The Hate I Receive From Men AS A WOMAN - It's Disgusting! | Overdue Rant

[@ruchismitasen414]

I have no issue being called papa ki pari, because my father has shown me how a man in my life should be like. He has set the bar for me.

[@alishasrishtibaxla2126]

Exactly..i agree with you...

[@nishugowda6172]

Of course

[@cocacola37281]

+1

[@Aradhaya45720]

Same here....

[@asmitaroy4974]

exactly

[@xen5917]

I feel very sorry for women in lives of these men

[@Brilliantvibesfromyou]

❤

[@PhDincriminilogy]

Weak men can’t handle strong women. Tbh, such men aren’t even that much educated as far as I have seen. Jyada se jyada graduation kar lete hain. And this mentality comes from the bad mentality of their family.

[@Shiv_gautamm]

Results of bad parenting

[@Shiv_gautamm]

@@usmlequestions sorry?

[@aintnotroublebigenough]

​@@usmlequestionscorrect

[@aasthajain6045]

Very sick mentality of holding women accountable for making rotis throughtout their lives and it does not limit to uneducated people, kudos to you for voicing out.

[@beautyaddssparkle9401]

I'm from Assam.and my staple food is rice and I got married to a marathi guy and uffff it took 2 years to make perfect roti and thanks for making this video 👍

[@nishugowda6172]

​@@beautyaddssparkle9401what is this perfect roti? When they eat they will break and eat na

[@PY-ot1kl]

They got burned because how dare a woman ordered roti from outside instead of working in kitchen Ego weaker than a spring leaf🤣🤣

[@dikshasuman]

​@@PY-ot1klseeing them burning makes me feel so good 😆 remember when most of the men (less women) is getting passed off then you're going the right way.

[@ashwinidesai4051]

@@beautyaddssparkle9401 Why are you dissing us Marathi folks here?? Chapati and rice are staple food for us. Don't understand you need to bring that up here.

[@shivibhatnagar6508]

I feel sometimes it starts from their moms also. Their moms make it normal to define what are the tasks for boys and what are the tasks for girls. Like cleaning up dining table after meal is for girl child not boys. This all is deep rooted. I think there should be new term like “mummy ke dulaare”

[@nilalifestyle381]

Yes women have been accepting tradition only for sake of it. They keep on delivering without voice and make themselves taken for granted.

[@drashtikamani3051]

Earlier I also used to get triggered by misogynist men. Then one day I watched a video of prashant acharya, although I'm not fan of him but one line he said very true, in our country patriarchy run by women.

[@swatipriya562]

It start from their father supported by their moms ; they see this all the time in their homes how father control mother , and they also feel such independent women will influence their sisters etc ; ultimately making them loose men authority that father enjoyed till so far

[@akankshamaurya9438]

So true

[@muskankumarisah4805]

veryy trueee

[@sherrybhatnagar5511]

It's okay. Most Indians still have sick mentality despite being 'educated.' I too don't know how to cook and I'm 32. But, I earn enough that I can pay for a cook for both me and my family. While any human, a man or a woman should know how to cook, it isn't a necessity. People are shallow, just ignore. That's what I do. All the love. ❤

[@ancypaul3149]

❤Power to u Same case😂

[@SYZ807]

It’s not your responsibility to cook for everyone, and if u can’t cook than u have to pay for it. They can cook for themselves if they want cooked food or pay to the cook. If a male can’t cook, then does he pay to a cook?(not for himself, but for the entire family). Why does the female has to compensate for not cooking by paying to the cook(who cooks for everyone)? There is nothing wrong in paying for a cook if u want to. But If u r doing this because u r trying to compensate for not cooking and it’s a necessity(or compulsion) then its wrong and injustice. Don’t pay to the cook for compensation. It’s not your responsibility. Ask them why can’t they cook for themselves? What’s the problem if they cook or pay to a cook for themselves?they r adults they can feed themselves !!! Khud khana banane main kya Takleef hai 😊 or aisle logo ke Saath rishta bananae ki zaroorat kya hai? Asi bhi kya majboori? What are these kinds of lowly people doing in your life? R u living in a cage or what? Why do u need permission from someone else for not cooking? It’s ur life right? Can’t u take your own decisions?

[@ChingamMal]

@@SYZ807 Cooking & household chores are for only non career oriented girls or who have sacrificed their career,kyuki kuch to karegi naa ghar baithe

[@sunflower.2222]

Being rude and being misogynist is cool these days. I think things worsened since that women ☕ thing came up. Initially it was a joke. We took it as a joke. But it got worse. And since then it's cool to be a misogynist. And then they say oh you don't have a humour like us we have dark humour and all that bullshit.

[@kritika6675]

Don't forget those fake sigma boys

[@polishqween3029]

I legit hate all these women 🍵and sigma male trend videos! They do nothing other than disrespect women, and promote men to be like shit!!! The number of videos I have seen about this and the amount of comments respecting this... cheee...

[@ketkipatil8309]

let them reveal themselves and cry about not getting a woman. They deserve it.

[@sunflower.2222]

@@kritika6675 exactly 💯

[@sunflower.2222]

@@kritika6675 truly !

[@malinenimanjula2891]

Household chores should be taught to everyone irrespective of the gender☺

[@Reetsworld-bn7qn]

True

[@martinaboruah1712]

I don't think this mentality is ever gonna change or stop .. it's a story of almost every household... Any girl who questions this behaviour would be tagged as arrogant, selfish and whatnot... You spoke 100% truth ... and i cannot agree enough ... Many are commenting their thoughts and opinions about how relatable this situation is ... But when we go back we'll face the same inequality again .. Many girls who don't face this at home , they face it when they go out in public... I'm happy for all the girls who have their parents support with them regardless the society taunting them for supporting their daughter...

