The REAL Reason Narcissists Won't Admit They're WRONG

[@aknightofcamelot]

It's a nice way of saying "They are possessed by demons and will destroy you and your soul unless you escape." It's pride, pure and simple.

[@vampireslayer1989]

Exactamundo!

[@IzabelaWaniek-i1x]

Spot on. In order to escape shame narcisists behave shamelessly. Their life is full of contradictions .

[@ebony41441]

They lie even when they don’t have to.

[@nielsw2263]

I often thought about the same and I think it's because they think you would judge them on whatever they are lying about.

[@ebony41441]

@@nielsw2263 Mom would lie about what she had for lunch. They feel superior when they lie to you as they feel they have one up on you.

[@juliatoebel8515]

I dont understand that one has to lie at all

[@kokoBuSiLiCa]

This video explains 33 years of me living with my mother, I'll turn 34 this month.They are the biggest saints in existence and they NEVER done anything wrong to anybody. Amazing people they are

[@spaceswan2605]

Leave, and never look back. You'll never regret it.

[@daft4682]

Same. Welcome to the party. 😁

[@Private_Pookie]

While simultaneously doing plenty wrong to plenty people

[@bereal6590]

Yes, my mother is perfect! In her own mind. Set me up as a doormat for others, capitulating all the time and having to be what she wanted. I ended up in so many bad relationships because I didn't have a clue, she taught me nothing about life and simultaneously was punishing with her coldness.

[@kokoBuSiLiCa]

@@spaceswan2605 cannot leave dude, she is 83 years old and I am an only child, adopted. Cannot leave, I'll eat myself up for my whole life. The abuse does not get to me these recent years, I laugh at it. Sometimes rarely it does, but I can remind myself what I'm dealing with and laugh again

[@seameology]

If they don't like shame, stop doing so many shameful things!

[@gabrielamartiniuc6322]

Exactly!!!!!

[@SuzanneLegendre]

My narc will only say ‘My bad!’ and NEVER ‘I made a mistake’ or ‘I’m sorry!’

[@Suzu52]

My future ex has found a way to never be wrong...he now just says " I thought i was doing the 'right thing' " fyi - it is 99% never the" right thibg" to a logical person. Exhausting people.

[@GoogleUser-pc6tu]

Yes! My ex always said they think logically and not emotionally 🤮🙄🙄🙄

[@daft4682]

This is any time you attempt to communicate literally anything to them. If you're sharing a thought, you're telling them they didn't already know the idea, and that's going to be a problem.

[@charitygoldart]

So true. Even a well-meaning suggestion is meant with hostility, as they view it as a criticism that they hadn't thought of it first.

[@JefferyProxmire]

Lived with one for 42 years and now I'm free waited for my kids to move out I'm so happy now glad to be away from her

[@leonasweny1525]

Yep living with him for 40year ,last child leaving the nest soon and I’m making him sell the house and I’m outa dodge . Love from Ireland ❤❤❤

[@July41776DedicatedtoTheProposi]

The refrigerator example is exactly, exactly, what my narcissistic brother did often. The rest of this presentation is dead to rights correct. And you said it all much better than I ever could.

[@tiatorus]

Thank you for this video. This has been something I never ever understood. Not just for the small things but for the huge things like cheating or huge lies . I never understood it. Not even a TINY APOLOGY

[@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers]

6:51 Someone adorable is photo-bombing your excellent video! 💜

[@studentofyahawashi9341]

Absolutely! I think you hit the nail on the head. Not until I completely discarded the narcissist did she somewhat attempt to want counseling saying “well if there is something I’m doing, which I doubt, I will see what it is and change it”. I told her I’m done please leave, and went no contact! Counseling would not work for these type individuals.

[@leonasweny1525]

Well done you

[@jennifersmallwood]

Great input! Topic: Blame shifting, lying, behaving like a child who refuses to stand up for their mistakes and take responsibility for their wrong doing. As you said, this makes everything worse. A simple: "Oh, sorry, my mistake" would have solved the issue in seconds. But oh no, narcissists are not simple. They are drama makers. For my mother, everythings is a drama, and if its just parking the car outside the house at just the right spot I have chosen. Hence I prefer to keep my distance now. Sucks out too much energy. Nowadays, her dramas and lack of proper research or knowledge of things simply cause me a smile. Nothing more.

[@OliverRockstedt]

Christina, I really appreciate the work you are doing! I lean towards an anxious attachment style and ended up in a relationship with someone who turned out to be highly narcissistic. I „invested“ much in this relationship but luckily I realized soon, that there is something off and after I saw a couple of your videos it all made sense and I recognized the patterns. I loved her very much but found the strength to finish the relationship after four month before the beginning abuse could really get to me. I feel depleted, sad, alone and helpless but knowing I did the right thing. You helped me sustaining my mental health and probably a lot of my lifetime and money. Now I have an idea how much other people suffer from those toxic relationships and how difficult it can be to break free, being in love and hoping so much that things get better. So thank you a million time and consider yourself hugged!!!

[@kathleenherron594]

My Mom and sister are both narcissists. They both make a lot of mistakes, and they deny everything. Now that Mom is sick, my sister isn’t doing what she claims she is. When I call it out, my Mom gives me silence. She knows I’m right and also needs the help. She can’t admit my sister isn’t doing things, and she isn’t thankful. I need to help my Mom, but I understand that thanks is not why I’m doing this for my Mom.

