need to be the smartest person in the room. I do not need to be the most successful person in the room." Thank you Todd!

[@hhernandez1230]

Was laid off last week from a startup. I have been going through a process of healing and letting go of certain things and people in my life. This is my fourth lay off in my tech career. I mention this because I have a tendency to always wanting the perfect job or the perfect tech. Letting go of past hurts am is very hard for me ( diagnosed with adhd earlier this yr at 46) and letting go of the perfect future. So glad I came across this reminder that life is. It meant to be perfect. We suffer in our own intelligence.

[@bizygirl1]

Welcome to the tech world! Layoffs are so common. I’ve been in it since 1998. I’ve been through several layoffs and finally learned to stop internalizing them. It’s the business model! After 18 years I left private industry and entered government, it what a big change in itself but so rewarding. I work with brilliant, dedicated minds (not all) or the last 15 years. No layoffs, lots of opportunities for growth, excellent benefits, retirement benefits.

[@pastorjohnculbertson661]

My family threw me away, literally. I don't do drugs I simply wanted to quit drinking and sober up and wanted my family to do the same. So they threw me away instead. So I want to move away from this state completely.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

I can relate to you more than you know. Sometimes distance is necessary with a family that doesn't respect boundaries. Sending my love