"No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it." Something I've heard and known before, but really needed to hear again right now. Thank you for that!
@canmetan6703 жыл бұрын
"Negative visualization" technique from stoicism would disagree.
@candychip25573 жыл бұрын
Idk I feel like this depends on the person. For me, rehearsing negative outcomes is a positive thing, it doesn't make me overly anxious but instead drags down my standards and takes off a lot of pressure, as well as lets me prepare for a bad future in case it might ever arrive. For example, for a long time I've been practicing myself with the idea that my older family members might pass away randomly at any time, so I should appreciate my time with them while I have it. Last year my grandma got a pretty serious mini-stroke and was taken to the hospital; we didn't know what was wrong with her at the time and it was scary, but unlike the rest of my family, I didn't freak out and was able to support them in a time of need. I even moved to my grandma's and kept an eye on her to make sure she was alright, and it didn't mess up my life or mental state. Of course, negative thinking is not for everyone, especially those prone to paralyzing anxiety, and everyone should let themselves grieve if the time calls for it. Just saying, rehearsing bad outcomes might work for some people
@Connibolognese3 жыл бұрын
@@candychip2557 Thank you, this was very helpful for me. 🙏
@sheridanhunter32973 жыл бұрын
@@candychip2557 I have pretty bad anxiety, and I always used to assume the worst possible outcome would come true. My therapist had me write down a list of what I thought the bad outcome of a situation would be and the "evidence" I have to support that. Then she had me write down the positive outcome and "evidence" to support that as well. Based off of these two things, she then had me predict the likelihood of the negative outcome happening and if it were to happen how I would cope with the situation. It definitely makes me feel more prepared and realistic about day to day situations.
@calmontes6513 жыл бұрын
@@candychip2557 I agree that it depends on the person, I have been practicing worst case scenario since I was 10 when I didn’t know that was a thing, I’m now 46 and it still calms me down. I did it out of habit at the start of the pandemic and it shifted my mindset as soon as I finished writing it down.
@nicolim39463 жыл бұрын
2:40 journalling for clarity 3:00 journalling for breaking your mindset 3:48 journalling for daily reflections 4:25 journalling for habits & lifestyle audit 5:34 journalling for when bad things happen 6:35 journalling for anxieties 8:28 journalling for your to do list & direction 9:03 journalling for decision making 9:50 journalling for direction in life
@iBalushi3 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@valentinamira98173 жыл бұрын
Thank you! You’re so cool
@sonyxperia78813 жыл бұрын
Thank you 🙏
@robincrowflies3 жыл бұрын
Awesome. Thanks!
@amralsun59583 жыл бұрын
Thank you ❤️
@nikim69013 жыл бұрын
"I'm a pretty anxious dude" *instinctively laughs nervously* (I've never related to anything so pure and true)
@top10africa653 жыл бұрын
😂💔
@PsychoSk8r4bg3 жыл бұрын
That part made me pause just to come to the comments baha! I had to comment on how hilariously human this comes across! Great video, and great content too!
@DamianThurton14 күн бұрын
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@1m1a2 жыл бұрын
•••Journaling for clarity Sit down in one session and try to write out every thought that you're having Keep a notebook with you and every time you have a new thought just jot it down •••Journaling for breaking your mindset Imagine 6 impossible things How can I make someone else happy right now? What's something in my immediate environment that I have never noticed? •••Daily reflections What excited me? What drained me of energy? What did I learn? What are 10 things I'm grateful for? How did I push the needle forward? •••Journaling for habits and lifestyle audit Divide page into three columns --Actions --The worst version of myself --The best version of myself in first column put day's actions in other columns mark whether your good or bad self did those actions and add up •••Journaling for when bad things happen What happened objectively? What did I make it mean? How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them? How is this the best thing that has ever happened to me? •••Journaling for anxieties Divide page into three columns --Fears --Fixes --The outcome that I would bet on •••Journaling for To Do list and Direction a bullet point list of all my various obligations audit the list with: --What is non-negotiable? --What is exciting? --What on my list, if done, would make everything else easier? --What of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back? --What 20% of activities are producing 80% of the results? •••Journaling for decision making What are the options? Are they mutually exclusive? If I had to make this decision in 60 seconds, what would I choose? What would this look like if it were easy? •••Journaling for direction in life What did I want 5 years ago? What do I want now? What do I think I want in five years time? If I knew I couldn't fail what would I do?
@sahanasona Жыл бұрын
❤
@sofiamckay455 Жыл бұрын
Holy hell
@EVBell-gz8iv Жыл бұрын
thank youuuuuuuu
@ilovehatemybrain Жыл бұрын
That’s what I’m talkin bout
@thezlife1486 Жыл бұрын
Prof that this is good stuff!
@dabbyleemiller3 жыл бұрын
“No amount of rehearsing tragedy will make you ready for it” really spoke to me above all the other things that spoke to me, which is basically everything you said. Thank you so much for making this video.
@annjuurinen65532 жыл бұрын
I think he is a sage.
@jellyrcw122 жыл бұрын
Wow that is so well said, thank you for sharing!!
@guitarsoundsaround7 ай бұрын
It’s an interesting quote, well said! I hardly journal anymore. It’s got many great aspects, this video was great. It really helps some people. I’d encourage everyone to do it but it’s just not for me anymore.
