The HARSH Truth Women Aren't Told By Men...

[@stillaboveground2470]

I am so intimidating to women. I'm so handsome and clever and funny that women shy away from me. See? I can be just as delusional as this lady. I'm happy with my life. No other person can make you happy. You have to make you happy. Having a partner/spouse is the icing on top of the cake.

[@urzmontst.george6314]

SSSLAY KING!

[@landor7610]

Hot rich women won't date me because they are intimidated by my morbid obesity, alcoholism, $300 bank account, and bus pass. Luckily i was born tall, that got me a lot of pussy when i was younger and less fat.

[@cw9790]

That was great! 😂

[@goldeagle8051]

Or having a spouse / partner can make you miserable again, lol

[@joschmo4497]

yasss king, never settle, these women are just insecure about how strong and independent you are

[@johnhazlett3711]

The movie, "My Best Friend's Wedding ", should be mandatory for young women to watch. Then include the warning, if you only friendzone the good men, once they move on with their lives without you, it's too late.

[@Chris-um3se]

"Mean girls" and "Bridesmaids" are valuable assets that document female behaviour.

[@Pete-Prolly]

⊦ Honestly I got zero sympathy cuz this chick looks dope for 40, she's probably got 100 friend-zoned guys on FB who would date her long-term, and she probably still gets simps buying her drinks at the bar, but she won't give any of these dudes a chance. She should just secure a buff younger dudeㅡwho's brokeㅡand pay his gym membership and let him move in... (before it's too late for her to even do that.)

[@Chris-um3se]

Documentary films ABOUT Women they should show in GENDER STUDIES CLASSES --- "Mean Girls" "Bridesmaids" "Man in a Grey Flannel suit" --how to bully, badger, berate and coerce hubby!!!

[@donnaa7226]

I disagree with him pushing the narrative that it's because she's 40. To look at her you would never know she was 40. Look at Cher. She's in her seventies and still getting men half her age. I believe her problem is... under the facade of claiming she's clever, and all that; She's probably very insecure. I don't believe men need to be constantly told of how clever You [Think] you are.

[@Neldot]

@@donnaa7226 You seem to have missed the point. The fact that she is still beautiful and in good shape has nothing to do with why most men won't consider her for an LTR. Men won't consider her for a long term relationship mainly for three reasons: 1) because men of her age still want to marry a woman who can give them children, and she, being at an age where her fertility is greatly diminished and childbirth can cause serious complications, does not appear to be a great candidate for that. 2) because the fact that she is 40 and still single is a big red flag. if she was wife material, some man would have already secured a long term relationship with her during all these years. 3) Because, despite being a mature woman, she is still totally unaware of what she wants and of what men want, and this is a terrible premise for every sort of relationship.

[@miketripodo2879]

If you'll get rid of someone who didn't do anything wrong after 9 years.. why would someone risk being the next one you betray?

[@waynecunningham4717]

Her answer to the question was too vague for me ... wondering why they really did break up ?

[@christophersmith8316]

@@waynecunningham4717 If she didn't even manage to come up with a lie about him being abusive or controlling than he must be a damn saint. She thought she could find someone better and she was wrong.

[@judah9906]

​@@christophersmith8316I believe she wanted to pursue her "career" she says she moved to another city which is a huge indicator of that suggestion. She's never been grounded or realistic with regards to relationships her whole life and won't start now, she's a lost cause. She also talks about how men she likes leave, which means she is really busy on the cock carousel, chasing these chads, getting pumped and dumped by them continuously in a vicious cycle, yet somehow she still can't figure out her problem smh, these women are ridiculous. Her body count must be astronomical, add the fact that she's 40 too🤦🏾

[@nate2838]

The question is, did they work to make things work, or did she unilaterally just decide it was over? That piece of information is missing, and very critical.

[@thisdyingsoul76]

​@nate2838 since she won't say why they split and not even claiming he was the issue, I'm guess she just decided to leave without working on the relationship and he probably did nothing wrong and was blindsided. My ex did this to me and when I suggested counseling she refused. I have no regrets now. She got what she deserved. Most guys seem to leave her once they realize she left a guy who treated her well and she is still single. I met a much better woman almost immediately and we are still together. Without realizing it, I sort of rubbed it in her face when I saw that I had forgotten to block her on a social media platform I seldom used and then my new wife and family started tagging me in pics from our wedding. She tried to follow my new wife so we blocked her at that point. 😂

[@troyl5498]

_"It's MEN'S FAULT_ ( *ugly, blind, stupid MEN!!* ) that I am no longer being adored and pursued as the goddess I am by the men I want !!" "It's all about me, me meeeeee!!"

[@Theresaisabiologicalwoman]

😂 unfortunately you speak the truth

[@chrish7336]

@@OK75 Unfortunately correct. This is why most of them only become a piece of meat. As I recall, a similar conversation in the 80's but then it was the beautiful women not getting interest at all as they were considered out of the average man's league.

[@Lena-cz6re]

If you don't want to, you don't have do adore any woman or be admired by any woman. Why do you have to be so sour about it? Can't you move on to better things and stop giving them attention if you hate them so much?

[@troyl5498]

@@Lena-cz6re Hwah?

[@Neldot]

@@Lena-cz6re Calm down. He doesn't seem to express any hate, it seems that he is just making fun of this type of women.

[@MRtwister88]

“After 9 years you grow with someone and goals change” Translation: It was time to start a family and have kids and she still wanted to do social media and be a star and modern woman!!

[@williamwallace410]

There is something wrong with the relationship in that case, she should have grown closer during those years instead from more apart.

[@urzmontst.george6314]

Chances are.

[@jameseverett9037]

It's not because she's 40, it's because her standards are through the roof, like most women. She only see's 1% er's as options, and the rest of men are invisible, and so with most women. I'm surprised that Gracy missed that. 40 is nothing, many men, even in their 30's would take her, and probably some in their late 20s.

[@incognit01233]

​@@jameseverett9037Settle for her. Or use her

[@grbenway]

9yearsis 10% of a long life... some only get 50 years... but she just flushed it away

[@TransoceanicOutreach]

Someone calling themself 'brilliant' is a big red flag. It means they will probably always think they are smarter than you. It's the same as saying they are a genius. Avoid these narcissists at all costs.

