The Power of Self-Compassion: stop beating yourself up and start being kinder to yourself

[@marceedavisii6849]

I listen to the podcast on my way to work, and like Matt, I would agree that I struggle with this. I can relate to all of you with my inner voice. Sometimes, I can be kind when my body has reached its limits, and the body just cannot keep going. Then, there are most days when the mind is active, and I am wrestling with negative self-talk. In my heart of hearts, I know I am giving it my all, and yet I still don't give myself that compassion I deserve. Even if I feel I don't NEED it, I do know that I deserve it. In my night class, after listening to this podcast during the day, my professor asked the question, "Who did you make smile today?" I thought of this podcast immediately and then recalled how I showed compassion to my nephew this morning and extended some joy for him as I dropped him off at daycare. It was also an opportunity for me to give my inner child some joy and a way of showing myself compassion in being present and enjoying some high fives and hugs before departing. I am always working on my healing as this journey continues moving forward. My inner child is provided the opportunity to remind me that play and imagination are welcomed because the teenage me has worked hard to get the adult version of myself here. Along the way, I have not allowed as much room as I desire to feel more love and compassion for myself. It's more noticeable when I'm disconnected from the arts. So I can show myself more compassion by connecting to the arts and taking myself to a movie, writing poetry, or just listening to music and allowing movement to move through me. Thank you all for this beautiful reminder. ❤ Marcee

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your journey, Marcee. It's inspiring to see how you're embracing self-compassion and finding ways to nurture your inner child. Your reflection on showing kindness to yourself and others is truly touching.🌈❤

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You guys have helped me so much. Just wanted to let you know.

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[@kennethbailey9853]

What a Brilliant and much needed Topic You Wonderful Grntlemen have Shared Today !I have respected You and now I truly see each of You for Who You Are and What Your Mission to Help all. Now I Love You Fine Young Men. ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😊

[@kennethbailey9853]

Gentlemen and What Your Mission is. 😊

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[@kso808]

I followed Matt's exercise early in this video. For my having compassion for someone else, I thought of my late father, when he was on his deathbed in hospice. I was really wanting to communicate with him that I was with him spiritually even though he couldn't speak at the time. I noticed a tear coming from his eyes at the time. This is probably an extreme example. In terms of compassion for myself, I think of my recent bout with COVID and how I wanted to treat myself appropriately for facilitating my recovery. I just had a thought that if we approach self-compassion from a humility vantage point, we can feel justified in our emotions, rather than be stimulated by ego. I was pleasantly surprised to hear Matt echo these factors directly after my noting them here in this post. I would say I practice self-compassion by taking care of my body and mind on a daily basis, with healthy habits. I agree with Reno toward the end about taking digital and social media breaks. Good stuff!

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your powerful experiences with us. Your examples beautifully illustrate the importance of compassion, both for ourselves and others. Approaching self-compassion from a place of humility can indeed deepen our understanding and acceptance of our emotions. Keep nurturing yourself with healthy habits, and remember to take breaks when needed. We appreciate your insights!🤩💞

[@carlorizzo827]

ThankU Fellows. Yep, compassion for all, except myself. Curiously, so much sadness coming up listening. Tends to confirm, or reconfirm, something noticed long ago, that anger covers up grief. Anger being the primary compassion killer. I always forget

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing your thoughts. It's not uncommon to find it easier to extend compassion to others than to ourselves. Your insight about anger masking deeper emotions like grief is profound. Your awareness is a courageous step towards healing. Take care of yourself. Virtual hugs!🤗💕

[@gw6482]

This was very special, thank you very much guys for all the inspiring tips. It’s always such a pleasure listening to you and being inspired by you. Easier said than done, but I absolutely have to do more of this. Good vibes.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

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[@robertgroth9723]

I’m so glad I came across your channel, living in an isolated rural community can be challenging and this goes a long way to help me connect. Thank you 🙏

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[@malirezanouri]

This is the fist time I see your podcast, it is so useful Thank you.🏳‍🌈

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[@VOLTRAR]

So much to relate with here and it is giving me feels. OmG!!!

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We're glad you're finding resonance in this content! It's always powerful when something speaks to our experiences and emotions. Enjoy the connection!🥰

[@Iamnotxasin]

Hi Micheal, Reno, Matt, so I'm 19 gay, but, the thing is, I live in a very homophobic country, I've literally never seen a queer person my whole life i could only see gay men online like you guys or movies, and watching them just makes me miserable, I can't and wouldn't be able to live my truth for rest of my, I'm frustrated and confused in want to love someone and I also want be loved, it gotten me really depressed and I think I can't take it anymore

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We're sorry to hear about the challenges you're facing. You're not alone in your feelings, and it's okay to seek support and connection online while navigating difficult circumstances. Remember, your identity is valid, and there is hope for a brighter future where you can live authentically and find love and acceptance. Virtual hugs!🫂🤗🌈

[@Iamnotxasin]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper I will try my very best to find a way somehow. Thank you so much. Have a great day ❤️

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@@Iamnotxasin You're welcome! Keep pushing forward, and remember that every step counts. Wishing you all the best on your journey. Have a wonderful day too! 😊

[@zerdanphunrab]

the loving-kindness in this episode is palpable and practical. thank you, gentlemen, for sharing once again. 🏳‍🌈❤🪷

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Your kind words mean a lot to us! We're thrilled to hear that you felt the loving-kindness in this episode and found it practical. Thank you for your support and for tuning in. We appreciate you!🏳‍🌈😍

[@CRexcelsior]

I am working on self-compassion now and I’ve had to identify my inner critic. They are a mix of the Dowager Countess of Grantham AND Tracy Lord from The Philadelphia Story. That’s a hell of a combo. What I’m learning from them is 1) be better, do better. 2) have a standard to follow. 3) accountability. They are harsh, critical, judgey, snide and unforgiving. One can be a dragon, the other is a tower of strength. I had to be. I had to build my own foundation because my parents weren’t going to do it for me. They didn’t know how. Well, they got me so far, now I have to be merciful to make myself stronger. Self -compassion ain’t easy. Even ivory towers and dragons need compassion and mercy.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

It's incredibly courageous of you to confront and identify your inner critic.💪Your comparison to characters like the Dowager Countess and Tracy Lord paints a vivid picture of its complexity. Recognizing the standards and accountability they impose is a significant step towards self-awareness. Remember, showing yourself compassion and mercy is a journey, but it's worth it for your own strength and well-being. You're not alone in this process, and you're deserving of kindness every step of the way.🤗❤

[@cristianortegalgbtq458]

hola 👋😀amigo Jesús 🙏😇❤💋

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