The Problem with Coming Out Online ft. Mattea Ingemi | Chosen Family Podcast

The fam’s first guest episode features the highly-requested Mattea Ingemi [ ‪@matteaing‬ ]
Mak’s (non-chosen) sister. Mattea and the gang discuss thongs and BV, grapes, coming out online, and how to ask about STI status without it being awkward. Be warned: things get crazy.
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[@emilymons11]

Mak hyping up Mattea for what she’s currently working on is so wholesome 🥹

[@themikachicka]

I cried 😭

[@ROCKONplaceboforever]

Was amazing 🔥

[@321licata97]

Mattea is the weird neighbor who pops over for tea and asks for sugar.

[@susannahsaurus]

Mak’s defense of Jojo was so incredibly heartwarming. I’m so glad that someone of a similar age in that community with a big pile of influence available to them is speaking up against bullying amongst adults. Thank you for being so mature AND voicing your frustration well.

[@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS]

My intro to Jojo was her saying she didn’t like the word lesbian. I’m feel the same and I’m an old lesbian. Yet, the “guardians of all things lesbian” think they can tell people they don’t like a word because of internalised homophobia. Pisses me off. I don’t like the word-I prefer gay men and gay women-, and I know why I don’t like the word even as I use it when describing gay women in writing. IRL I will tell people I’m gay. Culture changes and people need to get used it it. We don’t have to be attached to a word because someone tells us it’s history that we ought to embrace. I know the way in which the word came into being and I am no more attached to it than invert. They were labels given to us. Homosexual people actually chose the word gay, which is why I prefer it. People are welcome to love a word chosen for them by professionals because of the source referenced but I don’t have to.

[@the_fynethyme]

@Madison Heights This is an amazing way at looking at it! I never managed to put into words a way of saying why or really coming up with something to back up my preference for using "gay woman". Thanks

[@marywollstonecraft2855]

@@IExpectedBSJustNotThisMuchBS I agree about choosing a description rather than being described. 'Lesbian' kind of sounds like "nudge, wink, from that certain Greek island, know what I mean?" But that's just my take. I'll respect the choices other folks make.

[@jessjrz]

Okay but Mattea is so thoughtful by staying what STI/D means and saying "some people might not know what that means"

[@2nd3rd1st]

The STID sounds like a health card you have in your wallet

[@IguessImight]

The grape segment had me crying with laughter. Your collective chemistry is unhinged and unmatcheeeed

[@keenanmartin7691]

As a bisexual woman who is dating a man, I can confirm that it doesn't stop my bisexuality.

[@kcup5705]

Exactly 👏. At the end of the day you have to stay true to one person and one person only and that is yourself. 💙

[@gimandri5577]

so true! also as a bisexual woman who never dated a woman, i can confirm that it doesn't change my bisexuality either haha

[@mrmaidlemonade]

100000%

[@HollieAndApollo]

👏👏👏👏💯💯💯💯 same! I just commented very similar too. I’ve been with my husband for 16 years. Thankfully he’s secure enough in himself that I’ve never felt like I’ve needed to hide my sexuality in any way and I’m just as bi today as I was the day we met.. I just so happened to have fallen for a man instead of a woman.. that’s it.. ❤

[@taylerroyal4691]

Mak’s background is giving teenage brother vibes. Between the crumpled government documents, the couch in disarray and subtle brag of the KZbin plaque…she really nailed it.

[@jessjrz]

Hello! This time I wanted to thank Mak, Alayna and Ashley. I started university recently and been with a lot of family responsibilities, a lot of anxiousness, fear and depression. But i had the mentality of "not bad enough to get diagnosed" or "you will just waste therapy time". But ever since i started watching you guys I started realizing all the different ways therapy can help me and how can I access it. Today is my second appointment with my therapist and I can actually feel the change. Thank you so much for all three of you who accompany me in this ✨journey✨ (take a shot)

[@MeadowSongs]

I AM SO PROUD OF YOU!!! Therapy is so helpful and it’s such a big step to start!

