Would love to see a follow-up on "Daddy Issues" and how this concept is used to portray the behavior of women in modern media.
@AxxLAfriku3 жыл бұрын
HOLY HOLY!!! I can proudly say that I have the two HOTTEST women on this planet as MY GIRLFRIENDS! I am the unprettiest KZbinr ever, but they love me for what's inside! Thanks for listening sha
@Kerry.moynihan.intellectual3 жыл бұрын
Media execs are pimps for sex object Media Girls.
@nawarb.42263 жыл бұрын
tbh within the internet nowadays i see the term "daddy issues" used more often to refer to male characters, but irl it has traditionally been used as an attack against "sl**ty" women
@shanayekh93453 жыл бұрын
@@nawarb.4226 Yea I had in mind the use of it as a derogatory term against women. It's often used as a plot device to explain a woman's sexual liberation or exploration instead of giving her the agency to make her own decisions. I would love to hear more about where this concept started and how it's used in media...
@whathell6t3 жыл бұрын
@@nawarb.4226 Daddy issues or professionally known as an Electra Complex.
@lilil97523 жыл бұрын
Has anyone noticed that a lot of times, a mother loving her son too much is a sign of unhealthy behaviour, but a father loving his daugther so much is applauded? Ex: Stranger things´s Joyce was labeled as too intense and even annoying by some fans , yet the parents on media like 24 and Taken , are mostly taken as role models
@stephennootens9163 жыл бұрын
You have a point there while the father who is protective of his daughter is often played of as Dads being silly dads. While mothers are seen as having something wrong and will damage their son if they don't let their son go.
@mewesquirrel67203 жыл бұрын
I've seen the opposite 🤷
@taliamason79863 жыл бұрын
Cartman's Mom in South Park is a great example of it.
@bayleaf75883 жыл бұрын
Probably because dad's know how to back off once their daughter settles down with a good man. Whereas mother's who are in an emotionally attached to their sons are unable to back off.. they view their sons partners as competition, rather than an extension of her new family. If the son doesn't learn to assert boundaries, he ends up in a love triangle, torn between his mother and wife/girlfriend.
@sg_15413 жыл бұрын
@@bayleaf7588 so damn accurate
@inescastellano79603 жыл бұрын
This video was so good. I’d love you to do a video about how therapists and psychologist are perceived in tv and cinema.
@samanthagupta3 жыл бұрын
I’m in school to become a therapist, so I would love this!
@dayshawnalexander56543 жыл бұрын
Good ldea
@pixiebells3 жыл бұрын
Always seems to be "let's try some role play!!" like that's the only thing that exists in psychology or like you don't start by talking about what your problem is, that's not as entertaining, apparently. (The only exception that makes this a good bit is on 30 Rock, it's hysterical!)
@jgfelix3 жыл бұрын
I also think therapists tend to be used as a way to explain characters' psyche to the audience (i.e. Rick and Morty's "Pickle Rick" ep). I think this treatment of therapists as just vehicles for exposition results in a tedious fleshing out of a character (and may even create impressions of therapists as people who have the answers to your life).
@yourlittleinsomniac53693 жыл бұрын
Cinema Therapy does one focusing on Good Will Hunting but they spend a little bit talking about movie therapists in general
@witchplease96953 жыл бұрын
Would like to see a Single Parent trope video and how they are portrayed in media, including the differences between how single fathers and mothers are perceived
@millsgurl83583 жыл бұрын
Agree. To me, it see single dads are praised more than single mom
@Justaguythatcameby3 жыл бұрын
@@millsgurl8358 you do? I see people saying single dads cant do anything because dad are useless
@Siures3 жыл бұрын
@@Justaguythatcameby But they are praised for trying. Like it is a heroic decision for them to be a single dad. As a man who, of course, CANNOT be able to care for a child. Single moms are often just normal moms without the „father child“ and a financial problem.
@evilgladiator36713 жыл бұрын
Good rec
@paulogaspar82953 жыл бұрын
@@millsgurl8358 ??? you must live in a different universe. Just research online about single moms and single dads, and see how many institutions are helping single moms compared to singles dads. No one cares about single dads, or think they are weirdos.
@Moon_Moon913 жыл бұрын
I really don’t see Voldemort as a father figure to Harry; in my opinion, he is some sort of evil twin, what Harry could become too if he made certain choices instead of others, or in dumbledore’s words, "what is easy" and not what is good. When Harry fights Voldemort, he asserts himself as ultimately good, and thus ultimately different from Voldemort by making different choices than those made by Tom riddle. It’s really more about how our choices define who we are. On a side note though, I agree that Harry has mommy/daddy issues which is understandable coming from an orphan (I mean, Ginny/Lily are somewhat similar and Harry however does not behave like his father, which could be seen as a way of "killing the father"). In the end, though Harry does have quite a number of father/mother figures (Sirius, Dumbledore, Molly Weasley, Hagrid, Lupin etc), I don’t think Voldemort has ever been one of them…
@stareyedwitch3 жыл бұрын
I agree. They're misreading Harry and Voldemort's relationship, and overly relying on what Voldemort did to explain Harry's personality. Also, I don't think Harry not behaving like his father is a way of "killing the father", the way we grow up shapes our personalities, and Harry and James had vastly different childhoods.
@Kurooganeko3 жыл бұрын
But Harry has SO many paternal figures.... Hagrid, Dumbledore, Lupin, Sirius, Arthur Weasley, Snape at some point. Like...
@Kurooganeko3 жыл бұрын
@@souvik43209 I would not know... :/
@witchplease96953 жыл бұрын
@@souvik43209 She has a strained relationship with both her parents according to a biography I read about her once
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
@@witchplease9695 honestly, I can't bring myself to blame the parents
@larissasaraiva.83753 жыл бұрын
But like it's said in the video, Voldemort was the one who "created" Harry. When he gave him the mark and the abilities, he changed the course of Harry's life forever.
