The pressure to be a "Baddie" & Obsession with glowing up is AGING the YOUTH|LUCY BENSON

[@yonxumalo]

Even as someone who is in their 30s, when you compare what we did in our teens with the current generation, you’d swear we were in the dark ages 😅

[@marsbarzart]

The crazy part about it is the 12-13-year-olds be having the 35 45 1,000,000,000 inch weave bust down BUT THEN they be comein to places smelling like weed and black and milds AND new Amsterdam (I only know the specific smell because it makes me barf every time) and their parents look like the 12-year-olds AND THE PARENTS ACT LIKE 12 yr olds !!!!!!!!!!!!

[@jessciclay19]

@@marsbarzartsad part is the parent are from Our generation and before 😩😩

[@FabriciaA]

It’s truly sad…but when you call it out you are a hater..😵‍💫LET KIDS BE KIDS, LET THEM HAVE THE AWKWARD STAGE IN PEACE! GOD NEEDS TO COME ASAP!!!

[@JL-vv7rf]

Like imagine being called a hater by a child when you’re the adult with your own money

[@LifewithAbrea]

So true they so quick to call you a old hoe and say you’re hating mind you a lot of the ppl they say that too be in they 20s 😭😭😭

[@izevbuwaesohe5979]

Frrrr

[@FabriciaA]

@@JL-vv7rf for real…it’s like the common sense is not the same anymore 😪

[@FabriciaA]

@@JL-vv7rf for real…it’s like the common sense is not the same anymore 😪

[@shanelle3625]

I’m 29 and I swear I’ve gone through two puberties. The first one when I was 16. The second when I was 25-26. My hips grew inches, my butt grew, and my boobs grew two sizes I gained a total of 20 pounds. My face also slimmed down where I lost my baby face. Girls, your body is a gift. Your gift. Cherish it. ❤️

[@what.the.whatever]

I'm 32, 4'9", boob size 32DD (I got that by the time I turned 18). People tell me I look like 18-22. They are shocked when I tell them my age and ask how I do it. I tell them it is probably in my genes.

[@kyaroru_3456]

Woah, I'm taking your advice. 💝

[@O0ie-t7l]

Same here I felt like I went through puberty twice ironically 25 then my first kid a couple years later I actually have a better body now AFTER the kids at 32,when I was young I didn't do much make up n was a Lil chubby , I believe it preserved my skin n me not modifying my body saved it

[@oromtitiwbo5078]

Same idk they don’t teach us when we’re young that our body keeps changing as women. Your body as a teenager/early 20’s is not your body forever. At 25 I also grew so much more curvy and more weight. It just happened naturally. I am sure it’ll keep changing.

[@CinemaDoll137]

All I did was get fatter due to depression and a slow metabolism thanks to bulimia and genetics lol. I’m on a weight loss journey using tirzepatide at 28. From 13 years old, I’ve always had wide hips and big boobs.

[@epd0126]

YES!!!! its prom season and the boys look like 14 year olds in their fathers suit..but the girls look like 35 year old women who could be bridesmaids instead of prom dates

[@MONEYM723]

Thissss

[@libfuzzy4629]

Some of the boys are in flashy suits

[@Joy.W.]

@@libfuzzy4629right, it’s not just the girls

[@coffeebean4356]

@@Joy.W.the suits aren’t the problem though. They’re not revealing skin nor ages them up. It’s impossible for a suit to make someone look significantly older compared to a style of dress.

[@iamReptar]

Perfectly said 😂 Glad when i was in HS, all the dudes a actually looked older, had facial hair, chest hair. Those were the days.

[@epicleak]

i genuinely miss the innocence of when i didn’t care about my looks because as a child that’s really the only time you don’t feel the societal pressure to care about your appearance. it’s sad that these younger girls are getting more into it. i just turned 20 & it took me the longest to realize being skinny and pretty doesn’t instantly make your life better whatsoever so please just love yourself

[@yy.unlimited]

word 💯

[@DiamondGunn_]

I second what she’s saying ✨ I didn’t get hips until I turned 29 years old

[@Drageisha]

My boobs didn't start boobing until I was 26/27. A few days before my 10 year high school reunion, a bus driver wanted to know why I wasn't in school - she thought I was 17. At 40, I looked 30 before work stress started kicking my ass, but I still don't have visible wrinkles. All thanks to genetics, no kids, not trying to keep a man from cheating, drinking water & minding my business.

[@DerpDerp27]

I went through a second puberty too! At 25/26, my hips go wider and I went from a c36 to an F36. My baby face left and now I look nothing like my adolescent self 😅

[@chantalreneehayles7976]

@@DerpDerp27I hope that happens to me lol

[@dw9524]

Girl I don't wanna have to wait almost a decade for soem damn hips. 😩

[@Tenshii_Artii]

This comment, and all of the others in this thread give me hope I would get a second chance in looking for mature for my age. Mid 20s here. I could still be mistaken for a late teens person.

