The real cause of divorce: Women fall out of love. Academics have got it all wrong.

The conventional belief is that divorce is most often caused by infidelity and abuse. If we look closely at the scientific data surrounding divorce we will see that that claim is false. Infidelity and abuse are fairly far down the list of reasons. The number 1 reason for divorce is "a lack of commitment" and that happens when a woman falls out of love.
Also, traditional psychology refuses to recognize brain differences between men and woman. Traditional psychology claims that communication is the most important variable in relationships. a result you rarely get good relationship advice from academia.
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[@devilsadvocacy]

I concur partially. Women do divorce because they fall out of love, but they also divorce for money. If you were to take away the financial incentives for divorcing, the divorce rate would drop precipitously

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

You are absolutely correct, devils. I did not cover this fact in this video, but hypergamy and financial incentives are part of what drive female interest level down. Our women are taught (in college and via media influence) to not respect the importance of male role models (as fathers and husband). This effect has a downward influence on love. But this fact illustrates the need for men to have a system that keeps interest level high.

[@stankbox]

​@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoachnot your girl, it is just your turn anyway.

[@sumdude4281]

Women are loyal to feelings, which are fickle, men are loyal to people and ideals.

[@Nikkiijean]

You’re the reason for divorce 😂

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Absolutely correct, sumdude. For example, with women, agreements are contingent upon how they feel when they made that agreement. If a woman was in love and made an agreement and then falls out of love then she will believe that the original agreement in no longer valid. I know, that seems crazy to us men, who believe that an agreement holds regardless of feelings. But that is why it is critical to keep a woman in love.

[@mpclepto182]

Last I checked, "Till death do us part" meant that even when I'm being unattractive, she signed up to stay with me. Women don't "fall out of love", women CHOOSE to no longer be in love. Love is an action, not a feeling and thinking otherwise is not a masculine way of thinking.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

mpcl: Thank you for your post. I agree that women today do not take their wedding vows seriously enough. For women, agreements are tied to their emotional states at the time of the agreement. So for example, a woman will think "at the time I agreed to marry you, I was in love. But since I am no longer in love, that agreement does not hold." That idea seems crazy for men, but it is true. The only thing that men can do is ensure that their wives stay in love. That is why more than 50% of my program is designed for this purpose.

[@mpclepto182]

@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach Either you still don't get what I said or we're disagreeing about the meaning of words and it is leading to confusion in communication. Love is an action, a choice. It is not a feeling. There is nothing you, as a man, can do to "ensure your wife stays in love". Just like there's nothing you can do to ensure she does 20 pushups every day. If she stops at 18, she stops at 18, you don't get to do the other 2 for her no matter how much you try. What I believe you're trying to say is that you are teaching men to do their best to ensure that they are as lovable as possible. In other words, men can make loving them easier. Like stringing up rubber bands to help her do her pushups easier. We still can't force her to do 20, but we can make 20 feel like 10. There's NOTHING a man can do to ensure that his women keeps loving him, this is as much to chance as anything in life - there is no insurance in love. In fact, there's no assurances in life. We all take a risk when we love a woman that she'll choose to keep loving us even when she doesn't "feel" like it, but sometimes they didn't actually mean it when they said their vows and sometimes there's no way to screen for that but to try. You do your best to find a good woman, but only time will tell. If she leaves, she leaves, the best we can do is move on. The great thing about being a guy is we don't have a biological clock, women do. Men generally gain sexual value as we age, women loose it. That understanding in and of itself should be what makes a woman stay with her man, but many have deluded themselves into believing their "worth" is measured by what they measure men by...it is not. Men, be as easy to love as possible and if your current lady still leaves, there will be another (even better) one waiting right around the corner. Because the big secret for men's value to women is being easy to love. There's no higher value as a man than that, because if you can overcome yourself enough to be easy to love, then you've already conquered the world. (Because nothing in life is more challenging than overcoming yourself) Carry on with your work, I think it's coming from a genuine place, I just think we're having a disagreement in the semantics of word choice...not in meaning. So I offer this knowledge to you that you may use it freely in your business helping other men, because God knows we all need it and God bless you for trying man.