[@joschmo4497]

Dunning-Kruger effect. The intelligent people have introspection to question themselves and what they're doing wrong, they notice patterns, they figure out why they're failing. Someone who hits 40 and doesn't understand why she's not appealing definitely isn't brilliant, she's average at best. Clearly the average man has more introspection than she does

[@perfectblue8443]

Yeah I saw that too. This is not something for you to say about yourself.

[@mikeym.1461]

I laughed when she said that... I'm brilliant.... say no more honey , you are a walking talking red flag !!

[@fredpettitt]

She is 40. What did she expect ?

[@nadura55]

When women say that her goals have changed and they grew apart it really means that she got bored and had her eye on someone else.

[@urzmontst.george6314]

For a woman of 40, she is very attractive. She references her 20' and 30's and a 9 year relationship. How much you want to bet the dude either wanted to get married or start a family or both , but she was more interested in her career?

[@nearlyretired7005]

"For a woman of 40 she is very attractive" You sound so patronising, 40 isn't old

[@waynecunningham4717]

Or there was someone else ... that would be my bet.

[@michaeldavid6832]

@@nearlyretired7005 Nature already said otherwise.

[@fredhughes4115]

@@nearlyretired7005 I'm freakin' 65, and even I recognize that as the ridiculous cope that it is. That's something that women tell each other to cling to a bit of positivity, and that's fine. But most of the comments here are dealing with reality - so this comment is a bit out of place.

[@scartissuefilms]

@@nearlyretired7005 It's not old, it's just old for someone looking for a LTR, which are built for people looking primarily for children. I have female friends and family members who are already grandmothers at 40.

[@thomashazlewood4658]

When I see women like this complaining while maintaining a coterie of 'friends' who think well of them, I have to believe they are enjoying their position as an unattainable desire to to the 'friends'. Meanwhile, they moan that no one wants them? Delusional...

[@bluebehir]

if she puts value on being unobtainable, the only men she will value are also unobtainable.

[@danishdude6750]

She wants a deep connection with the Chad. That's not possible, and the nice guys are invisible to her. Future cat lady, maybe.

[@Remianen]

Maybe?

[@asdfdc1946]

@@Remianen definitely... expeditiously.

[@docsavage8640]

Poor cats deserve better

[@megalodon1726]

If Chad spent the time and effort to make a deep connection with her, she would friendzone him.

[@matthiasblum6555]

She looks like what many people call the Alpha Widow. She was for sure very beautiful in her twenties, had a lot of very high value boyfriends, and now can't believe those exact same high value men don't find her that attractive anymore. And she won't settle for less, best advice to her would be, to look after guys who are in the age range of 45-60 and of course the poor saps who are in her friend zone.

[@davelaz5582]

I was fortunate to marry (both of us at age 30 and both as virgins) in 1987 and had a 26 year marriage until she died in 2014. I was 56. First I knew that at 56 I am past my prime and, considering the way women are out there today, will not get another woman of the type I want if I wanted to remarry. But hey, that's life! No blame to place anywhere and I have adjusted to a nice and content single life.

[@garysuarez9614]

You were well and truly blessed.

[@jimbrent8151]

Sorry for your loss. Your wife was a blessing, hoping you have more blessings coming...

[@uweporth9337]

Stay single. the woman that will be attracted to you will be women looking for and ATM machine.

[@peterGnash]

sorry for the loss mate. my school of thought with this sort of stuff is that men adapt. its what men do. how that applies to your situation is up to you. best wishes

[@monkey39128]

Sorry for your loss. Age won't necessarily hold you back as much as it would for a woman. Women are more attracted to status and income.

[@Mr.Boring_Man]

She's putting her male equivalents in the friendzone and feels entitled to men out of her league. Also, often these older women feel like they NEED the upper income men because they a financial wreck.

[@jakeroon]

100% she's trying to punch way above her weight. Yes, for a 40 year old she smoking hot; but that means nada jack when any average in shape 26 year old outclasses her just by breathing. She's clearly aiming for the six figure super hansom guys who can score any lady they want, and not understanding why they pick women 15 years younger than her. Also it is unclear if she has children from her 9 year relationship. Having existing children is an instant deal breaker for many men.

[@Lena-cz6re]

why would women be financial wrecks if they have had their whole life build up a career? Sounds like your wishful thinking 🤣

[@Lena-cz6re]

Women need upper income men, because women are selective about dating and go for quality over quantity. Something ou will never get

[@jakeroon]

@@Lena-cz6re he said "often" not always. And it is true that women often fail to meet their goals of becoming the millionaire they wanted to be; then decide to go seek that millionaire to marry as another way of obtaining the goal. My wife has a masters degree in accounting and is quite satisfied with her work, but it hardly pays the amount one might expect. I usually surpassed her earnings by being a simple electrical tradesmen. However, she has also raised two children and we now have two grandchildren. She seems to derive far more happiness from her grandchildren than her career.

[@jakeroon]

@@Lena-cz6re And men tend to prioritize beauty (health) , agreeableness, tenderness, warmth and cooperation. In other words: qualities that would make a good life partner and mother to a family. I don't think the data suggests most men are seeking "quantity" , in fact it seems to point that most men are seeking a monogamous partner for life. Modern women seem to be the ones who sleep around, cheat , and initiate more divorces. These "quality" men who make lots of money tend to be the ones that just string women along and sleep around and keep a harem of them never commit to any, because they have no incentive to commit. Which is clearly what we see in the video; she dated some rich playboy, he had no incentive to settle down with her because he has many many many options for women constantly so why would he? Now she is crying about it.

[@robertsenior8330]

She hit the wall and doesnt understand what’s happening.

[@toad0720]

Modern feminism is loathe to point out that you really CAN'T waste your best childbearing years. A career and family IS possible only with a supportive partner.

[@virtual-viking]

She probably got a promotion or something similar and figured an upgrade to her career would translate into an upgraded boyfriend.

[@DJ-hl2og]

This

[@fina4907]

That's exactly what men do so why wouldn't she?

