the natural hair community lied to you... ft. Readyhubb

[@Monnie-ge4pf]

I feel like of course you natural hair is gonna feel childish if the last time you’ve seen your natural hair is when you were a child

[@CamrynElyse]

@@Monnie-ge4pf YIKES. you’re right😭

[@denyshadials5702]

Exactly.

[@maijennasis]

🎯

[@ayemad]

PREACHHHHH

[@ItsJulTv]

I didn't mean to laugh but you're so right. Lmfao.

[@tyrabrown3681]

I remember my dad telling me that the only way my hair is so long is because we have a white in our blood. Like sir you black I’m black. Black girls can grow long hair too.

[@paris283]

Yikes

[@CamrynElyse]

@@tyrabrown3681 speaks to the fact that we have soooo much unlearning to do!! a lot of people only believe black women can have long hair if they have some other ethnicity in their bloodline…

[@prettyrat.]

Is your dad’s last name Ruckus?

[@kathleenking47]

Or..native american

[@kathleenking47]

​@@prettyrat. Now, too many black mrn, are wearing their hair, like little black girls

[@kairilaicreampuffs]

I find it highly hypocritical when people claim it’s a lot to do when it comes to natural hair but there’s tons of videos on how to deep condition, pluck, bleach comb and everything else when it comes to wigs. I feel like if these ladies took care of their hair like they do these wigs it would be easier. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@krystalunique2269]

That Is a damn good point.. put all that energy into they own hair..

[@gbbs9]

Ikr! I’m a natural girl and I don’t have the time or patience to prep a wig and install it. But I will spend all day on my natural hair trying to make my own curls pop😂

[@ruey8742]

@@gbbs9for real! i feel the exact opposite of what they say, i don’t do wigs even tho i’m interested cuz i think it’s too difficult to learn💀

[@yeahno9380]

This!!! I don’t get it either. So much energy to everything else but their own hair.

[@Lady_Clare4]

I’m a senior with healthy joints but I have friends that have joint pain. Also, some have hectic schedules & large families. There are many reasons why some choose wigs,weaves, or straight styles. Some devote an entire day to their hair.

[@Renee-pv2iz]

People like to make a million and one excuses why they don’t wear their hair - “oh it’s not socially acceptable” what to wear your own hair? Also natural hair is apparently childish but I’m sure some of the same people that say this about their own hair are wearing bows because it’s trendy 🤔 the way people like to pick and choose. Also when someone comes on the camera and says “oh excuse my hair it’s not done” when it’s just their natural hair is questionable.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@Renee-pv2iz a lot of people definitely have a similar take as it regards to the coquette aesthetic and the conversation of natural hair being childish…and i agree. it’s an excuse, but i also think it’s so important to understand what it’s rooted in because you can have more productive conversations! so much unlearning and unpacking to do, but we’ve gotta be willing😭

[@tylermack4705]

and the conversation goes in circles

[@poppycartergraphics120]

I honestly don’t see the point of making excuses for it. Like who does that help? I find other people’s natural hair beautiful, but I don’t like my own, I think I look weird with it, and cutting off my damaged hair to go natural 7 years ago made me feel even worse about it. Yeah my health issues might contribute to how slowly it grows, but the way I feel about my hair is my own issue and therefore something I have to tackle on my own. My mom didn’t know how to deal with my hair and I never bothered with it. That’s my own fault and no one else’s, and as embarrassing as it is, it’s okay to admit. Making excuses for it is only hindering ourselves from accepting the issue and learning how to grow from it. The only thing we’re doing by making blocking ourselves from that journey of self love and acceptance that so many others have already been on.

[@dennisahlarson1584]

I have had female family members from Gen X and older, make disapproving comments on my choice to go natural with my hair. It took me over a decade to undo the damage THEY caused to my hair during my childhood with all of the "Just For Me" child hair relaxers every few months, the constant tight styles, the hotcomb or the curling iron. I had to learn on my own, how to care for my natural hair and even till this day, my edges are thin. I am pregnant with my first child and If I have a daughter, her hair will never go through what mine did. Not chemical relaxers, tight styles or heat damage! The multigenerational hair trauma ends with me.

[@vijo461]

4c hair care does not take long; trying to create the perfect elongated curls is why it takes long…if shrunken 4c hair was socially acceptable; I think convenience will increase.

[@HiHowAreYa]

This is so true. People with straight and wavy hair can walk out the house with their hair as it is because it's seen as the standard. If that's the case for them, why must people with type 4 hair stretch, iron, and blow out their hair to be socially accepted? This is why I have a problem with the term "shrinkage". Like, your hair isn't "shrinking" it's reverting back to its original state. Beautiful tight coils. It's how your hair grows out your head. If it was the standard to wear "shrunken" type 4 hair, nobody would be saying it takes so much time/maintenance/upkeep.

[@farahjichi4617]

Society has no problem with how you wear your hair... but most people just don't find a shapeless buch as attractive as other looser curls. Let's stop blaming society for having preferences.

[@farahjichi4617]

​@HiHowAreYa It’s really not complicated... a shapeless, messy look is just not as attractive as other loser styles and cuts and women have likesthe feel of havinga long hair since forever. Get over it

[@kkcamp02]

​​@@farahjichi4617Our beauty preferences are largely based on what the society has deemed as attractive and what is not. Ppl don't like shrunken natural hair because they have been told it is messy, ugly, and not acceptable

[@farahjichi4617]

@@kkcamp02 How did I prove their point? What exactly was their point that I supposedly proved? That raises the question: why does society consistently not find nappy, shrunken hair as attractive as other hair types? Simply saying "it's society" doesn't explain much, because society is just a reflection of the majority opinion. If our preferences were solely based on what society dictates, wouldn’t we all like the exact same things? Let’s stop pretending we fully understand how people develop their preferences-it's likely much more complex than just "because the majority of other people like it.

[@nagisa9147]

The reason why it takes these people "hours every night" or "5 hours every week" likely isnt because of length. Its often because they are trying to do things to their hair that their hair isnt made to do. This summer I accepted that my hair does not clump and curl like a type 3.... it's that simple. We need to SEE women wearing type 4 hair in order to accept it. I do my hair more frequently now, but I prefer it to sitting painfully for 6-12 hours just to get braids or a crochet.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@nagisa9147 that part…trying to get it to do something it wasn’t meant to…and i have personally been down this road & wrestled, struggled, etc. it wasn’t worth it and i’m glad i’m free now😭

[@newvision101]

I wrestled my type 4 hair and my hair always won. I was in and out of the shower today with a wash and go. My first wash and go. My hair looks FABULOUS! I’ve received compliments. I’m nobody’s child.

