The pressure to be a"Travel babe" & "International Baddie Aesthetic"is why you are BROKE|LUCY BENSON

[@sierradenise76]

Can we also talk about the “travel prep” and how people are spending $1000+ on clothes, hair, beauty, treatments, etc. My heart goes out the younger impressionable girls who think this is normal. That is definitely a luxury and what influencers are promoting is the exception not the norm

[@kaysmellsgood]

Like, omg the travel prep looks even more expensive than the actual trip

[@a.lovely8947]

Hmmm it’s like I spend more on the prep then the trip

[@RDCFemmes]

I always travel prep, social media didn't tell me to and I didn't discover travelling on IG and even I complain why i am speding money before I am going on holiday. Diffeerent people have different travel ritual. I believe the trick is to start shopping from the moment you booked your flight.

[@loviaroberts293]

Its ridiculous

[@misspiscesdreamz]

Travel prep is so expensive

[@ZA-lf4rz]

I’ve been saying this for a while, a lot of ppl, both men and women go on these trips just to show that they’ve been there. They don’t learn about the countries or cities, they don’t really care. And if they don’t enjoy the place they visited they will never admit it because they’re trying to create some sort of image smh.

[@RDCFemmes]

It's not that deep, they just wanna create content to bag sponsprships, they are hustling why are you mad about it? what is it paining you? even if they want to creata an image, so what? even if they don't enjoy th place, whay does it worry you?

[@mx.chi2]

@@RDCFemmes why did you click on this video if you hold this opinion? did you want to find something to be mad at? if you don't understand why creating an image, why being superficial is bad, why did you click on this video?

[@candy2325]

@@RDCFemmesyour comment doesn’t support the nature of the topic/video being posted 😂 this doesn’t pertain you at all.

[@prettysahataratv2000]

To the person reading this : Even though I didn’t know you , I wish you the best life has to offer

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

Thank you

[@Onoriodexyah]

Thank you and you too ❤

[@ifechiderejuliet9576]

Awwwww thank you and you too❤

[@thegalgotit]

Thank you and you too

[@prettysahataratv2000]

@@thegalgotit thank you 🙏 dear

[@Opioidmoon]

Tbh I had to delete my instagram for a while because I stated to feel bad about my life when I would see people travel to a new country almost every 3-4 months and I thought that was totally normal. I had to do my own healing and then rejoin after I realized that this type of behavior wasn’t normal.

[@ToniaAlex13]

I have a 9 to 5 so that's not normal

[@blackaigle5702]

Good to know you have save yourself, remains strong n focus

[@thebarbieinvestor5428]

I left and never went back 😂 They stay lying up there lol Life is peaceful

[@ojxolape]

You’re too real. People thought I was crazy for deleting Instagram late last year but I stopped caring not only about other ppl’s lives but also sharing mine. A lot of life is mundane and not-that-exciting and that’s okay lol. We’re here to exist not entertain. I had a summer vacay to Europe and I didn’t feel pressured to do convention “picture-worthy” places. I visited places that had my friends & family in them, and had the MOST AMAZING time with my Instax film camera. Without making TikToks about it 🤭

[@leanaam.5385]

I share the same sentiment as I don’t have social media at all anymore ( IG, TikTok, facebook and snap) I learned to live a mundane life without feeling pressured to share anything and I have no pressure with filtering out my pictures. Everything I capture stays with me and now I am into creating album photos ❤

[@Osomote]

Going to the UK this summer and hoping to adopt this mindset, I don’t want the pressure of looking good for IG to ruin my vacation. I feel like tik tok is more friendly lol, 9/10 times the only people viewing my videos are my siblings.

[@Mrs.VKS23]

Oh no you aren’t crazy for deleting your instagram. It is all a joke to me to be honest. I grew out of this whole social media life style and happy to live a life that isn’t accessible to all. Folks look at you crazy when you tell them you don’t have such platform. Everyone grows at a different speed but when you know your values you will know where to spend your time and where you shouldn’t. Life is meant to be lived not posting online for everyone to give you comments to boost your ego.

[@yx5991]

See for me, I don’t post for esthetics. I post just general things that I find cool or that I like. I barely post myself. I only share things in my story and even Yesterday I posted a bottle of hot sauce that I purchased I. Texas. That’s it, that’s the story for this week.