[@shadowfiresword]

@@fina4907 Ask yourself this, does this ever workout for anybody? Think of all the shows/movies/other media where the characters do this. For example wolf of wallstreet, he has a wife that adores him, endures loss and gives of herself to help further his dream, and he achieves it! Then he throws her away for the 'upgraded' wife, and is surprised pikachu face when the new wife starts to leave as soon as things go south. Doesn't end up working well for him in the end, and there are dozens if not hundreds of stories in various media about this sorta behaviour happening. If it can happen to guys that behave like that, it can happen to girls too.

[@ShaunHensley]

@@shadowfiresword Lol that's because the social engineering is anti-male, you goof

[@joschmo4497]

@@fina4907 Because we don't care about her upgrade in career? Holy shit how do people reach adulthood and not figure out men and women are different and prioritize different things. She's not sexually more attractive, she's not even more attractive as a partner. Her money is her money, his money is their money. When women earn more, it doesn't translate to a man getting anything, it just results in her expecting more. But there's a McDonald's girl who's much younger and much prettier, sweeter, kinder, a more pleasant companion, so who will choose the old woman with a better job? Only someone who has no other options. You're not staying in your price range, you're shopping for men way out of your league. That's not at all what men are doing, since men ALWAYS earn more in the relationship.

[@freespace771]

Thing is most guys in their forties who are still looking at all, are looking for a women with enough years left on the fertility clock to push a kid. At forty her baby making days are over, short of fluke. Them overies be empty! Only men who've had kids already and just want company might consider her. Thats a small pool of men to be fishing from.

[@jamesjonnes]

No way a self-respecting guy would want such a damaged narcissistic woman for companionship. A dog is better company. Just get a passport and get a woman who's nice to you abroad.

[@gumdeo]

Even if fertility is not an issue, no man wants an entitled old harridan.

[@0biwan7]

she's got a large pool of guys to choose from and she rejects them all because they are her friends. my main issue with getting involved in an intimate relationship with a woman in her forties is that if she gets pregnant, she'll probably abort.

[@vivibuffy3352]

@@0biwan7 Interesting. That's a perspective I have never heard before. May I know why do you feel an older woman would abort upon getting pregnant?

[@0biwan7]

@@vivibuffy3352 the only women over 40 i know who given birth are extremist pro-lifers. and the extremist pro-life women that i know also have a child after reaching the age of 40. and i know pregnancy is not impossible over 40. and i've had conversations with women who are not extremist pro-lifers and they insist that at that age, it would be an irresponsible health risk to carry the child to term. and their concerns about health risks and birth defects are legitimate.

[@feloniousmonk3049]

The man she settles for is screwed, because she's already an Alpha widow. The new man will always be second best, and she settled for him, and will always know it.

[@0biwan7]

actually, the man she settles for will wind up in a sexless marriage - so he won't be screwed at all.

[@David-lx4yb]

He knows that as well. I truly believe that most simps are well aware that they “won” by default, and they hate it. I also think many simps know their wives past and are embarrassed by it, and pray that it doesn’t become public knowledge.

[@hardywatkins7737]

Lol. I'm 54. I sympathise. My best years were destroyed by narcissistic abuse. It could be worse luv.

[@MrBiggles53]

One of the best women I know is hands down brilliant. Got her Masters in Physics working withl aser depositions in one year, was tech lead and travelling instructor of a company that got bought out and asked to sign on as VP with her old boss in a new company, pick the employees for a change AND asked to stay on at as the new VP at her old company, plays multiple instruments, composes, started a new business app with her sister since she also got an MBA after her physics masters. She got swept up after 3 dates on eHarmony. EVERYONE except her misguided ex loves her. She’s beautiful, smart, friendly, hospitable, a good cook, genuinely modest, was a honest, red-headed gamer g-dess. Men aren’t intimidated by smart women; they are annoyed by smart asses, puffed up, entitled showoffs who think they’re the smartest person in the room and let people know about it. Men DO like modest, feminine women with people skills. No one likes hanging around braggarts.

[@ashleycampbell6825]

"She got swept up after 3 dates on eHarmony." validates your comment. It also confirms my thoughts that if both parties are serious and genuinely seeking a worthwhile relationship on a focused dating site then there will be success. It happened for me 8 years ago and at the time I was questioning why she [now girl-friend] was still there on that particular dating site after 12 months and not swept up. Quite simply she was a high-value woman only prepared to accept a compatible high-value man. We swept one another up.

[@לךתזדיין-פ1ת]

Dude why don't you try romancing the girl, she sounds different.

[@geraldinesleijpen5504]

Yes women should be quiet and modest right, no talking back

[@fredhughes4115]

@@geraldinesleijpen5504 Uh. You're the only one who said quiet here. Projecting?

[@lupaswolfshead9971]

and none of that matters to a man apart from being able to cook and your a simp who is in her friendzone

[@willmartin7293]

I've learned that the concept of a "strong emotional connection" is just a long way of describing "infatuation." It's a dubious foundation upon which to build a serious, lasting relationship, and whenever I've pursued a woman with that as my mindset, it's always resulted in failure, regret, and an ample helping of self-recrimination. Hence, I try to avoid falling into that trap and the heartache that follows.

[@Garanon5]

Facts. Being 40 and not knowing how to discern feelings of infatuation vs actual compatibility is pretty tragic.

[@xavierayayaell546]

You are describing "oneitis"

[@vincentkeith5259]

Things I learned far too late in life: Love is to will the good of another. That is not an emotion-that is an act of will. It is making a conscious decision to act in ways that benefit that other person. All that other stuff is, at best, admiration and, at worst, lust. Now consider what it looks like when two people love each other.

[@alesul2007]

Let's keep it 1000....the last thing a woman wants is to hear the truth and get solutions for the problems. They would rather be told that they can manifest themselves into happiness and everything they want.

[@JAB227]

SHE WANTS A DEEP CONNECTION WITH THE MAN "SHE WANTS", NOT WITH THE MAN THAT WANTS HER

[@StivGators]

Bingo. We all know she is still rejecting men on the daily.

