The ’me me me’ mentality

[@MMHealth64]

If we expect, for whatever reason, that someone "owes" us something, (i.e. love, attention, friendship, favors, gifts), we are misunderstanding gratitude. Gratitude is a momentary, short lived emotion.

[@2shynee85]

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[@minkanjin]

I'm glad you are making your boundaries clear. I wish more people could be honest about their boundaries. I've had a lot of painful experiences because people didn't respect me enough to tell me to f*ck off

[@space2703]

Regarding LOVE…. Love is a battlefield !!! Chose your enemy SMARTLY 😊

[@space2703]

Emma, reading the comments here …. So many nice people here on your channel…. Hello to all awesome people here … greetings from the great southern land

[@Ando_Figueroa]

Oi mate, I just stumbled on your channel yesterday, watched a few videos, and now I’m hooked haha. Emma, you’re out here calling out the ‘me me me’ mentality like it’s a Netflix series we all need to binge. Your honesty about parasocial relationships is a refreshing take,like, yes, let’s normalize not expecting creators to be our best friends just because we watch their videos. And that Snapchat girl story? Mate, it’s crazy how some people want attention but only on their terms. Your take on this was so balanced and thoughtful, and it’s clear you’re not afraid to tackle tough topics with grace. I also like how you've recently started to mix personal stories with these bigger life lessons, it's such a vibe. 👽✌

[@RJSandefur]

I'm a new subscriber to your channel. I'm 45 years old, and I have to say, you are a wise 25 year old! I agree with you 100 percent!

[@godadsforever]

now i do agree with you .... as far as expectation for engaging with the demands of others .. if you not comfortable with it . I agree with you on that . i feel everybody have RIGHTS .. and i feel you have the right , not to engaging with the demands of others .. and also to do what is best for you .

[@EditioCastigata]

Narcissism is when someone doesn’t have enough in themselves, cannot generate enough to erect his own character, and needs to fill it by input solicited - expected even - from others. And there’s also a stunted “ego development” that won’t admit a wider perspective and considerations, hence the inability to close the feedback loop earnestly, with the inability to act on it to develop further.

[@NeoNine10]

Yes. Most people are not actually hurt by the world. They are hurt by their own expectations of it. Things not turning out the way they want or other people not reciprocating. But people are not always the best.

[@captzilla7673]

Interesting vid, Reminds Me of when I was 14ish, friend came over, I saw cuts on his arms. I looked @him and said don't do that to yourself bro. Made sure he saw the tears swelling up in my eyes. That was it, that was my reaction. Think it was my way of saying You Matter. Anyways, we were silent for a lil while, then met up with our skateboarding people shortly after like usual. He was always the outgoing one so seeing him like that threw me off. It ingrained in Me how a deep inner turmoil can shape a person without anyone knowing. That deep inner struggle can unfortunately lead to the "me me me" mentality, which I find better referred to for me as the "I'm not enough" mentality. It's where deception starts. It drives people to seek validation and attention in certain ways, like the burnt dude or the Snapchat chick. Those things can make one feel entitled even and while on the surface it seems manipulative(which it is), it's deeper than the surface as well. Had to look up incel and parasocial - interesting terms. I don't know if this is a parasocial comment but if it is feel free to call me out on it. I'm glad your asserting clarity thru ur boundaries, that's clutch for healthy interactions. Keep at it. Namaste Emma

[@Tonedriver]

18:59 The reality is, if you can’t burn your face to a state of ugliness for the rest of your life, you will never deserve to judge. Helping others, starts with helping yourself, including distancing yourself repeatedly from other people, who are neither willing to value your burdens, nor suffer their same shouldering of it.

[@TheTarutau]

You did the right thing been there done that. Life is wierd due to the trauma that accumulates and since there is so much confusion it's hard for people to find their way. Sometimes it's not even a burning building it could be a failed relationship or many causes that accumulated over time. And it is unfair. Speak your truth as you travel it. And some won't care but I do. And lots of others do. But expecting a reward takes away from the act. Like you said it was a choice. It is its own reward. I think more people need love in this world. So to deal with the obstacles of so many finding love we learn of the world and find how to show others the trauma that exists. Loving the channel think your going in an awesome direction. Cya around and I hope your adventure inspires you. And thank you for being you. And never doubt that small random acts of kindness mean nothing. Sure the guy didn't get anything but for the person he saved it meant their world.

[@TheTarutau]

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[@godadsforever]

I HOPE I i am a lovely person.. and just a nobody to you...listen i try not to get personal with you... because i am about learning about my self...sorry but your channel , to me is ABOUT me and my self reflection... thats why i like coming back here ... i LEARN about myself .. you make me think.. good job emmma ...

[@Retr0_ofwgkta]

0:50 narcissism, mate.