@eh14523 жыл бұрын
How you talk about anxiety with calmness, normality and even humor makes me feel safe. I feel many things similar way as you do but sometimes don't feel seen, since the topics are hard to talk about. I try talking about them in a calm manner, although we anxious people know those feelings are brutal and ugly sometimes. But hearing this type of talk about it makes it just so much more tolerable. You go to the root of journalling, root of problems. You are a very brave person. That you for being! You made my day. I have to start journalling again.
@LlamaLaQuiff3 жыл бұрын
It gets easier to talk about the further down the process you are. You should also note that it's not always easy to talk about, even if it seems like it. Can't reach the finish line without running the race, you've got this
@erictran43843 жыл бұрын
A Holocaust survivor once said something along the lines of: suffering ceases to be miserable the moment it finds a meaning. Therefore writing down the hardships you endure creates meaning. May your future hardships and journaling give you fire and freshness in your loins.
@duckyluver123 жыл бұрын
I've been journaling since I learned how to write. I was a very anxious child and my grandpa (who also had anxiety) gave me a journal for my birthday and told me that writing every day would make my life better. I'm infinitely grateful to him for that.
@Zar22443 жыл бұрын
That's lovely, smart grandpa
@monicab.90933 жыл бұрын
Do you still have all your journals?
@duckyluver123 жыл бұрын
@@monicab.9093 Yes! They've very interesting to go back and read.
@hajimesenpai79962 жыл бұрын
this is a sweet story :3
@writerandartist3 жыл бұрын
"A problem well stated is a problem half solved." Charles Kettering. I did a calligraphy of that quote once. It's useful in MANY situations. Love it!
@jfo30003 жыл бұрын
That quote is so true, even with difficult technical problems.
@HellStitcher Жыл бұрын
1. Journal for clarity 2:40 2. Journal for breaking mindset 3:02 3. Journal for daily reflections 3:48 4. Journal for habits and lifestyle audit 4:26 5. Journal for When Bad Things Happen 5:33 6. Journal for Anxieties 6:34 7. Journal for to-do list and direction 8:27 8.Journal for decision making 9:03 9. Journal for direction in life 9:49
@shayanzaidi2836 Жыл бұрын
appreciate u ✊
@Clairebearthegoodfinder Жыл бұрын
Excellent!!!
@mr.nobody3354 Жыл бұрын
thank you brother, have a nice day ahead
@yohanesliong4818 Жыл бұрын
Thank you
@swl927011 ай бұрын
Thanks for this breakout! I know that took some time to do…appreciate it!!
@LisaGelhaus2 жыл бұрын
Woah! A 40 minute Keynote in 11 minutes. So many insights from such a charismatic person! I’m glad you brought your life around so you can help others.
@fabulous50s3 жыл бұрын
Wow! You have created an amazing channel that is so helpful and relevant to your generation. You give a disclaimer that you are not a qualified professional but I disagree…the exact life experience you have lived, and found a way to the other side, gives you way more credibility than a few years at Uni and a piece of paper to prove it. We’ve got it all the wrong way around, it’s people like you who are making the biggest difference in the world today. Bravo 👏
@leaannsavage22313 жыл бұрын
I'm 59 and it is also extremely relevant to me so it also crosses generational constructs. (I kind of dislike that word "constructs" by the way - it sounds so pretentious, but it was the best word I could think of at the time - I'm not generally a pretentious person 😉) I so agree with you that his contribution is SO valuable and his background is irrelevant to the value, but also the fodder for what made him who he is today. I LOVE stories where people overcome adversity. We are ALL struggling with different kinds of adversity (some just hide it better than others). Tribulation is guaranteed in life. How we deal with it is up to us.
@douglascampbell49933 жыл бұрын
Reminds me of a quote I come across once that I read and made me contemplate on for a while.. It goes; “The broken are saved by the broken..” And it just reminds me that people make it out the other side, and they are always the first to extend a hand when you need it, and you will too when you find someone needs it..
@nichobee2 жыл бұрын
I've definitely found people such as this more helpful for me than therapy
@GillianLarmond2 жыл бұрын
Totally agree. Life experiences makes one an expert, not a piece of paper from someone who determines whether or not you are qualified
@Ailyloves2 жыл бұрын
You pointed out a good point! 👍🏻 Having a ton of life experiences and learning from them really helps in a sense that we get a better idea of what works and what doesn’t for us. And learning from experienced people helps as well, because they have concrete evidence. This isn’t to mock theoretical ideas or the like, because the way I see it, it sure has it’s place but at some point, we genuinely need to have someone who’s experienced in this kind of matter and take inspiration and knowledge from their side as well~ 💛
@Nathiusca013 жыл бұрын
Hi! I want to give a helpful tip that my therapist gave to me to add to my journaling. If you struggle with depression and fixate on your thoughts like I do... It is just to make a list for the next day of the essential and basic things that have to be done and check them as you accomplish them. For example for me are things like brush my teeth, brush my hair, take a bath, take my vitamins, clean my pets' dishes. It may sound stupid but I forget to do all of these and I found myself at night feeling more ashamed and guilty than when I woke up just cause I let my thoughts win. As the days go by and you see your lists with the items checked out you'll feel better and proud and later when you realise you find yourself doing those things with joy. Hope that helps ✌️
@zijing95483 жыл бұрын
I've been doing this for about 2 years now, really helps
@Amani98003 жыл бұрын
IM THE SAME WAY! I'm thankful 🙏 for you
@adelafaith96043 жыл бұрын
Proud of you! This video has so much wonderful content. I started my journey out of overwhelm and disorder with marla cilley aka fly lady..worth looking her up. She starts with putting on shoes, taking things 15 mins at a time baby steps, cleaning your sink so it make you smile and making the bed. The day is pretty much conquered after that. Little by little, being gentle on yourself xx
@bonniedavis90762 жыл бұрын
I've gone from knowing & not doing to not knowing & feeling panicking cause it wasn't in my thoughts.
