The Non-Needy Networking Process (How To Make High Value Connections)

"Your network is your networth" and the internet has created the potential to network with millionaires and high value individuals. If you want to build a name, income, and reputation for yourself, you can't skip this step.
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0:00 I'm An Introvert
4:13 The Digital World Has No Barriers
10:51 The Power Of The DM
13:06 The 7 Steps To Non-Needy Networking
14:08 Step 1 - Find Someone You WANT To DM
16:19 Step 2 - Send Them An Inspired Compliment
17:11 Step 3 - Show Interest In Them
18:02 Step 4 - Lead With Value
18:44 Step 5 - Get On A Call To Make A Deeper Connection
20:11 Step 6 - Follow Up With Value
21:24 Step 7 - Follow Up With An Ask
24:09 Bonus Step 8 - This Isn't Immediate
Video title ideas (for the algo!):
How to guarantee social media growth
The best way to grow as a creator, one-person business, or solopreneur
Build high value connections for the future of work
#OnePersonBusiness #CreatorEconomy #Networking

[@thedavidboland]

one of my takeaways from this is to just express the thing I’m already thinking to a creator after consuming their content, rather than silently appreciating. That feels good to me.

[@weisscoaching]

Yeah, do this! From my perspective of a small creator,it always feels great to get words of appreciation. I bet it is encouraging to you as well!

[@Nathan7041]

The core concern with praise is that successful people get an excess of it, creating echo chambers and positive feedback loops or "white noise". Its IMPERATIVE to learn how to generate the type of noise that will resonate on the frequency that your target prospect operates on. (Put down exactly what your gut tells you they NEED to pick up every. single. time. forever.)

[@thedavidboland]

@@Nathan7041 whenever I receive positive feedback, it's always the feedback that includes the person sharing the specific experience or benefit they've gained as a result of engaging with my content/music etc. generic stuff is like ok nice but then it's easier to forget about it a moment later.

[@taylormitchum]

Great takeaway, David!

[@JohnnyVichi]

agree davidd

[@CeliaSasser]

58 year old Mom of 5 young adults 🙋‍♀️ I know I am not your target audience, but I am really enjoying your content as I have always created one-person businesses . Anyway, I’ve been on this online journey since 2018 and just wanted to say I’m glad that I stumbled across your channel.

[@breakfreewithlauren]

Same boat! ❤❤

[@abhishekakodiya233]

Its great to see someone of your age enjoying this kinda content. 😇

[@thefeloniousscot3955]

Not for nothing...but Dan has that 2 hour writing course and it's damn good stuff...if you are seriously considering strengthening your online game!

[@MCM214]

58 yr ols Moms and Moms - Dads from 40-70 yrs young are coming to dominate online - boomers have so much knowledge and experience are perfect to build high impact one-person online businesses

[@creative_hax]

Glad to see such a comment. I am also one of Dan's older followers. He's a wise dude and he has helped me so much with his content. Let's slay!

[@thestevennickel]

One great takeaway is the reality that it may seem like a long time to take 2 years to grow your own business but in reality going to 4 years of college, taking a year to find yourself then work for someone for a a few then try to start your own thing. Just a fascinating perspective of how the times have changed with digital.

[@ColterBergh]

Agreed, a great line of thinking.

[@AggieSchen]

What’s up Dan? 28YO Aggy from London ❤ and I am really enjoying your content 🌸 I thought I would share: If the goal is behavior change - people are more suggestible when listening to a story. They also remember them a zillion times better. So if we define the outcome of teaching as changing behavior - stories, not facts, are the most effective route. And it’s been a long transition for me to tell stories. The biggest belief I had to break was that stories weren’t valuable. But they’re the most valuable. Facts people forget. Stories they remember. And you may think “well my audience is smarter, they think stories are fluff, they appreciate facts.” But it’s the opposite. The smartest investors in the world are still swayed by a good story. After all, anyone can regurgitate facts. It takes skill to tell a good story. So level up rather than hiding behind your ego of saying you’re “above” it. When I’m reality, you just don’t know how. - Alex Hormozi

[@mohamedelaminebenasla1140]

Hi dear Dan I beg your pardon for my poor English, but I try hard to write to you expressing my admiration for you and the content you provide, and you should know that I follow all your videos and wait for all your new I hope to meet you someday Greetings from Algeria

[@weisscoaching]

The content you share speaks truly to my soul. What I also appreciate is the laid back, relaxed vibe without the "modern" cut every 5 seconds, high pace etc. To keep the viewers attention. You know what we are here for, and you provide just that!