[@mercedes8091]

i’m 16 and i totally agree. i feel so pressured to look like a “baddie” to be socially acceptable. but also, i think we are forgetting the girls that developed at an early age. i got my first period at 9 and started growing body parts by 10. i was always misaged even when wearing shirt and jeans. and no makeup whatsoever. till this day people tell me i look 20, i hate it so much. i remember in the girls changing rooms in primary school just at the age of 12, i used to hide my body because the other girls would always sexualise me.

[@jessciclay19]

Praying the universe protects you in every way baby girl! Stay who you are dnt feed into pressure you seem like a intelligent young woman 🫶🏼

[@moonchild8646]

Same girl ❤

[@LukeRobloxYT]

Heavy in the locker room one girl slapped my butt when I was bending down I was so uncomfortable

[@Smt_.x]

Girls are starting to get their periods earlier than they used to. It used to be common for girls to start between 12-14. It’s getting more common for girls to start earlier now due to a lot of environmental causes

[@mercedes8091]

@@LukeRobloxYTim so sorry girl❤️ i dont know why certain girls think its okay to comment and touch on other peoples bodies just bcuz we’re both girls.. it never sat right with me.

[@chicchristy]

Great topic to touch on… EVEN at 12 you see them doing adult’s things already.

[@courtneyz27]

I'm not gonna deny kids want to grow up too fast, but this phenomenon isn't new. It's a saying that "when you're younger you try to be older and when you're older, you try to be younger." It just looks worse because of the kind of image that is pushed out from media currently.

[@Vanessa_TK]

As a nail tech I see these things allll the time! Girls in their early 20s with lip fillers that are too big for their faces, they come in pain after getting BBL’s… nose surgeries to get the michael Jackson nose , it’s insane. To anyone reading this I know it’s not easy being a woman with all the pressures to look like Kylie Jenner but Love yourself for who you are!! God loves you. Dress well, Keep fit and focus on your goals and dreams!!

[@jzm2293]

Yes! I'm just a studied nail tech just did the license but it's a hobby I only do it on me, friends and family only. And I think its due to this factor you mentioned that is why I didn't want to make a career out of it. Plus it's becoming "trendy" now where everyone wants to be one let alone there's sadly 10 and 11 year Olds being nail techs some who aren't even licensed

[@MONEYM723]

It really is aging the hell out of these girls! I’m 31 and it’s teenagers that look older than me. It’s really crazy. My son is in middle school and the girls up there are wearing makeup, wigs, nails, lashes etc My mama wouldn’t even let me have nails let alone weave in my hair! It’s so scary how grown they act these days! Seriously!

[@what.the.whatever]

I'm 32 and 4'9" and people tell me I look 18-22 lol

[@studtimmie]

@@what.the.whatevermainly cus you’re abnormally short

[@teacuppie4881]

I couldn't even get a sew-in until 11th grade 🤣🤣.

[@kairilaicreampuffs]

Well i definitely have to blame the parents in this for sure because these 16 year olds aren’t able to afford wigs and nails and makeup :0 I feel like some mothers are trying to live through their daughters because maybe they didn’t have access to these new things we have now

[@cobaltblue26]

I walked into a Sephora on time and I did not see a woman above the age of 18 in there. Mind you, I’m 26 and I just started shopping at Sephora last year.😂 I refuse to compete with these girls.

[@ashleighberryman9280]

When I was 20 I was being mistaken for highschool freshman, when I was 25 still being mistaken for highschool Student. At 35 I’m being mistaken for someone under 25 and I’m started to realize why. Cuz I know I don’t look that young, but these girls look as old as I do now and I’m so hurt and confused for them.

[@what.the.whatever]

I'm 32 and 4'9" and get confused for a high school or college student

[@MissLaydie]

5'1", been teaching 18 years and still get mistaken for a kid!

[@maidhej]

IKR!! PEOPLE NOWADAYS ARE SO OBSESSED WITH BEING PRETTY...LIKE WAYYY TOO MUCH. "Pretty girls don't hate", "pretty girls support other girls", "girlll you're so pretty" LIKE DUDE. Not everything is about being pretty! "Glow up" my ass... And it's not even girls, guys too...looksmaxing my ass... Not everything is about being pretty. Sometimes you can just live your life without buying these products influenced convinced you to get, it won't make you happier. It won't make you a better person. It's actually quite disturbing. Especially if you're a teen... you're growing up, everything is changing.

