Thank you! Rules for ALL family members: 1. Respect yourself and others (“be nice”) 2. Respect property (“be nice to stuff”) 3. Respect authority (“the one in charge”)
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
That's it! Honored to be on your team.
@edwardwicks3043 жыл бұрын
Thank you. Saved me 5 minutes of my life.
@sherrilynnnelson7033 жыл бұрын
Maybe #3 should be "Respect Virtue" or "Respect God" because authority does not guarantee virtue
@thelmakatherine53963 жыл бұрын
@@sherrilynnnelson703 I understand what you are saying. Yet I still think Authority is a good term for the rule. But it is imperative that the children be taught that there are spheres of authority. For example if a babysitter told them to do something that your child knew you would say No to, then they must obey you rather than the babysitter even if you are not home because your authority trumps the babysitter's. They must obey "the one in charge" but not if it violates the authority above it.
@chelseymcgee4842 жыл бұрын
@@sherrilynnnelson703 No, God isn writing their paychecks and grading their papers. They need to respect authority. Now adding a rule #4 of respect God could be an idea for your home.
@Venus.actor.singer4 жыл бұрын
Awesome! Respect all, properties and authority. Respect is higher than love because it's impossible to love someone we don't respect.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Virgie Mata, if our kids learn that, then the world would be a better, happier place.
@daisy14413 жыл бұрын
What? I stick up for myself if I am bullied. BUT I love the bully for showing me how not to be; for showing me and others what kind of world we do not want. I forgive the bully because I do not want to carry hate inside me, since that would only hurt myself.
@spacecoyote554 жыл бұрын
It has been just as hard for us parents to follow these rules at times. But we have changed a lot in the year or so since we implemented these 3. The children are often reminding eachother which rule is in danger of being broken, and a consequence is rarely argued about over these issues. They're GOLD!
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
spacecoyote55, I appreciate you being at the channel and being a member of our community. You have been a great support.
@dshannon10384 жыл бұрын
I have watched almost every show, so I knew where this was going. However, reminders and repetition are the best teacher.
@yusyaidah4 жыл бұрын
Yes! Me too!! Everytime i get angry or lose control i hit over to this channel for reminder.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Haha, that's awesome, D Shannon! So honored to have you a part of the Live On Purpose family.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
yusyaidah yusop, thank you - I'm so honored to be on your team!
@jaclynh93434 ай бұрын
At some point it really gets aggravating having to repeat yourself. That's when boundaries + enforcing them can move the needle. "If you continue to yell at me I'm leaving the room because it doesn't feel respectful to me"
@g5pm4 жыл бұрын
Love your videos, Dr Paul! I recently heard the phrase "Unsolicited advice is a form of criticism." It really got me thinking and researching. I was surprised to find how destructive it can be to give advice that isn't asked for. I would love to see a video with your take on this topic.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
g5pm, thank you. I do say in some of my videos - especially the ones dealing with teenagers - that if the kids aren't asking for advice, they probably won't take it so think before you give it. Your phrase is thought-provoking, so I will add it to the list and consider it. : )
@sherrilynnnelson7033 жыл бұрын
I agree, but criticism can be beneficial 💖
@nelsaguanzon55762 жыл бұрын
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@purplepuma1233 жыл бұрын
I don’t know how to say ‘thank you’ where those words actually convey the weight of my gratitude. You will never know how you’re blessing my family, my life and my spirit. Now that just sounds like I’m exaggerating but I’m not. May God bless you and your family.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Wow, thank you, glad you are here.
@contactnadine58604 жыл бұрын
I have 3 rules in my home too. Respect, awareness, and responsibility. I have had them since my daughter was little and now she is 13, I would like to add respect authority but that will make them 4 rules, do I need to be specific about respect. respect yourself and others do that not include authority too
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Contact Nadine, you can make them whatever you want so that they serve your family well. Include it in respect and explain it to her as opportunities arise.
