The Lies About Sex: Cynthia Garrett Interview - The Becket Cook Show Ep. 167

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In today’s episode, Becket chats with Cynthia Garrett about her new book, “The Naked Truth: Reclaiming Sexual Freedom in a Culture of Lies.”
Cynthia navigates the misinformation in the world around us and helps us see the truth about sex, sexuality, and sexual freedom. Within the pages of “The Naked Truth,” readers will see how the sexual
revolution did not provide freedom; rather it brought bondage, and how feminism turned out to be a failed experiment.
“Everywhere you look, sex and sexuality are being defined, redefined, manipulated, twisted, and maligned,” says Garrett. “Terrified of being labeled ‘intolerant,’ Christians have been silent
while the world has spoken loudly. No more.
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ABOUT BECKET:
Becket Cook was born and raised in Dallas, Texas. He attended Jesuit College Preparatory
School of Dallas. After graduating from college, Becket moved to Los Angeles to pursue his dream of writing and acting, finding success in both. He eventually went on to become a production designer working with the top photographers and directors in the world on fashion shoots for magazines such as Vogue and Harper’s Bazaar, and for ad campaigns such as Gap, L'Oréal Paris, and Nike.
Finding a new sense of freedom in L.A., Becket also fully engaged in his new life as a gay man. He had a series of many relationships with men throughout the next fifteen years.
In September of 2009, Becket met a stranger at a coffee shop in Silver Lake who invited him to his church in Hollywood called Reality L.A. Becket reluctantly agreed to attend the service. After hearing the sermon that Sunday, Becket was utterly transformed by the gospel and gave his life to Christ. He also knew on that day when God revealed Himself to him that homosexuality was a sin and that he could no longer live that life. Becket was more than happy to count everything as loss because of the surpassing worth of knowing Christ Jesus his Lord.
Becket spends much of his time in ministry speaking at churches, universities, and conferences helping believers (and non-believers) understand this issue biblically, theologically, culturally, and personally. Balancing grace and truth when teaching on this subject is of primary importance. His goal is to challenge the current cultural narrative about sexuality in general and homosexuality in particular by demonstrating through his personal testimony and biblical truths that, yes, homosexuality is still a sin, and that following Christ is infinitely more satisfying and joyous.
He has lived all over the world in major cities such as Rome, Vienna, and Tokyo.
Becket graduated from Talbot School of Theology at Biola University in 2017 with a Master of Arts in Theology.
Becket’s book, A Change of Affection: A Gay Man’s Incredible Story of Redemption, with a
foreword by Francis Chan, published by Thomas Nelson, released July 30, 2019.
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[@BecketCook]

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[@ClaritySinger]

My boyfriend and I met at Biola, dated for 2 years, got engaged, then tied the knot. We've only known each other (and I mean "know" in the biblical sense) and no one else. Many times over our 30+ years of marriage I thought, "God, You designed this, You are so wise, and we're so glad we did it Your way." We weren't perfect by any means, but we tried to heed God's Word about not trespassing against each other and treating each other with honor and purity. That built a foundation of trust as we entered our holy union.

[@StaciaRoble]

My husband and I were both virgins at our wedding also (47 years ago!) and, like you, so glad we were. Makes me so sad for our unmarried son who lives with a woman; it's not okay, it's a sin!

[@ClaritySinger]

@@StaciaRoblelet's never give up praying for our children! When God saves them, they will see how beautiful and good He is and how right and loving His ways are!

[@duncescotus2342]

Virtue signal much. Biola. Biafra. Barf.

[@margomcdaniel5445]

Trust there is huge. People don't realize

[@heatherwoods5703]

Same. Body count of ONE. I've been married 32 years to my high school sweetheart. 💗

[@joycemangione9537]

Hi Becket , just want you to know that I am praying for you and so proud of you. You’re an amazing man .

[@Fern_Thaddeus]

Amen ❤ Agreed!

[@kariay50]

💗Amen🙏🏻🕊

[@sueolson234]

Amen🙏💙

[@lisas842]

Amen!

[@mube8885]

💜

[@catherinesusann5182]

So crazy that the last few days I have been watching Sex in the City reruns and then I come across this video. This is all becoming crystal clear with what that show did to an entire generation, myself included. Yuck I am done with it.

[@SachelleCambria]

I quit watching that ungodly show a long time ago.

[@bri-annaedwardine1697]

Friends was also really bad, that was before sex and the city, and it's full of lies about sex and lots of weirdness and immorality

[@reapthewhirlwind4166]

Trash 🗑️

[@thebaglady1443]

I had the exact same thought yesterday randomly. We were all being groomed.

[@MrBird2007]

I sadly watched it during Covid, and it turned out to be a giant mistake. I was like how did women enjoy this???

