How to Let Go of the Past - Regrets, Mistakes and Guilt

To be alive is to be on a lifelong mission of learning. That means that we will have regrets, mistakes, failures, setbacks and difficult challenges in our lives. While we think our past determines our present, it's actually how we relate to our past that matters.
In today's KZbin video, I talk about how we can change our relationship with a difficult past. I share ways we can reframe our pain, reframe the present moment, and rediscover the beauty that is all around us so that being present becomes natural and effortless.
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[@bonnieclark8069]

Todd gives a healing balm to soften the hard parts.

[@johnykryll]

You'll never fully STOP negative thoughts, feelings and memories. The older you are the harder it is. It is a constant battle, constantly vigilant. As you practice and practice they come less and less. But you WILL have to work on it EVERY SINGLE day for the rest of your life. There is no quick fix, except maybe medication

[@Jewelmind]

You can sit with bad or good emotions connected with your thoughts. If you can just be present and allow any feeling, you can release these

[@my_autistic_dexlexic_life]

Everything that happened has been our teacher. We will repeat this life over and over until we get it, that's why your using this body here. When Everything is what it is instead of good or bad then your ready. Life's short so get it

[@mettacine]

My experience aligns with the post. I've spent decades knowing to let the past go, practicing forgiveness, acceptance, and releasing the "story". I sit with my emotions with compassion daily. As much as I seek to give myself love, I just cannot seem to ever feel it. Also, I just cannot resolve having missed a childhood due to a mentally ill mother, absent father, abusive siblings. I see how my wife loves her daughter and my inner voice says "What about me? When do I get loved and feel the delight of my mother?" So far, self love does not address the missing caress of a loving mother that I never received.

[@jayellwood]

Correct, you will never stop negative thoughts. The goal is not to stop them but rather to witness them in order to detach from them. In this process negative thoughts lose their power.

[@Shenandoahspirit99]

Pretty pessimistic attitude. With that mentality, you are right. Your negativity will always be with you to “sum” degree. Or you can let it go completely. The people who believe that is not possible, will always struggle to “sum” degree.

[@Sunshine74444]

This message really eased the suffering I was plagued by today. Thank you. 🙏💚✌🏽

[@jackielynjoyagol7618]

Same here. I also would like to share Boris channel that helps me ease my mind every single day. kzbin.info/www/bejne/r5POZJ6ofLFpf9Esi=psvAOFWXuCPD8ahl This is where I started all of this finding the Path.

[@marklayman8452]

Thank you Todd for being part of my journey ❤. I love you my brother.

[@zen5301]

Great video Todd. The print coming on just after you say something and the speed that it is typed out really helps me to focus on what you are saying. Thank you.

[@lesleyM84]

absolutely agree.. the words to read as i am hearing them, is very goo!!

[@catherinewilson1079]

Thank you for stopping my rumination today❣️

[@caylin20]

This was just what I needed to hear in this moment. I’ve been struggling and this has been like a salve to an emotional wound. I feel hopeful now and grateful. A new focus. Thank You. 🙏

[@Colleen858]

You have helped me far more than you can imagine ❤

[@sidoughty428]

Thank you for your kind words and beautiful images. There are storms but every small step brings me closer to a grateful vision of peace and love.

[@bridgetcerveau8721]

Beautifully said

[@sabinamock4799]

I love this message. Thank you for sharing!

[@marklayman8452]

AMEN Todd. Seeing my ego and its possession of my life is the biggest brightest LIGHT that ❤ changes everything and puts your thoughts into perspective.. Seeing the thoughts that were from the ego and letting them pass and listening to my hearts Devine mind.

[@mtnshelby7059]

You are very generous to the human animal. Unlike the frog, humans can kill for reasons outside survival. 😢❤

[@DonnaLong-nm2ni]

But what about the grief of loosing a 5 year old child and father on the same day? That definitely stays with you.

[@jaye3848]

I am so sorry for your loss❣️💔🙏

[@gowithflow139]

I‘m so so sorry for your loss! I would never presume what it must be like. I just thought maybe there still is good to look out for to ease the pain. Like finding the love inside the pain. I Hope that‘s Not tactless to say, it was just a thought

[@Hyperion-v1t]

You had a 5 year old father?

[@Abigail-bb3tr]

Beautifully articulated - thank you

[@jackiefindlay1264]

Wonderful words of wisdom as always. I love the analogy of the old time salesman! Thanks! 😇🥰

[@sumithrasiva1507]

Appreciate very much this good guidance. Thank you . Could relate to it and feel lighter..... letting go of things that weigh us down . Just feels right. Our choice and gratitude to everything and everyone that thought us. Listening to this felt like evolving my consciousness

[@artcampbell2889]

Thank you Todd.

