The Real Reason You’re OVEREATING and how to Stop the Binge (Dietitian’s Honest Advice…)

[@AbbeysKitchen]

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[@elissa3188]

yes- video on perfection

[@gattaccia3533]

Totally yes on perfectionism!

[@yukumccliggason6193]

Can you do a video on autism and eating disorders?

[@Saj348]

@AbbeysKitchen I would LOVE your take on this mindful eating journal 12:26

[@Saj348]

Including space for the stressors to take note of like in 13:00

[@lucilasandoval3084]

Hearing "everyone overeats on occasion, even the most seasoned intuitive eater" made m day. I give myself such a hard time whenever I overeat because it means I've "failed" at intuituve eating.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

it's so hard but we have to be compassionate with ourselves. No one is perfect!

[@chrysalisveganarts]

So an intuitive eater overate intuitively? I think we are cherry-picking on words to justify behaviour. Intuition cannot always be trusted 100%. Nobody is omniscient.

[@annawitter5161]

AS a teen I would binge eat, simply because I was dieting and got so hungry!! My mother kept comparing my weight and figure unfavourably to hers when she was a teen. And she would make nasty remarks if she caught me snacking. We need to be careful what we say to our children.

[@albinabeluli5246]

Word.

[@michellemercado9038]

I would secretly binge eat away from my mother because she was constantly body-checking me and putting me on diets. One time, when I was 17, she talked me out of buying overalls by saying that those were for thin girls and I would look pregnant (I was 150 lbs and 5'4 the biggest have ever been, looking back at pics didn't look big). It's taken me a long time to heal and have a positive relationship with food, but Abbey has been a great help 😊❤

[@PattyWardMI]

I am definitely a binge and restrict eater. I binge on the weekends and then, to recover (aka “punishment”)I’m super restrictive during the workweek. The only positive is that I have managed to maintain my 80 pound weight loss for over a year by doing this. However, every single Sunday night is filled with guilt and regret. I have come so far and I am only 15 pounds from my goal weight, I just can’t seem to get there!! I need to stop this vicious cycle. I know it’s not mentally healthy🙏🏻❤️

[@sandrab6808]

During the pandemic I lost 25 pounds without trying much. I had stopped binge eating. My explanation for this is that I experienced less stress. I was isolating with my family, no more running around, etc. In the past year I have gained all the weight back because of my frequent binge episodes. It's really hard to recover from this. I am very sensitive to all forms of stress and have had many setbacks with this disorder. I've always known that there is something going on in my brain to cause this, but it's only recently that I've started hearing information in this sense. I will consult with mt doctor about trying à médication to help. Thank you ❤

[@Coastpsych_fi99]

I empathise and strongly relate. For me lower stress is critical to losing weight. Minimising stressful jobs, environments and people - alongside noise, drama, having to many commitments (executive functioning demands) and needing enough time for self-care. Has changed how I feel about things.

[@alexandragavrilidis6688]

Great video as always! A spoon (or more) of Nutella from the jar was a routine that started my binges after a long day at work, when I usually came home hungry and exhausted. Now I have fruit with the spoon of Nutella - it stops the rest of the binge happening, I am still satisfied by the Nutella and also I am eating more fruit now than I did before! This is an early step on my journey, I still have a long way to go.

[@brittanygray2742]

This is cool, bc I did this with peanut butter. I do a mix of blended cottage cheese, greek yogurt and peanut butter, and have it with a sliced up apple! So I get my peanut butter fix without going totally over board, and it is so satisfying

[@Avistew]

I stopped buying nutella because I tried having just a spoonfull but it triggers lots of other things to have so little, it brings me zero satisfaction if it's not the whole jar, and then I just feel bad for wasting so many calories on something I didn't even enjoy eating 😅I don't know how to make progress, not having it at home at all is the only thing that's helped, but I want to be able to have some sometimes. So far either I eat tons if I eat any, or if I can't eat tons (someone prepared just one slice of bread with nutella on it or something) I get zero enjoyment for it and get depressed for days or more afterwards. I actually feel worse than after a binge and for longer😅 The last psychiatrist I talked to about it answered "Haha, I like chocolate too" which wasn't helpful at all. I've changed psychiatrists but I worry about talking to this one about it because I can't afford (financially or emotionally) to change shrinks again.