[@paulajames6149]

We had a private small group of women that were working on our marriages. We were going to do a book together about sexuality but the leader shot it down. I argued for it, stating that it did not have to be graphic or a counseling session. But simply a biblical perspective on sexuality. I also said if we can’t talk about sex at church where should we go? Love both your perspectives. So valuable.

[@heatherwoods5703]

I totally agree. I'm working at connecting the women at my church and ministering to them. And I've thought how I'd love to find a way to include sex in the available topics. I enjoy a wonderful sex life with Mr husband, but I don't assume that's true for many of them. If they can't talk about it with trusted women in the church family, where should they go? And Satan uses it to damage marriages all the time!

[@pomegranate6221]

Knocked it out of the ballpark.. again!! What a great interview! ❤ She is amazing! Beckett..never interrupts always ask the right question! Beckett's input is pure wisdom! Dang, we listeners are so blessed ✝️✨

[@BecketCook]

Thank you! God Bless

[@blusky7]

With every Becket show I realise how important your channel to this generation, Becket! We need people like you to speak on these topics. Thank YOU! May the Lord bless you and guide you to keep doing this, bringing light and clarity about purity to this generation. Cynthia is great! We’re enjoying to listen to her. Thanks for inviting her!

[@BecketCook]

Thank you! God Bless

[@rose2525bud]

I was part of a mega church most of my life, started waking up, then 2020 hit, and the church refused to open, I left, and found a tiny church that will only speak the truth, and that’s why it will stay tiny. I’m so thankful for you, and your guests that are speaking out, I felt alone for a VERY long time. 🙌🏼❤️‍🔥🙌🏼

[@mht5875]

Tiny church: Matthew 7:13-14 "“Enter through the narrow gate. For wide is the gate and broad is the road that leads to destruction, and many enter through it. But small is the gate and narrow the road that leads to life, and only a few find it." God bless!

[@debbywoolbright7953]

@@mht5875separating the goats from the sheep. I attend a small church too. Truth is preached!

[@sbepptk3406]

Incredible, similar story for me too, at a small Biblical church-my Christian family, it is a gift ❤

[@ebangoosa]

So Ur reason for leaving was because it wouldn't open up during the pandemic and not the 'mega-iness'?

[@jamesg3808]

I am a man, and I honestly believe that "purity culture" and feminism played a large role in the reason why I had sexual desires for other men instead of women. "Purity culture" taught me that women hate sex while only men desire sex. It also taught me that sex is inherently harmful for women. Feminism taught me that a man's sexual desire for a woman is inherently predatory. Therefore, I became fearful and disgusted by the idea of sex with a woman. A sexual relationship with another man appealed to me more because if only men enjoy sex, then the only type of sex that is mutually pleasurable is homosexual behavior between two men. Because feminism taught me that women hated men, I did not want anything to do with a woman. Fast forward to today, and this same fear in me resurfaced with the rise of the Me Too movement, which further demonized male heterosexuality. Feminism and "purity culture" have more in common that people realize.

[@RCGWho]

Well, satan has an agenda in every lie and you are exposing some of them.

[@rebeccabrown8908]

Wow!! I wonder how common this is, because there's definitely a logic to what happened to you. May the Lord continue to heal you and set you free with the Truth!

[@petalblossom96]

This is so fascinating! The damaging of these ideologies are so far-reaching, would never have expected that effect on men! God bless you for speaking out 🙏

[@RCGWho]

@@jamesg3808 I know a lot of men are also choosing celibacy because feminism, "fierceness", boss babe, and metoo are all so off-putting.

[@jaime617]

Maybe is you got to know actual woman rather than base your views on twisted images manipulated by mass media...

[@susank2463]

The parents AND the church need to drop the correct messages into their lives. I myself explained to my gorgeous daughters what (the wrong) men will try to get/take from them (and not to be fools), and how much more valued they will be by the right man who will wait for marriage.

[@selenachester2543]

My mum told me that too, but I had to learn the hard way.

[@WVDB7153]

Good job.

[@pianoatthirty]

"For me, living a chaste life, I have the holy spirit indwelling me - I have supernatural power to live this kind of life. It's not just me, white knuckling it." Becket, just want to say your testimony is such a gem of the 21st century! I pray more people hear it.

[@lissettesloan1166]

Becket made such a great point when he said, "is this show glorifying God" if you know it is not and you keep watching it, you are continuing to let sin entertain you.

[@conservativemama3437]

Beckett…you are a treasure.