[@nagisa9147]

@newvision101 So happy for you!!! I'm still figuring out my wash n go products, but I've gotten way faster and better results! Yay us 😁

[@nagisa9147]

@CamrynElyse for real!!! I love how MY hair looks, and even my mom was skeptical at first. She's getting used to it and loving it, too. Sometimes, we just need that affirmation :)

[@LittleBitOfLee]

When I started doing my own hair I really wanted to wear a wash and go. I tried twice and gave up. My hair was crunchy and weighed down and it took so much time. I'll stick to my twists, Bantu knots, and fro.

[@GmD.28]

The adultification and infantilisation of the Black women..OMG i love this channel. Never thought about it this way

[@CamrynElyse]

@@GmD.28 i was cooking with that one🤓☝🏾 LOL in all honesty, i was very pleased when i came up with the title for that chapter😌

[@TheMspoodle2]

I love afro textured hair. It's sexy, classy and fun. I look wayyyyy better with my 4b/4c hair, and I wear it with so much pride and confidence. I love showing it off. I loveeeeee my hair so damn much. I'm a very gorgeous woman, and my hair gets more compliments than I do.

[@rochelletaylor4558]

Well look who's tooting her own horn!😂 she feeling herself! ❤❤

[@sis.the.artess]

Me too sis❤!!!

[@CamrynElyse]

@@TheMspoodle2 i love this!!!

[@newvision101]

Me three sis!

[@favouro6344]

Yes I find 99.9% of black women look so much better and the features go better with natural hair. Maybe that's why some women think they're ugly as the straight hair they wear dont go with their features. God doesn't make mistakes ❤❤❤

[@tashibalampkin8555]

Real talk. I don't how women wear the 40 inch buss down wig. That's a lot of hair you got to manage. I'm not skilled.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@tashibalampkin8555 26 inches is the most i’m willing to do, but even that is a lot of hair!!

[@ThatDoualaChick]

😂😂😂😂😂 lol

[@AmazingRebel23]

As a guy mine has been at most 12 or so and that was 100% split ends because I was a child and didn’t even use conditioner.

[@sankofaspirit2260]

In my life experience, the only people that ever made negative comments about my natural hair is other Black people.

[@Lastdayone]

Agreed

[@SopHiZzl3]

Same

[@taimarie5897]

I do think natural hair gives a younger appearance but I don’t know that I would call that “childish”. Heavy makeup can make you look older but not wearing any makeup doesn’t mean you look childish. I hope that makes sense lol. I wore my natural hair a few weeks ago and ordered a peach Bellini. The high school aged waitress brought me a peach sweet tea because she didn’t think I was an adult 😆

[@CamrynElyse]

@@taimarie5897 i can understand what you’re saying!

[@j.elixir6089]

People think I look younger than I am (21) cause I don’t wear make up ( I have naturally long eye lashes, nice eyebrows and colored eyelids.. some people think I have makeup on tho). And when I wear my real hair they think I’m young unless it’s straightened which I rarely do and haven’t done so far this year. I just cut my hair in February and wearing braided styles to retain length and grow it back out

[@lise5461]

I agree, I look much longer with my natural hair

[@funhouse1864]

As someone who use to hate their natural hair, I feel like people haven’t been consistent with it. Doing a braid out or twist out takes less time than it ever did for me to blow dry and straighten my hair and it’s 2x the length now. The hardest part is honestly the mindset change. Also wash and gos, twist out etc are natural hairstyles. I think they’re conflating styled hair with natural hair. Sorry for the long comment I’m really passionate about natural hair.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@funhouse1864 i agree with you. mindset when it comes to this is everything & yeah, we definitely have to consider the “goal” whenever it comes to our own natural hair. it’s super easy once you allow your hair to be congruent with your lifestyle!!

[@milkman4743]

i definitely agree with you, she kinda lost me in the tiktok video when she claimed that manipulating hair didn't quite count as natural, our hair will always need a bit of manipulation in order to not get matted or to retain mouisture, etc., i do agree that if it were more acceptable it would be manipulated less tho

[@GabrielaMeredith]

@@milkman4743right! My hair is very thick and very dense and tends to tangle. If I don’t put it into some sort of style like a braid out, twistout, or wash and go I’ll end up with a lot of breakage due to fairy knots.

[@shireads2954]

I agree. Especially since people with straighter hair types are constantly curling, straightening, braiding, or bunning it. Why should we not be allowed to style our hair without being shamed for self hate?! I wear my 4b/4c natural hair 99.999% of the time. I'll blow dry it once every few years. I love my hair, and I'm very comfortable with it simply moisturized and air dried into its fully shrunken state a la lipgloss. I think it's hella cute, and have worn it that way to work, my birthday party, church, etc. However, I prefer not to detangle that, so I usually flat twist it or do an updo or ponytail or bun, just like any other woman in the world. Let us freaking live!

[@ravinj8625]

Great point!

[@jordanwashington1854]

I think that a lot of folks don't want to admit that they don't know how to properly take care of their hair, so they'd rather use a lazy excuse that bashes their hair in favor of wigs, weaves and sew-ins. Nothing is inherently wrong with wearing hair that isn't your own, but I've noticed how some women who love wearing them use them as an excuse to not deal with their own hair.

[@anaturalee8370]

Also I think many people fail to realize that our hair was literally NOT something that we were taught about from the beginning of time ! We are literally amateurs to our own hair and it’s sad. I remember doing cosmetology classes and type 1 & 2 hair was literally the default and the only kinds of hair we really learned about. There was no focus at all on textured hair because it literally held no form of importance in the minds of the people who constructed the text books, tests , etc! Imagine if we truly knew then what we know now ! Imagine if our parents knew these things from the beginning ! So many black women would have already achieved full healthy long kinky hair by now because we would have MASTERED hair care/ styling and minimal breakage techniques. Smh wow

[@CamrynElyse]

@@anaturalee8370 yes, i definitely think this plays a huge role!

[@zarario4444]

Having long healthy hair has a lot to do with diet.

[@berrybopforever]

I have short 4c hair and the way that people make me feel when I feel comfortable wearing it out is crazy- I generally like short hair in all forms but people make it seem as though my hair isn’t done or if it’s not long like my friends hair then I shouldn’t be wearing it out 😭😭 like leave me alone!! I don’t want to keep my hair in braids or a wig all the time….i wanna let my hair breathe in twists

[@awtumn]

I'm so sorry people are making you feel a certain way about your hair. I too have short, natural 4C hair. I'm struggling to love it because I've always been obsessed with the idea of having long hair. 😭

[@kellygoodman6167]

What bothers me is people saying natural hair looks broke because now I’m hearing the guys like natural hair because they think we are easy and less high maintenance so they don’t have to try hard for us. I’m not easy I’ll just start dressing fancier now but I love my hair natural.

[@craZbeauTful]

My coworkers in Fl would always tell me my natural hair was childish. Like what? I had never heard that before then. It actually hurt my feelings because I didn't understand. My hair has been "natural" my whole life.

