The Most Important Word in Marriage - What I've learned over 49 years

Bible teacher and author Michael Pearl shares some of what he's learned over nearly 50 years of marriage. He and his wife Debi have written multiple books that have helped many thousands of couples not just save their marriages, but make them glorious.
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[@dianetayman366]

We are 52 years married and he loved The Lord the last 7 years and it was such a honeymoon...then he passed away and the grief I carry is deep but I am so joyful for him... He is in Paradise.

[@kevinrosbrook1742]

Lost my wife to cancer after 35 years of marriage just last December , before she passed I told her that I wished I never raised my voice to her as it was rarely ever needed. I've also come to realize that not everyone has what we had and for that I am greatful to the Lord - my other advice is to always make big decisions together to avoid resentment , Men will take or make excuses when they do wrong to justify their actions ( I did ) If you still have that loved one hug them everyday and tell them how much you love them always ❤

[@freebirdmissouri8727]

So sorry for your loss 💙

[@krystalgoin]

I'm sorry for the loss of your wife. Your advice is good and I hope everyone who reads it learns from it or thinks about it when they are mad at their spouse, both the men and women.

[@charliewebb4330]

Amen Kevin

[@jessewestbrook9816]

I'm so sorry for you loss man. Thank you for your words of advice

[@watchmanman7268]

I will do that as soon as she walks into the coffee shop

[@geckoscout8524]

I love this man he is one of the only preachers that I've seen that are genuine

[@vickylanding2830]

Amen🙏🙏

[@rickmanley767]

As somebody that has been married for 34+ years myself, I agree. I’ve always loved my wife, but she has become more precious to me as the years have gone by.

[@JasonSchoeman]

I find you fascinating. Here you are, old enough to have the wisdom to teach others, smart enough to use technology to spread the Gospel. The gospel is preached to thousands, more than would have been possible before. You are one of those who know the love of God.

[@Jonny0926]

My mother used to say, "know someone through four seasons before you even think about getting engaged. I wish I'd listened to her AND my Dad.

[@divittoriofamily7353]

Met my husband at 16 back in 82 still together loving him more today then yesterday and we are 53

[@sherrilbjalexander2856]

Good message. It's been 47 years for us and without the Lord we could do nothing. Blessings to you and yours. 8-)

[@christdayisnow7146]

Please ever one who reads this pray cry out to God ,A humble mighty man of God ,Pastor Steve Michael, Fellowship Bible Chapel ,was just called home ,he had this testimony that he please God so God took him ,but He was married, and has a lovley little daughter age 12 ,they need pray and grace ,I only knew this brother from KZbin, as I live alone ,and most of my fellowship is online cause where I live there dead ,so please pray for them ,mourn with those who mourn ,thankyou Blessing Shalom Maranatha from N.Ireland

[@antcricket]

My parents will be fifty years together this year. They finally get along

[@cindybydesign]

sometimes it takes a while

[@BobHarvey.]

After 44 years I love her more than words can describe. Thank you, my Lord Jesus.

[@user-qo1wq7vt7t]

Pray for my future wife to come In God's will and time💗💗

[@yahisenough2137]

I truly enjoy his teaching. I've given my life to God almost 2years ago after years of not knowing , not wanting to know and thinking I knew it all. All praises to THE MOST HIGH. PRAY FOR ME Y'ALL...THANK YOU SIR........

[@timkirkpatrick1749]

Yes, the longer I am with my wife the easier things get. July 30 my wife and I will be married 45 years. I’m surprised with all the things that I’ve done that she’s kept me around, lol. But the truth be told I’m the one that runs everything around the house. I run the dishwasher I run the vacuum I run the microwave. I run all the important things around the house because she lets me, OK tells me too. If she hast to leave town for any reason and I can’t go with her, I feel the sorrow in my heart and I have a deep desire to be with her. And with her it’s the same God has blessed me with a wonderful life and a wonderful wife he’s taking care of us and guide us. I couldn’t ask for more. Awesome video, thank you very much.

[@georgejaquith4732]

I HAVEN'T HEARD PASTOR Pearl for awhile. It was comforting and challenging to get back to this inspired word. He is a true servant of the Lord.

[@joek511]

God created Eve. Adam took one look and said,,,, Woe,,, man! After 32 years with my wife, I am a widower. I understand what God meant when He said , it is not good that man should be alone. Not sure what the future holds for me in that area, but I am thankful to know my wife is no longer suffering

[@jenniferjones8384]

"Goodwill." Thanks for this. I will be finding myself a placard or a picture with this word and putting it somewhere in my house where we can all see it.