[@seeuinhell000]

Why I'm not seeing any men's comment here? It shows the reality. They can never accept the language of truth... They just know women☕ and papa ki pari that's it.

[@ankitasuri4072]

Basically only women who is domesticated deserves respect according to them !!! When a woman completely wears herself out and sacrifices her every bit for men only then she can be glorified 😔

[@deepasingh078]

Nope, no glory for most even after that

[@bandanarathore]

Even the glory is given on the internet under other women's videos to show them down. These kind pf people do not actually respect women in real life.

[@nishugowda6172]

Still there is no respect and glory for those women. They get disrespected for not earning

[@Dr_divya_marathi]

Bruh nobody respects domesticated women tbh. Domesticated women are just easy to enslave. Nobody will respect unless you are independent and it goes for both men and women.

[@roshnik5137]

Why do we care about their comments at all is the question, just live your life, let them dwell in their own misery and ignorance

[@shylajamahendra]

Social media is reflection of our society. This is very much required Shivangi... good that you spoke about it.

[@1986piya]

Kudos to you for voicing this major issue in our society. I am very privileged to be born in a family who isn’t regressive at all (all in all a papa ki pari) and proud to be one. My parents have taught me to respect and value everyone. I was never forced to learn anything that i was not interested in. I was respected for having an opinion and was always encouraged to follow my dreams. This same upbringing, I am now passing onto my son (10 yrs old). He sees my husband cooking and cleaning at home, when i am busy and vice versa. And now He too has gotten into a habit of helping around the house whenever he can. There is no gender specific roles in my house. I am sure my son would not grow up to be a misogynist and would respect his future partner and all the ladies he gets to meet in his life.

[@niti470]

👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻

[@wendypatrao5758]

We need more women like you in our society. Kudos to you girl 👌

[@sulaganabiswas]

God, how refreshing ❤

[@jayashreebandgar2608]

Even after being so frustrated the way you're being calm is seriously great ❤

[@renukatiwari8215]

i cant even tell you how relatable this video was. and it breaks my heart to know that the young generation, the educated youth finds it super cool to say misogynistic things with such ease. respect is the BASIC thing guysss.... ye bhi sikhani padegi??? its just bizaaare. thank you for making this video i hope it gives courage to atleast someone to stand for themself and thier closed one.

[@cplusplus719]

Tiwari surname hatade castist radical bramhan 😂.

[@justaksh]

Unfortunately it’s sad n true that even today’s so-called well educated young men have such disgusting attitudes against women as if they oblige us by existing. Nothing has changed over the decades… crimes against women keep getting worse. Women are not even thought of as an independent human. That’s why India will always be a developing country… 💯 agree & support for you

[@FatFish05]

i agree with you 😭 darr lagta hai yaar

[@itshallpass]

Worse condition of women is responsible for overpopulation in india

[@jazzy4164]

Funny thing is , men in my family from previous generation , who actually fullfilled the traditional role of men , are so much more respectful than these guys.

[@Priya24-n1z]

Don't say like that lol these bunch of misogynistic man doesn't represent the entire Indian population India will indeed be a developed country and a true Indian is the one who respect women. Because even this land is she not he. 🇮🇳

[@Priya24-n1z]

​@@jazzy4164 that's wt it is

[@supstar90]

They think they win in life or any debate by addressing us as “Women ☕️, Papa ki pari, Didi, Aunty”

[@anjalijuyal5633]

When they run out of logic they use these words or they straight up start abusing you. It shows nothing but their shallow personality

[@dreamersparadise6122]

Recently, I have been seeing this 'women☕' since some months. It's a tease to women but what does it indicate?

[@anjalijuyal5633]

@@dreamersparadise6122 it is a stupid meme that got viral.

[@ChingamMal]

These tags are only for some silly stupid behaviors

[@cnfusedxcoco7577]

I'm totally agreed with all your words. I'm from lower middle class family but my parents always wanted me to make my studies as my first priority. And this is exactly what I'm doing. It ALL DEPENDS UPON THE PERSON'S UPBRINGING my both parents work together as we don't have enough money to place any helper my both parents equally support eachother in house chores.

[@SharmishthaC]

You don't need to justify yourself Shivangi...it's your life, it's your choice whether you cook or don't. No one is entitled to tell you otherwise. People who are commenting need to introspect and you are right it is a problem with their upbringing. This attitude is prevalent in India however if you go outside India men and women share most responsibilities including cooking, household chores and raising kids. Just live your life on your own terms girl...and ignore such comments. They are just jealous 😂

[@harshitashukla2173]

Even if the guy wants to help,his mother will discourage him and take it on her ego that "mere ladke se kaam karva rahi, maine to kabhi nahi karwaya" Even though life long she herself exhausted herself from awful lot of chores,she wants to pass that legacy to her daughter in law only..not her son.... double standards 🙌

[@divyashree847]

So true 🙌💯they tell exact sentence... I hope these type of mentality change in future generation

[@sonalsharma1860]

trueee😢😢

[@aB-c478]

Right

[@AS-jo8qh]

Stockholm syndrome

[@amritabhowmick1735]

True

[@dreamofwomen9248]

I am an advocate and completed my study journey after my marriage. My in laws except my hubby did their utmost best to stop my study and insisted me to get pregnant just after some month of my marriage.still I don't know how to cook rather my husband everyday after returning from office makes food for me. Kitchen not only meant for women... There's no such statutes and laws which specify that women should cook not men. Dnt pay attention shivangi to those idiots....

