Reddit threads exposing "Skinny People Habits"… Helpful or DANGEROUS?!

[@heyitsgabs21]

doing chores/keeping your environment clean is actually one of the best things cause it works twice over, its that bit of movement and excerise for your physical self and creates a clean and calm environment for your mental self. such a simple little thing thats so beneficial.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Yes sooo true

[@itsyissel]

Yup!

[@tinaspice]

Very true! I live solo (first time on my life) and do chores regularly and I love it. Environment directly impacted my mental health during lockdown so I am more mindful to keep it clean and peaceful vs chaotic and cluttered. Plus I get my full body work out 😅.

[@solus8685]

Man my room looks like Berlin in 1945 since I haven't cleaned it in months cause I just didn't have the motivation to do anything :(

[@heyitsgabs21]

@solus8685 thats the worst cause the motivation never strikes once it starts feeling like a hopeless task, and then it just get worse. hope it strikes soon.

[@jackiehammerton]

I’ve lost all my excess weight moving to Spain. When I lived in the States I balanced around 140lbs (at 5’4”) but since moving to Spain I’m now around 125lbs. I contribute it to the lifestyle here. I’m walking (sometimes running) everywhere! To the bus, to the metro, to the train… constantly rushing up and down steps. Meals are also eaten together here, like a sacred social ritual. On top of that meals are slower as you’re talking with others and plates are often shared. I’m also spending a lot more time in the sun/outdoors which (call me crazy) I suspect affects my appetite because I don’t find myself craving food to appease an emotional response. Anyway, I was happy with my weight in the States, but I do feel a lot better here in Spain. Good thing I married a Spaniard and we’re here to stay ❤

[@TheQueerTailor]

I had a similar experience while living in Israel, I think a lot of it was movement, a lot was healthy food, and I suspect that the climate had a significant factor because I didn’t need any weight on me to help keep warm (in the states I lived in a very cold climate) and I lose my appetite in the heat.

[@jacksont9455]

Also, Spain has different standards for food, and how processed it’s allowed to be

[@ttcgr]

I'm living in Spain and other people have been losing weight because the food isn't as good to us haha. We have so much access to such good tasting food in the States but here they use a lot less spices and it makes us more able to tell if we're hungry or just enjoying our food. Also portion sizes are smaller, and we're definitely more active.

[@jackiehammerton]

@@jacksont9455 I’m not sure if I agree about the processed part. Spain is still full of processed foods (people eat potato chips on a regular basis… with beer). And we still have tons of fast food places and our supermarkets are overflowing with plastics and other endocrine disrupters. Plus, a lot of typical food here is fried or dripping in olive oil. I think the real difference is portion size, the manner in which people eat (sitting down and socializing, eating more slowly) and the increased movement.

[@jackiehammerton]

@@ttcgr Ah, I’m a big fan of Spanish food 😂 Especially the seafood and rice dishes! But last night for example my husband and I were craving more flavor so we went to this great Indian place called Sal y Chili 🤤

[@legobuilders6133]

the best habit for weight loss is not being pre-occupied by food (or weight, or calories, or health-by-food, or...).When I am involved in activities that are interesting, make me feel useful and are challenging, I usually eat less.

[@isabelaguzei8745]

Same

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

I said that in a different comment but I think bored eating is an actual thing. I have adhd and sometimes I find myself craving for food even though I'm not really that hungry. I just want to eat because I'm bored and need some thrill to fill the void of boredom and sameness. This affects me so bad on some days. I told my mom that I might be the only crazy person in this house willing to go to work and walk for an hour each day after work because I need to be outside or I go crazy like a monkey in a cage. To be honest I don't work yet I'm still a university student. But I'm willing to bet I'll be walking around my block each day after work just to get my free dose of fuel and relaxing entertainment. Also I'm naturally skinny. But this does impact me negatively as the food I reach for isn't fruit or a good full meal. It usually revolves around pre-packages extremely processed foods. Like chips and other snacks alike.

[@peacemaster8117]

I think being pre-occupied by calories is pretty necessary if you want to lose weight. Even if you "eat less" because you're involved in activities you can still eat high calorie meals and end up putting yourself in a surplus. At the very least everyone should be aware of the caloric cost of what they're eating.

[@inuhundchien6041]

I agree about the boredom eating. Eating give you shots of dopamine. Similar to people addicted to pxrn or social media. Some people are very bored they get addicted to everything bad. You need to be addicted in something more productive, for example work, or else society will think you are a loser.

[@MC-tl5bf]

so true

[@brandywillis3998]

Here's a tip that really helped me. When your food comes, eat half of it. Then after 20 minutes, if you're still hungry or craving eat some more until you feel full. If you're already full, take it to go, and pack it up for lunch tomorrow. No guilt, no waste, no forcing yourself to finish. This really helped me get out of my parent's mindset of clean plate club every time you sit down. I used to eat it all, even to the point of feeling ill. I also started eating more slowly and savoring food.

[@syp123]

A better tip is recognizing that food portions are huge to begin with and takeaway is always the option

[@Diana-qp2rw]

Thanks, I’ll try that in restaurants from now on. At home or at friends I just get a small portion at first and only get a second plate when I’m hungry, but I’m restaurants I struggle with listening to my hunger and often end up feeling too full.

[@karolineCPH]

I live in a country where taking leftovers home isn't a thing, which annoys me to no end. The last time i tried to ask for a doggy bag at a local restaurant, the waiter looked at me like I was crazy, and after 30 long minutes, she handed me a crumpled up lump of tinfoil and said that it was the only thing she could find. I haven't asked for it since.

[@brandywillis3998]

Maybe carry a reusable silicone bag or zip-lock in your purse? I think that's what I'd do.@@karolineCPH

[@Uhhhnvm]

Thank you I’ll have to try this! I too deal with the clean plate thing and need to slow down. Thank u! 😊

[@iggs10]

Well,I don’t know about “skinny people” habits but I’ve got the slightly chubby and menopausal habits down pat. I’m happy to share my tips. 😂

[@lalablotz7348]

Same here sweet pea 😂❤

[@carriebrooks7354]

Same!😅😢

[@baileydunton6142]

👩‍💻

[@pennylynch913]

Lol me too! ❤

[@skoolie_life3261]

😂

[@anaarh4390]

There are a lot of reasons why people are skinny, healty and unhealty ones. From genetics, intuitive eating and hunger cues, age, health, ed, lifestyle, habits, stress, enviroment and more. Being skinny is not a moral imperative but feeling good in your skin and mind should be.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Amen!!!

[@canesugar911]

Health is the imperative.

[@juliana8888]

I second that amen.

[@efolinsky]

@@canesugar911that’s a very ableist statement to those of us who are disabled and deal with chronic illness and or pain

[@marib.364]

@@efolinskyhealth includes healthcare. it doesn’t mean you need to be 100% able bodied and neurotypical, it just means you need to take care of yourself to live life, even if you need accommodations. optimizing your health when you have health conditions is also important so you have as little struggle as possible.

[@MuseSunflower]

It helps to have a hobby that doubles as a workout. That way you get to socialize, it’s fun, you get regular connection with people and you don’t really feel like it’s a workout until a day or so after when you get sore For me, pole fitness classes and salsa dancing has been a wonderful activity to keep me moving regularly

[@ThePinkcharm1]

Line dancing is my active hobby! So many benefits to hobbies like ours :)

[@brendalima5292]

Me with figure skating and roller skating. I go out with friends to have fun and then I realize I just skated for 12km

[@MuseSunflower]

@@brendalima5292 I love that 🥰

[@adivanhal2130]

I think this was a missed opportunity to mention that there is such thing as too much water especially if it's being chugged all day and little to no food is consumed, I have suffered from different eating disorders for most of my life and have experienced water poisoning a couple of times if I ever mention to someone who is not a health provider/dietitian they have always told me that there is no such thing as too much water

[@WiseMindNutrition]

Want to validate that it is totally possible to have too much water! We regularly ask clients about waterloading as an ED behavior. Definitely not "common knowledge" in other communities however

[@ashleighmryd]

Yeah my friend had water poisoning at a music festival, it caused her to have a seizure and during the seizure she hit her head badly and was terribly concussed for months after. It was awful and water poisoning is no joke…

[@TheSilverwing999]

People also misunderstand how much water a body really needs. Its a calculation you do. A person eating about 2000 calories a day only needs about 2 litres of water and in that is included fluid from eating food which amounts to around 1.1 litres all in itself. So you only need to drink about a litre outside that a day. Source: nursing

[@ariesearthdragon]

@@TheSilverwing999 exactly. Many people don't realize a lot of the roughly 8 cups/2 liters of water is stored in the solid we consume throughout the day. I think a good visual example is how much some food shrivels or becomes almost rock hard when it dehydrates.

[@gowrinandana8999]

Also exercising in hot weather makes you drink more water till it makes you ill (I've done that a few times. No matter how much I drank I wouldn't feel my thirst was quenched though my stomach was sooo full that I threw up water)

[@maryxlent]

As someone with ADHD who has always been slim - I forget to eat because of a lack of hunger cues, I usually get hit with sudden ravenous painful hunger out of nowhere and then overcompensate. I used to fidget loads and working in retail meant that my job was active. I work on a laptop 8 hours a day now and suddenly it actually matters what and how much I eat because of the lack of movement! I saw a comment below asking if you would do a video for people with ADHD, I would love this so much! I've been watching your channel for more than a year and I've learned so much. The HCC especially has helped me understand what my body actually needs and what a complete meal means. However, some (maybe most) days I just have no energy to cook after work and end up eating crap food. Some go to snack and dinner options with minimal ingredients, certified by Abbey, would be so great 😍

[@phoenixx8963]

A bunch of these just feel like ADHD/Autism traits that people observed and idolised without realising lol Im skinny, but was never underweight. I just always managed to eat my maintenance even while being inactive and not eating a relatively healthy/nutritious diet. For me im finally now gaining obvious weight bc of the side effect of an antidepessant ive started taking, and im ENJOYING it bc for once i feel the urge to eat more than 1-2 meals in a day. Plus, its so much easier to get my protein intake for the strength training i've taken up too which was always an issue.