[@YouTubeOrganicMarketing]

Amen

[@acegik71]

Summarising the video which actually is an absolute gem: 1. Find people you want to DM - who inspire you, with whom you want to work, where there is a mutual benefit, people with whom you would want to strategize with. Follow the person who want to, then see their following list and engage with them who are similar to the nature of work as you are 2. Send them an inspired compliment - “This hit me hard, I resonated so much with this that I have been thinking about it for 2 days”. Keep doing that until they respond 3. Show interest in them - Ask what are their goals, what are they building, what they do for work, how you can add value for them. If they don’t answer then see their profile and ask what are your next plans with your YT channel, what are you building right now with this kind of big audiences, 4. Lead with value - send actional tips, send videos, docs, links that can add value to the other person, connect them with someone in your network, 5. Get on a call to make deeper connect - show actually who you are and how can both you mutually help each other 6. Follow up with value - As you have known their work better, you know the resources that can help them better, or something that you created yourself for them (a template, SoPs etc) so keep a string of conversation alive with value 7. Follow up with an ask - ask them to join a community, send them a post for feedback, ask any specific questions from them, ask if you can tag them, write something that you learnt from them Pro Tip - This isn’t immediate, it will take time. Start DMing 2 people, then 5 then 10. You need to work for free as well to polish your skills before you move to a point where you get paid.

[@OMahmed-ft2mj]

Thank you sooooo much ❤

[@ZmashedIndustries]

Best outro yet, Dan. I’ve started writing for the first time in my life because of your content and I couldn’t thank you enough for that reality slap! ‘Stop being a bitch’ and ‘get your shit together’ are phrases that also resonate with my way of being. Not that anyone cares about what resonates with me, just wanted to express my gratitude towards your efforts! Keep these diamonds coming

[@titaallaround9692]

Wow! I'm a certified introvert and everything you said about networking in person resonates with me. I'm gonna have to save this video and listen all over again. Thanks, man! This is so full of value.

[@rahulshendre7089]

what you said in the intro was so true, yesterday while I was walking I too had the same thought don't try to hide behind the introvert thing you have

[@KorelcTjasa]

Your words made me start writing every single day since the day I started listening to your videos. I am 38, I started my business in spagyric medicine and alchemy after studying for 19 years. I am still overcoming my sense of not being good enough. It is hard to accept that things pretty much moved online and people are getting distracted by stupid superficial things (me too), when all I wanted to do was help people get back their sovereignty, their health, their power and their sense of sacredness. I realized I can give some ancient wisdom back to the world even through social media.Thank you for your sincerity and humbleness.

[@KorelcTjasa]

Still writing🥳

[@OMahmed-ft2mj]

It was so excited when i read your comment,we have somthing in common, keep going and never stop. 👍

[@awaissso0832]

Can I connect with you, I think it can beneficial for both of us , wys ?

[@robertwaterson9785]

Dan, you make it so simple with the way you describe things in your posts and tweets. your the only "guru" that I can trust in this will web. I purchased 2-hour writer and I toke the first step. I'm patiently walking through the course while still working on my platforms (tweeter and linked in) I'm so thankful for your content. you really helped me get out of a mental rut by showing me clarity in your unique and artistic way of writing and content. your message mean a lot to me. maybe will meet each other someday. KEEP BUILDING AND KEEP CREATING!

[@tylerteal]

All right man, you've inspired me to comment. You've been providing so much value to me over the past few months and I really like your perspective on the digital landscape and how we can all carve our own paths as creators. I'm going to buy you 2 hour writer course soon.