@Paulabird72 жыл бұрын
Yes, agree! I wash my hair, do my animal chores, do morning pages. Bare minimum but gets me moving and focusing forward.
@Mariah-wt3xm3 жыл бұрын
You are seriously so cool. I really resonate with all these “self improvement” type videos you put out there. I love that you share personal experiences. I’m grateful for this info you put out there because it really does help me. Thanks man!
@ratuldutta15213 жыл бұрын
My point exactly!
@maevahernandez72523 жыл бұрын
I share this oppinion so much. 👏
@flamingaish3 жыл бұрын
Exactly
@clairewulf6 күн бұрын
i use notion databases for reflections and journalling and the ability to look through everything i've typed out throughout the entire year is a game changer. i learned so much about myself not just reflecting on questions i ask myself but also on random thoughts and weeks worth of journal entries. reflections really did change my life last year.
@LoudNTechie3 жыл бұрын
Came for the title, stayed for your tattoos, loved the content.
@Makebuildmodify3 жыл бұрын
Dude! I just pre-ordered the book! I don't care if the book is bad (I know it won't be). I bought it because I want to support another KZbinr that is worth supporting; and I think that you and your team definitely are. I hope the book does well.
@victor_cuc3 жыл бұрын
Same 🙋♂️
@whatwhale58883 жыл бұрын
Its unreal how relatable this guy is. Honestly his advice helps more than anybody elses, simply because he gets it
@TheMoochiecat3 жыл бұрын
"What did I make it mean?" The first time I heard this concept it absolutely blew my mind and it shows how much power we really have even though we think we are powerless. Thanks for your journaling tips! I'm having a very difficult time with a coworker and any tool I can use to help me through this is welcomed.
@BeckyValkyrie2 жыл бұрын
Same here. That bit really resounded with me.
@lazargajicic91155 күн бұрын
I tried Journaling before, but I usually stop because I have messy thoughts, due to my illness. Luckily, I tried learning a language for the past 2 years and I developed an orderly thinking. Somewhat. Keeping a journal now is much easier. I just write 5 sentences a day about what happend that same day. It easy and it doesn't overwhelm me. It gives me a sense of date and time I once had and a better memory. I mean, I started recently, but we'll see. Just 5 sentences make it so much easier to keep up.
@MA-bt8il2 жыл бұрын
I really like you. Your raw honesty. Your humor. To survive the last few stupid chaotic years, I have begun to make junk journals out of the crap in my home. They have been sitting here, staring at me in all their creative loveliness, abandoned, forlorn, and empty. You inspired me to actually USE them. Your ideas are so simple, real, and helpful. You just made my day and validated the last 2 1/2 years of my crafting through the scams of 2020, et.al. with this simple video. I am sorry for your heartache. But I am blessed by you today, and I bless you back! :) Thank you!!!
@kalvinlyle3 жыл бұрын
I journal every day, but it’s always a stream of conscious dump. It’s helpful for sure, but I’m excited to try something more structured :)
@sparklypoof3 жыл бұрын
same! these 9 ideas are going to be fun to explore!
@ronanhart59223 жыл бұрын
My therapist has taught me to avoid saying stuff like "bad" or "good" because it makes the behavior/action feel moral or immoral. Instead, he says that behaviors are healthy and unhealthy. They're not bad or good, it's just that they may or may not be a healthy thing for me to do. So for those wanting to do #4 but it feels too harsh, maybe think of it instead as a healthy version of yourself (and healthy actions toward that person) and an unhealthy version of yourself (and unhealthy actions). I think for me I would feel too negative about myself if I put actions in the "worst" version of myself and might not want to continue journaling
@desiv30253 жыл бұрын
omg thank u for sharing
@scriptkeeper82433 жыл бұрын
This has got to be the worst advice I've ever heard. One person's good could be an absolute evil. You can't relativize existence like this and expect to make it very far.
@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA3 жыл бұрын
@@scriptkeeper8243 all “evil” is subjective as people aren’t designed to do good or bad, we’re designed to satisfy our emotional needs. Lions kill for food, yet no one ever refers to them as evil, because it’s understood why they do it. The people you consider evil, have emotional needs you simply do not understand
@theoddestautist3 жыл бұрын
@@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA not all evil is subjective, everyone knows that some things are just not to be done because of how morally corrupt they are
@db70843 жыл бұрын
@@PeNGuiNZoMbiEUYA Hmmm. So if someone wants to slice and dice me, I must cater to their emotional needs and let them? My emotional needs are to stay alive and in one piece. So whose emotional needs win? Your mindset is the reason society is in the state it is in, why criminals are more catered to than victims, why there are all these entitled idiots running around. There IS good and bad, moral and immoral. Helping a pensioner across a street is good. Stabbing that pensioner to death is bad. Any other argument is just lefty progressive bullshit that is causing untold harm to our society. Participation medals, 'not yet competent' instead of fail, excluded instead of expelled, individual's 'emotional needs' more important than the group's, minorities are more important than majorities etc. Stop drinking the koolaid and take a sip of reality and practicality instead.
