EMOTIONAL REHAB for Highly Sensitive People & Codependent Relationships

[@karenmininni4962]

Candace gets it all the way.

[@chapplepeach29]

Making a poster for my wall: "I love myself unconditionally, authentically, whether people or things outside of myself validate me or not. I'm still going to love myself and that's okay." 💖

[@rik-keymusic160]

I woke up to the fact that indeed i have been raised in a very dysfunctional family. But i didn't had the knowledge as a young kid neither the understanding what actually was going on... Now i do, and it was an immense epiphany when i realized this with all the problems that came along with it. Not that my parents are bad people, both of them had also a very dysfunctional family. They never experienced unconditional love for themselves probably and that's really sad. So how could they ever give it to us if they don't really know what it is?.... They gave us almost everything from a material standpoint, like shelter, food and the possibility for education etc. But Never gave us the love for who we truly are, specially if we acted out difficult at a certain age. There was never a real connection between us on an emotional level, which explains why i never could open up emotionally towards them or other people. It all makes sense in a way now. I'm still a bit confused about how i should behave... should i just forget about it and say "okey, it happend i forgive everyone and move on?" I would lie if it was that easy but i can't blame the victim. Thanks for the video :) Regards!

[@kellyreilan]

You don’t have to apologize for F bombing. You’re keeping it real, to help us heal! Love and peace!

[@sxyteesa0890]

Binge watching your videos after leaving my narc husband. It depressed me and I had a mental breakdown 😞. I felt like I was slowly dying

[@lawofattraction2516]

T. McGaugh Hope you feel better now, stay strong darling ☘️

[@theesotericgenius8631]

How beautiful can a soul be. This is incredible and accurate. Thank you. God bless.

[@drewmcgrath2450]

Wow, I feel like you are my twin... its crazy hearing your take as it feels so familiar to my own experiences. and perspectives. Went through the same feelings of judgement and criticism as yourself as a child, but without the ridalin, I was called hyperactive in my day, (simply a behavioural disorder back then, nothing a spanking shouldn't fix) Can't wait to explore more of your vids. So glad I encountered your post!! Namaste right back to ya!

[@cherylfarrington8037]

After forty years, I finally feel heard xx

[@ManjuKannan23]

Loved this video ! Very true ! Empath / codependent here .

[@CandacevanDell]

Manju Kannan Heyyyyy 👋🏻

[@forjusticetruth943]

Wow perfect timing. Thank you so much 🙏❤ I literally just said to my friend that I dont understand why I keep attracting these people. I recently attracted a possible female narcissist "friend" into my life and how she treated me and basically discarded/ditched me really triggered feelings of shame and feelings that "there must be something wrong with me" and I'm trying to work through this. Thank you again xoxox ❤

[@MistrThomas]

Thank you so much Candace. You are helping my life become more beautiful

[@thinkaaj]

38 .. and I just understood all these years I wasn't crazy ..

[@adamgoodhunter]

The past year has been a lot with releasing that which doesn’t support us. I was hoping 2019 would start off with a bang, yet I am getting January is going to be a tough one. And I am feeling it has to do with our emotions. Making sure our needs are met and understanding what it means to love and be loved. I know this is a core wound for me! If 2019 is a year of immense growth, it makes sense that we would deal with this first

[@sandradale5409]

I am going threw that feeling on antidepressants 4 weeks now was feeling so good becouse the tablet numbed my emotions but today I felt this feeling of emotions In My stomach which travels up to my throats feeling tight and my mind feels crazy . This came at me at the right time this video . Thankyou so much ❤️

[@fredericmoresmau4303]

Ah i forgot the remodelling of my present is not evil its my narcissistic traits that are at work..... yeah...... of course, what about your narcissism and ego blocking my life out

[@CandacevanDell]

Sandra Dale pulls can help us deal in the moment but they end up suppressing the wound that needs to be healed. Your stomach is your 3rd chakra which is your personal power center and your throat is your “speaking truth center”. All of this makes perfect sense.