@Kurooganeko3 жыл бұрын
@@larissasaraiva.8375 But can that be considered paternal figure? Isnt that psycological process a result of how the one experiencing it feels about said paternal figure? I can see Voldemort having Harry as an undesired son, but for Harry he is just the killer of his parents. Even with the situation of leaving a part of him in Harry almost like a transmition of "DNA". But to me is more like having a man killing someones parents and for some reason leaving the weapon in the crime scene and then the child regenves their parents with the very same wepon. You know? I still can see in a very metaphorical way thisbrelation, but like what about the other paternal figures, how do they fot in this scenario of Edipo complex?
@jessicavictoriacarrillo72543 жыл бұрын
Can you do Mommas Boys and Daddys Girls next?Next? Also how weight gain and loss are presented in the media. With how Diane Nguyen's weight gain subverts how our culture perceives a woman's weight loss as self-improvement?
@Username456-b4p3 жыл бұрын
I would love that video
@couchpotatoe913 жыл бұрын
It's hilarious how Oedipus who gauged out his eyes for what he did now gets used as name for men that have a thing for their mother. Also on an unrelated note, the shift towards individuality is a Western idea and doesn't apply to other parts of the world where family comes first and individuality is seen as egoism and debauchery like you see in so many billionaires they'll point you at. Jonathan Haidt, a renowned psychologist and bestselling author, has some interesting things to say about this if anyone's curious.
@mewesquirrel67203 жыл бұрын
It's just white people being white
@bellamckinnon86553 жыл бұрын
Regarding your first note, I find that so frustrating also. The poor guy didn’t know and then as soon as he did know, was absolutely mortified. Then he goes down in history as being a mother-lover. Sucks bro. If only people would take 3 minutes to read the Wikipedia article or something.
@user-insight3 жыл бұрын
I am south east asian and I am seeing this individuality present in south-east asian gen z. The new gen is more homogenous than the previous ones regardless of country due to the accessibility of social media and the internet.
@couchpotatoe913 жыл бұрын
@@user-insight Well, as you hint at yourself, the internet is probably the main reason for that. It allows a mixture of culture and access to information about life styles and philosophies that has never been there before in the history of humanity. People around the world might be more homogeneous in the future than they were in the past, but there will always remain traditions, be that Asian, African, European or something else.
@couchpotatoe913 жыл бұрын
@CEO of Secularism You can make a good argument that it is, yes. Though it's a bit more complex than that. In the Islam e.g. interest charges are forbidden in general as far as I'm aware. When you look at how money lending and investing works, be it stocks or something else, you see how not being able to invest large sums would hinder a society into growing and developing as rapidly as those not stifled by religious rules. This to me seems intertwined with their family values, so it's hard to point to "one reason". Not to speak of the influence the West had on many of those states since the beginning of the twentieth century in terms of power. There are reasons why so many of the middle-Eastern countries hate "the West" and why Islamic extremist have an easy time making their message heard.
@moonlily13 жыл бұрын
I think people's relationship with their parents influences their adult relationships, but it has nothing to do with being sexually attracted to their parent. It's because our parents gave us our first model of romantic relationship dynamic, and because our relationship with our parents is our first and fundamental personal relationship. A straight woman might behave with an intimate male partner as her mother did with her father, that's her modeling behavior she learned from her mother, NOT an expression of subconscious sexual desire for her dad. Freud's observation of that dynamic misinterpreted it as being centered upon sexual feelings because Freud assumed that because he was obsessed with sex, everyone else is too. He was projecting.
@ladyredl32103 жыл бұрын
I agree with this, absolutely
@arabela50922 жыл бұрын
as a psychology major, i wholeheartedly agree
@tam98563 жыл бұрын
I remember the storyline in Shameless when Lip is begging outside Heline’s house, the older professor he was having a sexual relationship, and he damn near looked like a little boy. I think that highlighted Lip’s Mommy issues, having Monica, his mom, abandon him and his siblings. Then he’s drawn to this older, more mature woman who not only sleeps with him, but mentors him in a sort of maternal way.
@aidanabekenova23563 жыл бұрын
It seems like there is no way to raise a child completely without any issues. Our parents definitely lacked insights on how to do that. It’s like “i’ll try my best to not screw you up, but no guarantees”, then years of therapy come
@ADavid423 жыл бұрын
Growing up in a xenophobic Patriarchy will do that.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
there's always the option of not having kids can't fail if you don't try
@GenerationNextNextNext3 жыл бұрын
This is why I chose not to have children.
@WEYffles3 жыл бұрын
I read that most of Freud’s patients were middle-aged women, so he had to base his whole Oedipus theory on a conversation he had with a little boy’s father on the PHONE. He never even met the boy and only heard the story through the father’s account. The father was calling him mainly because he was concerned about his son, that was afraid of horses. I wish Hollywood would move on from this.
@iliasberrada50213 жыл бұрын
Are you sure about this anecdote ? And are you sure that Freud based his entire theory on one single observation, and that psychoanalysts that came after didn't look more into this ? This seems simplifying, maybe too simplifying. As to Hollywood, this trope keeps emerging in movies and shows, sometimes without the writers being aware of the oedipus complex, and audiences tend to engage with these kind of stories, while not being educated on this complex either. Don't you think that says something about its veracity and existence ? I personally think it does.
@innocuoushappenstance62593 жыл бұрын
@@iliasberrada5021 we have plenty of racist stereotypes that appear over and over in very successful films yet are patently not true so, no, I don't think thar box office success or audience enjoyment determines the veracity of a behavior theory
@iliasberrada50213 жыл бұрын
@@innocuoushappenstance6259 by true, I mean that they exist, not "true" in the sense that they're good or correct. Racial stereotypes surely do exist, that's why they're in movies and tv shows, most of the time written unconsciously by the writers. I think the same could be said of the oedipus complex. It's true, not in a moral sense (good/bad, commendable or not), but in an ontological sense (that it exists).