[@pixieinx]

Jumping over the awkward stage just delays it and makes it hit harder, it’s a symptom of the older generation failing the next generation which just continues the cycle 🔄

[@Poetically_Correct]

I am a 21 year old woman. My family says I look not a day over twelve. I thought they were just joking but then I started to meet people more and they say that I look twelve. Now I am just insecure because everyone thinks I'm a child. I know it will benefit me when I'm older but it hurts knowing that nobody takes me serious and sees me as a prepubescent girl.😐

[@BreeNwanze]

I'm turning 25 and people see me and either say I'm 19 or 21 its annoying that once they see you they feel you are a kid and look down on you especially those who are married already. But then again , I'll say we are blessed 🥰😇

[@bridgetalagha]

Ladies! I'm 27, with 6 years of professional work experience and Master's degree. But I still pass for a high school teenage girl with my looks 😂 The only thing that difference is my eloquence, depth of knowledge and emotional intelligence. Please don't feel bad about yourself. It's a huge plus that you look younger than your age. When you should develop a deep sense of self worth and don't attach your self image to other people's validation of what it means to "look mature" Your essence and the depth of your intelligence would command respect. You have no business proving your age to people who judge you based on something as shallow as your young looks....for real ❤

[@SWig4]

I feel this so hard! I’m 22 and most people who don’t know me think I’m at most 15. Good in some ways, but can be very frustrating as well.

[@saritasgold]

Today, someone told me I look 15…I’m 21 😂

[@lebobecca4338]

I’m 26 and most people think I’m 17… most people especially in work places don’t take me serious because I look like a kid.

[@Daniscorner1738]

I am 18 and this video has helped me so much. I've thought about how the pressures of the media are too much and very exhausting to keep up with. This video just helped me realise that all the "baddies" I am looking at are full grown adults, for example AriTheDon, MeganTheeStallion and so on. And I do NOT have to look like them. This video confirmed this for me, thank you. ❤❤

[@Niona_Shashai]

You got this. Don't let them pressure you. Plus growing up ain't even all that😂

[@what.the.whatever]

I'm 32. ENJOY YOUR YOUTH. Do what makes you happy and confident. Don't feed into social media rubbish. Take care of yourself and your friends and family and responsibities. Go travel and not just for Instagram pictures. I advise against plastic surgery unless medically necessary. Save your money but also spend that money wisely on experiences and emergencies. Enjoy yourself safely and responsibly

[@jessciclay19]

Baby some of them dnt even look like them! Even if they are adults . Stay true to you 💜

[@jasminerosewater3891]

I work in a high school and can say this conversation is mostly for the chronically online. Social media is exaggerating it. Little girls still look like little girls, the most the "cool girls/ it girls" at my school and the other High Schools I've engaged with are doing is maybe a little wig and lash. The beauty IRL is still very much giving young, youthful, clean girl, simple. I teach over 150 students and see nothing but bare faces, edges laid, age appropriate hair styles and outfits. In real life most people can't AFFORD to uphold these ideals. Before yall drag me I'm working at a HUGE popular high school in the middle of NYC, if the girlies aren't doing it here where are they doing it?

[@Stizyella]

Honestly I don’t get why the wanna grow up so fast . Am and adult nd I don’t even got it together yet

[@TheHarmonicHour]

Other major cities, LA etc.

[@vickieu3990]

Would you expect them to wear all that makeup and wigs to school for classes? It's probably gonna be for an event like prom

[@user-cf3ss6mj2b]

As a 8th grade middle school student in NY, I honestly have to disagree with you. Most of the girls here wear long lashes, long nails, weaves, outfits that show all of their bodies and everything. And what’s worse is that it’s not only the 8th graders, but it’s also the 7th graders who act like this and even some 6th grades. Every girl in the school has a boyfriend either in the school or outside of the school and are sexually active with them. If you’re a girl, you’re basically pressured to act like them because this “baddie” persona is all around you.

[@TheHarmonicHour]

@@user-cf3ss6mj2b I’m sorry that this is our society right now, this type of culture is robbing you all of innocence and childhood.

[@Raven_102]

As an 18 year old going through a “glow up” … I agree. I feel like it also comes down for your reasoning. I feel like you should do it to genuinely improve your life, and not JUST because you want to be prettier. I’m 18 and I have very severe health anxiety. It completely stole my life away from me and I was depressed for a very very long time. I couldn’t enjoy family time anymore because I was always worried. I was stressed 24/7 and my brain never shut off. Eventually I got sick of being in this dark hole where I was surrounded by stress. So, I did look into glowing up. I started eating healthier, I found a therapist, I cleaned my room, I changed my wardrobe, I got into makeup, etc. and I’m a better person because of it. There’s nothing wrong with a glow up, but I feel like it should be to improve yourself and your life, not change you into a completely different person.

[@kelseyissastar]

Praying for the self esteem for all women, myself included. The world doesnt make it easy, but my creator loves me how i am and wants the best for me period.

[@favourafinni]

This is a topic that needs to be discussed more. I was just talking to my sisters about this topic some weeks ago. Whenever I stand beside a Gen Z, I usually assume they're around my age not until they now start talking, that's when I realise they're still kids. God help this generation. These kids are aging too fast. I wouldn't want to blame social media but parents really need to watch what their kids are being exposed out here on social media. Seeing 17 year olds trying to look like Cardi B who's in her 30s is just crazy. It's so bad to the extent that these days you'll see 14 year olds celebrating 2 years relationship anniversary which means they probably started dating at 12 years old. These kids should be worried about studying not being a baddie. They want to grown up so fast but there's time for everything.