[@Meadow-qe9xd]

I agree

[@therealdonnawagner]

Great interview! As someone who was a very new Christian teenager during the "purity" push in the late 90s/early 2000s, I 100% agree that it ended up doing a LOT of damage, especially to people young in the faith. I saw firsthand how it led to legalism in the area of relationships, not just for my friends but in my own life. While my original goal was to not even kiss before marriage, the man I eventually married and I did way more than that, regretfully. But since we didn't "technically" have sex, he was ok with it, whereas for me, I felt so guilty and ruined, I didn't think I had any other choice than to marry him. That flawed understanding that was the foundation of my decision led to years of stress and heartache that could have been avoidable. Thank the Lord for His faithfulness to change us from the form He finds us in when we're bound up in sin by teaching us wisdom and increasing our faith and trust in Him and His way. ❤ You know, I've never watched Sex and the City, but now that you mention the whole "gay men in women's bodies" things, I can totally see that in what I know of the show from friends who watched it, and gay men's behavior, also from friends (that are gay)! That blew my mind when you said that, especially considering how many people I knew that were modeling their lifestyles after it. I think Cynthia is right that the Church doesn't dialogue enough, or at all, about sex and sexuality. While it shouldn't be the core issue, obviously, it is something that is integral to our humanity, which makes it an important part of our lives on this earth. I had to laugh a bit when she was talking about parenting her son regarding sex. As a mom, I think that's a natural tendency to want to do for a child you've raised and nurtured. 😂 I also 100% agree about PornHub. So many people who get on there have no idea the level of abuse and drug use going on in those videos. Hearing the testimonies of women and men who have made it out of that is heartbreaking. It grieves me so much that porn has become such a casual thing in our society. 😢 Anyway, all that to say, "Great interview!" You were directly on topic while keeping it light and appropriate in view of the Word and what it has to say about such things. Keep up the great work, both of you, and thank you for sharing! Blessings to you. 😊

[@RCGWho]

I wasn't raised under "purity culture". Just the biblical admonition that sex was for marriage. When I met my husband, he wasn't a Christian. He was very respectful of my virginity and boundaries, but I was in my early college days with little spuritual support and no established time with God. Basically, my defenses were down. We fell without losing my virginity. I call this a technical virgin. We lie to ourselves that it's okay because we didn't go all the way, but our consciences are telling the real story. The damage that us done in our sex lives in our marriages us the premarital sex. That's why Gid says to wait. It's not purity culture. It's our God-given conscience, and sin has consequences. Blaming a movement is just shifting the focus.

[@therealdonnawagner]

​@@RCGWho I don't recall not taking responsibility for my own actions. My actions were my own. It was the aftermath, if you will, the legalist pressure that was damaging. Things like certain movements •can• be damaging without being directly to blame for actions, especially to people who are young in the faith and don't know any better. I had little understanding of grace in the broader sense. I knew that I had felt specific grace when the Lord changed my heart, but I didn't grow up in the church and, where I was attending church at the time, they preached that you had to immediately repent of every tiny little sin or, if you died unexpectedly, you would die "unsaved". That is incredibly Pharisaical, not to mention a huge amount of weight that no sinful human can ever truly lift, for someone just getting into the Word and not having read that the Lord's love for (and ability to save) His people is very different and abundant even when we screw up. The "purity" programs going on in our area and church at the time were an extension of that and I know for a fact I'm not the only person among the people I knew hearing that message that felt there was no other option than to enter into a marriage because of mistakes that were made. In your own comment, you make the statement that you had "little spiritual support and no established time with God" that led to your "defenses [being] down". Now, are you blaming others not spiritually supporting you for your actions, or are you giving context to what may have contributed to your decision-making? Because there is a difference. Just like legalist movements do damage, so does the lack of spiritual parenting that brings accountability and loving correction within the Church. It's not to blame, but it would have been beneficial if things had been done differently. That my was point in my original comment.

[@RCGWho]

@therealdonnawagner I was saying that I was in a bad spiritual, vulnerable place. I'm not blaming nonexistent support. Godly influence is helpful to everyone. We're more vulnerable isolated. I understand the issue that once you sin (going all the way or not), women feel committed and bonded and then feel like they need to get married to "fix it ". I felt that way. It wasn't put on me by someone. Repentance and walking away from a foolishly entered relationship is plan B. Plan A is nor entering stupid relationships and sinning while in them. I guess what I'm still not understanding is whether you and others bitter about purity culture are saying sexual sin is not as big a deal as they were making it out to be? Is that what you mean by legalism? Like "we can make out, we can sate around, we can feel up, etc"?

[@LH-ot5rk]

@@therealdonnawagnerWell said!

[@Lisa-sp5if]

Excellent… Thank you for writing this book… More young people need to read it!

[@jerseygirlsouth8913]

This is so good.... Becket and Cynthia you are spot on. Sex in the City, Jersey Shore, Keeping up with the Kardashian etc...all Hollywood lies that most watched and bought into. Thank you both for bringing this to light. ✝❤

[@mariaolesen8013]

ALL DEMONIC and from the enemy!!! SO SAD about how it destroyed my marriage. 😢

[@aherring10]

Sex and the Single Girl by Helen Gurley Brown in the 1960’s begat Sex and the City. It has been horrible for women and unborn babies. Sex is not free.