[@ohjonash]

@@phoenixx8963 Yeah with that one observation about the person's dad forgetting toast in the toaster, my first thought was "Are you sure he doesn't have ADHD?" Because that happens a lot with me. I'll take out ingredients to make something or open a drink and forget about it because I get distracted by something else.

[@indirita5]

Fellow ADHD here, for me meal prep have been extremely helpful, I only get energy to cook maybe twice a week, and when I do boy do I use it 😂, I also have standard foods that I like, are healthy AND easy, like chickpea chicken salads, I buy frozen veggies, canned beans, use a lot of spices and that doesn't mean I don't eat crap, sometimes I have my meal prepped and I still eat mcdonals, but then I have dinner or the next days meal, and I also tried and found healthier alternative to my fixation foods, almost everyday I have a crunchy fiber toast with cottage cheese, lemon, oregano and avocado, I make a bunch of shredded chicken and eat homemade tacos for 3 days, etc, I couldn't cook more than 5 minutes everyday, I'd rather not to eat or eat out, so when I can, I prep all those, sometimes it obviously doesn't work but it's a start! If you like spicy/tart things I make this snack that's canned chickpeas washed and put back into the container, squeeze a lemon, salt, chilli powder, garlic powder, cumin, curry and pepper, you mix it and you have a snack under 5 minutes for a few days that's super tasty, things like that! Ohh and boiled eggs last up to 7 days in the fridge 😂 helpful tip for easy breakfast

[@CAEO416]

All my skinny friends eat smaller portions. They eat until they are satisfied, not stuffed. They also don’t snack very often.

[@hannah-louisedunlop8947]

I loved this video. As a "clean plate clubber", I can see the correlation between family diet culture enforcement and weight fluctuation. Healing my relationship with food has helped me slowly start to leave this club, as I really don't have a big appetite. I would always finish my plate, yet I really am just not hungry. It's a behaviour. Would love a link to this video :)

[@dopex89]

Yes! Btw I don't even know if I have a big appetite, but I have been so conditioned from home and kindergarten that I must finish everything, that I really struggle with doing it. I am trying though.

[@Diana-qp2rw]

That’s such a problem for me! It’s why I always ask for a very small portion, so that I can get a second plate if I’m still hungry after the first but stop eating when I’m full. I just hate wasting food, but that’s what always happened at home when something wasn’t finished. My mother usually just threw leftovers away, and I always hated to see good food go to waste. My grandmother who used to try to get me to eat up by making me feel guilty about leftovers (“Think of the poor kids who don’t have enough food”) didn’t help. She also finishes every plate, even when she’s already complaining about being too full. I’m definitely planning to never tell my kids to finish their plate when they’re already full.

[@sashhhaa4874]

I have also noticed this is my reality as I kid my mother would always dish me wayyy to big portion sizes so I was very used to overeating. I also always had 3 meals a day WITHOUT FAIL - breakfast, lunch and dinner, even if I wasn’t hungry, I just ate because it was routine. Plus I was a kid so I genuinely didn’t think anything wrong of it at the time. But one of the worst things I also remember doing was whenever I would go to parties or out for meals with the family where there would be many food options i would massively overeat, I would eat until I was uncomfortably full and still try and eat some more, almost as if I felt like I had to have a little bit of everything maybe a also a weird food fomo 😅. When I became a teenager I started getting into dieting and trying to eat healthier and now I try to eat intuitively (only eating when I actually feel hungry) as I noticed that I’m not immediately hungry when I first wake up and for most of the day I’m actually not hungry, but I still find it hard to not eat even when i’m not hungry.

[@AJ-oy5iv]

The last tip about drinking water ended up being backhanded helpful. I intentionally planned to drink instead of eat which is bad. I craved salty and saucy foods out of dehydration. I was effectively volume eating in the day and would "stress cook" full meals at night; which probably looked like binging. The weight loss didn't come until I realized I was eating to not be thirsty. I set alarms to drink water which gave me room to have filling foods and snacks early.

[@sarahdemarrero3520]

So glad you touched on NEAT! I’m a postpartum fitness specialist, and this is my biggest tip for moms. Like lean innnn to the things we naturally have to do as moms. Rock the baby, pace the floors, pick up toys for the 500th time today, yes yes and yes! It might be annoying, but at least it’s a natural weight management strategy that’s also productive 🤷‍♀️

[@kyssedbyfyre915]

As a now -disabled Mom... (6 ruptured discs, grade 1 spondylolisthesis,Scoliosis, fibromyalgia, osteoarthritis,CFS, etc) This is the way. And for me, it's the ONLY WAY! My energy is limited as is my time on my feet, so I make it all count. I often walk from room to room not just carrying a laundry basket but lifting it repeatedly. Doing deeper bends when loading and unloading the dishwasher, just incorporating exaggerated motions into my day that will build muscle and strength.

[@missknight9]

I just want to flag that the friend who always leaves something on their plate may not have a healthy relationship with food. I always did this and couldn’t be more disordered. It is one of the anorexia habits I could never break even when I was in recovery

[@celestialcircledance]

It's true that you can't always judge a book by its cover and what may look spontaneous could actually be premeditated .

[@BeautyandtheBarista]

@GioBruno9721 no one was judging here. Just observing and offering another perspective based on their own experience. I think *you’re* the one being rude…

[@BeautyandtheBarista]

I’m glad you said this because I had the same concern. It is something I did when I was at my peak of disordered eating. Never finished anything. I couldn’t

[@LowSlungBadBitch]

​@GioBruno9721 you seem very offended. What were they saying that you find so judgemental?

[@jacksont9455]

Theres got to be a balance tho. Some of the portions they serve at American restaurants are huge. 2 or 3 meals on one plate. I think it’s okay if you don’t finish your plate at most restaurants. Stop eating when you’re full.

[@Dylvente]

Many skinny people do these things because they're less hungry, hungry less often, or get full with less food, all of these factors occurring naturally. It's dangerous for people who are overweight because they don't have these natural advantages to try to force the same behaviors, mixing up cause and effect, but it's healthy to add behaviors that help us feel full without leaving us feeling deprived. You really show why these things are true--very helpful video!

[@Anna-rb6rg]

❤🧡💛💚💙

[@melissajeannek]

This is so true. I am thin and I almost always get full super quickly. I cannot eat big portions either. It’s just how I’ve always been.

[@TheBloodyNights]

I think it more comes down to how they were raised and what sort of foods they grew up on. Someone eating out all the time, and eating sugary sweets like ice cream, cakes, little debbies, cereal etc as well as massive amounts of cheese and fatty meats is gonna not only be fat, but be hungry more often. I was 345lbs and was deff hungry all the time. Now I'm 210lbs at around 15% body fat. I eat balanced meals, Like protein oatmeal with blueberries, and eggs for breakfast as an example. And I'm good for hours. I don't even need to snack as I'm satisified on my macros. Most larger people don't even know that there is something other than pancakes, donuts, and cereal for breakfast. They eat large portions of these calorie dense non nutritional foods loaded with added sugar, and are hungry an hour later. I know I was when I ate so horribly because I didn't know any better. Fast food, frozen dinners, and hamburger helper were what I was raised on as a kid. I had to learn how to fix my relationship with food. Now I'm satiated enough that I kind of have to force myself to eat sometimes even when I'm not super hungry.

[@Dylvente]

I am glad you have had success in maintaining long-term weight loss. Unfortunately, a lot of research indicates that only a small fraction of people who lose a large amount of weight keep it off long term. I went back and reviewed some data, and the numbers I see range from 5-20% of people keeping the weight off. To achieve initial weight loss, many of the 80% presumably ate many of the alternative healthy foods you identify, but were unable to sustain the diet amid resurgent cravings. This has been my problem, and I thought I was safe. I maintained (most of) a weight loss of 50 pounds for 12 years before relapsing and regaining almost all the weight. I lost 15 pounds of it but have regained every time I have lost more than that, in nearly 3 years of trying. The weight my body settles at used to be around 160 and now it's around 190. (I'm only 5' 8.5'', so this is significantly overweight.) I don't believe I've lost willpower that I used to have. I believe my body has changed. There are also physiological factors that cause our bodies to resist efforts to lose weight. If you would like to look at one study in particular, the link is www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC5764193/ By the way, I hope you're right. I hope it turns out that this research is flawed and that there really is a way that the vast majority of people can maintain weight loss long term through making healthy choices, but at the moment I can only find anecdotes, not research, to support this belief.@@TheBloodyNights

[@TheBloodyNights]

@@Dylvente I read your study that you gave. Pretty intensively, even if I already knew the majority of people who did fad diets for very quick fat loss failed, and they regained back what they lost. The reasons why they failed were the exact reasons I had in my head. Dieting and losing weight too quickly leading to lack of energy, and just poor knowledge in general. Being influenced by family and friends to eat this delicious nonsense that's terrible for you. Getting cravings because person X brings this into your home. Eating out, and eating ultra processed foods, that make you crave more. The people who succeed like me was also mentioned. And I do every single thing listed in your own studied mentioned. I cook at home, I don't eat processed junk, natural sugars only for me. I eat high protein, I lose weight slowly over time so I can keep my energy levels regulated. I almost never eat out. I also have the will power even if it's super hard to resist eating pizza, or Cookies, cakes, and donuts that my co workers constantly try to tempt me with. I also consistently eat at certain times. Even if I occasionally miss a meal, generally it's between 7-8pm meal, and my 10-11pm meal. Doesn't matter as I'll be asleep and won't care. I also use an app to log my food, and it adjust my macros and calorie intake based on my weight trends. Without it I was going down to like 1800-2200 calories. My energy was low, but my actual maintenance with my physical activity was around 3,700, so a slight cut from that and I'll lose weight, and the more I lose it will slowly lower the amount of calories I can consume by like 40-50. So I'll adjust over time.