[@tortellini6793]

I had BED and other disordered eating habits for over a decade. It affected every part of my life and had a crippling hold on my life. It wasn't until I saw a therapist that I was able to overcome it and have been binge-free since October 2020. She helped me to develop my intuitive eating and made it safe for me to have zero restrictions with what I eat and not risk bingeing. A huge reason why I binged so much is that I was constantly trying to adhere to a restrictive diet. Any diet that restricted what type of foods or how much I should eat was an enormous trigger. I tried out so many and it wasn't until I allowed myself to not be a slave to MyFitnessPal and eat my meals freely, aiming to be satisfied, that I was able to eat "normally." I still struggle heavily with body image issues, anxiety, etc. but the elimination of BED gave me a new life that I am forever grateful for. Seeking out therapy is hard and terrifying-especially if it is your first time-but it is worth it a million times over.

[@Esthie229]

I'm struggling with this right now. Started working with a personal trainer and she put me on a 1300 calorie diet, I'm allowed to have one cheat day. The first week was fine but last weekend I binged like crazy. She doesn't want me to eat more and I feel like a failure for even asking, I can have 1/2 a banana extra on the days I work out.

[@tortellini6793]

I'm sorry you're struggling with the same situation right now. You are not alone. I cannot recommend therapy enough for helping to overcome this. My suggestion is to do some research on therapists, counselors, and resources in your area. I'd also consider not working with the personal trainer unless they are willing to train you without covering the "nutrition" part. I don't know your body's needs but I don't believe any diet should have "cheat" days because it infers the days surrounding it are restrictive. Good luck to you. You can overcome this too❤ @@Esthie229

[@abbmac1]

I have had BED for over 20 years. Only thing that has ever given me any control over my binging is to eliminate snack foods from my food environment (salt is a particular trigger for me). I have tried everything else multiple times and it has failed. Hyper palatable foods just affect me more than others, they excite my brain in a way I can't control and I'm tired of pretending I can ever eat them in moderation. Losing two decades of my life to them was enough. I'm down 50lbs now! I still enjoy food, but food that nourishes me, not food that gives my brain a dopamine hit.

[@jldgottarun]

This comment helped me so much. I have felt this way for a long time, but all the advice out there has made me feel like I am wrong. Thank you for posting. ❤

[@teaiz94]

I agree with what you have said as someone who struggles with this as well.

[@Joee003]

Thank you for sharing! So many people fall into "intuitive eating" because it's trendy atm but it may not be appropriate for everyone's journey. I am a recovered orthorexic, always had ana tendencies that were closely monitored by my doctor. Some foods severely trigger my restriction. I tried to desensitize myself to them but it made me feel like absolute crap physically and mentally. I decided I can live without store-bought baked goods and sweets. I bake at home and am now able to eat homemade cookies, muffins or cakes without restricting for days to make up for it. I won't ever be able to eat some foods, and that's ok. They aren't that good for me to begin with.

[@teaiz94]

​@Joee003 exactly! As someone who is recovering from BED you have to find out what works best for you. I see a lot of influeners touting intuitive eating as a solution that will work for everyone but it does not and that's okay.

[@jenniferrosenthal7731]

I, and my oldest daughter, have BED. I got to my breaking point last December and went low carb/Keto. Carbs and highly palatable foods are triggers for me- I cannot stop. Removing them all together and focusing on food that feeds me has been fantastic. I am down 67 pounds. I will also say that my current job is much less stressful than my old one and I felt I finally had the mental capacity to focus on better choices for me. My daughter is STRUGGLING. She’s a college student away from home. She has always struggled with anxiety and perfectionism and I suspect ADD. I wish I was closer to help her because I feel like I really understand the ins and outs of why we eat/ate that way.

[@HappyEndings8]

I found out that my BED was triggered by stress and emotions. I cannot stress enough the absolute wonders that setting a time for prayer and church has done for my recovery and my overall mental health👏. Thank you Abbey! This was a great video!

[@maddiepeyton]

Great advice!!❤

[@natashahillman249]

As someone with adhd anxiety and depression this is something I’ve noticed I struggle with and recently it’s gotten so bad I had to call out of work because I felt like I couldn’t move with how bloated I was, thank you, I needed this

[@honeybunchesofchims9124]

Same with all 3!! I find that when I don’t take my meds for ADHD, I tend to binge, even if my stomach hurts. This vid really helped me not feel bad about it🤧

[@fabiele1508]

Every time my meds wear off I struggle not to binge, even if I had enough healthy meals that day

[@Leilani_2024]

Thank you for making this video! People with BED are so often dismissed. Our binges are downplayed because 'everyone overeats from time to time.' I used to eat until my stomach felt like it would explode. Until I couldn't take a full breath. That was self-destructive. Yes, eating can be self-destructive! People don't understand the psychological components that go along with this disorder. It literally controls your life. I was put on my first diet at age 8. I wanted to meet my family's expectations but I was so hungry. I remember sneaking into the kitchen after everyone went to sleep and binging. I felt like a failure. Food was my go-to stress reliever. My best friend & my worst enemy. I contunued to struggled with BED & other disordered eating patterns throughout my teens and 20s. It wasn't until I sought out therapy to deal with my crappy childhood that I was able to overcome this cycle. I learned to identify my triggers & deal with them in non self-destructive ways. I've only binged once this year & after reflecting, I see where I dropped the ball. Recovery is a road, not a destination.