[@Carl-x8y3c]

Hi 👋 I view many different channels, covering different topics. I recently watched a straight guys channel in Germany. He is into men's fashion and visits mens stores looking for and buying clothes. He was walking down a street in Berlin and he was recording himself walking and talking. He passed a large building and on the flagpole outside was a gay pride rainbow 🌈 flag. And I thought to myself how things have changed globally. I am in my sixties in age , and lived as a gay man . I no longer do. I have changed my life and i am Christian now. But I remember how hard it was being gay years ago. The homophobic hatred was common. I experienced it . I have nothing to do with gay pride events now. I have no desire to get involved either. I just wanted to say this. My life is so much better and easier living as a Christian.

[@BecketCook]

God Bless

[@Free-guyy.]

Does this mean that you are now straight?, Just asking.

[@Carl-x8y3c]

@Free-guyy. I still find men attractive. I no longer want any sexual connection with a man. I have repented for my sins of the past. And I have my faith. I will not break that . I do not want to either. I have made a commitment with the lord.

[@momofmicah2114]

Thank you for addressing this topic! It is so relevant and something christians do not address often. Also, about living celibate as a christian. So needed!

[@judyvanschalkwyk6504]

Friends comedy was exactly the same. Also making porn normal with no consequences!

[@mariaolesen8013]

SO TRUE. Friends is also a very demonic show. 😢

[@HopeHalligan-x6m]

I agree that churches need to speak / teach on sexual issues MUCH MORE OFTEN than they do. How does someone go from being in the world, then accepting Jesus as Savior and then attending church but the church does not talk about sex? We need instruction.

[@georgewagner7787]

I was lucky as a teen our group went to seminar and learned why one should wait And how to be a godless spouse

[@heatherwoods5703]

​@georgewagner7787 that's really good, but they're are a lot more messages the church needs about this subject post-high school, but the church isn't getting them. 😬🙏📖

[@romanticandperky]

I just stopped this at 3:40. Yes, Cynthia: Men will lie to have their way concerning sex. And the thing is that it's not really their way that they are having. It's the 'father of lies' ways that they are pursuing. This gets possibly worse where same sex is concerned. Becket, for you and everyone else here who went through the same sex scene in one form or another (including me): What was ever REALLY attractive about it? Where REALLY was the attraction of it?

[@Yj-Fj]

Your last few questions is a post-looking-in-hindsight … why was it attractive for all those times?

[@romanticandperky]

@@Yj-Fj It wasn't. Homosexuality, for a lot of the men involved in it, is somewhere between an addiction and a compulsion. Then there is the media. They have put false ideas and false emotions and desires concerning sexuality into millions of people. The media is capable of taking the most pernicious and disgusting things and making them seem 'attractive' to people. I am the son and grandson of Jew Christ-haters who worked in the media. This, of course, goes beyond sex. Because of the media, and it's overwhelming effects, most people don't know their true feelings about not only sex, but the food they eat and the clothes they wear.

[@mht5875]

The attraction is the challenge, that is why so many married men in the workplace deliberately lose their big, heavy gold wedding ring on day one then feign being divorced or single and try to pick up every female in the workplace - including married women with children. Me, I just send them home to their wives and kids, where they belong.

[@romanticandperky]

@@Yj-Fj It wasn't. It was never really attractive. We are all born wrong (subject to original sin) into a world run by lies. Satan is often known as 'the prince of this world'; aka 'the father of lies', he has his hand in everything of the unsaved, including sex and sexuality.

[@danielhammond3218]

My experience in my 20s was exactly opposite as a man. I would meet women for dates who just wanted sex and I was looking for a relationship.

[@almiaquinn225]

My fave movie when a teen was "Dirty Dancing", it made abortions look okay, what a lie but God is Mighty to save and extends mercy, grace, forgiveness and love, thank you Jesus, my Saviour, my God 💕

[@sharroon7574]

That is true, so many movies have agendas.

[@tashainjena]

I loved this movie, too. I had no idea what was going on until I was much, much older.

[@RCGWho]

​@sharroon7574 I've rewatched some movies as an adult that I watched as a teen, and it makes me sad how much I was compromising. I watched Saturday Night Fever and should have walked out. It was so much worse than I remembered.

[@sharroon7574]

@RCGWho I left a birthday party when I was 13 because they were watching Freddy Krueger. Another birthday party that year featured Monty Python, which was awful.

[@heatherwoods5703]

I used to love "Dirty Dancing" when I was in high school, too. But, as an adult, I'm pretty horrified by the thought of an experienced adult (Patrick Swayze) "falling in love" and preying on a high school girl! Terrible how they try to make wickedness palatable and even attractive!

