The Daddy’s Girl Trope - Why Our Culture Fetishizes Her

In our culture, the father/daughter relationship is a romance. And the ‘daddy’s girl’ is seen through the rose-colored glasses of a father who never wants her to grow up. Onscreen, she's an idealized - but stunted - version of femininity, one who’s focused on pleasing and getting praise for doing whatever her dad approves of. The dynamic appears in adulthood as a kind of role play: with the daughter as an infantilized, helpless innocent, and the father her heroic savior.
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00:00 What makes a Daddy's Girl?
01:38 Why the "Daddy's Little Princess" stereotype exists
04:21 The troubling Electra Complex dynamic
08:50 How the "Daddy" Meme went viral
11:40 How the Daddy's Girl can finally grow up

[@trinaq]

When Cher Horowitz says "Daddy", it's adorable. When Veronica Lodge says "Daddy", it's creepy and unsettling.

[@logenkangiesser5880]

In the comics she used to call her father ‘Daddykins’

[@paulinaenck5797]

Because Cher is charming, and her relationship with her father is super healthy and wholesome. Veronica and her father have a weird and creepy relationship.

[@Bubbles603]

@@paulinaenck5797 Remember that one episode where a therapist basically suggested that Veronica subconsciously wanted to fvck her dad? I felt so uncomfortable because it felt like they were gonna use that as an excuse for them to sleep together. They didn’t but still

[@fernandaescobar3721]

@@paulinaenck5797 yup, with the way Verónicas' family works I feel like "Father" would work better, or even just "Dad".

[@thatbee3585]

Agree and agree

[@trinaq]

In a lot of depictions of the "Momma's Boy", he's a spineless nerd who has his entire life controlled by his domineering mother. The Daddy's Girl is normally portrayed a lot more positively, and I'd like to see the Momma's Boy on par with that, in that they're close, but she doesn't want to control his life.

[@doggytheanarchist7876]

Yes. There's always such a demonizing of mothers. Would be nice to see just 1 dude who has a healthy relationship to his mother. Oh and who isn't gay. 😅 Coz apparently that's the only situation where a man can be close with his mother.

[@ngaiosbrain]

My understanding of a "muma's boy" it a thick selfish ejit who is incapable of cleaning up after himself or having any emotional maturity and expects or relies on women having not only their own shit, but also the MAN'S shit together for him to function. Definitely not a controlling mother, more a fawning enabling mother who has been the first victim of his controlling and misogynistic behaviour. Jacques from uk love island s8 springs to mind

[@marshalmarrs3269]

The next trope should be mother daughter relationships

[@RoseEyed]

I have seen a lot of positive portrayals of men who are close to their mothers. I think there’s a difference between that and a “mama’s boy” though. We just need a formal word for it 😄

[@zenagitana]

Mama's boys can be just as bad without the spineless boy/dominant mother trope. A guy who runs to mommy for comfort, advice, to complain about his spouse, that always puts his mother's cooking and ways of doing things as superior to his wife's, who would abandon his wife to attend to the slightest petition from his mom, etc (I could go on and on) - this is a mama's boy. And in none of these situations is the mother domineering and controlling. His love for his mother is almost sexual.

[@bnadira212]

Calling your SO “daddy” wasn’t never a thing I ever wanted to do. It was weird to me

[@junjiscomb7909]

agree it's cringe

[@trinaq]

Seconded, I don't know why it's even a thing!

[@juliabishop1408]

100% agree!

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

evie lupin has a great video on this

[@Missmagazinebura]

I don’t call my daddy I just called him dad

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

Can you talk about women with abandonment issues due to their father leaving and how it’s weaponized against them ? I’m not sure what you would name that trope though. I guess maybe Daddy issues trope ?

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

I don't know why their dad leaving is something weaponized against them. They didn't make their dad leave, that was their dad's decision.

[@gabriellaberman]

Would love to see this

[@gabriellaberman]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 it’s just blatant misogyny

[@malvavisco10]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 it is because then they’re mocked relentlessly for having “daddy issues”

[@unionunicorn6776]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 Sadly I think it’s blaming the victim. It’s such a complete and total betrayal to abandon your child, some people blame the victim aka the child. They think “nobody could be THAT monstrous as to leave their kid forever, right? Must be something wrong with the kid…” I think people are inherently a little fearful of the child that gets abandoned, but they’d never admit it. I know this because it is how everyone has treated me when they find out I don’t have my father in my life, and why. There is this flash of fear and horror in their eyes when I tell them my life story. That’s why I stopped telling people about my traumatic childhood unless they are absolutely pressing me for information.