[@yveje9720]

I find that skipping breakfast actually makes me eat less throughout the day. Idk why when I eat breakfast especially a hearty one I am ravenous for the rest of the day. It’s crazy I’m actually trying to put on some weight so this is something I noticed that is good for me at this time but interesting that she said the opposite is true for most people.

[@Off_the_clock_astrophysicist]

I am a late riser and regularly skip breakfast. I don't get hungry until lunch time. I used to pressure myself into eating breakfast but I stopped doing that. I replaced breakfast with a cup of tea. Over the years I believe it has helped me maintain my stable, healthy weight. I think great importance has been placed on breakfast because 80% of the population wakes up (stomach and all) hours before noon.

[@amypetty5013]

The issue is almost certainly in whatever it is you tend to have for breakfast in the first place. It's not going to be JUST the fact of putting any food into your body at all somehow makes you hungry. Bodies don't actually work that way. It's something that you're eating. At least if you've truly isolated breakfast as the sole possibility and there aren't other factors that you haven't considered. But eating breakfast, especially a "hearty" one, is NOT somehow going to make your body want MORE food on its own. First thing I wonder is how much sugar and/or carbs are part of this breakfast - the kind of foods that cause a glucose spike and then crash, not to mention the addictive nature of sugar.

[@yveje9720]

@@amypetty5013 true it could be what I am eating. But idk sometimes I would just have a hard boiled egg and oatmeal (I don’t add much sugar) and still I’ll be hungry again in a few hours. Technically eating any food raises the blood sugar that’s why intermittent fasting can work well for some people. While fasting your blood sugar doesn’t spike. Eating 1-2 meals a day is not generally unhealthy or abnormal so long as you meet your caloric intake it’s not necessary to eat 6 separate times a day.

[@amypetty5013]

IF works well for the same reason all diets work: as a form of CICO. The science is inconclusive as to the claims about blood sugar and fasting. I say this as someone who is literally using IF right now to lose weight. It's main utility is just as a psychological tool to keep your calories in check. Eating anything raises your blood sugar, yes, but that's not comparable to the issue with eating foods with added cane sugar, which will spike your sugar much worse and leave you craving more, especially after you crash. It's not the same thing at all. @@yveje9720

[@sophiab5260]

It’s the same for me and a lot of people I know, except that I have a tendency for being overweight and always try to lose weight

[@thelitnerd]

I never was able to imagine how some people forget to eat. Then i was diagnosed with PCOS with insulin resistance and was put on some medicine for it to regulate insulin and other hormones, and now that my hormones are much better i don't feel so hungry all the time. I sometimes forget to eat when I'm busy now, but like Abbey says, you do end up catching up later!

[@black-nails]

And when you remember that PCOS is very common too, it becomes sad that people blame some of the behaviours on morality :( I'm glad you found treatments that works for you tho!

[@No-sw5td]

I am still a thin woman, just an average and i would say healthy thin woman. A few years ago, I was underweight, and my main habit that resulted in being that thin was that I replaced meals with coffee. I craved coffee (specifically iced coffee) every moment of every day. Coffee suppressed my appetite, so that made it so I was only hungry for one meal a day. So glad I have placed limits on my coffee addiction lol

[@deathwave8375]

Yeah. People normalise it too much like "all skinny aestethic girlies just drink coffee and smoke instead of eating". Not so aestethic when we replace it with "all skinny girlies are just on meth". Caffeine is still an additive thing!

[@TaoMoksha]

My husbands mom grew up in a country that had barely any food when she was little. To this day she cannot waste food. As a reaction to this moment in history, when food was no longer a problem it became a new value to provide an over abundance of food as a way to show wealth, hospitality and love. She will now cook food to ensure there is enough for everyone which is often too much then will force herself and her husband to eat the rest of the food. We’ve told her she doesn’t need to cook so much food for everyone but because of her cultural values and experience with food scarcity she can’t let go of this cycle.

[@mackenziehu6531]

Did loads of things when I was "skinnier" than now and those habits still haunt me as a recovering ed patient:) so used to skip meals and being hungry that my first response to being hungry is normally "ok let's ignore it for now I'll eat in a bit" then a bit became having lunch at 4pm and next thing I know I was getting injuries during my endurance running bc I underfueled my body 🥰 so DON'T do the sketchy shit like chugging water, binging on coffee or skipping meals, it is incredible difficult to get rid of those habits and I hope I had never done them ever ❤

[@m3lsavage]

I do OMAD for years. and it works for me

[@Denidrakes69]

​@@m3lsavageit works for you because you can obviously eat a lot in a short time. It didn't work for the OP because she can't nor, I assume, does she want to. Personally, I can't think of anything worse than eating a day's worth of food, or even half a day's worth of food, in a short space of time.

[@jademusic1211]

Intermittent fasting is actually very healthy for you. Eating on a schedule is a societal construct. Eating when your body calls for fuel just makes sense.

[@black-nails]

@@jademusic1211 intermittent fasting is opposite of eating when you crave it, it's just another form of scheduled eating. Schedules are great for children's development and it's a often a social activity, so yes we have culturally made up meal times, because it works and our bodies need multiple meals a day anyway. Those meal times can be flexible, but skipping meals isn't flexibility.

[@audreyf9092]

@@jademusic1211When you’re more active intermittent fasting can be dangerous. Your body needs fuel to be able to stay active. People who don’t really exercise would benefit more from that.

[@cjmchugh6917]

I get asked for tips every once in a while. For some reason, no one has taken me up on getting multiple chronic GI disorders yet.

[@piecebypiece2028]

Skinnier people tend to stay away from drinking their calories. This one I have noticed. They'll occasionally have alcohol and soda on the weekends, but they aren't having it with every single meal.

[@jessicahainesmusic]

I've had months off/on drink and no weight change. And yes my diet was exactly the same. I was also at my thinnest when drinking heavily and eating less but that was a different time entirely. Everyone's different and alcohol calories for me made no difference.

[@bluexray7429]

​@@jessicahainesmusici personally believe the truth is around in the middle.I don't believe soft drinks calories have a huge impact in your weight but in many cases they ruin your metabolism Most people who drink lots of soft drinks since childhood they don't eat that much but they really struggle to lose weight

[@christinadieker120]

​@@bluexray7429 If you trust the WHO one of the main reason for overweight and diabetes Typ 2 are softdrinks. There ist no reason to drink sugar as it don't fed you up.

[@polandsangel]

You are absolutely right, i do that ❤

[@pencileraser99]

Really loved this type of video! Love the first idea where socializing doesn’t have to be calorie consuming. Asking to go for a walk with friends vs sitting down at a loud bar where I can’t hear anyone sounds so nice!

[@eujenia491]

I don't know. As a fellow ADHD person, it's taken a long time to understand my relationship with food and dopamine - and personally I have to manage certain things like snacks and treats with restrictions and barriers (like I can't buy ice cream at the grocery store take it home; if I really want it, I have to go out for it ) And the thing that really shut down food noise was intermittent fasting - it can be liberating to just know there's no point in thinking about food right now.

[@maddyG7414]

My goal and what I’ve noticed with my ‘skinny’ friends, is that they may enjoy food, but they aren’t consumed by it. They eat a meal and they feel satisfied. They’re not afraid to pack up a meal and have it later. For me I know my mum’s diet culture and the ‘clean your plate’ contradiction really made food novel and yet scarce. Since I’ve started changing how I see food, I don’t feel the same compulsion to eat all the time.

[@aguuse.4317]

I'm one of those "skinny" girls that forget to eat and i can tell you first hand it is not fun. Thanks to Abby i got the courage to make an appointment with a dietician and i'm now trying to re introduce meals in my daily life ❤

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Proud of you for taking this step!!

[@aguuse.4317]

@@AbbeysKitchen omg you're the Best! 💜

[@BlueValleyTS]

I’m trying to shed about 110lb of excess weight (10 down 100 to go lol), but sometimes being in a calorie deficit makes my ADHD go the other way and, instead of eating candy to get that sweet sweet dopamine, I’ll forget to eat, or forget to pack food for work. Can confirm that “forgetting” is not fun… whether it’s food or anything else 😩 If you remember something you forgot, it was at least important enough to remember, so I feel disappointment that I forgot it. (Plus, forgetting to pack food for work can get real expensive, real quick… nearest grocery store is 10 minutes away and I only have a 30 minute break! 😭) It takes a lot of work for some people to have that healthy relationship with food, and I too am proud of you for taking that step. I may be on the other side of the weight spectrum, but together we will fight for our health! 💪❤️

[@aguuse.4317]

@@BlueValleyTS hope your journey goes better with each passing day! We got this ✌🏻

[@kendra555]

in regards to the finishing your plate thing, my mom’s favorite saying recently is “i’m not the trash can” and like period! it’s going to waste either way and i deserve to not feel like crap after eating

[@ccggddccdd2911]

my mom literally calls us trash cans and says better finish the food and throw it inside of us than outside lmao i gained 15kg

[@JessietheSleepyKoala]

I was definitely feeling cautious clicking this but was pleasantly surprised. I liked how so much of this was positive advice that you expanded on and how even the more problematic Reddit posts you still looked at with a nuanced perspective.