[@sophiada376]

I FEEL LIKE THE HOLE SEASON IS OVER, I'M TRYING TO GET INTO TRADING AS A ROOKIE, BUT I'VE HAD SO MUCH LOSS TRYING TO TRADE ON MY OWN, PLEASE WHAT STRATEGIES DO I NEED TO EARN PROFITS FROM THE MARKET

[@vinedavid3413]

Great! Personally I love proving people wrong. Friends investing in bitcoin for me has been impressing, how much do you make of it? If don't mind me asking

[@wanyejordan8693]

Just bought $10k Ethereum and $30k bitcoin with the recent dump in crypto I was told it's the right time to buy and get ready for a skyrocket

[@willamjoshua4141]

I just withdraw my profit last two days before now. am glad i did invest with them still reinvested and the trade is ongoing

[@christianethan9048]

Glad to know many already benefited from her not just me and my friends, she has really made a good name for herself, apart from her amazing. profits, honesty is the key, trading without fear is very important...

[@jordanbilly7431]

Expert Mrs Stacy griffin kartner is the trade queen as far I'm concerned. This woman has really changed the lives of many people from different countries

[@vladislavbogac6911]

Man You're just the best thing that could happen to our digital generation out there.

[@johannakimura]

Feisty Dan got me today! Thanks for putting out for free something so high valuable as this. It makes me even more eager to join your paid courses, since putting 7 Days Writer Challenge in action already changed my perspective about how simpler (not necessarily easier) it is to build the path towards my life vision, than I thought. Studying and doing courses for over 10 years now, led me to your lessons to break me out of inertia after all. I can see already the day I meet you in person, and tell you all about how I made that vision into life. And so it is 🌄

[@beyondwerds]

I’m not sure what’s better, the fact that you picked up the phone call from your tax guy or that you kept it in. I loved that touch.

[@jackiek4159]

Thank you for all of the value you provide us with Dan! Sending lot's of love, light and blessings to all out there! 🙏🏻💞✨

[@belljoe]

This seems like the worst period. Even the market are now very unpredictable. Started invêsting recently when the market prices were a bit high,today I am more than 60% down!

[@Robertgriffinne]

Even with the right technique this days some investors will still make more than others. With the guidance of Trev tait mozingo I learnt nothing beats experience in the market..

[@tradekings5433]

Most of the professionals on YT and IG copy trade him that's how they make enormous profits from seemingly unknown market.

[@wolfhound5108]

Lol. I'm one of them. Not a pro though,started last year in all honesty wish I had known about him earlier.

[@Natalieneptune469]

I'm your new subscriber, Love your content.Trev has already made a name for himself his reviews are exceptional I was able to grow an account close to a million,withdraw my profit right before the correction and now am buying again ..

[@Patriciacraig599]

It's the market, if you can't be on it on the bad days,you shouldn't be in it at all.

[@marinasaga]

“Get your shit together” was precisely what I needed to hear this evening. Thank you, Dan!😂

[@Denmosocial]

Can confirm, I DM'd Dan Koe now I live in the shed in his backyard

[@MrYounis26]

Does the shed come with your own free home gym set up?

[@hellotakema]

"I'm feeling feisty today" LOL. Story of my life😂 Fabulous video Dan. Nothing but TRUTH

[@stefanntei]

Thank you Dan! Your simple way of explaining things that I’ve thought about in the past but could never fully understand amazes me once again. Much love❤

[@finnstewart214]

As always, Dan Koe provides the kind of value you can't get anywhere else! 💯💯💯

[@MohdReezamMohamed]

agree

[@taylormitchum]

LITERALLY

[@robertwaterson9785]

Dan just simplifies the simple truths that a lot of other gurus out there seem to twist around to sell you thier shit.

