The Power Of A Decision - Making a firm decision to stop drinking

[@Momma_AL]

The timing of this video. I decided yesterday I’m done with drinking. The past few months I had already cut way back but I was still thinking about it. I wanted to quit completely but I kept ping-ponging back and forth. So yesterday, Friday the 13th 2020 (of all the days lol) I decided. This morning I woke up super early and I actually felt different in a good way. I felt like my mind was free of all the noise. The decision had been made the day before so I’m free to live my life with my new normal. There is no more should I or shouldn’t I, which wine should I buy, how much am I willing to spend, am I going to moderate and on and on. I never really understood decision fatigue until I experienced the DIFFERENCE between my OLD normal vs my NEW normal.

[@ThisNakedMind]

Hope the new normal is going well for you!

[@Vonmacfire]

How is it going? I need to do this too.

[@opencurtin]

I made a firm decision to stop drinking on the 22nd of December 2019 after a really bad binge drinking session having drunk for 30 years mostly a normal drinker eg sitting on the couch having a few beers but who also binged on alcohol socially to cope with social anxiety but I eventually at 48 decided I could not drink anymore due to the harm binge sessions we’re doing to me I realised I had to stop in totality if I wanted to redeem myself !

[@ThisNakedMind]

So great that you could see that it was harming you even if sporadic!

[@healthfadsfade]

Beautiful advice. I fall into my worst habits when drunk that are not normally a part of my identity.

[@ThisNakedMind]

Yes, it totally impairs our decision making!

[@donnabrule8629]

Thank you for sharing this video. I am sober and trying now to quit smoking. I am going to use your advice to help get through this Cheers

[@ThisNakedMind]

We're working on a program for nicotine too!

[@RZA550i]

I just finished your book loved it!

[@ThisNakedMind]

So happy to hear that! Thanks for letting me know!

[@jamesshielssoberlife.3701]

I just want to say you look REALLY healthy now!

[@ThisNakedMind]

Thank you!!

[@maryannscott5567]

This is so true.

[@ThisNakedMind]

Glad you think so!

[@noracooney8919]

I’m having trouble with my willpower. I seem to have lost it altogether and yet wanting to stop. It’s like I’m numb.

[@ThisNakedMind]

Willpower seldom works. Have you joined us in the free Alcohol Experiment yet? We discuss this and motivation there. alcoholexperiment.com

[@noracooney8919]

Nora

[@traceysavorn]

I’ve been on the same damn brick for a long time with alcohol. My alcohol use disorder seems not that bad sometimes but why does it have to be horrible to solve it? I’m celebrating that the question did pop into my head “what is the resistance to using my tools and strategies to stop escaping with alcohol instead of solving my triggers. Even if it’s only one or two drinks to get a buzz. What the hell am I running from?” I like myself better when I’m not drinking alcohol. But, I hallucinate that some people like me better when they are drinking alcohol because they’re more liberated when they’re drunk. But I don’t want that kind of love. It makes me feel guilty for Contributing to the delinquency of another for selfish reasons - so that I could be more lovable to them because they’re drunk. Alcohol is destructive. What is my resistance to leaving it? I want to choose behavior that is emotionally congruent to who I say that I am. I want to be someone who brings my best and highest self to others no matter how they respond so that I can at least respect myself and love myself and know that I did the best I could even if the result is painful. What is my hallucination is wrong and I am just as lovable without the alcohol? If it if I’m not, it’s not about me. If someone else needs alcohol to love me, it’s not really love. And I can learn to be happy regardless of how other people see me. Criticism only exists if my blueprint allows it to exist. Why would I give my power away to a spectator to analyze and judge whether or not I am esteemed. Fuck that. I decide that I want my life back. I like that you have your shit together, Annie. If there is levity to be accessed, it isn’t through the glass.

[@ThisNakedMind]

All that research you've done onto your beliefs is such a crucial tool to changing them. Well done you!!

[@frankchmiel1846]

Hi ann I don't know if you'll get this or not But could you tell me why When you are drinking or whatever it's never enough

[@ThisNakedMind]

Can you clarify what you mean?

[@emmac7880]

I just don't make drinking alcohol an option anymore, its like a weights been lifted.

[@ThisNakedMind]

So wonderful to hear that!

[@starbright1256]

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[@ThisNakedMind]

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