[@kimsim8750]

They were rude!

[@piscespisces6]

I would’ve read them for filth. If anyone walks away with hurt feelings it would be them.

[@jazz-axy9924]

Had a coworker tell me I need to "grow up" and "need a man" when I said I never worn wigs and always been natural. I didn't feel hurt because the projected hatred of her own hair was so obvious. Can't take seriously, baldheaded women hating from outside the club

[@LoisRawji-bb1uc]

My condolences. Floridians can be insensitive. I actually blow dried my hair right before my interview which didn't help with my credentials they expected an Asian Indian because of my last name. No straight hair, no job.

[@Crabernacker]

Whats childish is that they dont know how to do their hair so they gotta get other people to do it

[@LethalLemonLime]

This reminds me of the girl in the green dress and the akpola shoes when she said "I'm 33, I know I don't look my age." Same vibe. Natural hair doesn't actually make you look younger. That's just how you view it through your eyes and how a certain culture (like African American culture for example) might view it but no body else is thinking you look like a child because of it lol. Because they aren't viewing you through the same lens. They can see your age on your face.

[@CamrynElyse]

really is so much about perspective!! and i think in the US specifically a lot of ours have been warped because of so many things. it’s sad.

[@chisomo8088]

Not the akpola shoes,😭😂

[@bellahadidnt.]

akpola shoes 😭

[@MostOfMiree]

HEYYYYYYYY @ 8:37 is so real. i remember being little and not even being able to get into the pool much bc my mom didn’t want me getting my hair wet. my hair was such a burden to me when i was little bc i always had to be so aware of it bc my mom didn’t wanna deal with it. to a degree i still think a lot of black women still do this today with their hair. like how there are some blk women who have talked about not even going to the gym bc they don’t wanna mess up their hair.

[@kd_16420]

that shit used to blow me😩

[@CamrynElyse]

@@MostOfMiree HEYYYYYYYY😆 not going to the gym because of hair is/was REAL. my mom stopped letting me get silk presses every two weeks once i started getting more serious and involved in gymnastics. however, now that i wear my natural hair mainly, i just think you have to make sure you fully understand how to care for your hair based on your ***lifestyle*** & idk if people are willing to do it…most already complain about having to do the basics🤦🏾‍♀️

[@angelface333]

yes! yes! yes!!! this is why i think so many black women avoid wash day and say their hair is hard to deal with- also salon trauma bc they didn’t know how to properly take care of type 4 hair, then blame the customer for it 😭

[@sasa18girl]

My mom used to call washing my hair a “project”. To be fair I had severe dandruff and I got dense type 4 hair so I get it. But still didn’t feel great to hear that lol. But now I wear it out a lot.

[@angelface333]

27:20 my theory is that our hair texture isn’t the barrier stopping us from doing certain natural hairstyles, and most cases. i think it tends to be that most of us haven’t grown her hair out long enough to do a lot of natural hairstyles. bc I even remember watching white + asian women, when a lot of women were cutting their hair back in the day (like 2016-2018) + they would have to learn how to do different hairstyles for their short hair (like shoulder length and above) bc long hair tends to be more versatile no matter the texture 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@CamrynElyse]

@@angelface333 oooh i like this perspective! as someone that has had both really long and really short natural hair, in my experience, i felt my short hair was more versatile/easy to style…but i definitely do see how these things can really depend on length!

[@taimarie5897]

I’ve been telling my mom this for the longest and she doesn’t understand lol. There’s so many styles you can’t do if your hair is not long

[@maijennasis]

@@taimarie5897and there’s so many styles you CAN do when your hair is shorter compared to when it grows longer. It’s really a perspective shift. I say have fun while it short too!

[@Enigmaticharm]

​@@maijennasiswhat are the hairstyles then? 😅

[@somtoobiorah206]

​@Enigmaticharm Google is your friend really So many beautiful, styles, you can wear with your short hair

[@virallcullture8585]

I always assumed, straight hair looks older due to WHY we had to straighten our hair to conform, there is a community of people obsessed with youth who age differently due to genetics who have naturally straight hair, our natural hair makes us look younger & exotic to that community, to the point they forced us to COVER our hair. Over generations that jealousy trickled down and effected the people bieng bullied over generations too.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@virallcullture8585 you make a good point!!!!!

[@naturallyrachh]

exactly!!

[@evettestarks1665]

It is a shame my people can’t except the way our hair grows from our scalp.

[@Jennj96]

As long as we don't blame the victims! The problem is colonialism, racism, and a Eurocentric beauty standard that was forced upon us! I remember when I first went natural at 16 and my mom got so mad at me for cutting my hair that she forced an ugly synthetic wig on me. So grateful that I didn't listen and took it off as soon as I got out of the house. I now have waist length (not that length matters, really. Short hair is beautiful as well) natural 4c hair and I feel more validated and comfy in my skin than I ever have. We will never be enough if we are comparing ourselves to something we were never meant to be.

[@TraceyChiromo]

When i wear my hair in and AFRO i get so much attention especially from black men and compliments. I love my natural hair always have and always will.

[@darlingcl4061]

That has not ever been my experience!! It’s been the exact opposite for me an several black women I’ve met. BM becoming angry and visibly annoyed upon immediately seeing my hair

[@EmmanuellaUdofia]

I get compliments from black men more too . However, im in the uk so might be a different experience 😢

[@deltasaves]

This is why i am happy to be removed from these communities. People pocket watch and worry about other people's hair too often. Then for other women who are relaxer free to say "oh you can't wear your hair THAT way" is wild. I've been all over the board and do what i choose to afford to my hair. The fact we need to have all these rules, STILL, confuses me.

[@lyricxlmxchi8676]

Forreal. Even the judgement towards people who wants to relax their hair. Like let people do what they want. Protective styles? Fine. Relaxer? Do it. Wigs? Beautiful. Natural? Nice. Like you know your hair and yourself. If you want to do any of these things, do them. It's so crazy how the natural hair community have so much hold on people.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@deltasaves we have lots of unlearning to do for sure. the conversation is highly nuanced, so i think we should be sensitive when engaging in these topics!

[@badgyalGia]

The thing i hate is “ I need to get my hair done” when the hair doesn’t include extensions like what ??

[@itsneeklife]

I wear my natural many think it's fake 😂😂I literally had someone say is that weave.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@itsneeklife i have also gotten these comments before, even when i am wearing my real hair. it’s definitely interesting & part of me thinks it’s rooted in people maybe not believing black women can have long hair…although, i’m not completely sure.