[@krissywhiskiart]

Thank you for this! It’s exactly what I needed to here today. I’ve been silently watching and following your channel for a while now. I mostly don’t comment because I am listening while I paint. I’m new to KZbin and I’m learning the video content creation game because it’s become a key business requirement on the internet going forward. This video helps me feel confident enough to reach out and ask video creators in my network what tools they use or routines they follow so I can get consistent and better in that format and sell more of my art.

[@zacnielsencoaching]

Love it Dan!

[@genarmendez3899]

Thank you for this Dan. I’ve definitely been a lurker, but this is inspiring me to break out of that “identity”. Discovering your content this past month was the push I needed to start creating my own personal brand/business and leave my current job. Many blessings to you and this community.

[@daniel.poulter]

Love this Dan! 🎉

[@DaveSy]

Such great breakdown that eases the stress of networking. Thank you for reaffirming that it’s not that complicated, and the opportunities can really compound over time.

[@Gowithjackson]

I love that your videos are a solid mix between short form with great content and long form that isn’t to long. Great stuff

[@georgeaboh]

Dan thanks for giving me my confidence back!! I have downplayed myself, skills and potentials for so long. Speaking up, asking for help, and not reaching out made me lost a lot of opportunities. I repent.

[@thefocuschic3234]

Thank you for the tips. I find real value in your method

[@stefaniemick5396]

So glad I listened to this at your recommendation in one of your podcasts. I listen and watch your videos. I so much appreciate how you get right into the specifics especially your clear thinking and straight forward explanations. Plus the feisty hard hitting your provide gets me out of my head. Thank you very much!

[@oscardasilva971]

Thank you Dan. Thousands of people are Talking everyday about content marketing but you are just unique and stand out easily. You are proving that you know what you're Talking about.

[@jane28dorset]

Thanks for your feisty vibes. 'Just get your shit together'. Solid advice. Starting my own business after leaving state teaching and your teaching has been invaluable. Much appreciated. Have a most excellent day :)

[@beebsblue]

As a fellow introvert this was super useful 💗

[@YouTubeOrganicMarketing]

As always... Great insights, Dan. Keep killing it, my man.

[@Hackingworkshop101]

The one thing that got me hook with your contents, is your authenticity and calmness to what you are saying

[@sleepconcentrationmeditation]

I've been doing some of these intuitively and this video just gave me a good pat on the back. Thank you, Dan.

[@TrevorMakes]

This was very helpful, thanks Dan! I'm still trying to figure out what I'm doing, but I found your content reassuring that what I'm working on improving is putting me on the right track. Getting boosted by total strangers on Twitter and seeing how many more views it drove to my YT content drove the point home that I need to be networking more.

[@dimon.digital]

I found a new term for myself - "solopreneur", which perfectly fits me. Thank you for a priceless content, mister Dan! Wish you a goodness, fully hapiness and highly productive year 😍🤑🤩🤗

[@zadshops]

OMG, Mr. Dan, You are a mentor, teacher and truly a bless. Thank God I found your content.

[@KingAcespade6]

I needed this paradigm shift confirmation. I'd been thinking this for so long, had my own confirmations, but you said what I needed to hear. Much appreciated.

[@OnTopOfTheWorldMedia]

Dan, I cannot understate the importance of your post. You've given me a pathway to reaching out to events promoters. I also want to start my own podcasts on KZbin and again, you've given me a systematic approach to doing this. I salute you sir!!!

[@AIwithSeemi]

Dan I liked your direct style of coming to the point. I really value people who have the ability of cutting through the BS and giving a valuable message in just a few secs. Commendable wisdom gained through self work! Precious indeed!

[@thelenmayofficial]

yo, your content really helps a lot I've been watching a couple videos, got so motivated to start writing more and creating content thank you !!!!!! big love

[@DanielTAllen]

From one Dan to another, great video! The biggest key is the fact that you cannot do this if you’re in a heavy, “give me” mode, looking for an instant come up. And it’s amazing how intuitively one can create relationships this way when there’s real authenticity and a genuine desire to serve. ❤️‍🔥🙌🏾

[@vukpjescic]

Great stuff bro... Been in digital marketing for eternity, from funnels architecture to copywriting and definitely felt like there's not much new things to learn... But your videos are expanding my horizons:) Thx!:)

[@farazahmed9588]

11:44 - That was such a quick change in expression. I admire your character Dan.

