The Narcissistic Art of Conversation

[@Lioness_of_Gaia]

Yes, this is helpful. I just cut off a "friend" who was like this. I felt like an audience. She thought she was hiding the irritation on her face anytime I spoke about myself. She'd say, "Interesting" and start talking again. She would often "take me out for lunch" so I was captive and owed her in her mind. She recently sent me a text message asking if my home was alright after having a huge hail storm, she thought it had been enough time that I'd forgotten. I haven't forgotten. I'm relieved it's over.

[@rhondamock7628]

Constant interruptions, talking over everyone. Me! Me! What about meeeeeee!!!

[@L4LA0412]

😂😂😂 cute

[@JennWest-Liberty]

I hate that this is 100% spot on but appreciate that I now understand my husband. What a relief to know im not insane, he is just a narcissist.

[@amyhenningsgard8618]

Still, difficult to endure. And exhausting.

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

I used to know quite a few conversational narcissists. They behaved exactly the way you have described. With time your reaction is - silence. Thank you Darren .

[@bigm383]

My mother is a covert narcissist whose conversational pattern is exactly as you described. She can be the best at everything, the smartest person in the room ( in spite of having left school at fourteen and never reading a book) then be the worst afflicted, the lowest paid, etc, etc. Last week I expressed some admiration for people like Elon Musk who often work 21 hours a day and excel at economics, physics, etc. My mother interrupted me to say that she was just like that . Hard working and knowledgeable about so many different areas! Thanks for the excellent video!😀

[@fidelmashelton9491]

100% correct Darren. Once you see it, you can't unsee it. It's hilarious in one way the BS from their mouths. Always about me, I know better and I know it all is their motto...

[@ginkgo2021]

Yes. I stopped sharing good and bad things. The reaction of being dismissed or ignored or ridiculed was too much. And I had to endure decades of tedious hole by hole recaps of every round of golf he ever played. Snore.

[@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753]

Golf is a four-letter word

[@pkwilde189]

SPOT ON! i have never heard any experts on narcissism so thoroughly and succinctly shed light on what it is like to be in conversation with a narcissist like this. I have an in-law who fits this description. After conversations with her, I feel like I have been in a wrestling match. I find it abusive to be talked-at to this length. And your description of others' reaction and tendency to shut down and share less is absolutely on point. Ironically, she criticizes others and avoids being with people just like her.

[@noreensirianni3135]

Often times we must rely on our true instinct nature to help us recognize this conversation especially in dealing with both family and friends. Treating others, as we would like to be treated helps to alleviate the uncertainty and helps to maintain ones's integrity. Best to remain silent or as little interaction as possible with difficult persons because over time they reveal their true hand. Such is life and thank you for your insightful conversations.

[@jiaraja7686]

This man is saving lives

[@sarebear5207]

😅😅😅 💯

[@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753]

Great Title! Showing your funny side, Darren... love it!

[@darrynreid4500]

Always an interesting and informativemdiscussion on this channel.

[@joannaRB]

Exactly! Right on. Good insight.

[@dgator3599]

Describes my covert narc husband to a T. No matter how I am feeling, if I say it, well, he has the issue too (only worse). If my ankle hurts, so does his. If my tooth aches, he has 2 that are bothering him. If I say I'm going to the eye doctor, well he has eye issues too and needs to go (he never does and the subject never comes up again unless I mention mine). So one day I decided to test my theory...I said my boobs are growing. Lo and behold, he looks down at his chest and pulls his t-shirt down tight to take a look. I busted out laughing and he just stood there, with a deer in the headlights look on his face. He proved my theory right.

[@JennWest-Liberty]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 Oh my God!!! After living with my narc for 20 years not much makes me laugh these days.... but you got me good with this one😂😂👏🏻👏🏻

[@L4LA0412]

😂😂😂

[@LPoppy2023]

So right on thank you for tackling this. I have a few in my life that I have paused and gone. What the heck ?but this really sums it up. Appreciate all you do.

[@justChrisjones]

Sounds like the" blow hard" type. One in every bar. I had 2 best friend ladies that talked the entire time for decades. I guess i only was comfortable with narcissistic types. They usually nabbed me for a friend. They just blurted out over anything i said. Amazingly obnoxious as i recovered. Thanks Darren.

[@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753]

I don't think you left anything out with this one! It's boring-bizarre after a while, and no one knows what to say. Oh, this is funny-- while I was writing this comment, my phone automatically brought up my n-ex's name!😂😂

[@saladgirl2062]

It’s all broadcast no reception

[@melodysanquist4834]

Great video! So much information crammed into an 8-1/2 minute video❤

[@MrsD3Aer]

This is my ex, and my best friend is now having a problem with this behavior from my ex. Possible I will show your explanation to my friend to have more insight. Thank you for this very good explanation of this type of narcism.

[@susansheldon2707]

No matter the subject being discussed by other family members, my late narc FIL's favorite conversation interruptor was, "That reminds me of the time when I..." Then BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, BLAH... His wife would say, "Who here hasn't heard this story 20 times already?" No one would raise their hand.

[@lfelliott46]

This is so good, so accurate! How do we manage this when it’s a family member and we have to maintain some level of relationship with them…? Any advice, anyone…?

[@solaris2340]

Also-they'll tell you the same stories over and over again. If you're telling then something for the first tine-theyll cut you off to tell you the same story, like its the first time you've heard it 🙃

[@SusanLisaDrahos]

Can you do an analysis on how a covert narcissist “high jack” the conversation & never ask open ended questions? Its the weirdest thing 😂

[@alter-ego-uno]

They don't converse: they engage in fanciful monologues and, when asking questions, in espionage.

[@honeybeejourney]

My brother to a T.

[@amyhenningsgard8618]

My mom. 😂

[@amyhenningsgard8618]

“Art” 😂

[@caroleminke6116]

A narcissist is simply an empty shell 🐚 there’s no one home ❤️‍🩹 you’re encountering a confidence man who just plays shell games, so don’t let your guard down! I go gray rock & get away at the first sign that my genuine good will is exploited not appreciated