@dragondancer51503 жыл бұрын
It's kind of funny but journaling got me through high school with severe, undiagnosed major depressive disorder back in the early 90s. I've always been a writer, and I discovered almost by accident the magic of actually just sitting down and word-vomiting into the pages of a notebook one day because I just couldn't take the maelstrom in my head any longer. I wound up dedicating that notebook, and at least two more after it, to just brain-dumping when I needed to. I'd never heard of journaling, and I had no idea that WTH WAS WRONG WITH ME!?!?! was actually something real and not just me being some kind of screwed-up weirdo. All this to say - JOURNALING IS MAGIC. Thank you again for these videos that you put out. I adore both your sense of humor and your courage to get raw with strangers on the internet. I can tell you that what you do is amazing, and helpful, and we don't know each other but I'm really proud of you for giving of yourself like this, and if we ever had the chance to meet one of these days, I'd love to chat over coffee or something. Anyway, pre-ordered your book some time back and can't wait for it to come out. TAKE CARE!
@tiegz97702 жыл бұрын
Hearing that I'm not the only one who has anxiety fixations and catastrophizes unrealistic events helps me alot, thank you for your candidness ❤
@aurbb2u Жыл бұрын
This was hands down the best video I've ever seen about journaling towards mental clarity and growth without including trite basic prompts, but by using prompts that truly dive down into the heart of the issues. I am genuinely excited at the prospect of starting to dig in. Thank you, really, so much.
@danielfalboyt5 ай бұрын
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@marina.artoflife3 жыл бұрын
Omg, who are you?? I love when YT surprises me like this from time to time... Congratulations on getting out of that place 12 years ago. And when it comes to anxiety, you're just afraid of the power you have inside. Nothing else. Don't be afraid to do great things you were meant to do. Stay well, stay sane, keep inspiring.
@accenttraining4professiona8642 жыл бұрын
That’s an interesting point- I also had this inkling that anxious thoughts are due to being afraid of my power inside. We are all power houses, but afraid to entertain change that may lead to a better life. That is probably something to work on with a therapist ?
@jayg7893 жыл бұрын
As the daughter of an addictions councillor these are the exact things I wish everyone’s parents could teach them. Tools for a healthy lifestyle stem so much further than those to help you get college degrees, impress during job interviews and receive high pay checks
@waschell13 жыл бұрын
I'm a licensed counselor and always felt kind of lame telling people to journal like, "really?" lol because it sounded so simplistic but now I can share this vlog to show just how profound it can be! Thank you, you Rock!
@CB-zs7lj2 жыл бұрын
I stopped buying diy books long ago but I had to buy yours. No regrets! I'm hitting my 60's and have started having constant memory flashbacks (good and bad). They have been making me crazy. I still don't know why its starting now, but your book is so enlightening! You've made a difference and wonderful contribution to mankind. I just wanted to say thank you.
@ESaturday1232 жыл бұрын
I like how this is a journaling method that incorporates CBT skills in a way that’s really digestible. CBT has helped me a lot and this seems like a really organized and simple way to implement these skills.
@jakesheath83823 жыл бұрын
Your videos on relatable self improvement have been a turning point in my life. I felt like I was stagnating at uni, my friends were all getting government jobs, my girlfriend graduated as a doctor and I felt like I couldn’t get my sh*t together. I was felt like a pathetic loser who wanted to make music all day. Since your videos I have started journalling, feel inspired by life again and I’m on a strong uni trajectory whilst balancing a music career. You are an absolute legend! Keen for the book! Stay awesome
@royetter17773 жыл бұрын
Holy Crap! I just failed at a week-long "Journalling challenge" partially because I couldn't figure out what to write and couldn't motivate myself to even pick up the notebook. Thank You! Looking forward to the promised deep dive videos
@brefritzsching4553 жыл бұрын
As soon as you pick it up you will feel inspired! Just start writing about literally anything. Weather, your 5 senses is a great one, hobby literally anything and then it sparks your inspiration. I have tried to follow prompts before and I always end up spending an hour looking for prompts rather than just writing. You can also brain dump a bunch of things that you want to find out about yourself and explore and then go off that
@KirinChan19983 жыл бұрын
you didn't fail! just starting is a wonderful thing!
@royetter17773 жыл бұрын
@@KirinChan1998 Nope, I'm gonna own it. I wanted to journal, but I failed to do it. Having the right tools is a step forward, though.
@adgrimes19813 жыл бұрын
This is absolutely hands down the best video about how to get started with your journaling practice that I’ve come across… Thank you!
@j.mp103 жыл бұрын
Agreed ☺️
@sarahannferrigan2 жыл бұрын
Agreed
@wendyhannan24542 жыл бұрын
He’s fabulous, I love it.
@snxlxphant092 жыл бұрын
I've wanted to journal for a while now and just didnt know where to start. I wrote out all of your points at the start of my journal as prompts to go back to when I get stuck. Having the structure already there, and not having to stress about it really helps. Thank you so much!!
@AngelaNortonTyler2 жыл бұрын
Such a good idea- so smart!
@jackielove002 жыл бұрын
Wow! This was NOT what I expected, or what I've come to expect these days. It was LOADED with fantastic points, ideas, tips, fun, colourful and delivered some of the best bang for the buck I've seen in recent years. Loved the presenting style. Really happy I found this. Now going to force everyone I love to watch it and buy the book! Thank you so much.