[@madelinedowse]

I'd never heard the term food noise before but I relate so hard. I'm always thinking about the next meal now that I have to cook for myself

[@scfeng6883]

I too like the notion that socializing doesn’t have to center around the consumption of calories. My appetite has dropped in the past year, and feeling obligated to eat in order to hang out with friends is unpleasant. Also, hanging out and doing an activity together, imo, forms deeper bonds.

[@artemis8396]

Yes, much better to do an active activity together that forces socialization rather than sitting at a booth while scrolling on the phone and eating the whole time. The only positive to eating out is you can have food you don't get at home, otherwise restaurants are boring and expensive

[@marciamusiak7659]

Abbey, I listen to videos on this subject constantly. I once weighed. in at 300 lbs. I lost 160lbs almost 15 later I gained 60 lbs, went to OA lost 60 lbs. rather quickly by cutting almost all carbs I said almost all carbs. within 4 years I gained 60 lbs. again and I am stuck, absolutely addicted to sweets. It calls my name its scary. In my own defense I was laid up for almost an entire year Within a 10 month period I had 6 spinal surgeries. 2 cervical spine fusions and I had 4 thoracic vertebrae that compressed 90% so 5 kyphoplasty. In 2013 I had my lower lumbar fused. I thought this video made more sense to me than any I have seen lately. Thank you so much. These 10, I will call them diet hacks are going up on my fridge, ironic I know, the fridge I mean. Wish me luck. Thanks again Abbey.

[@goldcat3512]

I love Mrs Abbeys Sharps approach to this. It is So refreshing, I have tried all sorts of diets that messed me up so this way of talking about this is SUPER appreciated. Thank you so much.

[@Tangerinka410]

I found quite the contrary with "taking leftovers from restaurants / not finishing meals" - naturally skinny people I know usually finish their meals, because the feeling of fulness does not stress them at all. The difference is that after that they forget about food for the next 5-6 hours, or the rest of the day, while the not-so-skinny people continue with a bag of chips, nuts, sweets, sodas etc...

[@Natalie-Cornacchione]

100%! Large balanced meals but no snacks

[@black-nails]

As a skinny person- I always snack and don't always eat all the food. Also forgetting about food for 6 hours is extreme. Eating multiple average sized meals a day would ofc lessen the need for snacks, but there's no need to completely ditch them. You can always plan your snacks beforehand and buy not the most sugary ones, because it's a normal part of day, just as meals are. Black and white thinking is what often leads to starving/ overeating and perfectionism, that all are opposite of healthy.

[@amypetty5013]

You're taking that comment much too literally. All they're talking about is that such people tend to have a healthier relationship with food and don't spend a lot of the day snacking, let alone eating junk. You don't need to take "forgetting about food for six hours" so damned literally.@@black-nails

[@artemis8396]

@@black-nailsi usually get full on chips and take a few bites of the meal and take the rest home. And if there's no chips, I can't eat more than half the meal usually. I can eat it again in about an hour or two but I've always ate like a bird with big meals like that. American meals are so huge I'm shocked people can finish their plates like that and I get asked why I don't. Like come on, that burrito is almost a foot long and stuffed to the brim

[@brettdomenick]

I used to be really skinny because my adhd often made me forget to eat. I also always worked service jobs that would have me moving for 8 hours a day. The combination of these, I’d often work the whole shift and not eat anything. Now that I have moved to a less active job and focused on how I am eating I have moved to what I consider a much more healthy weight. Even now I definitely have my “neat” fidgeting and movement throughout the day as well as regular gym/exercise which is why I am still in the game of eating to gain weight instead of lose it. I’d also always suggest food tacking for anyone looking to gain weight or lose weight as it’s so easy to not really how much or little you are eating. Even tracking for just a month or a week at a time can reset my daily habits to amounts that match my goals.

[@niewieder99]

I came from a family that (lovingly) used to point out how I never finished my meals, how I ate small portions only and how I took a long time to finish meals (infamously taking 45 minutes to eat cereal) when I was a child (

[@Mclovin1212]

My parents every night made me sit at the table til I ate all my food. I can’t imagine making my kids eat in a force feeding way but that’s the way it was back then 😅 now I’m reteaching myself it’s okay to be full and not finish the plate.

[@ava4830]

Drinking coffee instead of eating is def a no go. But having a cup after a meal can be very useful. My hunger signals are basically always on, I have a huge appetite and using those signals to intuitively eat would not make me feel good. So I make sure I get enough proteïn for my lifestyle and have a higher fiber content in my diet. I need that bit of caffeine after I eat though to signal to my brain that yea I have actually eaten and I don't need to continue until I feel stuffed. Plus by the time I have finished my coffee the other natural signals have had time to kick in and tell my brain I'm good.

[@itsdune079]

I found the “never sit still” one, and your mention of NEAT, really interesting. My parents are both from Hong Kong, so I grew up eating rice. But as a kid, I HATED rice. I’m not sure if it was the taste or the texture - do note that I have combined ADHD that was undiagnosed until age 23 - but I spent 3 hours on average in the dining room at suppers, growing up, my parents trying desperately to make me finish my meals. Part of the reason it took me 2-3 hours was because I hated eating rice, but part of it was also that I would get up from my chair at random times and dance around the kitchen. It was a form of NEAT, and until watching this video, I didn’t realise that! On a different note: thank you so much Abbey for posting this video and all the science-backed things you said in here. (Unrelated, I’ve never thought to add strawberries to cookie dough - it’s an amazing idea!) As a recovering anorexic, a lot of your statements and advice is super helpful to my healing journey. Underneath my ED history, all I’ve ever wanted was a healthy relationship with food. I grew up in the clean plate club because my parents grew up poor so they instilled their scarcity mindset into my siblings and I. This led to disordered overeating and dishonouring my fullness cues, then led to orthorexia nervosa, then yo-yoing between disordered overeating and restrictive ED behaviours, then turned into full-fledged anorexia (dishonouring my hunger cues).

[@kittyfriend9888]

whenever I’m watching KZbin I walk on the treadmill, so anytime I’m watching/ commenting, I’m literally strolling along at the same time lol, it started as a way to motivate me to move more, but now I honestly can’t stand (or should I say sit) just watching stuff while sitting! (me and my husband will sit while watching tv of course) but I just grew addicted to the feeling of both my mind and body being able to wonder simultaneously while doing one of my fav calming activities, which is watching KZbin : )! I’ve also always paced the house while talking on the phone, I just always HAD to, I think it does help a little for weight management for sure!

[@epowell4211]

Finding activities not centered around food/drinking is difficult when you're disabled, already obese, and in a rural area. Difficult, but not impossible. Crafting hobbies can often be shared hobbies, doing jigsaw puzzles (I know, so lame), going to craft shows/fairs/flea markets, volunteering, etc. don't have the same vibe as "dinner out" or "movie date", but are an option. In America, unless you're eating at some gourmet nouveau cuisine place, if you don't take some home/leave some, you are consuming at least twice as much food in one sitting as dietary guidelines would suggest. One thing I've learned is to get the take out box with your meal and load it up first, leaving only what you consider an appropriate serving on your plate. You can always grab some more out of the box! Doing this helps prevent mindlessly continuing to eat as you socialize and gives you leftovers that look much nicer than the dregs of your meal. At buffets, a lot of people feel the need to "get their money's worth," and I have to ask them, "how much would you pay to not be full now?" When I'm hungry, I'd easily pay $15USD to have food in my tummy right now, no cooking, no mistakes, no cleaning up after, so it doesn't matter if I eat 6 oz or 2lbs - satiety was what I was after, and I got it. Also, you paid for that food, you can wear it out of there as a hat if you want - no one's going to make you eat it. I eat dinner around 4 hours before bed, but often have a single ginger snap, graham cracker, or half a protein shake closer to bed time. I discovered most of my hunger around bedtime has nothing to do with what food I've taken in, but all the visual/auditory clues about eating in the media I take in before bed. Mostly ads, but cooking videos, games with food in them, or seeing food left out in kitchen all get me. I have issues with hypoglycemia, and IDK if that's why, but I legit "forget to eat" sometimes, and boy does it backfire. Any time I'm doing an activity I enjoy or that requires a lot of thought, I get so involved that I'll stick to it for hours, until my cats or husband ask where dinner is. I'll often get to the point where even the idea of eating is repellent to me, but once I start - break that fast - I have difficulty quitting. I still struggle against inertia - once I'm sat, even if I'm sick of what I'm doing seated, I find it hard to get up and do something. It's been better the last few months - got the right combo of meds I guess to fight depression and give me a little more energy - but still not my default. With my hypoglycemia, I can get "tipsy" off a coke, so the reward of food is such a cheap high. Also, if you're obese, disabled, and depressed - my condition for nearly 2 decades - there's just not a lot that brings you joy, especially not as quickly and easily as a food treat. The first "diet" I did was through a hospital, and they were big on, when you tracked, you had to put time of day, why you ate, how you felt, etc., to help you identify emotional and habit eating. The second week, they simply told us to try and get in all the servings of "healthy" food suggested before we ate any junk. I don't remember all the USDA guidelines, only that the leader stressing we should try for 4 fruit servings AND 4 vegetable servings not 4 total servings made up of fruit or veg. We basically would get so full, we didn't have room for junk lol.

[@faeries292]

I am glad you mentioned the Gal Rafael, her whole profile is on promoting skinny people habbits. A lot of them are screaming ED (this comes from someone who is fighting it). If I am in this 9th circle of hell, I certainly don’t want to drag others into.

[@cristinareiser5447]

The easiest way I have increased my NEAT is by playing music (I know not everyone can do this) but sitting and working in silence = not so neat vs sitting and working while playing some upbeat music = very neat :) Tip: If the music isn't making you move in your seat or make you get up from time to time...listen to something different.