@Mysticus114 жыл бұрын
This is gold, thank u 🙏🏾 Parent education is usually so dry! U two make me chuckle, will check out ur courses 👶🏽
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Please do! Azimuth Arts. You can review the principles as often as needed.
@1framistan4 жыл бұрын
This is very helpful. I can use these rules in the classroom. It's powerful because it is simple. Thank you.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! david mundy, let us know how it goes.
@adrians_yt Жыл бұрын
Simple enough to understand it myself and explain it to children. Thank you!
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Glad to hear that! Thank you! Please share our videos with others who could benefit.
@rebecaaragon71013 жыл бұрын
In a perfect world with no one looking to abuse children. I think respecting authority may leave kids following blindly an authority figure that is looking to abuse them. It is important to qualify that by telling them that although it’s important to be nice to others & respecting authority, it is not more important than making sure they are safe. If they ever feel unsafe with others or authority, then they need to know that it’s okay to yell, speak out about this and get help from an adult that can keep you safe.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Rebeca Aragon, we are teaching children at the same time about being safe so it normally works and keeps them out of trouble.
@Malicedagrey2 жыл бұрын
Going to have this talk with my kiddos tonight. I’ve used a couple of your tips so far and they’ve ACTUALLY WORKED. I’m amazed.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Thank you for letting me know. Glad you are in our community of supportive parents.
@judysetran91983 жыл бұрын
I became a single mom in the 90's when the kids were pre teens..I learned very quickly learned to choose my battles.... Certain things had to happen for us to survive..everyone had to help..ie turns cooking or dishes.. responsible for your own laundry..Keep the bathroom clean..early on they had responsibility for their homework.. no zeros no late papers..no skipping school.. If i cant skip work they couldn't skip either..No rules for kids that I didnt follow myself
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Judy Setran, love it, no hypocrisy. Very wise to choose your battles.
@kassandrab6653 жыл бұрын
I love this. I am excited to use it as my daughter begins to gain an understanding of our world. She's 2 but I know I can start small. This is a lesson for me as well. I don't do well with respecting things because I get overwhelmed by them. I'm constantly trying to figure out a home for everything while battling with my ADHD which is a recipe for disaster but I won't ever give up. I'm devoted to making myself a better person for myself, for my daughter, and for my husband. It would be great to find a balance between understanding that above all, my job is to love my daughter and raise her, and then after that, I can try my best to respect our things.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Doe eyed beauty, You are on the right track. Glad you will be implementing the rules in your family. Best of luck to you all.
@verap96512 жыл бұрын
Please check out minimalism. It helps not to be overwhelmed by stuff. Best thing I found for myself. Spend to many years wondering why I’m having such a hard time dealing with all the things I own. Best of luck to you.
@Goldensouloutlaw4 жыл бұрын
Rule one, awesome Rule two, awesome Rule three, if it doesn't break rule one and two
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
LinkAndMe, if it works for you, go for it.
@Natedoc8083 жыл бұрын
Awesome. When we first became parents we decided on rules of the house and I proposed the two I grew up with: be honest. Be respectful. If the behavior meets that criteria, all is typically well
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Natedoc808, I like it, even more simplified
@RJelly-fi6hd3 жыл бұрын
My 5 rules for my elementary classroom: 1. Respect people 2. Respect belongings 3. Respect the school building/surroundings 4. Raise your hand if you need something/have a question 5. Be quick in following directions **Of course, I reward for all good behaviors, and take privileges for not following the rules. And follow-through is very important on MY part, or the whole thing falls apart! We deeply discuss what respect for each of these areas looks like, so when I need to give reminders, I just ask them, "Is what you are doing respecting people, belongings, the building,etc?" They can usually answer that question themselves, which gives them the responsibility factor.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
R. Jelly, love it. They are so similar.
@jjjackson51833 жыл бұрын
This is how teachers survive. Keep it short, simple and absolutely reasonable.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Jj Jackson, Vicki is a great influence here.
@shangshang372 жыл бұрын
Yes, BE NICE. A better way to address RESPECT. ☺️❤️
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
It really is.