[@paulafamularo5001]

You go, Jess. Therapy, is a gift, and needed by EVERYONE. I'm excited for your journey. The best is yet to come, sweetheart. 💖

[@Mango-ly2dx]

That's amazing!! This podcast is awesome, and I'm so glad they help break so many stigmas and encourage things like therapy. Does anyone have any recommendations for how long I should go to a therapist before I leave to try a new one? I've had 3 or 4 appointments so far and don't feel like it's been helping, but I'm not sure how much time it usually takes or if I'm the problem instead of my therapist

[@MeadowSongs]

@@Mango-ly2dx Acclimating to a therapist is similar to other relationships in that it takes time to build the rapport. It’s not odd AT ALL to not see massive life altering changes after 3-4 sessions. Think of it like exercise, not medicine. It takes time. ❤️ If you’re like 6 months in and see no changes and don’t trust/feel comfortable with your therapist then I’d ask for a new one. Don’t ghost your therapist 🥲 (I’ve done it)

[@AlakaxamM]

I respect how hard Ashley is constantly plugging her podcast😂 Also, 18mo is not too old to breastfeed. It's milk and it's free 🤷

[@ashb5733]

Agreed, 18 months is still a baby!

[@FuriousDinosaur123]

Hearing Mak being called Makayla is wild 😂

[@catalyst_and_chaos]

mak: *goes on very important and emotional rant about the queer community on TikTok* ashley the second mak mentions TikTok: *stares into camera as though she's on the office*

[@dancedancedance2458]

Ashley, i don’t think we were interested in how you switched from computer science to comedy because we thought you had to chose between two passions, but because we wanted to know what made you go after your dreams as hard as you do because many of us are apprehensive to go after our own! Its always inspiring to hear some one else who has completely changed their life around so we can remember no matter how far we’ve gone in one direction, we can chose something different. We can chose to better ourselves, and we can chose to do what we actually freaking enjoy! As always, thanks for sharing. 👏🏼

[@ashgavs]

It’s literally never been phrased that way to me, thanks for clarifying!

[@dancedancedance2458]

@@ashgavs well while i cant speak to the people in your physical environment, surely some who know you from your content and comedy are wondering for this reason! Thanks for reading💕

[@tris5602]

"What kind of grape content?" "Green grapes content!?" 🤣🤣🤣

[@nathanmoranx2105]

You actually got Mattea on the show! Awesome! This podcast is the best thing to wake up to on a Wednesday.

[@hannarchy6554]

Ashley: "Have you gone on any dates with women?" Mattea: "Technically yes but technically no" This girl is 100% into girls, no further questions 🤣🤣🤣

[@circleofleaves2676]

A good way to ask for someones STI/STD status, is for you to volunteer that information about yourself first. e.g. "I've been tested" or "My last test was _________ (2 mths ago or whatever) and I got all the clear, so I just wanted to let you know that before anything happens. How about you?" For the actual tests, your GP can do most of them. I understand you might feel awkward bringing that up, though (especially when going through actual sexual practice questions). If you go to a sexual health clinic however, they know that you're there for that. Everyone is.

[@Tooscared2blink]

Please bring Mattea back for a future episode. Having all four of you together was gold! 😂

[@britlynvincent6836]

I came out as lesbian, and then my fiancé told me that he was a trans man. It was really hard for me at first because I only got five months as a lesbian in the community. I was raised devout, Mormon we both were. Like serve the mission and everything. it was really hard for me to feel like me being with a trans man invalidated my queerness, so I love her talking about her experience.

[@mjp2palmtree]

Hi! As an ex-mormon non-binary person I just wanted to say that you are seen and the struggle is real!

[@tjwithersauthor]

Came for the chosen family, stayed for the grapes to 🐱 pipeline !!🍇😉😂

[@vampiress1897]

The whole "get a little house in the woods, get some cats. Just you and me against the world." That was the single most gratifying comment I have ever heard and I have never felt like a bigger lesbian than I do right now. Thank you for that. 👏 #goals

[@michelleal1883]

I feel like having Mattea regularly on the show would make the podcast even better cause she represents alot of people in the community and she's thoughtful and hilarious.