@pritika59683 жыл бұрын
I have adhd and tend to daydream a lot. I noticed this a year ago when i watched a video on maladaptive daydreaming and realised it was me. So I started journaling to start taking control of my life. Sometimes it makes me cry how hard it is to stop myself from escaping reality but I try to and apply all the practical stuff you teach in your vids as activities and they really help me a lot when I note down my thoughts. Thankyou so much. I know you won't read this textwall but I always wait for your next vid and it always makes my day man
@cardisea3 жыл бұрын
It's more like a text fence.
@pritika59683 жыл бұрын
@@cardisea well yes but ykwim
@yaoipurpleheart3 жыл бұрын
Do you remember the video you watched about maladaptive daydreaming
@johnathantai Жыл бұрын
Hey man, I don't know if you'll ever see this. I'm 15 and I'm from Hong Kong, I just came across your channel yesterday and I think it's one of the best discoveries I've ever made. A lot of what you've done really resonated with me, I personally went on digital detox not too long ago, I just want to say thank you for taking your time to make these videos. Your philosophy really helped me a lot, and it finally feels like there's something sustainable I can do for my life. This video particularly helped me today, I was having a pretty bad day, or so I thought but your point on cognitive distortions knocked me out of that, after following your techniques it was like my mind was suddenly cleared again and I could make rational decisions. Honestly, I cannot express more gratitude, for the first time in 2 years I feel like I'm starting to gain control of my burnouts
@dianeo3 жыл бұрын
"No amount of rehearsing tragedy will ever make you ready for it..." I need to remind myself this and shut my catastrophizing brain off.
@jenniferfields102 жыл бұрын
Hello, I'm a fellow writer and a chronic journaler as well. Love the video! You're going to change a lot of people's lives with this. AND you published a book?!? I am so proud of you! You should be super proud of you too!! If you don't have a mama to be proud of you, I will gladly be your beaming proud mama in Spirit. You rock!
@hidden_trax3 жыл бұрын
I've slept on journalling, and I think it's time I wake up. Gave the first one a try, the mind dump, and it amazes me how easy it was to get rid off sudden thoughts. Also, that part I read in your book too, and that was an action I immediately took after reading it, wrote every single thought I had in my head into MS Word and BOOM, it became more of a quiet place than ever. Keep it up dude!
@lorimcconnell97373 жыл бұрын
Just preordered your book for my son - he’s going through a lot right now. Thank you so much for everything you’re doing and I’m so glad you were able to turn your life around - you are quite an inspiration! Keep up the great work!
@jojoco67372 жыл бұрын
I hope your son is doing better! You are a great Mom. Tell him to stay strong! Im praying for you Both. God Bless.
@belifuna3 жыл бұрын
This is amazing! I usually do the brain dump method of journaling but sometimes don’t feel like doing that. It’s awesome to have different prompts to get the juices flowing.
@Jessica-df9js3 жыл бұрын
I took the first step today and spoke to a professional about my mental health. We were talking about journalling and I was really curious how to structure it for it to have the best effect. Timing on this video is excellent for me. Thank you. Love your work and pre-ordered your book :)
@caitlynwatts18553 жыл бұрын
Something I've really started to realise in the last few years is that most of the corny cliche stuff we learn and are told growing up really does hold so much weight. There's a reason you hear the same quotes and concepts through life and when you finally stop trying to reject those concepts and take them on board in the way you live things get so much easier. There is always so much to learn about ourselves and the world around us, once you open yourself up to seeing things from a different perspective it can be a bit overwhelming but it's also very freeing at the same time. Listening to those messages that keep arising will show you what things you subconsciously are already wanted to change, you know before you're aware of it and will see and hear things more frequently that resonate with you or your situation invoking a change within yourself. By no means is it easy but if a saying of some kind or similar advice keeps popping up it would be a good idea to pay a bit more attention to it and ask yourself why.
@tueur33693 жыл бұрын
This dude has the "wise friend you can always count on and ask for good advices that is also fun to be with" vibe
@aysedemirci20923 жыл бұрын
Man it's been such a blessing to have access to this type of content. Thank you for offering tools that have such a positive impact, especially for people that are struggling with severe mental health issues and don't have the financial means to see a licensed therapist. I'm supposed to work on my thesis, but have been heavily struggling with getting my PTSD symptoms under control. Dissociating has been the only coping mechanism to help me get through the day, but I believe that trying some of these techniques will immensely help me to make my situation a whole lot more manageable. Again, I can't thank you enough!
@georginatrousas8040 Жыл бұрын
You are my new favourite person! Finally, someone on KZbin who speaks factually and provides real and relatable struggles, and does it in such a wonderful, funny, serious and creative way. I'm so grateful for finding this channel
@rawkrXbabee3 жыл бұрын
You're literally the older brother I've always wanted. I get so happy every time I see a video of yours pop up on my feed :)
@rebeccasmith45206 ай бұрын
I work in a creative arts university in the wellbeing department and have shared these techniques with students and they have helped some may people! I found them and used them for myself. So grateful for this video, absolute game-changer! 👏🙌
@anthonywatanabe9913 Жыл бұрын
I watched this video about a year ago and added the book to my Amazon wish list. Finally bought the book and was blown away by it. Thank you for taking the time to make these videos and for writing that book. Much love and respect.