[@JuliasHairJourney]

It seems like pro-ana content is making a comeback into the mainstream. I found it concerning one creator made a short about how to get skinny, since she is very skinny naturally. The text of the video was more positive about loving yourself, but the comments in the video were very much pro-ana. One person asked for tips on how to lose weight, and tips were given. This was not just about how to lose weight, it was people aspiring to look like this creator, who is very skinny naturally. Many people could not look like her without cutting their calories beyond what is healthy.

[@2women1truth]

Which creator?😅

[@JuliasHairJourney]

@@2women1truth I do not name names and shame. People can tell if they come across it. That is all I need to say. We have to discuss things in a kind way.

[@tradwitchmorgana6933]

Wow. Makes me realise how the shaming of my (at the time undiagnosed) ADHD traits probably contributed to my weight gain; which I was then also shamed for. I’ve masked my need to tap, fiddle, hum, sing etc for years

[@LilyBonaparte]

Can you elaborate how that happened further ?

[@Dahlily]

Are humming and singing signs? I swear, the Internet is trying to convince me I have adhd (even though I don't really think I do... I was quite good at school and while forgetful and disorganized, I'm able to focus on things - if only things I find interesting, which are many though haha).

[@LilyBonaparte]

@@Dahlily I have adhd and did very well at school. It doesn’t mean you don’t have adhd. I was just very day dreamy forgetful and scatterbrained but it didn’t really affect my grades.

[@dopex89]

That kind of sounds like adhd :D But I'm not a doctor@@Dahlily

[@bellenesatan]

​@@DahlilyThe habits that correlate with ADHD are naturally present in all humans to some extent. ADHD as a diagnosis is granted only in the pathological sense; i.e when it negatively interferes with your daily life to a detrimental extent. If you're experiencing serious trouble, a professional's help could be life-changing.

[@iwishmynamewasclementine]

I almost always take the leftovers home, most meals are too big for me (I’m 5’3). So I don’t have to cook and have something nice to eat later. I eat many mini meals throughout the day and that helps me eat enough calories without under eating 😊

[@omglolwots]

I love doing this. Sometimes meals ARE too big and I love some nice leftovers that I didn't even have to make. I'm pretty dang sure I'm dead on with my caloric needs.

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Leftovers are the best

[@justicedinosaur7302]

How does your height have anything to do with how big your appetite is? I have no idea it 5'3 is short or tall because I don't speak American, but as a tall skinny female who struggles to find clothing that fits I am annoyed at the misconception that the taller you are the fatter you are

[@ixmay1023]

@@justicedinosaur7302That’s not what they were saying, just that if you’re short you may need fewer calories as your body is smaller

[@justicedinosaur7302]

@@ixmay1023 I don't think that is necessarily true

[@jerryb5995]

I'm a thin person or whatever but when I go to a restaurant one of my goals is to eat everything on my plate no matter what. It's like an accomplishment.

[@helennorman5169]

Honestly, a lot of these tips seem more like "Habits For People Who Have A Healthy Relationship With Food". The problem comes from calling it "Skinny People Habits" when not all "skinny" people are healthy and not all "fat" people are unhealthy.

[@comment3711]

Many of these are great tips! Here are my top skinny habits and they are very easy and simple. 1. Eat whatever you want but in proportion. Meaning eat much less than you think you need to eat to be full. Chew well and slowly, it takes 10 minutes for your stomach to tell you that it’s full (satiated). 2. Walk whenever you can and at a good clip. Park your car much farther away than needs be. Walk around while talking on the phone, walk just to walk. Get yourself some cute comfy sneaks so you want to put on your walking shoes and use them! 3. Have Greek yogurt with honey, nuts or fruit for breakfast or lunch. It’s good for you and is so satiating. 4. Only drink water, tea, coffee, etc. Don’t regularly drink sugary beverages.

[@marylaw9024]

I am thin, and literally never forget to eat lol. I eat something every 2-4hrs everyday. Eating lots of produce and enough protein seems to be the only things that keep my weight steady/not something I really have to think about.

[@lori1760]

My thoughts exactly 😂

[@selyemperzsa1]

Their inbuilt hunger/fullness cues works, that is the trick.

[@hannahcorinne5388]

I'm a "skinny person", and I have always been a "skinny person". it doesn't just mean your hunger cues work, mine certainly don't a lot of the time. It's just as much about habit as fat people's overeating habits are. It also helps if you're raised properly, eating healthy food, playing outside and not being given junk very often, so you learn what a treat is. Whereas fat adults are often fat kids who were raised on the not so healthy food and weren't encouraged to be active as much. Etc. We don't have magic bodies that work perfectly, we're as much a result of our surroundings and habits as a fat person! We just "got lucky" we had the right environment to form those habits in the first place.

[@Chilair1]

@@hannahcorinne5388 it sounds like you are equating skinny with things done right, or healthily or in balance. Be careful not to moralize a body type. It’s just genetics a lot of the time. The Taco Bell my friend in college ate every single day was not at good habit that kept her thin. It was genetics. It usually is.

[@selyemperzsa1]

@@hannahcorinne5388 Fat people are mostly traumatised people to whom anxiety turns off the hunger cues. Watch any transformation shows... all of them says the same: rape, abandonment, loss of loved ones, poverty, growing up with agressive alcoholic parents, etc, something happened to all of them. Unless you have any other medical condition that would justify your weight gain this is all about that, otherwise your body will know when to stop, when to move, you will feel it.

[@pomberry3591]

Yep this, as someone who has always been the skinny girl I can confirm. If I'm more active, I'm hungrier so I eat more. When I'm not moving like during covid lockdowns Im simply not as hungry, so I naturally tend to eat less. It's something that I do unconsciously and I had no idea that not everyone functioned like this until very recently.

[@selyemperzsa1]

@@pomberry3591 Good for you! :-) See my response below, usually that is the reason why other people are not behaving like that.

[@jonap5740]

Weight watchers used to say to us at meetings, "You might be thirsty, not hungry. Have some water." It never made sense to me because, as you pointed out, we do know the difference.

[@SLocky82]

I actually eat so much more food now than when I was 60 pounds heavier but I'm much more active, am far more mindful about my food choices and always use Abbey's trusted 'hunger crushing combo's' when preparing meals. Plus I try to follow the 80/20 rule when it comes to 'treats' so I never feel deprived. 😊

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Sounds like you've found balance!

[@josefinjohansson6346]

I’m new here, what’s the 80/20 rule?

[@SLocky82]

@@josefinjohansson6346 80/20 rule is to eat whole, healthy foods 80% of the time and that gives you 20% to eat any 'treats' that way you are less likely to overindulge because you are never deprived, it's basically about moderation, but helps give you a better relationship with food too as you aren't looking at foods in a good or bad way, hope this helps 😀

[@cyb3rstalker]

@@josefinjohansson634680% healthy food 20% unhealthy

[@millie-mayprice891]

I wish it was more generally acknowledged that "skinny people" don't actually have any more control over their weight than bigger people (I'm talking regular ol' people here, not exercise specialists or people who make their body their entire life) . I'm a skinny person. I cannot gain or lose weight ON PURPOSE any more easily than a plus sized person can, I just happen to be "lucky" enough that my body is socially acceptable. But one of the symptoms of my depression is weight loss, and I just spent about three years being FAR skinnier than I was comfortable being because I simply COULD NOT eat enough to get the weight back on. Same went for when I was a teenager and thought I needed to be skinnier, I couldn't lose weight. We're just as "unmotivated" and "lazy" and "lacking in discipline" as our plus sized homeys, you just can't see it because we're already the socially acceptable shape.

[@RidleyJones]

I'm pretty consistently within the so-called "normal" weight range without actively trying, and I'm in good health and happy with my body. But the whole "forgetting to eat" thing is SOOOO alien to me. I don't usually have "food chatter" in my mind (unless I'm in a social setting and there's food that people are waiting to eat for some reason--the tension aggh!), I just have a very strong physiological signal when I haven't eaten. Like the hangriness comes in hard and fast, is super distracting, and actively intrudes on anything I'm doing that would otherwise cause me to lose track of time. My body just bangs really loud on the door of my mind and yells "Hey! I'm starvin' out here!!" until I give it what it wants.

[@Diana-qp2rw]

Honestly, forgetting to eat is also not good at all. We need to eat, as long as it’s not too much. Forgetting lunch is a thing that happens to me, but that’s because I usually have a small lunch (salad, yogurt, sometimes a sandwich). And when I get hungry at 3 or 4 pm I eat something. So yeah, it’s strange to forget to eat, at least when you’re hungry. That might be more of a sign of too much stress to eat when you’re hungry.

[@carmenl988]

Same here.

[@juliahcornell]

I'm a "normal" weight person, too, but I do forget to eat. I don't get very strong or clear hunger signals from my body, in fact, I usually don't even notice I'm hungry until my stomach is growling. Even then, the hunger doesn't really bother me very much, so feeling hungry doesn't always automatically translate to "I should eat" in my brain, especially if I'm busy and focused on something else. My stomach could be audibly growling, and it might not even occur to me to eat! Regardless of that, it's pretty rare that I skip meals these days, because I've deliberately gotten in the habit of eating lunch and dinner. My body won't tell me to eat, but my routine will.

[@Off_the_clock_astrophysicist]

Having a regular meal schedule can train the body to ask for food when it's meal time. Like a cat. My "feed me" signals vary in strength and when they are not loud, I can miss them. Unlike a cat, the body will stop asking after an hour or so if not fed and there goes the meal. Colleagues have made fun of me for scheduling my lunch time like I schedule my meetings, but I am a strong believer in a regular meal schedule.