[@juliafernandez782]

I had no idea I would relate to Mattea this much. Im still in highschool and the amount of pressure I feel/felt (I learned to handle it better) to come out, put a label on myself and make it a big deal is huge, even from people I love and not only love me back but are supportive and even part of the lgbtq+ community. Thanks for this podcast, for being so open and vulnerable it helps a lot!

[@VictorVonGrooove]

So.... We keeping Mattea? She was excellent! I love how her mind works. It's almost scary, what are we going to get here? KABOOM! Chaos and brilliance.

[@chelister27]

Wasn't expecting a Community Channel shout out, that brought back some great memories 🥲 I hope Natalie is happy

[@aquamarine3699]

Agreed! I loveee communitychannel

[@cielo15animations77]

Hey besties! Y’all have become my new favorite podcast within the past two days and I’m so glad to have a gay family here!

[@idibidi3724]

Y'all are officially a part of my routine... Wednesday lunch with my gay fam :)

[@christifrierson1530]

Same!! I watch this podcast every morning, getting ready for work! Then finish it when I get home 😂

[@SpaceyD]

Same!

[@jessjrz]

27:37 ASHLEY looking straight into the camera with a done vibe, i felt it in my soul and she was literally on the same room as me

[@RondyWooten]

Totally caught off guard by the Natalie Tran reference! Absolutely love her comedy, and this podcast.

[@taylorblair6117]

I really appreciate this episode and Mattea sharing her thoughts about coming out. I am a 31 year old cis woman who is married to a man, and though I've always known I've had an attraction to women, I've never officially "come out" (until now, I guess) because I didn't want to feel like or be accused of being a fraud because I'm married to a man. Thankfully the people who know I'm queer, including my husband, are incredibly supportive and validating. Surrounding yourself with the right people makes all the difference. I think you've got some good people in your corner, Mattea.

[@187942]

I GOT SO EXCITED WHEN I SAW MATTEA omg thank you all so much for this podcast. I get so happy about it every week ♥️

[@187942]

Her plants in the background make me want to marry her

[@two0215]

As a 24 yearold Bi woman, I relate to Mattea's feelings of not having a very solid community. Growing up, it was difficult to find friends who were actually comfortable with my sexuality. Gay, or straight; I've always felt like I have to hold a part of myself back depending on who I'm talking to. I've been out for 9 years, and people still call me a closeted lesbian or a straight girl just "experimenting"😪

[@gabriellagreer-benedict9476]

The grapes is hilarious! Every time I see a scraggly dog on the street I name it RUPERT🤣🤣🤣🤣 This episode is hilarious. I’m watching it at 2am and cracking up in bed. I relate so much to Mattea. I’m 52 and married to a man, live in a small town and am totally gay. I’m out to him and a few friends. I feel gayer and gayer every day and am struggling with it. I don’t want the label because I don’t want to deal with the scrutiny on both sides.

[@chiara7886]

Ashley is such an amazing, honest, mature person. In one word, RARE.

[@gunselshaly537]

This podcast is one of the few internet things that give me genuine joy these days. That is the saddest thing I've ever said.

[@Maddi3ver]

Me - why can’t Mattea be Mak’s younger sister in the chosen fam and irl? Like family isn’t blood but you can still choose your blood family to be family. . . Right? Seriously tho I loved this pod I was cracking up and learned a lot about BV. ❤

[@SpaceyD]

@Lisa de Bruin same here 😊

[@kikitauer]

I love how this podcast keeps getting longer 😉

[@michael_the.girl.]

This is so so healing!!! I have had a fear of STI's for so long, but just hearing Ashley talk about how common and normal and okay it is is so good for me. 💕 This is so nice to hear that there are options and solutions if it does happen. Just the energy of the way Ashley talks about this is so relieving 😌

[@reesewheatley821]

This show has brought me so much comfort. There is so much going on in the world and so much legislation that's gunning for drag shows and trans rights (I live in Kentucky), and this show has made me feel at home and safe in public spaces when I'm just not comfortable. Thank you so much for providing this space and continuing to make content.

[@rosieblyther444]

SO glad you are bringing up the challenges of feeling acceptance from the community as a bi person who is with the opposite gender person. I struggle with this so much and really want more queer friendships and community.