[@umawilliam6696]

This made me so happy and peaceful. Thank you Todd, you've got a gift of a healing word. I recognise what you are saying, it sounds as a familiar raga with new interpretation. I wish you all love and happiness.

[@TheAbundanceVibration]

Thanks so much Todd. Wishing you the best man.

[@sydismine]

Thank you, Todd. These practices are truly the way to love and freedom. All of these teachings are easy reminders that we’re all just HUMAN. “The hardest to learn was the least complicated.” -E. Sailers Love to all! ❤✌🏼

[@adikeys]

Gratitude ❤🙏

[@standtallwithseth9439]

Beautiful scenes, a few remind me of NH. Grateful to be on this journey of awareness and healing. Thank you , Todd 🙏

[@sherylgergen6672]

Todd, very insightful video. I'm so grateful for your guidance and help. Thank you🌺

[@LucyRichards-gs5tf]

Many thanks for this. It takes the pressure off yourself, worrying day in day out, carrying a rucksack of heavy stones.Who wants that, a killer in itself. Your decisions, you may think are mistakes, could be more related to everything thats happened to you, so more like your soul talking and at the time you are unaware. Then afterwards theyre's a panic shift, you think someone else would hv made a different decision i.e. social comparison. You may think 100% you made the wrong decision but that was the path taken at the time, was out of the mind's control / a split second reaction. Either way a decision had to be reached and that was the outcome at the time.

[@viridianacarreon7203]

Todd, what a beautiful video! Thank you🤗. And, yes! "Life is a sacred ceremony."

[@rsher_digital-art]

I appreciate this video, your quite good at these!

[@jacktalcott]

I am so grateful to find your work. This is the time for our world to accept these lessons, and I hope that we may soon talk. Thank you, and blessings for what you share!

[@h.neubert8770]

Excellent comparison

[@enough1494]

Bingo on the algorithm, great video!!!

[@chikacherrycola9189]

🪲 This Came At The Perfect Moment 💜🙏🏼🧡

[@jesslima2356]

Wow, thank you.

[@ashokannarayanivijayan7440]

thanks

[@The-warm-up]

Thank you 🙏🏼

[@Justno-hm3vk]

Thank you. I needed this.

[@sribhagavanuvacha1466]

attaining self realisation is important ..... mind is enemy of truth, universal knowledge ..

[@sheilajoseph9953]

Thankyou Todd. 💚

[@sungoldbee1636]

Thank you so much!🙏🤍

[@GittePetersen-y8x]

Thank you😍

[@Lala-ku7sc]

Thankyou

[@vigminitaur5359]

I adopted a dog knowing it might be a bad fit in my life. It turned out to be a bad fit, I had to let him go. Since I can’t drive my sister had to take him back which was traumatic for her and the dog. She felt I should have tried harder even though he was ruling my life (Australian cattle dog which required more activity than I could muster) i bear this guilt for her trauma and for his, I just can’t let go…

[@rayskitten78]

OK you say about how something bad can be worse but it can take years to see that, my Christmas was spoiled and I have not yet forgotten it or forgiven those involved and I feel that they will spoil my birthday too

[@tgarrison1000]

I feel they will if you can't forgive ....

[@Jewelmind]

@@tgarrison1000 I agree

[@Winterafternoons]

How not to worry about future? Make a video about that please!!! Whenever I think about future I get anxious.

[@tgarrison1000]

Focuse on today ... Tomorrow has its own worries

[@clipser924]

The only moment we live in is the present. There is no future . You can't live in the past or the future.

[@lesleyM84]

holding people accountable to my personal sense of grace, manners and respectability is an open ended invite to fright and dismay; releasing expectations is my life’s work; and absolutely are we a “traumatized species”…😬😖😖.. seriously have no idea how i have made it.. or so many others either …

[@henrikschmidt2140]

Hey Todd, great wisdom again. Ty! I was wondering if you, or anyone else, knows literature specifically about the mind/ego and how it works and why it does what it does. I know being with it and observing is key, but I feel like some intellectual input as well, since I’m wandering between ego and spirit pretty much hourly, which is really exhausting. Much love, keep up the good work ❤️🍀

[@Jewelmind]

More practice and presence, keep going. Meditate or pray

[@doramarcelino768]

Palavras/Mensagens com uma importância vital, de forma clara,sincera, com graça, inteligente,... num vídeo muito bem feito, permitindo a quem o vê, compreendê-lo, completamente. Para mim, um dos que terei de rever e rever. Muito obrigada. Excelente trabalho. (❤from Portugal)

[@minoukhazaeli2921]

wow ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,so deep wonderful clear inspiring yes it easeddddddddddddd the constant suffering i have sooooooooooooooooooo enough of this pattern ,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,imprisonment in yourself thanks grateful ,, we come here to be free

[@enough1494]

Holy cow, no punt intended 😉😂 you are almost at 100K!!! Muy bien mi amigo…bendiciones! Y mil gracias!