@DrewHopper.4 жыл бұрын
Excellent video! We will be using these rules with our three boys. We are adding a rule 1.1- Respect your word! It definitely falls into rule one, but we want to emphasise the importance of always doing what you say you will. A rule us parents must strive to follow also. Thanks again for your uplifting content and practical advice!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Fantastic! Adapt away for your family, Drew Hopper.
@mimallonis Жыл бұрын
I love these rules. Now I have to play with best translation to my language.
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Wish I could help with that. Thank you.
@pamelaallen65433 жыл бұрын
This caught my eye, and I'm grateful it did. My granddaughter and her two children live with my husband and myself. I will be following you both and encouraging my family to do the same. Not following these basic rules makes for a difficult family life. Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! Good luck!
@adriangunn2 жыл бұрын
Great rules! - I add 1 caveat to rule 3 (for older kids especially) which is “unless it conflicts with Rule 1” (and maybe…sometimes Rule 2).
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Adrian Gunn, thanks.
@margaretjudice89442 жыл бұрын
Great thoughts! This covers a lot! Thank you for sharing!
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome!
@chiphill48563 жыл бұрын
I've been married for 33 years and we dated for 5 years before that. Our top rule is a form of respect which we interpret as politeness and manners. In other words: be nice! Manners lubricate all human interaction! Manners will take you anywhere you want to go in life. It's also a form of the Golden Rule: Treat others as you want to be treated.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Chip Hill, so true. We all need kindness, even if we are married, maybe especially then.
@pcharm37114 жыл бұрын
You both make an adorable couple! 💑
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Prismatic Charms, thanks. We love working together.
@raryan113 жыл бұрын
Thank you
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
raryan11, My pleasure.
@junipergreene24674 жыл бұрын
Love it! Great rules. Will do a search on your channel - how to disagree respectfully because sometimes authorities are wrong (me parent have been wrong many many times). And self advocacy. Sometimes must break the rules for personal health or if God forbid, the authority has bad intent and gives immoral directives. Thank you Drs. Jenkins for your positivity and sharing your experiences! The game for rule 1 is ingenious!
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Juniper Greene, thank you so much, honored to be on your team.
@4000marcdman4 жыл бұрын
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@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
I haven't heard that before, Enter User Name Here. I am happy that the channel is helping people on a daily basis.
@4000marcdman4 жыл бұрын
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@zohraimam5 ай бұрын
Thank You 🎉🎉
@LiveOnPurposeTV5 ай бұрын
Our pleasure.
@meagankeele28352 жыл бұрын
I’ve watched this video before and with moving and crazy life somehow our rules were lost and forgotten. On rewatching this I noticed your cat in the background. 😊
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
We are filming at the house the KZbin people use. Vicki and I have two dogs, no cats. They are fun though.
@mariabarraza48714 жыл бұрын
Awesome thank you ! Good for myself and to tech children.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Our pleasure!
@evasinclair42943 жыл бұрын
Make sense and it does cover everything! Thanks for this small bit of advice it's so easy remember and I don't think I will ever forget it. Definitely something I can pass along to my son and grandson for their kids!
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@minniesimmonsmoody47613 жыл бұрын
As always, great advice and perfect rules for everyone to live by. Even when they disagree there are ways to discuss or have a family meeting.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Yes, I believe this.
@tessjones59873 жыл бұрын
These rules ROCK. Thank you.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
You are welcome.
@soyetasworld77153 жыл бұрын
Examples on authority.....pls.. ......🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏.. you give priceless gems 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Soyeta, authority could be a teacher at school, a group leader, older members of the family, bus driver, etc.
@soyetasworld77153 жыл бұрын
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@markwalker55433 жыл бұрын
Thank you, simple and sweet 🙏🏽👍🏾😊
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
You are very welcome.
@OK-ej7fc4 жыл бұрын
It might be a little difficult to explain “substances” to younger kids, but This a good video because it can be watched with kids and paused when you give scenarios to see what the kids think is thumbs up or down.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
O K, I am glad you are pausing to clarify anything they may not understand.
