The Narcissist never says thank you, never says sorry, and is never wrong

[@Almamater8888]

They also never give a genuine compliment.

[@paulpolymath]

Yes, they, being a parasite, don't see non-parasitic actions are anything useful to them.

[@miriamevans5200]

Thank you for your service.

[@LuvBritTV]

Thank you for confirming about the hidden comments, this happens to me all the time, so this confirms my suspicions. So aggravating. I have never gotten a thank you for gifts given, or any acknowledgement. No more. No sorry also, so boundaries are up. Family are the worst.

[@misss.o.j.]

I'm sorry you had to experience all those things. I agree that there is some really weird, creepy stuff with narcissists.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

There is, especially when you are vulnerable, sick, pregnant, bereaved and to the outside world they are this very solid family person- so it’s like what is wrong with me that this is happening.

[@demigaines5644]

Thank you So very much for Sharing This You Are Absolutely Right. I Was Recently Used/Discarded By The Narcissist He Had The Nerve To Tell Me After He Was Done Using Me To Never Text Him Again He Threw Me Away Like Trash Narcissistic abuse is Brutal .

[@user-zy8gk2nn7d]

be only thankful bc you are not wasting your time anymore

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Tat was a horrible experience for you. His directness is not very typical. Perhaps he is less cunning or intelligent than some others. First focus on healing. Take care of yourself. In little ways, talk to yourself nicely. Like when you tide the kitchen, say “well done , use your on name, spake out loud. That a very nice job you’ve done”. Buy yourself flowers- I do, the supermarket ones, or a nice candle, I’ve tonnes of allergies, so I need be careful what I buy. Also if you can do physical things like gardening, pot indoor plants, paint, simple decorating, anything that’s doing do it- it’s for you. Then if you have a plant it needs looking after… A pet is another.. if possible. No 2 when you are ready- look at his direct and concrete message and see it as something useful in your life. This information, so like a detective track back, that is without emotion, at your pace, see what was not right, then list what would be write. And also use this as a compass going forward. There’s a channel safe care haven. This young woman has written books. She has 2 videos on what a normal relationship is like. I hope this helps.

[@savedforever1]

Oh my GOD!!!!!! This is 100%%%. ACCURATE!!!!!!!!! This seals the deal on all the questions i had !!!!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

In my family of origin I now see kindness is seen as weakness.

[@savedforever1]

Im in 100% agreement with u on ur own personal belief system. Faith comes only by faith. If that makes any sense. I dont push my personal experiences on anyone. Unless the ask me. ❤

[@Almamater8888]

Regarding saying in front of her lawyer that you were tired of being dragged to court, I have learned the hard way to never let a narcissist know that they’ve gotten under my skin. I never ever express that anything they say or do bothers me. Because that’s what they want. It’s their only power.

[@TyrRavensohn]

Yes, of course. This happened years ago.....during my learning phase. I said it via text to her, and she told her lawyer.

[@paulpolymath]

My conclusion on why they need you to be WRONG is so they can believe themselves right. A false duality to the extremes. Including the classic if everyone hates you unconditionally, then they'll love me unconditionally. Remember, it's all about them, you'll find all their false dualities involve them taking away what you deserve...

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Something that’s amazing and fools so many, outsiders and also indeed the person in the relationship- partner- sibling- is how they can switch right into victim, with details of their vulnerabilities and suffering in a nanosecond

[@paulpolymath]

I assure you they are Victim-Mimics using Victim-Mimicry. It's one of the only types of mimicry not found in the wild because in the wild there is no room for victim status, only winner and loser. They are parasites of the very society and people they blame.

[@cultured33]

You aren't by yourself...with my ex, I was sending her $100, $200, $300, etc, cash app, buying flowers, jewlry, cloths, etc., and she would never say thank you. I couldn't believe. I would ask her, "did you get the $400 in cash app". She would go, Oh, yeah... "yeah"! What the hell about thank you! That took a lot away from my view of her... This was an awful experience, until I eventually got discarded by the disgusting witch

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

It’s interesting- how this all pans out on a gender basis… I would never want to be showered with gifts, I never was! But I put equal into a male, the home, the job, the kids, the planning for everything, etc etc… so it’s kind of the same thing. This individual is the most covert imaginable.