[@jessicavictoriacarrillo7254]

Now do the Overprotective Dad, who is low key controlling of his daughter and her sexuality (so many 90s sitcoms), the Big Beautiful Woman who suffers from both the misogyny directed at her often thinner Bombshell sisters along with Fatphobia and conditional desirability and fetishization. And the Plain Jane whose so embittered she hurts other women, often for male approval or a fleeting sense of empowerment (Linda Tripp and Alma Fillcott from Why Women Kill)

[@ffm595]

yesss, i've been wanting them to do a take on the overprotective dad for years

[@user-hl1ip7if9r]

It reinforces the historical notion of women being passed as property from their fathers to their husbands. Women are portrayed as desiring and thus seeking the same patriarchal control their traditional fathers exerted on their mothers and themselves- furthering patriarchy generation by generation.

[@espeon871]

Yep

[@Cherabreena]

This.

[@jerusalema4eva434]

🎯

[@sofiabravo1994]

Go patriarchy ❤️

[@johnindigo5477]

Literally the reason for white weddings

[@THESMOSHTIME]

It doesn’t help how fathers “gatekeep” their daughters from potential male partners because they know how bad men can treat women

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

That and/or they're trying to control their daughter s3xual1ty

[@24Wynn]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 Exactly. It just confuses young women more when their Dad's gatekeep them in that way but don't do the same with their sons.

[@rejectionisprotection4448]

But then say "not all men" in other contexts.

[@faerieliana]

YES! Men know how terrible they are to women, they know

[@EvolianTiger]

Or how bad the dads treated women before getting with their wives.

[@walteranders9396]

As a proud father of three beautiful daughters who are grown into exceptional young women, the daddy trope is personally disgusting to me in terms of romanticizing and sexualizing. I do admire some father daughter interpretations on film in terms of reinforcing strength and qualities that help them grow into upstanding adults. Movies like Oldboy, Audition, and Orphan despite being very strong controversial storytelling, I find myself unable to watch ever again in my lifetime if I can help it.

[@mariecait]

my dad had three daughters.. i feel bad i am not exceptional. he is disappointed in all of us because we didn’t graduate college. i’m glad you care about your daughters to watch this stuff

[@CATDHD]

Can you not disconnect your personal life with what you see on screen? O Dae Su is not only father, he is also person man. Sure, his story revolves around fatherhood , but there are other aspects to him...ok, never mind

[@K1ng1995]

I've never understood guys dating women that were born when they were almost finished Hugh and this is xoming from a guy that's from hometown where most females my age have A: Gotten engaged to their best friends dads B: Got knocked up and had kids with guys older than their dads

[@witchplease9695]

I honestly see this as another male fantasy trope of exerting power over a woman in a more "socially acceptable" way that they cannot with their wives and girlfriends since it is not a romantic/sexual relationship. If you want to see good examples of healthy father-daughter dynamics in media where the daughter retains her agency as a human being that her father respects while looking out for, animated media honestly has some of the best. The Sea Beast on Netflix has a great-found family one between Maisie and Jacob. Encanto shows a great relationship between Mirabel and her father, and Bob's Burgers has Bob Belcher as a great dad figure overall.

[@emilymatthews2990]

I actually have the archetype of a Daddy’s girl in my writing but I subvert it in the idea that my character is close to her father but she kicks ass as much as he does and they are more on equal footing, one of my older writings had her fighting against him.

[@KittySnicker]

I actually just love my dad 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@witchplease9695]

@@KittySnicker I love mine as well. That doesn’t change the fact that media doesn’t reflect the healthiest dynamics 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@blameitoncapitalism]

that's kinda odd but in Hannah Montana Miley's dad Robbie Rae is the best live action TV dad I've ever seen.

[@RositaAdams]

I never did understand this trope. I don't like calling other men I'm dating "Daddy". I don't care how much they like it or not. I have two dads - one biological and a stepfather. I don't need or want anymore. I don't know. Maybe it's just me.

[@tygressblade]

I agree entirely…a huge turn off is being asked to call a man “daddy” during sex.

[@user-ny1wo1vp9r]

Yeah this. The whole daddy kink thing is so weird to me. My dad is an okay kind of guy, but I'm not looking for someone like him in a partner. Nor am I looking for the exact opposite of him or anything. He just doesn't figure in....why should he?

[@tygressblade]

@@user-ny1wo1vp9r I am with you. My father was a great dad. He was my primary caretaker. But I don’t want my partners to be exactly like him. They can have his personality traits but not his physical ones.

[@marykay7878]

i dont think it should be taken literally. its like guys calling their girlfriend mamacita. as in a precious woman who nurtures and loves them. i think daddy for some is a turn on, because a. its something you can only call your partner, apart from your father of course, just like mamacita, whereas babe can also be used among girlfriends, and it implies that the guy is someone who you trust, who can protect you and provide for you.

