The Joy of Being Sober | ASMR

There is no greater peace and happiness in the world than being free from the trappings of vices and addictions, having a clear mind, and being in control of your life as much as possible. In this episode I share my experiences as a former and moderate alcohol, tobacco, and cannabis user, while discussing a variety of related topics.
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[@Anonymous-lc5rz]

Always remember, just because you're clean doesn't mean you don't miss it. You can miss it and not do it. Thanks for this Paul

[@smendes2004]

Being clean is rhe best and funniest way of living.

[@girlysoap9031]

same for healthy eating habits, i know "its a balance" however theres few occasions id trade my good feeling body for indulgence. people love to try persuade:( (im lactose and gluten intolerant too) its funny because everyones so used to people being intolerant but eating huge pizzas and mac and cheese anyway.. so that when i stick to my diet people try sabotage me..

[@RandomEphemeral]

​@@girlysoap9031 you enjoy that while i eat a mc chicken with large fries and a sprite (no sauce)

[@girlysoap9031]

@@RandomEphemeral you enjoy that while i exercise my abs HAHA jokes

[@RandomEphemeral]

@@girlysoap9031 fool i go to the gym daily

[@TheeAbstractHero]

I’m about 15 months into my sobriety journey. It wasn’t easy at first however I don’t even think about alcohol anymore. Being free from alcoholism has significantly changed me for the better. Thank you for spreading kind words to everyone who is healing, or hasn’t made the leap yet.

[@crimson2618]

that’s so great to hear!

[@Funnygenderman]

Congratulations!! That’s a massive milestone! -a very very extremely proud stranger

[@fortheupgradeg7605]

Congrats keep up the good fight.

[@annaaa18277]

congratulations!! also w pfp

[@gbet543ritv]

FUCK YEAH!!! MEGADETH RULES!!! RUST IN PEACE BABAYYY!!!!!!!!🎸🤟

[@formeitisthemcchicken]

The joy of being sober is okay, but for me, it is the McChicken. The best fast food sandwich.

[@GetUpAndGoGod]

Yes.

[@jjdziochuv2987]

could i get a McChicken?

[@jameslove3860]

Lol I was that's what my addiction was

[@burgerkingas7027]

Fight me coward!!!

[@DeimosTheMan]

​@@jjdziochuv2987 Coming right up sir! That'll be 3$, cash or credit?

[@JLawL]

I’m 37, had maybe 3 drinks in my life. I learned from watching my parents drink themselves into physical fights on a weekly basis that I didn’t want to go down that road. But I’m always impressed with anyone who can come back from any long term habits, be it drinking, drugs, or even food.

[@alekto5783]

Wow, huge respect to you!!

[@podomuss]

Same thing here man, I’m 17 though. I don’t plan on tasting a drop of alcohol out of spite

[@BigtimeAVERAGE]

Good job on breaking the cycle and not following in their footsteps on that. Drinking can ruin your whole life if you let. But so can anything. I said it once and I will say it for the rest of my life MODERATION IS KEY

[@KellyCasey-hg4tq]

I've been struggling with alcoholism for several years now. Took me a LONG time to realize I had a problem. I recently hit a low and am 10 days sober now. Not long, but I'm hoping I can keep it up.

[@calhamed2364]

Good luck!! You CAN do it!!!

[@northynorth]

Wooop woop! That first step is the most important one. Good luck, keep going and surround yourself with support!

[@merrymoonlights3013]

that's great!! sending you lots of strength to keep going!

[@wetsockfullofhotmeat]

If you slip, just remember that recovery is nonlinear and that you can't learn to walk unless you fall. 10 days is a marvelous milestone, and I hope you can find a path to recovery

[@KellyCasey-hg4tq]

Thank you all SO much for the support! This weekend was REALLY hard but I got through it and I'm still going strong!

[@DoctorJohn_MD]

I'm an ER doctor, been following you for years now. Your content has helped me fall asleep after many an overnight shift. I also get to see the downstream effects of alcoholism every day, and to say it ain't pretty would be an understatement. If alcohol was a problem in your life in any way, even if you weren't an alcoholic, then getting sober can only be a good thing for you and your family. Congrats, and hope things keep looking up for you!

[@HorbyD]

I’m starting my journey of sobriety, coming from years of alcoholism, and this came out at the right time. Love you rift, always there for me❤

[@moody2756]

Best of luck to you on your journey!

[@n1nery]

Good luck soldier

[@Vigilant_Patriot_Media_LSA]

I was a hardcore opiate addict for 17 years, you can do this. No question.

[@beckettferguson4888]

Hows it going so far?

[@HorbyD]

@@beckettferguson4888 Very well! Been having no liquor during the week and only one drink on saturday nights with my girlfriend. Being a guy who drank alone, constantly, 7 days a week, it feels good.

[@nogman4057]

One of my favorite things about this channel is how human you are. You have these videos where you tell us your story and it makes it easier to relate to you. Great job, sir.

[@EphemeralRift]

Thx I try my best!

[@Lissy1701]

My dad died from alcohol. I hate it. I hate how its so accepted in society. I hate how everyone drinks and shames people who don't. Our society is sad.

[@tbcsmallbean998]

I am so sorry for your loss, and in myself can empathize with your emotions and reactions to these sad events. I hope our society is able to make improvements in this aspect at least. May life treat you well. You have my condolences

[@xefwyn]

It can be enjoyed in a responsible manner like many other things that can turn into terrible vices when abused.