[@emmymorris7648]

Oh it was great to see Mattea on here! What an extra fun episode! Ashley right out of the gates with a conversion therapy joke- OMG! You and Alayna- y’all were totally on point with that bit and that was before Mak as her sister’s “agent” got Mattea on there so I knew it would be doubly good! Then Mattea gets on and I’m laughing so hard that my family can tell I was watching something funny from three rooms away! 😆😆 I was sooo excited to see this episode drop this morning! I have a chronic pain condition and lots of rain have made my pain flare even worse. So, after such a rough night, it cheered me up sooo much to see a new video had popped up! Loving this podcast sooo much! 🎉🎉

[@quietestkitten]

Mak going off on bullies is amazing. People need to not be such assholes.

[@themorales6]

FYI, Ashley: I breastfed all four of my kids into their 2s. It’s totally normal and ok.

[@oceangelixir]

I was looking for a comment like that, thanks! Yeah it's even recommended to breast feed for two yrs or longer! I'm doing it as well now :) and i love it

[@kennedyeckels4492]

Mattea killed it on this episode!

[@justasksky3962]

I loved having mattea on! Also Rachel Ballenger is close friends with Jojo so she could probably get Jojo on the podcast and I. know ashley had rachel on recently- Jojo is amazing

[@breakfasttacos4550]

I really relate to Mattea. I'm bi/pan/whatever. I also don't really put a label on it. However I'm in a hetero, monogamous marriage. I rarely disclose how I identity while meeting new people unless they stick around long enough in my life because some people just think you're lying, or confused, or want to be "trendy". And then I feel bad for taking up *any* space in the queer community because of my relationship status. When I'm looking inward it seems so simple: Yes, I'm in a hetero marriage. Yes, I find/found myself attracted to all sorts of different people throughout my life. Like those are my undeniable truths. It shouldn't be so complicated but it still feels like it is.

[@tammiRue02]

Thank you!!!! I’m also a pan women who doesn’t like labels and has been in a Hetero relationship for almost 10 years. I use to not use the labels bc I thought it didn’t matter. Then my uncle came out and even though his experience in our family as a gay man is different.. I didn’t want our family to think being gay is uncommon or weird or that he’s the odd one out. My parents were chill with it; my boyfriend is okay with it; all my friends know so I don’t feel the need to tell everyone I meet bc it’s not the focal point of my life. Yet, I also understand that being in a straight relationship makes my experience “easier” than other gay people who do not have an “option”. But, that’s not why I’m with a straight man, it just happened so idk why I also feel the need to not include/impose myself onto the gay community as if I’m not “gay enough”. And the gay friends I have don’t care I’m in a straight relationship so why do I think the community does? Like it’ll discount my personal experience or something. It’s a internal challenge for sure.

[@haleyandrews74]

i loved the section where mattea talked about not wanting to label herself in case people attack her for changing it. i think a lot of women get confused about their sexuality and "go back to straight" like this actually happens a lot not just bi women dating men like literally mistaking their sexuality and i think a lot of gay women are messed up from it. i have empathy for women that dont get believed that theyre gay/attracted to women, but you have to remember that this confusion does actually happen a lot and straight women take advantage of gay women *all* the time. female sexuality is physically so elusive so its important to be compassionate with eachother. if theyve been burned so many times it makes sense they have their guard up 🧡

[@alyeanna]

You girls are making literally the best podcast like of all time. This is a fact, I absolutely adore everything!!!

[@187942]

Also worth noting that I was engaged to a man at 27 years old and he left me because I slept with my best girl friend. Realizing I’m gay. You’re not alone Alayna ♥️ you actually really helped me through all of this

[@187942]

And when I told someone I went to high school about it, she told me she thought I was gay for the past 10 years and was like “why were you with him?” 😂

[@gryranfelt5473]