[@wiltdwxtch]

Who’s trying to look like Cardi B??? Def not anyone in my generation. That’s more millennials

[@honks9484]

@@wiltdwxtchright I think ppl wanna look more like sexxy red, ice spice, doll-aesthetics, etc.

[@wiltdwxtch]

@@honks9484 Ehh people in my generation tend to wanna resemble people like Cindy Kimberly, Madison beer, Lana del rey, & Alexa demie

[@LifewithAbrea]

@@wiltdwxtchyou’re speaking for the white girls black girls are not trying to look like any of those women that comment she said was completely right

[@chanela.7786]

Meanwhile 24 year old me with a baby face is still getting infantilized by strangers and even my own family…But on a serious note, I hope these young women don’t feel compelled to grow up too fast. I personally miss the comforts and luxury of still being a child/teen and not having a quarter life crisis almost all the time over the cost of living and the trajectory of my career/life.

[@blossom37213]

Totally agree on everything you said. I’ve also seen a lot of teens drinking and smoking, even at 12/13 years old. I think its a huge problem. They are doing such damage to their body at this young age.

[@p3rsianb4by]

I think the opposite is true too, there’s so many 21 year olds who literally look like elderly moms bc they think those geriatric outfits are giving “old money”

[@ThePrettiestCommenter]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@kylajohnson8864]

Right !!

[@jzm2293]

True but who could blame them like myself they're tired of seeing the same thing and change vulgarity for once

[@Timi1111]

You forgot to mention how they are on contraceptives and that's also another reason. A lot of contraceptives cause water retention so you look bigger but its just all water. Plus too much sex too soon too young messes up with your head, body and mind. Then going to the gym when you should just let your hormones do their thing eventually or even check if your hormones are balanced in the first. I really miss the innocence children used to have. I spend more time off social media now. It seems like everybody is just doing the same thing. And if you are doing what everyone is doing, how will you be great? P.S love your definition of a baddie ❤

[@kimberleychandler6390]

I'm 24 and I remember wearing certain things that kids now don't have. Even the shorts I wore look different to current kids shorts.

[@Sharenziie]

“Your feelings are VALID “ my fav better help commercial ❤

[@joyfrank3867]

I thought it was only me loving it 😂💐

[@rabeccaamani7313]

Am 100% with you on this topic, most people are busy trying to glow up because of peer pressure and male attention . Instead of making their lives better in terms of taking care of their mental state and being healthy. Y’all the society standards of being was slowly getting into my head until I realized the same thing Lusy said , define a baddie in way that brings positivity in your life.

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

Exactly yes!!! I also feel like these social media platforms push these agenda

[@midnightmid7118]

Hey guys, coming from a 15 year old girl I just want to say that I do agree that the pressure to be a baddie is out of hand. But something the pressure to be or appear “youthful” get out of hand too. I had started puberty early and I kind of have a baby face but since I’m short if I wear oversized clothes I would be mistaken for a 7th grader. But at the same time, I had an awkward stage since I was 6 and I put on unhealthy weight. So now when people say things like “I didn’t get hips till 20+” it’s like you’re expecting us to not have these things but with biology end processed foods, being heavier or having more curves at a younger age is inevitable. Also with makeup, I try not to overdo it and I only do natural makeup. I use it to enhance my features and I think I look pretty with or without it but it’s a confidence boost. Idk about fake lashes now but I don’t think we should full on shame my generation for wanting to feel a little pretty. Especially with unhealthy foods becoming all the rage, I’m trying to be healthier and work out and I think that that has improved my looks and made be feel a lot better about myself and has had the same effect on others my age. So in conclusion I think that trying to “scare the youth” and pushing for “awkward stages” is also unhealthy. And you can always be pretty and young because aging is a part of life and you don’t have to choose to be pretty when you’re older or pretty now. There are so many beautiful older woman who have not had a horrible awkward phase. So wishing on us to have that feels weird. Balance is good and too much of anything isnt right. But the way kids will bully others kinda gives us a reason to want to “grow up fast” physically, yet the pressure to still look young when we get older is also unhealthy.

[@midnightmid7118]

Now I’m not saying it’s bad to call parents out because at the end of the day, they are our 1st major influence and I think instead of only looking at the kids, look at the parents as well. Most of the parents are just throwing social media in their child’s face. Also allowing their kids to wear inappropriate clothing as a reflection of their younger self, and wanting to feel pretty at that age. I think that our generation can learn from this and learn that in the future, we should keep our children away from unrealistic standards and let them know that they are beautiful weather they want to wear makeup, play with dolls, or just read. Most of these things come from social media, so keeping kids away from apps like Snapchat, instagram, and TikTok, while letting them still have a taste of phones and media creates a healthy balance.

