this video made my day😄 thanks for sharing!

Holidays are extremely difficult when you want to lock yourself away, but don't want to miss talking with siblings, whom you rarely speak to....

This popped up on my feed after trying to understand this dilemma within myself for the past days,and you honestly put everything into words so beautifully it made me better understand what's going on.The insight you gave is very simple yet creative and powerful too.Thank you Loved the video,new subscriber!

7:16 self trust is hard to cultivate but a gem once achieved

I hate that I get so quite and jealous when my boyfriend talks to other girls.. They're laughing? It hits me hard.. Lets stop it

I needed this so much right now. I'm feeling anxious all day long because of my fears and jealousy but have no one to open up. Your words triggered so much in me and I think this is a sign to try everything you said. Thank you for your lovely but realistic words! ❤

If our self worth is not tied to our body or any external factors , what it should be tied to then ?

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I love this ❤you really good thank you helps a lot

Watching this trying to figure women out

I agree it really takes committing to this journey of healing to shift! 🤍

Sexy as hell but great advice

What do doing things for yourself or promises to yourself matter when you feel no self-worth? You already believe you're not worth investing in. And even if I forced myself to do something as relatively inconsequential as a skincare routine before bed, I'd find myself asking, "this is all I'm worth?" Further, I've been out of my comfort zone hundreds of times; either by accident or by design. It's mostly led to failure and rejection. Even out of what I've achieved--a university degree in the elite profession of my choice, awards, work on publicly known projects, travelling the world, mostly solo--none of it has given me a sense of self-worth. I don't even believe I really made any valuable contribution to those achievements--success (which often wasn't in the form I originally planned) came down to other people's input, luck in terms of happenstance, and luck in that I didn't get caught out as the worthless fraud I am. You do talk about the steps necessary to reach the point where one can start building self-worth. But, you never actually give any practical instructions on how to build self-worth. People keep saying external feedback doesn't matter to your self-worth. I think that's a dangerous lie. When you've spent the better part of four decades living, challenging, getting up and trying again, trying something else, meeting people, being rejected, meeting more people, being forgotten, meeting more people, being ghosted, meeting more people, being ignored, and on and on and on, you really have to wonder, as you're staring at age 50 coming at you and you're still alone, what's the point of me?

Really good video, thank you ❤

Stop my name is Dia too it’s so cool so see a name twin! Subscribed!!😂

Without self worth, it’s easy to feel lost, constantly looking for validation, or bending to fit others' expectations, leaving us feeling drained and disconnected from our true selves.

Thank you so much ❤

To be beautiful means to be yourself. You don’t need to be accepted by others. You need to accept yourself❤

the ending of this video made me sob. i really needed to hear this and i'm just beginning my journey of building up my self-worth. not only for me to function properly and love myself the way i should, but also for my relationship. thank you <3

I love this break down of self-worth and its importance! It’s empowering to think of it as an internal sense of being that’s resilient to external forces. I’ve worked on accepting my flaws, like my own arrogance, and that’s helped me build self-trust through small, achievable goals. Shoutout to Habit10x’s Sense of Humor Improvement Program-sometimes a good laugh really resets things. Keep building that "house" of self-worth, everyone!

This was very helpful. Thank you.

it was soothing listening to this, very helpful

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Dearest Dia...you said something absolutely brilliant... Quiet confidence...is humility. This is just so so beautiful...I just don't know what to say. I love you...Stanley ❤

Sure a great knowledge filled video. Thank you. Keep up the good work

You've probably got a lot to be arrogant about. What if, like me, your flaws are many?

I just wanna say, I am currently working on this aspect of me with a professional communication expert (she is amazing) currently at my 2nd encounter. She is making me work about returning to the present, since I don’t notice how many times I don’t listen because my mind is wandering about my future and the answer I will give. I have a lot of anxiety. I worked with a therapist about it, but now I need to work on my quiet confidence. She is giving me advices like “do your shower every morning start from your feet, trust me, it makes sense” she told me “ don’t talk negatively about you cause for the whole time you just yapped about how you look at everything as a big huge problem, BACK IN YOURSELF, BACK IN THE PRESENT AGAIN “ she is making me work about THE PRESENT MOMENT!

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"All we can do is operate from the latest updated version of ourselves " I love this❤❤ I'm still stuck on the last year version of myself who was hurting, and I made mistakes which I am trying to forgive myself for.

Hello, the video really helped me. Thank you for this. Can you give me the name of the woman from tiktok clip? She seems very smart and I would love to watch all of the interview. Thank you!

