The Other Person Is You (Relationships & Wounds)

[@gurudra]

If you love yourself,you love others If you hate yourself,you hate others . In a relationship with others it is only you - mirrored

[@milena11570]

Not true

[@keralytekid]

@@milena11570 How so? I am genuinely curious.

[@winniewinkles]

This is my experience massively. I have outgrown most of the people in my life and they have vanished and the only one left is constantly trying to pull me back down. I feel so sad at how on my own I’ve become and that I have no mirroring or feedback atm. Must keep going, there’s nothing else for it!

[@notdefining]

Wow I can't explain how much your videos have helped me. I'm so so grateful. You are sensational.

[@kimberlydionafarmer1851]

Dang, synchronicity girl! I broke up with my guy this week...you described the path I’m on. In the past I would have held on, but I’m facing my deeper issues. Scary but amazing to love myself enough to let go of my people pleasing and learn to give myself the love I’ve been seeking in relationships ♥️

[@MicahRion]

Kimberly Diona Farmer I’m on this journey too!

[@melser77]

I’ve stopped the video to say how beatiful you look , like a colorful , soothing flower . God bless you , and thank you for helping us .

[@silentgrove7670]

I realized recently that what I am seeking on the outside is what I am hungry for on the inside. As a child I did not get that love I wanted so I grew up hungry. So I searched and searched without success to satisfy my hunger. It shows itself in seeking external validation, even when that validation is pleasant it is still showing itself. I must somehow internalize love into self love. Even now as I write this the themes show themselves as they were imprinted during childhood - guilt - unworthiness - how dare you put yourself first - I will allow you only what I tell you that you are allowed - limitation These are shadows that must be banished from my beliefs about myself. Shadows of the past, you are no longer welcome here.

[@annee5582]

This is your journey. We can buy tools to help us along the way, but truth is we have all the tools inside. You were born with them.

[@Elena-Studio]

Omg I had this video saved in my 'watch later' for months and the first 40 seconds, dot on !

[@lynnejt6089]

I feel like now that I’m finding my worth, I’m seeing my husband feels unworthy.... when I’ve never seen that before.

[@rukkayyahyusuf2056]

The story/behavior of what I need to feel safe has changed. And those older things feels unsafe. A reminder of the old feelings. Remove the person and see the lesson. Allowing myself to recieve grace. I'm enough and those around me dont see their worth and to connect with then I had to shrink. I know my worth and i feel sadness, I may have to let go and I am powerless to their own healing. I am worthy and do not need to shrink to connect with others. I'll go and stay see who is there already. Hope they heal but not dependent on it.

[@skydance8017]

I really enjoy all those dissonant frequencies in the audio, like the pain, suffering and rejection one experiences in life, it serves beautifully to aid and assist one to see and hear clearly and understand the root of the matter. Rather than fixing what's wrong by spending meaningful time, laboring in love through longsuffering, willful and mindful prayer with fasting to deny your own selfish desires and ambitions, the conventional solution is to just discard the broken, ...microphone... into the recycling bin and upgrade to a new one; relegate the other person as inferior, insufficient, unfulfilling, and unworthy junk, and throw them away and exchange them for someone superior. Ultimately, fault belongs to them right? I mean they're the dysfunctional and it's their problem, for afterall you've advanced, evolved, and have become more worthy to move onward and upward for what you perceive to be someone greater, and onto better things; allowing the hurting and rejected partner to perish in torment, - by witholding healing virtue and love, because of your self righteous delusion. pssh! This sort of ideology is destroying us all and is bringing us all down to unfathomably low vibrational orders. What sickness has consumed this world. It's just as rampant in the LOA movement as it has been in religion. If they are truly YOU as you say, you shouldn't do that to yourself, recognize the divinity within each beloved person beyond the veil that's in a state of dissonance and reconcile them with the beauty, grace, intelligence, gifts and abilities that have been abundantly given to you; to deny and not use them or to misuse them is to deny the divinity in yourself. Only love will begin a genuine healing and restoration, and it will clearly define one's intended purpose. Live, Love, Be

[@louisehogan8192]

You will outgrow soul mates but a twin flame will grow along with you and as you learn to love yourself they will mirror that back to you too ❤️🔥

[@CFChristian]

I completely understand this. I went through a similar situation where the narcissist pushed me further away once I entered an enlightenment period, and started to outgrow my old self. I was willing to grow with her, but obviously it was futile with the narcissist.

[@sheli8036]

Candace you open my eyes my heart and soul. You are so inspiring on a daily basis. You keep me going! Thank you for getting me!

[@carrieorser5534]

That is exactly the best example. I use to feel insecure and jealous but now I don't so much anymore at all. I am enjoying my time and the people around me and I am enjoying my spare time too. I realized where the insecurities stemmed from and now ihave been taking care of me and if someone comes in well that's a bonus 😁. But until then I am enjoying my time and working on even more improvement. Thank you for sharing ❤️

[@LandoftheIn-Between]

OH MY GOD CANDACE SOURCE IS SPEAKING THROUGH YOU, YOU BEAUTIFUL SOUL! THIS WAS EXACTLY THE VERIFICATION THAT I NEEDED AT THIS EXACT MOMENT IN MY LIFE!!! I love you so much you have no idea how greatly you have changed my life and probably so many others. Thank you for using your gifts you are doing such wonderful work for this planet. I’m so excited for this shift in consciousness I see evidence for it everyday. THANK YOU THANK YOU THANK YOU 🙏🏼🤗🙌🏼😍👏🏼

[@Eridanus0001]

Brilliant video. "Stop staying small to feel connected."