[@TheRogi22]

Let’s get a round of applause for the ASMR creators out there that throw a couple ads at the beginning of the video and none for the rest of the hour or so as to not disrupt our sleep 👏 also everyone going through early stages of recovery or thinking about it, we’re in the same boat and mf we got this - there’s so substance out there that can control us! Happy days everyone ❤️

[@wafawaffles]

at 28, i’m pretty much the only person in my friend group who doesn’t smoke or vape and even though i’m long past the age where i’d be tempted to join them, i feel that disconnect when they’re off on smoke breaks. but they do always tell me to never get into smoking, even now. this was really comforting to listen to so thank you so much.

[@blob1820]

It sounds like you have friends who really care about your well being

[@mdioxd9200]

Hey don't worry soon you'll feel disconnected because you'll be the only one with functionnal lungs 💀

[@hc423]

the connection people feel through substance is extremely temporary, so staying true to yourself is the best thing you can do, and you'll be better for it (coming from someone who started smoking weed to "feel connected")

[@wetsockfullofhotmeat]

It's really depressing how hard millennials/Gen Z fell into nicotine addiction because of vaping. None of my friends had any interest in smoking until Juul made it trendy, and now a good percentage of my friends will probably have some form of mouth, throat, or lung cancer down the line

[@hc423]

@@wetsockfullofhotmeat I can't believe we were gonna be the first generation that didn't smoke cigarettes and now we're all smoking batteries

[@Aquawavey]

Being sober truly is a joy I think after my run-through with alcohol and addiction I can say that with 100% certainty. I hope that everyone who is still fighting to get sober themselves can make it through those rough times, I wish you all luck ♡

[@spaghettio_s]

i’ve been sober my whole life. at 18, i still refuse because of trauma and health. it’s so hard being sober not because of temptation, because it makes you realize how ingrained substances are in our culture. it’s isolating when you consider how tied in alcohol is to certain aspects of society. seeing an adult creator like you addressing sobriety makes me feel better about it. there’s always sober people out there and always a sober community to turn to ❤

[@chrisfromkc5698]

saying you’ve been sober your whole life & then stating you are 18 is a little anti climactic lol

[@fotiacruz3911]

I think it's a little unfair to presume it's too difficult to simply enjoy what life offers in a healthy way. Substance use does not always equal substance abuse.

[@hollywood9158]

I have to agree. For example alcohol can be very beneficial to your health if consumed in moderation. many other things like tea , coffee and even nicotine fit in this same category. Moderation is key with anything you do.

[@Anchor-Supreme]

@@hollywood9158 I agree with everything but nicotine. It’s just basically the drug of addiction.

[@hollywood9158]

@@Anchor-Supreme it’s true nicotine is very addictive but so is caffeine. Pure Nicotine by it’s self is not a harmful drug except for its addictive qualities and a mild spike in heart rate. nor does it cause cancer. That is due to the plant that produces it and how we imbibe it. In controlled moderation nicotine can improve cognitive functions. It can also impart a mild calming effect In low quantities.

[@Scrotonious]

@@hollywood9158 I would disagree, any amount of alcohol is harmful but as long as you enjoy in moderation I think it’s no big deal. The purported health benefits of alcohol can be attributed to non-drinkers generally being unable to consume alcohol per a medical condition, or by virtue of being recovering alcoholics who have experienced the negative effects of alcohol overconsumption. With nicotine, it does act as a cognitive enhancer, but once you develop a dependence/tolerance to it, your brain starts to require nicotine in order to function at the same level (similar to caffeine).

[@hollywood9158]

@@Scrotonious i respect your opinion. I will have to Disagree with a few points of your statement. But will agree with and stress the importance of moderation. And I do not think many things should be demonized as they are sometimes. Humanity is unfortunately miss informed and quick to judge in many instances. And ill leave it at that.

[@m0nhxx]

Hello rift, my name is monet and I’m 17. I’ve always loved your videos. I have found myself watching them for years. Your more serious videos have a positive emotional effect on me. Your creative and silly ones have gotten me through hard times. Recently, I lost my mama. My mama was my best friend, and she means the world to me. I can’t help but remain in a dark place. I feel lost, and guilty. I hope I’m not asking for too much, but, could you please make a video about grieving? I would greatly appreciate it.

[@Ah__ah__ah__ah.]

Omg I’m so sorry I lost my mom to dementia at 16 and she isn’t actually dead she simply hasn’t been able to be a mother basically since then and she’s gotten so bad now I’m 28 it’s so hard

[@Lizzifer7]

Can you see a therapist? I found seeing one after my mum passed last year truly TRULY helped navigate the dark and difficult emotions. Sending you so much love, dear stranger, losing a loving mother is one of the deepest pains ❤

[@m0nhxx]

@@Ah__ah__ah__ah. I’m so sorry to hear that. I wouldn’t know how to feel if my parent had that. You’re very strong.

[@m0nhxx]

@@Lizzifer7 I will be seeing a therapist soon! I’m not too excited to be talking about all my problems and trauma, but I know it will help. Thank you for the suggestion you’re too kind ❤

[@Ah__ah__ah__ah.]

@@m0nhxx it’s so hard losing our moms :( I wish everyday she was with me you probably feel the same.

