Dealing With Your Inner Critic: How to stop being so hard on yourself

[@JamesKnight-uh7cc]

You guys are great thanks for all that you do and say

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for your kind words!😍

[@itz_kale7791]

My inner critic always tells me that I'm not good enough and I try to remind myself that I am good enough. At this very moment just the way I am now, I am good enough. I wonder if that inner critic is the shadow self and maybe even the anima of a male's psyche? Thank you for discussing this topic and bringing up these issues. It makes me realize that we all really aren't that different from one another and we battle a lot of the same issues. Thank you for discussing these topics. Keep up the good work! 🌈

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts and for your kind words!🥰

[@itz_kale7791]

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[@markcavandish1295]

Dang. I didn’t think I would get this much out of this video. Thank you gentlemen

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

So glad the video resonated with you more than expected! 🙌 Thanks for the kind words, it means a lot. We’re happy you found it helpful! 😊

[@gw6482]

I can’t even, mine treats me like in the military. But that’s good advice, thicker skin, making us resilient against other people’s criticism, find an advocate with a strong voice… Thank you for your help, as always, have a lovely weekend.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We hear you! It’s tough when that inner critic feels so harsh, but we're glad the advice resonated with you. Finding that strong inner advocate can make a big difference. You’re doing great-hope you have a lovely week too! 😊✨

[@Sandsplans]

When he said the thing about the inner crictic criticizing you before others can, etc. it was like a light went on in my head

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We're so glad that resonated with you! It’s such a powerful realization when you notice how your inner critic tries to protect you by being harsh first. That lightbulb moment can really shift how you relate to yourself. Thanks for sharing-it’s a big step in your journey! 😊💡

[@Sandsplans]

My inner critic says I am sad, but everything you do will make you sadder.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We hear you-that inner critic can be so tough, especially when it feels like it’s just feeding into sadness. It’s important to remember that your inner critic doesn’t always tell the truth, even though it feels real. You deserve peace and joy, and we're glad you’re here sharing this. Step by step, you can quiet that voice. 💙

[@zerdanphunrab]

nearly exclusively i have considered my inner critic to be antagonistic. it is a wonderful technique to observe and interact with this voice to see its goals and the benefit it is attempting to bring. the mere observation of this voice from a non-judgmental point of view tempers the critic and brings understanding to the totality of my being. thank you, gentlemen. ❤❤

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

What a beautiful reflection! Thank you for sharing your insight, and we’re glad the episode resonated with you. ❤

[@ScottBuchhop]

Love how the inner critic can be negated/softened by higher self. Thank you for sharing this concept.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We're so glad that resonated with you! It’s amazing how much softer things can feel when we let our higher self step in and quiet that inner critic. Thank you for sharing your thoughts-sending you positive vibes on your journey! 🙏😊

[@htarceno]

I was well into my golden years before I realized that all the negative voices in my head were coming from things I was told growing up and afterwards, Whether from parents, teachers, nuns, religious leaders, dysfunctional partners, etc. Now that I am widowed and single, and semi-retired, it's easier to tell myself, "that's not coming from me. That's from 'whoever' " and can ignore them.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing that-it’s really powerful to hear how you've been able to recognize where those voices were coming from. It’s so true that we often carry the weight of other people's words for so long without realizing it. It sounds like you’ve found a lot of strength in being able to tell yourself, “That’s not mine,” and let it go. That’s a huge shift, and it’s so inspiring. Wishing you peace and continued freedom from those old, unhelpful voices! 🙏

[@htarceno]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper Thank you

[@davesullivan1985]

I need me a sassy inner advocate! Look forward to creating one! Thanks guys for a great discussion.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Haha, love that! A sassy inner advocate sounds like just the right kind of energy! 😄 So glad you enjoyed the discussion, and here’s to building that fierce inner voice to have your back. You’ve got this! 💪

[@kso808]