[@rinkisingh2319]

Hire a Cook na. You know what the problem is, girls expect husband to cook n flaunt about it but if husband expect then it become misogynist. Either keep things equal n support each other in work or hire the house help.

[@light5869]

​@@rinkisingh2319 you need some medicine for your delusional brain... coz you totally misunderstood the context of the original comment

[@Msomale]

​​@@rinkisingh2319if the husband is better in that Field he can assist his wife in cooking !? Nothing's wrong with that there's are alot of things wives do and no one acknowledges them and tell them hire that or hire this 🎉❤

[@easyveganfoodie]

@@rinkisingh2319I agree with you but it seems she did not have time as she was studying, at least that’s what I got from the comment. As long as she helps with other things around the home and will learn to cook also after studies are over then it’s not a big deal. That’s what a marriage is, sometimes you have to support your partner when they don’t have the time. When I was working and also studying, my husband did a lot. But then later when my husband had an additional project he was working on after work, I was the one that handled most things as he didn’t have the time. But both things benefited both of us in the long run so it was worth the additional effort. A wife’s studies will help the husband later on as she will earn more. I did not comment on hiring cook as I don’t live in India so that’s not an option for us, but yes I suppose that is also okay but if the wife is not working and also paying tuition they may not have the money to do so.

[@ChingamMal]

@@rinkisingh2319 After going through all the comments,I find yours to be neutral otherwise most of them are just bashing men,they were quiet when all of this was happening to their mothers but started opposing when it started happening to them. I agree,men have their own fault but women do have slight part here.

[@ash-hn6io]

Some men n families are very disgusting I have faced it too. But my husband is very supportive he wanted me to join his business and just asked me to hire a cook so I can easily go to office. His family dint accept it n used to torture him so eventually we both moved out n are living peacefully without them.I am just 26 and this all happened just after our marriage one year ago. Very traumatic experience

[@tasnimprimuswala8632]

Truly said! Feeling this misogyny since 20 years!

[@PKL2006]

keep fighting gurlie, we're with you!!! More power to you

[@AS-jo8qh]

Girls, ask your potential spouse or fiance what he thinks about alpha sigma stuff and Andrew Tate. If he believes in those things, run for your life

[@easyveganfoodie]

Yes!! Sadly a lot of men know women don’t like this and hide this part of them until after marriage, especially in arranged marriages. It’s hard to tell if you don’t know the person for a long time or haven’t visited or stayed at their home to see if they help out at home and know how to do basic things.

[@AMTSL]

Also ask the potential men about their views regarding movies like thappad and animal....It gives a good insight as to how that man is

[@easyveganfoodie]

@@AMTSL I love this point!!! Absolutely. Perfect example of the two polar opposite movies too.

[@cnarose2004]

It's a sad truth Shivangi, unfortunately!!! You voiced out what most of us don't want to speak out in public, thank you😊 Our conditions are really pathetic still with very minimal improvement!! More power to you and wishing Arjun to have such a strong woman as his backup. Much love❤

[@RavinaPande]

People were treating me the same...even banned me from wearing jeans.. would tell me women belong in kitchen... Mysoginy at its peak.. It felt very low and my confidence was always low cuz of this... But hearing u today talking about it i can relate so much with you im very happy to hear u

[@LoveYourself-my9nz]

That's why I have decided I will only marry if I meet the right person in my life never going to get married just because of the age and for the sake of the married tag!! I can be more happy by myself than living with these kinds of men.

[@priyanka4821]

your story is so relatable girl, and i am sure there are lot of girls out there who have gone out of home to study and work and have gone through similar struggles. let these people talk, dont take it to your heart..

[@umamrashid9312]

Why cooking and basic housework is divided in terms of gender of a person...??? It's is basic things... Everyone is equally responsible for this things... Thank you for speaking didi 💖

[@Moonshine2411]

I got this video recommended, I am 26 and most of my life I was in hostel, so I hv not learnt cooking, in my home also my dad just loves cooking, I hv grown up never being called out by anyone to learn cooking or why don’t I cook. It’s through your video I came to know that not being able to cook can be such a big deal for society.

[@meghnag6070]

It is dear...especially after u get married and more so after u hv a child...u are shamed and disrespected if you don't cook for your child...😢

[@Moonshine2411]

The thought of marriage is scary 😧

[@haseenasheik8186]

It's such an irony that I found this video the day after voicing out and raising the voice against a teacher who was passing misogynistic comments in my daughter's class

[@k.k.shruti5585]

May I know what did she say?

[@k.k.shruti5585]

@@divyamishra9481 you are right. It can be a man as well. But hope u r not feeling this that I had assumed that only female teachers can be misogynist. 90% of my teacher's were female only and recently when I was watching a cooking video where the speaker was explaining about a kids female teacher in America was being racist to her classmate. Probably that's why it automatically came to my mind.

[@haseenasheik8186]

@@k.k.shruti5585 it was a 'he' .. told my daughter's class that boys are very intelligent and have practical knowledge/application skills whereas girls score only because they mug up . He also went on to state how the freedom that girls are privileged with is given by men..

[@k.k.shruti5585]

@@haseenasheik8186 wow ... now that's coming from a teacher. Not everyone deserves to be a teacher.