[@KufrePaul-zg3bi]

Honestly,the pressure is crazy coming from an 18 year old,I started to feel the pressure to meet the "standards" at age 12 But I'm glad it didn't get to me so much, it's hard to resist sometimes especially now that it's getting worse. I love your words of wisdom, miss Lucy ❤

[@estherudoh5963]

I didn't have a phone of my own till I was 16 and someone is coming to ask me why my 5-year-old child doesn't have a phone or an iPad. What exactly does a child want to use that for, tv at home is enough. It is just parents who can't stand on business, be strict when needed and take the easy way out to train their kids

[@dlalalabu5956]

16 is too much tho teens need to socialize with their friends and middle schoolers need it for safety reasons

[@Sirmusty425]

@@dlalalabu5956at 16 you're in high school, not middle school, at 16 you're 2 years away from 18, 16 is not a bad age to get a mobile device for the first time.

[@what.the.whatever]

I didn't have a phone until I was 14

[@aneopurpleblink77]

​@@dlalalabu5956is a phone the only means to socializing?

[@latashalea944]

Nowadays we have parents that act like their children’s friends instead of their parents. It’s so pitiful. 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@varliekesh8398]

Exactly on point darling. I hope many girls watch this n don’t fall into the pressure of being a ‘Baddie ‘

[@EjimaduFavour-yo6bp]

Preach Lucy!!! PREACH!!! This generation needs to hear this. They all want to be baddies forgetting tey cost of it. I'm almost 18 but I definitely am going to show my daughter this when I grow older and get married because this is something that everyone is seeing but refusing to talk about.

[@ngozinwafor]

Im so happy I didnt grow up with social media. These girls look too grown and i think social media has a big part to play. Im in my early 30s and ppl think im 25-27. I prefer it that way. The girls are in a rush to look grown and theyll regret it soon. Great video!

[@nabilaxu]

as someone in their mid 20s i’ve always been told i look as though i’m in my 18s. couple years back would be doing everything to look older but now i’ll take it that i look younger!! funny how it works and grass is always greener on the other side

[@Ujunwa22]

OMG!! Thank you so much Lucy. I've been waiting for someone to say this. Let kids be kids. Even a 2 year old is putting on frontal deep wave for a birthday photoshoot. And the annoying thing is that when you come out and publicly say these things, you get slammed and criticized faster than you think. Then they'll bring up "body positivity" as a cover for nudity.

[@RecklessInspirer]

I remember when being a pre-teen was exciting and interesting. Those days are over. They jump straight to being grown now!

[@maribelg648]

And this gets real dangerous because men who think these kids are adults because they physically look old can get into serious trouble. If you point that trying to be grown is not a good idea out, you as the normal person will be attacked by people saying that you’re s3xu@lizing them and “how can you look grown” and these are the SAME PPL who will be appalled at how their 16 year olds are being mistaken for 25 year olds by 27 year old men. Looking like you got two mortgages and have had a mid life crisis at 12 is NOT the flex ppl think it is. It makes no sense.

[@nevaehhmatthews4359]

Many languages but Lucy came to speak FACTS 🙌 I love her ❤

[@HEY___WOMAN]

Thank you Lucy. I'll be turning 21 next month and just because I am on the skinnier side I had already planned how I am going to purchase weight gain products even though my doctor told me not to and just keep using blood tonic and other supplements. Ever since I watched this video yesterday the statement "allow your body to grow " keeps echoing back at me. I really needed to hear that. Thank you so much❤.

[@lynnnduhhx0]

Don’t do it hunny.. I’m 28 now and i was sooooo skinny my whole life. I got pregnant when i was 26, and i look good now.. Just a little weight gain.. i’m still thin but just a little more full after baby.. Trust me, you’ll like it the older you get

[@saritasgold]

Please, don’t ever take weight gain products. They usually have negative effects on the body. I know someone who did and she did gain weight but ended up looking like something else that I can’t even explain. Her skinny self definitely looks better than what she looks like now. You’d definitely gain weight eventually, and you will look good when you do. Please don’t rush it

[@HEY___WOMAN]

Thank you ma'am

[@libfuzzy4629]

Slim figures are beautiful tbh

[@debbiedowgo8162]

Thank you for dragging the male gaze into this conversation. Cos lately all the baddies deny that they are doing it all for the men!

[@D1Snr]

I can't believe that girl with the blonde hair in the thumbnail picture is 17 years old. She looks like the type of girl who would get rappers into serious trouble

[@MrsStark300]

As a 17 year old...I think social media exaggerates it, I have honestly not seen anyone atleast in my class wear heavy makeup or too revealing clothing and rocking plastic surgery. It is still an issue none the less but it is really not as common as you think.