[@vampireslayer1989]

And only takes credit and responsibility when things go right. If things go wrong, it is always someone else's fault. (I realize that you pretty much said that, but I hadn't yet watched the vid.). We all have the same experiences. Ok, watched it. One more comment. They MUST triangulate innocent third parties, so that they can point the finger.

[@mariapilarme]

Please do comment court experience. I always go to your channel when I need advice as you are the only one that nailed it. I am alienated from my adult children. My daughter 10 years and my son 2 years. My son reconnected with me during the pandemic he was very ill and he had a fight with his dad and needed a place to stay. I was so happy I couldn’t tell how happy I was just be able to take care of him and enjoy his company. We had a stay at home time like was a blessing as we laugh and enjoy time together. When the father found out he started to get in the middle. In dec 21 he was at my house we were doing paperwork for him and he noticed he became unrest. He left the house in a hurry saying he would be back tomorrow. I have not see him since. Last summer I was away from vacation he got inside my house and stole 2 documents boxes from my closet. My son would not do this if he was not manipulated by his father. He is sick and depends of the father so he would do anything to please him. Last March went to his apartment and knocked to see if my son would talk about it.He told me to leave and I did that. I am away for vacation and I had a process server on my video for 3 weeks trying to deliver a restraining order against me. The father file for divorce in 2006, end in 2009. Since then he filed modifications of the decree until 2021. Now using my son he is financing another motion. I would love to prove harassment or stalking using the legal system, this is going for 17 years and even though I don’t have contact I can’t get him to leave me alone. This abuse it’s incredible and no one really wants to stop him. I reported to the police the stealing of the documents and they are aware of the stalking. I am very depressed now because not even time will calm this crazy person. I can’t continue going to court every year not more.

[@TyrRavensohn]

I am going to be making this video today. Always glad to see you on the channel!

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

This is absolutely awful for you. I have no doubt…. I wonder would it help contacting the domestic abuse services advisors. Get Don Hennessy’s book- there are 3 of them. How he Wins is about the course. Steps to Freedom is the 2nd book. Don Hennessy is a counsellor who specialises in working with victims of intimate partner abuse. He is a person of the highest integrity, courageous and says it exactly as it is. He has not been fully listened to by the appropriate bodies- psychotherapists etc. He is in Ireland

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

I’m yet to go to court….. the mediation that was completed several years ago- went down the drain. Since I’ve heard never go to mediation- except in those days I did not know what I was dealing with. It is something that I will have to deal with…..the court etc

[@mariangrgas8002]

Today I am healing and the realization that there is no appreciation in a narc relationship is hitting, While I've had difficult relationships, I always anchor on appreciation. Focusing on the love and generosity of the other over their faults. Watch Trump punch back...he's a great narc example. Narcs punch back/abandon and never can regroup to a neutral stance of appreciation and forgiveness. It's the black and white thinking? Anyway...anything you do for a narc better be simply from the love in your heart. They will likely never value any of it once they pass into the discard phase. Just know, they appreciate nothing except flattery.

[@savedforever1]

Please help us. Understand. Why????

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

That was my question forever. Don Hennessy said in his book Steps to Freedom, you are targeted because you are Kind Loyal Truthful 4th I can’t remember. He said if you didn’t exhibit these qualities in a consistent or real way, he’d have ended the relationship . Also he said Stip asking why, there’s no making sense of it- he said they are named by many names but just stick to this- skillled abuser. Then he say remember this. Their behaviour is not your fault. They know exactly what they are doing. Their behaviour is beyond belief. Hope this helps.

[@melliecrann-gaoth4789]

Now I remember the 4th DEDICATED-it really makes sense. That’s the one that has us turning on a penny, especially in a “commited” relationship