[@yuutokazaki6821]

I had a pretty bad THC vape dependency for a couple months, and the day I quit will prolly stick with me for a few years maybe the rest of my life. Here’s going 8 and 1/2 months strong and still going. As Bruce Wayne said once; one day at a time.

[@daevid21]

Good for you I’ve been smoking poppers and vaping for like 8 years almost 26 idk how I’m gonna quit haven’t dreamt in months so vivid terrifying dreams when I try to quit

[@daevid21]

I buy a boxhot cart every 2 weeks including all that lol they are fire

[@fingerboards8405]

Same here had a dependency on marijuana felt like I needed it every second of every day

[@charliezw3287]

Good shit man, keep it up

[@ChocoCarmelApple]

I also quit smoking pot because I was also dependant. Good job!! I’m only maybe 3 weeks in 😂

[@AdrianskiASMR]

Thanks for being open, Paul. I have a really addictive personality and hearing people talk about addiction helps me take a step back.

[@SamAndrew27]

I’m quitting alcohol entirely. For myself, and for my unborn child that my wife is carrying. Thanks for this, sir.

[@DoNotBreathe]

One of the best decisions you could have made for yourself and for the people around you.

[@wjsnsh00ter43]

That's really awesome of you, you got this!!!! Best of luck

[@tbcsmallbean998]

It is impossible for me to portray the respect I hold to you for your decision. I can assure you that the last thing that will help your child or your relationship is for you to be incapacitated, or on a dark, slow road with a very sad end. You should be very proud of yourself for the care you have shown for your family in just this one action, which I can only assume is not an unusual act of kindness and selflessness from you. I hope your journey to sobriety has been easy so far and that you are able to continue through happiness and health. Please, enjoy life sir.

[@gabifgt]

out of all the drugs we have in society (licit or illicit), alcohol is the most dangerous one imo because it’s encouraged. people literally look down on you if you don’t drink, you’re shamed if you don’t drink (i’ve experienced this and it’s so weird). i’ve tried a few alcoholic beverages in my life, but never liked any of them and i don’t have any interest in trying more. i don’t get the hype of drinking. however, i have immense admiration for the people who have alcohol addiction and choose to get sober, i can only imagine how hard it must be to want to quit something that is not only encouraged, but also is everywhere.

[@fingerboards8405]

11 days into sobriety for me and I’ve never felt better Thank you ER!

[@Rhamburgers_420]

Based. Wishing you strength 💪

[@fingerboards8405]

@@Rhamburgers_420 thank you i appreciate that! Still going sober !

[@Cloakingpower]

I never got to a point with drinking alcohol where it was a vice for myself, but I love seeing that you're happily sober. Never developed a relationship with it, only ever have it in a social setting. I can't imagine what some people go through with their addictions, but I wish them all the best and a recovery, however fast or slow it is for them.

[@dimentbarg9793]

Damn, I just cracked open the first beer of the day. I've been having problems with drinking for some months now. Hopefully I can come back to this video later

[@Dyrock666]

It takes time, man. I’m in the same boat, but I’ll never dismiss the idea of being sober, and will even encourage others to go for it. Good luck and stay strong!

[@Corkoth55]

Thought about doing the same thing today. Maybe I won't. Shits tough.

[@lifemusic1980]

You've already done the hardest part. You know you're having problems, so you can do this. Good luck to you.

[@horsegranola]

Hope you’re doing okay. Admitting you have a problem is a huge step forward, it took me years. I’m rooting for you ❤

[@dani08sv]

In my experience, addictions come from converting a moment of excitement or enjoyment, which you want to repeat, then over time you realize that without doing what gave you the feeling of enjoyment, you still wanted that substance (it doesn't matter what it is) in an environment where maybe you get bored, and taking the substance makes you feel a little bit the feeling of euphoria that you felt in a past moment of fun. If you don't realize it, you start to take it as a habit and the later you realize it the worse.

[@stryff]

I have never smoked, drank, or done drugs. I just wan to thank you for spreading such a positive message. This video is such a great motivator to stay sober and even other journeys like going to the gym, healthy diets and weight loss. So, from the bottom of my heart, I thank you. ❤

[@aforasmr807]

Teetotal lifer here, thanks so much for covering this. I also share concern with alcohol having it’s prominence in society, and it being advertised etc. Shoutout for people who have gone sober!!

[@geniousatwork6658]

it is always a delight to come to the video where not many likes or comments were left yet - it is like a time travel experience as you spot the beginning of something majestic. And of course, it is a delight to listen to your podcasts that aren't whispered - your voice is very beautiful in its full-power sound.

[@elvihorse532]

Had to stop drinking after i was thrown out of the house when i was 20, wasnt able to for some years its very difficult to actually fully quit. I now havent had a drink in 1 year and 9 months, but its still a very difficult thing to not drink.

[@sorinori]

Keep it up, it's a constant struggle.

[@HiramVelt]

you're doing a great job

[@nmoconnors]

This is nuts because this is exactly what I needed to hear.

[@lauren-ro3gj]

Never been much of a drinker to begin with in social settings, often opting out of rounds and going at my own pace. However, after having experiences of blacking out last year, and noticing I felt an incredible urge to drink when anxious or deeply upset, and many other personal and health reasons, I’ve made a decision to not touch alcohol again, in social settings or alone. Particularly hard because alcohol is such a huge part of our culture. Here’s to 3 months and many more to come

[@robertarrowsmith781]

I remember when you first bought out the going sober video and I laughed because I thought it was a ridiculous idea. Low and behold I've stopped drinking altogether too 😂 I wish you the best with your sobriety and life going forward.