[@tygressblade]

@@marykay7878 That is a more understandable approach, but you have to admit too many men who date younger women really push this idea of a “daddy” to mentally coddle or even demean a woman. And I am not one to be demeaned. But your take does show a level of affection and respect.

[@marinette5032]

I would add that in the little mermaid, ariel litteraly has to physically change worlds

[@KaylaNoelle1]

I’m a bit of a daddy’s girl but I think it’s BECAUSE my relationship with him is a lot more healthy and normal than what I have with my mom. As an adult we’ve become more like best friends. My mom is a narcissist and she flips between wanting to infantilize me, live vicariously through me, or push me away and shame me for not being more independent. I love her but holy crap, it’s rough!

[@KittySnicker]

Same!! My dad thankfully got custody of me as a kid. My mom is batshit insane.

[@TheBritalianJob]

Arrested Development explores this SO WELL. Lindsey as the daddy’s girl and Buster as the “motherboy”

[@daydreamer7277]

Any Lana del Rey fans watching this and thinking of her like I am right now, or is it just me? I mean the good sis has made absolutely zero secret of the fact that she regularly seeks out daddy figures. She makes it sound so glamorous too.

[@jhimbeere]

especially considering music videos like ride. I mean, I love Lana but I never got the daddy thing either

[@24Wynn]

Oh gross! No wonder I never became a fan.

[@thatmelhancoliccat0005]

LEAVE THE WOMAN ALONE.

[@daydreamer7277]

@@thatmelhancoliccat0005 Oh relax, I'm not judging her. I'm a huge fan but as I watched this video, different Lana lyrics went through my mind. That's all. To each their own.

[@daydreamer7277]

@@jhimbeere And Cola when she says she's got a taste for older men, then goes on to talk about her dad and how she pledges her allegiance to him. And the Ride lyrics where she goes "you can be my full time daddy" then on the next verse she brings up her dad. She wants us to make the correlation between her love life and her father. But the song Put Me in a Movie "Come on I know you like little girls" is the only one that absolutely disturbs me. Generally, I don't mind her daddy kink. I just think Lana del Rey is the most prominent example of a "daddy's girl" that I can think of.

[@Luanna801]

Can't help noticing how many of these examples are Jewish, and either directly fall into or are adjacent to the Jewish American Princess stereotype. Cher Horowitz, Rachel Green (and her sisters), Baby, and Mona-Lisa Saperstein are all either Jewish characters or implied to be, and they were all featured in The Take's Jewish American Princess video.

[@blameitoncapitalism]

Rachel is not Jewish at all. Neither are her sisters. Monica is Jewish.

[@13realmusic]

They should make a Daddy’s Girl recovery group. It’s brutal to realize your dad isn’t the best man in the world.

[@tylachad6102]

I think it’s weird how ppl romanticize this relationship. It seems to be glorified as a biological sugar daddy/sugar baby situation. It also reinforces the idea that a man’s only role to play in his kids life is financial provider and violent protector.

[@blairsantillana]

Lol you are projecting because majority of them are not violent protectors, nor does it always have to be financial.

[@daisybuchanan8205]

Next trope, momma's boy.

[@marshalmarrs3269]

And after that toxic fathers

[@millsgurl8358]

The evil mother in law should be done after that since it's connected as well.

[@CrimsonNineTail]

Then next, tackle the Doppy, idiot father.

[@A5H_01]

@@marshalmarrs3269 I second this, as a child of a toxic father

[@Missmagazinebura]

Toxic mothers

[@zoelopez1426]

My dad is one of my best friends and honestly I think our positive relationship has helped, not hindered my development

[@beatrizcastelobranco4713]

Same!

[@dulcemuniz1239]

I think it's good to be close just not to close

[@chanpiggy3938]

@@beatrizcastelobranco4713

[@chanpiggy3938]

io9

[@iprobablyforgotsomething]

"I think our positive relationship has helped, not hindered my development" . I believe you. Key words being "positive relationship" ofc. The meaning behind the phrase "daddy's girl" was originally a sweeter and far more innocent concept. But like most things revolving around females, kids, and particularly female kids, it got disgustingly sexualized to the point where all people think of now when hearing it are the unsavory connotations, even when used by clearly non-related people.

[@ashleightompkins3200]

Could we have videos on the Lolita and the Mommy's Boy?

[@migangelmart]

Nah, do a video on GRANDMA'S BOY! ADIOS, TURDNUGGETS

[@user-xh5ux2gv5b]

Your essay videos about tropes on TV and series never cease to amaze me and help me get a better view of why thinks are the way they are !