[@akosua8779]

That camera is the BEST! YOU GET TO LIVE IN THE MOMENT

[@vo9222]

Travelling = learning… if you can afford it, please travel as much as possible 💕

[@sirainilawal]

Good point but some people can't afford it and they are fool--ish enough to forget other important things in their lives

[@gifty2595]

In the UK we can also get pretty cheap flights to our European neighbours. I absolutely love this view you’ve shared as it’s super rare! I’m also an advocate for travelling around the country you live in. I’ve been going on trips to various cities and towns in the UK and it’s so good to appreciate the vast landscape and the differences on a budget. ❤

[@MyLucyBenson]

Love this!❤️

[@preciousozemoya]

Agree with you. Start with the country that you live in. I have been to about 55 towns in the Uk.

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

Flights in the USA are expensive 😢.

[@simpliabigail]

the flights in Canada are very expensive, it’s cheaper for us to travel to another country than within our own country 😭

[@karlatyson12]

This is tea I know so many people behind on their bills facing eviction because they travel over paying their bills

[@jessicamatson3935]

😳😳😳😳😳

[@natnel617]

Exactly this! For temporary pleasure and validation they can put themselves in serious hardship situations.

[@zakayla5850]

i always think of what i can AFFORD & u are so right! i have a planned trip in september 2024 and march 2025. i’m content with one road trip & one flight trip every year. when i’m home, i have extra money. lets end going in debt over stuff we can truly skip on.

[@MyLucyBenson]

This is THE perspective everyone should have! I LOVE IT❤️

[@noway4]

Deleting instagram was the best mental and money saving move I made! 😅 I remember telling someone traveling once a year or every other year was enough me and heard crickets lol Thank you for this ❤🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@khutjomasha]

Our "influencers" are busy selling bum bum and jumping through hoops just to do international trips, some are very broke in real life,it's very sad but hey we are entertained by their foolishness 😂

[@sonyaagibson]

I heard this too a lot of influencers are selling 😸. It's not my business how they get their money but they sell lies.

[@1lovebaking]

Bum bum 😂

[@arolinek8698]

This video came at the perfect time. I was in the middle of planning a solo trip that I know I can’t really afford. Sometimes I get down on myself because I think I should be traveling more but now that I think of it…..social media has alot to do with these expectations I put on myself. You made solid points throughout the video and it’s helped me realize that I need to put the phone down and make sure I don’t go broke trying to “keep up”

[@MyLucyBenson]

I love this for you!!!❤️❤️

[@youreincredible1648]

Am going on a solo trip i cant afford, but its for personal growth, and i wont make a habbit of it.

[@RootsAndRoutesChronicals]

Solo travel is more expensive but it CAN be worth it.

[@aesinam]

​​@@RootsAndRoutesChronicalsnot if you can't afford it. If you can't afford it then it's never worth it. People are facing eviction because they took trips they couldn't afford. You can always plan other trips (maybe even in your own country if possible).

[@aesinam]

​@@youreincredible1648may I ask how it's going to help you grow personally?

[@jenny-kings]

Someone finally said it! that online Christian aesthetic is so all over the place, it doesn't feel genuine.

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

It definitely isn't! Brittany Dawn comes to mind...

[@akosua8779]

It is what's trending !

[@Traceylynn1224]

because it’s not 😉

[@NotGoing.BackandForth.WithUHos]

​@@absolutelyridiculous6743 I was thinking about Sophiology 😂

[@isabelleessama]

Please louder !!! I'm a christian girl but I'm done with this "aesthetic christian things" as if it was easy to be a christian. Actually, it's even a personal hustle to live a real christian life. They should stop fooling us 😒

[@leanaam.5385]

Say that for the people in the back!!!! They don’t understand that at all!

[@NappyHappyDrumMajor]

‼️‼️‼️ so glad you said this. I really be confused when I see this Christian aesthetic about walking with God being a walk in the park. It's a form of gaslighting honestly. Walking with God is not easy, that's why the Word says that we should delight in suffering because God loves us when he disciplines us. Thanks for sharing

[@ngozinwafor]

I dont believe in “best friends”. I just need a few good friends and associates to go out with. I learned the hard way alot of friends low key dont like one another. Theirs alot of competition in female friendships tbh and I dont have the energy for it.