@michellewhatsherface27493 жыл бұрын
I can finally write something in my several empty journals lying around. I get anxiety whenever I sit down and try to write something. I never know what I’d like to write down but this video gave me such a nice direction. I enjoyed it so much I just pre-ordered your book. I can’t wait to own a copy, I cherish every book I add to my library very much. Thank you for helping people with this and sharing your experiences. I’m glad you’re in a better place now. Bless you ♥️
@jazzyjamvs11252 жыл бұрын
i love this dude. you can tell how journalling really helps by his example.
@beads2yarn3 жыл бұрын
That was so useful and enjoyable I watched it twice to make notes, then ordered your book. I am so looking forward to seeing it.. thank you for sharing 🙋🏻
@Mystic_Paths3 ай бұрын
By regularly reflecting on their experiences, we can identify patterns in their behavior and thought processes, leading to greater self-awareness.
@jasonarneson18145 ай бұрын
Well done to you, James. I’m probably reiterating but yours is the clearest, concise, and constructive methodology to journal. Thank you.
@sarahroberts81103 жыл бұрын
Never been compelled to comment on a video before, but wow. I’ve shared this with several people as well. First time a KZbin suggested video has been so completely and utterly bang on. Communicated so well, great suggestions that have never been explained in such a pragmatic way to me. Watched this twice yesterday, and have done several of the techniques you’ve suggested today. 🤯😊😎 I feel the best I have in ages. Thank you. 👏🤜👌
@MBS.FIT2373 жыл бұрын
Wow, this is so insane. I had never considered anything about journaling to help my anxiety until yesterday. I was thinking of ways of how to write down my overwhelming thoughts. I just now sat down for my lunch break, and turned on KZbin. This was the very first video that came in my recommendations. Either something of greater power is watching over us, or our phones have started listening to our thoughts:) great video!!
@christinealessandrini42803 жыл бұрын
I would say both ! ;-)
@madwilliamflint3 жыл бұрын
Man I love your vids. Every time. It's insane. I wish you'd stop "apologizing" for not being an Expert. Who are the experts? Academicians who study the theory? Or the people who hit the road with this stuff in their life for real and improve the lives of people around them through their example? You haven't improved my life. That would be silly. But you've sure given me a bunch of tools and encouragement to do it my self. o7
@VimblesArt3 жыл бұрын
I don't think that him disclaiming that he's not an expert is a bad thing, if we're truly honest: nothing is for certain. He's just aware of the things he does and doesn't know and i find that very admirable. Especially considering that truly, mental health tips don't universally work for everyone. So basically: nobody is an expert and everyone needs to find their own path. He's just here to tell us what has worked for him
@madwilliamflint3 жыл бұрын
@@VimblesArt I REALLY think he's selling himself short.
@riledmouse46773 жыл бұрын
One of the smartest people I’ve ever worked with told me early in my career not trust anyone who calls themselves an expert, and it’s proven to be very solid advice.
@madwilliamflint3 жыл бұрын
@@riledmouse4677 *nods* It's an easy one. You should have to tell someone you're an expert.
@jamesaritchie13 жыл бұрын
What you say sounds very, very logical, but it's pure, low IQ nonsense.
@overthemoo3 жыл бұрын
I appreciate that you give a good amount of examples for the less familiar techniques. It’s a figurative push or nudge to get going, which is something I often need - even for the most basic assignments.
@LLaP58982 жыл бұрын
🙌 Lovin’ the KZbin algorithm that brought me here! Listening to a creative person’s approach to self-development resonates with me and I appreciate your perspective. I already subbed, watched some more of your videos, and bought your book.
@dameanvil Жыл бұрын
00:14 📝 Journaling is a powerful practice for mental clarity and direction, especially during challenging times. 01:38 🧠 Journaling provided relief from chaos and stress, allowing thoughts to be externalized and processed. 02:35 🗒️ Nine journaling techniques discussed, tailored to various aspects of life and personal growth. 03:59 🤔 Daily reflection questions (excitement, energy drains, gratitude) offer valuable self-insights. 04:55 📊 Lifestyle audit technique (identifying actions and their alignment with desired self-image) for personal improvement. 06:34 🚫 Separating anxieties into fears, fixes, and likely outcomes helps alleviate and manage anxiety. 08:56 🗂️ Prioritizing tasks and obligations through a strategic approach, ensuring focus on what truly matters. 09:51 🧭 Directional journaling involves reflecting on past desires and present goals to find a clear life path. 10:48 📚 Book available with additional journaling exercises for mental clarity and personal growth.
@astamaisha58012 жыл бұрын
I’m 20 years Old and recently I’ve started having a lot of anxiety and having really bad thoughts and watching this (and more of your videos) has help me a lot. Even just think about the things I would write to some the questions helped me calm my emotions and anxiety ❤
@ryancoomber57093 жыл бұрын
Struth. thank you for this. I really needed this today. I will start journaling with the help of your advice. I wish you the best
@rosco-m3 жыл бұрын
Well this was the most concise and useful video on journaling techniques that I’ve seen. You cut the B.S. and got straight to the point rather than dance around the topic without actually saying anything like most people do. Thank you!