@Sheryl7773 жыл бұрын
I really like your videos, because you always make everything so simple and easy to understand. In this complex world that we live in today, that is so very helpful, because it brings us clarity and calmness (like an oasis of peace) in all the craziness that's going on around us a lot of times! I also like the facial expressions that you use to emphasize the points that you are making.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Sheryl777, we are honored to be on your team.
@emanb74224 жыл бұрын
I’ve been watching so many of your videos since 2 days till 3am learning how to do postive discipline! I’ve never heard of this approach and I am feeling so horrible as a Mom. I have a 5 year old boy and 3 yr old girl! I’ve yelled tons and tons of times, spanked, time outs, corners, and reward charts etc... I am trying so so hard to apply these videos. The problem I have is that I get so ANGRY quickly and I tried ur breathing method but it’s so hard to be calm with a child who’s constantly ignoring me and hitting! I thought kids have to have consequences and you said that the consequences is for the mom to be upset! I hope that it’s not too late for my son who’s 5 can learn from scratch all new parenting strategies. I really don’t know how to teach a child who’s hitting his sister and pulling her down the hallway by his hair and you just talk to him? And he just repeatedly does this... I get so crazy angry! 😭
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Eman B, it is difficult to parent a different way, but it will be worth it in the long run. Make sure everyone is safe and then you can take a time out. You don't need to respond to the kids at the time everything is happening. You can wait a bit and then talk to them. They can learn a lot from that approach.
@Novelynbanzk4 жыл бұрын
I saved this in playlist to have my kids watch by the time but thi time my kids are 3yrs old and 8months old. I dont know why my tears dropped while watching this video.RULES is really hard when the parents grew in different way and have rules different. ..Weeks ago we had arguement of my husband at the park. Our 3yrs old standing ready to slide but there was kids playing down the slide so I told my daughter NO,YOU WAIT!Then my husband insisted that she can go slide kids knows how to adjust, then I told my western husband NO!The kids that playing down the slide they were the first before our daughter came, so JUB she needs to learn to be patient to wait,but my husband still insisted and said its OK you can go SLIDE JUBILLEE they can adjust but I was still making my voice loud telling my daughter NO YOU NEED TO WAIT or else go to other side of SLIDE... I WILL BE KEEP PLAYING THIS VIDEO TO MY DAUGHTER and have her keep hear this... Thank you soo much❤🙏❤
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Nene Pobreng KZbinr, it is best to have these conversations away from your child with calm voice, calm face and calm body. I hope you are able to get on the same track where your daughter is concerned.
@nvaranavage3 жыл бұрын
Lol.....so my daughter about three years ago decided she was going to write on her closet doors. I will admit that I kind of blew up, but after I calmed down, I figured out a way to stop her from ever thinking about doing it again. She had a choice, either no TV for two days, or she cleaned up the mess. She opted for no TV obviously, but after about three hours of no TV she reluctantly went upstairs and scrubbed her closet doors....😜. She NEVER colored on any surface in or outside the house again.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
nvaranavage, sounds like you know your daughter well.
@kelliemichael78113 жыл бұрын
Concise and memorable rules! Great. Thanks
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@aprilthompson28534 жыл бұрын
Shared with my hubby. I hope he will agree with you and I on this subject.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
April Phister, I hope he agrees also and you two can become a united. It has helped our family so much when the kids were younger and has continued on.
@akifumiinoue38094 жыл бұрын
Always very awesome advices, Dr. Paul. thank you very much. These 3 rules way is very simple and I can use it right now. I hope it works well.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful! Best of luck, Akifumi Inoue.
@deraralu88092 жыл бұрын
Lovely Video. I have a question, how about when authority doesn't respect themselves and others, are we still supposed to respect authority?
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Loaded question that can be answered so many ways. We can work for change. That will look different depending on the situation. It isn't about rolling over and being taken advantage of, it is about not causing harm and challenging others when they are doing their job. This could be a whole other video.
@delfisvillaman91973 жыл бұрын
So glad I found you two! I love your videos. God bless you!