[@maharaz888]

Long time since watching this video for the last time. SOOO GOOD!

[@carolejean63]

20 years? You’re just a baby!! You’re so young is what I’m say!! ❤️. Thank you , you’re awesome..

[@creativemindsonja]

She is 41 or 42 y.o.

[@JayjayyHearts]

I'm crying just at the fact that you are explaining me better than I can explain myself :'(

[@chapplepeach29]

Thank you for making this video Candace. I love you so much! I am taking a 6 week group therapy class for victims of Narcissistic Personality Disorder - a next baby step in healing. This class found ME and I decided to flow with it. It will go over how this effects the brain, body, etc. I'm excited to do this this winter during our seed-planting/hibernation time.

[@Lola-mt1ne]

I've listened to this video a number of times; I need the reminder of how invalidating one's feelings is a powerful issue for everyone. Thank you for your work.

[@angelwild9145]

This video is just what I needed to see right now. Thank you. 👍🏻😌

[@nataliebuchmann1726]

Beautiful video. Thank you so much for those truths. They really spoke to me and I feel myself now shinning from within.

[@cherylfarrington8037]

Thank you so much . All my loves. Numestae.

[@coreyreed606]

WORD-UP CANDACE! TO INFINITY AND BEYOND...

[@willmooney6096]

That little toungue click presented a shift bella

[@nadiacavallini4728]

Thank you sooo much for this! Amazing!! 🙏namaste

[@SanjiXnoXakatsuki]

Great work you doing, i am blessed to find you. I just suscribe. Thanks so much

[@ludawig]

🤣 "Sorry for the F bomb!" cracked me up. Anyways, thanks for the great content Candace. Hope everything is going well on your end and youre recuperating well from the fire 🙏🏾

[@HighVibeCat]

933 likes 🌈 This is really helping a lot of us. Thank you very much, Candace ❤️🐛

[@cmarie4943]

Thank you have a blessed day 🙏

[@tommathew2354]

i consider myself as a man of science. but your timing. is just....

[@cherylfarrington8037]

Big hugs xx

[@cherylfarrington8037]

Thank you. Don't stop xx. Mwah x Thank you xx

[@maxim45kre]

Thank you

[@Healingfromtheroot]

Soooo helpful to me when you broke it down! Thank you!!!

[@silentgrove7670]

Do you think it is those negative emotions that are what end up in our "dark shadow". The parts of us that we were "told" were unacceptable ? Because we were not given guidance in how to accept and integrate anger or sadness for instance, then they bury in our unconscious and linger as a dark force that we haven't been able to make peace with, perhaps that is the shame feeling you mentioned. I have been thinking about what you said in "The Wounded Empath" as well. I am practicing self love with a view of it being , selfless, unconditional, full acceptance.

[@CandacevanDell]

Silent Grove YES I do!! Before the age of 8 we identify with our emotions so when those negative emotions are rejected, we learn to reject ourselves when we feel any negative emotions. It is the rejection of Self that hurts the most.

[@1LadyyBugg]

Great videos💝👍 feel really empowered. What would be an example of not judging your emotions you feel?

[@Illtakewhatsleft]

Very powerful session.

[@shiashiu6149]

I like how you keep videos short but good !

[@1111freespirit]

Love you you saying exactly good point i dealing with it all my life

[@Rocknroller22]

where can i find a community of people like this to surround myself with? anyone from Newfoundland watching this?

[@thelivingimpaired]

"How we relate to the issue, is the issue"

[@notavailable708]

8:10 healling

[@msdollana]

Thank you! Keep up the good work!

[@willmooney6096]

Noticing patterns to listen to also empower

[@willmooney6096]

Wow all mindclutter gone

[@willmooney6096]

I reallt hate when I sleepily tug in back into place

[@willmooney6096]

Sees a way at leasr

[@willmooney6096]

Love the shirt

[@Nikolaswood]

That was so great!

[@angelaslager]

genuine question: if we truly become connected to self and self is perfect, why do we seek out romantic relationships at all?