[@bethwilliams8748]

Damn, did I write this in my sleep? Such similar stories, including first diet at 8.

[@nicimartin2987]

Yes please to the video about perfectionism and BED!

[@sory8086]

I heard this advice so many times but you’ve finally convinced me to start a food journal. I’m on the BED disorder Reddit and sometimes reading others struggles helps me but I’m too shy to share mines. I think writing will do it for me since I already have a diary for happy moments. Personally IF helps me a lot. Don’t need to be too rigid with it, it’s just a way to be on schedule. You’re less likely to eat out of boredom this way. A 14 to 18h fast is enough. And then I set a timer to eat each 3h during my eating window. Planning each meals with all food groups also. If I start to snack without a plan, I know I won’t be able to stop myself. So 3 meals approximately 3h apart ( except for dinner, sometimes it’s closer to my afternoon snack but it just means I’ll eat less at dinner which is great). And lastly having a eating ritual. I love dessert so no matter what, good or bad day, I love to finish my dinner with 2 waffles biscuits. I take my time separating the layers like I was doing surgery lol and enjoy each bites. I also have a tea at the end of my meal. Doing the same thing repetitively sends a signal to your brain after awhile. You create a habit. My tea tells me to relax, digest what I just ate and that I’m done with food for the rest of the day. Those are the things that work for me. To each its own. Good luck everyone.

[@mim_mimm]

the same happens to me! people worry about me when i mention that i'm fasting but if i don't follow a schedule i start overeating and sometimes the guilt is too much. I prefer limiting myself and feeling better rather than going back to any bulimic behaviours. as long as you don't hurt yourself, do what works best for you!

[@Esthie229]

Do you feel super hungry when you break your fast? Or do you just get used to it after a while? I might try it

[@Michelle-q9q]

I found meal planning helps. I know what I'm eating for each of my meals and roughly what time I will take my meals. I also plan and meal prep some high-protein snacks. I have 1-2 snacks per day in addition to my three main meals. I don't really binge eat anymore.

[@chloej.764]

When I was in psychotherapy within the last year or two, the psychologist diagnosed me with OCD, Binge Eating Disorder, and Perfectionism. So, learning more about perfectionism in relation to eating habits would be really helpful. And the Binge-Restrict Cycle really hit home for me.

[@MercyKittelson]

I got excited when you said you have ADHD. I’ve always struggled with huge ups and downs on my weight without realizing why. Ever since getting diagnosed with ADHD in April I’ve found ways to more easily track my eating and I’ve lost 35 pounds. I’m still overweight, but I’m on the right track to becoming healthier and a big part was not realizing how little or so much I was eating due to forgetting or becoming distracted while I eat or am supposed to eat…

[@Sunny-zf1cm]

I’m personally not trying to lose weight, but I keep turning into a hungry werewolf at night, so I’m watching this to find help. I just wanna sleep but I get so hungry 😂

[@MarjolaineDaudrumez]

Me too!!!

[@AbbeysKitchen]

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[@Sophie-bj1nf]

I’m not a dietician, but I experienced exactly the same thing. It stopped when I started eating more early on in the day I.e. breakfast and lunchtime. If you really need food I find a bowl of oatmeal with banana helps me 🙂. Hope it improves for you xx

[@jaemishouse5650]

Same here!!

[@brittanydaniels1102]

@@Sophie-bj1nfA bowl of oatmeal with just banana is not filling enough for most people especially when there is not enough protein and fiber in this meal for breakfast.

[@lunabytea]

You’re such a breath of fresh air with realistic, relatable and science backed evidence. We appreciate the lengths you go to in researching everything, providing helpful solutions and also being open about your own experiences 🙏🏻💕

[@Maybe_Roo]

I’ve had a difficult relationship with food with various EDs throughout my life, always trying to hate my body into one I could love. Luckily in the last few years I’ve done a lot of work and have been able to find my way to a place of body acceptance, which didn’t immediately lead to a good relationship with food. In the beginning planning my meals and snacks in the morning helped, and after a while of doing that I began to be able to intuit what I needed or wanted in the moment. Every now and then I over eat, or under eat, or just have a messy food day, but I never beat myself up over it anymore, because therein lies the danger for me. I love your videos Abbey, they are definitely one of the tools I used when I feel a bit wonky!