[@SashiGreen]

It depends on wear you live. This is more prominent in cities

[@Nominaze]

I was literally thinking of this last week. I’m 19 years old and when I see other girls around my age and lower it’s sad..even while growing up in middle school there were girls that were trying to grow up extremely too fast but not to this extent. This trend of being a baddie at a younger age is aging their appearance making them look like a 30 year old woman & I will never understand nor feed into the hype. The parents aren’t doing their job, they’re to busy being their friends instead of the guardian that God had set them to be in their lives..

[@Buttfart77]

Exactlyy

[@whatsavailable._]

13:13 that same gender auntie😂. It's so crazy to think that we want to change ourselves so much. I just turned 18 a few weeks ago and I'm very sure I don't look like an 18 year old. I spent my birthday with just cake and literally no makeup on my face. I took pictures of course but I took them in my living room with just my phone, but yesterday one of my friends turned 18 and when I tell you that I couldn't even recognize her with all that make up and even the hair. When my mom saw her pictures she was like "who is that" I said it's*** and she was like no way. If not that I had met this girl in person I also would have thought it was someone else. Even the dresses that she wore in the pics they weren't too bad but they were not exactly right for someone who JUST turned 18 and this is coming from an 18 year old too. When I saw her studio pics I was like "I wish I looked this good in my pics" but then I just thought about my birthday. Although it was quiet or more on the low I still had so much fun with just my family and I wouldn't trade that time for any professionally taken pictures. Besides my pics were amazing because I always look stunning even when I'm not with a full face of makeup or with any makeup at that( not trying to sound narcissistic I just know that however I look is enough for me) and I know that all those crooked smiles in those pictures were genuine and not taken or forced so that I could look "picture perfect". I just hope that my friend did all of this for herself and not for anyone else or the world. Trust me I've been through that "I'm not pretty, I'm not perfect" stage and well that's what it is a stage. The only thing we need to glow up is our mindset, our self esteem. That should be the first thing we 'glow up' or improve. I think changing my mindset from the world's form of baddies really helped with that. I think another think that helped me is that I am surrounded by strong independent baddie women like my mom and even you auntie Lucy even though you're online❤. I love your definition of baddie and to me you are that definitely that definition and of course so is every woman I surround myself with or just happen to be with. I think another thing is also the people you actually surround yourself with, if they just want to get the attention of men you would also want to do that because you wouldn't want to feel left out that's just FOMO(fear of missing out) playing with you and all of us have FOMO at some point or the other the important thing is to know when to tune out that voice of "I have to be or look like that too" in our head so we can just have peace. I feel the most important thing in this world to have isn't money but our peace and freedom. I love your videos by the way, I always get hooked once I start any of them. I'm still navigating my life but with people like you on the internet that actually help and encourage childhood and teenhood(😂) it makes navigating so much easier. So thank you from even your younger audience❤. Don't stop what your doing for any reason please( well any bad reason because if you need to for your mental health or anything please take that break) We love you here❤

[@d.s8741]

You’re doing amazing sweetie !!( from a 20 year old)

[@whatsavailable._]

@@d.s8741 Thank you💞

[@Timi1111]

You're doing well.. just keep doing you.. don't look down on yourself

[@Smt_.x]

I went to 6 flags earlier this summer when kids were still in school. A middle school was there on a field trip wearing their school shirts. Some of those girls looked older than me and I’m 22! Wigs installed, LASH EXTENSIONS, acrylic nails, makeup, TATTOOS!!! I was shocked

[@Evelyn_Ampah]

I love the fact the you are so real. And Say what most people are scared to voice out👏👏👏

[@Reckoning2943]

To me it was aging in reverse. In my early 20s I had curves, tried so hard to be a “baddie” and people assumed I was older than I really was. Today I leaned out because I switched from gym to competitive long distance running, I lost several cup sizes, I have no hips, I stopped the heavy makeup. I also stopped trying to be something I’m not and I wear comfortable stuff when I’m not in my running clothes. Ever since I stopped caring about other people’s perception of me and focused on being the healthiest version of myself I feel great. Now people usually assume I’m younger than I actually am lol

[@Wizzemma]

My Sister, YOU ARE SMART And STUNNING. Much LOVE. Stay BLESSED.

[@meloncoly3999]

Absolutely necessary conversation about the social media influencer baddie prototype. Everybody looking alike its getting tired 😴

[@princessoghogho6360]

Aunty Lucy was boiling while making this video 😂. Thank you, especially the baby mama pandemic, I can't believe it. They even make you feel guilty when you try to advice them

[@queennadeadeola2986]

This is well said, please let kids be kids

[@myfavoritevideosofday580]

As a 16 year old. I genuinely needed this reality check🙏🏾. But my hair will still be done, that’s something that social media never influenced (at least I think)

[@Plain-it4in]

As a woman at 34 these kids look older than me.... i be blown away .

[@chrisauntae6690]

The movie “DUFF” comes to mind.. and the princess Diaries transformation scene

[@danislight]

Girl we have the same definition of Baddie!!! Period! This video was very informative and entertaining, you were on point!!!