[@Jojo-sb1xs]

OMG. THIS IS SOOOOOOOOO PROFOUND. SO SO SO SO SO brilliant and beautiful. Ive seen a shit load of vids and this is 1 of my top faves. Absolutely brilliant. Thanku candace...ur a true healer ❤❤❤❤❤

[@johnbehneman1546]

I am still learning on the road of life. I need to embrace the friendships I make along the way. And each day is a gift. And enlarge my circle of friends. And do not focus on my future, plan, yes. And ENJOY THE JOURNEY. I need to ENJOY LIFE MORE. That is why I attend Cruising Grand every Friday night. Make some friends, enjoy the bands, have some food. I need to look at OTHER OPTIONS until Spring. Thank you for letting me share.

[@vaia-tarot1107]

Everything that ever happens is the universe interacting with itself ;)

[@nataliebuchmann1726]

This is exactly what I needed today. And the EFT tapping video as well. Thank you for posting exactly what I needed!

[@lindahawkins5205]

Every time I watch this, I learn something. Thank you. 🙏

[@parkerholt8097]

Candace, this is so good. 🙏 I'm eager to have our nxt call.

[@rustyhands8179]

Your mic is clipping

[@johnbehneman1546]

Thank you so much. !!!!! I completely understand you. Thank you for turning the light on in my life.

[@SassyMrsK]

Thank you! You’re always on time. 💜

[@izabelak1011]

OMG totally on point and on time. but what if that someone is my mother. Can't and don't want to separate.

[@themmpodcast8254]

I needed to hear this!! So incredibly validating.

[@Mugen4775]

I just realized that in my last relationship. This friend of mine reminded me of my fear of abandonment. Luckily for me I noticed it and was able to work on it and heal it. It did hurt a lot though 😂.

[@wintersnow6816]

Thank You Angel, bless you 💖💖💖 Thank you for your Kindness and Knowledge.

[@evas4396]

Its like listening to my situation.. thank you for this!! Subscribed

[@620annika]

Today of all days I needed to hear this! Thank you !!

[@sheli8036]

Omg Yes Yes, So on point. Thank you!

[@meredithe1361]

Wow ty making yourself small to stay connected hit home

[@canadianlady777]

I can’t believe that a relationship can be saved if growth is only one sided...I’ve had as much trauma in my life as my partner but he isn’t willing to look at himself...However...he is by my definition, a passive aggressive covert narcissist..He fits with all the patterns of abuse he dishes out....We are constantly at odds...Neither one of us is happy...

[@courtneymccullough1264]

this is everything to me right now..

[@aprilsealy357]

I am going through this exact same thing. Exactly with my husband even. Im so happy to see this.

[@andreac4892]

Wow! Perfect timing 🙀💫🌙

[@amy_lee]

this was great ♥️

[@annamaria1929]

The sound on the video is dreadful!

[@YGabi333]

Hi Candace. Can you pls make another video of this topic pls?❤

[@momione11]

♥️Spot on.

[@NenaLavonne]

🦋 Beautiful upload ✨✨✨

[@psb12121]

New subscriber. You are great!

[@dionneciaramitaro8954]

Thank you! Great video! Learned so much!

[@Lena-hf6ij]

Thankyou this is gold ☀️

[@willmooney6096]

Longer and deeper

[@Jadanc]

Wowww thank you so much for this video ☘️☘️

[@aml8760]

Soooo true!!

[@nadiateixeira1817]

Thank you 🙏

[@AR-mu4zq]

I have listened to this video about 5 times now. It really resonates for me. But their is one part i would like clarification and im sure others would find this helpful: at the end you said, "moving forward we have to ask if moving the relationahip forward is going to grow me or hold me. "Would you please clarify? Did you mean feeling stuck? I thought this was about letting go of outdated and percieved outgrown relationships. And why would moving beyond the patterns be keeping us stuck? So confused!

[@slimfast0555]

How do I get 1 on 1 coaching with you for inner child work etc?

[@redeemerl5212]

Ive been guilty of the four fingers pointing back at me as did the other person. Ive apologised for my part but nothing from the other person x

[@lautjenz1103]

Yes! Yes! Yes! 🙏

[@revelation8017]

What do you mean by that? “staying small?” Do u ya oh mean settling?

[@sammyidris1002]

Where do we start when trying to do the inner work?

[@rosecajiga]

Great video! What can you do to feel worthy?

[@rebeccasteinbach3117]

How do you deal with shame

[@Lovelife-f8s]

The sound is so bad

[@Bibiesworld]

Brain = Blown... jesus christ...

[@carachristina8087]

Lol agreed

[@wiseonewizardry178]

I really, really need to be your client...no joke.

[@Lorelei711]

There's something wrong with the audio in this video hon

[@genevieverudman5221]

Candice can we video chat do you do that I'd really like to chat with you

[@CandacevanDell]

Genevieve Rudman yes all my sessions are online via zoom xo

[@genevieverudman5221]

@@CandacevanDell i only have whatapp or Messenger I don't know what zoom is🙈🤗

[@CandacevanDell]

Genevieve Rudman that’s ok! When you sign up there is a link to download that takes a few seconds before the sessions starts. Lots like Skype but better and more relatable

[@genevieverudman5221]

@@CandacevanDell how do I sign up and what is the cost in Rands pls and how long is a session pls Candace

[@CandacevanDell]

Genevieve Rudman I believe it’s 16 Rand per dollar. My sessions are 30 min or 50 min. You can check it out here www.candacevandell.com/work-with-me:

[@sunnylight5753]

💛🌱🤗

[@AceHardy]

👑🙏

[@lindaclark5911]

It is so complex.

[@dadlord689]

Too complicated. I guess that if you can't measure how someone is treating you - you are fucked. "He reminds me of my unworthy" - it is called cry baby.