[@ogbranbran8062]

Amen

[@edwardcoyle7944]

I agree 100% with you, and I would add one important ingredient needed to have a long fulfilled marriage that seems to be missing today is COMMITMENT. Sometimes that's all you can hang on to when the times get tough and they always do at some point in any marriage. When I get discouraged I remember the amazing Grace that the Lord has always shown me even when I don't deserve it. Thank GOD he doesn't cast us aside when we mess up.

[@Grace4_All]

Bro.. Somehow i came across your channel.. and what a blessing already the past hour I've gotten .. If possible could you and anyone in the comments pray for me that God provides a wife if it is His will for my Life .

[@Pedro-of4tn]

Brother,may God bless you with a wife in the Lord Jesus Christ.

[@wandasutton6060]

I Love listening to you mr pearl. You have been blessed with so many talents. I live in Tennessee and would love to just sit down and talk to you. Thank you and may God continue to bless and keep you and your family safe. Much Love♥️ In Jesus blood name! Amen

[@victoriouspauper8495]

I AM JUST OVER 50 (NEVER MARRIED, BUT CLOSE TWICE) .... AND YOUR VIDEOS HAVE A LOT OF WISDOM. YOU ARE LIKE A GRAND PA (THAT I DON'T HAVE) .... JUST SITTING ON A PORCH IN A ROCKING CHAIR TEACHING. THANKS FOR YOUR VIDEOS !! KEEP 'EM COMIN' .... CAUSE I AM WATCHING AND LEARNING :) GO TRUMP !!!! COME LORD JESUS !!!!

[@commonman711]

Love this man!

[@margaretcollins8345]

I have done my best to teach them and their friends how important it is to place God above all and your spouse follows and you lead your children. And I love seeing my boys treat their wives so gentle and their wives work hard beside them. God has blessed us all with so much.

[@TyroniuzOz]

I hope you have a young men's group that you work with. There is no youth or young men's groups around our area that speak like you. I would have taken my son's to someone like yourself, it is so rare nowadays. God bless you and yours brother. ✝️👍

[@tammyross1486]

I've wanted to be a good christian wife all my life. Now I'm 62 and too old so I guess the Lord had other things in mind. Just me and God is fine.

[@kevintafur7111]

There can never be a perfect marriage relationship, but there can be a successful marriage relationship, and you brother Mike are showing the world that is posible by the grace of God. I have never been married, but if I get to enjoy that blessing in this life I pray I can follow your example to the glory of God the Father!

[@St.Raphael...]

Your wisdom is an answer to a prayer. Thank you

[@YLEOforHealth]

Happy anniversary. I am learning lots from your teaching. Thank you very much. God bless you and your family and your ministry. With love and gratitude.

[@mariascherbakov5731]

Love you Pearls!!!! Please please don't stop doing what you do each day. God bless you and your family

[@SheldonClayPage]

Thanks for this timeless wisdom, Minister Pearl!

[@homesteadparadise]

I am very blessed to have a wonderful marriage of 37 years.. Happy Anniversary to you and your wife..!!

[@benk5373]

You sir are wise & full of understanding! Im from Georgia. I have listened to many preachers & find that the way you speak & express your thoughts is very much unique. Im amazed every time I listen to you. God Bless!

[@donnakarenedwards2199]

Great teaching, I have been listening to you for about a month now. I wish that I had found this Chanel sooner. I have been a saved Christian for 51 years now. Your teaching has opened me eyes yo the the scriptures and understanding alot. I just wanted yo thank you. God bless you

[@williemcdowell6319]

I just discovered your Channel this week and it is very strange how the first couple of videos I have seen are some of the same subjects I have been asking God about thank you for helping me through my tough times and God bless you

[@thedoormichaelpearl]

Thank you for your comment! We enjoy hearing from our audience.

[@graniteguy8410]

my FAVORITE bible teacher on you utube search daily for his videos....great man of GOD!!!!!!

[@cynthiarogers3178]

Thanks for speaking on the molestation topic. I'm a survivor & do so apreaciate it kind Man.

[@marcelarispe]

Mike/Debi. Thank you so much for this video and leading the way.

[@mrs.cdavies4216]

Hello, I really like your preaching and how you break everything down so thank you and bless you and the ministry the Lord has given you.

[@CharmandersCrispyTators]

I needed this so badly. Thank you for the video. Regardless of any situation or confrontation, my response is on me. Seeing your own sin as this biggest problem in marriage is difficult.