[@Stecia_]

Only people who really understand what she’s talking about will support this ❤️🙌🏼 ‘Tis true.

[@NappyHappyDrumMajor]

I would like to add that its cool to travel domestically. If you live in the States, the country is HUGE; a whole bunch of countries in 1 basically. You can learn about the country more and still be well traveled without leaving ghe country, if that is your thing too. Thanks for sharing!

[@sammieee01]

this video should've been titled "things i want to get off my chest" 😂

[@MyLucyBenson]

Sis the way I laughed out loud just now is crazy 😂😂😂😂

[@DoubraAgbere]

@@MyLucyBenson please stop screaming at us 😂😂😂

[@chunguchipalo5066]

😂😂😂

[@jessicaonyems]

Who else like first before watching?😊

[@claudianyame]

I did ❤

[@Selena-Appiah]

Me , always ❤

[@Ultimate_Onyx]

Me

[@bestsofyoutube]

I know something good will come out of her as always. She is so genuine!

[@Big_AunTyFavour]

Meeee😂

[@Vaalgranci]

I needed the traveling advice. Because I have been feeling left out but I want to get my financial situation in track and have a traveling fund set aside for traveling. Yet saying that to people they tell me money will come back. In this economy I rather be safe

[@leanaam.5385]

I encourage you to take care of your finances because there is nothing pleasant to come back home from a trip with a maxed out credit card. You are not missing out at all. You can actually plan your trip and give yourself a deadline to set the amount aside. I’m speaking from my personal experience.

[@Vaalgranci]

@@leanaam.5385 thank you so much!! I will do this. I don’t ever want to be in financial distress.

[@nkjv12]

The countries are not going anywhere, there is no rush to go through life at someone else's speed. Financial freedom from debt is the biggest peace of mind you can give yourself. You go on holiday on debt and enjoy yourself for 1 week and then you are back to reality.

[@leanaam.5385]

@@Vaalgranci You’ve got this girl! ✨✨🫶🏾

[@angelbby2458]

I travel a lot for work and honestly sometimes all I get to experience is the food and walking around seeing the architecture. You can’t always learn about the city and culture if you’re not there long. Sometimes ppl travel to just rest as well in the hotel and not to explore. I don’t think it matters why people travel tbh just that if they wanted to go they can.

[@Businessdiarieswithsaph]

So true

[@vixii6230]

travelling for work is very different than people travelling just to impress people on the internet to “keep up with the joneses”

[@Amal-nx3ic]

Dubai, Santorini, Paris, London, Marrakech 😂 always the same areas they go.

[@alexpress5375]

Tulum, Mykonos, Turks & Caicos, St. Tropez, Bali, etc. 😅

[@Amal-nx3ic]

@@alexpress5375 yes 😅😅

[@nelgnelgnelg]

The south of france, Italy

[@queenesthersamson2300]

You aren’t talking about the “First / Business Class Flight. 😂😂😂😂😂 No one enters Economy anymore!

[@leanaam.5385]

People don’t even want comfort anymore so Economy doesn’t exist at this point 😂😂😂😂😂

[@RootsAndRoutesChronicals]

This!!

[@TrendzAndTips]

I totally agree lol Most people do it for the gram and mostly with people they don't even like

[@bellatrina6732]

Girls in Nigeria left the whatspp group and blocked the admin. I remember when one particular influencer travelled to lebanon 🇱🇧 all of a sudden every girl in Lagos wants to go to lebanon with their snowbooth. Now they have switched to Qatar 🇶🇦. Most of them really come back home broke after these trips all because of instagram highlight😩🤦‍♀️. Then again am not saying don’t travel but live below your means and if you can afford it yes pls do it. But don’t use your life savings 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️

[@Just_Mishi]

I actually stopped watching certain influencers vlogs because she was busy shopping and going for lunch dates every week. It felt unreal and I didn't want anymore unnecessary pressure in my life.

[@ngozinwafor]

Yeah the traveling is getting out of hand. You can tell between the real travelers and the IG travelers. Im very careful of the type of influencers I watch because what you watch, hear etc influences your behavior.