[@elkycrodia]

Absolutely yes to a deep dive into perfectionism!! 🙋🏻‍♀

[@MissMiisha]

I’ve tried every diet under the sun. I have always found that eating whatever I wanted, but stopping before getting full worked best for me. I never felt longing for any food because nothing was off limits. I’m not saying it’s right for everyone or that I don’t struggle to keep going beyond fullness, but just sharing that overthinking it can sometimes be the problem.

[@claricetweeten2970]

For me, the Hunger Crushing Combo of combining protein, fat, and carbs with every meal/snack really helps me to not overeat. I like fast food and candy and any dessert that has chocolate in it, and I can eat so much of that stuff in one sitting if I let myself. But I know I won’t feel good afterwards, so instead I try to pick eating foods that I like that satisfy the hunger crushing combo. It works every time. I eat less overall, and I don’t have cravings for chocolate and sugary foods when I’m done. Thanks Abby for showing me the hunger crushing combo!

[@Heatherrenee424]

Thank you for being so transparent with your sponsorships! It’s hard to trust influencers these days however i never have that feeling with you.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

this means a lot, transparency is so important

[@AggroGoddess]

Thank you so much. I am on a difficult journey right now healing my relationship with food and my body. My ED is deeply rooted from my childhood, with my mother forcing me to drink slim fast at the young age of 8 and constantly telling me I was going to get diabetes. I came across your videos and they have been so helpful and encouraging (alongside my amazing therapist). I am grateful for your videos so much as I am in the midst of diet mindset deprogramming.

[@KDeanie]

Given the impact of parents on a person’s relationship with food later on I would be very interested to hear your take on “the French way” because on the one hand it seems very focused on teaching kids to just love food and respect food in a healthy way (“Bringing Up Bébé”; “French Children Eat Everything”), but on the other hand (as in the book “French Women Don’t Get Fat”) it seems pretty aesthetically focused at times

[@AbbeysKitchen]

thanks for this idea I can take a look

[@stephaniemoore-fuller9082]

I just love “French Kids Eat Everything”. The author also has a second book, “The 7 Secrets of Raising Happy Eaters”.

[@KDeanie]

@stephaniemoore-fuller9082 I haven't finished it yet, but I am really liking it so far! I learned about this approach from Bringing Up Bebe and wanted to find more info on it. Didn't know about her other book, thanks for sharing!

[@nberkel]

I don't necessarily have a binge eating problem (anymore), but seem to be very food focused as a means of control. I found that eating on a schedule even if I'm not hungry helps not focus so much on what to have and when and just be in the moment 👍🏼

[@corylcreates]

This video is a huge relief. It's really good to know that I'm doing things that will help reduce my binges. I've been finding that I use food as a boredom buster, so I need to find other tools to keep myself occupied, especially fidget toys. Right now, I'm also reducing one of my medications. It has a side effect of increasing hunger and carb-cravings, and I've gained weight because it's very hard to fight against that. One of the ways I started to break down my food rules and food fears was to eat the binge foods until I was bored of them. I would buy them whenever I wanted, eat them whenever I wanted, with the key to it being that I was mentally working through the thoughts and feelings that came up when I was eating. "Does this even taste good? How do I feel right now? Is this satisfying me? Do I even like this food, or do I eat it to punish myself?" I've learned that a lot of foods I used to binge on were ones that I didn't even like the taste of, and the "forbidden" or "bad" label on it was the reason I ate them. Now I'm trying to lose weight, since my size has started to impact aspects of my physical health, and I'm just so scared that calorie counting is the only way to do it. I'm reluctant to calorie count to lose weight because I know I start to overrestrict when I see the numbers.

[@TheIndigoworld]

I have been struggling with food and perfectionism for YEARS, so I would really appreciate a video on that

[@larrystylinson1472]

thank you for everything you do. you have been the best for my ed recovery.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

I'm so glad🥰🥰

[@Msanditsme]

Thank you for making this. I've been waiting for you to talk more about binge disordered eating. It's made so much sense.

[@luzmariaberumen6576]

Oh. My. Gosh. I have ADHD and I’ve been battling with diets all my life. I’ve always wondered why most diets just don’t work with me. Why can’t I stick to one, why do I always fall back on binge eating. Thank you so much!

[@KR-mx4nt]

@abbeysharp Thank you for adressing the other side of the spectrum: of overeating obesity and food addiction! A lot of people have that as opposed to anorexia bulimia orthorexia, etc

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Glad it was helpful!