[@jeffreyjohnston2445]

What a great and timely message Micheal. Today in Australia September 26 the morning of which I sat down to watch this soon as it come out. Is my twenty seventh wedding anniversary. God bless

[@johnshawngrubb4675]

Thank you for this raw, personal sharing of you and Debi’s marriage. ❤️ Hallelujah we celebrate 34 years+!❤️

[@annajorgensen1627]

HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!! The love you feel for your wife shows in your face. You even had a twinkle in your eyes. I'm so happy for you both. God bless you and your family. Big hugs to you all.🕊️♥️💞💘 BTW that fig was a very nice one and by both of your faces it was delicious.😃

[@cattleranch1430]

Thank you for dealing with the marriage issues. We love your ministry. Keep it going brother!

[@RebeccaRobertsSmith]

Y'all are so sweet!! That just makes my heart melt & I've only gotten a min in!

[@johnp8634]

Wise words, Brother Michael. A very much needed, advice-packed video. Thank you!

[@patzee61]

I loved your words in this episode because every word you expressed was a reflection of exactly what my husband would say. For this i am so deeply grateful. Yesterday we marked the 37 year we have been enjoying the blessing of a happy partnership. Marriage is a heavenly creation, and when we do it right, God’s way, we are truly blessed.

[@conniesadowinski6846]

Congratulations to you and your wife. Thanks for sharing this wisdom with us all. My husband and I have been married for 33 years.

[@rodfelps]

Best open discussion ever!!!!!!!

[@charlesterrizzi8311]

Excellent, your ministerial gifts have increased much over the years

[@BattleBredKoncepts]

It's crazy that today is your birthday and I happen to stumble across this video of yours. I needed this. Happy Birthday and God bless you brother.

[@WeldingForJesus]

I never married, but still very much enjoyed this video, it has alot of wisdom in it. The part about that elderly couple made me think of my grandparents on my mothers side, they too passed away with just a day in between. I loved them to bits and I am sad to say I may never see them again.

[@amyburrblotner]

Such a helpful talk, thank you and Happy Anniversary!

[@maggiestroud4558]

Could use some prayers for my marriage. It’s a long story but basically I believe in staying married but I am not in love (romantically) with my husband. I love my husband but I just don’t feel like in love with him. A lot of trust issues and he is deaf and I am not deaf and communication is a big deal!!!!!!!!!!!!! Been married 20 years thank you and I enjoy listening to your posts!

[@keligraham6052]

Thank you so much. Thank you. Happy anniversary to you and your wife.🌹

[@jesussaves8502]

Amen! Praise the Lord for His beautiful blessings of marriage. What a wonderful word from the Lord!!

[@TheGospelBear]

This is such a great message!!! Thank you for your wisdom!

[@brittdriver4453]

God Bless you both!

[@glendabadger8865]

Invaluable marital advice from a Biblical perspective. Thank you for your teachings and God bless you and your family!!!

[@hectormunozriquelme]

6:54 The Most Important Word in Marriage? Goodwill!

[@jimimac1340]

I do enjoy your teachings on God and the Bible Michael, thanks for sharing and God Bless

[@johnson1440]

This is well put together just like a marriage. Thank you.

[@kirchnerfarm]

Look forward to every video Brother Michael. Good teaching...

[@jcytf8333]

Wonderful moment between you men and wife , God bless you

[@robertkaplan1146]

Hello Michael, truth spoken here, I think the same. Some good advice given to needing ears out there. God bless you both.

[@gentilejoshsaved1646]

Very well done. I was strengthened through your talk. Thankyou

[@lisapacheco1231]

God bless you and family and taking time making these videos

[@provocationofgrace]

Thanks for your thoughts and the references to Scripture. I was very bitter and legalistic in my marriage for almost the first 10 years, and a backsliding year not too long back. My mentor said much of what you said here. Thanks for the confirmation!

[@normabarros3124]

You are such a blessed man just seeing you and your wife and hearing you talk about charity vs love is so beautiful I had no idea.....only God knew how much I appreciate hearing this in Jesus

[@ogbranbran8062]

Amen

[@ninerocks]

Great words of wisdom, thank you Mike (or as I jokingly refer to you "Tennessee Moses"). We just passed 25 years married, and I think I'm only just starting to "get it" :)

[@lailamorse5339]

Thank you. Love and light to you and your family.

[@phillipbenjamin6920]

Much needed brother especially by me thank you and thank God for you

[@renehettinga6610]

I don't know why but i loved this video, probably a favorite of hundreds ive see of you Mr. Pearl.

[@vickylanding2830]

Such a blessing message completely enjoy each and every word of the message I'll continue to have confirmation before the Lord for my mate that God has for me and bless you and your family amen 🙏🙏

[@pamelacolvin1417]

I've never had a fig. You make it look really good ☺️

[@bobbyrussello8499]

Happy anniversary to you and your wife :)

[@larryvanbarriger5628]

Very good sermon, what you speak is so true! Real love is give and take, share thoughts and dreams.