@gitarmac5 ай бұрын
This is the most useful journaling video I've ever seen. So many useful techniques and exercises. Thanks for posting 😊
@RealJamieBarclay3 жыл бұрын
Most people live the same day over and over again on repeat. Journaling allows you to break the bad cycle, improve your thoughts, and take back control of your life. Love from a small youtuber 💙
@michaelaback36743 жыл бұрын
Another great video! I love the actionable advice (because "journal about it" is overwhelming in itself for me!) and your homour as always. Pre-ordered the book because it seems right up my alley :)
@Sigma.Infinity2 жыл бұрын
Two more journalling techniques I find useful: writing letters not to send and writing down daydreams as stories. (1) When you have unfinished emotional business with someone but can't express it to them directly (for whatever reason), write a letter to them that you don't intend to send. It can be someone you're angry with, or who has hurt you, maybe a bully, or someone who you love from afar. It could be someone who has died that you're grieving about, or anyone else that you wish to communicate with. For me, it's when I feel angry, or hurt, or trampled on by someone, especially in workplaces, that's when I do this mostly. Go at it and say to them exactly what you want to say, then store it away (or send it if you dare). Or, you can write to an imaginary counsellor and pour it all out to them. You can do it in email form (with a blank "To" field for safety!) and then stash it in your Drafts folder if you prefer. (2) Spontaneous daydreams are the mind's way of telling us what we want. Sometimes they paint that picture accurately, sometimes they exaggerate, and sometimes they paint the feeling we yearn for even though the practical details of the daydream are just a useful backdrop. Whatever the case, I find it amazing to write down these daydreams as though I am writing a story. Doing this can be cathartic and also a great help in finding out what you really want deep down. Often what we long for are not the practical details we imagine (that job, that relationship, that holiday, that whatever). Rather, it is the *feeling* we yearn for that we believe these things will give us: that feeling of freedom and adventure, that sense of belonging and love, that pride and sense of meaning that comes with our talents being recognized, the excitement of novelty, or of breaking out of our shell and running wild, expressing ourselves, or a sense of personal strength and empowerment, and so on.
@reynajelly2 жыл бұрын
Sounds like amazing advices!
@riot_flower2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this!
@carolinaia902 жыл бұрын
Sometimes I do the (2) but I feel so stupid reading it!
@pravashi_3822 жыл бұрын
I've done the first one a lot myself,didn't think about the 2nd one,maybe because i love to "act it out" instead 😅,not exactly like the way of the daydream but eh i roleplay it with whatever i have and then, waste HOURS,i just saw a video about maladaptive daydreaming hehe😅.
@Sigma.Infinity2 жыл бұрын
@@pravashi_382 Roleplaying the fantasies is a great idea. Haha! I think I'll try that.
@hlb01112 жыл бұрын
This really opened my eyes to how these techniques can help me deal with trauma and stress and actively observe if I'm moving in the direction I want. Thank you for this video.
@PurpleHazel3 жыл бұрын
5:06 I just realized you put the Beatle's lyric and I felt such a warm cozy and nice feeling inside my chest. Never thought a video would make me so happy
@athertondrenth2 жыл бұрын
Loved this! Boy, you really nailed it! Journaling is such a lifesaver and you have definitely taken it to a whole new level of deep introspection!
@wordscrafter3 жыл бұрын
I'm so happy you're still here. And that you're so brave and open. I'm learning that my mother, grandmother, and sister are narcissists and I need to overcome their programming. I have a variety of journaling styles and I've done the point system, but not your way. Definitely going to adopt it. Thank you so very much for posting this. You're awesome. No, really. I admire you. Thanks.
@lilsun3 жыл бұрын
ahhh!! im so excited for your book! love your videos. you've totally made it possible for me to get out of funks and pursue my passions 🥺💗 i love you so so much and have a great day today! 💗
@GrubsAreTough Жыл бұрын
My life has hit a point where it’s never been harder to think and function. This is going to help me start my journaling journey in hopes of better days. Thank you for this.
@kathyshaull32202 жыл бұрын
You may not be a licensed expert, but you are a journaling expert who is well-read. I will watch this video again & again. You gained a new subscriber today. Thank you!
@nayacmaynor3 жыл бұрын
"Rehearsing tragedy" I felt that.
@tonicunningham90073 жыл бұрын
Just wanted to point out that I've watched this video 5 times and am happily increasing your view count! You should TOTALLY make your own journal using these prompts and your ART!
@noniew0lf3 жыл бұрын
So excited for this, you’re incredible 🥰
@JuliaBumstead2 жыл бұрын
I really really really appreciate this because my ADHD teen who wants to know how to journal could actually listen and take tools from it and he didn’t get exasperated with boredom. Thank you for just putting the information in there while still being yourself. Maybe the most helpful journaling video I have ever stumbled across!
@HauntedByHeroesX11 ай бұрын
This gentleman is the friend we all needed in our youth. Or at least, I feel like this is the friend I needed during my coming of age years, and then again in my young adult years, to really get my act together, design my life, be the architect of my own reality. But he was the friend to busy with success to share his time and methods with me. Never had friends like him and Tim ferris growing up. Nor Matt d'vella.
@spinsterpunk3 жыл бұрын
Thanks for this @struthless I needed a non cottagecore clusterf***ks guide to journals
@JeffNixonComedy3 жыл бұрын
My journals always devolve into doodles…doodles of a guy journaling, that is ;)
@drranger42103 жыл бұрын
I absolutely love love love this! I'm a therapist and have always given journal prompts because I know how anxiety-producing it can be to just sit before a blank page! I'm loving your categories and definitely plan to integrate that concept into my work.... is there a way to credit you?
