The Hateable Socialite - Why We Love to Hate-Watch Her

From the Kardashians and Paris Hilton to Emily Gilmore and Moira Rose, we relish the lives of real and fictional socialites, people whose job is just to be in the upper echelons of society. In part, watching these people feels like wish fulfillment. But we also crave stories about socialites’ downfalls - stories that allow us to experience a certain schadenfreude and a sense of superiority over those who are so above the rest of us in terms of money and status. The socialite embodies the best and worst America has to offer - but they just may be more complicated and less in control than we think.
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00:00 Why can't we make up our minds about socialites?
01:20 Where our hate for the socialite comes from
05:08 Is she a symbol of the American Dream?
10:31 The perils of the socialite lifestyle

[@BoredTAK5000]

“It is ridiculous to separate people into good and evil. People are either charming or tedious” - Oscar Wilde

[@JessicaMiller-pc4dj]

Omg I love this so much 🤭. I never really thought of it like that, but to be honest, it's probably true.

[@BoredTAK5000]

@@JessicaMiller-pc4dj Yeah that's why we love the Disney villains of old/Bill Cypher they're evil and they love it

[@sorasorisora]

nah, ever since i understood that even hate-engagement is still engagement, which turns into profit, i've managed to steer away from those people in social media.

[@JessicaMiller-pc4dj]

Agreed. I keep getting recommendations/notifications for people who I suspect are horrific, such as Andrew Tate, I think his name is. But I refuse to Google him, so I only know from comments that reference him. I used to be addicted to the Real Housewives of Beverly Hills but I am now clean and won't promote these awful people and pollute my mind with toxic nonsense.

[@lstarsabb]

@@JessicaMiller-pc4dj Exactly i don't even know Andrew Tate's voice and i don't care to because i know he is misogynist baiter and I not going to give him the attention he wants. I don't go watch someone I know will piss me off, what's the point of that. If someone watches and tell me about i will drag them but I'm not putting more money in their pockets. That's why the Kardashain's became the most successful trolls in the first place.

[@merry_christmas]

Every single time a reel that gives me that negative energy (gossip accounts about the Kardashians usually) I just click "don't show me this content/account". At the start it's a bit of work, but both my feed and timeline are now 90% filled with things that I value (whether funny or informative). Much better for my mental health.

[@Morgan_L]

@@lstarsabb This is how I've always felt about the Paul brothers. All the hate react videos that came out a few years ago for the Hype House, their music, etc. just gave them more notoriety. Even in 2022, they still make headlines every once in a while. People never learn.

[@lkofie6670]

EXACTLY... that's where the old saying, "There's no such thing as bad press," comes in.

[@joshuaphillips755]

I still don't understand the appeal of fawning over rich people. Gross.

[@swatisaini6447]

Wrong! We fawn over their huge amount of wealth not them

[@lstarsabb]

Yeah i get escapism but it's what people do live through them that disgusts me. 7-year- old's can't just have a party at the park with a just burgers and cake anymore they hate rent a spot and have crazy themes because their parents watch good pictures for the internet cause that's what celebrities do for their kids 🙄

[@imalrockme]

@@lstarsabb Couldn't put it better.

[@lucypreece7581]

My second day of PLEASE asking for you to do a video on "The Wife Guy" which are celeb men who make loving their wife or partner so much and being "the married guy" a huge part of their overall personality but then go and cheat on them and destroy that part of their image like John Mulaney, Adam Levine, Ned Fulmer and Anthony Ramos. Like These men made monogamy cool and were seen as refreshing for being so in love with their partner and like talking about their wife like she is some kind of goddess so we all thought they would all stay the course and like be the proof that love is real but then they only go and prove that even those most vocal about being in love can hide dark secrets.

[@bre7931]

This is a great topic!! I’d love for them to do a video on this

[@AliMarie022]

It's an interesting topic, but their takes are usually on film & tv stereotypes that sometimes relate to real people but deserve more nuance. What films or shows depict this trope?