[@bellaissober]

2.5 years sober, but in the waves of emotional relapse. Thank you for reminding me that I don’t have to drink today 🖤

[@EmilyLyonsBristow]

Good luck, you’ve got this! Wish you well.

[@adderon]

So timely! My addiction engine has been firing on all cylinders from stressors lately. It's tough to use the tools to watch the thoughts float by and not listen to the voice to use and this video is helping me do that. 🙏💪🧠♥️👻💯

[@exploringwithasmr]

Could listen to this guy talk for hours. Seems like legit good person.

[@fitycalibre7555]

I’ve been sober almost three years now. Hardest thing to do in my life. But I’d never change it. I’m so glad others feel the same

[@notsurewhatyoumean]

I’m pullin up to 3 years sober in June Higher Power permitting! So cool to see you do this, thank you ☺️

[@royalthedragonslayer6427]

My mother recently made it to 1 year of sobriety! I’m extremely proud of her, she attends AA nearly every day, and chairs meetings quite often. I’m so glad that she’s doing much better than she used to.

[@tbcsmallbean998]

I know I am just a stranger to you and all aspects of your life, but I truly wish for your mother to have a very long lasting and healthy experience with sobriety. I congratulate her on what is for many people a very tremendous accomplishment. I hope you and her can find great joy in this world and continue along a good journey together. My congratulations to her, and condolences to you for the tough parts that people don’t bring up

[@savannahlake9958]

7 years ago in May my dad had to get a liver transplant bc his drinking was literally killing him and it was hell growing up with a dad that was an alcoholic. From that time, now that I’m 20 and am able to understand what was happening at such a young age, I’ve seen many issues arise from that time. Anyways my dad is doing great and it’s great to feel loved by him and feel a father-daughter bond with him that I was always meant to have with him.

[@An_Actual_Mage13]

I'm around six years into sobriety for a schedule 1 drug, and two years into sobriety for marijuana. While the schedule 1 drug was not my drug of choice, and was honestly easy to kick. Marijuana was infact my drug of choice, and it's been quite hard honestly. I used it to help my depression, anxiety and schizophrenic symptoms amongst other things. It was very hard to drop, but I'm still quite sober. Recently I have been drinking, not enough to call myself addicted, as I am very heavily insulated against that specific habit due to having large amounts of exposure to actual, very far gone alcoholics. Including some in my family. But I keep myself very aware that at any point it very well could become an addiction to me. I appreciate this video regardless, and fully support those both on their journey of sobriety, those that have never had to take that journey, and those that have yet to find the courage. Hopefully we can all find that place in our lives where we can take years in stride and come to happiness and fulfillment in our lives.

[@theman44ful]

Any advice for someone struggling with weed?

[@An_Actual_Mage13]

@@theman44ful you know. There's a good few blanket statements I could say. Things like "It's really not physically addictive, it's only mentally habit forming." Things like, "Feeling okay, or feeling like you can do things is all in your head, regardless of rituals you once used to help you prepare." I could say things like, "you really don't need pot to have a good time.", Or, "regardless of how it made you feel, or how it made it easier to cope. That you can in fact bring about that strength inside you." I could say a numeration of things to try to give you advice upon how to go about your journey. But here's the thing about substance addiction. It is a singular experience. Every person has their own story, perception, reasons, and causes as to why they feel as if they need to use substances. Me trying to tell you how I do it for myself would be like trying to tell a goldfish that it's easy to climb up a tree if I'm a monkey. You need to have your own reasons for wanting sobriety. You need to stick to these reasons even if they start alienating people; in which who's relationships with you revolved entirely, or in major part to the fact that you both used the same substance, that you need to stick to these reasons because you have seen that sobriety is the proper path for you. What I will say. Is that no matter what anyone else says, no matter what I say, YOU NEED TO WANT IT FOR YOURSELF, NO MATTER WHAT. Because if you don't want sobriety, you'll find any excuse to break it eventually. And you know deep down if you truly want that or not. Regardless of what anyone tells you. Sobriety needs to be what you want, otherwise, it will never happen. Much Love from a Recovering Addict. -JP

[@professorbadtime6097]

Thank you boss! I needed this video, with a 2 month old and pushing almost 1 year sobriety as of June !! Life’s hard but but it’s not out to get us spite the things we’ve been through !

[@Lizzifer7]

Went from party loving hippy trippy girl in ma 20s, to just smoking and drinking (scaling back if you will) in my Mid 20s... ALL the way to stone cold sober Mum of One in my 30s. Did it for her, now doing it for me 🎉 I would still advocate education, legalisation, decriminalisation and management of drugs even though that's all behind me buuut heck, that's just my opinion. It's not gonna change much.

[@andregomez7891]

8 months sober from heroin and all other mind altering substances today ❤ SD: 10/29/22 I promise, if you want to get sober, you can do it. It's not easy. It may be the hardest thing you ever do. I know it has been for me. But taking control of my life is the greatest decision I've ever made. And I just want you to know, I believe in you, and I love you ❤

[@nadiasvens]

Rhift youre one of the best weardos I know. And I'm glad you exist out here in the world

[@SW_YXificer]

Love the videos, man. I have severe insomnia and no other ASMRist works for me other than you. Thank you so much, man. You've saved me more than once.