@tyriaxepheles79963 жыл бұрын
@@iliasberrada5021 I have a psychology degree and most of Freud's "theories" have been disproven by modern psychological science. The problem with Freud's psychology is that it wasn't science, it was philosophy. He would see a behavior, then make up some theory about why this behavior occured and use the existence of that behavior as evidence that his theory is correct. Of course, this isn't scientific at all. It's circular reasoning where the premise is the same as the conclusion. In worse scenarios, his (and other sexologists') "theories" caused severe damage to Western society that is still existent today and spreading to Eastern cultures through globalization. For example, his (and other sexologists') "theories" on "the homosexual neurosis" has led to widespread vehement homophobia which led to the societal dogmatization of extreme masculinity and femininity that we're just now slowly deconstructing. This essentially led to splitting human psychology into masculine and feminine realms. Emotion goes to women, rationality goes to men etc. which leads to actual neurosis on a widespread societal level because you can't be human without having both but society punishes one or the other if exhibited by the "wrong" gender. If you look at pre-Freudian military photos, you see soldiers laying piled together cuddling up on each other because pre-Freud the masculine ideal was fraternal love. This was subsumed due to the "homosexual neurosis theories" that gay men "are raping women and murdering and cutting little boys into pieces because of their suppressed sexual desire for their mothers." Modern psychologists know this is utter bullshit. Gay men don't rape women or their mothers and they certainly don't chop little boys into pieces. The patients that Freud and Stekel and whoever had diagnosed with homosexual neurosis were probably sociopaths who just happened to have sex with men once or twice. Their mental illness wasn't being gay. Their mental illness was something entirely different but due to Freud's and Stekel's "theories" society started to view gay people as psychopathic murderers and rapists, which in turn led to the dogmatization of femininity and masculinity, due to the fear of "becoming homosexual" if a man acts too feminine or a woman acts too masculine.
@iliasberrada50213 жыл бұрын
@@tyriaxepheles7996 I agree with you that some of his theories were incorrect and harmful. But you're using at least 2 logical fallacies. First, an argument by authority, by saying "hear me out, I have a degree", which doesn't guarantee that what you say is true. Second, and most important, you're basically saying "Freud said some wrong and harmful things, therefore everything he ever did is wrong and harmful." It's better we talk about the one theory we're debating here (Oedipus Complex), without bringing in his entire body of work, however incorrect it may be. The Oedipus complex is a a studied phenomenon that keeps popping up time and time again, in media and in real life, but it does not fit the modern (american) psychological studies, where everything is about neurotransmitters, chemicals, material phenomena that can be studied under a microscope or an MRI. I don't take away one bit of the validity of this scientific approach, but with regards to human behavior and human unconscious, an MRI, CAT Scan, and a microscope, aren't very much helpful.
@melenatorr3 жыл бұрын
I need to challenge the idea that the attacking birds represent an explosion of maternal ego trying to prevent sexual relations: after the discovery of the attack at the neighbor's farm, while Lydia is in bed, she and Melanie have an intimate conversation, where they touch base and begin to comprehend each other. At the end of this, Lydia repeats her concern about her daughter Cathy at school. Melanie offers to go pick Cathy up there, and Lydia consents, thanking her at the end. The bird attacks continue, though, even after this conciliatory conversation. If there is something metaphorical going on in "The Birds", I don't believe that maternal rage and jealousy is its cause.
@red_calla_lily3 жыл бұрын
Fun fact: "Vader" is Dutch for father. The clue was there all the time.
@MortMe04303 жыл бұрын
I think Freud was reading way too much into it (to say the least). At so young an age long before puberty and even having any concept of sex, it might be partially about keeping a parent's attention, but the whole "wanting to marry said parent," when it actually occurs for a brief period, can likely be chalked up to thinking of marriage as strictly a domestic partnership, a partner in crime if you will. And a kid who loves and trusts said parent could see them as the first choice for that, given the parent's experience with the adult (non-explicit) world. Or I could be pulling out total bull-crap conjecture, who knows lol
@brh.18923 жыл бұрын
That actually explains a lot!
@ajdegemma44093 жыл бұрын
This seems right, children until introduced to sex, they don't even know what it is.. For example, abused children, God bless their little souls, they didn't knew what's happening to them, because they were introduced to it as game, play... Freud on another hand, seems like impotent coked up idiot who really wanted to shock back then conservative Viennesse people. Jung had much brighter ideas that we still use to this day...
@MrLarrySunshine3 жыл бұрын
Well said! I completely agree 😊
@20dabarr58 Жыл бұрын
Completely agree. Kids have no concept (or at least, should have no concept) of what sexual/romantic relationships usually entail. To them, marriage is just being around someone you enjoy the company of forever. As a result, they might declare they want to marry their friends, family, etc because again, marriage is just a good friendship to them, nothing more or less.
@trinaq3 жыл бұрын
While it's understandable why a family friendly studio like Disney would turn down "Back to the Future" due to the risqué subplot of Lorraine having the hots for her future son, the executives would HAVE to have been kicking themselves once it became an unexpected hit for Universal!
@stephennootens9163 жыл бұрын
The weird think about her is she seems to have some sort of Nightingale fetish given how turned on she is after taken care of him but later she also seems to get a thrill when George hits Biff.
@taliamason79863 жыл бұрын
Disney made a whole sleuth of terrible decisions throughout the 80's. There is a reason they always ranked last at the Box Office for most of that decade.
@alienboy13223 жыл бұрын
Fun fact: With the rise of sex comedies at the time, studios wanted Back to the future to be made as a raunchy sex comedy.
@kittykittybangbang93673 жыл бұрын
@@taliamason7986 I thought the 2000s was Disney's low point
@GenerationNextNextNext3 жыл бұрын
@@kittykittybangbang9367 Probably, but it wasn't because all of the movies were bad. Atlantis The Lost Empire is a hidden gem, along with Brother Bear, Lilo and Stitch, and The Emperor's New Groove. Pixar helped with The Incredibles and Finding Nemo as well. I wouldn't say the 2000s were their lowest point, just didn't do as well as they did in the 1990s.
@georgeprchal39243 жыл бұрын
Sterling Archer: You know when I was little I used to pretend you weren't my mother. Malory Archer: Me too.
@knight.993 жыл бұрын
One of those Freudian theories that makes you question Freud's sanity . I mean boy wants to possess his mother exclusively for his sexual pleasure and get rid of his father to enable him to do so, plus fear of castration from his father... What the hell !