[@mpclepto182]

@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach Also when you said, "So for example, a woman will think "at the time I agreed to marry you, I was in love. But since I am no longer in love, that agreement does not hold." That idea seems crazy for men, but it is true." Absolute and total agreement from me. This is how I know we're on the same page, we're just discussing particular words you used one time and I do believe mine are more effectual towards conveying your meaning. But you know exactly what you both mean and have said, compare for yourself what is best. I am glad you're out here helping men!

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

@@mpclepto182 Thank you for your kind words, mpcl!

[@antilaw9911]

100% spot on 👍

[@seth101-hv4st]

After being with several men, women lose the ability to pair bond for the long term.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Correct, Seth. That is why we sift and screen women heavily. That is also a reason why body count matters.

[@ReyesRP]

Love is a choice not an emotion. If you aren’t willing to choose your spouse every day then don’t get married.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi Reyes. You are correct. However women are not built that way. See my comment above to sumdude.

[@lincmitch]

@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach as women are not built that way, society is crumbling into chaos. This is why men need to lead again, rationally logically and without the effluence of emotions that are impermanent. Men seek Truth and women are deluded more easily by feelings of greed and hatred.

[@diggernash1]

If you marry for love alone, you married for the wrong reason. Period.

[@AnthonyManzio]

100%. His book is useless

[@AaronWells-e7d]

​@@AnthonyManzio Says the person who did not even read the book.

[@AnthonyManzio]

@@AaronWells-e7d You do not need to read the book everything on the book is all given out on youtube stop spending your money on garbage

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi Anthony. It is true that if you watch all of my 60 plus videos you can get about 80% of my program. However the book has everything tightly organized so that it is much easier to incorporate my material into your lifestyle. Plus...the book is only 13 bucks. Honestly, I don't care about the money. What I care about is getting men to have successful dating lives. To find those rare high quality women that you can make a life with. Then my goal is for you to grow a healthy and rewarding family. For those guys who don't want to get married, I still want you to have fulfilling relationships. Male/female relationships are in the worst state of affairs in human history. If I can put a dent in that, I will be happy.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi digger. That is true, marriage is also a business contract. Also, studies have sow that what men value most in a relationship is respect. For women it is love. If you keep a woman in love you will get your needs met.

[@SuperQdaddy]

Its a use and disguard society...disgraceful

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Unfortunately you are correct, SuperQ. That is why men need a serious and hard core program for managing relationships. We may call it "The Game" but it is really very serious, and the stakes are high.

[@ablejohnson]

Marriage is the leading cause of divorce

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi able, I can't argue with that, LOL.

[@domovoi_0]

Good stuff brother. Love and blessings!

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Thank you very much for your kind words, domovoi!

[@michaeld4566]

Excellent content.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Thank you very much for your kind words, Michael!

[@defenderoftheuniverse]

Dude looks like a cast member off of The Sopranos.

[@moosehead482]

Uncle Vinnie...

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

LOL...thank you. I think :)

[@defenderoftheuniverse]

You're a hundred percent right. The effects that happen years after she falls out of love is just the reason for divorce. Men will stay in a loveless relationship for a long time, but eventually, they blow their top, usually in another woman.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi defender. Yes, women fall out of love gradually and over a long time. The key is to recognize and monitor this fall and then do the things needed to reverse it. Many of my videos are on this topic.

[@green_re4per_942]

How can i get ahold of you ?

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi green: Any simple questions can be posted in the comment section. However if you would like some very in-depth coaching tailored specifically for you (I see that you are a young man) please email me at [e-mail] . From there I will be happy to exchange phone numbers.

[@ky7299]

Why should I have to jump through hoops to keep a woman "in love with me" and she doesn't need to do anything? This is sexist and if that's the case then I'd rather be single.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

i agree, what more can i do for you my princess???