[@punk9weight679]

How IS It possible to think books are Boring! Thats sad , reading should never be Boring nor writting. keep looking for authors you definitely can find your taste , and when you do you grow and enjoy, love from Spain rift looking forward to your videos for many years ro come

[@palepilgrim1174]

I haven't touched alcohol for 9 years, and before that single night I drank in 2014 I hadn't drank since 2009. So I have drank alcohol a single time in 14 years, with 9 unbroken years of teetotaldom. Best decision I ever made in my life. I'm 30 now and I've probably saved tens of thousands, if not hundreds of thousands, of dollars that others would have sank into alcohol by my age. I don't miss it at all. It truly is the Devil's Nectar.

[@Marcella_Parker]

This came out on my day 60. Thank you 💕

[@Sarnarath]

Most relaxing PSA ever.

[@sasaciz8758]

I turned 18 in december Last year and decided to quit alcohol, tabaco (which i havent done before) and coffeine (excluding teas and dark chocolate) all together and to this Day i still see myself Getting reassured that it has been the best decision i have ever made. Mostly in alcohol. The only alcohol i had after i started my abstinence was Champagne for Christmas and my grandma's 70's birthday and i look forward to *not* drinking alcohol again and enjoying life sober! Be well and stay safe! ❤

[@PerspectivEs]

I've been battling nicotine for years, I'm convinced that'll be what stops my heart. I get funny looks from people, as if I'm being grouped mentally with those high school kids that smoke pen vapes or whatever, but I need it to not violently sweat or get the shakes. Tried weaning off it but then I crave a drink. I hate it.

[@ChucksFeet]

Take it easy bro. Just baby steps.

[@Cae_lan]

Did all kinds of drugs mainly fentanyl Been 2 years sober. I’ve been watching your videos for years helped me through some hard times

[@JohnDoe-eg8qc]

Personally, I climbed into a bottle when my gf in highschool died in a car accident when the only thing she did wrong was roll down her window at the wrong time. For 15 years I've been trying to climb back out with limited success, I currently have a ruptured vein in my leg that is bleeding and am still fighting my demons and can barely keep alcohol out of me even knowing that trash will kill me. For the last 5 years or so I've drank 12- 18 beers every single night and slept 4-6 hours every night w/ "no problems" according to my bosses. Please, don't repeat or live my mistakes. I love you, you matter.

[@Brickington23]

Been drinking since I was 14 (I’m 23 now) and finally decided to cut back. For the first time since turning 14 I’ve gone 2 weeks without a single drink…proud of myself. The only issue now is facing my past/demons because I drank to cope.

[@Rhamburgers_420]

I absolutely love the positive messages you spread on this channel along with all the awesome weird stuff. God speed uncle rift :)

[@TheEllaDarling]

Addiction runs in my family so I'm quite happy that I for the most part don't enjoy the taste of alcohol. I've watched one of my brothers never have a moment of sobriety for 1.5 years, drink a 24 pack of beer by himself in a day etc. It's very hard to watch when there's not much you can do, he's somewhat better now since it was the worst during the pandemic.

[@kimberlymiller7481]

Thank you for making this video I lost my father and best friend of 30 years to drinking etc..

[@Zyrnor]

Had quite the addiction to videogames without realizing it when I was young. Started with watching my Dad play computer games. Dad got an original Xbox for Christmas one year and it was all downhill from there. Proud to say I still play video games but am in no way addicted like I use to be. I still enjoy the experience of playing a game every now and again but don't let myself get to sucked in.

[@RacksonRacksonRibss]

It’s weird I’ve had phases of drinking a lot as well as smoking. But tbh in hindsight (32 now)I feel like VIDEO GAMES in middle school/early high school were my biggest addiction!

[@NOVARTIS47]

Great work paul. Thx for all the loves n tingles. Take care n have a good day/now. ❤

[@xxPenguinKnight7xx]

Speaking of coffee being a problem: I think the question "would you like a double espresso shot?" could be the next Supersize Me. You can make your own coffee low caffeine and low sugar. But EVERYTHING you get premade is absolutely loaded with sugar and added caffeine. The industry is basically trying to blur the line between energy drink and coffee.

[@bosniakslayer6614]

Yeah it sucks , being really sensitive to caffeine i cant drink coke because of the caffeine content it will keep me awake all night 😢

[@xxPenguinKnight7xx]

@@bosniakslayer6614 I read all of the soda caffeine content and what's crazy is pepsi uses like 50% more than coke. It's just this arbitrary amount that companies choose.

[@bluejetlightning8427]

As someone who struggles with my own vices this is very nice to hear.

[@LucaMu]

I’m working on being sober from social media right now. It’s hard but overall i feel SO much better for it.

[@Lizzifer7]

Well done, social media is so fake anyway. You can do it 🎉

[@LucaMu]

@@Lizzifer7 thank you! Yeah it just puts SO much pressure on me to live my life man. And I’m man enough to admit I’m too sensitive for it - like algorithms! Disgusting. It makes quieter people more lonely (Instagram) I’m sorry but that’s everything social media never was intended to be. My concern was/is id become less social but so far I’m finding it makes my real encounters with important people who actually matter in the long run more meaningful .

[@goutbreak]

Been straight edge since I was 17. No regrets!