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Delfis Villaman, thank you!
@evangeliakaratza-styliara44134 жыл бұрын
Nice!!!! Concise!!!! And a question for you: a 22 year old does not pay bus ticket... even though she/he have been fined repeatedly... What do you do????
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Evangelia Karatza-Styliara, nothing. If they are 22, they need to be responsible for the ticket. It is their problem and there will be consequences. Be glad that it is just a bus ticket and hopefully when they experience the consequences they will learn that it is better to take care of these things early on.
@dorisdmwdaddelt95284 жыл бұрын
💗 such simple but great advice. Thank you dearly
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
You are so welcome! Remember, simple is not always easy, dorisdmw daddelt.
@zohraimam5 ай бұрын
Great ❤
@LiveOnPurposeTV5 ай бұрын
Thank you!
@sparkofjoy31913 жыл бұрын
Thank you for an amazing video! Can you please make one about disagreeing with authority?
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Great suggestion! It's on the list.
@sparkofjoy31913 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Great, thank you 😊 let me just clarify a little bit. I am confused how to teach a child to respect authority (parents, teachers etc) but also to not make him/her a blindly obedient person a long the way which might be problematic later in life if he/she doesn’t know how to say “no”. It seems so contradictory but I think both is important. How to balance that in parenting? Thanks so much for all your advice!
@Happiness3794 жыл бұрын
Thank you! So grateful for your videos! Is there a video explaining what to do when any of these rules are not being followed, or at least not showing improvement fast enough?
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
arlynn alonzo, I don't have anything yet that addresses that specifically. I focus on principles and if a rule is broken, then consequences follow. Natural consequences are the best and you should maintain a calm face, calm voice and calm body.
@adamfreund36224 жыл бұрын
Thanks to you guys, have these hanging on the wall!
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Great to hear!
@zenaidazarate72034 жыл бұрын
Be nice to yourself and others Respect property/ Be nice to taking good care of stuff Respect authority whoever is in charge
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Thank you for the summary, Zenaida Zarate.
@jessicabreen8993 жыл бұрын
Hi! Loved the first rule -- the fact that it covers negative self-talk in addition to respecting others is brilliant! I have some thoughts about rules 2 and 3. For rule 2, just a simple suggestion to clarify that "property" doesn't always mean something that's privately owned, ie, it can also refer to the natural world/environment. For rule 3, I think including your thoughts on what to do when you disagree with authority should be included (I know you can't cover everything in every video, but especially in the times we live in, this seems pretty essential to include). Authority figures make mistakes (often) and kids need to feel empowered to speak up when that happens :)
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Jessica Breen, very insightful, I will think about that.
@justworking71413 жыл бұрын
The rule is respect Authority. That doesn’t mean obey authority. Ypu can respectfully question authority and the authority can respectfully revise or review as appropriate. I read the rule more as, the Authority is in charge which means they can also decide to negotiate.
@katiechoraksadovskis76312 жыл бұрын
How do you set a rule without hypocrisy if you don't perfectly keep the rule? My husband and I still occasionally get into disagreements that result in angry raised voices. The good thing is it's not toxic - we are quick to apologize and let it go and return to the atmosphere of love and peace...but still, it wasn't respectful behavior in the heat of the moment! How can I tell my kid not to yell and be respectful if I'm not always respectful? I would say I'm definitely a respectful person 99% of the time - but there's still a 1%! I do my best, but realistically it's a process that takes some time; so how do we allow for grace - for both parents and kids as we all improve? I can definitely imagine speaking to kids about the fact that this is what we value in our home and we aren't perfect, but we all need to be working towards it. But then, if you want to set a consequence for when the kids aren't respectful, isn't it a bit hypocritical if the adults don't have to get a consequence when the parents don't get it perfectly right?
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
It is all about practice and you are practicing calm face, calm body, calm voice. Ask them to help you in this and be there for one another. Congrats or ice cream to all when you get through a day with no yelling.