Ashley, I am continuously inspired by you. I’m so happy I somehow found your podcast a year ago. It’s been a tough one, and your content has been a great gift. I’m the one (or one of the people, if there were more) who asked about your transition from programming to stand-up. Thank you for getting into it, even though you seemed a bit uncomfortable with it, and thank you to Alayna for all of the well-phrased questions. (Alayna, you have a magical gift for making people open up). Ashley’s story helped me feel better about a lot of stuff. Especially what she said about not letting yourself be your full/real self. I’ve spent the past 8 years getting a Master’s degree in biotech (chronic pain prolonged the process sooooo much) and even though I’m so proud of the achievement and also incredibly interested in the field, I’m also a bit frustrated with myself for going the safe route and trying to mould my creative side into something that fit within society's accepted boxes. I’ve written books since I was 6 and have worked hard to get published since I was 16 - yet to no avail. And it’s tough. Sometimes it feels like an impossible battle, and I honestly must be a bit insane at this point to keep going (I'm 28). I’m a bit angry sometimes that I went the safe route and took a scientific degree instead of just jumping into the deep end and figuring things out. But then, you do need bread on the table. Maybe this WAS the right choice. Maybe I'll have some important experiences as a biotech engineer that will really help my creativity. I’ll never know. All I can do is move forward. What I DO know is that listening to you talk about how you were 26 and made the leap and how you tried out different things and struggled with being bad at it - it’s so inspiring, and it really makes me want to keep having a go at the things I’m bad at (or too afraid to throw myself into). Gotta keep believing! I mean, really, we’re on this earth for decades. 26 is not old. Neither is 30. We should spend the time doing what we're gifted at. And it’s never too late to get started (or for the fruits of years’ of labor to finally drop).

[@eclecticphyllis8326]

Ashley, I nursed my children until 3. Most cultures breastfeed until much later than the USA. My children are 22 months apart and they nurses for months together.

[@bakicci]

after hearing so much about Mattea, glad to know shes exactly as fun as they say 👌👌

[@jessjrz]

The fact that Alayna just to start her videos talking about her journey of figuring out her sexuality and then Matt just being so clueless about it 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@CrazyHawk2]

I love how respectful you all are

[@jasjas4356]

Mak acting out being an agent is so goooood 😂😂😂

[@mariaceciliacc]

I love how ashley and alayna embrace gen z are kind and understanding this cycle of criticism and Hati g new generations ends with us.

[@jayrpep2524]

Miles McKenna needs to be a guest on here, the energy and variety of experience would be iconic

[@allyson--]

!!!!

[@kaiya33123]

YAY😍😍😍😍😍 THE WHOLE FAMILY!!! I'm sending so much love around each one of you! And Thank You! Thank you! Thank you! Thank you! For always making me smile (especially during difficult times) for being your authentic selves and being vulnerable❤❤❤💞💞💞 I love you all🥰

[@nehabharali3711]

When Mattea is around ..she would definitely manages to bring laughter on our faces 🌻

[@emmanuelleschultze6095]

This has to be one of my favourite episodes so far. I died from laughter. I love the dynamic with the trio and Mattea.

[@mariannetfinches]

I'm dying laughing! So much riffing in this one. I fully believed Alayna about the banana request. Can't wait to look up the (n Mak's ASMR voice) *Grape Content*

[@queenofthenite]

when mak mentioned the hate jojo gets like i 100% agree!!!

[@krewland7041]

Having a gay family here make me happy even tho i can't understand some word your saying and English in not my first language but im still smiling thank you for this podcast.

[@brak1615]

You have gay family all over the world I hope you know. ❤❤

[@krewland7041]

@@brak1615 now i know thank you.

[@katelynjessie2789]

Mak talking about a house in the woods is the most lesbian thing 😂❤

[@dsalazarm]

im so happy to hear your voices right now

[@anastasiamiroshnikova1007]

Oh my, it's a great episode! "Baby Gay Ticktoker meets The Gang", it was so sweet, I loved it! There were episodes when your connection felt not that natural, but the more videos you make, the better is the chemistry between you all. Thank you for everything you do!

[@Probablycryingrn]

“If you breast feed your kid too long their gay” 😂😂😂

[@mjp2palmtree]

The part where Ashley talks about repressing herself as an artist is so relatable!!!!