[@abioni6092]

The girl who said no one wears their hair in its “natural state” is a bit ridiculous. Firstly, some women do. Secondly there’s a difference between grooming and manipulation. I moisturise my hair and I put it in a bun. I would do this regardless of my hair texture. Thirdly, even our ancestors never wore their hair natural, by this flawed logic. Their hair was always styled in intricate designs. We are women at the end of the day, why would we leave home without doing anything to our hair.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@abioni6092 i agree!!

[@MisaKeiJune]

imma be real, I love how versatile my 4c hair is. It thrives in the sun and keeps my head warm in the winters, and all I have to do is run my fingers through it, shape it, and go, and to manage tangles, I use a Pic. I don't have to have a 6-hour wash session, and because my coils are so tight, I don't have to take entire days off of work just to get serviced. I can shower, wash dry, and be on my way. I don't need to pay for a "Protective style" because it protects itself. I don't care if other people think my 4c is unappealing to them, it's appealing to me, and that's all that matters.

[@kharlajean36]

Even outside of black culture all throughout the 70s,80s,90s,early 00s, the media pushed for straight hair to be categorized as the “sexy” hair. Many white actresses have come out to talk about how they were forced to straighten their hair for roles bc male executives thought it was the hotter look. The media has traditionally showcases curly hair (and the girls who wore it) as uncontrolled, not put together, awkward, etc. Sometimes it was obvious, a lot of times, it was hidden. Ex: Anne Hathaway in Princess Diaries, Carrie bradshaw in SATC hair got straighter the more desirable she became for Mr. Big, Julia-Louis Dreyfus purposefully made her hair as curly as possible in Seinfeld after a convo with her agent abt how executives thought she was hotter with straight hair. I mention these people bc if the male gave was that perversive to white women, What chance did we, the Queens of Curly and texture have?

[@fuzzywuzzythebackyardigans2283]

This is my theory, as children black mothers tend to make us wear our natural hair in pigtails and such. So I am assuming that, that is why these women associate natural hair with being childish. As once you got to a certain age our moms would let us finally straighten our hair or some other “grown up style”. My mom wouldn’t let us wear weave or hair extensions as she said we were children but once I got older I was able to get my hair done in styles other then plaits, twists, pigtails, cornrows etc.

[@StarChild1109]

I alternate between a wash & go & a roller set, it's fun & a change of pace. Definitely brings comments either way. The flexibility of our hair is magical.

[@havahacharon5983]

*_How can what God gave us be childish?_*

[@haunting_hatter_]

People call everything childish these days to the point where we can’t even have fun.

[@thelashayway8250]

Black women typically look more youthful anyway so maybe that’s why, it’s not just our hair , it’s how we are physically presented. If that makes sense..

[@LinaThaaDreadful]

Never would I have imagined me choosing to wear my hair the way it grows out my scalp would be so problematic 😅

[@Riverlily12]

Anyone else flip flop when it comes to how they feel about their hair? Sometimes i feel more confident with a fro. Other times i feel pressure to conform. And other times i either want to try something different, or i just dont want the attention that comes with natural hair, positive or negative Like sometimes ill get a lot of compliments on my hair which is great. Or people ask if its real or what did i do/use to grow it. Sometimes i just dont want the attention at all, especially as a very shy and socially anxious person. Thoughts? Edit: also, health might play a role in things..i have naturally high porosity hair that dries within minutes and gets tangled easily. So sometimes wearing my hair completely natural ends in breakage and split ends just because of how it is on its so. I so i opt for wearing twists and braids for a while.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@Riverlily12 THIS IS REAL.

[@caribmi6247]

@Kitt-Sage I totally feel you. I love my natural hair, but I do the flip flop thing as well. I also don't like drawing attention to myself dealing with anxiety too. But I will push through and stay natural regardless and try my best not to feel so exposed. Not sure if I'm wording my thoughts correctly. The point is, I totally relate

[@favouro6344]

Use protein in every product for every washday step. Wash weekly or biweekly. Ignore what the natural girlies say. Also use shampoo not cowash

[@CocaColeyy]

Spot on!

[@Nille0212]

I’m 44 and wear my natural hair any way I want. I don’t care what others say about it. Some days it’s in twists. Some days it’s a fro. Some days it’ll be braided. Some days I throw on a wig. I do two low ponytails frequently because I have perfected how long it takes to do it and it’s easy. But I have never cared what someone thought about my hair. I’ve always worn it however I want. I wish everyone would learn to just be themselves and do whatever they felt like doing with the hair that grows out of their scalp.

[@NinaLady11]

Agreed, I'm also 44 been natural for 10 years and I do not care what anyone thinks of my hair. My default styles are twists and braids with no added hair that can transform into full, voluminous braid and twists outs within 20 minutes. And yes, I will wear my 8 braids pulled into a low ponytail or bun and go into the office with no problems. I may have 99 problems but my hair isn't one.

[@Nille0212]

@@NinaLady11 Amen, Sis! I wear my braids and twists outside all the time. I do medium sized ones and have between 15/20 depending on how I part it. I put half up, half down and go about my business! I’ve been natural 20 years, so in 2004 before it was really popular to be natural. I have never done my hair to please others or conform to society’s standards. It’s just freeing!

[@one_ice_cold_chiq]

I'm 40 and I stopped giving an f during the pandemic. I be all at work, twists, afro puffs, whatever I want. And yall bet not saying nothing or I'm leaving 😂

[@doughty_vee7824]

This tf IM GROWN:!! Period.!

[@don_tastic6590]

I love your take on choosing a style that suits you. I do think that natural hair community is (in some ways) obsessed with length. I get it, because typically long hair is associated with femininity. However, I personally have been natural since college (2010) and have had short and long natural hair, locs, a low fade/shaved head, and now I'm growing my hair back out. Cutting my locs off and going to a low fade allowed me to let go of the idea that my hair has to be long for me to look nice. Plus, honestly, I looked the best with the fade lol

[@CamrynElyse]

@@don_tastic6590 i love this!! i also agree, as someone that has had both short and long natural hair, i had to work through the idea that length and femininity were intrinsically linked. tough stuff but it’s worth it!

[@FlowerPow-tz1cn]

If NOT putting poison in your system or on your body is childish then I’ll take it!! The relaxer always burned my scalp to the point that my scalp is damaged. so I’m doing everything I can to embrace my natural hair since 2016. I started out wearing lots of crotchet hair styles not realizing that the fake hair is also poisoning us.

[@marthamandiwa6017]

I agree Natural hair is not childish. I love my natural hair very much, I did a birthday photoshoot with my natural hair in a Wash & go once..

[@MiaWallace85]

CAMRYN NEVER LEAVE US AGAIN 😭❤️

[@CamrynElyse]

@@MiaWallace85 I WON’T🥺😭🩷

[@angelface333]

1:44 YUP. this is the only reason i care about this stuff. i love my curls but its more than a hairstyle to me because i want girls growing up loving, knowing, and understanding their hair in the future 💗🎀

[@CamrynElyse]

@@angelface333 representation is SO important for little girls!!