[@timkirkpatrick1749]

When my wife and I got married on my father, pull this aside and told us a story that if we take a rope and throw it over the house and we each get on one end of that rope, and we start pulling to try to pull the rope over the house and will battle in pool and tug, but will never get anywhere and then it will stop and both get on the same side of the house. It’s so easy to pull that rope over the house and that’s how a marriage works.

[@TaylorJamesVickery]

Beautiful message thank you sir .

[@karintolbert7452]

Wonderful video. Excellent advice. Praise God

[@redlionplumbing]

This was very inspiring and insightful. God bless you and your family. Maranatha.

[@redxpro1]

Such a pleasure seeing him and his wife together. Truly down to earth REAL people in a fake world!

[@RandyH400]

Great teaching! Thanks

[@trishawhitehouse4226]

Thank -you so much for mentioning that there are some times when you have to call law enforcement. It is never easy, but it is for the best for the children, and prevents more sin. It is probably the hardest thing a wife/ mother ever does. It gives a chance for true repentance. You can forgive someone and also call the police and stop them from furthering their sin. I am so glad you mentioned these things, because they are more common then people like to think about. Protecting children is a vital part of our serving God.

[@jacquelynsterner8642]

Thank you so much. God bless you both!!!

[@aHigherPower]

Great message and wise advice! Thank you.

[@allcapskitten8245]

GOD BLESS !!! THANK YOU FOR ANSWERING & EXPLAINING VERY IMPORTANT QUESTION !!!

[@jasperstephens9333]

Oh boy you hit this spot on.

[@snicolle76]

The Godly wisdom this man holds has me in awe.

[@dougsammons2228]

I heard of a married couple in the state of west Virginia,,, that had been married for 26, years and,,, sadly,,,, they only had 26, children,, all of which were schooled in the word of God,, they,, I believe,,, fulfilled the commandment to fill the face of the earth.

[@genevievejoyforever]

I LOVE this!! Hope I can be a wife like your Debi some day!

[@bluebird5499]

Wonderful message

[@andreahoppe7777]

Great message!

[@oneidaybarra7381]

Thank you , great advice. Your videos ate a blessing

[@mrs.jaywojo5426]

I didn't know you were on Fake News CNN... That must have been a terrible experience. Thank you for posting such a lengthy reflection on marriage. It's much appreciated.

[@annajorgensen1627]

Maybe God is trying to tell you something 🤗

[@kimberlyterry4106]

Hi Sir, thank you for the sharing of life's lessons, and The Written Word of God! My birthday is also 10/17. Happy Birthday early. Happy belated Anniversary to you and you precious beloved! Respectfully, kimberly

[@tylerworley2022]

Never met you thank you for your time and love of Jesus God bless you and your family

[@billbutler9122]

Thank you.

[@SDTalentHunter]

Happy Anniversary!

[@tiffytoo]

Please brother pray for me. I'm shattered and I feel lost. I want God so bad I dont even want to be on this earth anymore but with him and in his presence. I am barely going everyday. My husband left me for another woman 10 years ago and I feel like he took me with him and ive yet to find myself and I'm still not ok. Ive been in one bad situation after another. I have no peace but I want it so so bad. I wish I had chosen God and God alone from day 1 but I didnt. Please pray for me I'm trying in the midst of a bad situation. I have nothing and noone on this earth only God and I wonder if I'm really lost and just lieng to myself about having him because nothing lines up with what he says. I dont steal and i love people but I lack the peace a home family all those things. The only person speaking into me is a narcasist whos tearing me down more with the exception of the videos ive been watching trying to find the truth. I want so bad to have a happy marriage and to be ok. Ive been dying inside for 10 years now it feels like. I dont know what to do or how to stand on my own two feet and on the foundation of God. I have 3 children who need me to get it together. Please pray for me.

[@sherrilbjalexander2856]

Tiffany Elliott I am praying for you. Like a child, grab on to Jesus’ robe and don’t let go. When all is said and done, He is and will always be our strength.

[@mikevictor5945]

Father GOD WE KNOW THAT YOU LOVE Tiffany and don't want her to be under this burden anymore. All fear all hate all burdens leave now in JESUS Name amen. Be consumed in the love JESUS has for you sister

[@giveregard2truth502]

Listen to James W Knox, too... by pouring good doctrine into your soul, you will begin to find peace with God and man...and yourself. May the lord met you exactly where you are and heal you...

[@GemsOfGrace]

Praying for you 🙏🏼

[@ogbranbran8062]

God got you just trust in believe in he gone send you a new husband soon..

[@mothertwinkles4198]

Good teaching.