[@rubie5501]

I know too many 'Christians' who are having sex and or living together and really think its alright.🙄

[@TCAPRecipes]

I needed to hear this today.

[@esthermeda1195]

Love your show Beckett ❤ God continue to bless 🙏🏼 🙏🏼

[@sharonyongue1398]

Thank you for this. My daughter so needs to hear this. I think I will buy her the book. She goes from one man to another. Please pray for her to get the understanding of the issue.❤

[@lloyannehurd]

One thing I have noticed over my long life, is that there is no forgiveness for women committing perceived sexual sins. God and Jesus forgive of course but not everyone agrees. Women can be severely injured and even killed and destroyed emotionally, physically, and spiritually by any accusation, true or untrue. Sex is not safe for women and can be used as a weapon. p.s. Please don’t say “well you have to be careful who you choose!” That’s putting the blame back on the victim.

[@Tawadeb]

There is truly forgiveness for everyone. Jesus is for all. I understand what you're saying.

[@SachelleCambria]

God forgive everyone who repent.

[@tashainjena]

And women have a hard time forgiving themselves after being in a sinful relationship.

[@lloyannehurd]

@@tashainjena They do have a battle with their own forgiveness.

[@lloyannehurd]

@@Tawadeb Yes, everyone can be forgiven but that doesn’t suit the nasty purposes of some people who themselves need to confess their own sins.

[@ItIsYourMom]

Wow, Cynthia is so on target about the whole rotten bill of goods women have been sold. As a teen in the 70s, I was basically told everything was permitted, yet as I became an adult I couldn’t believe that feminists were okay with , and still are okay with women debasing themselves in appearance and behavior under the guise of freedom. I honestly cannot believe Western society is at this place, it’s truly heartbreaking. The lies of secularism have destroyed multiple generations, while popular culture continues to ply their evil wares rather than share the message of salvation through Christ.

[@jamesg3808]

Feminism is about women having control over men. The reason that many feminists promote the sexual objectification of women is because one of the most popular ways for a woman to control men is through sex appeal. That's why feminists love it.

[@noziphoseema2420]

Thanks, BK and your guest. I needed this assurance that Im on the right track by choosing to be celibate. I grew up in a Christian home, and I knew that sex before marriage is against Gods laws. But when I was in my 20s, I thought it was an in thing to have a boyfriend and have sex so that I could fit in. I ended up with 2 children out of wedlock. Im a divorcee now, and I've decided to stay single and celibate until God decides otherwise, cos I love to love and beloved.🤭

[@lbircher1]

Great show!! She is a sweetheart, and G-d Bless her and her family!!

[@nancyfries7373]

I liked the part in your conversation where Becket said something to the effect of If we followed God's plan one man and one woman for life in marriage there wouldn't be STDs very little abortion and so much less sorrow in this world. God really does give boundaries in the context of mercy and love .

[@sharondunn6513]

great show. love the honesty about the struggle to stay pure. And what Cynthia said about the church not talking about all the distortion going on with sexuality. That if we don't talk about it, it doesn't exist mentality is such a killer. Love your show Becket. You have a great interview style and such interesting guests.

[@TexasLyoness]

Cynthia is such a real and likable person. I want to hang out with her. I never heard of her before you had her on the first time. This video must’ve been filmed some time back since she’s speaking of June 18th being in the future. I will continue to pray for your journey Becket. I look forward to your attraction to men being a thing of the past. Keep your subscribers posted on any specific prayer requests you have. My power has been restored after Hurricane Beryl. Praise God for that. This was a category 1 hurricane and it’s criminal how much the infrastructure is no longer set up to handle all that comes with it on so many levels.

[@BecketCook]

God Bless

[@alimac1707]

I believe we should ask the Holy Spirit to help us to go against the current and NOT say 'Oh my G-d'. I believe we are taking the Lord's name in vain. I see a lot of Christians even writing the initials (acronym) standing for that phrase, also, which is used a lot , and I find it very uncomfortable. My mother told us we shouldn't say anything even similar like 'Gosh' because we were basically saying the same thing but just covering it up...

[@heatherwoods5703]

You're not won't, but taking the Lord' name in vain is so much more than this. Wearing His name and living a life inconsistent with Scripture, is beating His name in vain. A marvelous book is, "Bearing God's Name" by Carmen Imes. 🙂💗🙏📖

[@rebekahtemple250]

20:30. Wonderful! I have been saying this for years!!! Wonderful conversation and very timely. I’m going to buy this book!