[@mcca0584]

I am the same way! I get busy and don’t have much time to eat sometimes but I know I am hungry and need fuel. Like, if I don’t take a few minutes for snack I will snap at everyone. I can never understand the forgetting to eat thing.

[@jadefeenix]

Hi, I just stumbled onto your channel. Love all the information. Love that you post the studies instead of just throwing information at me and just expecting me to take it as fact, especially when there is so much misinformation out there. One thing that I did notice when watching your vids are the air quotes. There are a lot of air quotes. Keep up the great work!

[@orangesky9670]

Embracing leftovers changed my whole life, and I don’t just mean in terms of losing weight but making me feel much better physically. When I was younger I used to eat quite a lot and could easily finish the huge portions I was served at restaurants. But as I got older and my metabolism started slowing down, it was harder and harder to finish my plate without feeling sickly full, and sometimes I wouldn’t even realize how full I was until I was finished because my body didn’t have enough time to signal me that it was done. I was just eating too much for my body’s needs. Now I’m able to manage my weight pretty effortlessly just by being able to recognize when I’m comfortably full and stop eating. I think a good way to get into this habit without starving yourself is to think of it in terms of meal planning rather than something intentional to lose weight. As I’m eating my meal, I take some time at intervals to stop, evaluate how I’m feeling, and determine how much more I think I’ll be able to eat to feel satisfied. If I feel like I can eat most of the plate but not all of it, I cut it off at a point where I can still make another meal out of the leftovers (cause sometimes I would just force myself to finish a plate if there was like only a small awkward amount to take home). Then, if I’m still hungry later after my body has had time to process, I can get dessert or have a snack at home. It’s much easier to control my portions that way, no food is wasted, and then I save money by getting a whole other meal out of it!

[@onelove3121]

Thank you so much for your comment, I found it very helpful 💐

[@SkiingIsBelieving859]

the point about not needing to eat everything on your plate is a good one. my father believed strongly in “getting our moneys worth” at restaurants and especially buffets but once you’re full, the remaining food is a sunk cost. if you actively will feel better without it, there’s no value in eating it. i still struggle with this though and find it frustrating how big restaurant portions can be (and i’m a very active 5’10” person so I can eat a lot)

[@nicolesapphire3696]

I have a friend that is 5’0” and 98 pounds and she would often say “I just forget to eat” and was surprised that I could not relate, it’s was definitely an interesting realization. But through discussions over the the past couple of years she did admit she may have had a slight bit of disordered eating when younger. I have noticed variances in stress responses, she is the sort that can’t eat when stressed, I’m the other end. The conclusion I’ve come to is she does get busy and makes everything else a priority but a bit of this forgetting to eat is also a bit of dulled hunger queues from years complicated relationships with food, she has celiacs and dairy intolerance, ADHD (cooking is hard for some ADHD people), and she is vegan (as am I), so yes she forgets to eat but she would also fall into the habit of just eating candy all day or corn chips and hummus (not terrible just not diverse enough). So I absolutely believe there are people who naturally have less hunger queues but some people it’s altered hunger queues, so people struggling should keep in mind that that super skinny friend might be naturally skinny but they might also be lying to themselves and others.

[@steviee.4918]

I also have celiac and am vegan and suspect I have adhd and I often prioritize other things over eating too!! Although I’m not skinny lol. But sometimes I just don’t feel like putting the effort into making a meal and eating it. And I’ll get to the point where I don’t feel good because I need food. It’s a habit I really need to break.

[@nicolesapphire3696]

@@steviee.4918 even having some super quick foods like a protein bar, gluten free chips and humus might be helpful. If I could live off of soft white buns and margarine I would because that’s the amount of effort I want to make at times.

[@black-nails]

@@steviee.4918 i had the same issues and meal planning and snack planning is the only way i managed to not feel terrible because of lack of food. Pre made food and snacks are better than nothing!

[@cjsfunbun]

I do not believe those skinny people are "forgetting" to eat while sipping coffee.

[@lovepuppy2242]

This is coming from someone who has lost a lot of weight in the last few years: I’m not “forgetting” to eat cuz I had a latte, I’m just not hungry cuz I’m full. The drink was filling, I don’t want anything else. Then suddenly it’s 3 hours later and I have pickles in the fridge so whatever I’ll have that. Is this necessarily healthy? No, of course not. But it’s not a disordered act because it’s legitimately unintentional. That being said, I now have to have alarms set for each meal and snack cuz otherwise I forget, and then its 6pm and all I’ve had is coffee. Not great, makes me feel like shit, but trust me I’m not trying to starve myself.

[@ReemTahir]

This is absolutely a thing. I lost 25 pounds without realizing it by being so busy for a couple months. I would only have time for coffee in the morning. For lunch, I wouldn’t make the time to meal prep, nor could I afford to order in, so I often worked through lunch on an empty stomach. I only remembered to eat dinner because my family would. I also had no idea why I would have migraines all the time. Anyway once I got over the couple months of busy time, I just gained all the weight back. I imagine some people must just live life on busy mode, so they are too distracted to eat and stay skinny. Or they are too lazy to meal prep and too broke to buy food when they are hungry so the hungry feeling is just second nature to them and they stop noticing it.

[@cjsfunbun]

@@ReemTahir I agree with you, I meant to say SOME people. I know people genuinely forget to eat but that was covered in the video, I was mentioning the other side that I also believe is true

[@ReemTahir]

@@cjsfunbun yeah you’re right. Unfortunately EDs exist and some people will intentionally skip meals even when they are starving. That’s true too.

[@ettinakitten5047]

I have sensory processing issues and don't feel hunger as acutely as most people, and I genuinely do forget to eat. And then I get restless and want to go for a walk at 12:30, and suddenly realize it's because I'm instinctively wanting to go forage for food.

[@justprocrastinating5007]

All your research and links to the studies are fantastic. It is so much work!! And I am so thankful for the example you set

[@stitchesandstaples]

I think the most interesting thing I heard from someone who struggled with obesity and had bariatric surgery - she just assumed skinny people did nothing specific. She was very shocked how much went into it per se. Yes many people unconsciously do it but it’s not something that’s done without any active component. I’m trying to get back to my good weight and I’m not wanting to diet to lose I want my diet to be what I would eat when I meet my goals and eat how I would when I’m there.

[@andreabalcer989]

There’s an influx of synching your nutrition with your cycle on socials lately. Would love to hear more of your thoughts on this.

[@oniodarkholme4267]

^

[@invaderzim1031]

also touchig on the eating dinner early, I used to eat later and have the tendency to lay down after a meal which caused me to have issues such as stomach ulcers and some acid reflux. When I began to eat dinner earlier and still have tasks to complete it improved my digestion and reduced my acid reflux.

[@abunlover]

As a skinny person who forgets to eat (due anxiety and potentially undiagnosed adhd), can confirm that forgetting to eat and then crashing contributes to not eating varied, healthful food because I would realize I forgot to eat, panic, and then eat whatever I had on hand or was nearby just to fight the drastic unhealthiness of not eating at all (aka a lot of ice cream, snack bars I carried around, and boxed vegan mac&cheese or frozen meals that were quick to make). I do not endorse this and have been saddened by people telling me they wish they had this problem instead of eating too much. Both are problems and can be very unhealthy.

[@luquegirl]

the “eating earlier > later” is so hard for me bc as a night shifter - my circadian rhythm is sooo messed up. my body doesn’t know when morning is!

[@lilaluna8922]

Not a very skinny person as my relationship with food isn't the best but I belive seeing exercise as a reward instead of punishment is very beneficial. I hate working out in the gym, or running, so I won't do that. But through trial and error I figured out how much I love swimming, rock climbing and trampolining and they have become my treats that I look forward to.

[@katiekilgore6319]

I just spent 4 months living and working in a national park l living on a food plan with structured meal times, you'd think this would be healthy but my job required me to eat dinner at 4pm and i worked until midnight and i usually slept through breakfast so at best i couldn't eat again until 10:30 the next morning when they started serving lunch. Now i feel like I'm constantly hungry and even with unlimited access to food i find myself binging every time i eat

[@lauratakenaga]

One thing I do is I get up and get/do things for my self. I don’t ask people to turn off the light or pass me something or get me a drink while they are in the kitchen. I get up and do it myself bc it was kinda what you were saying about fighting. More movement better.

[@mica4977]

I also don't encourage forgetting to eat. Sometimes it happens to me when I'm so into a project or activity that I may ignore a slight nod by my stomach to eat then along the day not think of food or assume "it's so late of course I ate" until it's 8-10pm and I snap out of it after finishing the activity or realizing my stomach isn't happy with me. My food limits still apply on how much I can eat in one sitting but it does tend to make me snack more late at night & is just not a good idea to not utilize one's stomach for so long.

[@devsie11915]

I’m in the “clean plate” club. I’ve been leaving at least one bite on my plate when I notice I’m not hungry. I’m trying to learn that it’s ok to throw away or put away food that I’m not hungry for. My body is a temple, not a trash can. The food is wasted whether I’m putting it in my mouth or in the trash because I’m usually not even enjoying it anymore.

[@megpi72]

I am 5 foot 5, 52 years old and weigh about 99 pounds. I workout with a kettlebell and\or barbell usually 5 times a week for 20 minutes to 30 minutes (4 are 30 minutes and one time a week 20). I also take a short walk for probably 15 minutes or 20 minutes a few times a week. I eat pretty healthy for the most part. I have a dark chocolate bar or bag of chips or something sometimes and make my own pizza or something like this if I want something more on the unhealthy side. I rarely eat takeout but when I do it's usually something like a grassfed burger and no fries , no pop and no onion rings. I eat eat my main really large meal in the morning which is usually from scratch and not from a box. I also eat 3 dozen eggs a week.