@kassykreutzer69723 жыл бұрын
Agreed hes a very creepy dude
@kiriki45583 жыл бұрын
And that is just the tip of the iceberg.
@knight.993 жыл бұрын
@@kassykreutzer6972yes, he's and I am not qualified enough to question his psychoanalytic theories and concepts but seriously... plus Don't get me started on the psychosexual stages of development.
@knight.993 жыл бұрын
@@kiriki4558 I think you're mentioning the structural model of personality that's Id, ego and superego... Right ?
@kassykreutzer69723 жыл бұрын
@@knight.99 I know right it's like umm are you sure your not projecting your feelings on everyone eles because not all of us think,the way you think
@XanderShiller3 жыл бұрын
*EVERYONE* knows that *Freud invented the 1st "yo mama" joke* to make light of his addiction to *Oedipussy.* *He was just blowing phallic smoke.*
@passionforMed44 ай бұрын
I get ur joke
@XanderShiller4 ай бұрын
@@passionforMed4 and you're a better person for that. 😎
@kimberlyterasaki48433 жыл бұрын
Vader never actually tried to kill Luke though; if anything, he's determined to get Luke to kill him in order to keep him alive. But Luke refuses to play into everyone's expectations of him, and refuses to kill his father. His father then returns the favor, killing Palpatine (his father-figure / abuser) to save his son, breaking the cycle... until Kylo Ran comes along and kills his father and falls in love with Rey, who looks like his mother.
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
I love How it Should Have Ended's version of Vader, that is just comically obsessed with being a father
@Bizarro693 жыл бұрын
Welp!
@dohavename67753 жыл бұрын
Vader is really such a Father? This question is coming from someone who has never seen even solid 10 minutes of any SW movie.
@bakuhatsubutsu3 жыл бұрын
Even though I know it's all nonsense, I adore psychoanalytic theory. It's so creative and abstract.
@Charliebeth3 жыл бұрын
It is NOT Princess Amidala, she is first Queen Padme Amidala and then Senator Padme Amidala. When we first meet Padme, she is an elected queen and then when her term is over she becomes a senator. It was Leia who was the princess.
@Legendofzellybelly3 жыл бұрын
Exactly!
@Charliebeth3 жыл бұрын
@@Legendofzellybelly it irritates me while listening to videos like this when they get things like this wrong. It invalidates whatever point the author makes because an error like this proves that they don't know the the story they are commenting on.
@brianarbenz72063 жыл бұрын
I only know the name Amidala from a Pizza Hut commercial.
@lucypreece75813 жыл бұрын
Freud was a funny fish.
@Bizarro693 жыл бұрын
hehe!
@TheLeah23443 жыл бұрын
We also have to talk about how some mothers have internalized misogyny and end up raising misogynistic terrible men who treat women like conquests. There are mothers who will even encourage this behavior by saying “ boys will be boys “ and all men go through that stage where they sleep around until they find “the one”. A lot of these mothers more in particular SINGLE MOTHERS also treat their sons like their husbands and will compete with their sons girlfriend. If they have a daughter or daughters, they treat their daughters like garbage while coddling their sons. They will even throw their daughters out the house once they turn 18 and will compete with their own daughters. I can say this from experience from dealing with an abusive single mother who coddled my brother but treated me bad.
@victoriadriver35672 жыл бұрын
Exactly. I am a trans person. I have always been close to my mother as a young child. but when I transitioned it seems I started to become distant from by mother. Today I have a great relationship with my father(never used to be a huge friends with my father). I love them both but it seems people hate ugly truths.. they are the first to put their finger on, saying it is misogynist and blah blah.. but everything has two sides of story and we have to bear that in mind.
@konraddygudaj2573 жыл бұрын
“The sexual wishes in regard to the mother become more intense and the father is perceived as an obstacle to the; this gives rise to the Oedipus complex.” Sigmund Freud, The Ego and the Id (1923)
@trinaq3 жыл бұрын
Love this quote. I find psychology fascinating, since it explains the reasons behind our behaviour, and why we act the way that we do.
@lilil97523 жыл бұрын
He could have used a more acurate name, since it doesn't really applies to the play
@sammyvictors26033 жыл бұрын
I know Freud is considered overrated and questionably outdated, but damn did he influence society and pop culture.
@mrchiefbs3 жыл бұрын
Freud was an insane coke head that shouldn't be taken seriously in Psychology. He's not regarded in my field.
@kimifw583 жыл бұрын
Um, yeah. She said that.
@TheWchurchill4pm3 жыл бұрын
I wonder how much real-life Oedipal Complexes are self-fulfilling prophecies. Maybe Freud didn’t discover an inherent human tendency, so much as create a cultural myth that became an indelible part of collective human consciousness.
@lilyluu3 жыл бұрын
As a psyche student, let me just emphasise that this is a theory. This Oedipus theory is actually not empirically supported. Meaning that Freud does not have any research supporting that this is a fact. A lot of examples here, do not exemplify causal relationships, i.e. the oediplus complex was the cause of these unhealthy relationships. Although it is fun to speculate using psychology terms, the Oedipus complex is highly outdated and no longer has relevance in the science of psychology. So please take this video with a grain of salt.
@XanderVJ3 жыл бұрын
America's obsession with Freud outweighs any empirical research.
@driftingdruid3 жыл бұрын
*hypothesis theories have supporting evidence, hypotheses don't and are educated guesses
@kevinbarnard3553 жыл бұрын
The video isn't promoting the Oedipal Complex. It's critiquing it's overuse and oversimplicity in media. The authors describe numerous films that are overly incestuous just to fit the Freudian narrative. Why should a viewer take this video with a grain of salt?
@kevinbarnard3553 жыл бұрын
@@driftingdruid Freud had supporting evidence in observational data. He and contemporaries of his work believed that their analysis of patients confirmed the theory. Psychology has since distanced itself from the notion of Oedipal desires, as there is no evidence of universality. It only applied in Freud's thinking to opposite sex familial relationships. It hasn't even really been disproven, more so there is no empirical way to measure and verify the idea.