@Christ_Is_Life10-102 жыл бұрын
If a child has a neurodevelopmental problem like ADHD messiness is a consequence of impaired attention and focus. It will cause the child to feel shame if they are taught that they are not respectful of themselves or others. Parents have the responsibility to understand their child’s needs.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Parents are the best ones to know what their children need.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
I hope you are able to get the child the help they need.
@augustagootee62542 жыл бұрын
Oh man I needed this the other day when my son was curious George and another kid thogiht be good ide take keys of keyboard
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Wow! That is a good one. The stories we parents can tell...
@drmandeepkaurmandeepnursin96994 жыл бұрын
Good one ,,practically covers everything
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
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@Silentpartner21763 жыл бұрын
And a true parent will also be a friend to their child, even if it means standing up to them when they misbehave or spending time with them when they need connection. That’s what real friends do.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Lloyd Lee, thank you for watching and commenting.
@Silentpartner21763 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Thank you.
@trishe.88844 жыл бұрын
Good advice
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Glad it was helpful!
@n_issa4 жыл бұрын
I made my kids watch this.. thank you
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
That's great! Easier to implement when everyone is on the same page, N Issa.
@texaslovelylady3 жыл бұрын
Just when I get started in teen years an answer to much prayer. 😅😅😅
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
We wish you the best!
@georgina62833 жыл бұрын
Awesome advice!! Wish I had known when my kids were little. I guess I did set rules but perhaps not very clearly, and y kids did very well in most cases. I can´t complain. However,, I really love your rule number 2, honestly even for myself. I think I failed at conveying that one to them and to be honest, even following it myself. I think as with everything else in life, it´s never too late to start applying something good and changing habits. I actually wrote your 3 rules down and plan to apply them in all settings at all times.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
It is never too late.
@maryenglish93143 жыл бұрын
Four B’s. Be respectful Be responsible Be safe Be faithful.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
So good! Thank you.
@helenebennie39613 жыл бұрын
I love that!
@ancutabontas12993 жыл бұрын
This rules are smart but the last one is a bit tricky. Some adults in a small child's life can be abusive. How do you protect the child from abusive adults and teach them to respect authority also?
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Ancuta Bontas, it is a lot of discussions with the child over their life. It is modeled in our behavior when the child is around and the things we say to them.
@Sarahkiroglu4 жыл бұрын
Aaaaj this is perfect!!! 👏👏👏👏😁 thank you ❤️
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
I'm glad you like it
@Ourhomeschooladventures4 жыл бұрын
Way better than the long list of rules
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
It was effective in our family.
@RivkaMacales3 жыл бұрын
I love this!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Thank you.
@mssummerrose13 жыл бұрын
I love your content and teaching style, yet I'd have appreciated if you'd have also given examples for rule no. 2 regarding parents: the house is also "property" of the children imo as they have the right to express themselves or decorate/style the place they're living in... or what about respecting their privacy, i.e. not entering their room uninvited, etc... there are many ways adults sometimes disrespect the young and it's high time there would be some light shed on this... thanks anyways for the excellent content 👍
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
mssummerrose1, good insight.
@wanderinwahine88323 жыл бұрын
I always tell my daughter, "if you care for something, you take care of it" mostly for her toy's everywhere 🙃🤍
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Love that!
@diborataddise7145 Жыл бұрын
You r so good 👍
@LiveOnPurposeTV Жыл бұрын
Thank you, dibora taddise.
@Tracysop13 жыл бұрын
I wish I’d had this tool when my sons were little. When is it too late to implement these?
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Never too late, introduce them and begin using now.
@Tracysop13 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV Even with an 18 & 21 y. o.?
@manit59194 жыл бұрын
Awesome ..thanks
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
You are welcome!
@IcelynOdette4 жыл бұрын
I was just thinking a couple days ago about rules you mentioned in a previous video. I wished I had wrote them down. How wonderful to see this! Thank you!
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Perfect! Boylan's Happily Ever After, glad our timing was on.
@stephenbyrne71694 жыл бұрын
Wonderful: thank you.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Our pleasure!