[@haseenasheik8186]

@@k.k.shruti5585 absolutely.. I witness terrible situations on a daily basis .. statements like women's reservation is a scam or all you care about is food or you'll never be successful in life and body shaming .. p.s. I raised a written concern against the teacher and asked him why he didn't marry a man as he likes them a lot 😂😂😂😂 I received hate but idc and told my daughter even if he ends up giving you lesser marks it's worth it

[@mansisharma767]

Everything been said is 110% to the point n true about these disgusting so called "mummy ke dulaare - apni chote si soch k maare"

[@braveimposter]

And to all my fellow women, work hard and succeed. This misogynistic comments should motivate you even more to be greater than these men. Financially, and mentally. The movie is hit when there's enemy. Your enemy is these misogynistic mindset of people. We're strong

[@moumitabiswas1801]

Tight hugs to you Shivangi. I personally feel in India, girls and boys are raised poorly. Girls are being raised to digest everything is being thrown on them. Boys are being raised to be utilise their masculinity in a toxic way. It’s all toxic and you are right we all deserve the best of the things in life. But some people have very low expectations in life & they radiate the negative energy. You stay strong. Btw I loved your makeup as usual & the rant too. It was a good catharsis & an appropriate answer to those who trolled you 😂😂

[@sulaganabiswas]

Its just this. Mothers give sons hot rotis because he is a boy. His birth gave her respect and relief. She became the mother OF A SON. So her eternal gratitude and an unending supply of hot rotis EDIT: I also know of a north Indian mother aged 56. She told her bahu, who is a doctor the same as her son, that her son has never eaten rotis from the casserole even. They must be straight puffed up from oven to his plate. It was an arranged marriage. After 2 years, the son understood how ridiculous his mother's expectations were regarding his doctor wife

[@skincarerainbow4950]

Girl, the internet is largely a negative place. And mysogyny is so rampant on social media. You shouldn't have to apologise for such things. You just dont owe anyone an explanation. Men can't handle it when women do something for themselves, they think whatever a woman does should revolve around them. What you do in your life in none of anybody's business. Best of luck for your journey ahead.❤

[@mehakpreetkaur8630]

I can feel you girl. As living in this society we face these things and feels like crying and disgusting at the same time and I feel the same in your voice! 🥺 But your work is awesome so let them bark and keep growing. I was the subscriber of your other channel and watching the first video of this channel. It's really good to see that girls are growing and raising their voice! Keep it up!

[@lostwanderer3954]

Just one word for all this discussion is - Upbringing. That is the only reason why men behave n think like this and same goes for women who are fine with domestic abuse.

[@idontcare-ry9wo]

Totally their upbringing is the main problem

[@ASMA-zj8my]

The amount of facts this women spoke hat's off man💅 we needed someone to speak up about such topics plz make more videos like these on mindsets really great video 🤌

[@shambhavibhushan4860]

Oh god Shivangi thanks for making this video, I have done my Ph.d in gender equality and I am very sad to say that even in 2023 gender equality is a joke, it's treated as sth jispe bas padai kar skte ho but society pe apply nai hota hai, patriarchy is so so so deeply rooted in our society that it going to take hundreds of years to make people understand the concept of equality. And yes you are right when I talk about this ppl say to my husband Bhai tu to gaya, jyada hi empowered ladki mil gayi hai tuje. We laugh at it. N I also agree with ki tum sindoor nai pehnti, n all that jazz. Girl you are so authentic ❤❤❤

[@PreetGulshan]

I know right. The sad part is not just men, even Women also have the similar mindset. The worst part is, if you are a opinionated woman, that's somehow a stigma on your character ... I knew this lady who was from a very wealthy family and she married a guy from a normal middle class family and she could afford house help and nanny and all..and she was perpetually criticized for that.. for keeping house help and not doing household chores herself. Can you imagine.. It's 2023 and women are still second class citizens... Too sad..

[@ShivangiSharmaOfficial]

That is so so unfortunate, not just for women but for our country as a whole. Sad state of affairs!

[@KhushbooRani-v7k]

@@ShivangiSharmaOfficial once I've went through a post about how top 3 all are girls in upsc, and comments were filled with disregards. they were told that mugging up things are easy that's why they became ias, girls are not smart enough to crack iit. one boy even was flaunting that he cleared pre-exam of upsc while making fun of the toppers because they were girls. they claimed that girls became topper because of the reservation, but the irony is that there is no gender-based reservation in upsc exam. these comments haunt me that one day I'll have to get married to a boy, what if he is one of these people. yrr I'll not take the crap no matter what anyone says.

[@akankshapathak082]

People are so free that they will comment shit about others not able to do household chores and then won't look at themselves what kinda person they are 😂😂 Shivangi, you're an amazing person.. you're doing so well in life.. and these people know nothing about you and their mentality.. their shitty mentality will never change. And I'm sorry you had to face this.

[@um3386]

Well done Shivangi for addressing issues related to gender equality and challenging outdated notions of entitlement that unfortunately is a sick reality of our society..... I wish all those who expected you to make roti's had a well rounded view of the world just like their rotis.... More power to you

[@surmadatta7129]

For those 95% of men "kaash tm logo k parents uss raat protection use kr liye hote toh Aaj hmlog ko yeh sunna nhi padhta" & The person who sent you the address.... Order those roti in his address and ask him to learn first from his mother

[@erwinsmith5796]

Uss 95% me aapke husband friends brother colleagues bhi aata hai so agar protection use kr lete to aap abhi akale hote 🤡 aur itni hypocrisy kyu 5% women ke liye same baat nhi bolengi aap feminist hypocrite 🤡🤡🤡🤡

[@muskaanlangeh7569]

Exactly! That's the problem with the society.....they judge a girl firstly by her cooking skills etc whereas in the case of a man the rules change. There's nothing bad if a man can offer help. In your case, I think it shows how the society todays thinks, it's really disheartning! Great that you talked about it👍Such ppl must get an answer & be ignored.