[@RiniDiamandis]

I'm 15 and it's creepy. I'll be out in public w my real dad and ppl tend to think it's something like you mentioned. It's disgusting and wrong. My dad gets very angry.

[@ghadakameche2248]

Omg sorry that you have to face that people are disgusting frrrr

[@katelijnesommen]

What?? It's unreal that that is what people will think of first rather than the obvious option, which is that you're his daughter. That couples with an age difference sometimes get taken for parent/offspring would seem much more logical to me than the reverse (that happening must also be annoying but not as deeply yikes)

[@PokhrajRoy.]

0:23 OMG A ‘CASTLE’ REFERENCE?! I loved Richard Castle and Alexis as this sparring father-daughter duo. I miss watching it.

[@tanya292]

The daddy stuff with boyfriends or partners is very odd to me. Like what does it mean? Is it like incest role play?

[@janetnjoki2703]

I've read a bit about it, I think its more about care role play not incest. Best way to give an estimate is that in the way BDSM isn't about torturing someone, daddy stuff might be more about having a protective, very caring figure either sexually or including outside the bedroom. My thoughts on this

[@t.a.yeah.]

@@janetnjoki2703 Hm, could be. 👍

[@tanya292]

@@janetnjoki2703 that’s actually a very good way to explain it. Thanks!

[@A5H_01]

As someone who survived SA from my own Father, I absolutely HATE this trend. People will do it anyway so I try avoid it. Thanks for all the nice replies. Restored my faith in humanity, genuinely.

[@elsakristina2689]

@@A5H_01 I luckily didn’t go through that (I’m sorry you did) and even I can’t stand that thing!

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

Also many girls want the opposite of their fathers. They even did a joke in dirty dancing about how the comedian brought someone home exactly like his mother and the father did not like her. Enough said there. Anyways, there are kids who do not have a close relationship with their parents and the last thing they want is having a partner with the same qualities as the parent they don’t like.

[@ameliabrittain158]

This is how I am! I don’t hate my dad or anything, but we do not see eye to eye while also sharing some negative traits in common, so we clashed a lot growing up, and my mom was always the peacemaker, ready to defend me or admonish me when necessary. Because if that, I was always so much closer to her, and I have often thought someone like her would be a good partner for me, but I would never get along with anyone like my dad. The gender aspect of this, I feel, is over-emphasized, as it has much less to do with the gender of children and parents, and more so their personality and role within the family dynamic.

[@gabrielleduplessis7388]

@@ameliabrittain158 yeah, my mom is like that too. And agree with everything you said.

[@michellecrocker2485]

Ive noticed the strongest daddy’s girl trope involve the father being a widower. For examples, Ariel’s father and Cher’s father were both widowers making them the only choice for parental influence unless the stepmother is actually a descent person

[@bioniclohan7291]

I was spoiled as a child (not a brat but more sheltered than anything else). I now spoil myself as an adult. It has less to do with a relationship with my father (my parents divorced when I was 5 and I was raised by my mom) but many people view me as a "daddy's girl" stereotype.

[@sayresrudy2644]

good stuff. one niggle: if you’re trying to illustrate a dominant ideology, it’s not optimal to cite mainly parodies of it (Wonks, AD, P&R, etc). these satires kinda suggest the theme discussed is passé.

[@kathryngeeslin9509]

Hopeful imaging?

[@MrQuantumInc]

In this case there is a fetishization of immature women, but they are also thoroughly disrespected. Because it is disrespected there is a lot of jokes about it. Really those are not parodies of the trope, they are playing it straight, just a comedic version of the trope. It is tempting since parodies make everything clear and obvious, really parodies are their own kind of critique and deconstruction by just making the problematic aspects and inherent contradictions impossible to ignore. Though of course making it into a joke implies it is not a serious problem.

[@sayresrudy2644]

@@MrQuantumInc parodies are not “deconstruction,” for the love of all that is sacred! & no, shows like Arrested Development are absolutely not just reiterating in comedic form old tropes. that just tells me you don’t get how satire works or perhaps you haven’t seen the shows i’m discussing. there is no way to take it as affirming the daddy’s girl bit that Lindsay Bluth is flirting with her father in jail. She herself is manipulating the cliche in just the cynical way she does everything, and everyone does everything, in AD. you’re just building and affirming a world where all parody by definition must be covertly reasserting tropes, so there’s no way out. if you want that joyless world, go for it.

[@mewesquirrel6720]

Am I the only one who finds it pedophiliac? Gives me the shivers everytime I see it

[@faerieliana]

Yes, its gross, pedophiliac and sick. The way people try to normalize that, shows how much our society is sick

[@sofiabravo1994]

No

[@KC-ez6yv]

+1

[@zaram1492]

The reasoning behind calling one’s romantic partner a “daddy” is dumb af and it’ll always be weird and uncomfortable no matter how much you guys try to normalise it.