[@kimsim8750]

I think the "natural hair looks broke" mentality is funny. Some women think hair, makeup and name brand clothing make them look older and sophisticated. When you are young, you want to look older. When you are older, you want to look younger. Human nature for literally all women.

[@mirahb.9713]

Embracing my natural hair came with ease for me, and mainly because of the representation I had at home. My nana was hair goals for me, my momma was my biggest supporter, and my dad and brothers were my biggest hype men. That ease did come with bumps😂 Like accepting my hair texture for kinky coily, instead of the loose curls I wanted them to be. Let me say I’ve come a long way from my teens into my 20s and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My hair is so versatile, and with social media I’ve become my own stylist. And you damn right its cheaper!😂 Learning to do my own hair has really saved me some shmoney ya hear me😂😂 Besides its all a money thing in the beauty industry cause natural ain’t cheap either. I also can relate to the switch up when it comes to some kind of celebration. For my high school senior pics I got a 30 inch, 13x4, frontal wig. Mind you im a natural girlie and was new to the wig life. Terrible, terrible, terrible. The itch was insane, the build up of products was insane, the bumps and breakouts on my forehead was insane, AND I got a big ass head and a lot of hair…the wig didn’t even fit😂😂 the stylist tried but failed smh🤦🏾‍♀ fast-forward to graduation I did my all time fav style, a braid out. Besides getting that cap on my head, it was the right choice. I still served face, the fro was eating them up, and I felt like myself.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@mirahb.9713 i looooove this!! i have a similar hair background with the embracing part. my mom was always hair goals for me, her natural hair has been butt-length & beyond my whole life!!

[@MiguelDLewis]

Jackie Hill Perry has locs down to her waist but she looks very mature and wise. Sal Ly has a more youthful look with her short locs but they come off more pure and innocent, not necessary immature. It's really about how you carry yourself as a woman and if you have the Holy Spirit within you.✝

[@CamrynElyse]

@@MiguelDLewis loveeeee JHP and i’ve always thought her locs were so beautiful🥹

[@MiguelDLewis]

@@CamrynElyse Same. She just exudes holiness. Not only are they beautiful but more importantly, they honor 1 Corinthians 11:15.

[@tuesdayjanae3676]

I wear my hair in an Afro lol the looks I get from black women is like they hate me. It’s sad.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@tuesdayjanae3676 really?? that is so interesting🤔🤔

[@favouro6344]

Yes black women insult my Afro and call it nappy. Same with black men. The self hate is real

[@thelashayway8250]

They don’t hate you , they hate themselves. You’re a reflection of them or something they don’t like.

[@tuesdayjanae3676]

@@CamrynElyse yeah well this is from younger black women, black men wouldn’t even make eye contact with me. I contrast this because when I wore my hair in passion twists, boho braids, etc I’d get completely different interactions

[@Anywayyihao]

That’s crazy bc as a black woman, I’m always so amazed when I see bw wearing Afros and I will always compliment them

[@aliyah8926]

I HATEDDD!!! BUMPED ENDS

[@CamrynElyse]

@@aliyah8926 LITERALLY WOULD ANGRY CRY IN THE CHAIR😭

[@shelbzerz]

Me toooo. But it feels like once I got older it made my hair look a little better tho😭😭😭

[@CamrynElyse]

@@shelbzerz it’s definitely considered cute now, i think😆

[@kimsim8750]

😂 this make me laugh because my daughters did too. I didn't mind as a kid. I grew up in the 70s and 80s and that was actually preferred. 😊

[@charlottemunnerlyn4394]

What are bumped ends?

[@msch3891]

Natural hair and healthy is beautiful. Many just dislike it and are ashamed due to certain textures and short or short appearing hair.

[@ICYY.SIDONNIE]

GIRLLL IM HAPPY TO SEE YOU BACK ON YT!!!!! I MISSED YOU CAM!!!

[@CamrynElyse]

@@ICYY.SIDONNIE SO GOOD TO BE BACK!! THANK YOU SO MUCH FOR WATCHING😭🩷

[@Jadawada935]

I never understood how you’re too grown to wear straight hair without the ends being bumped ….I remember being confused as a child because white girls in my classes had long or short straight hair most of the time, but my mom said it was different for me because I was black. All this makes sense as to why black women view natural hair as child like. I do agree that we need more natural hair representation. Black people tend to stare at me when I wear my natural hair and I know its just because you don’t see that very often (depending on where you live)

[@TrudiAdams-Wiggan]

I recently got a wake up call when I began watching how beautifully and elegantly one KZbin influencer styled her natural 4C hair without worrying about trying to tame her ‘kitchen’ with products. It finally hit me that she was fully embracing all her natural hair.

[@stephaniepink9060]

I am 55 years old and I believe hair should be styled according to your lifestyle!

[@d1gitalsonder]

4:56 anddd as kids most of us are definitely not wearing wigs. even really long braids was seen as unnecessary- that may also be another reason for the association of black women with natural hair being perceived as more youthful or childish, & a lace front or down to the butt styles perceived as more grown (and eurocentric standards then also intersect with this as a lot of weaves and wigs are worn in texture-less styles)

[@CamrynElyse]

@@d1gitalsonder yes!!

[@jennymurs88]

Natural hair management is not that hard. I always cry when I'm trying to lay down my wig 😂

[@CamrynElyse]

@@jennymurs88 this is so real😭 and same

[@ayemad]

Just excuses. Tacos they spend hours shingling and sleeking it for dear life. Thats why it’s ‘hard work

[@Unkblknessjourney]

I love my natural hair more then anything . It really hurts when I’m being judged by my beauty and it’s feels so good when others understand the beauty behind my hair. I just feel my confident, radiant, graceful and free. Love thy hair ladies ❤

[@AndraJapan2]

oh i remember all the shame i got for growing my hair. Other women would basically whisper about how they couldn’t do it, my mother still makes rude comments about my hair even though…she bald asf like her hair goneee, I only got comments on my hair when it was “done” for events. I still wear my hair thankfully non of those nasty comments broke me when i first started.

[@MickaelaAleshia]

helppp! not your mom catching a stray lmaoo 😭

[@AndraJapan2]

@@MickaelaAleshia 💀 she kept trying me but still bald though pfffff 💀💀💀💀 i swear i was nice to her about it for a while 😭 now i’m just like 😒

[@cosmicbrownie333]

Wigs for me are fun because I’ve been loc’d since 2011 and miss some of the hairstyles I wore as a cyber goth chick back in the day. I like how my natural hair looks as well as how I look in wigs. I love the idea of having a permanent hair style (which locs give). I have super fine 4a/b hair so even with locs I don’t have to use a ton of products like my super thick haired counterparts. I always hated relaxers and would just keep my hair braided as a kid. I love just spraying my hair with rosewater in the morning, oil my scalp, and go on my merry way. It’s so interesting seeing how people respond to me based on my hair. From my experience, people find me more approachable when I wear an Afro or my locs and appear more “high maintenance” when I wear a body wave or silk press. When I first went natural at 16 it was jarring how many older black women were shaming me about having “nappy hair”.

