The Impact of Alcohol on Relationships: A Deeper Look

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@donnajoao 3 ай бұрын

My story is alot like what you said. The last 3 years has been hell. I dont drink my husband is a full blown alcoholic on a daily basis he drinks 2 cases of white claws and around 10 nips. Hes blackedout were he didnt even remember when the grandkids slept over. He was in rehab a few months ago for 8 days tthey didnt know how he was alive he went thru DTs hallucinating. 2 weeks later back to drinking. Its taken over my life and im not the person i use to be. Everyone says leave and i want to but then i will lose everything im 59 can't believe this is my life. I had to xall the police and hes been in jail almost 3 weeks and i feel relief and feel like im on vacation sorry this is so long Thank You

@Mara.La888 3 ай бұрын

You have to think about your wellbeing first and foremost, at this point❤

@karilines357 3 ай бұрын

Your story is so similar to my own . It's oddly comforting to know it's a pattern that many of us endure painfully . ❤

@alycatgf 3 ай бұрын

I'm also in very similar situation. Only difference is I'm completely disabled and he's only just 35 and already barely able to work because he just spent weeks being transferred from hospital to hospital due to his Liver failing among other Alcohol related health issues like possible Liver Cancer which we will find out about soon..😩🤞🏻🙏🏻 I tried to warn him and talk him into slowing down years ago but he just kept getting worse because underneath it all he was severely depressed among other issues he was trying to secretly deal with alone as he always has had to. I guess this what happens these days when you drink extremely heavy liquor shots non-stop every day and night. I want to sue Parrot Bay for what they are doing to every young person around here, this small town thinks those tiny bottles can't be all that bad because they are so smalll... which is exactly what the people who make the money off of them want us to believe! Eventually before you know it you'll be knocking back 30-40 + of them every day, & they are 90 proof-45% alcohol rum. He most likely will never fully recover even if it isn't Cancer. He knows he can't drink anymore because it could literally kill him before his next Appointment but the liquidized drug has completely taken over everything he thinks, his choices, he is a walking zombie otherwise he's in a rage unknowingly or, he's passed out looking like an addict. Which he is. People don't ever really seem to understand that Alcohol is A DRUG- JUST IN LIQUID FORM !!!! And they certainly don't understand the brain damage it causes that, even when an Alcoholic stops drinking, may continue to worsen over time or even years later!!! It also seems that if a man begins drinking daily before they can fully mature Emotionally, if they finally quit and get clean, they may never begin to mature Emotionally depending on how old they were and how long they drank for. It's all so sad... This is an Epidemic that our Government doesn't seem to want to admit. Nobody seems to want to. It's getting very scary now that younger people, men especially, go right for the little bottles of Liquor that can also- very conveniently, be easily hidden in small sized pockets, car compartments, at work, etc...Rather than beer like it used to be with most men. Liquor will eat you inside out and kill you so much faster but nobody warns these young men about that, ever!!! I want to sue so badly, I want these companies to be held accountable!! Like the ones who make the tiny colorful bottles called "99" , which then people grow a fast tolerance to because they are tiny bottles, too but are only 15% or 16% Alcohol each I believe, so they move up to the stronger same mini-sized, colorful bottles of "Parrot Bay" rum at 45% Alcohol. It's sick what these companies are doing and they are completely aware of it... They even pressure my guy and all the other Employees where he works to constantly put money in towards the Lotteries. They all have Gambling issues, and if they aren't Alcoholics, they either will be soon or they are already addicted to other substances they first started getting from the Doctors, just like what happened to me at 11-12 years old with Opiates and we were told it was not addictive!!! I'm so sick of watching every man I've ever loved or care about let their lives and health go right down the drain until they eventually die a horrible death. I hope your situation gets better and he wakes up to finally see the light... i hope he can find the strength to tell the Alcohol "NO" and continues to do so, before it is too late. 🙏🏻 We need to start going after these Corporations & Companies. There aren't even any warning labels on these tiny littlè bottles of toxic deadly poison!!! Seriously! Not when they sell them individually, especially. And they are targeting our youth with Liquor, now more than ever! Something has to be done!!!

@tonirad9577 3 ай бұрын

Sometimes it is worth starting over . But I totally understand . We are not supposed to still be walking through hell at this age . We are supposed to be enjoying life and our grandchildren . I feel your pain !

