The Houdini Effect (Mining the comments # 29)

In this episode, we answer Rosalie's question about struggling with evening drowsiness and insomnia. Learn about the Houdini effect, befriending wakefulness, and the timeless sleep window to improve your sleep quality.
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[@jonathanmandel8835]

This is so well explained Coach Cristian

[@cristianzor_scs]

Thank you for your support Jonathan

[@michellechang2538]

This is great advice, whoever suffered from insomnia needs to hear, wonderful, thank you 🙏 for sharing !

[@cristianzor_scs]

Thank you Michelle 😊

[@rosaliemcleod3790]

Thank you so much Coach Christian. I am practicing your advise. Befriending wakefulness and Timeless. Have had some success still bumpy but hoping it will improve. Many thanks, Rosalie

[@cristianzor_scs]

Stay the course and it will get better, this is your new normal “for now” the less attention (energy) you give it the more space you give it to move on.

[@MohamedElfdul]

I got a tip for momsomnia.. fixing your schedule temporarly to just sleepvwhen your baby sleep and wake up when he/she wake up.thank you for your efforts and again god bless you❤

[@cristianzor_scs]

Thank you Mohamed 😊

[@CHRIS-k6e]

Not just not feeling sleepy but feeling such a physical agitation that your hands swolen, your body jerks just when it should feel heavy and sleepy, which i later learned that this is my old sleeping que, altered by anxiety. But they fade away with time.

[@cristianzor_scs]

The less attention you give it the better, this will pass with time

[@mestayno]

I was better for a while. Relapsed once again. I liked the befriending concept at first, but honestly I hate being awake, and I don't want to do anything in the middle of the night.. these relapses destroy me. I was sleeping so well.

[@cristianzor_scs]

Sounds like a speed bump, this is an opportunity to show your subconscious that we are safe. This will pass

[@danh2310]

I find the sleep window has been somewhat helpful for me. But like you been times when I've been falling asleep before the window then struggling once in bed . It's so frustrating. I think the biggest key is to be ok being awake In bed like we were before insomnia. Just takes some practice.

[@cristianzor_scs]

I totally agree Dan, being ok with being awake in bed is a great way to show your brain that you are safe.

[@cloudterrace1927]

Can you do a video on waking up in the morning, and feeling like you need 1-2 more hours of sleep, but now you have trouble falling back asleep because your sleep drive is much lower? But you feel a bit fatigued/tired, not optimal. This has been a struggle for me for many months. I can get to sleep pretty good at night, but the mornings I wake up before I truly feel refreshed, leading to a 3 hour struggle to fall back asleep to get more sleep.

[@cristianzor_scs]

Hello cloud, chasing sleep can make sleep more elusive. Avoid pursuing anything that can only be had effortlessly. The more attention, the more energy, the more we find ourselves in a struggle.

[@cloudterrace1927]

@@cristianzor_scs I like what you said here - especially the part "avoid pursuing anything that can only be had effortlessly". That makes so much sense.

[@cristianzor_scs]

@@cloudterrace1927 glad to hear this was helpful. 😊

[@brittanymordovin3975]

What would you say to people if their question is “what if my hyperarousal or anxiety is always active every night about something and I don’t get a good sleep for a long period time”?

[@cristianzor_scs]

Hello Brittany thank you for your question I will be talking about hyperarousal in the next video, should post by Monday if not sooner 😊

[@brittanymordovin3975]

@@cristianzor_scs that is awesome. Thank you for letting me know xoxo

[@brittanymordovin3975]

@@cristianzor_scs I watched it 😊 I was wondering, every single person who experiences on going insomnia is from hyperarousal? It could be a medical condition/hormones that cause sleep disturbances, but to keep it on going is the hyperarousal from what I remember hearing from one of Daniel’s videos? Just trying to clarify this. I have ocd and I know I have to be ok with not having an answer to everything because in life, we simply don’t have the answers to everything, but I was just trying to make sure if this is true.

[@rlabarbera]

What is the best approach for resistance to both sleep and wakefulness?

[@cristianzor_scs]

Hello rlabarbera thank you for posting a question I am not sure I understand what you mean, would you mind expanding on that please?

[@rlabarbera]

@@cristianzor_scs Yes I resist both sleep and being awake. I fight both states if that makes sense. I guess the answer is to befriend both lol?

[@cristianzor_scs]

Great insight and agree with your answer. 😊

[@GenieB94530]

Just what I needed to hear Coach Cristian! I have been experiencing the Houdini Effect nightly for a few weeks. Do you think the CBT- i program I also took left residual and lingering fear? I will be reading in bed and fall asleep and then startle myself awake. This may be something I need to keep experiencing until my brain feels that there is nothing to fear. Thank you🙏

[@danh2310]

I'm doing cbti and it's helped massively but I still have that residual fear. And also I don't want to rely on the window for ever. It's boring staying up late 😂

[@cristianzor_scs]

Hi Genie I will respond to your question on the next video, should be out by Monday if not sooner 😊

[@cristianzor_scs]

@@danh2310 Hi Dan I am so glad to hear that cbti has helped you, The residual fear will subside with time.

[@kzzs7383]

Did you take prescribed meds? Most people trouble sleeping was prescribed sleeping meds and anti depressants. Now we don't know whether it's the sleeping pill that's making us feel depressed or we're depressed that's why we need meds 🤷‍♀️ can you do an insight with this one. I am so confused

[@cristianzor_scs]

I did take prescription meds and most were not helpful they only lasted a few days on average.

[@kzzs7383]

@@cristianzor_scs how about your emotions? Did you feel your emotions/thoughts spiraling too?

[@cristianzor_scs]

@@kzzs7383 yes, I learned through this program that when we hear our thoughts and feel our emotions they pass and the pressure eases with time.