[@genevuhhh]

idk if you've already done a video like this, but i would be interested in seeing what is true/untrue and what really are the best options when it comes to variables like fat free vs regular, gluten free vs whole grain vs regular, dairy free vs dairy, and just covering health benefits or disadvantages of typical foods and the replacements used in things like i mentioned above.

[@Taha_khan1374]

The restricting-binging cycle hit hard. I am guilty of putting junk food on a pedestal and treat it like something I can't have unless I have achieved something. And that something is either an impossibly strict diet or some other impossibly perfect achievement. I can't even diet for a week before I get tired of not living a perfect life and start binging to escape those feelings. Social media is definitely a huge factor, even though it is made up I can't help but feel like those girls have everything I want so badly without any effort which adds to my feelings of inadequacy. I feel like if I'm putting effort into something I'm doing it wrong as it must mean my technique isn't perfect. This makes me not want to try at all. And I care a lot about what my friends and parents think. This also makes me binge as I want to escape the thoughts of disappointing them sooner or later.

[@webnod]

Your information sessions are very helpful. Can't believe how much we have in common. It's wonderful to have a trusted source like you on the web. Thank you :)

[@versus2556]

the part where you talked about numbing feelings of loneliness really resonated with me because I really see how when I had friends/a partner I didnt overeat or binge and I stuck with my deficit and felt the best and lost so much weight but now that I am all alone I overeat and had gained all the weight back again:/ I like my own company and myself but sometimes I wish I had at least one person to spend time with or talk all the time so that I didnt think of food so much and wouldnt be depleted of serotonin because now the gym is the only thing bringing me some sort of happiness along with walks but I cant be working out all the time

[@michellekennedy4426]

Love the poppy looking for treats cameo😍!

[@juliaparis3737]

I was wondering throughout the video what Abbey was doing with the freeze dried strawberries - I thought she was dropping them in the garbage or something, haha. Then Poppy popped her head up and it all made sense! Too cute 🥰

[@MadisonFalcoFoods]

I’ve been working on mine for awhile and your videos have helped me too I used to eat whole snack packs of fun size Snickers in one sitting when I was little

[@CJ_536]

I have been known to be an emotional eater on occasion. And once I learned that, I replaced my soothing mechanism of food with different soothing mechanisms like makeup and doing my hair and getting a cup of coffee. I can't just take something away because it was serving a purpose, and that was to soothe me. I needed to add something that would provide value. My other tendency to eat too much is generally if I have not had enough protein. If I don't eat enough protein. My body just says feed me until finely i've eaten enough, but if I haven't figured out that is what my body wants, then I generally overeat all the sugary carb stuff, and then I just feel awful. Personally, I think both of those reasons are very common for americans who overeat. So in my current journey towards health, every single meal must have protein and fiber. And if I feel hungry, I stop and ask myself.... Am I hungry, am I thirsty, or do I have the munchies. If I have the munchies, a low calorie snack like popcorn or even a stick of gum probably will solve it. If I don't know if I'm thirsty, I take a sip of water. My body will immediately respond by guzzling it if I need it. And being like... eh...if I don't. Generally, I find what I need is a spoonful of peanut butter or a hard-boiled egg or a high protein yogurt. That's solves ninety percent of my inclination towards overeating. Oh.. as for stess... yup. Terrible. I would eat bags of candy and chips and lots of ice cream. The solution was to change jobs.

[@emoonae]

I’ve dieted off and on for most of my life. I don’t have BED, but I used to have disordered eating tendencies in the form of binge eating, followed by exercising like crazy to punish myself for bingeing (but not with the regularity of a person diagnosed with bulimia). I attempted to combat it by only having “healthy food” in the house, which backfired spectacularly, and when I found myself polishing off a big bowl of Fiber One after inhaling several different “diet” foods, I realized that maybe I had a problem. The book _Intuitive Eating_ probably saved my sanity, and several years later, an ADHD diagnosis (and proper medication) helped me to realize what caused that behavior. Still, I am trying to reduce my body fat percentage for health reasons, and although there’s been a lot of trial and error involved to avoid slipping into disordered eating, it’s been a much better experience. It also has helped me to know, thanks to genetic testing, that I am genetically predisposed to weigh more.

[@lenegelbe-hauen9009]

I have an emotional eating problem due to chronic depression and borderline personality disorder, and I kind of punished myself with eating less or even eating nothing the next day. It became a vicious cycle. My therapist was alarmed when I finally opened up about and made me document possible triggers , or how I felt right before and during eating way too much and we worked through this. I also need to say that my parents are all about looks and especially my mom always obsessed about clean eating, ohh and fat and carbs are the enemy. I always get the feeling that both my parents liked me better when I was skinny. I kinda gained weight due to my anti-depressants and all.