[@annyrocha5195]

I am a mom and I am afraid because my child, growing up in Europe, she will not understand that is not normal, even today as an adult I will not dress myself in certain way to go everywhere and god forbid I use short choths in Africa with my family (and believe I love to use it sometimes)

[@Spiritualchar1111]

I’m 41 and I look younger than half the girls in my daughter Highschool and the young girls even in my family 😮it’s sad 😞 these girls are rushing life and I don’t know why.

[@studtimmie]

Girl…

[@kawaiikoibito3268]

This is so delusional

[@asiphesonadanster9622]

I found myself looking older than my age because I wanted to look like a “baddie “ what made it worse was the fact that I’m a chubby girl so dressing as such made me look mad old . I’ve taken a step back now after realizing that i actually don’t even want to look like that however I’m still struggling to find clothing that looks my age( im 21 by the way) but still look decent 🙂

[@justechama7327]

PLEASE DO NOT STOP POSTING THESE VIDEOS. THEY TRULY SPEAK VOLUMES. WE ALL NEED TO HEAR THIS. AMAZING !!!!

[@Claire-cc6xy]

Im 16 and i have a very coquette based style. I wear bright colors, pinks, and skirts. And if im not wearing something colorful my make up is just concealer where i need it and very watered down douyin make up (to avoid accidental Asian-fishing) Im also black. I cannot express how many people are genuinely shocked when they realize i have no interest in smoking, looking 20+, drinking, having sex willynilly. Ive been called "innocent" more than i can count all because how i dress. And its not that much of how i act. I make sex jokes and such, i am a teenager after all. But its how i carry myself. I don't wear full face bc 1. I always seen when a girl doesnt wear it one day its "you look tired today" 2. Ik sm girls who are insecure how they look without a full face 3. And i just dont feel like learning all of that Ive been called white-washed for not knowing how to twerk (i was a 14 yr old freshman) I don't listen to rap (all the popular songs talk about fighting women, cheating or just being with ppl for money, and sex For not wanting to actually go to class bc i enjoy learning. Then theyre even MORE surprised that ppl are attracted to me despite that i dong dress grown. Its not that i feel uncomfortable with my body. Its that ik how others see me, will make assumptions. Ive had grown men staring at me and im just wearing pants, and a pink shirt with lace peeking out my neckline. Ive been learned how scary the world is from the stories ive heard and what ive seen. Ive gotten asked out so much and still guys have wanted to hook up only. So i figured, why dress in a way that will invite people i dont want when theyll come anyway? Id rather dress a way that will slim down the chance Thanks for coming to my tedtalk (rant) ☠️

[@Queenxo]

I have 4 girls aged 7,6,4, and nearly 3. The two eldest do a light cleanser morning and night purely because they see me do it. Not influenced from social media. I myself stay away from it to not put pressure on myself even now as a 29 year old women. I do their nails when i do mine, etc etc. But these girls play with mud and im planning on keeping it that way for as long as possible. I want them to grow up feeling beautiful in their own skin, not having to fit a certain look/trend. I have watched your videos all night and your inspiring. 🥰

[@0nth3sp3ctrum]

thank you so much for making this. as a freshman in high school, this is what i needed to hear. last year,i felt the need to become society's version of "pretty" so that i was able to fit in and so that i was able to get attention. but now im starting to learn that i should focus on school, on sports, and on achieving my own dreams for my future.

[@Naiki29]

So glad I’m not on this trend and let’s be honest it’s all fake. The wigs, the makeup, the everything. Without all that crap people don’t even look the same. It’s almost like people just do it to be seen. But I guess that’s the difference between folks who want attention and the ones that don’t.

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

This is so true!!! My step sister that is younger than me is copying these chicks and not being a kid anymore

[@mindshiftmami]

This was an excellent video. You handled such a challenging topic with such grace and truth. I really hope women will start to wake up and realize we truly are beautiful as our unique selves and trends come and go but your natural beauty is timeless. ❤ work on that self love ladies it’s beautiful over here!

[@Shiann444]

There’s no longer a pre teen/teenage stage the way we used to. There’s no representation of it anymore. U go straight from kid to adult now

[@lovelykeeya532]

Facts, the “awkward phase” that helped us discover ourselves & appreciate our individuality is no longer a thing. These children wear wigs, full faces of makeup, lashes, nails, etc to school nowadays.

[@mariamart_0]

Tysm for this amazing commentary and discussion. It is so needed, it leaves us to discuss to want become more involved and nuanced. There is no such preteen stage and childhood stage. There is childhood to adulthood. There is no third spaces for children at all due to the Internetization of the world and how digital it is..🙁

[@miracleifunanya]

What!!!??? Straight fire! That's why I don't miss your videos, Sundays or Monday's Go girl! Big ups☺

[@faithwdeng]

Found your channel today and love how logical and real you are! It’s so refreshing, and also finding a creator who’s is traditional in their values and lifestyle and embraces God is awesome! You’re beautiful and seem so sweet and genuine. May God bless you and your family! ❤️

[@Naomi_Abraham]

I really love that you're addressing this issues.... Cause why are people moving mad on here.... And definitely I blame the parenting cause that's what's causing all this issues...