[@kelechinelson8907]

It's the "God really needs to deliver us" for me 😂. The Nigerian in you came out to olay. I absolutely love it 😂.

[@leanaam.5385]

I prayed so much for my friendship that in 2023, I removed myself from all of relationships and I am very pleased with the close friends I have. I am grateful for the experience I learned from all of this.

[@Tbaby9361]

People forget theirs 50 states everyone wants to travel to different countries. (America citizens)

[@carolynololade4126]

That part about friendship…. thank you for touching that particular spot. Thank you. Being friends with people you know are in competition with you and don’t like you like that?! forgiving whatever it is they do to you just because you’re afraid of being friendless or don’t want judgy people to tag you the problem?! Ah! God abeg

[@adventuregirlinawonderworl3551]

When i realized my aesthetic baddie friends all lived with they parents and i was the only single mom being the mom of the friend group to travel i realized “they not like us” and i am nothing like them. Better to travel alone or with like minded people who want experiences and cherish them over instagram reels and stories. I found peace in my solitude became physically mentally and emotionally better ❤❤❤ when I travel again it will be centered around the experience I want to have not others

[@Daraax]

I’m sooo glad you talked about this because the aesthetic will have you in a bad situation. People need to understand their own finances and work with what they can do while aiming for more

[@nabilaxo9157]

running your savings just for instagram highlights - ooooof the truth laced in this! 🤣😭

[@titilayooluwatosin5891]

That friendship part, totally agree.

[@charismaw1040]

Thank you for this. Social media makes me feel like I’m not doing enough.

[@iThiink]

People think I'm crazy for not being interested in travelling, but I used to have have yearly holidays abroad when I was younger, all the way up until an adult and I get very homesick and over it real quick

[@boop79]

Yesss. Pair this with the rich man taking you to Italy and Greece aesthetic trope. It’s exhausting!!!! I’d love to have it but it’s ok to be normal

[@keirramichelle8644]

The way you said "Their broke" about how girls fall out on trips LOL But it's true it all comes down to FOMO, traveling above your means and not planning

[@khadijahbailey101]

Wow this video has really hit me! At then end of 2024 I will have traveled to 4 countries and 2 states. And each time I prepare I never feel like it’s enough. Wonderful message

[@livelifewithkaykay5050]

Girl I’m not going to lie I be on 4-6 trips a year 😭 but it is just me and I make over 5k a month so I’m a different story. However I feel like trying to get the best pictures and esthetics during vacation definitely stresses me tf out for no reason and waste alot of my trip time

[@bern8378]

5k in dollars or Euros? In my opinion 5k is not even a lot for me to travel 4-6 trips a year and I make additional 3k above that in dollars. Well I try saving more, not to criticize you but wish I could travel more.

[@aintthatj]

That's so nice! That's actually the goal for me, hopefully in the next few years once I've settled into my career a bit. If I may ask, what do you do for work?

[@Lolami206]

The bad character is getting so normal and it’s annoying because it is not normal. Let’s call a spade, a spade. Thanks for this beautiful words 🤗

[@themodernspiritual9199]

"who raised you?" That part 💯👏🏾

[@jamilamuhammad9767]

Just noticed that you're now at over 200k subscribers and it makes me so happy for you.❤❤

[@andreacamillembenoun3606]

You’re real! Talking about this Christian aesthetics is painful. It’s so clout chasing. When you want to pray, how does it cross your mind to film?!

[@HoofingAdventures]

Every point you've made is spot on! The travelling, the friendships, the fashion sense (or lack of it for some lol) and religion! Where is society heading? Thank you for your content xx

[@UnicornsInLalaland]

I LOVE when you talk to us like this. I need to hear that this stuff is insane because seeing it so many times it feels normal but it’s really not

[@analea6531]

Let’s not forget some of those people traveling everywhere are on a sugar daddy payroll. I said what I said the modern day prostitution culture is at all Time high

[@tanyagozho7954]

Lucy😩 This was spot on. These so called aesthetics are killing us. Thank you for this❤

[@Milly_in_denmark]

Truth about where you live. We can even drive or take train all over Europe and sometimes for so little money. So we can go to Paris on Friday and back Sunday without spending allot. And true about the travel stories, they are always fighting about money. Very informative video 😊

[@kelechinelson8907]

Lucy dragged her ears for us oo😂. Giving big sister vibes. I've been grining from ear to ear watching this. I absolutely enjoyed this video ❤.