[@lucypreece7581]

@@AliMarie022 they have done abput real people and like Internet trends and stuff in the past. They have done videos about how one person is the embodiment of a single trope but also shown other examples

[@lenisghio]

yes, this

[@MsDaydream3r]

Robin Thicke is another one of these.

[@katherinealvarez9216]

Honestly, I'm not into watching the reality tv socialites but into the fictionalized versions? I mean, Bridgerton counts, right?

[@JessicaMiller-pc4dj]

Yes, to this. I want to be entertained, not frustrated that people like this actually exist in real life 🤭

[@justintime3656]

@@JessicaMiller-pc4dj same

[@adipink1]

Two words - guilty pleasure

[@X-Warrior.8719]

Words to live by, the words to living by...

[@LibraryCake]

ever since Ray J showed the contract where there were multiple sex tapes delivered and Kris picked the one to be "leaked", I try to imagine the world we would have lived in without The Kardashians

[@cici.ngxenge]

😹😹😹idk why i giggled at this

[@WolframKKM]

I loved watching gossip girl and other fictionalized versions, but the real life versions are just boring.

[@8YNA]

real

[@conforzo]

I wish I could understand... I don't love, hate or love-hate these people. They're just so uninteresting to the point where even typing this comment feels like a waste. I feel pretty lucky in how these people never are on my mind. Life is short, there are so many interesting, talentented and fascinating people to engage with. Don't waste your time with these ones...

[@jaimicottrill2831]

Yes exactly. I am glad that i never watched any of the ridiculous "reality" tv with the Real Hilton Kardashians or whatever the shows were called. I want to be entertained by real actors with talent. Although, I was not happy with the sex-tape leak of Paris Hilton. She was 19 and was ridiculed and sexualized by the whole world. People are too cruel. You can hate or dislike someone , but if they're not harming you or anyone else with their ridiculous antics then just ignore them.

[@k_a_y_l_e_e]

absolutely agree.

[@tx_gal6518]

Imagine if you were rich, young, and attractive. When that’s not enough and you’re still bored with your life because you didn’t accomplish anything to earn it, that’s when you’d need an audience for some kind of (false) purpose. You can’t party all the time with no real goals. It’s monotonous. You’ll start to question why you’re here at all. It’s very sad watching whole families looking for attention beyond each other’s and teaching that to their children.

[@lollo-cr9vf]

We love them beacuse we want to live in their world, and we hate them beacuse we can't

[@hamerenegus7222]

Damn…that’s deep.

[@JessicaMiller-pc4dj]

No not all of us. I used to watch with a variation of these 😳👀😬 facial expressions. It was morbid fascination. I would obviously like to be comfortably wealthy, but I would never ever want even a fraction of their lifestyles.

[@swatisaini6447]

Guilty as charged😅

[@WifeMamaArtist]

Or, we don’t give a crap and simply ignore them…

[@glamglam8347]

speak for yourself rachel

[@PokhrajRoy.]

One of the reasons I liked ‘The Gilded Age’ was because of the Socialite Aspect and of course the drama with Bertha Russell being the ultimate chaos agent.

[@sophieh.4097]

I love bertha russel! Also Agnes (Cristina Baranski's character) is such a perfect embodiment of the snobby old rich in new york

[@SS-mk2yp]

I can hate the rich without watching their shows, buying their crap or following their socials, thank you very much. Schitts Creek and this video being the exceptions.

[@SforzandaS]

Happy to see some Great Gatsby content here!

[@LauraSomeNumber]

Creators are not socialites because being a true socialite means you don't have to work, part of why creators burn out is because they do have to work. Edit: spelling corrected "yo"* to "to"

[@PokhrajRoy.]

If Lady Diana had lived, she’d be a cool socialite. Whatever little we knew of her, she was good at it albeit dealing with situations along the way.

[@schadenfreudeegoism7485]

She was born into generational wealth and royal blood. TF is relatable about her?

[@keishamorris5571]

But Lady Diana is not a foolish socialite... She is 'The Queen of Hearts'. The Princess of Wales did a lot for the greater good and the sake for humanity. I understand what you are saying but Princess Diana is not only Royalty but a kindhearted person with a beating heart of pure gold.