[@NorthernRailsTrainsInTheNorth]

I've just recently quit smoking cold turkey. 1 week smoke free today. Going away from an addiction is one of the toughest mental battles you can face. But I remember being told. By many people. If you want to quit. You will.

[@ChocoCarmelApple]

I recently decided to just stop drinking. Thank you ❤ this will be nice to listen to go to bed ❤

[@cjhmarine0621]

I will however say i do miss the days of your beer reviews especially the microbrew oddball beers that are unique. And also when youd also pick up some food from local spots and review the food and the beer together. If being sober makes you feel better and have a happier life, i am happy for you. Been following your channel for many years and will continue to do so for years to come.. Keep up the good work as your content is very well put together and thought out.. Cheers! ( in a non alcoholic way) :-)

[@Vigilant_Patriot_Media_LSA]

I KNEW YOU SMOKED THAT GREEN UNCLE E !

[@nievesshiratama3964]

The fact that I have an alcoholic uncle is the reason I've never touched a drop of alcohol in my life. Forever sober.

[@Nephelith]

Same here with my "father" thanks to whom the first 9 years of my life were a living hell. While I understand that drinking responsibly won't make an alcoholic, I wish to stay away from every single thing tied to this man, and I wish society would respect my choice instead of telling me I'm "not fun". I am not sorry that my idea of fun cannot be linked to something that destroyed my childhood, and yes, I can perfectly dance at nightclubs for 7 hours straight while being completely sober. It's so tiring that alcohol is seen as a necessity.

[@nievesshiratama3964]

@@Nephelith I agree with you there. You don't need alcohol to have fun, here on my end if I want a fancy drink I'll just make a mocktail and that's that. One can grab non-alcoholic liquors and mix them up with various drinks to get something nice without ingesting any alcohol. Here on my end I like to do that in birthday parties, mixing mocktails for people, and it's something that both young and old can enjoy. And I'm sorry you had to deal with such trauma, no one deserves to be target of abuse, let alone from a parent.

[@noobslayer1196]

you should try it! unless you're a weenie! HAHA

[@ziinx5899]

@@DHU11 Yep. My father was also an alcoholic throughout the later half of my childhood. Decided not to drink because of it.

[@royalguard2021]

I’ve been smoking for 6 years now. Started at 13 shits hard to get off. Especially when you associate it with other addictive drugs. Thanks uncle E.R for spreading some positivity.

[@HarryJamesE]

I started drinking beer when i was 14, stole one of my dads beers, then once i turned 16 i was drinking beer with my mates. It only used to be me or my dad drinking in the house but now 10 years later when i go visit, my mom and brothers are always drinking now aswell. In England it is so normalised to drink i could not imagine life without it. If you're sober you're the odd one out

[@borris542]

Don’t I know it I personally can’t stand it people keep telling you will get used to it but I never have tbh I don’t want to but yeah you do feel like a alien when you go to a bar with your mates and they are sat around with there beer and I’ve got my coke

[@professorbadtime6097]

Also I think I may through E.R on my one year chip ! Iv been following you since 2020! And your content has helped so much with many issues that have confronted me! Thank im you again .

[@Kensei007]

I'm 36. I've worked at a liquor store for 14 years. Despite that...I don't think I've ever been proper drunk. I mean like stumbling, falling down, someone needs to help me drunk. I've been buzzed plenty of times, but for some reason I've always been coherent enough to know when to stop or know when to not drive. I'm usually a two and through kind of guy whenever I go to a restaurant. This usually entails two cocktails or two tall beers. If I do feel buzzed I'll usually just sit at the table and watch tv or chill in my car on my phone for about 30 minutes. Now the problem I have is with my mom. She's been a box wine drinker for almost as long as I've worked at my store. She usually drinks a liter a night if unregulated, and even when I got her a smaller carafe (25oz) she always complains that she doesn't have enough. The thing that upsets me the most is that she had gastric bypass surgery over a decade ago so she barely drinks much liquids or eats much food but when it comes to wine? She seems to forget ALL that and goes to town. I dunno how she does it but my dad and I will pour her up, go out to eat, be back home within an hour, and she's sloshed. Drank ALL of her carafe (25oz is about 5 servings) and she'll eat and complain that she wants more wine. My dad and I have been trying for YEARS but she doesn't relent. She goes all day fine and dandy but once she starts drinking she can't help herself. Now I've started losing weight this year. Since January I've lost more than 60lbs. I started to think, SURELY, if I can finally start losing weight (just by EATING better) then she can lay off the wine a bit. NOPE. I try to guilt her into it. Nope. My dad and I try to budget and show her that we spend literally $100 a month on her wine. Doesn't matter. We hide it on a cupboard in another room and once I found a step stool she used to grab it from said cupboard. The worst thing is she doesn't remember doing it. She gets blackout drunk almost every night and my dad and I are stunned when we tell her what she did or what she forgot she did. I've recorded her being an ass. At family gatherings where everyone is drinking but can hold their liquor. I'd figure the embarrassment would help but it doesn't. My dad is too soft on her because he usually stays in the front of the house with her while she's doing this and she annoys him into relenting getting her more.