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Unfortunately, ky, that is the reality. However keeping a woman in love is actually easier than you might think if you know what you are doing. You only have to do small acts to drive interest level up, and then you have a woman who loves you and makes your life awesome...my wife cooks, cleans, pays bills, and gives me intimacy. Here is what you have to do: A little housework. My wife spends hours cooking, and I spend 15 minutes doing dishes. Give her a little affection on Tuesday...just some kissing and hugging. On Wednesday listen to her talk about "her day." Give her a date nigh twice a month. Do things right and date nights ALWAY end in great sex. Here is a video on the topic: studio.kzbin.info_ZPcvsnUNhI/edit

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

@@DanHoller-eb6xt Hi Dan. It's easy to keep a woman in love, check out my response to ky. Here is the video I made on this topic: studio.kzbin.info_ZPcvsnUNhI/edit

[@ky7299]

@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach This is pretty basic stuff and you shouldn't have to tell anybody to do that. The way you said it it sounded much more complicated and demanding.

[@DanHoller-eb6xt]

easier said than done. i feel that my wife owes me the responsibility of being an adult and express what is troubling her. i can’t move an immovable object! as b much as i wanted to resolve whatever it is that is troubling her, i’m powerless if i don’t know. as far as i’m concerned, i constructed & she destructed… i have no other option but to move on without her. it’s painful but i must.

[@udou365]

The lack of commitment from a man starts when the lack of physical Contact with the wife stops. Stop rejecting Him

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi udou: I have a video on this topic. I always tell guys "sex of Saturday starts earlier in the week." For example, Tuesday I will do some dishes. Then Wednesday I will have a mini make out session with the wife. Just kissing and fondling, but no demands for sex. Thursday we hold hands. Then Saturday, sex happens for sure. Of course I am much older (62). For you younger guys you are probably going to want to have sex more than just once a week, but the principles are the same. Giving a woman a little foreplay, affection, and housework on the regular means frequent sex.

[@lincmitch]

I think 1st comes respect. A woman cannot love a man she doesn’t respect. Women don’t need men these days, so respect him only if he has the ability to provide and protect more than she can now by herself and with a government that support women more than men. I think the only angle is to cultivate the respect like that for a loving father, a wise servant leader. Men love, women love who they respect. At least that’s what I have worked out after 35yrs of marriage.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi linc, thank you for your wise response. It is true, women seek love, men seek respect. As a man who has been married for 35 years, your contributions are highly valued. So many men have given up on marriage so it is good to have role models like you here to advise them.

[@MayorOfBodybuildingTV]

Never sign a state contact men.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi mayor, fellow bodybuilder. You bring up a good point that requires a long and complex answer. The short version is you have to put a woman through a thousand checks and balances before you enter a contract.

[@AfterLife-t8c]

Just stay away from them and enjoy your life.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Correct, After. Only about 1 in 4 women are marriage material. That is why we must use a serious selection system to find high quality women.

[@CalvinMorris-cf8jk]

my wife got a new pair of twins and ran off with Big Tyrone before I even got a chance to play with them. life is hard.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

I am sorry to hear that. I had a bad first marriage myself. That is what motivated me to design my program. The good news is that you can now start dating again, this time sifting and screening women carefully in order to find one that is high quality. Get out there and start hustling for phone numbers. Build a 3 woman dating rotation.Please take a look at my videos on these topics.

[@bdennisv]

I hope someone is teaching a woman to stay in love, lol There is endless - man, man, man as man at fault by default in everything. I’m recovering from my second divorce (1st was 5 years and the second 10 years), and I just now realized that unless women bringing warmth, love and joy to my life - this relationship is nonsense!