[@nikitatavernitilitvynova]

I don't socialize much. But I relate a lot to tip number one. I love walking round and round. It makes me feel great. And it's healthy. In fact my overall ideal plan for an outing/date probably has to be going on a walk down the seafront or park or any other beautiful place in my city and then stop for a coffee and snack on the way because I'm always in the mood for snacks. Like some focaccia (typical Genoese flat bread) or a vegan croissant (I'm part of the lactose intolerant group) or something salty liken some chips from the supermarket to share. It doesn't have to be much. And it can be done at any point of the walk. As soon as we stumble onto a good bar or place to sit and grab a bite and a drink of choice. Which for me has to be a good old afternoon espresso. And I'd say that's the typical outing for any Italian hanging out with friends or their partner.

[@FitnesswithTara]

The #adhd because the tendency to fidget definitely resonates over here!! Gotta go get evaluated cuz I really think I may have it too. Great video!!

[@Leisa224]

Ok as a girl not skinny but my cousin is so skinny and here are her some habits 1 she eat whatever she wants but stops if she feel full. 2 she eat less but talk a lot she take so much time to eat and just talk talk talk sometime she forgets that she is eating..(after few times she say I am full) 3 she is playing outside through out the day..(and me watching my phone on couch ) 4 she drinks a lot of water not because she wants to stay hydrated but because she feel very thirsty after playing.. 5 she drink water before meals.. 6 she is always jumping dancing active she can't stay at one place. Thats it

[@isabelaandzico]

Walking my fur baby Zico, the sweetest Portuguese Water Dog ever (he’d love Poppy!🐶❤) is my favorite time of the day. I don’t socialize because I don’t really have any friends but it’s my dynamic meditation and exercise for both of us. 2:20

[@vegascharles]

I have been 'skinny' for 3 years. I don't feel obsessed with food or exercise. I eat until i almost full and get extra movement into everyday.

[@Miniangi87]

I never struggled with my weight in either direction and something that I've always done is to always eat the thing I want to eat in that moment. If I want chocolate I eat chocolate and not an apple etc. I find a lot of people deny themselves what they actually want to eat and in the end they might end up eating more calories whilst still not feeling satisfied.

[@evolili4245]

Hi Abbey, would you consider making a video with cooking tips for people with ADHD (or similar difficulties)? I want to take good care of my body, but apart from the trouble of grocery shopping and following recipes, I tend to get overwhelmed when there is more than 3 ingredients in the fridge... so I end up either eating the same over and over again or ordering takeout😅

[@AJ-oy5iv]

I would like to see that too! I love cooking but forget lunch exists. I started batch cooking beans and it's helped a lot but it's boring.

[@mmps18]

Yes please!! FYI Kylie the nutritionist has a few good shorts on ADHD/disability friendly cooking. It helped a ton.

[@WingsDragonfly]

Great idea!

[@sheepmuffles9798]

this!!! cooking and eating can be very hard for me

[@BumbleSmeeBee]

Seconding this. Executive functioning and cooking is sooo hard. Cooking takes me forever, and it’s so hard to make anything my family likes.

[@liisaking1247]

I have to laugh about the "forgetting to eat" part. As you talked about it, I remembered that I had made my morning coffee earlier (after walking 5 blocks to and from the grocery store to get cream to put in it!) and it was still sitting in the Keurig, lol! So, "forgetting" is real (as is feeling repelled by the mere thought of food, especially "healthy" food, when I'm under a lot of stress). But it's also true that I may suddenly realize I haven't had dinner and am about to "fall off the (blood sugar) cliff". My choices at that point are more likely to fall under the category of, "What can I eat instantly?" than "What would be good for my body?" And then I tend not to get around to making that healthy meal, having satisfied myself with chips and sour cream or something similar. Not really a good plan. (Oh, and I normally only have 1 cup of decaf daily, so not supplanting food with caffeine-containing drinks.)

[@CrissySaalborn]

so good. You are fabulous and so very knowledgable. Thank you for sharing!

[@amyhatch3761]

Yes to the food noise thing! The only time I'm not thinking about food all day is when I'm on liraglutide injections. It's so nice to not feel hungry and constantly thinking about food all the time. I've just re-started liraglutide, this will be my third time on it, not because I'm gaining the weight back but for relief from the food noise in my head all day. It's a bit like being on anti-anxiety medication.

[@eulalia3446]

Have you tried keto or carnivore? Totally stops the food noise for most people.

[@clarasayk525]

I would love for the food noise to stop too. It's so annoying especially in the week before I start my period 😂

[@katieh8186]

For me, a lot of it is willpower and latching onto a motivating mindset. I’ve been doing OMAD for seven months and I’ve lost around 25 lbs. if I eat throughout the day, food is ALL I think about and I literally cannot stop myself from snacking all day long. So I have learned that if I set a rule for myself that I won’t eat during the day, by early afternoon I’ve mostly forgotten about food and I’m content to plan for dinner and think about that. I can eat whatever I want for my evening meal including a few cheats. It works!

[@christianaunderwood]

I like the walking one cause you save money too. 😂😂😂😂

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Seriously hahaha

[@courtneyhernandez3178]

A lot of these 'habits' feel like markers of a slimmer phenotype. Some people naturally do have a lower appetite and/or their activity level adjusts to 'defend' a lower body weight. A lot of people at my gym who are 'hard gainers' just can't get interested in eating more and even struggle to choke down more calories because their body is smart about defending its desired size. The minute their vigilance in intentionally over-feeding slips, they go back to forgetting to eat or leaving food on their plate and their weight drops again. Or they do successfully eat more, and their NEAT subconsciously increases to burn the excess calories they were hoping to store as fat and muscle. It just seems like these so-called habits are body directed behaviors rather than skills that will translate to someone with a different phenotype. And that's totally fine. My 'hard gainer' friends envy my ability to easily pack on weight and build strength while I envy their ability to get all veiny and shredded. The important thing is that we're all resistance training and getting sufficient activity to support our health and not trying to fight our bodies so hard to achieve a certain look.

[@hirrorstories]

In my case this is delusional theory. i was both 95pounda and 155 it all came to habits. At 95 i never dieted ate 3meals a day and went on about my life, dancing daily (40mins). At 155 i walked 10k 3times a week binge ate then dieted fasted etc

[@c4tmh133]

I'm glad you said that!!! My late Brother-in-law was told he'd have to eat 3000 calories a day to gain weight. He tried, but failed even with weight gainer supplements. He was just naturally thin at 6'1 under 180. I'm the opposite. Everybody's different. My Mother is 85 and never overweight. I'm not like her at all...

[@peacemaster8117]

"not trying to fight our bodies so hard to achieve a certain look" It's not about the look for a lot of us, it's about avoiding dangerous health risks that inevitably come with being significantly over-weight or under-weight. Your body doesn't have a set weight point, your weight is the result of your lifestyle habits.

[@courtneyhernandez3178]

@@peacemaster8117 your body might be able to respond to weight loss interventions to achieve any number of body weights but there absolutely are body weights and body fat percentages that require a sharp increase or decrease in calories, stricter monitoring of physical activity, and hunger/fullness cues are much louder. And they are in a different place for each person. Yes the laws of thermodynamics still apply, but the amount of brain space it takes to ramp up the habits and ignore body cues isn't sustainable when they pass that point. This is specifically the body weight that reasonable, sustainable behavior changes won't maintain and it is in a different place for each person. The research points to each person having a range within which their weight can easily move and outside of which interventions have to be way more extreme to move the needle. And outside of the range is where you see a lot of relapse back into the predetermined range in the long term.

[@peacemaster8117]

@@courtneyhernandez3178 yes, some people genetically have hunger cuws which trigger more readily, which is why we need better, more rigorous methods for long term sustained weight loss. Thats why we are trying to move out of the age of crash fad diets and into an age of slow-and-steady calorie deficits.

[@sherylmarshall1444]

End up with low blood sugar if I don’t eat and feel sick/faint so just make sure I eat well and at the correct/same time every day

[@l_tmszk]

Drinking water before meal destroyed my stomach. It is deluding Acid and food is not digesting properly

[@M13C7]

Honestly, as much as i think those are super valuable tips. Its not like these tips help you lose weight, which i think is more like a "what can we learn from" and less a "how to get like them" I personally lived my whole life like those "skinny people" and i never been in that category. At the most intense anorexia phase i been in, i still only scratched the low but still normal BMI. Being a certain weight or shape, does not mean you have a healthy relationship with food whatsoever. Due to my autism its easy as heck for me to forget to eat. And id even as much as claim that fidgeting + forgetting to eat are possibly ND traits, and a lot of ND people may be on the thinner side due to expending more energy, and forgetting to eat, possibly also metabolic correlations we re not yet aware. In any case im autistic ADHD, i fidget a lot, move around and forget to eat. Yet im nowhere skinny at all. Perhaps because im sick but still its a factor, some people may have health issues and hence cant drop weight. Due to my food trauma i dont nor cant perceive food as a reward. I always eat very slowly and hence i notice when im full and stop. I dont feel obligated to finish my meals, and i rather eat smaller portions throughout the day. Even though my day is so busy i forget to eat. I think that those "tips" may be something to think about and reflect on your own motivation and behaviour. But i dont think they are truly tips. Because forgetting to eat can be just as much a bad thing. Not finishing the plate because if you do, you feel gluttony, is also unhealthy thinking that i used to do back when i had very twisted anorexic thoughts all day long. And walking instead of eating with people may be great, unless you re avoiding food because you have an ED and cant eat around people. It may be good because you can still socialize and it may be great if people arent disabled and can actually move. But there are limitations to this. On one hand maybe you avoid food because you re having an ED, on the other if people only want to hang out doing exercise and you re too sick to do that, you re going to be left out. Everything must be a balance and fitted to your lifestyle imo

[@Oqhixiism]

I started walking almost everyday and I don’t regret it! Yeah I lost weight, but my mental health improved after being outside a lot more and walking

[@tinycindy2977]

As far as I have seen, skinny but healthy people that don't restrict themselves at all have these things in common: they are not that fond of sweets, they don't care about finishing their plate, they are pickier than the average folk and don't eat when they don't like the food, they have some hobbies that make them active and most importantly they are taller than the average women. Short women for some reason don't look skinny even if they have these same habits but they look slim thick instead which probably has something to do with having shorter limbs.