[@AwPheebs]

Gay doc here - there is also often higher instances of BV with those who both have vulvas because they can be passing back and forth even with treatment

[@nathanmoranx2105]

It's a week since last Wednesday and I am awake and caffeinated excited for today's episode coming out in 5 minutes. 😁

[@MossyBear]

Mattea brought an amazing level of chaos that I was ill prepared for

[@traciek3179]

I think it’s way smarter for kids and young adults to not label themselves prematurely like Mattea was going for. There’s too much stress and pressure in terms of potentially “changing”, be it online or real life. Give them (or yourself) time, they’ll figure it out.

[@kelseymclin4003]

Just putting it out there that breastfeeding at 18 months is so normal! In the US, it's a lot of times not even an option, but in most countries nursing is normal for several years. My fifth baby (yes, five 🤣) is still nursing, and she will be two in April! I love the bonding, and if she ends up gay I'll just consider it another perk. 🤣🤪

[@emypanther]

😊 the breastfeeding comment shocked me! I bf my 1st till 2 when he self weaned as I was pregnant with no.2 who is still feeding at 20months. Research & history suggests age 5 was a normal age to stop bf. And I want to say well done to mummy Ingemi for tandem feeding 🥳 that s**t is celebration worthy!

[@emilybuhl5533]

Half way in and sooo glad Mattea has joined us for the episode. 💕💕

[@theblackbird_]

As a bisexual woman, I completely understand where mattea is coming from

[@sarahhutchinson229]

Thank you Ashley for sharing a bit about your transition from CS to comedy. I recently realized that I'm gay and I'm trying to switch careers from software to art. I totally relate to feeling like you've just been neglecting your true self. It sucks knowing you dedicated so much time to something you know isn't right for you. I'm still working through things, but I'm taking steps to get to where I want to be. It's worth it!

[@julis.6667]

Person: Ashley needs to change! Ashley: changes shirt

[@teaguebean]

just fyi, THIS PODCAST is why i got tickets to see Ashley's show

[@elisagrech]

Bro I literally thought about chosen family and was like "lemme check if they posted their video yet" and it said "posted 2 seconds ago" !!

[@TeriAZen]

Mak! Such a Knight in Shining Armor!!! Way to speak out! I'm the same way. I was the only kid in high school when everybody was chanting fight, fight, fight, who would speak up and say hey I think they deserve the right to know, then it was crickets... because as soon as they talked about it, there was no longer aggression. People we speak up for and advocate for remember us for that. I do want to mention one other thing which I learned through the wisdom of experience. I had a Foster child when I lived in Las Vegas around 2008 to 2011. My child was a trans boy. We had talks about bullies a lot. I said the sad thing is with his stories from school is that everybody sees bullying and then they turn around and they bully the bulliers. They believe it is not still bullying that way. I told him he was courageous enough and empathetic enough to understand what I meant by this and how to lead by his own example . I told him to reach out to the bullies from a place of love. He asked me how do I do that? I told him, when you see people bullying and ganging up on the bullies (getting mad at them for bullying you), you just stick up for them also, but from that position of love and compassion. I clearly remember the day he ran home from school and told me that it works! I love the memories we were able to share for the short time in one anothers' lives. He ended up making most of his very closest friends by sticking up for those bullies who used to make his life a living hell. They all become best friends and better people because of his example. They started a band and were the most popular kids in their school and they didn't care that they were. He was the coolest kid I've ever known and he taught me more than I believe I taught him. P.S. Love your Granny 'NanaGrams' 💕 (Edit to delete typo fat fingers haha, and P.S.)

[@karisfunkartist]

I also grew up in southern Manitoba, as a Mennonite pastors daughter. I feel Alayna's conversion therapy jokes so much lmao 🤣

[@FuriousDinosaur123]

This episode is Mak & Alayna chaperoning Ashley & Mattea's flirty date 😂😂

[@fxl2304]

Woah woah yeah!!! Yall are so cool, best trio ever I do agree with deleting tik tok though, moto community was so nice and supportive but now they hate on others and others bikes. Everyone thinks they have power because no one can see them behind that screen. Were so addicted to the internet in some bad ways it drives some insane or just become a menace now.

[@JuMixBoox]

I have two siblings that are eighteen months away in age from me in each direction and I wish I was as close to them as you two are.