[@smurph4959]

Candace this was excellent! So insightful and powerful. I love the way you process and describe as it makes it so easy to digest. Thank you 🌼💗🌼

[@margaritav.2399]

Can i have info u On how to contact u plz, i think u can help me get my life back in track after lossing my children 7 yes ago.

[@jennayu799]

how do we know if we are highly sensitive and not actually the narcissist blaming the other person? that is something i am struggling with. i know that i am highly sensitive but after my last toxic relationship of three years, i feel like i have become a very selfish in a sense where i am just trying to protect myself from being hurt again.

[@CandacevanDell]

Jenna Yu many highly sensitive people ask me if in fact THEY are the narcissistic one and the answer is NO! Often times when we come from a relationship with a narcissist, we take on some of those characteristics to almost survive it. If you can’t beat them join them but also highly sensitive people are like sponges. We take on energies and express them in order to release them.

[@jennayu799]

@Mary Fire Thank you! :)

[@jennayu799]

@@CandacevanDell This totally makes sense. Thank you so much for your response & your videos that always seem to help me understand my emotional wounds more!

[@tallspicy]

Good question, in my experience... very often people who call others a narcissist are the narcissist, which is very different from saying... am I a narcissist? Which you usually are not. Also, statistically speaking most people are not narcissists, so labeling all bad relationships as with a narcissist is unlikely. They may be selfish or have tendencies ... we all do on some level. Plus, if you stay with someone bad for you, it is not on them, it is on you. You own your experience. You are not some victim

[@MBYorkBeauty]

Loved this!

[@rainafredde4343]

weird. my mom was always angry and i confronted my mom about her anger and she would pinned in on me and would say " you are just having a bad day or you don't know what your talking about". it hurt deeply and i blamed myself for opening up to her. After the third time i talked to her about it, at 8 years old i promised myself to NEVER open up to her again. I would kinda "punish" myself and blame that it was my own fault that i shared my feelings towards her. the most pain i have ever experience is the suffering/relationship from my mom. the relationship has brought so much confusion and even till this day being an older adult.

[@CandacevanDell]

Raina Fredde I truly understand this and am sending you a virtual hug!! We blame ourselves for the lack of Love we experience. I encourage you to be compassionate with yourself. It sounds like you BLAMED yourself for your mother’s rejection of you BUT the reality is that you were just being emotionally honest and all of your emotions deserve to BE what they are! 🙏🏻

[@rondone8702]

You do a great job videos are definitely helpful to I'm sure many people your philosophy pretty good done your share a research when I can tell you've done your share of book studying this is really cool I wish I could do that but I can't so I learned differently completely different something well what is a 2000 19 years and we still don't understand people like me if people like me don't normally speak the way I speak even though I don't speak 100% of my true feelings the world couldn't handle that hell I can barely handle it but I do like your videos hopefully you don't ever stop doing it and I hope you enjoy counseling people definitely type of guy that don't like labels I think the biggest concept that everybody has missed from psychiatric help LOL which I felt the biggest problem is we all forget we are born in sin we are all sinners and we will send to the end of time why did we think the world's going to come to an end cuz humans are self-centered erupting volcanoes this is what we are we all think we're going to come up with the perfect solution to every problem will think we have more intelligence than the next one and look at my degree you don't have one it's a he-said-she-said match it's just that so many different levels in life life would be boring if we couldn't argue with each other I'm trying to prove each other wrong what I really do feel what it stems from this is where I lose everybody they can't have the concept of it because I can't step outside the box even though people say I live outside the box it's like okay well listen to this one then we are animals with a brain that makes us actually more dangerous in more deadly than any wild animal out there we have the ability to pre meditate stupid s*** follow through with it but then we're smart enough some of us disable is crazy so you can't prosecute me for that I was crazy where people don't realize do you have to have I thought before an action scientific fact and it proved it with retardation children your body will frantically go all different ways with no brain activity whatsoever that's how we've been able to put these crazy stupid people in prison when I come it off murder and it was premeditated and then they try to come off like there was crazy so they didn't know what they did didn't know who did it why if it was them why they did it they come up with a whole bunch of stupid stuff bottom line funny comedian I scene live concert he was a psychiatrist mother and father was psychiatrist pretty much got kicked out after he did this he had a client come in and he just got to the point where you got sick of hearing people s*** the psychiatrist that is so he says to his patient either dwell in it or get the f*** over it that way the best medicine I've ever heard from any individual it's Frank to the point most people don't like that me I love it I don't like people beating around the bush on anyting I lose interest quick or maybe a little tail feathers get ruffled but at we all mean well well the majority of us in this world do and that's a beautiful thing I think with this counseling other people I think it's needed for sure but a lot of times I see they let their own life issues come in and play using as examples and different things like this which can't hardly blame them wish they know what they're telling is real. One thing or actually a few things about you as a counselor your decent-looking woman you have a good bubbly happy experience type of atmosphere around you that you give off through your oar which is Pleasant for for your clients male or female. I do have one question what label do they put on people when they feel or cannot admit ever that they're wrong even if they've been caught with her hand in the cookie jar they will still deny it where is one gangster said I could rob a church and had to Steeple sticking out my ass I swear that I never stopped foot in that church. But what would be the label for people I have a hard time accepting that they made a mistake or they're wrong the ones that actually take a lie to their grave because I don't ever want to be looked at in a bad way at any level what would that be called the label for a person like that very curious but thanks for the video do a great job God bless