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

Well people normalized calling their SO "baby" a long time ago so...

[@zaram1492]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 and therefore we should normalise calling our SO daddy or mommy??? I’m- 🤢🤢

[@Missmagazinebura]

lol I only call them daddy as a joke

[@Luciphell]

@@zaram1492 If that is what two consenting adults want between each other, that is their choice, isn't it?

[@zaram1492]

@@Luciphell just because they’re adults that doesn’t mean their choices are always sound. It’s still sick.

[@AJ-zg1nq]

You did not have to call me out like that.

[@ameliabrittain158]

I have always found this trope extremely bizzare and honestly, really alienating, because I never experienced anything like it. Growing up my dad was often away on business trips, and was distant even when he was around. He was also very critical of me and we argued constantly, we were alike in many ways but that only made us clash more. My mom and I had our differences, but we were comparatively much much closer. I still love and spend time with both of my parents, but I was never a daddy’s girl at all, and found it weird every other girl in media was depicted as being so much closer to their father and estranged from their mother, I never really saw any examples that matched the dynamic I had with my parents. I never thought my dad was the best guy in the world, and I never wanted to date anyone who was anything like him. I didn’t hate him, of course, he still provided for us and we have had good times together, but he and I do not see eye to eye, but I can accept that and love him anyways.

[@verda_renee]

Patriarchy says as a woman, you're merely property, first belonging to your father then to your husband(romantic partner). And that's why the two are regarded synonymously.

[@unionunicorn6776]

OMG THIS 💯💯💯

[@katherinealvarez9216]

I kept thinking about Saving Mr Banks.

[@cbpd89]

The only thing missing from this analysis is SNL's Westminster Daddy Show. That is one of the funniest skits in recent history.

[@solfeggietto8306]

Veronica Lodge needs a whole video on her Daddy issues and how it led her to be abusive to Archie and Reggie

[@Celestinewarbeck]

I don’t know why, but sugar baby culture of gen z came to my mind when I saw this title.

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

The take should do a video on the sugar baby trope

[@loulicious5882]

There is also one more type of Daddy's girl who wanted to bevome like her dad. She adores here dad so muvh that she dont just want that qualities in her partner but she wanted to become like him. For eg clare from modern family. Also example is myself I have seen my dad being domestic homely and also doign well financiallt profesionally witty who takes decision does cooking bht also does carpetry driving cleaning so I learn all these things too. Most of the daughters like me are more inclined towards the mascular side of ourselvesm doesn mean we grow musvles or have gender dysphoria. Bt we find pleasure in doing things whicha re told to be more masc not to impress anyone else but just because our dad does it

[@faerieliana]

Oh yeah, Robin Scherbatsky is a perfect example of this type of Daddy's girl

[@dumbgeniusesfilmpodcast8879]

Loves these trope videos very interesting

[@sekaitherborn3618]

I think it is a US phenomenon. I have seen it in US media but I have never seen it in my own country (France) and other countries I have lived in. In french there is an expression to say that but it is frequently used, it refers specifically to rich people. I think people are way more likely to cringe at the slightest manifestation of such behaviors. Seeing US media and sitcoms is often really weird as a consequence. When I saw american dads policing their daughters sexuality or virginity on screen I found that extremely creepy. Most of the fathers I know never wanted to know anything about that as long as the daughter is responsible regarding birth control and STIs (same for the son)

[@lucypreece7581]

See being British one thing I never understood was the American trend of the Father/Daughter dance at a wedding and the whole notion of the father giving the daughter away like property. It never sat right with me. I always thought it was cus I was queer and a child of divorce. The initial fall out of my parents splitting made my relationship with my dad strained but now we are close and really get on and I am closer with him than I am my mother. But I still challenge my dad and I never aim to please. I am my own person and my dad knows this. He treats me as a young woman. A grown adult instead of a child.

[@stephennootens916]

Part of it all this is the overprotective dad trope, you see it a lot in American sitcoms and teen comedies. Some reach creepy levels. You see it less and less now though.

[@kittykittybangbang9367]

I never knew that the father-daughter dance was an American thing. You learn something new everyday.

[@theboredengineer2947]

OMG I thought I'm alone on this and this is so weird to me given that I'm Asian and fathers have more say to their daughters when it comes to our romantic affairs. Even the symbolic gesture that the dad has to walk the daughter down the aisle on her wedding day. It really seems like transfer of property to me (also the dowry culture). Thanks to my father that he didn't do that during my wedding day.