@driftingdruid3 жыл бұрын
@@kevinbarnard355 exactly, theories need evidence from multiple people over time, not from one person alone, so there was no confirmation, just a fad of an idea
@thisisdk78593 жыл бұрын
I don't get why Back to the Future gets dragged into the Oedipus discussion. Was the scenario about him almost sleeping with her or him constantly avoiding her advances? He wasn't remotely attracted to her, if anything it's a reverse scenario. She was obliviously and subconsciously pursuing him
@beccangavin3 жыл бұрын
What timing! I was just whining yesterday about how many creative old white men gave too much credence to Freud even when the psychology community today don't take his ideas as seriously. I was specifically whining about Freud being an influence on science fiction writers and how it impacts the female characters they create. I love science fiction but every once in a while when I'm reading, I get pulled out of the story by being reminded that I"m not the target audience.
@innocuoushappenstance62593 жыл бұрын
Yeah!! There's so much focus on the male perspective, with the mother figure taking little to no actual actions herself but is instead an othered object to be desired and fought over, and there's zero consideration of a potential 'daughter's' perspective. The young woman pov character here just doesn't exist. Very frustrating
@innocuoushappenstance62593 жыл бұрын
And that's not even mentioning non binary people's perspective as the offspring roles or as parents. Ugh I'm v frustrated w this framework as well
@beccangavin3 жыл бұрын
@@innocuoushappenstance6259 Heinlein was the most egregious example I could think of. He had a female character go from being a doctor to being a mother figure for the main character, shaping the main character into someone more manly (by telling him to be less pretty so he doesn't attract gays) then she joined a free love sex cult led by the main character. So 1) the mother figure joined a sex cult. Ew. 2) He had her do a strip tease then was given the ability view herself from the perspective of the men watching her and she preferred looking at herself from the perspective of the men ogling her. He literally had his main female lead measure her own value through the male gaze, completely stripped of her achievements as a professional. He probably patted himself on the back for his progressivism while he was writing that, too. There are more, but Stranger in a Strange Land is just the most illustrative of the point.
@ShawnRavenfire3 жыл бұрын
I think another reason why writers rely so much on parental influences and relationships is because it's an easy way to establish character motive. So-and-so acts like this because of being raised a certain way.
@HunterC35123 жыл бұрын
This is EXCELLENT. The connections between Oedipus to Psycho and Vader and Marty McFly are SUPERB.
@despinasgarden.41003 жыл бұрын
My man Eodipus doesn't deserve to have this conplex named after him, i didn't even knew Jocasta was his biological mother when he married her and when he found out he was so digusted that he exiled himself out of his kingdom. This complex should be Uranos complex.
@martinenyx-filmstuff3053 жыл бұрын
Note: Freud always said that the Oedipus Complex applied to BOTH males and females, and when Jung came up with the term "Electra Complex" he disputed it by saying that his definition of the Oedipus Complex ALREADY took into consideration young girls' attraction to their father and animosity toward their mother.
@20dabarr58 Жыл бұрын
He can say that but it doesn't make it true lmao, he's been criticized for overlooking women despite his obsession with hysteria
@martinenyx-filmstuff305 Жыл бұрын
@@20dabarr58 Have you read his works?
@XanderShiller3 жыл бұрын
Tony's 1st panic attack was triggered by the meat they were about to eat and that it came from his father cutting off the butchers pinky. Not bc "he witnessed his parents being sensual" but the context.
@thatonepersonyouwontremember3 жыл бұрын
My siblings and I were having a competition as to who shared their birthday with the best celebrity, and when it got to me, I found out Freud and I shared the same birthday. I lost that competition immediately.
@pinkkrystalz76103 жыл бұрын
Marty doesn't have an Oedipus complex because he has a girlfriend, Jennifer. Not to mention that his mom was the one who initiated the kiss, which was non consensual by the way, and he was shocked by the look on his face. He even tried to back away from her, but she kept getting closer to him when he didn't want her to both for time travel, family and already being a relationship reasons.
@pinkkrystalz76103 жыл бұрын
@@souvik43209 Yes, I know that. I've seen the movie trilogy multiple times. I'm saying they're making it sound like he has an Oedipus complex when he doesn't.
@nathfairy3 жыл бұрын
Hm i don't think the video implies that marty has oedipus complex as much as it's saying that the narrative itself makes it a theme
@pinkkrystalz76103 жыл бұрын
@@nathfairy What?
@RyoKasai253 жыл бұрын
Marty is horrified at the notion, the poor guy doesn't deserve this, haha.
@nathfairy3 жыл бұрын
@@pinkkrystalz7610 i mean, the narrative makes his mom "fall in love" with him so the oedipus theme appears even if it's subverted by him not corresponding and helping his dad to become someone he can look up to instead of "killing" him. Subverted tropes are still tropes, that's what i meant.
@homedepot.3 жыл бұрын
I’m not saying my friend has an Oedipus complex but I’m not not saying he doesn’t. I’ve known him since 6th grade and I’m now a sophomore. He was really nice and we just became friends. Anyways one day he asked me to come over cuz he wanted to play cod and I said sure. I went over (mind you we were in SIXTH grade) and his mom was looking at me really weird and I thought something was wrong with me and I asked him and he was like “that’s how she is with all girls” and I kinda brushed it off and sat in the couch waiting for us to start playing. While I was sitting there his mom came over and started asking me very weird questions and asking what I was trying to do with her son and stuff (side note I am a LESBIAN and came out in 6th grade) and was just generally being weird. When we were playing I said that it was really weird that she would ask me questions like that and then he got really defensive and saying I shouldn’t disrespect his mom and that she does everything for him, and I can understand that but it was still really weird. When I got him I told my mom about everything she said and she was weirded out too. My mom ended up calling his mom and asked why she was asking an 11 year old questions like that but she kept saying that I was lying and that she didn’t have any problems with me. The next day at school he was pissed and tried to argue with me the whole day and I just ignored him and asked my mom to pick me up instead of me taking the bus so I could avoid him. I ignored him for about 2 weeks and he finally came to his senses and apologised to me. I said I accepted it and that I respected his kom and if he suggested otherwise I would mot continue our friendship. He’s still pretty weird if anybody brings up his mom though. I’m still kinda close to him because when I came out he was one of the few people who didn’t shun me.