[@learnwithjaya729]

I absolutely agree Shivangi.. society around me is completely same here where men and their family want well educated girl who can earn because according to them their salary is not enough even if they are earning enough and girls cannot point out but the when it comes to house hold chores are only for girl's even child's responsibility.... actually days are getting way more worse that before.....🙄😔

[@mili20790]

Even I am a working wife and mother of 2 yr old kid. I have a house help. And nothing wrong in this. I mean khaana bunaana hi ek achi ladki ki pehchaan hoti toh Aaj har ladki shaadi k baad khush hoti. What matter is how responsible u r towards yourself,towards your family whether inlaws or your own family. Leave it shivangi. Yeh sab vahi bolenge jinko life me yehi sab Krna pasand aata hai and they forget to enjoy every moment of life with loved ones

[@vaishaligoswami9972]

Problem in India is actually the boys are babied by their mothers and then their mothers teach their daughter in law how she did all their works and how lazy they are that they can't even do that this. Somehow they think they are proud of their son being like this. The problem is in the roots like they don't leave the house before marriage so they don't know how to do basic household work chopping brooming dusting cooking washing etc.

[@AtharvKeTantrums]

wow wow wow…. what a slap on men’s face!!! Loved the video but I am commenting after being so surprised that there is no comment from men here. I was here really to see if there is any contradiction on such detailed video. Respect !!!

[@Nehasharma-nu9vb]

So true 90% men's mentality are same in India..I am 32 and don't want to marry bcz of this type of mentality

[@sresthasinha2046]

I'm almost 26 and yeah, don't feel like getting into marriage because of these types of mentality... I know everyone's not like this... But, there's nothing to check that... No matter how much you try to know someone, they may change their colours at any time... Hence, better to stay away from all these...

[@air_friedtissue]

Fr India has unlimited supply of trashy males.

[@yogini1290]

Same age nd no marriage reason 😊

[@babitaanegii8280]

❤❤

[@meghnag6070]

Trust me I hv a well paying job and also look well put but the only thing that my husband's family ( him included ) judge me for is my ability to cook meals for them and how much sacrifices I can make for my child...if you think marriage is tough, motherhood is 10 times tougher...so very important to marry a like minded guy with a modern outlook...I did not and it has brought me on the verge of depression

[@Ishika_Negii]

I literally was nodding my head the entire time!!! I second every single thing you said in this video. This is the first time your channel was recommended to me, and I'm so glad YT algorithm did. I feel so strongly about all this and you were so right about bringing about a change in your own household first. I have actively tried so hard (and gotten successful too) to instill all these values in my younger brother and making my mom understand these things, being the eldest in the family did help a little ngl. I know my little brother is going to be a "man written by a woman" and his partner (s) is definitely gonna thank me later haha.

[@babitaanegii8280]

❤❤❤

[@ChingamMal]

You don't have to oppose anything on him,let him learn with the growing age,it should not be in a toxic way,he should enjoy doing them,as am sure you will also not like something forcefully opposed.

[@Ishika_Negii]

@@ChingamMal I was expecting a guy to reply to my comment, and give his two cents and here you are :) You have absolutely no idea about my background, my values, my experiences and where I’m coming from. You don’t even know the context entirely. So please, keep this unsolicited opinion to yourself. FYI, my brother has a mind of his own. He’s been given the space to perceive things in his own way, and exercise the freedom of choice. So don’t come at with this shit. I’ve had enough of it from men like you.

[@monikagupta9828]

Still, men have to grow out of this mindset. We usually blame women for such mentality but this is the truth that men lead such ill mentality. Totally agree with you

[@YoxoxoY]

The mentality of the people is soo low nowadays that they can only comment on others lives and how they have never did a single work in their whole life... If u r expecting something from someone then u should give the same too... Thank U for bringing up this topic and speaking soo beautifully on it.... Honestly loved ittt...

[@vaishnavi3616]

I legit saw a man s comment over one video saying that "wives after my mother generations r just unpaid prostitutes " n it really scared me to the core its sad how westernization r spoiling men s thinking n it motivates me to work hard earn fucking good give luxurious life to my parents do some great social cause n after certain age take sanyas n move to vrindavan my father has set the bars high for me n i aint lower it for anyone my father gave me boxing gloves instead of belan at time of puberty its not like i will never learn how to cook i will but its not the only thing im obliged fo learn

[@babitaanegii8280]

Well said dear ❤❤

[@LoveYourself-my9nz]

It's not westernization which has made them this way but that's how they look at women. They try to shame women for having this control that they can be sexually active before marriage. Because women were always a sex slave to them that's what they think about their wives a free maid who they can f**k. sex is not something which happens between two individuals but it's only for them that's their mentality. These men who say these things are the same ones who just want to sleep with anyone. And sorry girl but our culture is the one from where they have learned this thing. That a woman only belongs to a man and they have sex with their husband. It's this purity culture problem and if that's what they say then tell them according to their logic men are the real prostitutes here. F**k I will Marry a prostitute rather than these kinds of men.