[@CamrynElyse]

@@cosmicbrownie333 thank you for sharing! i definitely can see how wigs are fun, as i’ve been having lots of fun exploring wigs recently. i also definitely noticed that people will treat you different based on how you wear your hair, which i find fascinating.

[@cosmicbrownie333]

@@CamrynElyse Yes indeed! Sensationnel has a “kinks & coils” collection and wigs with type 4 edges so I’ve been having a field day getting natural looking wigs. It’s so interesting! Non black men and women are obsessed with my natural hair not so much with black men/women. I’m really in to psychology and sociology. I’d love to hear more of your takes on this. Especially since black hair IS political.

[@bridgettejohnson9085]

I have been natural since 2012 and gotten a lot of compliments on my hair ( I have 4C hair). The females in my family never wore their hair natural. I had to learn through trial & error what worked/failed before it became second nature to me on how to style my hair. I have two daughters ( ages 4 & almost 2 years old) and I love styling their natural hair. I couldn’t braid to save my life before I had kids 😅😂 but I learned quick because I wanted them to love their hair. Also, I love switching up their hairstyles & the look on their faces when I’m finished with their hair is what makes my day ❤.

[@ms_matheny]

It took me 10 years to decide to go from relaxed to natural hair. I did TONS of research by reading books, watching KZbin & asking my hairstylist lots of questions. I've never worn braids or weaves, just rocked my length as is. I don't manipulate my hair by doing braid-/twistouts. I let it do what it do & honestly, I ❤️ it! My curls are so cute & coily. Bear in mind, I'm a "lazy natural" so if it ain't simple...😆

[@cerinaberry]

I ALWAYS get people telling me they thought I was younger (like 20/21 and I’m 26) and I never thought it could be contributed to my natural hair until this video lol. I wear my hair out and I have 3c-4a chin length hair and when I straighten it I personally feel like I look older but I didn’t even think about it.

[@naturallove6615]

Growing up and now I always felt more like me and more comfortable wearing my natural hair. My favorite phase of natural hair for me was my big chop! It was fright after graduated high school and I felt so sexy with my low fro I was that girl. But now I have locs and I love em. I agree we have to get more comfortable wearing and see ourselves with our natural hair. Having patience and getting to know how our hair work. Once that happens it wouldn’t seem like such a difficult task for a lot of black women

[@barbarafallin2038]

I love my natural hair ,no more burnt scalp

[@sonjahattonfarr3487]

Yes!

[@hiniewinie]

Genuine Question here: If natural hair is "childish" and Gen Z is very invested in looking young and doing anti aging stuff... isnt the childish stuff a good thing? Because young does imply being somewhat of a child or teen to me. Or maybe my beauty standard is from somewhere else, not from instagram 🤔

[@eleven-bf4ky]

THERES NOTHING CONTROVERSIAL ABOUT NATURAL HAIR!! YOU EITHER LIKE IT OR YOU DONT. IF YOU DONT WHO CARES🤷

[@shawnbay2211]

20:40 omfg she is so right !! Assimilation is so expensive … on EVERYTHING. There’s so many things where the sacrifice is leagues more expensive than whatever conformity can give back 2 us. Sometimes that assimilation is as much addiction as substance abuse.

[@JayKennedy101]

Motherhood, for me undid all of the work I achieved learning to love my hair. I remember the day I had my second child, postpartum, I was on the floor trying to detangle my thick ass 4c mid back length hair. I had a huge tangle in the front from wearing head wraps for two weeks. I was caring for my baby and breastfeeding non stop. I couldn’t get the tangle out for days and neither could my mom. I got so frustrated I cut it all off after 6 years of growing it natural. From there, I lost the love I had for it. And I’ve been lost ever since. I have locs now but I find myself needing a Loctician to help me retwist because I don’t really know how to. I thought locs easier as a mom. It’s a 3 on a scale 1-10😂

[@CamrynElyse]

@@JayKennedy101 oh my goodness!! thank you for sharing. the way your experience shifted your perspective is interesting, since i feel like i hear women saying the opposite most of the time, especially if they had little girls.

[@jorgegriffith5328]

@@CamrynElyseI think it’s about the time, not the representation for young daughters and loving their natural hair. The issue I sometimes have with the natural hair community is that it sometimes gaslights ppl when you complain about the time it takes to care for 4c hair. It is beautiful, but to say it doesn’t take a lot of work to keep it up is just not true. Sometimes I do envy the women that can just wash their hair and quickly blow dry it in 15 minutes and throw it in a ponytail and go. My hair has to be detangled and dried in sections or braided; a wash and go causes so many knots because my 4c hair loves to tangle up on itself…….so leaving my hair in its 4c state without stretching is a big no no. Locs are cool but aren’t personally an option for me because I have low density hair so I’d look scalpy unfortunately. I end up wearing my hair braided up under natural textured wigs (either blow out textured or braid out look) because at least it requires less daily upkeep 😩 not because of me hating the way my hair looks.

[@lilomonroe3466]

listen one thing abt me? ima wear my hair out, ima wear it down, ima wear it unstyled and throw it into a loose pony tail mid day because i love my hair

[@Lady_Clare4]

I’m so glad I stumbled upon your channel. I never heard this topic before and I’m a senior that listens to natural hair channels. Your view shows the big picture. 👍🏾You Offer grace to those that choose to straighten, weave, or wear wigs. As 4C girlies, we don’t have to make a political statement with a huge fro or wash & go every time we walk out of the door. Kudos 🌷to those that choose to represent. (I got the big chop from the perm in 2004.) ❤👍🏾Thanks for sharing!

[@MissTeaq]

Thanks be to the all mighty algorithm for blessing my feed with you today… You handled this topic phenomenally and I agree with you and the other beautiful melanin rich women you included. Willing you all the success you can healthily manage, along with peace of mind, joy of spirit, and constant divine protection. Take care beloved. ✌🏽💖💡

[@angelr5694]

So on summary, they created a new excuse?...cool

[@GladToBeNatural]

I think i just envy length. I know my hair is growing i just struggled with shrinkage and dont want heat damage. but after 12yrs I allowed myself to straighten my hair in June and it was the best. It made me appreciate my coily hair, im rocking juicy twist right now. I think if we didnt police anyones hair our perception would change. I think i didnt straighten my hair is because damage and what other ppl would think

[@RAJOHN-ke7mc]

Why do you consider shrinkage to be a struggle. Our hair grows this way so it shouldn't be seen as a struggle. I don't use the wore shrinkage to define my hair I typically say unstraightened

[@CamrynElyse]

@@GladToBeNatural yes, i know the Black community tends to be obsessive over length…i also know that hair policing within the Black community has gotten out of hand…sometimes i feel like i don’t experiment with my hair that much (especially regarding straightening) for similar reasons.