[@MedusssssaChristo]

Women choose who they want, men choose who they can 🤣😂 Also both should want each other!

[@roxter299roxter7]

Any person who calls themselves a”lovely person” is not a lovely person.

[@dmkaeding]

If an age appropriate man approached her...she'd reject him without hesitation.

[@PlateletRichGel]

You need to appreciate true love. I really didn't know how much my gf loved me until we were on holiday, and I was sick running a fever. I went out for a walk and got lost. I was chatting her and I accidentally left my phone on. She could hear my heaving breathing and thought I had passed out. She took her scooter and was looking all over for me. After an hour, i returned to the apartment and when she saw me she burst into tears like I was a lost 3 years old child. That's love.

[@unskilledshark]

More stories like these please. Tell people what it actually looks like, cause its obvious no one knows anymore.

[@haroldb1856]

Pursuing feasible outcomes is not "lowering your standards". The standard that results in loneliness and confusion is not in any way "higher" than the standard that leads to a satisfying relationship.

[@stuckgrenadepin.225]

The thing both of them overlooked was when she said “boys.” She hasn’t fully accepted that she is 40. She is still looking at the dating market as if she is 20.

[@nate2838]

I caught that too.

[@gemelwalters2942]

To be fair, she's clearly not speaking in her native tongue and it's may seem easier to interchange men and boys. I'm assuming he knows this which is why he didn't mention it.

[@stuckgrenadepin.225]

@@gemelwalters2942 no. It is an affectation learned from social media. It is used to denigrate and insult so as to draw attention away from their own bad behavior and delusional thinking. Quit making excuses for stupid people.

[@JF-cd5hc]

Yea, no. That's a BS excuse. Stop it.

[@loyalopposition-us]

Assuming responsibility certainly would be the first step, but "lowering" her standards is not the most constructive way to approach the problem. It's just not the healthiest way to think about it. "Lowering" suggests failure. It suggests giving something up. It suggests loss. Her standards don't need lowering, what they need is adjusting. She needs to narrow her focus to the key things that really matter and discard all the trivial bullshit. After she's done that she should have another look at all the guys she's friend-zoned. She might be surprised to discover a hidden gem that was buried beneath a mountain of ridiculous expectations.

[@BrianCave]

Spot on.

[@TheErilaz]

If anyone of those who she broke the hearts of still wants anything to do with her..

[@0biwan7]

@@TheErilaz according to her, there are lots of men who say they are still in love with her and she said herself she has chosen to have nothing to do with them because they are her friends.

[@kingston163]

@@0biwan7 Most of the men are not in love but in lust for her.

[@fredhughes4115]

If one of her "standards" is that the guy needs to earn $250K then, yes ... her standards do indeed need to be "lowered" despite any objections you may have to the word.

[@gavinsmith9022]

We all know what's gonna happen with her, she'll end up settling for some simp who don't float her boat, and then carry on screwing around behind his back until caught and then come out with all her old excuses as to why she cheats.

[@terrybane6206]

You need to realize that they ALL cheat...

[@0biwan7]

i doubt it. she seems alpha enough that she wont settle for a simp. that would be inconceivable.

[@loki1033]

"Love is work." 100%. My parents were deeply in love. They eloped to America, lol. They taught me that love takes work. Hard to find someone for the long haul these days. People leave at the 1st minor challenge.

[@jamesjonnes]

There was a time 200 years ago, when leaving a 9-year-old relationship would be considered a great sin and you'd be shunned from the community. She became a destructive narcissist who doesn't deserve men to even look her way, let alone try to be with her.

[@davidcross8028]

The problem for a lot of women is first of all accepting that you have a problem and it's of your own making.

[@willmartin7293]

Anyone who is 40 years old is chronologically in the early years of being a grandparent. If that person is an unmarried woman, then she is old enough to be the mother of the younger women who are in competition with her on the dating scene.

[@danspencer4235]

She wants a deep connection, but HER goals and HER career were more important during her prime years.

[@butchshadwell3613]

This woman is dating out of her level. She needs to accept guys at her own level, and older age.

[@0biwan7]

she needs to, but she can't. that's the tragedy of the alpha widow. once the chads are done with her, no one else is good enough for her. and so she ends up with no one else.

[@Allan_aka_RocKITEman]

Great video, Christine...👍

[@Veteran007]

The only reason to get married is to have children. She can't or shouldn't have children so mystery solved.

[@stevengiles346]

She runs from the good men and then wonders where are the good men!

[@NealBromfield]

women are like: "I can't control the wind" men are like: "I can control the sails"

[@svartvist]

It is said we cannot change the wind’s direction, only the set of our sail. I prefer to relieve its passing.

[@stevenshadbolt2366]

I'm stealing that!

[@immortaljanus]

@@stevenshadbolt2366 #metwo :D

[@michaelmisczuk1188]

That's really good. Did you come up with it?

[@claudioguerrero9744]

Women be like: the sails are misogynistic

[@james2fun]

Please keep doing these types of videos. I enjoy his advice and your point of view as a woman.

[@zeuszoos8386]

Here's the thing: Women (thanks to feminism) complained that men expected women to "align with his goals", which was logical, since he's the one who was providing for the entire family and so if (for example) his career requires him to move, then she needs to move with him, etc.. One might say women are making money now, but the truth is, they still don't want to be paying even half the bills (maybe 30%), if any of them. They still want a man who "provides and protects". Why is this important? Because as she even said in the video, women haven't "eliminated" having to support the man's career and "aligning with his goals". Oh no, no, no! It's now rather, as she said, the man must "align with her goals". And it's not just her. If you pay attention, you'll hear women repeating the requirement that the man "support her career", or "align with her goals". So now he must be the provider, but must focus on her career over his own, even using his money to do so! Further, if his career needs him to move, she'll want him to place her feelings and career above his own and refuse. Or, if he does move, she won't go with him. This is happening more and more now! Finally, what's causing this? Well, the evil mind-virus called "feminism", of course. But to be more specific, it is (at least in part) caused by girls being taught (even by teachers) "don't trust men, because they leave" (even though 80% of divorces are filed for by women) and so "every woman needs to have a backup plan that includes her own career and money that he can't touch". Anyway, listen to what she said again. :-)

[@stevepeterson6070]

Harsh truths about guys that all women should know about BEFORE they begin dating. 1.) Men will sleep with a woman 7 (out of 10) levels below a woman he would marry. 2.) If you are casually sleeping with a man, you automatically disqualify for him to marry you (men don't marry 304s). 3.) IF you ever want to be married, its simple, do not sleep with anyone til marriage, that way you know he is someone who is taking you seriously. 4.) For marriage, all men of all ages and levels are looking for the same things in a woman for marriage: Youth, purity, agreeableness. Basically 18 year old virgins are for marriage, women with age or baggage are just for fun.