@donnajoao 3 ай бұрын

@@tonirad9577 Thank You. It really is a struggle. Specially when he's the bread winner not me. And I can't just up and leave as much as I want. My 95 mother lives with me and I can't be running off with her in tow. I hope you won't struggle and I hope for both of us and anyone In this horrible situation can get some peace. 💕

@brent3760 3 ай бұрын

It is so hurtful listening to this. The love of my life, my beautiful wife, has turned into an alcoholic. Sneaking drinks, drinking and driving, being horribly mean and distant. My life is all pain. I tried the tough love approach in Spring and I almost lost my wife to divorce. I don't want that. So I told her that I don't want to be parental and control her, I just want my wife back and to feel loved. Things got better for 3 months. The drinking continued but it was more in check. The last 7 to 8 weeks has been absolute hell. There is no love or affection being given towards me, and what is being given to me is hateful, anger and emasculation. I never thought this would be our life. We have two wonderful boys, and I feel like my life is collapsing and I have zero control. 😔

@donnajoao 3 ай бұрын

@@brent3760 I am so sorry for you pain and I am in the same situation with my husband I left my story on here too. It's the worse when you live someone but the demon of alcohol has taken over and you don't recognize that person and you don't recognize yourself all the lies and then being sneaky and making it like it's our fault. I know it's not my fault I don't even drink. He just got out of jail 2 days ago I'm 59 and this is not what I thought my life would be. Be strong and find peace and know we can't control or change them. 🙏🏻🩷💙

@lucineusch5484 3 ай бұрын

My boyfriend died 31 r.i.p. Joshua Dean Johnson. We were living together for 5 years and yes Amber is speaking the truth. We went through it all. We drank vodka every night . I am sober now 18 months

@EASTDURHAMSL 3 ай бұрын

This commentary is 100% accurate. One of the many mistakes I made was my lady wanted us to go to relationship therapy. Of course my male ego thought I was fine. Looking back I think therapy could been used to get her towards an addition therapy. You only know what you know. In my case it was hidden from me until we got deep in the relationship.

@PutTheShovelDown 3 ай бұрын

Don't question your decision about couples counseling too much. Sometimes it can backfire! Here's a video I made about how counseling can make things worse: kzbin.info/www/bejne/iKuwnX-alrJ7qac

@WanhanAjanMansikka 3 ай бұрын

All this information for free? Thank you so much❤️

@PutTheShovelDown 3 ай бұрын

You’re so welcome 😊

@Abearcha 3 ай бұрын

I needed to hear this soooo much!!! You are bringing so much awareness to both sides of substance use and recovery!!! Thank you Amber

@PutTheShovelDown 3 ай бұрын

You are so welcome!

@destinyherbst1117 2 ай бұрын

You are so spot on! I like that you explained perspective from both sides. It’s like you described a day in my life being married to an excessive drinker. Thank you for this video! Very helpful!

@denise3808 3 ай бұрын

I’m not even half way through and you are right on the button! Ps I’ve listened to it a few times ! Validates all my thoughts and feelings

@sensiblecrime7699 3 ай бұрын

The only person who can't smell vodka is the one drinking it.

@amylebaron6544 3 ай бұрын

Could you maybe do a video of when they just accept their addiction-that it’s part of their identity-and you continually get out of the bad guy role? Anything else you can do-and the children are being split against you. (Let’s assume safety has been acquired as much as possible-the loved addict lives away)

@jessescott4249 3 ай бұрын

This sounds like ur talking about my relationship.

@denise3808 3 ай бұрын

Just start listening. Oh yes it does million per cent!

@JulieElkins 3 ай бұрын

Could you talk about what happens when a functional alcoholic stops functioning and there are big signs that the disease is taking over?

@ponyhaly6131 3 ай бұрын

They’re not actually functioning fully. They just seem to be able to hold things together until they can’t. It will not get better until they stop for themselves.

@denise3808 3 ай бұрын

That’s what gets me to the outside world he’s wonderful . He thinks cos he’s not drinking during the day he doesn’t have a problem. The reality is somewhat different a lot of years down the line!

@jessescott4249 3 ай бұрын

I miss her so much im so heart broken

@tonirad9577 3 ай бұрын

This is my husband . It is disgusting and ridiculous . His body cannot handle what he does now . He went to rehab again after 5 years sober but because he has legal troubles and can't be home right now he slipped again after a couple months . And that means a half a gallon of vodka . His family just doesn't get it . Awful times !

@donnajoao 3 ай бұрын

@@tonirad9577 so sorry and I am in the same situation. If you read my story I left on here it's so dam hard to watch someone spiral and make bad decisions. And we know it's a disease but that disease is our dieses now that we don't want. And my husband just got out of jail 2 days ago I feel your anger your pain your sadness and just wanting to be happy. I hope you will be ok and find peace as I try to do the same 🙏🏻🩷💙