[@CS-nw9si]

I quit drinking last fall and quit smoking weed a few months ago. Sober living is good. Never had an issue with alcohol, just realized I didn't wanna feel numb anymore. Weed was a whole thing tho, I was DEFINITELY addicted and it took me about 4-5 months of tapering down to be able to finally go without it, after smoking multiple times a day for nearly 15 years. I was going through a half oz a week at the height of it! Never thought I'd wanna quit but realized it's not good for my cognition. My decision-making and relationships have improved. My bank account is also happier. Hoping to one day quit nicotine but it's harder than anything to quit. Sugar is also another addiction 😅 one day at a time.

[@guavareignsgaming9523]

1 year clean and life is so much brighter and tolerable.

[@mglouise97]

Ill be 6 months sober from weed in a few days! 💪

[@amoghbankar1516]

Good going brother. It takes patience and restraint to do so. Best of luck.

[@mglouise97]

*she/they pronouns. But thanks!

[@gingy3778]

Good going sister! Proud of you! 🎉 Edit: is there a they/them form of sister/brother? That would be cool. I guess sibling

[@mglouise97]

I'm not sure. 😅 It's all a learning process for everyone

[@DrawtheCurtains]

@@gingy3778 "good going, comrade!" *communist anthem intensifies*

[@WockhartEnthusiast]

im 23 years old. ive been smoking weed / tobbaco and drinking since i was 15, and havent missed a day really. I consider myself a 'functional' addict, as I never really drink to the point of losing control of myself. in previous jobs i had i would even drink a nip or two on my lunch breaks. (my current job is the first "serious" job ive had that doesnt pay minimum wage, so i've been great about keeping off booze during the days lately.) while i havent found the strength to absolve myself from all the substances I abuse, its nice to hear you talk about your past because it kinda makes me feel better hearing other peoples success stories when it comes to escaping substance abuse. ive been listening to you since 2017, and while i obviously dont know you in person I do value your input on things alot more than I would if i had just discovered you recently. cheers! i hope one day i'll also be in my middle years reflecting on how i was able to better myself.

[@jameslove3860]

Im attempting to quit smoking cold turkey. Its lowkey kinda hard seeing as im literally two days in.

[@cristinabuzan6989]

You got this! I'm on the same road, 1 day and 7 hours in. Not another puff no matter what!

[@staid4969]

You got this!! One more day and it starts getting easier. I'm three weeks in and already feeling so so much better!!

[@clayw8884]

How did this come out the exact same day that I put myself on a rehab waitlist?

[@Sssteelo]

I’m 4+ months sober from drugs. I used your Asmr to help me sleep while I was withdrawing. Thanks for doing you man.

[@svt9165]

Used to be almost a daily drinker. And got drunk a lot in the weekends. Decided to stop last september and sober now since then. Pretty proud on myself now feeling much more fit.

[@borntobone]

Watched from beginning to end, and to just about all of it, I say AMEN!

[@NicAnthony0131]

27 days today💪 I’ve been watching on and off since I was 13. Turned 21 in January. Was drinking everyday for 8 months, and I’ve struggled with just about everything else since I was 14. Rift has helped me get some much needed rest many times throughout that. Thank you for the Z’s and advice Rift!

[@JustWaterPipes_]

I think I needed this from the rift

[@charliejohnson4787]

The timing of this is perfect as always Uncle E: I just started going to AA a week ago. Thank you.

[@lifestreamy]

Looking at the thumbnail and seeing that staged photo with a beer glass from the time since when the Rift's hair has grown so much, I can say with almost a 100% certainty, it was his plan all along, to make a video about it years later. Just like with the unintelligible questionnaire that took 3 years to grade. Now THIS is how we people should stick to our plans!

[@MendicantBias124]

I truly believe the problem is the prevalence. It’s permeated every aspect of society and it’s expected to be the source of fun in social settings, not to mention it gets into the hands of 13,14,15 year olds unfailingly.

[@ziinx5899]

Agreed. My father is an alcoholic and he had his first drink at the age of 10. Insane.

[@frickfacemigee9819]

I really needed this. I've had a really rough day. A comment was made to me while I was at dinner and at the most, things like that would annoy me, but it almost made me cry. I've always found that the best way I can cope with being a very self aware alcoholic is by being open and okay with making fun of myself. But the comment really took a stab at me. I don't want to be known as the addict who is self indulging and reckless. I've been trying to get sober for a little while now. But this makes me motivated to commit. My 17th birthday is coming up and I need to make a change in my life. Thank you for this video. I am so exhausted tonight and I needed relaxation. This was a sign from the universe to listen.

[@Ms.Irod2024]

Wow Paul!! I'm trying to get sober for a while I am not drunk currently but I did drink a bunch of wine I wasn't going to but one of my dogs died today and I opened a bottle , but this is a great reminder not to fall into this rabbit hole

[@MendicantBias124]

17 months sober in the last 2 years with multiple relapses. This shit is rough bro lol

[@JennaEmbers]

Sober gang rise up 🫶

[@littlemichaeljr6518]

Jenna! Hiiii! What happened to you? You used to be pretty big on youtube and did ASMR videos. Nowadays it seems you just comment on Ephemeral's youtube channel lol and there's nothing wrong with that! I'm just so glad you're here too

[@littlemichaeljr6518]

I'm apart of sober gang but ngl I think I wanna start drinking now and do other things for the first time in my life. I'm in my 20s and I've had so many opportunities in the past but I want to live, be happy and live free. I'm so sad in my own apartment. I go to the bar every month. I think imma start drinking but I want it to be special and with someone special but I also don't want to ruin my life and become an addict or something too