[@favouro6344]

It's not shrinkage it's coilage

[@GladToBeNatural]

​@@RAJOHN-ke7mc I considered it a struggle because I used to have relaxed hair from 5th grade to 10th grade. It would stay shoulder length but now that I've been natural it goes to mid back and I want to see it all the time 😂 but that causes damage eventually. But I like your mentality

[@GladToBeNatural]

​@@CamrynElyseyou get it ❤

[@ciarafitts3874]

I didn’t start wearing my natural hair until I was 24, I’m 32 now. I’ve had locs for years. It touches my back. I had my natural hair for years growing up in the 90’s. My mom stayed perming my hair and I wasn’t allowed to swim or truly sweat because of the perms. Once I went natural I never felt the same again

[@Mrs.MaliaDavis]

Subscribed - I loved this conversation! So many of the women including yourself had such true points and really pinpointed the root of the problem. We have to love and accept our 100% natural selves: natural hair, natural face, natural body, EVERYTHING! If we don’t love who God has made us to be then we will never be happy chasing the world’s standards of beauty!🙌🏾😊💕

[@shantamitchell5924]

Both sides bully each other, nature hair, weave, or relaxer . Let people be.

[@xo.frommars]

It's been soOoo long.. I literally used to check my KZbin to see if I turned on my notification for your videos 😭❤it's great to see you again. Thank youu and keep up the good work 👋🏾

[@CamrynElyse]

@@xo.frommars welcome back!! thanks so much for watching and for your support, i’m glad you enjoyed🩷🩷🩷

[@beautyandbrains1695]

Bruh, I wear all kinds if afro wigs and twists outs. Guess I'm childish 😂. I literally feel the prettiest when I'm looking "childish".

[@lifeisall488]

Wearing my curly hair its freedom!! Its work and loving it enough to nourish and care for it 😊 by loving my hair my daughter and son love their own hair too.

[@prettyprincex601]

I do both. I love wearing a buss down but also incorporated wigs that mimic my hair. People will take time to learn how to lay a wig but won’t learn how to do a simple three strand twist

[@sasharibbs5157]

I personally like my hair straight. I wore it natural for 5 years but I recently started flat ironing it again and I love how it showcases my length and it fits more of my aesthetic that Morticia Addams vibe but I’m here for however us black women wanna wear our hair whether that’s a fro, locs, or a buss down if it empowers you do it!

[@Cherishcharmkay]

Your videos are great and very thought provoking. Keep up the great work! Also I have been on the rollercoaster of natural hair throughout my life and I struggle with it constantly because of how its perceived by the outside world and the thoughts about my hair I struggle with. Whether its good enough, professional enough or just enough for special occasions. And I've been wearing my natural hair consistently since 2021. Its alot to unpack and unlearn, but I think we have to start at the root and ask ourselves why we have these thoughts in the first place and remind ourselves that we've been lied to. It's just wrong. Our hair is beautiful and alot of us did not grow up hearing that. Im also curious how the men in the natural hair movement and feeling about this.

[@simplyandoime7344]

Many wise women came along the past one and a half decade and SHOW us the EASY way to GET and KEEP long hair (some videos are still up😊)...But many REFUSE to take that path and CONTINUE to talk bad about the natural hair community (You've made the decision to reject truth and complain afterwards😮) Why destroy the #1 and only movement that has PROVEN to be BENEFICIAL for our ENTIRE EXISTENCE as women of color.

[@gaudylady7]

Hello, I am new to your channel and LOVED this topic. I love my natural hair, its just the shrinkage being the reason why I don’t wear it out much. I use heat resistant kinky wigs. If I spent time properly growing my hair and energy (eating right, supplements, amazing products, grooming correctly, etc.) on growing 20”, I don’t want to leave the house with a small twa…I don’t like how it looks. Also the hairstylists are expensive where I live…they are completely out of my financial limitations.

[@ShanieceSpeaks-v1e]

Get my pixie cut and relaxer tomorrow baby I'm 36 ain't got the time nor the energy yall can keep the natural hair long hair movement I'm on my movement to getting to know God more and life short😂 keeping my hair short and cute and keep it moving 😅

[@MissRandom077]

I would love to wear my own natural hair, I'm sure I can speak for other women as myself who experience "medicated" hair, cancer, thyroid, alopecia etc... Because of the condition the meds left my hair people sometimes ask me why don't I just shave it off. I always respond by saying because of the shape of my head, and because I chose not to look like my "twin" male cousin😃, I rather rock a natural-looking wig. When I was younger rocking a wig wasn't a thought only the elderly wore wigs, we, my generation, adored our relaxed hair or natural textures. I had a debate with a guy friend yesterday who said men only value women who wear their natural hair and women who wear their natural hair value themselves more. I asked him WFT does valuing yourself has to do with hair. I get that some women hate their natural because of texture or shrinkage but I don't see why anyone should devalue themselves because of what society or social media thinks. I know that was random lol, maybe because I'm ol school, I can't believe that with everything that's going on in this world, hair texture is a conversation. Great video.

[@bd3966]

This was a really well done video. I especially relate to the fact that most of us did not see adults wearing natural hair styles for special events or even on an everyday basis so we see our natural hair as something related to childhood. If more grown women wore their hair natural in a myriad of styles as adults maybe little girls would feel the need to slap on a wig or relax their hair all the time.

[@EM-cy2ml]

hi, thank you for your video, for my part I have kinky 4c long hair (middle of the buttocks). and for me yes, it rejuvenates me and yes it takes time. I understand your arguments, but for me, we are not all equal when it comes to routine. for example as I said I have fine 4c hair so my curls are very tight, they are often tangled, and if I wear them without having done any styling (braid, twist out etc) that's the dead. there my sisters who have thicker hair and more in the form of waves than curls (still being kinky) spend less time detangling it and can go out casually without doing anything to their hair etc. Also, I think it's a delusion to believe that kinky hair can come out of the shower without doing anything. In countries where black women are present they always have a way of wearing their hair to protect it, and even when it is let down they are styled because it is easier for manipulation. so no it's not being complex or anything else, especially if you want long and voluminous hair, having rituals and techniques is the best. finally I have a wig I don't feel obliged to wear it (it's a closure that I put on without glue), it's wavy and not frizzy because otherwise. what is the point? In my opinion. a wig allows you to change your head. If it's to have the same thing, well, I might as well keep my hair. especially since thanks to this I no longer straighten my hair (which damages it). even worse if I had a long and voluminous frizzy wig I would be self-conscious about my hair, because I would compare the wig to my real texture. I hope it wasn't too long