[@lucypreece7581]

@@kittykittybangbang9367 yrah its not a thing in the UK. The father of the bride may give a speech at the wedding but no dance. Traditionally for a heternormative wedding the 3 people who give a speech are the father of the bride, the best man and the groom. As a queer woman, a feminist and a child of divorce this makes me twitchy how it's so male dominated.

[@lucypreece7581]

@@theboredengineer2947 I am not gonna have anyone walk me down the aisle. I am not an object or a possession. I am my own person.

[@genevarockeman9721]

My father is an amazing parent and now a brilliant grandparent. He loves when my sister and I demonstrate strength and independence. He CAN be a total marshmallow but my mom (the cynic of the pair) never lets us abuse it. She's amazing too 😊

[@applaudent2945]

I’m not married or have kids but I have the same relationship with mine. My mom’s also the same, but she’s grateful that we have a father figure who’s present in our lives since hers wasn’t around.

[@bettykfuentes1832]

As a former daddy's little girl, I must say I have never ever called Daddy to S.O.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

The mention of the term ‘Arrested Development’ which are followed by clips from ‘Arrested Development’. I see what you did there.

[@mcxo2774]

Make also the Mommy’s Girl trope. Thanks.

[@rochelle2758]

I noticed years ago that almost all "good" Bond Girls (and I'm sure some "bad" ones) were raised by just their fathers after their mothers' deaths, from Honey Ryder in Dr. No on down. That's gotta mean something.

[@wenjing1124]

My father is almost always absent in my childhood, but he does financially contribute the family, especially me. My aunts taught me to manipulate him for money, claiming that "his money is my money because I am his daughter". When in fact, the money is mainly used by my aunts, and my bank account is under their control. It's still good that my father spent a lot of money on my education, which was my priority. I am not a spoiled child because I don't care about material things like clothes, makeup, etc. - I instead spent more on education and books. However, I ended up becoming too dependent on my family in almost everything. Even I relied my ex for money to go for therapy (since my family is against therapy), and I saw him as my "provider" (it also didn't help that he treated me like a child-woman that needs to be protected). After the breakup, I began to reconcile with my father (who encourages me to assert myself and be independent), and found myself maturing, starting to grow out of my stunted femininity that existed due to my narcissistic mother and aunts.

[@kerrajohnson3203]

Should have discussed Hillary Banks more and her relationship with Trevor. Could have also used Moesha as an example. Other shows like Sister, Sister and One On One highlight this theme too.

[@WaitingxInxSilence]

After seeing The Little Mermaid’s prequel, seeing Triton dote more on Ariel feels weird because she looks the most like his dead wife.

[@leeluv4176]

I love this channel

[@Angi3_6]

The media seems to portray that men are attracted to women who are incompetent in some way (someone who NEEDS to depend on the man), while women are attracted to competent men (someone who can take care of themselves). Speaking VERY generally, of course.

[@sofiabravo1994]

Yep that’s nature.

[@chanmarr8118]

Yeah, never calling a guy “Zaddy”. I cringe every time I hear it. I don’t want my father in my sex life 😭 That’s weird af….

[@M.A.C.01]

Pearl from SpongeBob is the literal embodiment of this trope

[@Auron1Roxas2]

David Ayer's suicide squad hasn't been released yet but even in the theatrical version Harley's clothes are meant as a reflection of joker's control over her. That's why as the movie goes on she sheds more of more of this identity. In Ayer's Cut joker's abuse is shown more, as is the toxic nature of their relationship.

[@robchuk4136]

It bothers me to classify Harley Quinn this way. Not that you're wrong, but this is a more recent phenomenon the character has taken, when that's not how she was originally framed.

[@zainmudassir2964]

And yet my daughter wouldn't even hug me and says it's embarrassing 😭

[@WhelmedButReady]

Hours ago at work I got this notification and it showed Baby from Dirty Dancing. Now I get home it's Harley Quinn 🙃🤷🏾‍♂️

[@RoseEyed]

As someone very close to her father and considers herself to be a “daddy’s girl” I’m excited for this video Edit: This was interesting... Leave it to the media to add toxic sprinkles to healthy relationships.

[@KittySnicker]

Same! I’m not financially dependent on him. I just love him and he’s always been there for me as a friend and mentor.

[@jordanloux3883]

Idea for a video: With shows like Jack Reacher and The Terminal List, and movies like Top Gun: Maverick, it feels like we're seeing a slow cultural shift where soldiers are the new superheroes. What does this say?

[@shekwaga]

I noticed that too

[@TheSleepyowlet]

Militaristic propaganda, commissioned by the Pentagon. That's...literally it. No need for a whole video, just one bloody partial sentence.

[@MortMe0430]

(Cough) propaganda

[@24Wynn]

@@MortMe0430 I agree. Getting us ready for war so us women will be telling men that we won't marry them unless they're in uniform. No thanks! Having a SO with ptsd because of war is not a good thing. Old men make war that young men have to fight. Don't let them do this to our men.