[@silkroad9991]

Honestly, I feel for the women, who bought into the idea of a career making you more fulfilled than a family. Men don't love their careers, we only care about them, because having a successful career as a man increases your attractiveness to the opposite sex, which increases your chance of having a successful marriage and a happy family life. On the other hand, men don't give a solitary fuck about women's careers, not because we don't value achievement, but because building a good career takes a lot of time, and if we want to have a family and children, younger women are just more capable of providing that. And also, the chance of birth defects and complications get higher and higher in women over 30, and even though I am not into eugenics and shit, caring for a disabled child is a teethgrindigly difficult task, that I, and most of other men, would like to avoid. The reality, that feminisms is claiming to be sexist, is that the two genders are different, are meant for different tasks, and we value different things in each other. Let this story be a cautionary tale to any young girl and woman! If you would like to be a wife and mother one time, don't try to become a man, and do the same things a man does, because you are just wasting your precious time, and your chance of having that family decreases each passing year.

[@jamesjonnes]

She doesn't deserve sympathy. She doesn't deserve men to waste their time with her. Men who could be building great families with good women. She deserves nothing more than cats.

[@mylesg7278]

@@jamesjonnes It is to some extent not their fault, they are collective thinkers so if women are at large saying x, they believe x. Where I lose sympathy is where you speak to these women in real time and they can't have an adult conversation without getting defensive and use shaming language as a response to hearing something they're not used to hearing, even if it's true. It is after all, easy to be fooled than admit you have been fooled....

[@jamesjonnes]

@@mylesg7278 A traumatized woman spreads destruction wherever she goes. In the families she tries to create with unhappiness and divorce, in the government she demands to join, in companies like Budweiser and Disney that just lost billions just because of one or two of them, etc. Just as you said, they use word games to manipulate, extract resources, and destroy. Although it's true that her situation happened because society allowed it to happen, nevertheless now she's far too gone. It's like the ghetto creating a criminal, the ghetto is responsible but the criminal is still a criminal and deserves to be dealt with accordingly. Don't have sympathy for her just because she's a woman, if she was a man doing the same you probably wouldn't have any sympathy.

[@williamc.seniorsiii3449]

​@@jamesjonnes I agree! This is The New Crazy Cat-Lady on someone's street! LoL!

[@jayallen9198]

I don’t feel bad for them because it’s pride that leads women to come to that decision.

[@frankwilson3265]

Nice to hear a fellow Brit talking on the subject. Subscribed.

[@anti-validation]

"Standards" irritates the crap out of me. It implies you're a selfish person who is better than others. These people have superficial qualities and are not capable of healthy relationships.

[@thesmilingknight4982]

love IS a feeling, a feeling you get when you put in the right work, and time, its beautiful, the feeling is the reward for caring... in a way

[@nagginsnuggets9424]

The big problem with modern women is they have been taught that their career and making money is more important than having a family. And from a mans perspective her making money or what her career choice is has no bearing on our attraction to them. Men tell you what they are looking for, you are failing to listen and that is why you are 40 and single. You believed that the money and career were what mattered and you are now finding out that it was a lie, having a family is the most important thing for most people, when you're 60 0r 70 are you going to look back and think "I wish I'd have put more time into my work", probably not

[@AntecGreeno83]

Is having a family what most people want?

[@bluebehir]

@hisenseks daddy walks away from the relationship 20% of the time. 80% of the time the woman left and took the kid. It's now up to that man to provide for a family he doesn't have access to. To make a family, you don't NEED money. To live in luxury you need money. To make a family you need support and commitment. You've been listening to too much hype.

[@bluebehir]

@hisenseks that's not quite what I said, but they have families in Ethiopia, Sudan and Somalia, three of the poorest nations on Earth. These people don't have money. They do have nuclear family units.

[@watkinssixtyfive7788]

@hisenseks If we waited until we could afford it to have ours, we would never have had them. Children are a sacrifice you make.

[@OneTalaw]

If it helps, think about "not so much lower but broaden your standards." It may help her and give her a better outlook, more perspective.

[@233kosta]

We used to offer this kind of honesty all the time. It was NEVER appreciated, and nowadays we get judged for it more than ever, to the point of ruining careers. So we keep it to ourselves instead. The cost of honesty is now insanely high. Most of us won't say a thing any more, and the ones who would - they'd probably lie just to appease the inquisition.

[@landor7610]

Just like asking people "what is a woman" on a college campus. You either get the indoctrination answer or the kids that are too afraid to speak the truth.

[@giggitygoo6797]

He makes a good point. Would you prefer a comfortable lie, or an uncomfortable truth. Personally I think truth provides a certain sense of freedom

[@Gothyxx]

One word: Compromise. She needs to be aware that her goals and expectations are only 50% of the goals and expectations in the relationship. I would love to hear the side of the guy that was in a relationship with her for 9 years...

[@ojonasar]

She’s nearly 10 years after the age my mother had her last child - her *LAST* child.

[@AnthonyKellett]

I'd give her a try. I don't want kids; I could guide her to a happy existence; I'm more than wealthy enough to satisfy her needs and wants... but I'm probably far too honest... AND I'm 60! I suspect I'm not what she's longing to date. 😊

[@zer0bre]

Send me $5000 so i can fix my car and a few other issues, mr. more than wealthy man. Thanks in advance. 😁

[@AnthonyKellett]

@@zer0bre 🤣🤣

[@williamc.seniorsiii3449]

​@@AnthonyKellett (Movie Producer Idea)... Would you go see a movie where the car is the star? It's about a 1970 Chevy Impala that has been through EVERYTHING! The movie starts with it fresh off the assembly line & bought by an employee that helped make it. Then, a year later he loses it in a poker game... We could get Morgan Freeman to be the "voice" of the car during the movie... What do You think?