[@pearlandrieu431]

Praying that your video reaches the right ears. Bless you.

[@annaidu5546]

U are one of my favorites for life in this KZbin ❤❤

[@ChenilleNena]

I'm glad you hopped on this topic

[@RettiTransformation]

This is so true 😭😭😭😭: let us learn to wait our turn …. The pressure is so much … I wish this message could reach the ends of the earth

[@LoveChelseaoh]

As a 18yr old genz girly I think another one of the reasons that some of us tend to look older than our age is that we were on the same internet that the millennials and older generations were on when they were also trying to “glo up”. We are all exposed to the similar, if not the same, content which explains why a genz girl trying to glo up looks identical to a older millennial who is also trying or has glowed up.

[@kelechinelson8907]

Louder for the ladies in the back🔥🔥🔥. This was a completely amazing listen.

[@lola68688]

Thank you for always dropping gems 💎

[@margeyb.8665]

Loud it Lucy!!!This current generation makes me sad because they are not enjoying their childhood like we did. Millennials are rather looking like their ages and they looking like they are in their 40’s & 50’s. Don’t even get me started on the bad parenting Wahala!😒😒 It’s crazy! I’m so glad I grew up the way I did!

[@funmilayosulaiman3164]

From the moment you gave the proper definition of “baddie” I ran to the subscribe button 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@grae1152]

The hair color and length , plus your blush is a 10🔥❤️

[@beautycee2134]

This is so true....they look old but they are mentally so young... and you tell them,they disagree and insult you. Even at my age, i still say i am a young young lady 😅 By the time they are in their late 20's, they begin to wish that they are very young. They age no more😅 Buh now, they wanna be older

[@SidUzl]

I can’t count how many times I said : thiiiiis / louder Your quote “millennial + Gen Z we need Jesus, we need deliverance” amen 🙏🏾 Love your content so fare Never stop speaking Lucy please 🤌🏾

[@jesskanneh6734]

Hey Lucy, can you please do a make up routine for beginners? Your make up bangs EVERY TIME 🥹

[@EstherMidun]

Someone just had to say it! So spot on.❤

[@mayenessien9370]

I accidentally found this video. Thank you for trying to help women. Especially young ones to challenge their thinking. The scriptures tell us at Romans 12:1-2 to present our bodies as acceptable to God and not to be moulded by this systems way of thinking. This definitely includes vanity and self image. It’s a pandemic. Sad to see how much we value our worth by what we look like. Totally contrary to how Jehovah God sees us. However, we have to remember the times we are living in. The last days of Satans system so all of these things will sadly increase before the end (2Timothy 3:1-5). The good news is that it is the LAST days, much better times are just ahead. Psalm 37:10,12,29

[@chideraonyema1058]

I love you Lucy, you're always on point❤️

[@bernadetteakol8816]

Atlast sm1 said smthing So much love sis From uganda

[@shesqueen_esther]

I really wish this video go viral and gets to the people who need to hear ❤

[@nashaerawls891]

when she mentioned 17 year olds looking like they’re in their mid 30s, i’m the COMPLETE opposite. i’m 18 and i’ve had ppl tell me that i look 14, 15, 16 and that i have a baby face. SOMEONE EVEN SAID I LOOK 12😭

[@goldempire023]

You explaining glow up with a movie plot, I remembered a lot of Disney and Nickelodeon teen movies Ahhh, good ol' days❤❤❤❤, that's how I wanted to glow up back then, but now, it's a whole different story

[@spusulri]

And here I am at 30’with a collection of anime tshirts, cargo pants, anime figurines, a knife/sword collection, stuffed animals and a collection of wooden flutes for my flute addiction…at 17 I was in sweats and a tshirt in glasses and a messy bun trying to stay awake on calc II.I figured out a skin care routine last year…

[@naomiakinneye4629]

"We need deliverance!" lol so true

[@nwabisiebere4252]

Girl, you nailed it really love dis

[@noneofyourbusinesslolz6112]

More videos like this please! I really enjoy them as well as your insight💕

[@sophieobiero-ro7uj]

I will never need Botox.. if I’m old I’m old. We are ALL aging so if I’m old I’ll accept it. I work out so I’m toned. I eat right & do salads so my stomach doesn’t bulge too much. I also dedicate a lot of time to my career & business prospects. I don’t care what society thinks or says therefore I’ll remain single & childfree until I meet someone responsible who values me & loves me.

[@Jamgana]

Girl🔥🔥🔥🔥 You killed it. Thank you🙏

[@ChintuLastones]

Continue bringing up this issues , we are normalizing crazy 🤣 out here

[@lizzie12362]

mental diet is such a good way to phrase it

[@memezz7629]

Loved this so much. God bless you Lucy🙏🏾❤️