@directiontonarnia3 жыл бұрын
Omg I can't believe you'd do a video on one of my most favourite topics !! We are doing this in college, and it's so so so nuanced and this video is 🔥
@sabrinagrant80033 жыл бұрын
I think Freud was just as crazy as his patients. That’s why he recognize the behavior.
@angelicaocon14612 жыл бұрын
Hahahahahahahahahaha
@fortune_roses3 жыл бұрын
*B O U N D A R I E S* are poked & prodded through this theme. Unsettling! These dynamics exist in real life
@XanderVJ3 жыл бұрын
0:40 Correction. Freud's theories are not "disputed". They have long been discredited altogether. Now Freud is only taught in psychology for historical knowledge of the field and, at best, as a stepping stone for other theories. But nobody takes it a serious science anymore. However, since America has an uncanny obsession with his ideas that you rarely find... well, anywhere else (and when you do, it's usually due to American influence), it has endure as pseudo-science.
@esma.ga5 Жыл бұрын
So freud come up with the term subconscious is it also discredited?
@sammyvictors26033 жыл бұрын
For the story book I'm working on, it deals with the Heroine confronting both her Oedipal and Electra complexes, in the form of a villainous Mother-Son duo, who vaguely resemble her Hollywood glamorous but shallow and irresponsible birth parents (with a 15 year age gap between them, they even stared in the play of Oedipus Rex, as Oedipus and Jocasta).
@leftpawedpolarbear3 жыл бұрын
There should be at least one clip of Žižek explaining pop culture in every subsequent video essay on The Take-not because it would always be helpful (though given the sheer amount of work he's produced there would probably be SOMETHING relevant for most topics), but just as like a personal treat. for me.
@katherinemorelle71153 жыл бұрын
Pyuuur ideeology!
@aa-to6ws3 жыл бұрын
"You have daddy issues, you literally killed a father!" *"Yeah but it was not mine, dummy!"* -Jeff; Community.
@sanjomaz3 жыл бұрын
I think the cartoon “avatar the last airbender” explores the Oedipal complex with Aang and Katara. Aang is an orphan child, yes, but immediately falls smitten for Katara, not paying any mind to how much she coddles him thru the show llike a babysitter/mom. And even tho Zuko and Katara are never officially together, they get portrayed as “lovers” in a theater play and it makes Aang jealous, upset, and worried that Katara might not see him past that son/little bro/friend role.
@SuperLoves43 жыл бұрын
but Katara babysits everyone, it's about how war shaped her growing not an oedipal complex
@sanjomaz3 жыл бұрын
@@SuperLoves4 Katara didn't babysit Haru, Jet or Zuko (ppl she arguably had crushes on and saw as older, mature teens). In the bigger aspect, Aang didn't seem to grow out of that childish behavior by the end of the show. He would get angry, run away from things he didn't enjoy hearing, and she would always try and sooth his needs without understanding that he needed to learn to face the tough stuff regardless of her help.
@SuperLoves43 жыл бұрын
@@sanjomaz but she would babysit Sokka and Toph, she didn’t spend as much time with Haru and spent a long time thinking of Zuko as an enemy, Aang personality is set as avoidistic because he wants to be a child, not because he wants to be babied, it’s all about the effects of war on childhood and mommying is Katara’s 🤔
@SuperLoves43 жыл бұрын
@@sanjomaz (didn’t spend much time with Jet either) and Aang does learn by the end when he, alone, learns how to solve the thing that made him escape the monks (the war) in a way that doesn’t compromise his beliefs and childhood
@sanjomaz3 жыл бұрын
@@SuperLoves4 She becomes a mom to Sokka bc of them losing their own mother, and Toph even tells Katara that she doesn't have to act like a mom, and yet she still does bc war did that to her. The Oedipal complex comes from Aang being "born" in the iceberg and imprinting on Katara, the first girl he sees when he's most desperate to find someone to love after feeling unloved/unsupported in the SATemple. And regarding the Finale... Aang resorting to non-violent means was a writing plot hole bc Aang was definitely willing to do some violent stuff to Ozai during the Invasion (when Ozai wouldn't have his bending), if it meant he could end the war. Conveniently, Aang never finds Ozai. Suddenly in the Finale, he gets conflicted about that bc the writers wanted Aang to remain an innocent child, and Katara continues to coddle him without having him face issues head-on.
@waynelai53843 жыл бұрын
This Take is really good, like the one my mom would give
@pixiebells3 жыл бұрын
It's the subtlety for me 😂 brilliant! 😊
@VeeLondon14493 жыл бұрын
Succession is such a phenomenal show. “ very well, I accept your blackmail..” - Tom. If you haven’t seen the show yet, I highly recommend it x
@janicemoriarty25783 жыл бұрын
Waiting eagerly for season 3!!!
@grapeshot3 жыл бұрын
Sigmund Freud cocaine fiend although it was legal back then. I believe a lot of his research has been debunked.
@stephennootens9163 жыл бұрын
That doesn't stop it being in used to write stories. Think of Madonna or Whore complex it is used in more than few monster and slasher movies as well as noir mysteries.
@mewesquirrel67203 жыл бұрын
Thank God, can't stand that guy
@grapeshot3 жыл бұрын
@@stephennootens916 Of course
@matheussanthiago96853 жыл бұрын
it's not that it has been debunked it's just plain unverifiable psychiatry moved away from his ideas, just as astronomy moved from astrology it just doesn't possess enough to science with
@SlayerNinaFriki3 жыл бұрын
Billy Hargrove with his parents and Karen Wheeler. There was soooo much to unpack there. Well, Stranger Things parents need their own video, there was so much to unpack on so many levels...
@hereforit23 жыл бұрын
Casual mentioning of Zizek is always appreciated 👌
@j.albuquerque92743 жыл бұрын
I haven't watch the video yet but I recently finished S02 of "Bordwalk Empire", I really hope Jimmy and Gillian are mentioned.