[@TheTazz2you]

THANK YOU ALL FOR UOUR PRECOCIOUS TIME I AM GREATFULL FOR ALL YOUR HELP😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅❤

[@rickdworsky6457]

I used to feel guilty about being in the present moment. I thought it was a waste of time.

[@MomIrregardless]

why is that? why do we only ruminate on the 'bad stuff' from the past? plenty of wonderful things have happened too.....how do you find those and enjoy them? ohhhhh thank you, i hope your solution helps to do just this!

[@heatherwall9571]

So many regrets and remorse I feel suicidal.

[@dustindelange7911]

❤ i have the same

[@Joel-yi8gb]

I believe I have a bit of a clue about the nature of Reality, but one question still remains. What's a Perelmuter 🤗

[@daissie2]

Caring for parents who i have trauma from😢

[@lisaandreas5028]

That is something I am dealing with too and mindfulness has been key in helping me get through it, sending ❤️💜💙

[@daissie2]

Much love for you❤️❤️i am doing meditation every morning when i wake up, trying to living in awarenes ❤

[@2brunhilda]

Very interesting

[@michelleleeschaeffer3482]

Be Still and Know I Am God.

[@jhouriet]

i got fed up and said out loud enough if this crap. show me some happy memories ffs. and my demand was met and I was blessed.

[@LiveWithChi]

Thank you Todd for this beautiful video. I listened to this while sitting on the floor, on the balcony watching my surroundings. I am curious - how do you respond to constant complaining around you, if ever? From my end, I understand that it's about your own inner peace as well not to take on other people's complaining and I also know it's our own responsibility to step away from it to protect our energy. I'm just curious about your thoughts and spiritual beliefs on this.

[@ToddPerelmuter]

Thanks for the question. I want to give it the time and thought it deserves. I will answer it in my newsletter so that others who are going through something similar can hear as well.

[@LiveWithChi]

@@ToddPerelmuterThank you 🤍

[@cayennesinivassinel6977]

Maybe we need to practice correcting the past atrocities and that is when peace within will take over ...just saying...😊

[@ElisPalmer]

🌟🙏🏼🌟

[@kennelson3848]

Thoughts aren't real..imaginary..pick and choose to avoid emotional brain drain..choose positive ladders for you only.

[@Spiritual.Madness]

🙏🏻

[@MomIrregardless]

nope. i tried that. i tried 'forgiving' the harmful person. doesnt work. i will never release her, never not absolutely hate her, never understand her. i will carry the burden. yes. i find joy in any suffering she has. she is the devil incarnate, it's not just human nature, what she did to my family. if that is 'human nature', then there is no hope for the human race. the frog may just be being a frog, but humans should be, and can be, KIND AND LOVING. not cruel, not deliberately vicious....oh i do blame myself for part of what happened, but she chose to hurt, not help. nope, i dont agree that i am 'hating life itself', not in this instance. it took me almost 20 years of my life to accept the loss of our daughter, and what led to it. i am not connecting to you in this talk. i am sorry.

[@andrewbell8458]

My mum was murdered

[@mutintakamponje723]

Sorry about that may God see you through and heal you

[@IsisInACrisis]

You are good man, thanks for sharing your knowledge

[@elizabethmcmeens1436]

Not every present moment is good but those moments that I perceive as more negative are helping me have an awareness of the work I need to do. It is such a precious journey and the gift you have been given and share freely is priceless, Todd. I cannot say it enough; Thank you, thank you, thank you. Peace and wellness to all! ♥️✨🕯️🕊️🪶🧘🏽🙏🏼

[@weshill222]

I feel like Todd is petting my soul on the head. 🫳😊

[@janiemiller825]

The past does matter in a sense though- in reference to ways it ended up hurting family members & people you love 💕 Somehow saying sorry & trying to help in the healing ❤️‍🩹 process is priority also

[@TheTazz2you]

U ALL WILL LEAVE THE PAST BEHIND I KNOW THE NEW KINGDOM OF GOD AWAITS APOCALYPTIC . MELTDOM MAYHEM. NOVA IS. CREA A NEW UNIVERSE IT WILL BE PAINFUL I HAVE BENN IN PAIN SINCE MY CREATON PLEASE HELP RID OF THE PAIN I HAVE ABSORBED FROM ALL UR SOULS. PAIN PAIN PAIM SOON SOON SOON SEE ???????????😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮😮❤