[@AnthonyKellett]

@@williamc.seniorsiii3449 - Of course not... But a 1980s Ferrari, bodywork still in good order, interior not messed up, had time to build some character.. I'd give it a try (if she DIDN'T sound like Morgan Freeman!) 😊👍🏽

[@vercingetorixwulf9298]

40?????? Be ready to be a nice gran to your grandchildren ...... Oh, wait! ....

[@rlewis8821]

We hear the lame “men are intimidated by me,” so often used by modern women, OF models, and female porn performers. The opposite is actually true: We're not intimidated, what happens is that most men are pragmatic and, in most cases, as soon as we get to know enough about a woman, we decide she is not someone whom we would want to invest our time and energy, let along our future, and move on. I think the most important fact 'modern women' miss is that there's an optimal (physiological and psychological) period in every woman's life for pair bonding, marriage, maternity, etc., which is usually in the 18-28 range. Most women who spent that stage collecting sex partners and or pursuing a career instead, start experiencing a mid-life crisis by their mid-thirties. By all measures offered by the Neomarxist-Postmodernist establishment, they are told they are successful yet, deep inside they are utterly dissatisfied with their lives; their 'achievements' suddenly appear shallow in contrast to the things they've missed, and they desperately start trying to go back and do all the things they didn't do when it was the time to do them. This, of course, rarely works. That is the time to lower expectations and adjust life goals.

[@earnestrobinson7453]

I don't think there is anything special about his approach. He's just speaking the way men do. Truthful, direct, maybe a little blunt, with no BS. That's the way men talk and analyze situations.

[@JohnBrown-wr8co]

Christine why can't we have sensible, pragmatic women like yourself. Who have clarity of mind. Soundness of mind.

[@joschmo4497]

Because not all of them can make money by appearing like they're different than the rest of them. This is called a business, there's a market for women to sell men the idea of unicorn women and "not all women are like that" for men eager to believe it.

[@mikeym.1461]

Its laughable when I hear women say they scare men...

[@ger3721]

Disagree with the 'age' thing, (I've known girls that were past their prime by the age of 25, and others who are reaching 50 that would still cause any man to drool! And that's WITHOUT any body/face/whatever surgery!), but most of the rest was spot on.

[@thrusta100]

Simping?

[@ger3721]

Being honest.

[@Thought.I.Was.Clever]

Are you kidding me? Is she chasing 20-year-old men? Or are pretty 40-year-old men chasing 20 year-old women? Is that why she can’t find anybody?

[@thelimey351]

The woman in the video has been treating men as her playthings her entire adult life with no consequences - but eventually she started to age out of that ability & at 40 she simply can't do that anymore. Simply put she just can't believe it. No sympathy for this one...

[@fredhughes4115]

Happens sometimes when women are just too attractive. They live this alternate reality and can't comprehend real life once they hit the wall. Paulina Porizkova is struggling with the same issue.

[@goldeagle8051]

I have this theory that the über popular series Friends in the 90s an 00s messed up women in the entire West. Because the women in Friends have all the time in the world, dozens of relationships that are going nowhere, one-night stands, jobs that go nowhere, zero responsability and apparently think they can still have kids at 40. By the end, the women are supposedly mid-30s and only Rachel has one baby, pretty much without a relationship.

[@PatI-zg9gm]

That is a good call. The messaging in television shows, especially sitcoms in the 90’s and 2000’s, portrayed women as self absorbed careerists juggling adoring men, or disapproving wives who roll their eyes at their husband’s buffoonery.

[@bubblegum2445]

aww... poor old boss babe can't even get a simp no more... bwa-HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA

[@leebishop7591]

Sometimes, having "options" can be a detriment to one's love life.

[@michellevi4919]

6:40 "I don't think she did" XD !! And wow you really ended that beautifully. Said the thoughts I was thinking, women trying to treat reality as if it's a fairy tale, emotional highs and lows and what they mean, love isn't a feeling love is work commitment and duty... great messages.

[@rickharms1]

I hate that phrase “lower your standards”. It has negative connotations. I think you should say something like “change the characteristics you are looking for”. That way you are not devaluing the other person. “So, you lowered your standards to find me, fuck you”.

[@stevenorman612]

Being 40 is not a bad thing and she is very beautiful.

[@thrusta100]

Simp

[@remaincalm2]

"You squandered your best years." That's a very hard hitting dose of reality. She's still beautiful and seems nice, so I hope she finds her soul mate soon and doesn't put him in the friends zone. Or perhaps she can carefully look at her existing male friends from a fresh perspective.

[@zer0bre]

She needs to have a soul first to find a soulmate. She seems pretty soulless to me. Confused, lost, completely wrong values and desperate for love and attention... It's not a store where you can walk in and buy love and attention by the kilo. Packed and ready to go, just open and enjoy life. Love is hard. Lots of problems, lots of sacrifice. It takes effort of both parties. Nowadays, women mostly think they're godsend and that they deserve everything (remember those ads that were served to them everywhere? "Because, you deserve it!"). Because of that, they need to rewind ALL THE WAY back and take a look at everything from afar, the bigger picture. Small square that's enough for their selfie is the wrong picture format. And most of them go through life blindly. Ignorant of the world around them. So sad...

[@ashfordj81]

@@zer0bre Yeah, reality doesn't hit (as evidenced by her monologue) and she doesn't seem nice. She seems petty, self-centered, and obnoxious. I heard some context for that video that she had recently dumped a dude she'd been with for almost a decade to 'do better." Modern women complaining about dating are living out that principal Skinner meme - can't possibly be me, everyone else is wrong!

[@zeus014]

@@zer0bre Nailed it. "She needs to have a soul first to find a soulmate". Problem is, even if she does a complete 180 this very minute she still represents a ginormous risk on the part of whoever she "settles for" because even if she's sincere in her new convictions her heart will never truly be in it. I feel bad for him, not her. So if you're one of the guys in her friend zone, RUN.