[@gigglingchicken8444]

Really just find an active hobby you really like. It can be walking, kayaking, yoga, going to the gym, window shopping, biking, running, swimming, yardwork, playing with the dogs, really whatever as long as you enjoy it and a good amount of the activity involves movement. Try to do it a few times a week and make sure it stays fun and not a chore. Also mix and match if you find multiple activities you like to do through out the week. To me its not about being skinny or achieve weight loss its more about moving my body and feeling better. I feel happy, relaxed and less achy and it has really improved my mood.

[@TryinBin8889]

Im an identical twin ajd w years ago i got half my thyroid removed. My thyroxin levels greatly fluctuate and so i cant go on medication, but the low thyroxin means Ive put on weight. I used to be the same weight as my sister, but despite us leading the same lifestyle and habits Ive put on weight. And its nothing to be ashamed of! I know where it comes from so im not too stressed. I exercise and eat well. Ive also found esting seaweed (high in iodine) helps a lot as well! And cleaning a lot too

[@joegomez5463]

I've been on both sides. There are many reasons people gain, Lose, or manage weight imo. My genetics wouldnt let me get above 190 (I'm Only 5'7" and my bones are petite, despite my shoulders being a normal range) so, 190 may not look like a loooot on me (with clothes on). But I promise you I felt it. I atually do believe all different bodies are great, I myself did not like how I looked or felt for myself when I was heavier, so I came back down. As a teen, I was only 135 Ish, and my current weight is 138-142 ish. Right now, I'm hungrier than I was when I was 190, but I also am far more active, though not as active as when I was a teen. I generally though, Encourage people to make sure they want to lose the weight for themselves, and not others before stepping in to that. The reality is, I don't think I'm better now, than I was when I as heavier. I FEEL better, and I think I look better to myself PERSONALLY, even though now people tell me I'm too skinny lmao ( I used to hear it all back in the day, "youre too skinny, you need meat on your bones" "You'd look better if you were a bit bigger!" And whatnot) Society has a funny way of trying to bring us all down, despite what we are comfortable or happy with. If someone is happy being skinny, let them be. If someone is happy being heavier, let them live and let live imo. I couldnt Imagine say....Lizzo getting really skinny...(if she wanted to, cool I guess, But I just am not sure it would quite fit the same?) I've been mocked for being skinny, Mocked for being heavy. And at this point I just listen to no one, and do how I feel most comfortable lmao. Someone will always have something negative to say, and I feel that's where a lot of this comes from, is the negatives.

[@Udontkno7]

I'm 6'0 and was 134 at one point, and have struggled to stay at 147. I gut up to 160 at one point, but when I introduced any more activity into my life I immediately went back down to the 140ies. I feel good at my current weight, but by jove I look skeletal. Whatever!

[@joegomez5463]

@@Udontkno7 Whatever weigh youre comfortable at, just be there man. You could also go for more of an athletic look anyway. I'm sure in reality you look fine honestly. Big or skinny, it's what matters more to us, and most importantly our health lmao.

[@itselectra5578]

Abbey- this is an exceptional video. I’m a Hepatologist and I spend my week literally trying to give my patients with metabolic diseases and fatty liver some basics to get them motivated to see a Dietitian or to at least not overeat or make better choices as a start, and have found myself using that phrase “you are not a trash can, so don’t eat what you don’t need” so hearing you, the actual professional, say felt so validating of my daily spiel lol Your content is excellent. You take what we see on the internet and give us the facts. Thank you for sharing :)

[@Meskarune]

If you treat diabetes then you should know 2 of the big 3 side effects is constant fatigue and constantly feeling hungry. (the third being constant thirst of course). Telling someone who is always exhausted and hungry to "just stop eating so much" and exercise _is not helpful_. Step 1 is getting them on a medication like metformin which gets rid of the hunger and fatigue. Stress to them that this makes it much easier to establish a good diet and taking meds isn't a personal failure, its making lifestyle changes easier. Step 2 is a nutritionist to help someone figure out a diet plan, and then physical therapist because they give great advice on safe effective exercises and its covered by insurance. Don't blame someone with exhaustion and hunger for eating badly, anyone would do that if they are hungry and don't have energy to meal prep. Give them the support to succeed instead.

[@artemis8396]

@@MeskaruneI've heard metformin is great for vitality in general. I don't remember what my dad said, but he's taking it while not having diabetes because it's just great for the body apparently

[@kokkinomalli]

I had a gastric sleeve and had to learn to honour my satiety signals or risk a lot of pain. Obviously my portion sizes are smaller than most people now. Eating out is sometimes really embarrassing and awkward, I eat half the portion, and leave the rest. Most restaurants where I live don't allow you to take left overs. And then the waiters get really concerned that I didn't enjoy my meal or something was wrong. 😏

[@valariewillis6000]

If Anyone know skinny people habits...... it's Abbey. She is still in that zone

[@ZDubbed]

TW:ED I’m 260 pounds and that’s BECAUSE i forget to eat during the day (thanks adhd) and binge by the end of the day because i all of a sudden am starving. My hunger cues are probably screwed from my highschool regimen of an apple for lunch and that’s all i would have all day until supper. I was also having 2 hour volleyball conditioning after school before supper. I eventually learned to crave the feeling of hunger during practice. Like it somehow made me feel like I was working harder because i was hungry while working out. I think the whole grindset/capitalism mindset where people praise burnout also heavily affects people’s relationship with food

[@steggopotamus]

I got lucky i have an app that tracks micronutrients and calories (my body is persnickety so I can't just eat what I crave anymore.) and i find when I forget to eat (also have adhd) I naturally eat about 2000 calories at the end of the day sometime it goes over but I'm still low normal range of the BMI with no exercise.

[@juliana8888]

As a skinny person, my number one tip is to enjoy clean full fat dairy. It makes life enjoyable. I totally socialize around food. It's all about enjoying food. If you eat until you're super stuffed, that isn't enjoyable. If you force yourself to eat tiny portions and go hungry for hours, that isn't enjoyable. If you're only eating to stop a nagging craving that stems from a nutritional deficiency, that isn't enjoyable. I take my vitamins and minerals every day without fail so that I don't have to calculate them into anything I eat. I focus on what I'm getting out of my food no matter what it is. Am I eating ice cream? Good. I got some nice, stable fats in. Am I eating broccoli and cauliflower with a cheesey pesto sauce? Holy eff, look at all those magical plant compounds! By stacking the deck in my favor nutritionally and emotionally, I am not enslaved by hatred or shame. I learned to listen to my body and nourish it every day instead of riding a rollercoaster of reward and negativity. If you take care of your body and learn to stop and listen, it will eventually tell you what it needs. Sometimes you just need carbs because you're tired. So what? There's no shame in that. You and your body are beautifully complex. Be gentle with yourself. Trust me, you deserve to be treated well. To eat well. To enjoy your life. ❤

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Love full fat dairy!

[@1029blue]

Great advice, although I'd leave out the word "clean", as I feel like it implies that there are "dirty" foods and could be problematic.

[@kellybridwell7250]

Yes. I actually find reduced fat (not non-fat) dairy very satisfying but either way, I find that including a lot of dairy helps me eat healthier. My healthiest times include dairy foods. I know they are demonized by a lot of people, but everyone is different, not everyone should be dairy free.

[@priyaravindran6150]

I’m one of the few people who finds full fat dairy disgusting( especially plain whole milk, though I don’t mind it in lattes). Thick yogurt grosses me out. I find skim or low fat dairy tastier, and thus far more enjoyable. I get my fats with oils, nuts, seeds, avocados, and sometimes, cheese.

[@juliana8888]

All of you sound like you're listening to your bodies. Well done. 😊

[@tawnyholbrook9160]

I’m a thin person and not using food as a reward is right on the money for me. We all need food. We shouldn’t make it something to work towards. I use video games as my reward but pick a tv show or movie you really wanna see can do the same thing. Just let food be food. ❤

[@chrizzlybearlol]

I have a few skinny friends. They do a lot of coke. It works, would I recommend it though? 😬🤣

[@AbbeysKitchen]

Nopppppppe

[@janejustin1788]

🤣🤣🤣

[@piecebypiece2028]

I found that I would often forget how horrible I would feel after overeating. For so much of my life, I was taught to always finish my plate and would feel terrible after eating - bloated, overstuffed, fatigued. I thought this was just "normal". Oh you eat, you're gonna have a period of time after where you just feel like shit. I thought everyone had this. It wasn't until another friend of mine who was skinnier said it outloud "oh I always have something lighter for lunch because if you overeat it hurts your stomach" that I realized it was not normal. I know it sounds silly, but that was my reality. Now I find that if I overeat, I need to just make a quick reminder for myself. For example, there's this restaurant that gives out huge portions. They sell a torta. This thing is monstrous. I wrote down - do not eat the whole torta - you will feel like shit after words. Eat half and take the other half home. I find that this has helped me gauge better how much food is too much. And this isn't mental - this isn't me under eating or purposefully eating less calories - believe me the torta is very big and delicious. Its more of a reminder to myself that I don't have to eat the whole thing so I can break year old habits. Sometimes I just need a reminder. And hey, that torta tastes just as delicious the next day 😋