[@chocochat5237]

I needed this video so much. I have really hard time with my BED lately 😢❤

[@SuperBoopeep]

I can’t wait to see about your video on perfectionism and how it relates to eating.

[@genevuhhh]

i already commented a suggestion for a video idea, but i have another. i love your "dietician reacts to-" videos, but i would also love if you not only reacted and gave commentary on others' diets/what i eat in a say videos, but if you'd also eat along with them and follow their choice of meals for the day and give updates on how you feel!

[@Micahangelina_]

You along with @natacha ocean have helped me so much in my ED recovery. The journals def helped, credible information, and analysis of how empty my life had become. Now I’m working on filling my life with new hobbies n interests as well as challenging entrenched thought patterns. It’s a real process but absolutely worth all the effort ❤

[@morena6717]

I spiraled into a BED after dieting and your channel helped me soooo much! I'm feeling a lot better now! Thank you so much!

[@maxwellg.2755]

The mentioning of perfectionism and OCPD was a MAJOR aha moment for me. I'm so glad you made this video!

[@camilaoh7552]

I was less likely to overeat / binge eat when I was freelance because my schedule was up to me, I had my own expectations for the day and routine for myself. I find it hard to do right now that I’m in a 9-5 since I depend on others to make decisions or seek for approval. This video really really helped me because never thought there was other reasons why I could get into a cycle and not it all make sense. Doesn’t mean I will leave my 9-5 but it does mean that there is a few ways I can avoid turning to food when what I need is potentially just switching to do something else for a little moment like meditating or writting in my journal.

[@kiekoo2120]

Thank you so much for this video today. It helped me remember so many things I had worked on with my dietrician last year, that I was not actively applying anymore as I fell back into the binge restrict cycle. Super informative and non-judgemental.

[@keleonavila]

Hi Abbey! I definitely want to hear your thoughts about perfectionism impacting eating habits!! Please make the video!

[@lukaurlocalmaybenotlocalsi522]

okay I haven't watched the video yet but the pink shirt (01:04) looks so gorgeous on you!!! Slaying hard omg

[@Emma.H06]

I haven’t come across any of your content in a while, and I came back to your channel to say just how appreciative I am for the content you make. I was struggling with severe BED for a while and your videos introduced me to the ideas and approaches that ultimately led to my recovery. I can’t express just how instrumental the information and guidance you offer through your content has been for me in my healing journey. Thank you for making this kind of important educational content, you are really making an impact. ❤

[@caterinaramirez8864]

Wow related to almost every point you made in my 5+ years of what I now now was a BED. Graduating university and moving out of my parents home were the first steps in making recovery possible

[@sushiekinss]

I find all of this so exciting and I look forward to more studies coming out.

[@christinemadore249]

I’m a total closet over eater. Sugar and salt ! When ever I’m upset or family stress. If it goes on too long then my body ,stomach backfires on me. Then I end up only being able to eat usually one thing and my body tells what it is . Last time it was celery and humus . For months . Doctors can’t seem to help me.

[@21972012145525]

It seems like hummus and celery isn’t a worrying problem

[@MariaAngelica-dl7nj]

We need more content about this topic please!!

[@Maxinestheme2]

Yes perfectionism!! I’m interested how that links with eating!!!

[@liilykh4n]

Ever since i was born I’ve not been a picky eater, i would eat absolutely anything and everything. My family praised this, they loved that i’d eat anything and they’d take me to so many restaurants to try alot of different foods as a reward. This over time made me cocky and I’d purposely start eating more than grown men at the age of 7 purely to get a reaction out of people. My main caregiver went into hospital leaving me in the care if my auntie, before school she’d take me to mcdonalds every day for breakfast (usually a wrap, hash brown and a hot chocolate) then i started having a tough time in school so she’d take me to mcdonalds after school for food, then every day she’d pick me up with a 20pc nuggets, by about 10 i weighed 11st (154lbs) and wore a womens uk size 14 clothes, then i went to highschool and i just continued with these eating habits (now what I’ve realised was binge episodes) until I eventually weighed 16st 12lbs (236lbs) and wearing a uk 20/22 by the age of 15. I somehow around that age ended up developing anorexia so i lost close to 4 stone in maybe 5 months, people praised my weight loss to the point it was fueling my ED so i kept going until i was eventually hospitalised and got help, not that i’m fully recovered i don’t think it’s ever possible to fully recover from an ED even the sight of calories on a menu is likely to make me spiral but yeah…I wouldn’t necessarily say i was bullied for my weight there was a few comments here and there but barely any and I wouldn’t particularly say i comfort ate i just overly enjoyed my food, i’m not quite sure how i recovered from binge eating but nowadays i just don’t tend to eat when i’m bored because i’m more busy

[@starr3-pm2lg]

Watching this while binge eating, and I'm doing this and i will not feel guilt because it's been 7 months since I've said no to biscuits, and now i finally decided to enjoy them and stop restricting myself for at least a day

[@ishani303]

Hey Abbey, for your next video, could you explain how antibiotics interfere with gut microbiome and what one can do after one (or several) cycles of antibiotics to get back to having a healthy gut?

