The Issue With Poly Relationships (objection.lol)

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@hamsterman932 2 жыл бұрын

Epidemic, actually

@an_autistic_pot_of_stew Жыл бұрын

Okay I'm not going to say all poly relationships are healthy, but not all are unhealthy. Just like with mono relationships there's good and bad. I myself am in a poly relationship where I am dating 3 people who are dating each other, and there is one other person outside of that relationship I'm dating who has separate partners as well. We're a healthy relationship; all of us get along (even the ones not dating each other), we can talk thru our issues, and we don't hurt each other or get into fights. So my relationship isn't bad. And the whole "wouldn't be satisfied with a single partner" thing; that is only true to some poly people. Some are open to both mono and poly relationships. I myself am not, but that's purely because I've been in multiple mono relationships i didn't feel content in, and not because I'm super h0rny or anything, but because I just feel happier being able to share love to more people. The comment if it being nothing more than a sleep around party is also wrong. Everyone in my relationship is somewhere on the asexual spectrum, and none of us have really don't anything. Also dating through social media isn't always bad; you have to be extremely careful, yes, but you can still make it work if you find good people and such. 3 of my partners live in the same city as me and one lives in another state, but even then we talk a lot and the relationship is still able to be healthy and work through the long distance. Sorry for this whole tidbit and I'm not claiming that my relationship is perfect or the way every poly relationship is, I'm just saying that the statements you made aren't factual 100% of the time, though in some relationships polyamory just isnt the right thing for the people involved. But to say polyamory is bad is wrong and homophobic (as polyamory is apart of the LGBTQ community).

@falleithani5411 Жыл бұрын

First of all, I very much agree that most poly relationships out there are pretty unhealthy, and potentially even dangerous. But I'd say that's probably accurate about most _mono_ relationships out there too, often for the exact same things that make poly relationships break down. With that said, it feels extremely odd to stumble upon a video which appears to assert that my own life experience for the last 20 years is not possible. No shade intended, I fully agree that healthy poly relationships are rare. Probably because they basically require that _everyone_ involved has their emotional baggage sorted to a degree most mono folks _never_ do. But healthy poly relationships _do_ exist. The easy test for if the relationship is healthy is pretty much the same as it is for mono ones. Each person need to honestly answer one question: If everyone in the relationship except you got into a horrific accident that left them penniless, horrifically-scarred all over, and with no genitals and no sexual appetite or urges whatsoever, would you still love them and want to stay together? (Note that in some cases, other shallow factors need to be added to that list, like 'everyone forgets who they are', if the relationship includes a famous celebrity or whatever.) Generally speaking, if everyone involved is able to honestly answer 'yes' to that question, year after year for more than half a decade, I call that true love.