[@schadenfreudeegoism7485]

@@keishamorris5571 Being kind won't take away the fact that she was very privileged and sheltered. People like her don't need to worry about work.

[@keishamorris5571]

@@schadenfreudeegoism7485 Yes, I get what you are saying, even though Princess Diana was born into Royalty, however, she wasn't entitled, selfish, condescing or aloof. She was a down to earth person with a wonderful, kind and thoughtful personality. I don't care how if the peson is rich or born into wealth or prestige and I most definitely don't need to relate to anyone. I care about what kind of person they really are. And I will be damned if anyone say anything bad about Princess Diana.

[@WifeMamaArtist]

@@schadenfreudeegoism7485 you need to check your tenses, the woman has been dead for 35 years!!

[@anatole9839]

I was asking myself this few days ago! They are not that good people (seen from their own shows and heard from their own voices) and still they are so popular... P.s. it's the money... And people dreaming of it - security and comfort that it can provide (most of the time). And beauty that can be enchanced with it, but all for that sense/feeling of security we all seek. We of course look for it in the wrong people, but socialites are wealthy people who actually want to show us inside glimpse of their lives... Other, maybe more quality, wealthy people do everything to keep their privacy so we have no "entrance" there...

[@ShimmersMuffin]

Excellent reasoning. (:

[@Marigen1971]

Nope, I don't hate them , I just don't watch them.

[@pdhismyhomeboy]

This was so interesting. Has The Take done one of these on Toxic Masculinity as its portrayed in film and television and how it’s changing?

[@cazia9]

There’s a few episodes such as Problem With the Nice Guy or the analysis of Promising Young Woman this channel has done

[@antoniu9757]

Toxic masculinity doesn't exist.

[@enoyna9495]

@@antoniu9757 elaborate

[@gardeniabrune2125]

@@antoniu9757 really? Men in society pushed into tough, emotionally unavailable, strong roles where they can’t express themselves or be vulnerable out of fear? Where they push this societal masculine so hard on themselves for validation that it ends up being insufferable for them and those around them? Yes it obviously does exist denying it proves the point

[@Tenju96]

@@antoniu9757 You not knowing what it is doesn't mean it doesn't exist. A world exists outside of your understanding, Kevin.

[@sakuranovaryan9261]

I wonder how Moira rose and Alexis fit into this. Since I actually get to learn from them

[@datuangela]

I don't love-hate. I just don't care

[@UnboxingAlyss]

I appreciate the take, but I still couldn't care less about these people. Unlike many, I actually don't follow all their BS. The only time I hear about reality crap like this is either vi a Yahoo headline, or this channel.

[@Arekushisukun]

YES. I follow this yt channel cause the contents and nowadays the Kardashians again and again

[@glamglam8347]

exactly people who have lives and things to do arent watching out for what the Kardashians are doing. this whole "love to hate" /"jealous but still watching" only applies to losers who are chronically online

[@depressedphilosopherbitch7581]

@@glamglam8347 or teens like me lol

[@indiarodriguez6478]

y'all can keep this take. thank you

[@desireepetitdemurat8660]

I wish you could have used scenes from Robert Redford and Mia Farrow’s The Great Gatsby. Much more visually pleasing and endearing.

[@anabltc]

Anna Delvey relatable? Seriously? Swindling is now considered earning?

[@fortune_roses]

As an *INTJ* (pretty socially robotic) I actually admire socially skilled people & often try to learn from them... it's *different but maybe there's something to learn*

[@ShimmersMuffin]

I like your point.

[@aricarly]

Same, I'm also an INTJ, and I always like to watch other people socialize so I can learn what to do (or what not to do) in similar social situations.

[@shanouboubou]

0:35 It's strange that they took THIS scene from KUWTK to illustrate how the rich have no real problems, when in fact there were so many underlying family issues in this scene. Kim's superiority complex, Kourtney's selfishness, Kris's obvious favoritism and how it all came crashing together. Sure it seems like a dumb fight in surface but in reality those are the kind of family issues that really hurt an individual (here Kourtney) and hurt a family's dynamic as a whole.