[@TheRealProudNoob]

0:59 my cat the nanosecond I start working

[@AlexanderRavenheart]

Using controversy, drama and sexuality to attract attention has always been effective. However, due to overuse of those, many are becoming increasingly desensitized to them and thus society as a whole is becoming colder to the needs and desires of each other.

[@eugenehumphrey]

If someone calls you out for something, make sure they give you context why they say what they. Otherwise its probably talking about their own problems and reflection on to you

[@godadsforever]

yes.. thank you for the youtube upload... i will comment after i watch ok ..

[@jeffxpmdisc]

"Limelight" by RUSH (1980)

[@AlexanderRavenheart]

Every human being desires to be wanted, needed and loved. That is a natural desire and it is a significant contributor to the formation of friendly and romantic relationships. A part of you, however small, is seeking attention and validation from others, otherwise you would not have created the type of content you posted on TikTok and Instagram.

[@2shynee85]

I Respect Your Mind

[@pace1195]

Your me, me, me attitude (depending on severity) is either selfish, egotistical, or narcissistic. As for the hero with scars. He doesn't have that selfish attitude per se. He is just extremely frustrated that he served another person heroically. That is *not* a narcissistic or egotistical act. That is service to another without compensation. Not only that, but he was severely injured in the act of heroism. Unfortunately, he doesn't yet realize the difference between respect and attraction. While people (women in this case) may respect him to some level, the scars make him unattractive as are 80%+ of men in society. He has been told his whole life to selflessly help others and women will respect and love him. He fulfilled his end of the social contract, yet he still gets little respect and no love. All the while, I'm sure he sees real egotistical and maybe narcissistic men be selfish and toxic and abusive (in some cases) who DO get the respect and love of many women. His choice ended his ability to get a long-term relationship, and your half-hearted affirmation won't change that! Statistically, he will never find a long-term girl friend because most of the women are much more selfish, egotistical, and narcissistic these days than the vast majority of men.

[@ajanadams2751]

People may blame you for your mistakes no matter whatever you do.. but if you can change yourself instead of changing others...we can live better lives I guess.

[@Krisz-6wr]

Dear Emma, In the situation involving the injured girl, you said you did you thought what was correct. People don't see facts the same way. Therefore, people have different opinions and view about the same thing. Good rule of thumb in such circumstances is to act on the basis of interpreting the situation by involving the most participants one can, namely, the girl herself, classmates, parents. You are not less of a good person because of your good intentions, and of course having experience in handling past situations like that one has its own importance.

[@Tonedriver]

19:59 Yeah, but by that point, it’ll be too late.

[@VoidHarmony]

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[@eugenehumphrey]

Haha. Im a INFJ so we don't want people to get to close either. 😅

[@eugenehumphrey]

The 2025 Emma is on fire! Standing up for whatever I feel and if they have a problem its their problems. Not yours. I need some magic for me so I can changes I need myself so quickly. Im not joking lol..

[@eugenehumphrey]

I think you stole my style haha. I love my flannel shirts 😀

[@godadsforever]

hum... i am confused .. because .. the me me me people , to me myself means . People that are self absorbed .. self centered .. or too " cuaght up " with their self ... or everything is about them ... Example: you are having a conversation with someone ...and the conversation turns into talking only about them... and they are not willing to hear any thing about you ... is this what you mean ??

[@justin_time]

"me me me" = ~ narcissism, attention seeking, greed/profit seeking, main character syndrome. It seems like a good idea to address parasocial relationships early on, imo. 👍The KZbin algorithm tends to reward channels that post regularly, and even though the main goal of this channel doesn't seem to be growth as you outlined in earlier videos, it might happen just because of the nature of how KZbin works so it's probably a good idea to lay down some ground rules and set expectations early and clearly as well as to probably reiterate those as more people find the videos. I personally like niche channels with small audiences like this one and I hope it stays small enough to stay healthy and cozy. The comment section is already quite brutal enough as it is imo. There's no need for so much hatred - there is already enough in the world as it is.

[@emaayan]

"please don't flirt with me..." says a girl on the internet to anonymous guys, expecting that to actually work..i don't think it's a 3xME , i think it's basically guys trying to hit on everything..

[@bruce6871]

Do you find this mentality to be prevalent in the modeling industry, or is that just a cliche’ assumption?

[@eugenehumphrey]

Have a nice evening 🙂

[@godadsforever]

to me this "LIFE IS NOT FAIR " program ..or cognitive program...is just that a program or cognitive program...like a belief... EXAMPLE : my sister and me was raised with cognitive programs ..now that we are both older.. adults... she gets embarrassed when this "LIFE IS NOT FAIR " ...program happens or comes out of my cognitive consciousness ... and affects her reality ... she has not disinfected her cognitive program ...and because of that she has to pay the price of embarrassment when this cognitive program is working in her life .