[@missthunderstormable]

I was in a similar situation with desire and a preacher prayed for me and walking home I felt God liberated me amd desire was just gone, it was like eyescales fell off and i was puzzled how come i ever felt such desire for that person. Jesus is powerful! It s spiritual, demons and stuff

[@BecketCook]

Amen! God Bless

[@nikkilengyel]

Adults really need to mentor their young about sex and marriage. Parents not talking to their children about it because it's weird and uncomfortable leads to their children finding out about it from media and peers, and they'll get their ideas from there and think it's normal. And by media, I mean not just movies and TV shows, video games, but also explicit adult content.

[@RCGWho]

Music is huge, too.

[@nikkilengyel]

@@RCGWho Absolutely!! In the 90s, there was a Eurodance group named E-rotic, and their songs were literally singing about fornication, complete with moaning and everything. Their songs were played at discos, and my dad had some of their songs on mix CDs. It was explicit, sure, but their songs were often on various mix CDs like "Hits of 95", "Best of Dance" etc. Today, all popular "music" is glorifying fornication.

[@RCGWho]

@@nikkilengyel A lot of parents either listen to the same garbage or unaware of what their chikdren are listening to. In the era of ipods, I use to educate moms about songs like Crazy B* and Get Low. Now moms take their daughters to Taylor Swift because all her music is " just a metaphor" which apparently makes it G Rated.

[@jamesg3808]

Why bother teaching your kids about sexuality when they can just learn about it through Internet porn? (That is a joke, of course). I hate to say it, but so many parents are idiots.

[@Ladylovesjesus2121]

Thank you both for this 🩷

[@suzannaturner299]

Thank you so much for this honest discussions.

[@paulajames6149]

We had a private small group of women that were working on our marriages. We were going to do a book together about sexuality but the leader shot it down. I argued for it, stating that it did not have to be graphic or a counseling session. But simply a biblical perspective on sexuality. I also said if we can’t talk about sex at church where should we go?

[@SilverSurfer5150]

Amen! This is what I needed to hear!

[@kathyarmstrong8644]

Excellent post dear ones!! Thank u

[@annagokieli1497]

Brilliant discussion!!!! I pray this goes viral ❤

[@AngieEckmanADWORX]

What a great show Becket! ❤

[@stephenflores6389]

I am so looking forward to reading your book! I’ve been asking the same questions as of late. Great chat!

[@BecketCook]

Thank you! God Bless

[@dougmilesmedia]

Good interview!

[@mississippiapple1078]

Wonderful talk

[@kathyarmstrong8644]

Listening now. Thx. Beckett

[@carolhoward6257]

Amazing again Becket, thank you.

[@TheRhonada]

Thank you!

[@vikawinters]

The amount of people who say they were sexually abused as children. If parents don’t teach their little ones about sex and about protecting themselves from predators - they really are playing with luck. They need to know this could be ANYONE. If they believe it was inappropriate, they need to run to you or tell you. Also, please don’t send your littles to sleepovers.

[@mrssadie777]

I’m so sorry you had to experience that ..

[@bjteacher3721]

Such an important conversation.

[@maxwellman8233]

SO.VERY.GOOD.❤

[@jenniferwalsh1731]

Praise the Lord, this is great! Thank you guys!

[@nancyfries7373]

Excellent interview i plan to order her book. So much truth! Last night my husband and I heard you(Becket) speak at Church of the Apostles in Atlanta. You did a great job and we( the audience) were so encouraged at God's mercy towards you and your devotion to Jesus. We can feel discouraged by the work of the evil one but Christ's redempive work cannot be thwarted. I also noticed last night that you are very intelligent based on your vocabulary and literary references etc.Keep up the work of the Kingdom!

[@bensmit6441]

Hey Becket! Really appreciate what you are doing! And Cynthia! As a father of 2 teenage boys and 2 girls i really know the world needs this. Trying to be pure,is not the beginning. Seeking Jesus and his purity, and relationship with him will renew us unto purity! Lots of love to you both!

[@wasblindbutnowsee]

About 40 years ago, I decided I would set a pen and notebook next to my television and take notes on everything learned watching it. One year later I had recorded only one comment and I wasn't sure what I meant when I made it. In the 50s the TV was " an idiot box " and in the 70s it was "the boob tube." Who doesn't know that TV has gotten more worthless everyday since the first time someone turned one on. I miss out on parts of this discussion because I missed out on some of the TV shows they're talking about , but really have I missed very much ?

[@SachelleCambria]

I didn’t think there was anything wrong with watching sex and the city and the Kardashians, after being disciplined by the Holy Spirit, I see them for what they are. You couldn’t pay me to watch these shows.

[@Meadow-qe9xd]

Same here

[@plaidpaisley5918]

Hi Becket!

[@Fern_Thaddeus]

Hello ❤ family in Jesus Christ !