[@anabltc]

It's basically "my colleagues are all late for work", this is their work. Making photos. It's like having a roofing business with your brothers and they don't show up that day

[@sonnyblacktr24]

Our society yearns for the monetary wealth and privilege of these socialites, because a show based on a regular woman volunteering at a food pantry isn't good tv

[@jennyfab312]

kim absolutely had that taped leaked. She knew what she was doing

[@FervidlyCurious]

Wow nice topic 😜😉

[@spandanav22]

You guys forgot to update the description. It is the same as the previous video of making villain characters too beautiful. Am I the only one who reads them?

[@AutumnFS]

Honestly I don't care about Anna Delvey as a person, but seeing rich people get ripped off gives me enormous satisfaction.

[@glamglam8347]

i thought i was the only one that didn't care about her crimes towards the rich. boohoo multimillionaires lost money that they're probably going to make back in a couple weeks boohoo

[@thewhitewolf58]

I dont watch them but as youtube has taught me one thing: put alot of time and work into something and no one will watch it. Put low effort clickbait based on fads and you will be struggling to find places to put all your money.

[@natesamadhi33]

There's truth to this, but there's some nuance you're missing. There definitely is real good, high-effort entertainment out there, but the problem is: many great creators are bad business-people, while many bad creators are great business-people. So because of this, stupid tik-tokers dominate the market (for awhile) because they know what it takes to market themselves & because they're greedy & "money-minded"..but that only lasts for so long if there's nothing timeless & universal about their work. But if you combine great creators with great business-people, they create the best content ever made; Game of Thrones (seasons 1-4) being one of the top 5 shows of all-time is proof that smart, high-effort content ultimately wins in the end IF it has the right business-team to get it to the right people.

[@thewhitewolf58]

@@natesamadhi33 well shit....thankyou.

[@k_a_y_l_e_e]

kris made her entire family. i don't like the kardashians but if any of them deserve any sort of attention for actual talent, it's kris. her daughters are just her puppets.

[@anitaknight3915]

I agree Kris pimps out her children. She's brilliant at marketing and branding. She is truly the business mind and Kim's her narcissistic twin apprentice who learned from Paris.

[@bigsistahtips]

I never hated socialites. That’s because people are boring and never dare to meet them. They’re actually fun to be around. I wouldn’t be friends with them because I can’t afford that lifestyle. But every now and then they’re fun to hangout with. You’d be surprised the things you can experience if you weren’t that judgemental.

[@Arekushisukun]

yea right... Anybody wants nachos???

[@KittySnicker]

Yeah I think I’m good lol

[@glamglam8347]

maam you just called people boring and then ended off your statement with "if you weren't that judgemental".

[@bigsistahtips]

@@glamglam8347 I’m describing out of knowledge. Judgemental people are just opinionated without making the effort to get to know people. If that has to be explained, then I completely understand why someone would need to watch the take to have their thoughts delivered to them.

[@marykay7878]

love your videos, but in ALL videos, the background music is a bit too loud, and a bit too upbeat, as well. something slower and also on a lower volume would make the videos much more enjoyable :)

[@parthasarathipanda4571]

I think we just love thinking 'well atleast we are not THAT' 😝... For more watch 'Envy' by Contrapoints....

[@tyriaxepheles7996]

OMG she said "SCHEIDENFREUDE" 😂😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@damnfreshlife4252]

Oh, you have to do a Sad girl (and maybe toxic girl) trope video!!! It's such a trend (again)

[@milaana4503]

They did a sad girl video recently

[@lkofie6670]

Well, the thing is, why hate or pedalstalize anyone's station in life? They can't help that they were born into money or came into money. What's disturbing is the mocking of the everyday average life of most people for ratings or comic relief perhaps, as demonstrated in shows such as "The Simple Life."

[@dio4630]

Like Marilyn we knew not Norna we don't know "Blonde" in the movie.

[@doughnuthead8757]

We’re drawn to glamour.

[@ainabend4943]

So are we going to wait for the end of HOTD to get a deep dive into it's characters Specially alicent ،?