[@megalodon1726]

She found her soulmate, and friendzoned him. She's only attracted to men who don't want her.

[@AndrewBigelow-q2k]

Women will walk all over good men to get to the bad boys only to find themselves alone later

[@graymatters7584]

“Do I scare men?” 😂

[@0biwan7]

advice to lonely men: do the hard work of leading a disciplined life (exercise, start a side business, work on your social skills) and if you are one of the lucky ones then 5 years later you can graduate from incel to simp and you'll be politely rejected rather than called a creep when you approach women. advice to lonely women: have you considered dating one of the dozen men you friendzoned who have known you for years and have always appreciated you for who you are?

[@MFV77]

This is so sad…. 🙏

[@puppetmaster3371]

Why men are walking away, the constant validation is enough to drive you crazy.

[@Hard_7_Iron]

This is a “western women” issue. I was lucky and traveled the world on business when I was young. I met my wife in Asia, and we’ve been together ever since. We courted like the old days. Once together we were exclusive! If we didn’t make it, or broke up, fine. But you have to commit! This woman never committed. She was afraid she might miss something. Family is important! Not careers. We taught the kids to support each other forever. We taught our kids the old ways of commitment and courting. Marriage is hard as you said. It’s work. You need to want it! All 5 kids are grown and 4 are married with grand babies for us now. The youngest (mid 20’s) is still looking. He’s picky! We taught him well. Now preparing for the last part of life (in my mid 60’s) I could not desire or find a better woman “FOR ME”! And because she was taught commitment and how to be content as a young person, she feels the same way about us. Teach your kids these important lessons. They’ll need them throughout life. To be happy, you need contentment. Enjoy the weekend.

[@stevenshadbolt2366]

She's still a woman. Be warned!!

[@schrodingerscat3912]

Where is she from. Guys are taking notes

[@Garanon5]

"She was afraid she might miss something": that mentality stays with them for everything. They want to have their cake and eat it too. No drawbacks, only benefits. There is no world where that is a feasible outcome.

[@a.p..g.3462]

very wise words

[@tensevo]

that woman will be treated like an absolute princess, a queen, if she wanted it.... ....but no, she wants the man who disappeared.....!

[@shotokanads3325]

Based Christine Grace

[@MajorCaliber]

I'm gonna posit that when women "throw themselves" into a so-called career, that it serves as a *surrogate father/husband/male-role-model!* Change my mind.

[@0biwan7]

i would argue that they become the men they want to marry and have no idea they arent considered marriage material.

[@richardbrown8269]

Why do men have to explain to women how their own mind works? It's just so damn annoying..

[@andrewwolkowich]

Some women don't want to realize that they are a 30-30. 30 pounds overweight and 30 years too late for the clothes and lifestyle that they are living.

[@silverkitty2503]

Career stuff is important to men and it should be. This is THE BIGGEST myth women are told that it doesnt matter. MEN care about your family background and career. I mean if you are not working they have to support you. The only time they dont care is if they just want to sleep with you and move on. I mean haven't you noticed that male doctors marry female doctors? teachers marry teachers etc??? Bankers marry bankers?? I mean ask yourself do you ever see male movie stars dating waitresses? Rarely but the rule is they date an actress who is famous like themselves. Career matters. Money matters. I mean how is a woman going to date a manager if she can't afford to pay her half of dinner?? People tend to date others in their own income bracket. What you think a female barrister is going to have anything in common with a bartender?? Maybe but I bet its less common than dating another barrister. The exception is PROOF of the rule. Im a poor starving artist what you think I should date an accountant?? I mean what would we have in common? NOTHING i date other poor starving artists because we are on the same page and we have the same income level. If a man in a suit asks me out im going to say no ... because i know by the way he is dressed we would have nothing in common and he probably knows by the way im dressed he has nothing in common with me either. How are men going to afford a house if they are going to marry a woman with no job or a low income job?? The man better have bought a house before he starts dating then. Otherwise wise up and start asking women with careers out. Seriously people are so dumb no wonder we have a debt crisis.

[@joschmo4497]

Nonsense. The doctors marry nurses because that's their social circle, that's the women they meet. People stick within their social circle because...get this...those are the people they're meeting. How am I going to meet an actress? Her career is worthless, her money is her money, his money is their money. That's how it goes in relationships, so no, you can't buy men with money, especially when that money never goes towards shared goals. Nice try shaming men into dating "career women". Why didn't these career women save up a lot of money for a shared life? They live beyond their means, men are supposed to save up and have everything. Who cares about her career, where's the house and money to get you going?

[@silverkitty2503]

@@joschmo4497You really think that? you dont think nurses might have an insight into a doctor's life ?? so they have something to talk to?? you think a doctor might be embarassed to introduce a woman with no job to his parents?? Trust me .. i know these people. A man will be FAR more interested in a woman who can pay half the mortgage than a woman who can bake cookies ... you can buy cookies and a dishwasher. No ceo wants to introduce his parents to a woman with no money and no ambition sorry ... she will be labelled a loser or .. a goldigger no shame to goldiggers .. a goldigger i know is one of the nicest girls i know .but she is a goldigger and knows what she is and know she hit the jackpot dont lie to yourself or you WILL lose that bag .. be real.

[@fredhughes4115]

I don't know who told you this - maybe you've just made up your own theory - but haven't you listened to a single thing that every man says about what they care about? Why do you refuse to believe what every man says about it.

[@thisisnathanielcowan]

You said it!

[@aallan646]

She probably had them fallen at her feet when she was younger , exactly friend zoned them !!been on social media to much seen all the DM's people getting , still thinking she's 20 😅 thought I deserve more !!! Me me me me me me. Another Tik tok disaster !!! When i meet a " boy " YOURE 40 😅

[@williamc.seniorsiii3449]

LoL... She DID sound CREEPY AF saying, "When I meet a boy"... I immediately thought of Fleece Johnson on that episode of "The Boondocks"!... I see she likes it the hard way! LMAO!!!

[@megalodon1726]

English isn't her first language, so I'll give her a pass on that.