[@ciankai]

- Started smoking weed at 15, quit it at 21. Would smoke 5-8 joints a day, more if in social situations. Spent more money on weed than food back then. - Started smoking Tabaco at 16, quit it at 23. Smoked a pack a day. - Started drinking alcohol at 16, currently 5 months sober at 26. Didn't drink every day but when I did I'd get way too drunk. - Tried crystal meth, shrooms and ecstasy once each (at festivals), never looked back. (Although I was dying to try crystal meth again for days but my mate wouldn't let me, seriously stay away from that stuff, I'm so glad he stopped me) - Started working in a casino at 19 where I got in the habit of gambling in my spare time, not even caring about the money, just seeking the thrill. For the most part, I managed to stop doing this but now and again I fall in the temptation and blow 100-200 quid. Still a work in progress, but after my latest one I've self excluded myself from online gambling. I've made A LOT of mistakes, but I've managed to learn from them to work toward a better future. I remember at 20-21 feeling like I fucked up my life and it was too late to fix it. Thanks to my girlfriend who saw the good in me, she encouraged me to be better. At 26 I am now in my last year of University (originally I quit school at 16), close to getting a Cyber Security degree. My objective now is to go to the Gym 3-5 times a week and to eat less takeout, drink more water and less cola. And eventually, play less video games and use more of my spare time learning valuable skills. Baby steps.. If it helps anyone, I managed to quit my addictions one at a time.. and more often than not trading one for another.. When I quit weed I leaned more on tabaco, when I quit tabaco I leaned on vape for a month with no nicotine. When I quit that, I started to eat more and gain weight. It's almost like my addiction didn't go away, I just replaced it for something less "dangerous."

[@pinkleWeenkies]

theres a beauty in both worlds sober and high, it's important to have balance

[@selfmastery8885]

I needed to hear this. Currently struggling, i have so many triggers that make me want to relaspe , i guess uncovering those triggers are the first step

[@Yungin3278]

Unfortunately 0 days clean but I started my sober journey as soon as I woke up today around 5 am and man why does it feel like hell? Barely 10pm really appreciate this video will be using it to fight this insane insomnia ( 420 )

[@thomasski9862]

You got this man!!! Keep your head up and take it one day at a time

[@doxoyd]

15 months clean of meth🥳 im much happier without it. i still do psychelics and sometimes other drugs because i need some drugs in my life but its certainly not destructive for me (or not as destructive as meth)- it helps me with painting, undestanding myself more and with all sorrs of things (the osychedelics). i think that i looked to everyone in my circle (including other drug users) like someone with no hope to stop doing meth (i have multiple mental illnesses and stuff) so i want to say to everyone who does hard drugs that there is hope for him, there is hope for YOU. i wish you good luck

[@madeleine61509]

In a situation like yours (or anyone with multiple substance dependencies), it is almost never a good idea to try to quit multiple/all at the same time. It's like when you go on a diet. If you go from 15 fast food meals a week plus extra junk food between meals, to suddenly only eating plain, organic salads with low fat dressing and nothing else, that is not sustainable. It needs to be done in steps and the changes should be in moderation. Think of the state and lifestyle that you are in right now as a save in a video game: if anything were to happen (relapse, unsuccessfully trying to quit other substances, etc.), you know now that you can always return to where you are at this moment to regain your footing and regain control of your life again. You're doing great. Keep it up!! 🎉

[@K4RN4GE911]

While I will admit that I do drink, it's never alone and it's never to get drunk. I buy things that I enjoy and do so with friends. However, I applaud and support those who are sober and continuing to do so. I thankfully have never smoked and never will. There are vices and there are dependencies that are MADE to trap you.

[@Jadythelady]

Honestly this was the most perfect time. I am on my sober journey starting recently

[@matttheman3923]

Thank you very much for this Paul, I will have 5 years sober in December. Your videos in general have helped me sleep, to think, and to laugh over the years and it’s much appreciated! Cheers from North Carolina!

[@lonestar330]

Interesting thoughts ER. I feel the same way you do, but about pot. Hate the smell of it and generally the attitudes of people who smoke it daily

[@staid4969]

That's interesting to me as a medical mariuana user. I'd love to tell you my side if you're at all interested

[@bevvvy1374]

Same. Personally I think Marijuana is much more scary in that people are addicted to that without even realizing it, much moreso than most other drugs I feel. The smell and attitude of people on it doesn't help though lmao

[@Stu161]

Interesting video. I definitely understand the desire to be free from the need for something. I know I need to moderate my intake, but I definitely don't feel ready to explore sobriety. Maybe someday. I still feel like I got a lot out of hearing this perspective, regardless of my own. 🙂

[@ThatMmosGuy]

5 months sober thanks to joining the army. Tomorrow I get access back to the civilian world. Trying not to touch it one bit at all. It’s so detrimental to me

[@Camantics615]

I’m having to go sober for the Air Force, how’s your experience so far ?

[@AdamGarand]

I love beer, wine, whisky and redbull. I love the taste of these beverages. Not necceserely the alcohol and the caffein effect these beverages have though. I drink alcoholic beverages almost every friday and saturday or sometimes both days. But I drink in moderate proportions. I don't like getting so drunk that I cant speak straight or losing my balance. But I enjoy a little buzz feeling. Everything in moderation imao.