[@9000ck]

what happened to the kk lawyer thing? i'm curious as to whether she will actually do it. actually, i'm not interested at all.

[@babyfaceweeb8937]

Ummm... Saying that Paris Hilton having her sex tape leaked was meant to humble her is gross. It was an illegal, invasive, and horrible situation.

[@jaimicottrill2831]

Yes, and she was only NINETEEN! I can't imagine having that happen to me at any age, let alone when you're barely an adult.

[@anonymousperson799]

No no, it's just hate.

[@annejohnson5875]

Ugh! More Kardashian worship from the Take. Their father was on O.J.'s defense team. That's bad enough.

[@BeccaBeccaBecca22]

Seriously!! Who is behind the writing on here? They’re really missing the mark recently. Even this video felt lazier than they used to be.

[@Albemarle7]

How about the ultimate reality show; super spoiled super rich brats are forced struggle for survial in a place of REAL poverty. They will not be alowed to leave, and face what they would call injustice.

[@katieshiner]

@AlishaMarie lmao ya made it babes 🤣

[@Tenju96]

I like watching fictional socialites but not real ones, they seem quite boring and unappealing. Money looks good, to get comfort, security, and beautiful stuff. But looking at people with actual money, most of them.. nah they're not interesting, I'm not interested. They usually come off as quite stupid, maybe they're not, I don't know enough about them, but I don't feel like knowing more either. In fiction it's just about dreaming of a nice life, and characters can be interesting.

[@Tenju96]

I remember Paris Hilton back then, I had heard of the sex tape I think? but I was confused about why she was famous, I was wondering what she was famous for, it was quite confusing. Now so many people are rich for the same reason (nothing) I can of understand, I guess, but yeah I remember feeling a bit confused about it back then.

[@piranha5506]

Can you do a video on iranian women instead?! We have great cinema too and with everything that is happening we need our voice out there. Help us.

[@robertlong5143]

The take is not the same as it was anymore

[@polevaultgirl33]

Agreed- I liked it better when they were talking about characters from tv shows, like their Mad Men and HIMYM videos

[@phatato]

What show is at 2:35?

[@blueblack3591]

Gatsby was not nice either

[@AdityaKanfade]

I didn't know the pronounciation of schadenfreude till I watched this video

[@chrissiem3958]

Please @TheTake please do a video..... or 5..... on Schitt's Creek!

[@jordanloux3883]

They did already

[@fabialvarez13]

I really like Paris. I couldn't care less about the rest

[@depressedphilosopherbitch7581]

Same!

[@arianewinter4266]

I do not hate them, I do not enjoy watching them, I do not judge them, they are just very boring to me

[@Angel-ts8rc]

No daisy slander allowed! She was so poorly represented in the 2013 adaptation!

[@PeachyPechx]

4:06 girl I think you got the years wrong in here

[@whyisgamora5435]

❤️ 🇲🇽hola

[@vanessastegall]

Brandi Glanville is one person I wouldn’t want to be friends with.

[@Leto85]

03:11 That part made me laugh, but not out in a hateful way: I haven't seen this episode, but aren't the Kardashians just provoking self-satire here?

[@dcmkflylo1603]

Your description doesn't match the video.

[@M.I.S.C.]

If only somehow it were law that the rich must live like the lower or middle class for a week to keep their wealth/business so they don't lose touch with the lives of people they get their money from.

[@yasminbois]

Old money people couldn’t afford that sorta house without new money. Idk it’s just too big, but maybe I’m wrong

[@Arekushisukun]

PLEASE STOP!!! The only place I see the Kardashians again and again and again is HERE on the TAKE. Whats Happening here? The Take, once you were cool!!!

[@martamarinomexuto1326]

Skills in event-planning? These people have event planners, give me a break!

[@Genedide]

These celebs are where the “boss babes” still survive. They continue to “inspire” women with work from home jobs to work their asses of and share their “ideal couples” videos on Instagram. They consider that happily ever after. 😢

[@etherjumper]

10:35 yes, yes it does. Are we really defending the upper-class? They are not victims. This channel has gotten out of touch. Unsubcribed.