I can think back to my past, as a teenager and young adult, and had an inner critic who was hard on me when I didn't get better grades in high school and college than I did. I also used to be far more obsessive-compulsive about symmetry and getting things "just right." Nowadays, I'm far more relaxed with myself and my achievements. Not such a stickler as I used to be. I still have a mission-based focus but am much more realistic with how much I can accomplish in a given day.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing that! It’s amazing how we can shift over time, right? It sounds like you've done a lot of inner work to find more balance and self-compassion, and that’s so inspiring. It’s great to hear that you're still mission-focused but with a more realistic, relaxed approach-what a healthy place to be! Here’s to continuing to embrace progress over perfection. 😊🙏

[@JohnRookWatters]

Thank you, Matt and Michael, for your candid dialog 😊

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for watching!😍

[@mattorero]

An "inner goalie" is a very practical idea. Thanks!

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We're glad the idea of an "inner goalie" resonated with you! It can be so helpful to have that mental checkpoint, keeping out the negative stuff that doesn't serve us. Thanks for sharing your thoughts! 😊

[@denniso.shepherd6699]

Being Atypical Dissociative Identity Disorder and co-conscious most of my life (unknowingly), I have several internal activities that I do not recognize. There can be three or four unrelated thoughts or conversations happening simultaneously. Self doubt and self hate, plus not fitting in with any group and having little security/stability, makes daily living rough. I appreciate your podcast. Thank you. Blessings.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for sharing that with us. We can’t imagine how overwhelming it must feel to have so much going on internally, especially with the challenges of self-doubt and feeling disconnected. It sounds like you’re carrying a lot, and we really admire your strength for navigating that every day. We're so glad the podcast has been a source of support for you-sending you blessings and all the love as you continue your journey. You’re not alone in this. 🙏❤

[@denniso.shepherd6699]

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[@zerdanphunrab]

scrolling through the comment section of your videos gives me so much hope for my gay brothers. it is glorious to observe gay men giving each other permission and encouragement to overcome and grow. it is a welcomed sea change from the world in which i grew up. 🌈🪷❤

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing that! It’s so heartwarming to hear that the comment section brings you hope and that you’re seeing the shift in how we, as a community, lift each other up. Sending love and solidarity as we keep moving forward, growing, and supporting one another. 🌈💜🪷

[@alienzardsketter.9076]

Matt you are very beautiful man Michael I like the new hair the bangs it suites you ,,,you are two adorable men I like to watch your channel ,,,,If I allow my self to lead me I will make all wrong decisions It is rite for me to be led by God not my ways but his ways ,,,

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for your kind words and support for the channel!🙏😊

[@aidenfreedom]

Thanks guys for this insightful share, love your concept of separating the two inner voices, am always excited to listen to your next podcast as your sharing often so resonates with my experiences, despite being somewhere twice your age, just goes to show there is no such thing as 'time' ha ha!!? 'Have tried to join your group discussions but seems am blocked from doing so here in UK, not sure what the issue is' ? Wish we had same here in UK, would love to start something to help so many gay guys here at home, your service to our gay brothers is of such great help and support? Love and peace 😃🙏

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for your kind words! It’s amazing how these insights can resonate no matter our age-you're so right, time really is just an illusion, ha! 😄 We're really sorry to hear you're having trouble joining our group discussions from the UK. We’ll definitely look into what might be causing that and see if we can find a solution. Your passion for supporting gay men in the UK is truly inspiring, and who knows, maybe you’ll be the one to kickstart something over there! Sending you lots of love and peace. 😊🙏 Anyway, is there an error message when you tried to join the group discussion?

[@aidenfreedom]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper yes guy's there is, me not tech savvy enough to understand what it meant? Something say 'hub in London not allowed' or something to that effect, I know I am monitored due to be part of the 'truth' community here in the South of England, we seek freedom and peace for all our fellow Country men and woman, we are no longer a free Nation, we always aim to support one another best we can. So many of us have become a target. For myself it is important to remain peaceful and factual keeping a clean conscience. This may have nothing to do with the problem at hand but I believe in openness, don't want to waist your time? If there is a simple explanation then great, but I have never seen or encountered a message like this before, my connections were fine, all in full function. Thanks guys for your support in offering to help if you are able. Blessings love and peace bro's 💥🙏 Namaste Aiden the carpenter