[@Managamasplymiad]

In my Italian American family, we were always told we weren't full when we wanted to stop eating. When I was in my early 20s and had been away at college, I remembering having to yell "I don't want it" and push it away. It was an odd feeling. Not gorging was tied in to "you don't love me if you don't eat more". Ugh. I didn't think about that in relation to intuitive eating until just now

[@TeXXicJA]

I overeat when I'm tired and low on sleep. I figured this out and catch myself when I do it.

[@melw2389]

Would love to learn more about perfectionism.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

It's coming

[@functionoflightone]

I don't want to side line the very valuable information you provided in this video, but I have to say that I was actually chuckling with delight that you were giving that information while giving your sweet dog a treat. You didn't miss a beat. It was glorious. 😄

[@jenwatson3900]

Yes please talk about perfectionism and your diet!

[@Hernamewaslolac]

That new video sounds so interesting! Cannot wait ❤

[@Truecrimeresearcher224]

For me 1. Restrictions and dieting 2. Low self esteem and depression. I have major depressive disorder

[@MarigabyFr]

Abbey, by watching your channel I did realize that I have an eating desorder but I am commited to get over it. Yesterday I was “rebelious” enough to buy a stupid fig bar and eat at 9pm it without guilt. Lots of work to do here, I know. Thanks!

[@crazycatlady7866]

Yes please talk about how high social media use can be a factor in binge eating. I am curious

[@heathermoment]

as a teen i was put on jenny craig since i was very clinically obese. i lost about 100 lbs and then went to college! since then my weight has fluctuated a lot as meals are faster and less intentional. right now i’m losing a little weight slowly over time and still enjoying my happy foods responsibly (most of the time). my biggest recommendation is letting your friends know about your relationship with food. my friends know about it and encourage me to eat with them and try their foods at restaurants. also if they don’t finish they always get togo boxes, which makes me feel nice knowing that just because i might finish my plate and they didn’t doesnt mean i’m a pig. my boyfriend is also the chef in our home and encourages me to help or watch him cook so i can be mindful about the macros in my food without feeling the need to retroactively calorie count. i hope this helps:)

[@courtneyharrel5500]

I can relate! I am very much a people pleaser, drive to perfection and can not seem to figure out how to control my weight in a fairly manageable way. Been on diets on and off since I was 12. I’m 52 and have gained 30 pounds since fall of 2020. Would love to shake at least 10 to 20 of it but keep overeating/ over snacking daily. Trying to be healthy about it but can’t figure out how to lose while not being on a strict diet.

[@cathy2142]

I took data that i will binge on crunchy empty calorie foods after my child has a long loud tantrum that im trying to help her through. I now have a big salad with lots of crunchy veggies to help❤

[@gabyszabo9615]

This was an impressive summary of the background and potential mechanisms, with lots of practical information. I'd love to hear a book review: on Overcoming Binge Eating by Fairburn. Great lesson: thank you!

[@lil4282]

ocpd is a very debated diagnosis and is often just a misdiagnosis for autism - for example my psych who gave me my adhd diagnsosis pointed out that I most likely had ocpd - however all traits related to that diagnosis were explained by my comorbid autism diagnosis!

[@jesyra]

Ummmm... I have been struggling with binge eating for the past couple years and nearly everything she listed applies to me. Seeing that there is research explaining my behaviour is so helpful.

[@chrishackenbrack343]

I had an issue with chocolate so I decided to buy a massive amount and keep it in the house. Anytime I would eat any the plan was to replace it immediately. So there was never a scarcity. I could have as much as I wanted whenever I wanted. Turns out it wasn’t as attractive that way. I also bought an ice cream maker so if I want it I can make it, I rarely do. Worked like a charm. Thanks for your videos.

[@83shaunam]

I stopped dieting, and let myself have what I wanted, thinking that would stop the binging, but it didn't. I gained like 20 lbs in just a few months. Found out later that my blood sugar was jacked up. Got that sorted out and and now I'm fine. Not only am I not binging, but I'm not even overeating. Sugar cravings are gone. Cravings for fast food are gone. I actually have trouble meal planning because I just don't CRAVE anything anymore. I feed myself just fine though. I'm losing weight but only like 1 lb a week, so I'm definitely eating enough.