[@etherjumper]

@m g the amount of wealth these people have is a crime. I'm not having this argument with you dear. If you think that makes me bitter, then that's fine. The truth often is.

[@etherjumper]

@m g my biases against the rich? Are you listening to yourself? Bye girl ✌️

[@chalyndajackson9384]

Definitely not rooting for the Kardashians. I never have nor never will

[@nicolette928]

Hate stems from insecurity. Most of these women are wealthy and beautiful. Of course people are going to hate them, because they wish they were them.

[@juditrovo4152]

Pls stop including the Kardashians in every episode. :'( Literally this is the only channel I see them, but here all the time.

[@mccod035]

Kim just was fined for not paying her taxes but ok lol

[@inescastellano7960]

Please make a video about Cobra Kai. There's so much to analyze there.

[@nightmuffin937]

Yeah these are the types that got rich from the Pyramid scheme

[@cedarmoss7173]

There is a difference between having a great character and being a good person-my definition of good person being: someone that does the right thing more often than not. Many rich and powerful people are charismatic, friendly, and attractive but have millions if not billions of dollars while millions of people go without their basic physical needs being met and dying because of it. Rich people can have plenty of life difficulties such as, chronic illnesses, complicated love lives, or family issues, and we can empathize with them. That doesn’t erase the harm these people do on the daily by not using their privilege to help others and building their wealth on the backs the impoverished and abused. In summary, rich people can be friendly and have issues, that doesn’t mean they aren’t fucking monstrous for hoarding their money and not dismantling the systems that made it possible to become that rich in the first place.

[@bellaknightR597]

I don't hate Paris Hilton, she's an icon, I don't really care about the others in this video

[@shafiaafrin1881]

Please review RRR

[@tabathastaples7884]

Do you have eyes to see / ears to hear ??????? Shepherd's Chapel Network !!!!!!!

[@jeffersonpadilla3677]

are socialites only women?

[@lulubelle65]

No interest in any of these people. I’m not sure I could pick out a Kardashian in the wild. Gatsby on the other hand…I can talk about his world all day.

[@h525]

I could never feel sympathy for people who are THAT rich. In our world having this amount of money = take it from the ones who are starving and working to death for nothing. I would never understand rich people not knowing what else to do with their millions when our world is like this.

[@tylerwatkins2923]

Talk about tv shows constantly being rebooted

[@jordanloux3883]

You have a better chance of getting an audience's attention if you give them something they recognize the name of. That's it.

[@user-ooop]

@@jordanloux3883 but no one wants this tho and they've succeeded before

[@SW-jg7yh]

Not sure why you keep showing Garcelle Beauvais.. She came from Haiti and is a totally self made model and actress

[@mccod035]

I am sorry I dont watch stuff on these people very much I rather watch something else

[@etherjumper]

I wonder how many dislikes this video has.

[@yugiohlover101]

45

[@HereIAm247]

People who hate on them are people who feel inadequate, and find it hard to live up to the celebrity standards, even though no-one is expecting them to. Therefore, they put them down and act like they are superior, when in fact, they feel super inferior. Whether they do it with "I don't care" (because it is super popular to not care about anything these days), "she is garbage" or something else.

[@johnjohnson3709]

I don’t watch any of these sad people.

[@whodis7507]

[@erisha3998]

So early

[@gt_enrico]

I love your content, but I have do admit the Erika Jayne on the thumbnail is the reason why I clicked. RHOBH 4EVAAAA

[@jadziawynter9241]

Second!🥈✌🏾

[@jungookookie413]

I cant stand the way Alexis saying “David”, midway through the 4th season I dropped the show for that reason

[@Bellalisa3000]

Usually I enjoy your videos but phrasing the leak of Paris Hilton's sextape as lesson to be learned and "being humbled" when what happened to her is form of sexual abuse? Awful, victim shaming and implying that sexual abuse is a righteous punishment. Where is your tact?

[@Genedide]

🎵: “Lifestyles of the rich and the famous They're always complainin' Always complainin' If money is such a problem Well, they got mansions THINK WE SHOULD ROB THEM” Who’s down with me? ✊

[@Beckalicious__]

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