[@thechancellor3715]

Man in Germanic languages is mann, so no, she meant boy's.

[@minorityofthought1306]

This woman literally asked if being less beautiful would get her a boyfriend/relationship. r/ WOOOOSH!

[@fredhughes4115]

Yeah, it's part of the "men are intimidated" cope. Men are virtually NEVER intimidated by women.

[@ozzycortes]

There are Men that would love to get to know her. It’s the Men she doesn’t want. If she’s going to be like this, might as well stay single. And it’s sad to say how most Women are like this.

[@troyross4219]

The eyebrow when she says I'm brilliant absolutely got me😂😂😂

[@homestylebeautyscenery3636]

I am over 15 yrs older than her and men still looking to date me. It's not about age. Of course, if she's looking to date young guys, that is hard. At any age, I think we should look to date someone in our sphere, and by that I mean age and education, not only someone from around our generation, but also someone from similar culture and education, someone we have a lot in common with. Another thing is that I think men are attracted to confident women, and also women who don't come with a lot of drama. I lost my child and my husband and most of my family, but you do not see me on social media complaining, I just write it here to make a point. I know I will date in a near future, I am not yet prepared for obvious reasons, but I think that we need to look first towards where we want to go and what we want to do with our life as individuals, and for example for someone in similar situation as mine, to reevaluate and rethink our life, and on our journey we'll find someone to share our journey with. I have this advice for everyone, no matter their age. I think most of the relationships that break up did so because they didn't have to be together from the start.

[@watkinssixtyfive7788]

Sorry for your loss, may God bless you with a fulfilling relationship whenever you are ready.

[@zacatkinson3926]

yeah sure

[@guillermomathewskaungu2050]

You just earned yourself a new subscriber

[@un0RRS]

Modern woman's guide to finding your husband: 1. Rank all the men in your friend zone from most to least attractive. 2. Starting at zero, count down the list. When you get to your bodycount, that's your husband. If you run out of friends before you run out of bodies, bad news. I'd start making uglier friends if I were you. 😂

[@kirdref9431]

+💯. I've been thinking about a similar algorithm of counting and banging the body count backwards to zero before a woman should be allowed to become a BAV (born again virgin). I like your idea of using her friendzone. My suggestion is it may be better to allow any guy that can lay claim to be one of her accumulated rejects. No cheating.

[@un0RRS]

@@kirdref9431 the only reason I had them count down their bodycount is I wouldn't inflict a HBC woman on any man who could conceivably do better. She's just gonna destroy whoever she ends up with anyway, might as well be a hopelessly ugly one, at least then he might get some pussy before he dies. See, women, this is why you're supoosed to be virgin brides, it's the only way you have any say in your outcome. Virgin brides are the only women who get to choose their husbands. All other wives are chosen. The reason the virgin bride can choose her husband is, she's the only one who can negotiate saving sex for marriage from a position of power. If a man wants to fuck a woman, he has to be on her program. If a woman wants to marry a man, she has to be on his. The moment you catch ONE body, you can no longer honestly claim to love a man you won't fuck more than a man you will. He has no reason to believe you will take his commitment seriously or that you care about him at all. The virgin has an excuse to wait for the honeymoon. Yours went bye bye when you fucked a man that wasn't your husband. Now if you want a man to WANT to marry you, you must be on his program, and number of guys who have "will fuck any man but me" on his program is approximately zero.

[@frankconley6321]

I like it!

[@DJ-hl2og]

lol

[@zeus014]

Oh, this is fucking GOLD. So stealing this....

[@nubiemoonsoriginal]

We have to take responsibility for our lives. Bless it’s time she take a look at her behaviours. Everything she says is contradictory to what she’s actually saying. she’s very confused 😮

[@Bohemiahotrodandcustom]

My advice is " go to the pet store an buy 2 cats and maybe a dog" 40 years old or not they will love you.

[@nunyabusiness6744]

The middle aged women saying is it me? Yes yes it 👍

[@AnelorGalor]

If she runs after guys that disppear, then she does it cause she has commitment fears. so by going after who will be unavailable avoids her facing the true issue.

[@anti-Russia-sigma]

If you run after guys that disappear,you’re chasing “ghosts”.

[@lance9249]

40 and she left a 9 year relationship she's destined to be a dog mom and to have a cat who the love of her life.

[@tatsmcgeete]

Send her my way , I'm 54 , I look good but all I seem to attract are women that gave up years ago . Great content to the Creator

[@karandeosingh2356]

She is stunning but delusional.

[@ashleycampbell6825]

LIKE earned for the Alexander Grace recommendation and his insightful advice truths. In return, I will share the following. A tri-pod has more stability than other structures. A strong enduring relationship is based upon all 3 pillars of physical, emotional and logical. SENSE, FEEL, THINK. A relationship based upon only 1 or 2 of those pillars is less stable and will fall under stressful or changed conditions.

[@Pssst.ByTheWay]

Im 40 and coming to terms with the fact. I 90% sure, i missed the train. It’s gone, left the station without me I had my own Demons to say I was not attractive to women, and even if I do manage to find my Mojo … there will always be sorrow for things I could not experience and the things that have passed me by Not great. But that is the reality

[@ScottRadkeMusic]

You have absolutely NOT missed the train 🚂 brotha! You could stand at the station another 10 years & still catch the “family” train 👨‍👩‍👧‍👦 The age “wall” is more of an issue related to women’s fertility 🤰🏽

[@ich840]

😢❤❤

[@kachdragonfly]

thanks. Sad to lose all those great years.

[@ronarprefect7709]

That "strong emotional rush" is NOT true love. Read M. Scott Peck's "The Road Less Traveled". He was a psychiatrist and his book has been a best seller since 1978 for a reason. He says rightly that "romantic love" is not true love. It is a form of lust and is based partly on LACK of knowledge of a person. People kill the person they are "in love with" regularly because THEY DIDN'T ACTUALLY LOVE THEM. If you love someone you wish the best for them even at your own expense. You don't kill them because you "can't live without them" or to keep anyone else from having them.

[@jacobpetion3395]

Those men in her friends zone should start running yesterday.