[@buelahland]

Intimacy is every aspect of being. Sharing ur being with Christ as with ur mate. Never less than that. 🎉

[@alimac1707]

Another terrible series that so many people don't seem to see anything wrong with is ... Friends. Not glorifying to God at all. Sex all the time and taking the Lord's name in vain by saying 'Oh my G' all the time which so many Christians do and I believe is wrong.

[@SachelleCambria]

I agree. Most of these shows seem harmless but they all go against the Word of God.

[@MariaGarcia-n7j1i]

Great show yes

[@Anonymous-cm9md]

Hi Beckett, Have you considered having Peter M. Burfeind on your show? He wrote Gnostic America. So much of this is rooted in Gnosticism.

[@user-mv2tg8hc8c]

Another great topic! So relevant!!

[@BeeBlot]

This is so good. Im an ex-lesbian diminatrix, burkesque, drag perfomer and sex educator. Im feeling called to transfer my skills to coaching, with a focus on trauma & sexuality which is biblically grounded. I have been at a loss bc I've changed souch, but this is very encouraging. Im also a survivor. Trafficking is an issue close to my heart. I just got that book on the Take Down today! Thanks to you both for discussing this.

[@alauriebees]

Your comment touched me, thank you. ❤️🙏

[@BecketCook]

God Bless

[@HelovesU-we4qh]

Her smile is as big as her face, it is truly fabulous! I love her definition of purity, because if CHRIST does not help you in this journey in a society that is saturated with sex, you will never make it! Technically you can White Knuckle to death, but you will be a miserable mean person!

[@tamb7587]

I think the purity movement made people think that if they lived a chaste life they were promised a great sex /love life . That’s just not the case , that’s not “ the promise”, so many people were very disappointed…

[@RCGWho]

I don't get bashing the "purity culture/,movement". We're people really promising perfect sex lives? There are no guarantees in life. You've got 3 human beings coming together with baggage. Not sleeping around or together simply means less baggage, not no baggage and a worry free, perfect life.

[@tamb7587]

@@RCGWho I’m not bashing BUT I was a part of that movement and at the programs I was a part of they did indeed say and promote that waiting would bring about this wonderful and successful sex life and marriage because it would be blessed by God. Purity is obedience to God , you’re right it does not guarantee anything other than the blessings that obedience brings, but not necessarily some GREAT sex life and great mate. It should have been presented as such and NOT in the way it was..

[@RCGWho]

@@tamb7587 I guess it became a sales pitch. Instead of encouraging obedience to God for God's pleasure, they made it obey God for personal gain.

[@NFTeve]

Yeah. I was a celibate Christian praying for a husband and kids. It never happened. I left church angry at God. Fast forward 15 years later, im just so happy i made it back and to go to Heaven. We get sold a-lot of things subliminally in christian culture.

[@NFTeve]

@@RCGWhothats not bashing, its making a valud point and starting a conversation.

[@stephenpak2866]

What an amazing testimony

[@amck4648]

Agreed that the "purity doctrine" came from puritanical rules from "men" as in "manmade", not necessarily males.

[@jamesg3808]

I agree. It's certainly not just men that promoted so-called "purity culture."

[@Elijah24553]

I was going to say I was first, but someone beat me. ☹️ lol

[@ezyezy7028]

Wonderful show, I wish I had money,i could have bought the book, but not minding May our glorious God bless you 2.

[@julielevine2812]

I was not a big fan of Sex in the City, nor did I read the book or see any of the movies. I was assaulted when I was 24 years old, living in the “Dorms” at Sonoma State University. About 5 years later I was at a job where I had to report incidents of inappropriate touching. I was doing the paper work for a restaurant service company and the only one working in the building, most of the time.

[@julielevine2812]

I did have had counseling. I made a choice to look at situations for what they are as opposed to what I fear or feared they would be or were.

[@tillo1981]

Good show! You should get Christopher West on your show!!! He is an amazing guy to speak with about this. His work on St. John Paul II's Theology of the Body is phenomenal!!!!!

[@esskeller9676]

Great conversation. It seems like the cool kids who've recovered from their falls through the grace of God, Beckett and Cynthia, have more influence than generational Christians in our culture. How do we make the kids who grew up Christian and always followed Christ the "cool kids"? Right now, it seems like they're just place holders, keeping the faith alive, waiting on the prodigal sons and daughters to get saved and come home. If the Christian kids were the cool ones, we could save a lot of other kids at younger ages and save them from so much harm and heartache.

[@DavidMullis-io2bq]

How can I get The book The Naked True?

[@kbddv6181]

What a great episode! Story of my and so many lives!! Sexual sin is brutally destructive to both men and women and even when we may not yet fully know how it is destructive, we must trust God and pray for greater understanding. Both men and women live in a culture of lies that we must not believe. In all areas of culture, the lies I have been told and I believed harmed me terribly. Just like God’s word, my union with Christ Jesus and the power of the Holy Spirit have helped me to understand this. Thank God for new life in Christ!