@hopeseeker974 жыл бұрын
New to yoir channel. Do you have any videos on moms who struggle with attachment and laughter due to their own childhood traumas and abuses? CTPSD where now children are teens and only short window left?
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
hopeseeker97, I don't think there is anything that specific. I would encourage you to watch videos and pay attention when I talk about principles. They can be applied to almost every situation, the application may be a bit different, but once we identify principles and live them, our lives change.
@4000marcdman4 жыл бұрын
Another great video.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed it
@tiffanywilliams1944 жыл бұрын
I would love to hear their opinion on unschooling.
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Tiffany Williams, lots of learning happens with unschooling. When kids are paying attention and invested, learning happens.
@tiffanywilliams1944 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV I appreciate you responding!
@quirkywendy2 жыл бұрын
I think the first two rules you give are excellent, but have to disagree with the last one. Authority figures can abuse their power and I wouldn't want to send the impression that my child should respect someone just because they are the one in charge. At the very least an addendum should be made to the third rule - Respect Authority, as long as that doesn't mean you are breaking rule 1 or 2. Really, the first two rules cover everything that needs covering though.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Quirky Wendy, I like that.
@joylee96054 жыл бұрын
Hi Dr Paul, If my husband is too stubborn and authoritative, what should I do? I feel so bad for my kids
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Joy Lee, thank you for being at Live On Purpose TV. Keep in mind that you cannot change your husband, only influence him. It might be useful to take some time and sit down with him to discuss appropriate ways to discipline the children. Let him know of your concern, and offer to show some videos from this channel if you wish. We have a Positive Parenting playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPCclxt6agg3wrLBRkL7CCwU . And if yelling is an issue, we have a “How To Get Kids To Listen Without Yelling | Five-Day Challenge” playlist: kzbin.info/aero/PLq2mRDkHEBPAcEW3S3spSI62Xx0mEZwVS This might be a good one to start with: "Importance Of Positive Parenting" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/lZDCd6Z-mZ2Ieqc
@Kreativebug164 жыл бұрын
wonderful video, plz make a video on what to do when someone breaks the rule
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Thank you, Kaynat Naqvi. When children break the rules, the parents should administer discipline in the form of consequences. Here are a few videos on that: "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars "How To Come Up With GOOD CONSEQUENCES" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWeokGScq551f9U "7 Ways To Discipline Your Child" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fWTRpmSHm7SIp6c
@Kreativebug164 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV thank you so very much
@Efesios61414 жыл бұрын
Sounds nice when you're in La,la land,but in the rule#1. What you do with this: Answer a fool according to his folly, lest he be wise in his own conceit. Proverbs 26:5 KJV Answer not a fool according to his folly, lest thou also be like unto him. Proverbs 26:4 KJV
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
JReyes Moctezuma, these have worked in lots of families that I have worked with. Give it a try.
@annettemacintosh1174 жыл бұрын
Thank you, very helpful :)
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
You're welcome!
@robertoroman15754 жыл бұрын
rule #2 4:32 rule #3 6:54
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Roberto Roman, thanks.
@bidybidybu4 жыл бұрын
Being fair would be another one? Or is it included in respecting everyone?
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
Santiago Hernandez, it is included. Be careful about trying to make everything fair.
@Christ_Is_Life10-102 жыл бұрын
Serial killers are “nice”. Respect is much more authentic.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Understood.
@LRodn20052 жыл бұрын
What are the consequences?
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Depends on what you control. Figure that out and then you know where to focus.
@NYMusic895634 жыл бұрын
I want to know what to do if your child is almost 6 and we haven’t done this since birth. What to do if they break the rules or have bad habits of not cleaning up their toys or rooms.
@jenniferviolette3174 жыл бұрын
I am dealing with the same thing right now and I'm finding as far as good habits go consistently having my son do what's right even if it means doing it with him. Helping him with chores, hygiene, etc.
@emanb74224 жыл бұрын
Same here! My son is 5
@jenniferviolette3174 жыл бұрын
@@Psalm2710_ that does work well !