[@holdenmuganda97]

That’s not really new though. The A team and Rambo were basically superheroes in the 80s.

[@ayla8345]

My dad is one of the worst guys I know so seeing “daddy’s girl” girls is honestly mind blowing to me. Like some women actually worship their father

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

I feel that way towards mommy's girls tbh, my dad is absolutely not perfect but he adores me and with the exception of my sister I've only been treated like a human by men in my life 🤷‍♀️

[@supermiraculousladybug6731]

Next The Mama's Boy Trope

[@naomibousson]

I'm Dutch speaking and I've noticed that people use "daddy", but I've never heard the Dutch words "vader" and "papa" used in relationships because apparently that's too weird. I wonder what the reason for that is?

[@Disneyfilmily]

Maybe it sounds less weird if you use the word that's not in your native language? for example; 'wie is je papa?' isn't fetishised, it sounds like a genuine concern of an adult to a younger child. 'wie is je daddy?' sounds immediately sexualised.

[@fernandaescobar3721]

@@Disneyfilmily same. For me "Papi" is my dad, I'm not calling my SO "papi" it gives me the creeps. "Daddy" however has no filial sentiment attached to it for me.

[@carolinpurayidom4570]

well spanish spesking people use papi

[@unionunicorn6776]

social conditioning…

[@snowrose6253]

Yeah, as a non-native English speaker calling my partner "daddy" doesn't feel that weird because that is simply not what I call or associate with my actual dad.

[@Sherlockgayada]

I JUST turned on Dirty Dancing for the first time! 😂😂

[@MissMoontree]

It isn't that bad in the movie. The abortion and class struggle are more at forfront, as is the dancing.

[@grapeshot]

I remember that rap song Daddy's Little Girl by Nicky D.

[@stephenheath8465]

8:08 omfg never gets old🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@CBMOA]

Please talk about how animation hand drawn inspired people from tv shows to movies until 2 big things happened; computer animation took over after the success from Shrek and how some modern ones cartoon shows/movies new and old are getting shorter episodes and of course cancelled which is quite a problematic

[@sammierose1150]

As a momma’s girl, this is such a foreign concept to me lol 😳😂

[@KC-ez6yv]

Me too 😂

[@alliyahd8650]

Definition of daddy girl father and daughter relationship bond together

[@PokhrajRoy.]

I’m so happy to see the Electra Complex mentioned in the video.

[@KittySnicker]

I’m definitely a daddy’s girl but I’m not spoiled. It’s just that he’s always been there for me and is my role model. I’m very ambitious in my career but yes, there are similarities between my dad and my husband lol. And I’m no longer financially dependent on my dad except his Netflix password lol.

[@SlayerNinaFriki]

Could you do one about Mommy/Daddy issues? There is a lot of shows/movies about them being the main reason the villain is the villain...

[@XiomaraDV]

I just enjoyed the video so much… but the comment section is wild! Thanks for the great content and awesome laughs

[@adriennechrislady]

Have you done a deep dive on "girls with daddy issues" yet? If not that would be a great companion piece to this video!

[@robchuk4136]

I feel there are whole other sides to this trope to consider besides just spoiled princesses, or the Electra complex- especially in regards to age. I don't associate "Daddy's Girl" with fetish or romance nearly as much as I do with over-protectiveness (Claire and HRG in "Heroes", Kat and Bianca in "10 Things I Hate About You") and especially if they are relatively young. I also notice that 'Daddy's Girl' can often be the backstory to why a female character might be tougher than the norm, as seen with several women on Game of Thrones, or Sam on Cobra Kai. Even in surrogate relationships like Ellie and Joel (The Last of Us), Eleven with Papa and Hopper (Stranger Things) and Clementine and Lee (The Walking Dead) we see mixtures of all these things. But ultimately, a Daddy's Girl doesn't have to be insidious or sexual, and can totally be just a great relationship like Keith and Veronica Mars.

[@alannallama3334]

There’s always something to do with dad’s and their daughters on screen .Either they can’t be separated (in a some times weird way 👀)and she’s a Daddy’s Girl or he left/died and now the girl “goes after men “ and is a “sl*t”or is left broken because she has daddy issues Ex:Cassie Howard from euphoria,Fiona Gallagher shameless,Ginny and Georgia from Ginny and Georgia,Veronica Lodge (an example of both daddy issues and Daddy’s girl if you think about it),Etc And it’s men too ,I can think of just as many examples We just need men who can actually be good fathers .

