The Paradox of Change Explained

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Thanks for watching as always. Any questions or if you want to talk, you can contact me here: [e-mail]

[@angelmossucco]

Your description of infinite patience is so beautiful. It’s exactly what’s required for actual parenting;, Actual parenting that honors the child needs and authenticity does not require being patient with their needs for two minutes; it requires being patient with their needs until their needs are met. This can be two hours two days two weeks or two years. I remember the first full day of my first daughter’s birth. After she nursed for almost 75 minutes I called the midwife while she was nursing and asked if this was normal. She said ‘yes. ’ Let her nurse as long as she needs to.

[@jnl3564]

To me, you just explained the concept of "acceptance" in a way that actually resonated with me. I watched this video yesterday and now I am back to report that I felt an actual shift in my mindset. Previously, I was grasping so tightly to control that any "patience" I had was superficial and forced as well. When you said that I had to be willing to wait forever, that's what I needed to hear to understand. I have faith that things will shift when I hit that place emotionally and I'm moving towards that gradually now that I understand where I'm going. I dont knowing I've ever been patient about anything in my life, ever. Is that the lesson I'm meant to learn?

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Perfectly put Jen. Yes, it's counterintuitive for sure but with infinite patience comes immediate results.

[@RoddyHaswell]

😊absolutely brilliant 👏 so subtle, so profound, so simple😅!!! Effortless change ❤ Thanks David for sharing this amazing insight.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Thank you, absolutely my pleasure 🙏

[@lukecarey613]

That is so helpful thank you.

[@kingpineda5135]

Yes!! The paradox is mostly true with our emotions but the problem is how do you get rid of the motive? Its kind of tricky because most of the time we have agedas/motives.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Great question. I think the answer is experience. When we finally realize (sometimes after a long time) that fighting only makes things worse, we open to this paradox. There is no negative experience. We learn from our pain in this.

[@JPax3]

By knowing that those Agendas never are met when we are chasing it. Chasing our motives creates a "Gap" between you and the Motive. My mindset is to BE THE MOTIVE. WE ARE THE MOTIVE. ALSO DIGGING DEEPER INTO WHY ITS IMPORTANT OR MEANINGFUL. THE MORE I DO without anything I return, I get all I need + more. Also whatever I focus on Grows. If I want this thing and don't have it the farther away it is. Lol. IT IS TRICKY tho. Pure Acceptance

[@9clover295]

love the vid thank you

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Very welcome. Thanks you 🙏

[@l.w.paradis2108]

3:00 I need to bookmark this.

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

I remind myself as often as I can also!

[@jayneourth2281]

Beautiful

[@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy]

Thank you!