[@matttorrence2900]

Would that be called narcissism?

[@andrewandrews7427]

U could probably make it rain in Manchester

[@HowToWithCraig]

Me, me, me is Narcissistic

[@elasticharmony]

Up about 200 subs in less than a week!

[@AlexanderRavenheart]

Regarding this channel, it is a lie to say it is only for yourself and that you’re not seeking attention and validation since if that were the case you would have simply stored the videos on your private storage (like you would with a personal journal) and not shared them with the world. And finally, you are also part of the “me me me” group by simply posting only about yourself on all your social media accounts, 🎣 passively or actively for attention and compliments from your audience.

[@dcktater7847]

The poet summed it up well kzbin.info/www/bejne/noXRf6Z_nLZ0qK8si=GejDPbe1bkG8KSQp

[@pancakerepairman]

you hear that fellas? "if you're not chad stay out of my dms". if you're trying to slide in at least use a fake profile pic. maybe she'll get so used to ignoring chads she'll ignore the real one when he finally shows up.

[@pancakerepairman]

you assumed a cutter had a good relationship with her parents? lol. i think it's pretty safe to assume the opposite. did you have a good relationship with your parents when you were cutting? i find that so hard to imagine. i think the only reason you told her mom about what she was doing is to protect yourself from potentially being shamed by someone later for seeing it and not doing anything. which is a perfectly valid reason for what you did. if she wanted an audience for her pain that badly that's what a therapist is for. demanding random people play therapist to her is obviously the last thing that will make anyone want to do that. it would have been a better idea to tell a school counsellor or a social worker than her parents. your assumption that parents are always good people is incredibly naive. i would always assume the parents are the biggest part of the problem with any kid who is self-harming because parents are always the biggest influence on any kid's life.

[@SheySimmons-g7o]

LET ME REFRASE YOUR TITLE......THE poor little me mentality........AND YES YOU HAVE IT...AND NO YOU CANT TEACH IT WORTH A CRAP.....LEAST YOU DRESSED LIKE A PERSON TODAY...

[@zinckranize]

I don't mean to be mean when I say this, but everyone is selfish, no one is pure. That includes yourself. If you're going to use that as a reason not to engage with people, then there would be no reason to interact with anyone at all.

[@godadsforever]

i am still trying to understand the INCEL story you are talking because , life is not fair , BUT their is something greater INTELEGENCE than us in the universe that is FAIR this place Earth..is not fair . ..or the place we call Earth , but life is not all about us here on earth ether . .

[@pancakerepairman]

"if you haven't already found love it's just a matter of time"? that's a surprisingly vapid affirmation from someone who generally looks at life so analytically. as a man i don't think being loved back is something we even expect out of a relationship. we just hope to be settled for.

[@eugenehumphrey]

And you have no replies needed. AT ALL!

[@superman9772]

self harm is in many instances is rooted in what is called "saintliness of suffering" ... a person may act out with self harm because in their deep cultural background there exists a belief that one must sacrifice in order to "make amends" or "for god to listen to prayers"... thus the person/victim believes that self harm is a positive act...

[@pace1195]

Or... there is a severe case of victim mentality in the world today. Someone doing self harm is not looking for indulgences, they are looking for attention and validation. Being the victim of an injury (even if self inflicted) is sometimes a great way to get validation points. The burned man has the same thought, but no one cares about men's struggles these days nearly as much as women's struggles. Unfortunately, it looks like the teen girl's amateurish attempt at attention and validation didn't go as well as she hoped it would. I'm sure she turned to another tactic to get the eyeballs and victim points she desires.

[@dcktater7847]

I dont buy the burnin building story for a sec. Someone doing that would never be a h8ful incel. Infact someone doin that would never tell. He'd have just said "because i'm burnt" full stop. It's all made up.

[@paulgibbons2320]

Don't identify.

[@JackWaismann]

I don't think showing others self harm is beneficial for the person doing it, nor the people that see it. It is not good for the person doing it because it brings negative attention their way. It is not good for the people who see it because it can pull them into someone else's dramas that will always keep coming up. In terms of the incel reditor, that always goes back to other things. Women have the pick me's, guys have the nice guys (guys who only go after uninterested or unavailable women). May not be this particular incels case, but it does sound like he was insecure about his looks. A guy being insecure is very unattractive to a woman because it will only amplify her insecurities. Then incels typically have other problems that make them unattractive, and when they use emotional arguments to complain about their situation, they conveniently do not bring up those factors.

[@zetzeu]

You have a small community and reply to none...And why wearing earbuds always?

[@dimguy_yaslushayu]

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