The [not so] Glamorous Life of Wives of Diplomats. | Nicole Nasr | TEDxLSE

[@blueberries4771]

I dont want to be wife of diplomat,i want to be diplomat itself,wish me luck :")

[@riichobamin7612]

Good luck !

[@azaka3720]

me too

[@Koreansak]

Best luck

[@judgejustice280]

Good luck 🙏🏻

[@salwaahn]

Omg me too!!!

[@SofiaDeBom]

I’m definitely showing this to my husband one day if I have one. He will be the husband of a diplomat (I’m really positive about it)

[@alisonporras7753]

Same, girl.

[@shaolinaguha1547]

Cake & Tea hey...... I also find the job of a diplomat cool..but isn't it difficult when you have a male spouse who can't find a suitable job abroad and thereby both starts living apart for the entire years of service... great loss to one's personal life

[@charusahu5961]

I really hope you don't have to go through a long distance relationship.

[@ambiliramachandran5739]

Same Sis

[@dreamyhayan670]

Same here

[@tomohiroharada336]

Great insight. My wife just became a diplomat for one of the European countries, and by the time I finish my PhD, we will be heading out to her first mission. More and more women are becoming diplomats around the world and I wouldn't be surprised if there is a transformation now as gender streotyping is beginning to crack and social infrastructure surrounding diplomatic networks will have to adopt to this new reality. Let's see what happens...

[@sophiapatriot112]

Perhaps I will be in your wife’s position. Wondering what goes through the man’s mind. I hope your experience has been an amazing journey.

[@melanieb1622]

I myself am a junior diplomat. When I was doing my Masters thesis, I interviewed an Ambassador in Brussels and I will never forget what he told me: "If you want to become involved in diplomacy, you have to choose: marriage or a career". At first I thought he was being sexist, as I am a woman. But then he added that he never married as he could never sustain a relationship. Today, this is a topic that does come up between me and my coworkers. If I weren't a diplomat, I absolutely wouldn't want to marry someone in this profession - I'd run the other way. As a student I was also friends with the daughter of a diplomat who grew up in several countries and studied in various international schools. While this was of great benefit to her, I was deeply saddened when I found out for the first time that diplomats' spouses (never mind just the wives, although I'm sure they form the majority) aren't allowed their own career.

[@StudyJQ]

Melanie can you tell me? is it possible that a diplomates wife can do work from there mother country after marriage with her forginer husband? Actually my friend is from India and wants to marry the French girl and she is doctor there . So after marriage can she will be able to do work from her mother country or she have to leave the work and go with her Indian diplomat husband?? Because here in India it's a rule that if you marry to a forginer than He/ She have to take Indian citizenship... Please guide me????

[@GbemisolaOluwasina]

Diplomats are basically another set of travelling ministers.

[@pratapsinghkanishk]

This makes me sad as I want to be a diplomat. I always thought that what a great job it is to travel the world, meet new people, understand different cultures. What I failed to imagine was the aspect of family life.

[@ketihawk5544]

No it's really fine. I'm almost 17 and have been traveling the world my whole life because my dad is a diplomat. My mom would work as a teacher at the international school or sometimes works at the embassy too. It's actually a great family life style because then the kid grows up with a diverse better understanding of the world.

[@StudyJQ]

@@ketihawk5544 keti can you tell me? is it possible that a diplomates wife can do work from there mother country after marriage with her forginer husband? Actually my friend is from India and wants to marry the French girl and she is doctor there . So after marriage can she will be able to do work from her mother country or she have to leave the work and go with her Indian diplomat husband?? Because here in India it's a rule that if you marry to a forginer than He/ She have to take Indian citizenship... Please guide me????

[@jeonjungkook5565]

GOD SAME

[@sarahferry4879]

Deep closing note, wives are the essence and the seeds of every families.

[@utkarshmehra5253]

Very true and beautifully said..

[@luwanevari7948]

Indeed. ❤️

[@susmitamal4329]

Beautiful.. it was.. the way she spoke it all.. just felt out of her heart

[@jonathanhonggono333]

I really want to work for my country in this kind of field, wish me luck , an 8th grader from the republic of Indonesia!

[@ferdinand.bumpliz]

Amen to that, hope we can meet in this career someday! a 12th grader also from indonesia

[@jessicazhang8075]

I wish to work in this field as well! It seems we’re quite similar as I’m also an 8th grader :)

[@smiley_fuzzypants6821]

Same I’m a 11th grader right now, wish all you guys luck.

[@liv5527]

I don't wanna be the wife of an diplomatic. ✨I wanna be the diplomatic ✨

[@partigianoliberal]

Good luck man!

[@abhaysr3091]

Now watch the entire video again but imagine whatever she says, she says without a tone. You will realise this is one of the best job in the world. You attitude decides your life.

