Deprogramming the Narcissist's Code

[@MGTOWPsyche]

You learn to never be happy in front of narcissists because the narcissists then get envious of your happiness and do everything to remove your smile. We learn to never show our happiness and joy in order to avoid being attacked.

[@flash_flood_area]

Yup! I've learned to tell my sister that I never do anything fun with my adult kids. I say that I never hear from them, and that I just don't enjoy celebrating birthdays, etc. For nearly 30 years, she has been insanely jealous that I have children, but she doesn't. So she tries to insert herself between me and my children, and tries to turn us against each other. She tries to spoil our birthdays and holidays. When she asks, I tell her the holiday was really boring, and that we didn't spend much time together. Additionally, I tell her I don't enjoy my job. I don't dare tell her that I have close friends. Thank heaven she lives far away now

[@MGTOWPsyche]

@@flash_flood_area as long as you appear more sad than they are they should leave you alone.

[@robbpowell194]

Certainly not the actual source of any happiness

[@mroni63]

Since one never "wins" with a narcissist; the saying should be rephrased to - the only way to not loose, is not to play.

[@patriciafry8634]

I enjoy your dry humor.

[@petet968]

I used to hide my feelings about the kids I liked in my neighbourhood because my Mother would tell me that they were really horrible kids and I should stay away from them. It really stopped me trusting my own perceptions. Which were correct, I realise now. They were great kids. She was jealous that I liked somebody besides her. She had to be the centre of my world. So insecure.

[@Mathystarr]

Pity you were not allowed to be ‘you’. To grow in character and share with new other children. You did however cotton on to her fragility and damaging traits. Well done.

[@jibberoverjava]

I like the wording "wise as serpents and gentle as doves". It's in the Bible, Jesus said it to his disciples at Matthew 10:16,: Look! I am sending you out as sheep among wolves; so prove yourselves cautious as serpents and yet innocent as doves. In Jesus defense though, for his accurate choice of words according to the scriptural text, he was advising his disciples to not become blemished (remain innocent from) by the attitudes and untrained consciences of the world, those who would undermine the healthful teachings they were learning.

[@NarcissistHex-nf9eq]

Very beautiful Matthew 10:16, I think you could find the answer to almost any problem in the Bible. I could probably cover that on my channel too..

[@psychicconsultant453]

Missed this live looking forward to the catch up

[@lindatallon9217]

They "groom" their targeted VICTIMS....🎯🎯🎯

[@gerrycastlemanwarde5933]

after 20 years I think I have finally convinced my wife her sister is a covert narcissist and the people around her sister are flying monkeys. We shall see!

[@Greenbambu78]

Thank you for the help, Darren. I'll take it from here if you know what i mean.

[@familyf1383]

Wise as a serpent and gentle as doven.. it's from the Bible! Greetings from Holland

[@nicholecornes1915]

God do i need you lovely irish man

[@yvetteandjorgenlarsen9753]

Hey Darren! I didn't get a notification about this one! Usually I see an announcement from you come up several days ahead in my KZbin feed and I can click on 'notify me.' Otherwise, I have no idea how to be notified.

[@dirigopost9286]

Great content! Why do covert narcissists never learn or deterred by negative consequences?

[@DarrenFMagee]

Thank you and thank you for the question. It’s a topic I’ll be covering soon

[@Sad_Bumper_Sticker]

This is so sad. Authoritarian cruel conditioning training.

[@xsilentg]

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[@MichNative01]

North west...Washington state...Oregon area

[@DominiqueRichardca]

Hi from Montréal, where can i find the vidéo with the question to help us with awarness Thank you

[@DarrenFMagee]

They're in the "Making the Unconscious Conscious' livestream. Hope you find them helpful

[@DominiqueRichardca]

​@@DarrenFMagee Ho that wase fast! Yes thank you i did find it. I wase thinking that it would be a good idea to create a mood journal ? What do you think? Richard Grand-oncle talks about the importance of emotional littracy.

[@DarrenFMagee]

@DominiqueRichardca I think both can be helpful