[@alkadiballoon481]

not Alayna saying marvel underwear and Ashley saying batman💀 I don't know what to believe

[@clau7522]

Petition to have the 3 cameras at the same time because sometimes i feel i miss stuff

[@lisajopegg1685]

It's always best to have the STI/D conversation before you get close to needing that information.

[@chance5073]

Mattea is so naturally funny. This episode was great

[@ihatemickiegee]

this episode was amazing. as usual, many important conversations and ways you all contribute that mean so much. thank you guys 🖤🖤

[@If-loki-was-a-fox]

As someone with a twin sister, it was cool hearing about how close Mak and Mattea are. It reminds me of my twin and I a lot :)

[@kathrynirwin7347]

Same

[@452xi]

Great episode 👏🏼 learnt some good safe sex tips. I was also thinking the whole time due to my autism I wonder when Mattea will notice the hair tie caught in her hair 🤣

[@dougcollins9980]

If only we knew someone who had a catalogue of youtube videos about what its like navigating being bi.

[@docxen]

10:53 "dad" telling a funny story and "mom" staring into her eyes playing with her hair....good to know mom and dad are still in love lol.

[@TheAllieBuba]

That's adorable that you guys fed together. You usually should stop with the milk in any form by 2 but everyone is different. Usually as long as they are off by the time they go to school, it's "normal"

[@HollieAndApollo]

👏👏👏👏👏 thank you!! I’m bi and I just so happen to have married a man and there’s SO many times I wished more people thought like you guys do about it! I hate that my bisexuality doesn’t seem as valid to others just because I fell in love with a man instead of a woman when I’m just as bi today as I was 16 years ago when I met my husband. I just got very lucky that I met a man who is secure enough in himself that I’ve never felt like I needed to hide my sexuality..

[@emerson1998]

Not me heading to my local pharmacy to get a treatment for my newly realised bacterial vaginosis, thanks team

[@LiliaandNova]

I'd love to hear you talk about PrEP too ❤maybe if a guest is familiar with it? And yes to Lorals! Also boric acid suppositories can work great for preventing BV - if you already have it see a healthcare provider. For that or a yeast infection you can generally do virtual care of availabile to you but if you get recurrent uti's it's a good idea to go in to get a urine culture right away so your doctor knows what antibiotic to treat with. You should always feel like you can ask someone you're thinking of getting intimate with when they were last tested, when they last had a new partner / if they have current partners & whether they ask partners about testing / what their safer intimacy practices are - if you aren't ready yet it might be a good idea to spend more time getting comfy with each other.

[@ellaismydogsname]

Mattea is so nice you should definitely have her on the podcast more I’ve also been waiting for you guys to have mattea on the podcast💗

[@savy70832]

I wanna thank you guys for doing these podcasts and I understand the label dilemma… I had my 1st gf at 13 (I’m 26 now) and when my very Christian family found out and I refused to stop talking to her I got sent to a 6month treatment program when I came back I was too traumatized to admit I still am into women in fact while I identify as bi I lean more on the women spectrum I didn’t feel comfortable publicly admitting that until the last few years. I am married to a man now but unfortunately I didn’t realize his “idea” of having a bi woman as a wife was only exciting cuz he wanted 3somes ( which I’m 100% against) I was unaware until after marrying him which makes for a very uncomfortable marriage having a narcissistic ass tell you that they understand your bi but at the same time accuse you of cheating or talking to other women or men isolate you and get mad when you post things for pride because your supposed to be married to a man… mind you I’m glossing over a lot here but my journey to FINALLY accepting the full extent of my sexuality has been well just that … a journey… this podcast has gotten me through a lot this month since I found it… mentally that is and I just want to say you guys are awesome for making these it really is helping people even if only to feel understood or even for a laugh sometimes that is what gets someone to the next day. I don’t know if you guys will read this but either way I thought it couldn’t hurt to let you know that you are reaching the hearts and souls of people that what you guys are doing matters so thank you ❤️

[@Mariethechaotic]

I've been listening for 25 minutes and I can't stop laughing.

[@omextracts]

A year and a half is definitely not too long to breastfeed! Most of the world does breastfeeding for way longer than American moms, and its shown to boost brain development the longer breastfeeding continues. Let the milk flow mamas!