@marcelagomes2 жыл бұрын
I see a lot of you in me, the sense of humor, trying to helping people, you’re getting me hope, thanks
@seren.itywrites2 жыл бұрын
For some odd reason, I continually put off watching this video for weeks. I felt like I had no direction, busted out my journal and decided to finally watch this video. Thank you so much for this video💛
@julialedra3 жыл бұрын
I've started journaling about 4 years ago, but mostly just used the "dump all thoughts onto a blank page" technique and these seem like a more focused a specific way to deal with some of life's curveballs. I'll definitely try them out, I'm actually super excited to see how they would work out in my life, so thank you so much for sharing them ❤
@jaimetan3 жыл бұрын
Loved these journal prompts, taking notes here! And CONGRATS on the book, how exciting!! 🙌❤️🙌
@carolg.53133 жыл бұрын
Love this channel and this video. Haven’t journaled in a while and I’m happy to have some new techniques! Thanks so much!!❤️😁
@BeingReal12 жыл бұрын
“Treat ourselves like the friend we love”…that’s gold!
@janettrierweiler16783 жыл бұрын
You are such a sweet and caring soul. It takes an enormous amount of courage to do what you do. I'm so grateful for the enjoyment you have given to me. Thank you for inspiring people to choose wisely.
@Tasoan3 жыл бұрын
When I'm at one of my lowest mental points but I've started journaling and you come along and give me pointers. Suddenly today, I feel like I can do it. Thank you.
@sandopau3 жыл бұрын
Thank you for this! I learned so much in less than 11 minutes than in many other classes/videos. More power to you! 💖
@Nehway3 жыл бұрын
You should start calling these videos *“Struth’s Truths”*
@Joe-ou1iw3 жыл бұрын
omg i love you
@feltsspencer802 жыл бұрын
This is by far the best self-help channel I’ve ever seen. I love all of your videos. It’s crazy, when you say you catastrophise (not sure how to spell it) about your lady getting into a car accident as soon as she leave, I do the exact same thing. I play that exact same scenario in my head, and I never realized anyone else did as well. These videos have helped me tremendously ever since I stumbled across your page. So thank you for everything!
@luhan51232 жыл бұрын
This video is so good and one has to have such balls to be honest with oneself to do it, I will definitely do this and I hope you're doing even better every time bcause you deserve it
@snorlaxdrumz2 жыл бұрын
6:37 , Me introducing myself to people.
@ItsMeShanalee3 жыл бұрын
idnt know u, n idnt evn have much $ rn but I’ve just subscribed n preordered bc...thank u. ifcks w ur vibes n I hope to better my life: shit show is an understatement friend 😅 im excited4 October n congrats !!!
@jackofallthinks Жыл бұрын
Notes: Brain dump: Write whatever comes to mind, nonstop, until you feel satisfied. This isnt in the video, but i like to go back through and annotate my brain dump to pick out the important insights Mindset breaking: -write 6 impossible things -10 ways i can make someone else happy right now -whats something in my immidiate enviroment ive never noticed Daily reflections: -what exited me -what drained me of energy -what did i learn -what are 10 things im grateful for -how did i push the needle forward If im trying to really push myself: -draw three collumns, actions, the best version of myself, and the worst version of myself -write down all my actions throughout the day and for each action put a point in the positive or negative collumn where it applies -add up all of the points and whichever version has the most points is the direction my life is going WHEN BAD THINGS HAPPEN: -What happened objectively -What did I make it mean -How would I comfort a friend I loved if this happened to them -HOW IS THIS THE BEST THING THATS EVER HAPPENED TO ME Anxiety: -draw three columns, fears, fixes, and the outcome I would bet on -disect fears into smaller more manageable bits -write strategies to overcome it -write the likely objective outcome for each fear Journaling for to do list and direction: -fill page with two columns of bullet points -make a scattered list of all of my obligations and things id like to do -audit: what is non-negotiable, what is exiting, what on my list, if done, would make everythinf else easier, what of these, if the opportunity was taken away from me, would I fight to get back, what 20% of these activities are producing 80% of the results Decision making: -clearly define the decision/problem -what are the options (try to come up with 10) -are they mutually exlusive -put on a 60 second timer to decide and write out your decision to tap into intuition -yes or no, could I live with this outcome, bullet points as to why or why not -1 paragraph or 5-10 bullet points, what would this look like if it were easy Finding direction in life: -what did I want 5 years ago (page of bulllet points) -what do I want now (page of bullet points) -what do I think I will want 5 years from now (page of bullet points) -if I knew I couldn't fail, what would I do I will be printing these out and putting them in my journal to make them more accessible
@mmeliutvisualart8684 Жыл бұрын
Very helpful recap. Hoping he’d make this into a downloadable worksheet. Maybe it’s in his book.
@travisgardner87132 жыл бұрын
When I’m having a rough day and can’t get grounded I put on one of your videos. I hope you know how much you are helping other people. I was so lost and had no idea where to turn for a long time. Your videos have helped guide me in the right direction. I had given up on myself. Now I’m studying and practicing my art and pushing myself to become a tattoo artist at 37. Next week I’m on my way around my city with my portfolio. I’m prepared to get shot down and that’s okay. I hope to pull some information from who I can to help me get better then head out again until I nail it. Thanks for all your help. Shit got hard there for a bit and I for one appreciate you. Keep doing what you are doing.
@ShellyGraham-wk9vy3 ай бұрын
Thank you for this!!! I have wanted to journal for a long time. I have filled the first two pages of dozens of journals over the years and then abandoned them. I am sticking with it since I started watching your channel. i bought and love your book!