[@bpsyked1627]

I'm finding it really difficult to be "aware" of my feeling in the moment. Instead i do become present to the unpleasant sensations in my body but without the clear awareness of what the feeling is really about. Can this alone be helpful in some way?

[@JayjayyHearts]

I get the same way when I become overly angry. I can't pin down where my anger is coming from and at the moment all I see is red. It is so hard to control that emotion for me that for the moment my solution is simply to take deep breaths and walk away from the situation. I tend to get angry towards my partner and I know a bad habit of mine is to give them the silent treatment and be petty. So instead what I do is the complete opposite of what my initial response would be. I try to come from a loving place and talk and express how I'm feeling in a neautral tone. Sometimes you really just need to force yourself to do what's unnatural to you. It's going to be a process and you're not always going to do it right, but as long as you stay consistent and don't give up, believe in yourself and believe you will overcome it.

[@jerry_kniles87]

Any tips to be more sure of yourself? Sometimes I have these feelings that are so just...uncomfortable that I have to rationalize them and then store them away in my mind and then it becomes an incessant perpetuating cycle of Apollonian distress meaning it comes back and I have to rationalize it like u said in the video and i feel bad and it starts again because I’m not sure what to think or feel, it makes me feel nonplussed

[@rondanorthrup8433]

I had a universal awearnes around 6or 7

[@venumonga6891]

We are talking about narcissism a lot, and we are just trying to label these personalities a lot without understanding that every narcissist has his/her own story.There are many reasons a person become full blown narcissist.No one talks about how to create conducive environments everywhere,where the dysfunctional energies of narcissists can be transformed into functional.I personally feel that there is certainly a hope for narcissism.Ii do not believe that people become narcs out of their choice only.I feel they are some of the highly sensitive ones who are not able to understand their sensitivities and at the top of it the world around adds to it....

[@achannelforschool]

How do you suggest one would enter this program? Away from all relationships for a set amount of time? Or use those relationships to establish new boundaries?

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A new way

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I cant believe youre a day older then 26.

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Different huh

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I am!÷! In love with love I am currently away from this narccisist man. That I loved. A N would like any one on One help to teach me how I can resist his hoovering. An yesssss I am thinking. There IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH ME. BUT REALLY I AM JUST TOO !!!! · kind ..Sincerly..Vania .. X o also would like to learn how to heal inner wounds....THANKU #)

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We can heal if we have money. Thanks.

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Would be nice to have more and be able to enjoy loving oneself and others.

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