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

@@aidenfreedom Thank you for sharing, Aiden! It sounds like the issue might be related to some kind of network restriction or security block, especially if you’re seeing a message about a “hub in London.” Sometimes certain internet connections or locations get blocked due to privacy settings or other filters. It’s not something you’ve done wrong-it could be a tech issue beyond your control. We’ll try to look into it on our end to see if there's a simple fix. No need to worry, and definitely not a waste of time! 🙏 Blessings and peace to you too, Aiden. We appreciate your openness! 😍

[@aidenfreedom]

@@GayMenGoingDeeper thank you guys, appreciate that. ❤😻🙏

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

@@aidenfreedom Thank you so much!🥰

[@ascott2168]

I’ve been extremely hard on myself when it comes to damn near everything. My voice, appearance, how I speak, how I walk, my performance and progress in the gym ect ! I often think, if I looked “perfect” and had every “box” checked, would I still criticize myself 🤔 Matt, definitely check out a few Iyanla Vanzant episodes on KZbin. She does an exceptional job in making people see the b.s and help them “clean up” the b.s. in their lives.

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you so much for sharing that. It’s tough when we feel like we need to have every box checked or hit some idea of “perfect,” but we totally get where you're coming from. It's like we can be our own worst critics, right? We think the real question is, what if we’re already enough just as we are? 😊 We’ll definitely check out Iyanla Vanzant-you’ve got us curious! Sounds like some powerful insights could help shake off some of that self-criticism. Appreciate the recommendation!🥰

[@alienzardsketter.9076]

Man kind in all his understand from his first human birth ,, all the understanding of man born to women ,, thinks in a way that is human logical with a heart that is Logical all the human emotions and intelligence that man has , Is changed when God changes him ,, we still have our human bodies but after the new birth born again not of our mothers but from the perfect holiness of God a transfiguration of our hearts minds and souls really even the humans that we were to another creature not of this world ,,,we have become new transformed with power from another world a world of divinity holiness we become in powered with the spirit of God ,, as our guide ,,and all human logic is surpassed all laws of the universe passes away ,,basically the death of who we once was is gone ,, and a new guide is in our heart we are new creatures new beings ..not borne of this earth only but all things made new ,,, we will still have our human bodies and human thoughts but they are greater spiritual things to be learned over the course of a Life time ,,, by the leadership and power of God ..we once were seeds and we who have been transformed begin to grow like a tree , and a seed and a tree are not the same things ,,, we are no longer the children of men but the children of God ,,,learning day by day as we progress in to the unknown to become the eternal beings that we all are .. Once a common man but then a born-again child of God of the Perfect Light and understand,,, God is Love we are carnal our bodies age and change weak ,,our human thoughts and reason is weak , but the Father of all creations most powerful God who made us and chose us called us out to be his and changed us ,,, we are to Listen to the newness of the transformation of the indwelling spirit of God ,,, that is all I can say for all men all people ,, Love one and other as Christ Loved us ,,, Charity Mercy Love ..until we grow in to what the creator wants us to be ...

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

Thank you for sharing such a heartfelt and spiritual reflection. It’s clear you’ve experienced a deep transformation, and your words speak to the profound journey of faith and connection with something greater than ourselves. The way you describe the newness of life through God's love and guidance is beautiful, and it’s inspiring to hear how that change has shaped your understanding of the world and your purpose in it. Wishing you continued growth and peace on your journey.❤

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This topic of dealing with your inner critics was very helpful. Although mine is harsh and I haven't separated it from myself. It comes from a place of protection, and yet it has held me back in some cases. Thanks for giving me some tools to start with. 😊

[@GayMenGoingDeeper]

We're really glad this topic resonated with you and that you found the tools helpful! It’s tough when the inner critic feels like it's part of you, especially when it’s coming from a place of protection. But recognizing that it’s there to help, even if it holds us back sometimes, is a powerful first step. You’re already on the right path-sending you lots of support as you continue this journey! 😊🙏

[@davesullivan1985]

I need me a sassy inner advocate! Look forward to creating one! Thanks guys for a great discussion.