@kaitlnwhite68093 жыл бұрын
I hope Evangelion is mentioned.
@j.albuquerque92743 жыл бұрын
@@kaitlnwhite6809 Seems more like the opposite: Gendo sees Shinji as his rival for his wife's affection.
@indrinita3 жыл бұрын
Cue 22 is amazing, been binge watching her work!
@starshinestudiosofficial3 жыл бұрын
What if you have issues with both parents?
@Nat-ls1uo3 жыл бұрын
Yea, mommy and daddy issues are all over the place in the different types of media that are popular
@XshopahollicsX3 жыл бұрын
thank u for talking about succession!!! It's the best show the world has seen in a while and no one is talking about it!!! I'm so happy u brought it up! please if u read this comment, WATCH THE SHOW!
@Dashingdiva733 жыл бұрын
I had several praise breaks during the watching of this video! By far the best one I have seen yet. English teachers should use this in classes. It was such a great explanation of the Oedipal complex that she should teach a class. She did a good job of writing this episode. Can you please link the movie of the gentleman describing all of the Oedipal ideas in Psycho and the Birds? I would really like to watch that video as well thank you again for this it's top-notch work.
@chrissiem39583 жыл бұрын
Ahhhhh, The Take..... always a pleasure 😊 **salutes**
@bruja_cat3 жыл бұрын
The problem with Freud’s Oedipal complex is that in the original ancient myth, Oedipus doesn’t realize it’s his parents, so it’s part of the drama and Greek sense of fate & tragedy. Most of Freud is based misunderstanding Oedipus.
@krisynthiagomez58833 жыл бұрын
So glad you guys discussed the relationship between Harry Potter and Lord Voldemort as a father son dynamic because I feel like not a lot of people see that. Also if you think about it that Oedipal Complex in Back to the Future was actually fulfilled in the third movie when Marty goes back hundreds of years and meets his ancestors who look like him and his mother.
@PureSparkles223 жыл бұрын
I hate my dad. Always have, always will
@CarnageTrooperx3 жыл бұрын
It’s been a while since y’all had a good video like this. Well done
@SoniaSephia3 жыл бұрын
R/thestraightsokay? Sigmund Freud:. Boys want Mommy! Carl Jung:. Girls want Daddy! FBI: *Crashes Through Door*
@lilliangraham98502 жыл бұрын
some girls don't want daddies
@esma.ga5 Жыл бұрын
@@lilliangraham9850 alot of girls refuse to think they used to want daddy
@sassyblondewriter82393 жыл бұрын
Finally! Someone else agrees with my hot take on the sopranos and ending toxic family cycles
@classicat873 жыл бұрын
This was *chef's kiss* spectacular! I can see that there was no space in this video to address my next point. There was already so much to unpack. It's worth noting that there are the 'mommy's issues' of the Oedipal trope are can be used to undermine our sympathy for a character or to make them 'mockable', and thus we see such tropes overlayed on minority groups. "Overbearing" mothers are a common prejudiced trope used against, Jews and People of Colour. Just more food for thought.
@TIGER-xk4gk3 жыл бұрын
This is my favorite story thread in all of fiction
@radztransdoggo3 жыл бұрын
So excited as always to watch this new take
@IOANNA3333 жыл бұрын
Who else loved Bates Motel?✋🏻
@ashleightompkins32003 жыл бұрын
While I agree with most of this, I have to disagree with your use of Voldemort. He's more of a brother figure to Harry Potter while Snape is a fatherly figure
@DGenerationX13113 жыл бұрын
Bates Motel is the most frustrating show I have ever seen in regards to the fact that Norman and Norma did not seek/receive any mental help which is the point of the show I guess. The side plot of the town and it's weed history was just v uninteresting to me though.
@helia_sunofsnek3 жыл бұрын
Well... the Voldemort/Harry thing doesn't work, because Harry has so many positive fatherly rolemodels in his life? Like Lupin, Sirius, Hagrid & foremost Arthur? Like the only fatherly betray we have would be Dumbledore, but Harry still thinks of him highly after all that abusive.
@angelicaocon14612 жыл бұрын
Psychology is unpredictable..when your mama give you too much love, it's not good..when it's not enough, it's not good.. so we can't win on this..
@LeeLe4123 жыл бұрын
Another example is "It". Eddie Kaspbrak is in a controlling relationship with his mother and in the movie he still lives with her as an adult and in the books he marries a controlling woman who is just like her.
@loiracitr3 жыл бұрын
If I remember it correctly, Eddie's wife also looks like his mum
@Logitah3 жыл бұрын
Yup! I felt so bad for the poor kid!
@a.s.21123 жыл бұрын
I was surprised to not see Jax, Gemma and Clay mentioned in this video because whoo, that triangle was something else!
@TheNopeDude3 жыл бұрын
I remember seeing that painting by Goya on a trip with my history class. Such a knockout! Apparently, it was painted, along with many other strange secret images, on the walls of his apartment.
@hl.46153 жыл бұрын
I love the inclusion of the D’Aulaires illustrations!
@markmaurer63703 жыл бұрын
I offer this tribute to the algorithm! The power be upon this really awesome essay!
@adrianghandtchi15623 жыл бұрын
I wonder for these parents that emotionally attach themselves to their children so obsessively, do they have a sexual attraction and (R*pe) their own? Because that’s what scares me the most for anyone’s safety that ultimate boundary that’s shattered way more than it being mixed? Maybe I’m confusing that with Jocasta.
@nargeshemadi32783 жыл бұрын
As a middle eastern girl who doesn't have access to proper therapy and got educated on mental health through movies and TV shows i loved this video
@JulietteKernDiamond3 жыл бұрын
Nu mindframe *
@MontSe10013 жыл бұрын
I feel like people always miss that the oedipus complex is symbolical and subconscious, not literal. Yes, you never thought about your mother sexually or wanted to kill your father, but that's because its not something that happens consciously, at least in theory. That, and that when Freud talks about sexual drive he doesn't just mean PiV intercourse but a general "drive to feel good". As babies that's feeding, as young kids is bowel movements (in theory!) and its not after puberty that it becomes genital and transforms into adult sexuality.