[@mutene]

That line about the ease of connecting with someone who is , let's say "internet famous" is golden. Getting used to that makes it easier (mentally) to reach out to anyone online. I try to remind myself that everyone is human. The vid is helpful, thanks DK.

[@yaralove09]

God damn Dan. You dragged the shit out of me today. Love the "get your shit together" content. Thank you for your perspective.

[@lrholik]

Awesome content! Thanks for sharing! Been there, done that - old school. Love that you’re sharing this!

[@GyasiO]

I love how I can come back to these videos like its a fresh water spring. Your views per viewer metric must be crazy.

[@RisewithRose888]

Thank you for your content! You’ve opened my eyes to the digital renaissance. I have so much information I’ve learned over the years, and I didn’t know how to systemize the information to create profitable products or services I enjoy. Your content is gold to those who see its value. I am encouraged to develop a discipline around writing and messaging like-minded creators. Thank you again!

[@ras998]

Love your videos Dan. This one is liquid gold. Thanks for actionable bite size steps. Its easy to act on this as opposed advice like "do higher leverage activities".

[@anilkadambottil]

Thanks Dan...Good principles and very well explained.Will be working on it right away.

[@sbraganca]

Your content is gold to me! Thank you.

[@heroicdragon]

I was waiting for this one. Thanks.

[@europebasedvlogs1251]

Internet vs Network Inspiring people 21:19 Follow up with value Follow up with ask - join a group etc 22:22 Not quick its long game Start now not later

[@alexx59ful]

Thank you so much, I needed this. I'm an introvert and it's really not easy to connect with strangers. I'll do it now, compliment people on their content and their ideas.

[@siyasamente9590]

I enjoyed this video especially since I've generally identified as an introvert and I had been using the "problematic" perspective you mentioned equating this introverted tendency with poor social skills for a while although I've definitely grown my abilities over the years. You make the path of content creation seem much clearer & more feasible keep up the great work.

[@JSmithy177]

The very first video i've viewed on this channel and the reaching out to people over dms really stuck out to me. Something so simple! But I'd never really considered before. This is just what i needed to hear before starting my own business and posting content online. Thanks Dan!

[@giomukti8595]

Very useful and pragmatic advice Dan. Thank you!

[@anafernandes225]

Dan, I related to your story during school. In the 80s introverts had a hard time to find their space. This video was very important to me, to find my niche in such a big space.

[@carlinroche]

I’ve never considered that this ‘uncertain’ path, is actually the ‘short-cut’ to success that people aren’t willing to leave the ‘security’ for. 🤯 thanks Dan 🙏

[@tomasfinkel]

This is pure gold. Thanks

[@richmondz]

Yet another fire video. Great stuff, Dan! ❤

[@kevchavez]

Massive value as always! Thanks, Dan! 🙌🏽

[@geraldkyle5819]

Thank you, I 'm learning a lot of great content from you. Thanks again.

[@richardsantana4767]

This was such an awesome video man. Really tuned it and took a lot from this content. Will be subscribing

[@lelet424]

Thanks for sharing all your knowledge through these videos ❤

[@danthienphoto]

I just watched this video and the two before it - my perspective on the creator economy and the potential that exists has completely changed. Thanks Dan. Value received.

[@IRL_Just_in_Time]

As always, Thank you for your videos.

[@SharonDeCaro]

Dan, discovered your channel two weeks ago. I’m wowed by the value you provide. What hit home is the Twitter info. I’ve been on Twitter since 2011, had over 2500 followers doing nothing. After hearing you, I need to jump back on it. Thanks!

[@CodyHortonTalent]

Great insight. Thank you!

[@LongTran-id2pl]

Woowww Dan, your video really changed my mind on building relationship! As a new grad from Computer Science (a total nerd and introvert), i felt the urge to starts talking and expanding my network, and your video had the best tips I’ve heard on how to use social media! Thank you so much 😊

[@shadow8277]

i like it when you rcideos are honest and raw without being coddling!