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Excellent point, bdennsiv. Todays Western world is MASSIVELY biased against men. It starts with college (I taught for years). Women come in, naturally good wanting to be wives and mothers. 4 years later they are taught to hate men and our modern society reinforces that hate. That is why only about 1 out of 4 women (at best) are relationship material from the get go. 50% of my program is designed to systematically screen out these undesirable women and find a good one. But good ones (like my wife) ARE out there. You must sift and screen, then sift and screen some more. Below I will post one of my many videos on this topic. The second half of my programs is designed to KEEP a woman in love with you. That requires small but important things you must do on a daily basis. That is a complex topic, but below I will post a video about how women keep score in a relationship. kzbin.info/www/bejne/g6G2g6Sih65gb68 kzbin.info/www/bejne/lYuzlKmpo7qBnqs

[@JohnSmith-ij4xe]

Well most people marry too fast or for the wrong reasons and another is because they ignore the signs and red flags and marry anyway. If you ever seen a woman in love she’s like glue and won’t leave you alone. Even when you ask for space she thinks it’s something she did wrong but it’s not as two people need there space even in a relationship. You have to let her know it has nothing to do with her and that your feelings didn’t change and you still feel strongly about her. Space helps relationships even though she can’t see it BUT she can feel it. You still need to be yourself in the relationship and do things with friends or alone if that’s the type of guy you are. If she’s in love she won’t leave but if she just loves you or completely only sees you as a friend she will OR stay until she finds your replacement. Women are only loyal to how they feel and yes that goes for even the healthiest woman but they are more likely to be honest and direct since they know they are not happy with the relationship but if the guys ears are closed he won’t even hear it that’s she’s unhappy and before you know it she’s gone/ filed on you. Even if you know what keeps her in love you will get stuck in your ways and hopefully you realize it before she’s completely out of love.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi John. You make some great points, thank your for your contribution to the discussion, especially this: Women in love are like glue. When in love don't want "space" or anything but to be with their man.

[@kellykinion5033]

Give up yourself for her focus on her is what she wants

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi Kelly. You don't have to necessarily give up yourself, you just need to understand how the female brains works. The female brain is process oriented, that male brain is problem-solution oriented. A man needs to facilitate high interest in the process oriented (female) brain.

[@kellykinion5033]

@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach I don't need to do anything,I have a few years on you, Females are going in the wrong direction.Maybe they could learn about men and stop blaming them for their unhappyness

[@timothypeterson9045]

you might work on presentation

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

I am trying, Timothy.

[@atheplummer]

I disagree... It's not 'love'... At least not in the sense that a man understands love. Wanna keep your woman addicted long term? Never let her get bored, or never let her come to the conclusion that YOU are the source of HER boredom feelings.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi atthe: Good point, I just did a video about this topic (challenge): kzbin.info/www/bejne/hYSle3-Qlpl_ZqM Challenge keeps a woman in love.

[@atheplummer]

@@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach There is another factor involved in why women divorce. I think of divorce, a lot of the time, as a contagious disease. If your woman has other divorced or divorcing women in her social circle, you can bet that you are at a very high risk of that same fate, as she gets 'poisoned' by the disease of imagining that the grass is greener on the other side of the fence.

[@andre1987eph]

The main reason for divorce is the massive transfer of wealth and property to the female that occurs in family court. To make a video suggesting anything else is malpractice.

[@Dr.SeanReed-DatingCoach]

Hi andre. I am a PhD, not a real MD so not subject to malpractice, LOL. However you bring up a good point. You are correct that the financial reward is a huge problem. Here is how that works: A woman's interest level (IL) drops down. 100 a woman is madly in love with you but when it drops below 50 she is out of there. Let's say a woman's IL is down in the mid 50's. She is angry, unpleasant and argumentative. At that point, yes, the financial factor can come into play and she will divorce a man she otherwise would have stayed with. Without the financial incentive the relationship may have been salvageable. Also...I think that the mere specter of financial incentive creates an environment that has a downward push effect on women's attitudes/IL upon men. The bottom line is a woman's IL. If it is up at 90 she won't leave for all the money in the world. But yes it is most certainly a huge problem.