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This is one of the most helpful videos ever for me and it's really worth a lot of money

Beautiful! ❤

I watched this special video every time i got jealous of my partner, and this made me calm and released.❤❤ Thank you for sharing your masterpiece advice🫶

I am happy that i found your channel❤

First of all, I loved the video 10/10, you gain a new follower.❤❤ Second, it makes me remember about a situation that happened to me a weeks ago and which still not sure if I'm in the wrong or not. I got out with this boy a few times (only as a friend) and I was comfortable with him but in the last time when he knew I was single, he changed, he make more jokes and was super close to me physically and I started to feel really uncomfortable with him. My actitude to him of course changed, and he told me a few times I can tell him everything but I trully don't feel safe around him anymore and Idk if I'm being cruel for not telling him but I want to trust my instincts, maybe he was just being friendly? Idk I'm still struggling to set boundaries with him because I feel like a bad person.

Great video ❤

Dia this video just popped up on my feed and I am so glad i clicked on it. It made me very emotional as you brought up things i have felt and struggled with in my life. Childhood trauma seems to be the root cause of a lot emotional and psychological issues we face as adults. For me it was strict and abusive parenting and bullying by school mates that triggered my low sense of worth and esteem. I never felt the love, safety and security i needed as a child to be myself and develop a healthy sense of self which i think would have made me more resilient to adversity in life. As a child i was always scared and worried of saying or doing the wrong thing so as not to upset my parents and face their wrath (screaming, verbal and physical abuse). The constant feeling of anxiety, shame and inadequecy followed me everywhere and progressively got worse as i came into adulthood and experienced major adversity in my professional life. I developed poor coping habits and things just snowballed from there. I am on a healing and spiritual journey now, sober, building self-awareness and learning how to be more accepting of my past and of who i am. I still have crippling anxiety but i at least now dont feel the need to seek approval or validation from others. Thank you for your insightful video, it was fantastic.

I feel so scared because I didn’t feel safe, seen understood or truly appreciated by my last partner, so now I know I am just bringing baggage, I want to feel Free again, I want to go out with my partner without feeling that he would prefer to be with anyone else but me… I try to soothe myself thinking that whenever we go out, he already decided that nobody else will make him change his feelings for me, otherwise he would be going out alone, I hope that helps someone 😊 sending a hug to everyone here! Thanks for your video!

Wow thanks so much for this video I really needed it. 💗 one of the ways I’ve been building self trust is follow through. I kept saying I’d create a KZbin channel… for YEARS and I just started posting on it and now I’m creating a schedule to create more. It’s something I do for myself. I found it easy to follow through on other peoples tasks than my own😅that’s changed now 🎉

I love this video so much. It aligns a lot with what I've been studying in my major. I hope this reaches a wider audience ^^. I'd like to just add that past circumstances do matter. It determines the nature and amount of obstacles that we have to overcome to achieve this quiet confidence (based on its quality and quantity, as not all "tough upbringings" look the same and will have different effects. Also these effects interact with so many different factors like genetics and influence from other significant social relations). I also understand how people correlate going through tough situations with building thicker skin and I think there's some truth to it. But it may give adults justification to abuse their kids when that correlation is not so simple. A warm and loving environment can absolutely build that thick skin: e.g., a parent who teaches their child that their worth as a human being is inherent, that it's human nature to make mistakes, and that making mistakes do not affect your worth but that you absolutely still need to fix it to prevent hurting yourself/others. Another example: a parent who teaches their kid how to handle nonconstructive criticism, such as by separating what is shaming (a verbal attack that includes judgement about the person's worth as a whole, e.g., you're a bad person) and what actually informs how to change/improve (a comment about a person's actions/tendencies, e.g., you are often late) and by not taking personally the shaming part (cause it may be reflection of the critic rather than you, they might just be as harsh on themselves or have a very all-or-nothing way of thinking). *It is this skill- and/or perspective-building that forms that thick skin, not the trauma*. I get where you're coming from though, I think you make a great point in suggesting that we can choose to not let trauma break us.

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I'm so tired of hating myself. I don't remember ever loving myself. It's kind of driving me crazy. I feel like hating myself is killing me

Thank you for sharing this ❤

I finally figured it out.. this video helped me so much. I'm honestly annoyed with how underrated it is. But thank you

love this!

excellent video very well presented yestreday i put on red and pink in the morning and last night i found you. i went through all day forgiveness to all those who invalidated me

I needed to hear this.