[@robackerx]

The amount of value you give is astounding my friend 🔥

[@digitalproductandartbusine1382]

Love you man , Great Info

[@soh.lagrange]

Thanks Dan, I really struggle with networking. Thanks for the roadmap man.💯

[@kellyjoanneknight]

Thank you - I get so much value from your content Dan

[@ParasTube]

You’re saying a lot of things I like or need ❤

[@davidjenkins5419]

Thank you for your in-depth caring instruction for all to benefit. Your message has a broader note for everyone to hear, actually. Sharing more good karma tags.

[@insaineyesay]

Man. It's so crazy. I hear your mental and it reminds me exactly of myself. It's speaking to me exactly where I'm at in my online journey. It's insane. Thank you.

[@loncampbell]

All of this is pure gold Dan! As a fellow introvert, it's been a growing process to get out of my shell. Wish I learned this a lot early in life :-) Thank you!

[@bdbbxbx1674]

Nobody packs big picture philosophical information into actionable advice like Dan, thanks for making content man!

[@AdeKingston33]

Starting a new channel, taking your advice with building a personal brand ...I believe it will be the best means of credibility in the near future, I am introverted too and deeply resonate with your messages Dan... Thank you

[@ANUJSINGH-zn2jg]

When ever I watch your video , its like I have entered some another dimension .Thanks man!

[@freedomtobeintheknow-kryst9705]

Loving the content!

[@Danial-Qureshi]

Dan this is such a valuable video for me and all of our peers! Thank you for sharing and making an impact on me going forward I will implement all the tips provided and hopefully I can get to your level, Sahil's level, and many more!

[@TheQuietQuote]

HILARIOUS comedic drop at 19:57-20:00. LOL...Thanks for the content Dan! Very well spoken and well delivered.

[@nicohein]

Completely shifted my perspective when it comes to networking. Thanks Dan

[@thomashayes3783]

I am grateful for this straightforward insight. Too often this type of information is presented in a punching-down manner that can render some listeners deaf. The concept discussed here is one of my first and greatest excuses/stumbling blocks to growth. I've known for a long time that I need to know movers and shakers, experts and the impassioned, but my impostor syndrome b.s. always shoots it down with "What the eff can I bring to this person's life? They're literally the expert and I am the nobody. Even nobodies don't have time for nobodies, or else I wouldn't be trying to improve my situation in life." Blah blah blah. It just feels like such a Herculean task to get past that internal barrier. But nothing worth doing is easy or fast.

[@Oli_Hu]

As a very introverted person, that was the last straw! I'm getting my shit together starting now.

[@velvetpetalsvp]

Wow. Very beneficial points that others will charge an arm, a leg, and an organ for. Thank you Dan 🙌🏽

[@stevecollis2487]

I've tried several times to build a brand on social media, with varying degrees of success. I was always disappointed. Guess what - I never networked. The idea of actually talking to people on social media put me off. How did I expect to grow?! Thank you Dan, huge value in your content as always, appreciate it.

[@indiasaffairs-explained2859]

Hey man, yours is the finest channel i have come across with whom I resonate so much I have started to think very profoundly of these things You are really creating a genuine impact my friend, i really wanna see your channel grow And i wish you a very luck.

[@Cordellthe2nd]

Content is 🔥 Modern Mastery HQ is 🔥 Being a part of the Sprint is 🔥 Feisty Dan giving 26:24 is def 🔥 Thanks🖤for all you share man🙏🏾

[@bernicemirany2474]

These are amazing tips. I've just learnt to differentiate excitement from anxiety, and that helps with talking to people one on one and online. I will add DMing people everyday to my daily schedule. I will implement these tips and check back with you after six months. Thanks a lot for making this video. I can actually see it in your eyes that you're introverted :)

[@robertbogin]

Thanks Dan, resourceful content. There is so much i learnt from this video.