[@TXGRunner]

Rules differ with different foreign services. In the US foreign service, there is no prohibition against earning money. In fact, the US Department of State goes to great lengths to help spouses find employment. Granted, a spouse may not be able to pursue their chosen profession. Worse, because US diplomats relocate frequently, spouses frequently can't rise very high within an organization because they simply are not going to be in one place very long. In the US Foreign Service, many spouses are employed by the embassy in supporting roles. In some cases, spouses are able to also become a foreign service officer. One other point is the assumption the wife is the spouse who is not a foreign service officer. I know one man, a teacher by education, who was the husband of a diplomat. It happens. I appreciate I am nitpicking, as everything else you said sounds quite right and well delivered.

[@pinguinobc]

I have to agree with a couple other comments here: not all spouses of diplomats are women. A more inclusive talk would have discussed the challenges face by both wives and husbands of diplomats.

[@cruisekaushik9981]

Being a wife of any officer be it a fouji, a diplo or any other . Wives play a greater role than their husbands

[@noelsmaison685]

I agree

[@MyExperiencesAbroad]

Very well said👍🙂

[@Deepak_Rathore0]

Behind every successful man there is hand of a women

[@mrsertech]

Ambassadors are not the only diplomats: a US Embassy and Consulates in a large foreign country will staff up to 100 diplomats working under the Ambassador. The overseas living of the wives of those diplomats are totally unlike that described by the speaker and much more like that of a wife of a US businessman living abroad.

[@danielr.5148]

I felt the same way. I feel like she described it well but somewhat narrowly.

[@iammilorex]

I disagree. She's describing Ambassadors/ High Commissioners - but in my experience 80% is true for many Diplomats.

[@madhumitaathaley551]

This was a really good talk, enjoyed it.

[@notsodiplomaticwife]

Im really happy and proud you are talking about this topic...thank you so much for speaking about this!!!

[@arunavasarkar3600]

This was a truly amazing talk. Thank You. Nicole.

[@eddieibarra356]

I always wanted to be a diplomat so I could live in different parts of the world.

[@theafricanboss]

Husbands of diplomats are the most bored of all. I know from experience

[@bhoomikasharma4551]

@Dr Nicole NasrI'm a teenager and I'm interested in the same topic as you are and want to discuss few more informations with you. Can I have any means of communication with you via emails or any of the other platform?? have a good day.😇

[@MrMarcos635]

Why?

[@theafricanboss]

@@MrMarcos635Since spouses are not allowed to work, he just hangs there and if they are old and kids are gone or they don't have any, he can't even be a stay at home dad, just a stay at home person alone taking on hobbies, etc to keep busy. Hard to keep that lifestyle for years when you're not retired.

[@eduarda.costache7321]

Exactly, and eventually he will start showing some resentment and his wife (the diplomat) will get bored and fed up and forget the sacrifices he did for her and the kids to keep it all together by following her everywhere, and she will start seeing him as a beta male even though he did the right thing and was a good father and husband

[@kassrripples3659]

Looking for information on trailing spouses (I’m a wife, but spouses in general) and trailing children of international workers... we are in the USA on a E3 visa. I am the dependent spouse. Our children are dependent children of a E3 visa holder. There is a unique discussion to be had about our experience. Diplomats have a different experience.

[@faezaharhan797]

Most of it is about making the right decisions

[@nitishsrivastava8940]

She is beautiful....

[@poochyoreo]

I will be diplomat one day ...i promised myself

[@himanshusaxena3319]

Amazing talk.....

[@ykivikram]

I hope my would be wife will understand this.

[@fivegkills6111]

Then you'll have to marry a less educated and less driven woman.

[@misojsl]

what happens to the husbands of diplomat i'm curious for my other half

[@lucy-ferprofiler5379]

sad.... we should teach our daughters to aspire to be diplomats, not "the wives of".

[@motekbubah]

100%

[@sadiyac88]

And few years ago India didn't allow diplomat women to get married.

[@Krishhhbro]

what

[@jpranav8921]

Does this apply to wives of Indian Diplomats too?

[@shreyanachappa6424]

J Pranav Indian Diplomatic wives are allowed to have careers. Of course everything else applies, but then again, all of these things apply to wives of army officers as well.

[@dumdumbiryani]

I mean the partner is allowed to have a career but it really depends on the country in which the IFS officer posted in because a lot of countries don't give work visas but the government of India allows your partner to work outside if they give work visas.

[@sbh0892]

Some countries let spouses of Indian diplomats work for a remuneration. Others don't.

[@sooryakeerthips8919]

@Dr Nicole Nasr Thank you sir for giving a hope because people who pursue this profession could at least feel calm.

[@BobJohnson648]

But take comfort in knowing that your hubby is busy getting the next war started

[@kevinwilliams3272]

I'm giving up after only 2 minutes, I can't take any more. I'm not contesting in any way who you are, Nicole, but a psychologist who can't say a single sentence which doesn't contain "you know" ? Sorry, but if I hear any more "you knows", I'm going to need to consult a psychiatrist...

[@couldbeanybody2508]

Running over kids lol