[@a.r.2006]

WTH seriously "unpaid prostitutes 🤬

[@Sien_yara]

I proudly agree I'm papa ki pari.... because I'm blessed enough to have a father like my dad and also the man in my life, his mother is treated like a queen by his father. So just imagine how I get treated by my man.... a queen 👑 that's all I have to say. Men reflect what their upbringing is inside their homes

[@Tasha_369]

This video needs to be shared more 🥺

[@easyveganfoodie]

Hats off to you for bringing this up on your platform. This is a very important conversation. Men nowadays want an educated and working wife but do not want to help out at home because they feel it’s not their job to do so. It’s ridiculous. I cook everyday and my husband washes the dishes and helps clean the house and other chores because we live in Canada and we don’t have any househelp. It’s just not possible to cook roti after cooking dinner every time. It takes a lot of time and we have to make a large amount at once because we don’t have time to make fresh roti three times a day. We both work full time. Its a normal thing to get roti from out when both are working. This entitlement of “I deserve this because I am a man” definitely comes form upbringing. My MIL has a job too so my husband (an only child) never grew up pampered like this. He had to help out at home. But my mom stayed home and so my brother never stepped foot in the kitchen. I, of course, had to help because “who would marry me if I didn’t know anything?” Nowadays even women are looking for men that know at least basic things.

[@AB-wn2gc]

Men might be strong physically but only thing that makes them fragile or weak is just a "Woman"🤣

[@skash6718]

I haven’t seen the video but I watched this particular video till the last.. this is so unfortunate. I am 39 and when my maid is not available, even I order rotis for my family. I choose not to make rotis. Those men who trolled you are absolutely the worst types. Am blessed with a lovely husband and family.

[@Booyawatchin]

Love this. Good job babe. We need more women and honestly men talk about the extent of patriarchy in this country. The rot is deep.

[@amanchoudhury8135]

Wait why only women have to learn how to cook . It's a basic skill. I help both my parents with everything possible. Cooking, cleaning and whatever. I am a guy but i have seen these things happen to my mother because of my grandparents from my fathers side. They disgust me by saying everything you mentioned and i promised myself i will never let that happen to my sisters and mother ever again .

[@ayushidhameja7082]

Whenever I see such comments from men under a women's video, I open their profile to check their images ( usually they have anime pictures or are "men" under 25 years old). There mothers are still probably washing their underwear and they feel they can leave such comments and say "didi ko bura lagg gaya". No wonder they will be depressed and lonely in their 40's because no women puts up with such BS in this generation. Real men support their partners, value their work and understand that everyone is a human deserve to live their life

[@rutvipatil9011]

I feel bad for that every woman who have to deal with these men.......shame

[@grooshaa]

I am so proud of you for bringing this topic up. Please don't dishearten yourself. You are excellent!

[@nancymultiart8570]

In a insta reel they were joking about women or something so I commented that it's not a joking topic so boys abuse me in the comment replies like "tum Jake bartan manjo" or "papa ke paise me nacho" and so many abusive words they use and I am like frustrated so I deleted that comment today it's really hard to Change there mentality 😖

[@maryadachauhan3008]

Each and every word said by you is absolutely correct..... recently i had a word with one of my friend about this thing he had put a story on his whatsapp in which he was targeting working women saying that " ladkiyo ki halat dekh k ab smjh aata hai ki inko pehle gharo me kyu rkha jata tha" at first i decide not to reply as i didn't want to get into an absurd conversation but for some reason i couldn't control myself and i replied... instead of understanding what i was trying to convey he started arguing and justifying his point... i was literally shocked to know that people of my age among my friends has this sort of mentality....girls doing wrong in the name of feminism is unacceptable and challenges are too equal for women and men in today's world but passing such comments and having this mentality that girls are only meant to do household chores is ridiculous.

[@promitakundu5763]

You don't have to justify yourself. If we continuously justify ourselves then that so-called educated society thinks that we have to justify ourselves for our choices..It's our life, our choices, your choices..so don't be so humble to them..

[@lizawilliam1815]

Women faced such problems in every household. In my house no matter how busy or sick I am... i,being a girl,have to serve tea and snacks to guest who visits my home. Cooking is only done by me. Men in my family never help me in cooking or cleaning. Thats y i dedided to stay out from my home and live separately. I am totally fed up.

[@PamDSouza]

If these so called men's/ women/aunties spend that same time in commenting on those motivational videos and replying to comments to those who are depressed this world would have been a better place

[@NativeBharatiye]

Being a girl, in my home my little brother makes tea, brooming the house & washing dishes. My mum have taught all her children me my sister & little brother equally 😂. Sometimes i feel , my brother will be best husband material when grows up. We have taught him really well to take care of women since he has lived majority of his life with 3 females at home 😁. My uncle taunts my brother for doing house chores but he doesn't mind. Although he sometimes refuses to do chores , but it is not for the feeling of "entitled"but just like a bickering competition & friendly fight among every sibling. He knows beating a girl is bad, he knows women shouldn't be only one to take care of the house etc and all this he feels without having the notion "Im doing Ahsaan on women by helping them". I'm proud of my chutku brother ❤ Mera chutku proudly true mama's boy h jo actually me female ki respect krna janta h, na ki vo jo maa k anchal chuph kr females ki disrespect ko justify krte h

[@rewatigajbhiye8830]

I am a person who usually cooks in my household because my mom is working and we as in my sister and I both are studying. Yes, a girl should indeed know how to handle a household as such but it also applies to boys as well. They should know about this as well, as it's a life skill. Yes, I know that cooking food also includes making roti and all, but as a person who is learning how to make roti and all, both a guy and a girl should know how to make one. It shouldn't be like that. If a girl makes roti for the first time and it isn't as good as your mother's, don't shame her. If a guy does the same, he is praised because apparently, he did it for the very first time. Like... WHAT?! 👀

[@uttarisha26]

hats off diii....thank you for bringing up this topic....i made my bf listen to this and we both just laughed at the mindset of all the men out there .... feeling so sorry for that its 2023 and still people are living in the 90s.