[@elishebablessing8252]

I’m definitely recreating this series on my channel because there are a lot of things people are doing on social media that is not normal at all Thanks so much for this video and being realistic about it, it was loud enough believe me

[@RaysofInara]

You make me happy everyday, i am so glad to have discovered you yrs ago. Your authenticity is beyond amazing! ❤❤

[@ugochinwankwo6016]

You see this Christian aesthetics and fake friendships you talked about… you nailed it..!! Almost everyone is now making Christian aesthetics a trend… most are not even invested in building their r/ship with God..

[@Penny_xoli]

Lucy this vid... 🎉🎉🎉🎉 You snapped and managing your finances well as you get older is essential.

[@MyLucyBenson]

THIS!!!! Thanks darling ❤️

[@paulettepters]

Oof 😮‍💨 You hit the nail on the head with every point Lucyyyyy!

[@MyLucyBenson]

Thanks darling! ❤️

[@Luchisam]

I just love you and look forward to every Monday... Especially the friend part... When I tell people that I don't really fancy female friends, I get being seen as weird... But deep within I don't just have the mental strength for female dramas and fakies

[@MsJustChi]

This healed me in so many ways😭

[@giantsfan567]

hey girlie! so i know at the beginning of the vid you said that you might come across as “mad” or “angry” but tbh i see you as passionate!! this was a great vid and keep on keeping on! much love, xoxo 🥰

[@the_jemimaa]

It's your passion for me😂 Well done, Lucy❤

[@StylezOfCole]

Very nice content Lucy. To the young women reading this, it is ok -not to travel in the summer.

[@paulettepters]

Omg I know the feeling. I filmed a video on Wednesday and my mic went off on some parts, ugghhhh!! Stings like a bee but we’ve gotta keep on going. 😂😂

[@MyLucyBenson]

Girl, I couldn’t cry or be mad, I just thanked God for giving me the strength and went to sleep calmly after that 🤣

[@Cryonic7740]

Another banger Lucy, you’re so wise. Never stop doing this The only thing I’ll add is that we should shy away from judging people who make such choice, and focus on educating on the consequences of making poor choices across all these things that you discussed. Your messages are on point to me, I’m already a card carrying member in the school of thought you come from, but when you’re trying to reach specific people, they’re likely to get defensive and not receive the wisdom that you’re trying to spread. Thank you for all that you do!

[@GenaLector]

in Ukraine we have travel show "orel i reshka" (2 sides of a coin) where 1 person has unlimited money and 2 has 100$ - and they need to spend one day in foreign country (hotel included) with that. I guess lots of people really need to watch it.

[@SweetNeece23]

Lucy, i’m sorry you lost the first recording but thanks for re-recording it because honey you were preaching!!! 🥰 your nails are sooo pretty!!! thanks for having such great insights and sanity because this world has gone insane!

[@nehchimirabel2346]

Lucy girl speak.Thank you so much❤❤❤

[@GeearlsPlace]

Finally someone is speaking my mind here 😢😢…. It’s so sad that all these have been normalized in this our gen

[@KethycaElmera]

Thank you Lucy, I thought I was crazy but you and I shared the same views.

[@Karalolcowlaw]

I travel regularly because at 50 years old I have diligently managed my money, own my own home freehold etc. if you rent travel isn’t for you, if you have debt, travel isn’t for you, people refuse to accept this reality.

[@TheOriginalHouseBabe]

When Lucy said “ please let’s be guided” I felt that lol and it’s my new saying

[@Neenbeen]

“I feel like so many people forget that all fingers are not equal” It is the wisdom for me. Lucy abeg stop coming for my edges 😂 Thank you for always putting things in perspective for me ❤

[@MyLucyBenson]

Girl your edges as sage don’t worry 🤭😂

[@Amalarisa_]

I agree with the travel prep thing I spend £0 I did my own hair and had short nude nails and guess what I enjoyed my holiday 🎉

[@absolutelyridiculous6743]

... don't forget the TIME that it takes to travel. I'm an American in the Midwest, so we're talking at least 12+ hours on one flight, and multiple layovers depending on your destination which add more hours. We literally have to waste two days out of our vacation time JUST for traveling, and it's exhausting.