[@genx316]

This ties in with Seth Gruber interview with Claire Chambers and Audrey Werner authors of The SEICUS Circle, understanding the sexual revolution. It's a 5 part series but we'll worth the time if you want to understand what's going on today.

[@Isusasaves]

I'm curious if Cynthia would exhort women to follow the Bible, by seeking marriage and motherhood rather than college and professions. Children are growing up without psrents.

[@imago9059]

Do you think that if the father is consistently absent in the home that's a good thing? Nowadays it is hard to have one salary in the home. Also, the head is the man and if he truly is a servant of Jesus all falls into place.

[@bri-annaedwardine1697]

The Bible does not say that. It was written in a time when most women were not even taught to read, so really it wasn't even an issue then. I think you are conflating two arguments.

[@Isusasaves]

@@bri-annaedwardine1697 and your biblical suggestion is? It's already the majority of children turning against their faith when they go to college, for 12 years of indoctrination in public schools, your 1 hour a week and Sunday School is no match.

[@Isusasaves]

@@imago9059 I have known people whose wives have homeschool their children from all over the world to include missionaries, and their children are very intelligent and have a strong faith in Jesus. I would love to hear a better way to achieve this outcome.

[@tersiavandermerwe22]

wow did not know that!

[@kellyschroeder7437]

Amen. Wish someone would have said ……

[@tambriar2573]

SO GREAT!

[@yulinng]

I wouldn’t have gone back to watching that show with the nieces. I mean we may “know” consciously, but that’s how culture works - we get used to “not okay”. It works on a subconscious level, and especially young people are impressionable. I would have just turned to the hallmark channel ahaha.

[@judymartuscello114]

I could write my own book on this topic.

[@ociana]

I blame that show for influencing my daughter to smoke.

[@robincarlysle-vo7pi]

get Christy Love my. God I haven't thought about that show in years When Christy arrested somebody she always said. You're under arrest Sugar. hilarious

[@RobRobertson1000]

Wow Becket, thank you for this interview. Thank you Cynthia for so boldly declaring that truth that the war is not between illicit sexual behaviour and godly sexual behaviour. No, Jesus and his perfect love - AMEN! That was a journey that we had to make in our own counselling ministry at Setting Captives Free. How I thank Jesus for breaking the old false methods and then rebuilding a ministry that he wanted, where he was central and lifted up.

[@laurairlbeck916]

About making her son fear sex: made me think we should teach our kids not to fear it but to REVERE it.

[@amalmina6596]

Good morning. I live in Europe and I have a man I know through work. He is gay and is going through a psychological situation right now due to a breakup. I pray that the Lord will be glorified more. What can I do for him to recover from this matter?

[@southbug27]

12:33 Cynthia made an excellent point here. Even the episode where Miranda’s mother died was made to be all about Samantha losing her orgasm, & it wasn’t until she cried at Miranda’s Mom’s funeral that she got her orgasm back. I’m enraged think I’m about that right now. I can’t believe that we all just sat there & consumed such vapid ideas.

[@sseltrek1a2b]

one of the truest things i've ever heard: "women use sex for love, and men use love for sex..."...this is how twisted this issue is in our culture...

[@markbarry8351]

I think Beckett is a cool interviewer he has some verve and a good sense of humour as opposed to some of the others who are really bland, not any turkey can have a show, although they seem to😅❤

[@iindahammermueller9865]

Amen Becket! Great powerful question we as born again Christians should be adking..."is this show glorifying God,"? Exactly.. when we watch these shows that idolize sexual sin especially...we are in agreement with the sin we are watching....why not be like Joseph in the bible and drop your cloak and run from sin....run.. . I believe watching is cheating on Jesus

[@RCGWho]

Even Downton Abbey was a soap opera with cooler costumes.

[@ryanehlis426]

THANK YOU FOR SAYING “PURITY CULTURE” WAS A WEIRD RELIGIOUS CULT THING!

[@meagandekkar6377]

The wages of sin is death! We fool ourselves that we can only find intimacy through sex.

[@DavidMullis-io2bq]

That's so I can get the book The Naked Truth.How much is it!

[@juhanipitkakari5999]

More or less, we all have the same story of struggling daily withour flesh.

[@friend2866]

I was taught that if you can’t take Christ with you then you don’t go there. That includes what shows you watch. My dad says that when he looks at my mom he pictures Jesus. He tries to treat her how he would treat Jesus. If all married couples would try and do the same there would be a lot less arguing with each other and a lot less divorces happening. Our children would see this and hopefully have the same attitude towards their parents and other people. Imagine that?

[@laurab.1305]

🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