[@Wonder_Voice]

I am one of that girl who lives in the house full of men like you have said. And you don't have even 1% idea that what we went through every freaking day. It's very tough. My family can afford house help but we don't have because obviously why wife and daughter is there if we need house help. My family never want to me earn money, after completing my college, , I got job within 20 days that too in the time when companies were making lay offs, I worked for three months but in that three months my family was so much so against me, that mental torture was so brutal that I gave up and left the job even when I choose the shift when I complete the all household chores. I was the topper of my school and college, I was 2nd rank holder in my town in class 12th. And I never got the opportunity to go out for studies and now I am in home and doing all household chores everyday. I am definitely not saying doing that is wrong but I don't want to spent my life doing that for my whole life. My family is upper middle class family, I have good clothes to wear, good food to eat but phir bhi I don't feel like living anymore. It feels like I am in some luxurious prison. I don't even remember the last day I went out of my home😢 Even I cried for almost whole day yesterday, and my mom is the only reason I am living, otherwise I was not even commenting today, as I was so damn suicidal last night. You are actually privileged if you have such supportive men around you❤

[@deepikasagar8103]

Well said shivangi..i think its 2023 and ppl shd stop ranting n acknowledge the msg wat u gave through this conversation👍👏

[@Kaberi7]

I loved this ... thank you for brining it up. More power to you and all the women fighting to break this misogynistic mentality every day. We have a choice ... we have a voice ... time to raise it. And you hit the nail on the head it starts with "upbringing" ... educate yourselves, your sons and daughters about life skills and respect bc life is beyond gaining knowledge in an academic setting. Keep it up! Lots of love from Canada ❤

[@Neha_12396]

Feel so sorry for the women in India...still itne common sense ki baat p lg kaise without any reason kisi woman ko target krte the....u are so strong....u r an inspiration to many girls....u inspire us to be a strong woman....I m seeing ur videos from so early days...love ur makeup contents....love u ....ignore them n be you like a strong girl u r...u r an inspiration ❤

[@smitanaren]

Very well said!!! Things have changed and it’s time for people to change their mindset!!!

[@sneharaj345]

I really appreciate that you spoke about the fact whether people like these who are getting everything in hand appreciate their mom's or not.....both men n women need to learn how to cook because it's the basic necessity of life ,women can do everything which men can it's time for men to be understanding and supportive

[@kashishlal999]

Shivangi, thank you for addressing this. I'm very sadly mentioning that even in my house my mom never asks my brother to do anything in the kitchen... nothing at all! She behaves as if it is all MY RESPONSIBILITY to do all of that. So much so that I am expected to serve the already cooked food because vo toh ladka hai kaise karega bechare. But but but I believe this is the old skool system that we all need to stand against! More power to you, girl ❤

[@harshulvyas170]

Sabhi MEN ko bhi khana banana aana chahiye aur sare household chores me equally contribute karna chahiye i totally agree with you 😊👍

[@dishanirdesh7240]

Shivangi, yesterday I apparently offended an alpha male's ego when I asked him not to waste cake in an office celebration by applying on the face.

[@light5869]

​@@shasinha23 not everybody.. And neither everybody likes it... it's seen as food wastage and very silly behaviour in many parts of the country

[@supposedlyhuman]

​@@shasinha23some people just don't like it. I have severe OCD and can't stop myself hating a mess like that. If one is happy should do that, but not everyone is a sucker for that.

[@PKL2006]

men and their sky rocketing egos smh, also it wasnt your duty or responsibility to make take care of his fragile ego

[@ChingamMal]

He is not an alpha male,you misinterpret him,he is ghamandi macchar

[@a.r.2006]

To hell with his ego,food is not something that should be wasted 😑

[@sanyamjain9414]

I hope this video reaches each n every household who want to send their son out for higher studies but don't want him to learn basic household chores and then have the audacity to say ki " Mera Beta toh Bahar preshan ho gaya n kese sukh k ghr aya h"... Today its important for every individual to know the basic household chores to atleast support themselves... Rest after being financially independent it's their choice to do these basic work or hire someone to help them...

[@shalupandey5692]

I agree with you I am MBBS student from Maulana Aazad,I also faced it .at the time of my neet preparation i really needed hard to study and i want to study for 13-14 hr per day but my mother always urge me to do household work ....if I deny it and say no .. Then I have to face all the anger and the taunt I feel very sad because at that time I need the time to study 😔.

[@priyankasaini08]

I don't like to cook that much.. so never bothered to learn it as well. Btw i m 23 right now . Whenever there is a need that i have to cook .. i managed to do that . Honestly its not finger licking but definitely stomach filling. My parents constantly taunting me on to learn cooking. And the thing that make me so rebellious is that i m 23 i have my own brain but they still think i dont understand anything.

[@skindecorbyrachelshorts]

Absolutely right, i also feel very privileged . My mom dad brother always cooks and helps around the house, including myself . Even all the men in my family cooks and cleans and works as well .

[@GlossLady03]

No matter how much you achieve it’s never enough for society!

[@shivalikhariwal]

Every word you said throughout the video is absolutely true. I just want to add one point to all of this discussion about the gender equality thing, like we want our girls to be given freedom to choose whether or not they want to cook. Same way we need to also teach them that they just can't sit idle and expect the men in their lives to earn and provide. While we want the ladies to be freed of the burden of the patriarchal norms, we need to lift the burden of being a provider from the men of our society. This is for some of sensible men in our society. Leaving aside the kind of men you referred in the video, they have a long way to go. And obviously this depends from household to household. somewhere women can be comfortable being a homemaker and men takes the role of being a provider, it's the way they function, but either of it shouldn't come with an entitlement.