[@CamrynElyse]

@@EM-cy2ml i like your perspective! i definitely think that different hair types are gonna require different kinds and levels of maintenance for sure. my hair stretched is just shy of tailbone length, which i grew from being ear length and even i noticed the changes in routine and time i takes to care for my hair on a weekly basis! i think the point i was trying to make in the video is that people should be realistic about their hair goals, their lifestyle, and their texture to determine how they wear their hair. otherwise, you run into a lot of unnecessary grief in trying to deal with your hair. also, for the wigs part, just to clarify, my statement was specifically referencing those that say they wear wigs to protect their natural hair with no self hate involved…i just feel like we would see more kinky curly wigs if that were truly the case. however, i do understand wearing wigs to switch it up from time to time because i’ve been exploring wigs recently and like how it can be a convenient way to switch things up. i will say that i do question how “switching it up” all the time can truly be considered switching it up. for instance, how can you “switch it up” from your natural hair if we never actually even see your hair ever? thank you for watching!!🩷

[@EM-cy2ml]

I totally agree with you. I just wanted to bring my experience and a little nuance. but yes I find it a shame that some people use braids and wigs to hide their hair, even worse neglecting them. personally I think that if you can buy a wig for 400$/€ (I'm French), you can at least have nice hair (even if it's not very long). in any case thank you again for your video subject

[@ahmarindungu9010]

You’re back 😍

[@honeybraswell625]

I embrace being able to switch up my hair. My hair is very long & thick and curly. Each curl does it's own thing and frizz is apart of my life. I don't feel childish wearing my hair in it's natural state, but it definitely gives "bohemian or Farmer's Market Chic, Diana Ross in the 80s". That's not always the look I want to rock everyday for every event. Once or twice a year, I get my ends trimmed and get my hair silked out. I'm approaching my 40s & my hair is about 35% gray with most of it in the front. I am not the biggest fan of salt & pepper hair, but I love silver hair. So, I wear a short silver wig everyday to work and take it off when I get home. The wig has saved me so much time getting ready in the morning. Unlike with my natural hair I don't get a lot of questions about my racial identity or whether my hair is mine because 1. It's short 2. It's a coarser texture than my natural strands. Growing up I wasn't the biggest fan of my hair. I didn't learn to love my hair until I got relaxers and wore it long and straight. People were obsessed with my hair. I notice that my hair is easier to manage when it's in a straight style. If I wanted a pixie cut or wore a short curly cropped hair cut, my hair would be very easy to manage as well. The reason so many of us don't all have a short cut that is easy to manage or rock locs is because both of those types of styles have been associated with masculinity. So many women across racial lines desire long hair. Having long hair or being able to demonstrate that you can shake your ponytail or even grow a ponytail makes us feel like we're "that" girl. I have never seen a cheerleader, majorette, volleyball player, ballerina or figure skater with short hair or locs. Anyway, it's 2024. Sending love to all Black women who have hair & those who don't and the ones who don't like/love their hair. We've been put through too much. We have to stop trying to be everything to everyone. The best thing we can do is love each other and respect their style even if they prefer straight, wavy, loose curls or blonde hair. And the girls with those styles need to respect the sistas with short t.w.a's, locs puffs, twists, bantu knots, braids and frizzy curls.

[@cscreative5460]

People think I’m crazy but I actually love yaki weaves and I truly prefer it above all. I’m actually upset I have so many shiny straight wish when I like the kinky and yaki textures for extensions.

[@zarario4444]

Change your diet and your hair will grow. You will not need the weaves.

[@cscreative5460]

@@zarario4444 please rest. I’ve been natural for 10 years with hair down my back

[@je3877]

No woman on this earth appreciates their hair like us. Stop complaining. Appreciate the time we have to invest in loving ourselves. Take the time and build the character that only black women can have. We are the ONLY women on this earth that are capable of these characteristics. Shalom

[@Zowgie]

Interesting how people pay so much money to look younger but despise looking young with their hair

[@Cuttypie201]

Got my hair relaxed at age 5. Went back to natural at 18. Relaxed again at 30 because I thought it would be easier…chile a year later I’ve cut all the relaxer off and going back to natural. I can’t believe social media made be believe relaxers were better.

[@coldblooded568]

I love the way you talk and your mindset is so wholesome and helpful. Wishing the best for your channel. ❤

[@yesplatinum7956]

I’m white but I don’t understand why they hate the look of their natural hair. I understand that it can be hard to take care of and you know history but it’s literally so pretty I love curly hair and especially when taken care of. Much better than wigs imo it just doesn’t really look right usually idk why

[@glassawata]

I have 3c hair and my stylist said it makes me look homely

[@missesfrommorriell6342]

Hey, im so glad this showed on my fyp😅 just two days ago i was with my MAN (now ex ) and another guy thought i was underage with him ! I explained to him that im over 21 and all. He thought my bf was with a high schooler. I asked him why he thought that. He said my hair. Im like sir THIS IS MY NATURAL HAIR i cant help that to you it's childish ! That's what he said! Its "kid" like ?? LIKE WHAT

[@CamrynElyse]

@@missesfrommorriell6342 OH WOW😭

[@jjanuelo]

Since I've been growing out my hair and embracing/ loving the hair that grows out of my head, a select few people have asked me if I'm "okay." My hair is in mini braids and I style it in buns or sometimes I just wear them out, but regardless, I think I look nice. It's wild to see so many aunties checking my wellbeing because I don't have a 28in bussdown anymore..

[@cinderellahour1070]

I love my hair. I can make it easily do whatever. Tight curls. Lose curls, waves, straight. It's versatile.

[@twilson951]

I have been wearing my hair in two braids, it has felt so freeing. Im single, but I’m older, so I just stopped caring about everyone else’s opinion.

[@Jdb74985]

Ladies, i think y'alls natural hair is absolutely stunning. My friend Laquadra wears braids at times, but she wears her natural hair a lot, and although she's ALWAYS beautiful, i think she kind of glows with her natural hair. Especially when she wears it pulled back, and it's this gorgeous curly thick poof style ponytail...makes me wish i had her hair. I can see why it's y'alls crown 👑

[@shellygarland8766]

lipglosss was onto something and everyone ignored it bc she essentially said she still gets attention even when her hair isn't styled

[@jackson12802]

I think it so interesting the negativity black woman place on our hair. I’m a millennial so I just missed the explosion of the internet and social media. I also live in a rural community and simply wasn’t around wig and weave culture. I have tried them once or twice and thought it looked weird. So it was never something I could do. I don’t think this struggle it limited to black women. I’ve noticed white women deal with this too. Especially white women with curly hair or thin fine straight hair