@NITE_SHIFTING3 жыл бұрын
That was an awesome...'Take'.
@sirichandanaakarapu3783 жыл бұрын
oh Freud.... the one psychologist that my profs always feel uncomfortable discussing abt. and this is coming from profs who are quite open when it comes to the topic of sex
@darkwarriormaster96443 жыл бұрын
I really do not consider Voldemort to be a pseudo-father figure to Harry in anyway. The thought literally never crossed my mind and I have no doubt that a lot of people would agree with me. Although, it is worth mentioning that the last book revealed that both of them are descended from two of the three Peverell brothers.
@IvyWolk3 жыл бұрын
you guys quoting zizek in a video about freudian psychology in film is making me h*rny... my red scare slay
@HaughtyHedonist3 жыл бұрын
Beautiful Thought-Provoking Video
@thedolhaze2 жыл бұрын
Psychoanalyst here: in Freudian tradition, both boys and girls go through Oedipus complex, with the girls having to go through an extra step in their OC.
@esma.ga5 Жыл бұрын
I was telling my girlfriend about the theory in a very simple way and she said to stop explaning because "I am afraid of hearing these things". It's the second time she does that. So why?
@thedolhaze Жыл бұрын
@@esma.ga5 I would need to know you girlfriend in order to be able to answer that.
@esma.ga5 Жыл бұрын
@@thedolhaze thank you marina. I really appreciate it. It was strange for me how she reacts to the idea. She told me that she used to be obsessed with thesr thoughts when she was young.
@messinalyle40303 жыл бұрын
It would be quite hard to do a Freudian reading of a story that was compatible with feminism. Especially if, to paraphrase this video, a Freudian interpretation of family dynamics that were influenced by even a *tiny* bit of misogyny from the father, was that "the son's hatred of his father was influenced by his *misunderstanding* of his parent's relationship due to him being too young to know at the time that that was what (heterosexual) sexual relationships were like." That idea only pathologizes the gut-level intuition that children have regarding justice, and comes from the very same patriarchy that flourishes in part due to men being taught from a young age that women being treated unjustly or in ways that don't honor their autonomy in romantic relationships and otherwise is "right." Not to mention that the stereotype that gay men are close to their mothers alludes to the Oedipus complex even if the mother-son relationship is close in a healthy way, and by extension perpetuates the stigma against homosexuality.
@isa-morena3 жыл бұрын
I've always thought that the Oedipus complex was yet another patriarchal myth meant to stunt men's relationships with women starting with their own mothers.
@paulinaenck57973 жыл бұрын
Speaking of Xavier Dolan’s work, J’ai Tué Ma Mère has two really complicated relationships between single moms and their gay sons. Hubert has a distant and tense dynamic with his mom but idolizes his absent father. Antonin and his mother are very close, having a playful and very open relationship, with Hubert and Antonin even having sex both in her house and at her office, and she Half nakedly introduced him to a man with whom she was having sex
@Hallows43 жыл бұрын
What about Seymour Skinner and his mother? Definitely some Oedipal motifs there, and as perverse as it sounds, I think the closest thing to a father-figure in his life is superintendent Chalmers.
@alexanderguerrero3473 жыл бұрын
But that’s not his mother. It’s just some woman
@valc63663 жыл бұрын
can you look at more foreign films and explore their themes and difference to American/British media and entertainment
@Legendofzellybelly3 жыл бұрын
She was not Princess Amidala, she was Queen Amidala. No one ever called her a Princess, weird reference choice
@jamesmarshall66193 жыл бұрын
I never wanted to fight my dad, I can fight but that dude is crazy and also a great fighter so wasn't interested in getting my butt kicked.
@sailormonet199413 жыл бұрын
I kept waiting for a Tyrion/Tywin Lannister take, too. Although Tyrion didn’t have a relationship with his mother, in fact his birth killed her, he does go looking for that sort of unconditional and, in the case of Shay, almost motherly love in all the wrong places i.e. every whore house in Westeros he can get into. In the end Tyrion kills his father after finding out he slept with his lover and that sort of puts a kind of spin on the Oedipus complex explained here. In my opinion anyway
@saramecoolsuper3 жыл бұрын
Was thinking about this just now... Your videos always come out at the right moment, am I being watched?
@maximussaktish3 жыл бұрын
This is the first time i heard about this complex, kind of disgusted
@xbjrrtc3 жыл бұрын
Love the channel, but the audio quality on this video seems off. Like the voice-over mic is blaring or something. Great video, though!
@hectorrivera40533 жыл бұрын
Harry Potter and his fader lord Voldemort ? Wtf, it’s his mortal enemy. A father figure could be professor Dumbledor or Sirius, not voldy
@bellaknightR5973 жыл бұрын
@Holly Wouldint yeah a fragment of his soul inside Harry that created an accidental Horcrux that helped him stay alive, not his blood, if anything he's closer to being a parasite that clings to a host for survival than a father figure
@bellaknightR5973 жыл бұрын
@Holly Wouldint who hurt you?
@bellaknightR5973 жыл бұрын
@Holly Wouldint ok wow
@Ellerbeetimes1003 жыл бұрын
Using the most important book in my life, D'Aulaire's Book of Greek Myths. :-D
@emen_983 жыл бұрын
Also, the titanomachy is also fitting with this theme because Zeus and if I’m correct, hades who helped him make the final blow to take down their dad. Both later married women who were said to be like their mother rhea
@SlapstickGenius233 жыл бұрын
Though the psycho film franchise is definitely a values dissonant continuity snarl in itself, there is something that links all of the instalments together; Norman Bates’ mum was screwed over by many men, mostly after her husband died. Thus, her ghost became the villain in Norman’s callously sociopathic brain.
@anu.3 жыл бұрын
I am so so so jealous of Marty now.
@monjishbhattacharyya37953 жыл бұрын
Who’s gonna bring up…the one site where these stories really flourish. If you know, you know.