[@ShivangiSharmaOfficial]

Absolutely, it is so wrong to put all financial responsibilities entirely on men. Girls need to learn how to take equal responsibility and have realistic expectations. Working and keeping oneself busy not only makes finances better but even mentally it’s freeing.

[@ektahere]

its nothing but the insecurity and jealousy of men ki girls independent aur successful bhi ho skti hh.... let them cry🔥... and i wish you the best for future

[@Samarpita_gaba]

I feel disguisted about this society

[@tanushreedolai03]

Thank you so so much Shivi for speaking up!! Its so heartbreaking to see that even in 2023 we women still don't get the respect we deserve. Everything we do is questioned and comes to the point that "arey iske maa baap ne kuch nhi sikhaya". I thank my parents for raising me well and making me realise my worth and also raising my brother well and telling him that household chores are not just limited to women! Much love and power to you!! You do YOU!!! ♥️

[@manjotkaur12]

I just have so much respect for speaking this truth out. Men very subtly show off their insecurity from succesful women through such comments. They would find new reasons to out woman down instead kf feeling good that woman earns enough to order roti.❤ I agree that cooking is Survival skill and irrespective of gender everyone should know this. But women are just forced to aa if only women eat food. ❤ We all are just talking about equality everywhere but the fact that no body said anything to Arjun , instead sympthasized with him...wow

[@dr.aditigupta6422]

I genuinely feel so blessed to hv such great parents who have never taught these disgusting Patriarchy n women inequality. They treat me n brother the same way n i feel so blessed to hv house help since my childhood, even meri mummy b roti ni banati bcz she also has House help or mere papa b chai banate hai kabhi kabhi....but it is very sad to see such misogynistic behaviour of community n men especially as a doctor as well i come across so many such things which also makes me angry, but i really loved your efforts towards breaking the stereotype ❤❤❤❤ ily

[@shreya_mei]

In my house I have been facing huge challenges as a girl . I am told to start learning cooking ,cleaning ,basically house work for "future ". People in general think I have a boyfriend or something as I am on my phone most of the time but to be honest as a girl I am locked in the house . I am not allowed to step outside. And so I am called as a fight starter. I can't even call this place home. Anyways I am thankful that u made a video on this issue.I am not your subscriber but honestly speaking I appreciate your effort.♥️✨

[@savvybabby]

Wow!!!! Hats off for touching upon a very relevant social issue/ topic ....I have been through practically every taunt you spoke about and I revolted exactly the way you did...I don't regret it one bit and never will. Love your videos...love your thought process ....God bless you ❤❤❤

[@Neha-fe8tv]

I have been married in such family, where a we cant be in the same room where my fil is sitting. My brother in law (elder brother of my husband) behaves very differently in the presence of his parents, like me n he can't have a direct conversation. Which was really odd to to me. He is like my big brother, but we can't talk. But in their absence we all ( me, my husband , jeth and jethani) talk , laugh and enjoy a lot. But thankfully my husband has changed a lot in past 14 years of our marriage. He understands that these things are out dated and he helps me in our day to day chores

[@mihirsharma0987]

Recently we have celebrated our 77th independence day ...but still people can't change their mentality and be independent ...let other live their life independently and the way they are ....it's actually a fact that in up , bihar , haryana , rajasthan and WB people still carrying very sick mentality ..live your life the way you are ❤❤🤗🤗

[@seeker9497]

Never seen female foeticide and honor killings in intercaste marriage in west bengal. But all these things still happen in other places.

[@mihirsharma0987]

@@seeker9497 very true ...and in up what's nonsence is happening . ..there still lower caste people literally treated as roarside dogs and cats ..and more worse . I mean for what reason people are doing this kind of shits. ...in 2023 also people can't get rid of caste , religion and gender. ..on this basis ..constant discrimination is.. going on.. but it's time to educate them ...and make our India independent from all this illogical shits ❤️

[@sweetpie0295]

I actually feel sorry for these grown up boys who are the actual ones endangered in our society. And this happens as a result of bad parenting. Cant even blame their parents as because they too are a product of a toxic society and environment. I dont believe real men would ever behave like this. The men that I always met and have in my life always taught me to be bold , strong and independent. Through them I have seen what being a real man means. These disgusting creatures think it is cool to just disrespect someone with their gender, or caste, or background because they themselves are insecure. May god bless them with some sense and maturity in the next life. Feel sorry for the women in their lives truly!

[@TheSafnaa]

Please ignore negative comments. I saw the video nothing wrong in ordering roti from outside. I also get roti from outside my husband is perfectly fine with it though my husband is a chef and he never complains about it. Sometimes if my food has turned out bad he himself rectify it and tells me where I made mistake. Just ignore people don't have work to appreciate. I also learnt cooking after marriage.. Important is that you have a supportive husband and you are lucky

[@Sainam19]

I’m so speechless. As a nation, we still have a long way to go. Kudos to you for handling this so well. ❤

[@reshmi100ful]

This is one topic no privileged women feel the need to talk and victims cannot do anything about ,or else they are put down. Anything which is done for family is not less and need entitlement 👏 Thankyou for voicing it out.

[@BabliShil]

Dear sister, you are really lucky I am going through the same thing. Sometimes I get confused about who is wrong because sometimes even our loved ones say those harsh words to us.

[@KQueen39]

You're talking way too respectfully about these people than they deserve. Hats off to you for addressing the topic. But knowing about these things though social media makes me sad to realise where we truly are as a country. 😢