[@paulettepters]

Glad I found you girl! 🎉❤

[@MyLucyBenson]

I am glad we found each other darling!❤️

[@shaheenjohnson7723]

I travel out the country sometimes, but I use a travel agent and plan a year ahead, so I can make payments. I have nothing to prove and I need the best deal.

[@MyLucyBenson]

❤️

[@paolaanimator]

I wish I can travel. In fact I haven’t traveled in years because I barely have savings due to necessities being expensive and my family is working class. I'm hoping when I get a better paying job from certs or degrees, etc. I'll finally be able to travel. For now I do local activities or local trips within the state.

[@carineakebeawah5330]

THANKS VERY MUCH LUCY

[@cupcake1065]

As a Londoner, Europe feels like our back yard. It can be cheaper to travel to Europe than staying in the UK and doing a staycation. But I agree with what you’ve said. It’s why so many cities and towns have been destroyed by mass tourism. The people that go do not respect the place and mess it up. They are now starting to ban tourists. I typically prefer the less beaten path. Those hold on the wall restaurants and cafe in those quiet sleepy towns. That’s where you’ll feel the culture and explore truly.

[@Being.Benedicta]

Real talk Lucy, real talk 🤝

[@ireneeruotor4012]

Best friendship 😂😂 Tbh this video is gold. Well done Lucy 👏🏽 ❤

[@sunrisedest]

3:54 Video starts

[@LydiaTifuh]

One of the best videos I’ve watched this year! Very hilarious too 😂

[@deejejey9712]

I totally agree with you Lucy is just too much of it lately and Too overwhelming!!!!

[@sbonelli]

I WISH I could hit that "like" button a thousand times!! In fact I wish there was an "obsessed" button I can push. NO LIES TOLD HERE.

[@alexpress5375]

GO OFF...all of it really needed to be said and I agree 💯 👏 NO 👏 LIES 👏 TOLD!

[@aloemua9181]

I ball out once a year for carnival as an early birthday gift to myself, 8 days dedicated to me (oh and I’m bringing my cat along with me lol!)… I refuse to go broke by keeping up with the Jones! 💚

[@Businessdiarieswithsaph]

I grew up Caribbean and I’m always going back to the Caribbean and I love to travel it’s never for the aesthetic I don’t feel like I belong in one country but that’s just me. I don’t think life is meant to be lived in one place 🤷‍♀️

[@MercyMukami]

I don't think you got her point...

[@gailbrumigin1623]

This video has confirmed that I m a leader and not a follower. thank you Lucy great video ❤❤❤❤❤

[@alishainc]

I’ve been thinking about sharing my testimony but seeing other content creators commodify Christianity has made me weary. Glad you spoke on that

[@BaskingLilly]

This video was wonderful, and it hit various points that should be concerning to many.

[@factoriesandmachines]

I visited Holland,I could go to Germany by train and Flights are 40 Euros at times😂.I live in Asia and I can take a train to two neighboring countries or a ferry😂I am also a teacher,I can change countries every year and showcase each country every year for the rest of my life❤😂.People don't know the how some of us end up in those spaces

[@IamShamille]

Keep speaking your truth ❤

[@MajorPaneIntl]

You just got a sub from me. You hit the nail on the head. Thanks for being so truthful.

[@yx5991]

It makes me think about everyone having that same photo of them laying down in the clear boat in the water. Everyone has a photo like that

[@queenesthersamson2300]

Thank you Lucy!

[@michelleadams6010]

It would cost me a minimum of $5,000 to travel to Europe from my city in the US. I stick to the Caribbean islands because they are my budget.

[@heyitsjojoo]

The last pointtttt...like whyyy, your spiritual moments should be between just you and God, what's this one they'd post them in that moment 💁🏽‍♀️ are they really in that moment true true 🥲😅its annoying ooo, I feel the same pain you feel about it.

[@OfficiallyMichele]

Everything you said I have said privately to my friend. Like people are acting weird out here.

[@Vicksstyless]

ah a lot of people are gonna come for you but you are speaking the truth💗

[@grae1152]

I'm watching and your views are running fast. Your numbers aren't playing 🎉🎉🎉❤