[@G5.Giotto]

This comment is very confusing

[@alannallama3334]

@@G5.Giotto How? I’m just asking because I tried to explain it best I could Either daughters are overly attached like the daddy’s girl or the dad left and now the girl has daddy issues because she was so attached I think it kind of goes hand in hand

[@CKalix]

That daddy girl's trope always seems so american to me, I don't think I've seen it as much in european movies

[@megax5000]

great video as usual i would like to say as a guy, i find there is this weird double standard (at least in my experience) where in all my relationships, all the women i dated had zero problems calling me 'daddy', but the moment i call them 'mommy', suddenly THAT becomes weird. why is that?

[@tcrijwanachoudhury]

I think because of traditional but evidently ever present ideas of masculinity and how men should be "on top of it" showing no attachment or dependence to anyone especially women

[@MilmorInc]

Excited for the inevitable “Mommy” video

[@Leto85]

03:13 As a man I have to say that situations like these makes it very difficult for us men to see if the girl in question really means it or if she's playing to our feelings. It's easy to fall back into misogyny and simply expecting her to be emotionally manipulate thus not taking her serious, and doing so might protect the man from being betrayed, it does comes at the cost of girls who do actually mean it.

[@magnisky]

Take please do a video about “zaddy” and it’s implications of the Freudian slip.

[@JR_Donofrio]

Can we get a mommy’s boy trope breakdown please @thetake

[@Ultrabalor]

Wait til we get to the Mama's Boy trope.

[@grazielaalmeida8438]

A daddy is a daddy and a partner is a partner, it's creepy when women mix two different dynamics.

[@rosiefetorrecampo2692]

Also I want to know about father/son relationships. Maybe after the former two. Let's go with this one(father/daughter) for now.

[@JJ-oo9xi]

I find the term daddy so gross to use with a partner for myself. It feels so weird and borderline incestuous to me. I have no problems with other people using it, but it's a big hot *NO* for me

[@snowrose6253]

I don't think it sounds that gross but that's probably because English is not my native language.

[@JJ-oo9xi]

@@snowrose6253 what is your native language

[@fabiesbella]

My Daddy issues are not ready for this video 🤚🏽

[@whatsaqueentoagoddess]

Ayo ! I just had a revelation 😂🤦🏽‍♀️

[@allysiren]

i find that creepy... i don't like calling a guy i like daddy, even calling my dad daddy sounds weird 😐 Specially in spanish.

[@jmchez]

There's a heck of a lot of sexualized "papi" and "mami" in Spanish just as "daddy" and "momma" in English. Don't like it in either language.

[@allysiren]

@@jmchez yeah i speak spanish so it feels even weirder in my own language lol but in english it is still bad. i just tolerate it in movies like Clueless but it would still be better if she just called him dad.

[@gabriellaberman]

It’s so interesting that so many of these characters are either Jewish, Jewish-coded or played by Jewish actors. It’s definitely a stereotype (especially with the money thing) that Jewish daughters are like this with their dads

[@dangeldoll]

you didn’t mention Redhot Ridinghood, a cartoon character who sings the best version of the Daddy song

[@DCMarvelMultiverse]

If any lady called me that, I would run.

[@rubytuesdayphoenix]

.... no references to Sylvia Plath's poem "Daddy"??

[@lizanna6390]

I was a daddy's girl growing up but I've always dated slightly younger men (a couple of years, not a lot younger).

[@ts1331ts]

I think y'all are really missing out on the sexual communities that support this type of lifestyle in both romantic and physical relationships. DDLG has been popular for a long time. A lot (if not a majority) of women are attracted to men that have traits and qualities to prove that they can take care of and protect us. It has been known for decades that women look for partners that are like their fathers without realizing it (mostly when they have good fathers or father figures). Overall, this is a good attempt at discussing this topic in media culture, but you are missing a lot of information that just simply isn't as well known amongst the normies (aka those that are very vanilla).

[@seyit3552]

9:36 what movie is this scene from

[@robertlong5143]

why does the take always post a thumbnail then change it a few minutes later

[@UnboxingAlyss]

I will never understand call your SO "Daddy" (or "Momma", for that matter.) For me, I only use that term with my actual dad and not very often at that. Calling you SO that feels wrong to me, but if their partner is ok with it, they can do what they want. It's not something I would ever do, though.

[@dykevader01]

My father issues make me hate that word. It's a turn off.

[@MydieLy]

When you say "in our culture" you probably mean mostly the American culture, right? because I see this trope mostly on American shows and movies, really not so much in Europe or other countries. And it always struck me as weird, perhaps because I am not from the US.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Video Suggestion: Older Women not giving two hoots about most things like Lucille BLUTH or Moira Rose?

[@abeycee7427]

What movie was the opening scene from? 00:00-00:03?

[@beethovensfidelio]

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