[@flyingfluffyhockey]

I was told " those conversations never happened" " He is a snake I wanted nothing ever to do with" " I swear on my kids lives that I did not delete any emails" and my favorite " You are making it all up in your head because of your issues"....all the while I had screenshots of the emails from before she deleted them.

[@hannakarpf4955]

Thank you, Christina. Right, they are always above any reproach - as if they are always right - we only need to remember the "as if" - which is heard in your tone of voice! Thanks again,

[@BigPete44]

Happy New Year Christina!! ♥️🙏

[@CommonEgo]

Happy new year!! ♥️🙏

[@palouuk]

I can get my narc of a brother to admit he's wrong but only in a way the tugs at my heart strings so much that I feel guilty for getting him to admit the truth.

[@mdldle6348]

Thank you Christina! You, Kris Reece, Une Psy a la maison and others whom I watch since many years, you have all deepened the subject and developed it - please continue, this is so welcoming. I see that @aknightofcamelot says is in our Christian way, "They are possessed by demons and will destroy you and your soul unless you escape.", absolutely true. Now Christina you have come to the end of our attitude - compassion, but from distance. I liked your example of food being stored in wrong place - it is so VIVID, who would not admit such a small thing or distort it.... And your comparison to space suit is so speaking. The bottom line is that they have chosen this. As you say in the end of video - for us, it is better to say less. Thank you Christina and may God continue to bless you and all of the community! 🙂

[@AmateurCaptain]

It’s scary how many parallels I’m seeing in this video compared to my ex. 8 years and an engagement for 6 months, and she suddenly dropped me and blamed it all on me. All the while she started immediately dating a new guy while still living with me.

[@nielsw2263]

Thanks Christina for all your video's, you really helped me understanding the relationship (close friendship with feelings) I had with someone in my life, I've seen so many traits and behaviours you have described in your video's. She is one of quite a couple I've had in the past. I also like that you remind us that these people also struggle with themselves and life which inspired me to keep some sympathy for the one in my life instead of staying angry and keep on trying to get to the truth. A couple of weeks ago she frantically tried to spin something she obviously did wrong. I thought about your words and I just know her attitude and behaviour will lead to her having a taste of her own medicine. Anyway, I took a breath, gave a kiss on her head and responded: "You know babe, you be honest to yourself first, ok?" And then I walked away.

[@meabeck]

Simple problems work for them to cause stress for you. They create issues when you're managing well. It's confusing and zaps your energy and focus. Their goal is chaos for their ultimate control. They want power over all.

[@F00tsie]

I have a mom who is a narcissist. I was never able to completely cut her out of my life out of fear of what she would do, but I didn't *completely* comply with everything she wanted. A couple of years ago now when my life started to get better, she stopped calling me completely. I get this odd feeling that I am being framed as the abuser. I know it might sound crazy, but I feel hurt.

[@charitygoldart]

I don't think that's an odd feeling at all, I think it's that you know her very well so you can predict it. It sounds very legit to me as something a narcissist would do. They often play the victim; it's part of the covert or vulnerable narcissist type.

[@F00tsie]

@@charitygoldart thank you

[@dinab7852]

I always look forward to your next video 🙏🏻 ❤.

[@jasongrice5465]

@4.48 finally saw your cat ❤

[@lifetimeactor6789]

They'll never admit it, but do they still know they are wrong? At least sometimes? Or is their denial of reality too strong for that?

[@seameology]

Gaslighting galore.

[@kennethlapointesongwriter3330]

Like if you ask a three year old whether they ate the last cookie (after being told not to)...and all the stories, excuses, explanations, they can think of to get out of admitting it. Funny when it's a child, pathetic for an adult. I remember arguing with a narc about how to fix a certain machine...and everything I suggested she squashed with 'I know a lot about this kind of machine, been working on them for years". YET the FACT was this machine that had been under her jurisdiction hadn't worked right in six months! Blind as a bat to actual facts. Narcs are so stupid.

[@stevehalt7916]

The cat made it to the windowsill.

[@debbiegalica2992]

Sounds like my son.

[@anthonydileonardo8156]

I could tell you stories of narc abuse that would take days, even weeks and leave your hair standing on end, even at that length

[@alecstuart5266]

That's true narcos have demonstrated all of them.

[@kat-75]

IDC because my Lord knows they were wrong all of my life pretty much. Just being on my phone at all; WAS WRONG. My LORD will get vengeance for me and all of mine. I believe and will always believe they were the same adults of my childhood >> abusers where the teacher was murdered and they lost the greatest reward my Lord offered to them by being haters and abusers of my life and times, monetary, kids, etc..when GOd gets vengeance he is perfect and they are wrong because everyone makes mistakes, those that never learn from them are those that fail forever.

[@DianneBergVonLindhe]

This could also be true for neuro divergent personalities ..

[@CommonEgo]

That they won't admit to being wrong? I think some of the reasons may be different ♥️🙏

[@AbiBrown-q9k]

well said, but I could not help paying attention to your orange cat, very cute

[@allieeverett9017]

That tail swishing from underneath the curtain 🙃

[@Moretosh]

Focus on healing our own narcissism first😊

[@fairygurl9269]

🖖😺💞