@lauracahill49204 жыл бұрын
Consequences and choices work for us. eg. After you put away toys, make the bed, pick up etc, you can watch TV etc. If you don’t want to clean up, it’s OK, I won’t get angry, it’s just you won’t be allowed to watch TV.
@Intrepid_Insomniac4 жыл бұрын
There was a video he did on not yelling where he said you can give choices. So in this case you would say “You can clean up your room or you can hire someone to do it. Then let them know how very expensive your rate is. If they don’t clean it, by default they hired you and pay the consequence.” I used it on my 6 year old son yesterday for the first time and it worked.
@ingridmartin75233 жыл бұрын
Unless the person in charge is abusive which is often the piqwr dynamic in sexual abuse. Teach your kids they never ever need to be nice to someone who wants to touch or be touched or show their private areas even in the context of a game. Report anything that makes them uncomfortable or icky. They have a right to say NO! Know your rights! Is my kids rule to prevent sexual abuse. 95% of sexual abuse is preventable thru empowered kids and truly aware and protective parents. I've heard horror stories of babysitters or coaches abusing kids.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
It is horrible. We need to empower our children in this area.
@jaynesh20084 жыл бұрын
What do you do if they violet them? Cause it s a lot to remember
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
donna yorke, I like natural consequences, I think they are the best ones. Have a family conference and talk about this, get the kids input on what they think should happen, but you make the final decision.
@jaynesh20084 жыл бұрын
Live On Purpose TV I only ever switch the internet off because I know they hate that
@LiveOnPurposeTV4 жыл бұрын
@@jaynesh2008 That's a really good one. Kids can come up with other ideas. If you are still struggling to come up with consequences, here are some videos with ideas: "Consequences For Misbehavior | 6 Specific Examples" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/fJPGqKNvo8Zjars "How To Come Up With GOOD CONSEQUENCES" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/eWeokGScq551f9U "How To Use Natural And Logical Consequences" - kzbin.info/www/bejne/kHe9enyrpqqJmrs
@shecamt3 жыл бұрын
❤
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Glad you enjoyed the rules.
@robynsalaver40692 жыл бұрын
I thought at first this was Tina Fey.
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Robyn Salaver, it would be fun to have her on the channel.
@donquihote60233 жыл бұрын
I was hoping Hormones would be balanced in this discussion. Nope, all Estrogen. I enjoy the premise, however, While this may work somewhat, what happens when you get around those who don't follow the rules, or have a kid that will never obey the rules?
@LiveOnPurposeTV2 жыл бұрын
Consequences for those not following the rules.
@madelinemahajan28083 жыл бұрын
like you guys but not this one. Too much mindless social programming and too much wiggle room for how to define "respect" For my families as a therapist I suggest follow the 3 Rs Respect, Responsibility and Regulated emotions
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Madeline Mahajan, thanks for letting me know.
@ingridmartin75233 жыл бұрын
What are the consequences in your home when the kids break any of these rules?
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Depends on the child. Our kids are all grown. We had them do chores, they lost privileges, once they got a door taken off their room.
@southernshenanigans30693 жыл бұрын
Yes we aren't Peer-ants we are parents.
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
I love it.
@hectorskmetija30153 жыл бұрын
I don't have a family but a previous boyfriend I was shocked to find out didn't follow any of these. As a silly example, we were on holiday where there was loads of snow. He started just throwing snowballs at people's houses on a walk. He had no comprehension that this was out of order and thought I was being picky. By they way we are talking about a man in his 30s NOT a toddler!!!
@LiveOnPurposeTV3 жыл бұрын
Wow! Some people are never taught this. Imagine if they were.
@hectorskmetija30153 жыл бұрын
@@LiveOnPurposeTV If all were taught this and followed it. The world would be a much nicer place, thanks for the video 👍
@sassy_girl3 жыл бұрын
This is good but would like to hear 👂more on adult situations, it's like you're speaking mostly to kids , there's also a lot of adult bullies to , that's where the kids get it from, just saying!