[@judyhaynes1495]

Great video ! Looking forward to the perfectionism one you are working on

[@Jenny-nz5fh]

I tried intuitive eating where I habituated, but it didn't work with sugary foods. I've accepted that sugar is not my friend. At least now fruit tastes really sweet. I also gave up my afternoon shift job which forced me to eat out of cultural norms. So much happier now I can eat at regular times.

[@madsokay]

abbey, i don’t understand how you can critique so many creators for taking/pushing unnecessary vitamins and supplements while also being sponsored by supplement brands?

[@elissa3188]

7 minutes in- oh my gosh- all these things- depression, anxiety, perfectionism... loneliness - man that is really what triggered my first big binges in college, but dealing with bullying in middle school is what planted the seed for that- where I began my food sneaking.

[@Dollarstoredolly2023]

I found this video to be informative and suoer helpful to me! I'm going to incorporate the tips at the end into my life! Thank you Abbey! ❤

[@missknight9]

I do not struggle with bingeing but I’m still here to watch another great video. I would love to see a video on how to avoid under eating especially when trying to gain weight, in people who don’t binge. Or for people who have very poor hunger cues- If it inspires you ✨ I am curious though why you refer to binge eating but not bulimia in this video?

[@jessicapark3669]

How did you fit this much helpful information in 18 minutes?? 🤯 thank you Abbey!

[@victorbasiy3489]

I think Abbey is really the best ❤😊

[@morganelaina1997]

Id love to hear east to make protein packed breakfasts because breakfast is my hardest meal of the day. I usually just want to run and grab something which isn’t always the best

[@iconic860]

Yes can you please make a video on perfectionism and diet ? Thank you🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷🩷Your videos have been helping me eat more and better without feeling guilty

[@ShakinandBacon]

I was diagnosed with ADHD at 8 years old. I’ve been heavy and binge eating since I was a teen. I had no idea that they went hand in hand.

[@mindymac_does_stuff]

I can second the food habituation. Life long binge eater, not DSM diagnosed but massive tendancies. Basically I had a whole host of digestive issues that lead to me having to cut out sugar for awhile. Enter Doritos, I knew I'd lose my mind without some sort of treat, so I allowed myself to eat as much Doritos as I wanted, by week two I was over them. That was mid 2021, in 2022 I did that with everything, I ate what I wanted when I wanted while keeping my digestive health as a priority, so cake, chips, ice cream, you name it I could have it. 8 months later and I didn't have near the reactivity to food and I stopped doing secret McDonald's binges. Now I'm working on slowly taking off some fat. But healing my relationship with food was the only way to get here

[@selyemperzsa1]

+ insuline resistance if you have it to be treated with special diet.

[@CapyQueen-q3x]

I’ve got this problem, it’s such a struggle to control yourself. What I found out recently, that I binge much on food that someone brings to my house, on food I didn’t cook or buy. So it wasn’t my choice, and I’ve got such a big wish to get rid off that food. My mum doesn’t understand me, she says she brings it for my kids

[@21972012145525]

Tell your mom that your kids will eat it when they come over to her place

[@robertascazzari4016]

Great video. Please, can you make the video about perfectionism?

[@Southernolives]

This was so helpful! Thank you for sharing!!

[@niteturtle4942]

I'm currently in a caloric deficit and I do so good during the week. It's when the weekend comes that everything falls apart. My hubby loves to eat as do I, and he's always hungry, which in turn makes me want to eat more. The excuse I always tell myself is that I meal prep my food and his food 5 days out of the week and come Saturday and Sunday I dont want to do any type of meal prepping or cooking! I know if I could just force myself to meal prep for the weekend I'd be fine and would be able to turn down subs and pizza. I need to stop making such great progress only to flush it all down the toilet come Saturday 😢😢

[@lutra-lutra]

thank you very much for this great advice, it helped me understand my dieting/binging/dieting/binging... patterns

[@lariakober9010]

lovly abby what helped you the most with your ibs because thats my problem when i overeat because of i feel depressed because of my gut prblems? love your input

[@rekamer92]

I'm having a dietitian appointment for my bingeing in 2 weeks, I hope they won't dismiss me like the psychiatrist did 🤞

[@joyfulinhope1210]

I have BED, ADHD, ASD, OCD, and BP, so what I’m hearing is, I’m effed.

[@CoconutPatel]

Loved rhis topic! Thank you 👍🏼👌🏼

[@TacosnZorro]

Biotrust is AWESOME. just gotta say.