The Real Secret to Fighting Peer Pressure

[@evaristegalois6282]

Imagine giving in to peer pressure? - _this post was made by no friends gang_

[@josiahklein70]

You must lose members often, as a result of being a semiorganized group of people who have no friends.

[@monkeyplayer1]

Josiah Klein i want friends...

[@EveryTimeV2]

I'm a schizophrenic disabled person who smashes their heads into walls rather than saying 'yes' to mind rapists every other day. I'm medicated now. I have no friends since I drugged the good ones away.

[@saulo4302]

@@josiahklein70 So there is still hope?

[@kittybeans8192]

All my friends tell me I should resist peer pressure... I dunno what to do.

[@lexiejaffas7220]

This comment has no replies, I'm gonna resist peer pressure and reply anyway...Ur funny

[@michaelskinner5006]

I've seen just about everything. I just want to be a good friend and help where and what capacity I can. It ain't easy being green:-/

[@gardenhead92]

I like to lower peer pressure by decreasing peer temperature. I call it the Ideal Peer Law

[@josiahklein70]

Genius! Avoid hot friends!

[@TheFlipside]

Have you tried increasing peer volume?

[@evilsharkey8954]

I like to keep the partial pressure of jerks to a minimum, too.

[@helishah6903]

😂

[@legendarytat8278]

Now I see why you don't have friends.

[@Master_Therion]

My friends recently all started drinking homemade pear juice. They said it was healthy. It's actually very hard to make, it requires a lot of pear pressure.

[@TaoriUTS]

get out. LOL

[@genericangst8665]

*buh dun tsss*

[@theincarnationofboredom207]

This was bad.

[@userou-ig1ze]

actually it doesn't require a high pressure, so your 'joke' is idiotic

[@EggBastion]

*user73o1u 81716* - _"actually it doesn't require a high pressure, so your 'joke' is idiotic"_ - It requires enough _pressure_ to get squeeze the juice out of the _pear_ you incalculable cretin.

[@tomsadler2548]

All the cool kids aren't caving in to peer pressure; you wanna be cool don't you?

[@newo_]

Is it considered peer pressure to be peer pressured into resisting peer pressure? 🤔

[@saulo4302]

*_Peerception_*

[@legendarytat8278]

Oh no you created a paradox the timeline is gonna collapse

[@chris7263]

I remember realizing in college that when I was confused but everyone else was quiet, if I just risked being the stupid one and asked a question, there'd often be an audible sigh of relief in the room. It was super empowering, and made me a lot less afraid to ask questions from there out. I never knew there was a term for that though!

[@alistairdownie5944]

@Chris Sanders. Ty,Your Comment,is EXACTLY what I needed for my daughter!! I hope you don't mind if I can quote this?! Gratefully yours,Parent to a Teenage daughter,Al.x🤗

[@nikkiwilliamson4665]

Everyone is told not to give into peer pressure, but no one is told not to pressure our peers (something I read on tumblr a while ago)

[@iprobablyforgotsomething]

Good point. Similarly, we support the idea that a victim should learn self-defense and stand up for themselves, aka "man up" but less often do we consider the notion of ceasing to enable bullying. Society collectively has a problematic tendency to expect/demand the victim "manage up" their bullies and abusers instead of us as a whole imposing harsher social/legal penalties to prevent and/or stop aggressors.

[@DesolatorMagic]

I use 50% not giving a crap about what other people think mixed with 50% confidence in assuming I'm smarter and better at decision making than the majority of the rest of society. It works.

[@barbarusbloodshed6347]

Yepp. It does. I don't smoke. Never even tried a cigarette in my entire life and I'm over 30 now.

[@漢字の準備]

I like the way you think.

[@societysmostambiguousgirlb1495]

We live in a society

[@Chevelin_X]

Sometimes you got to be in the interest of what you want rather than who you want others to see.

[@htmlguy88]

dunning kruger effect ?

[@dutchik5107]

For it to work. You actually need to interact with peers

[@awitchymushroom6991]

I don’t have peers

[@sleepless2541]

@@awitchymushroom6991 same

[@o0Avalon0o]

This reminds me of when both my parents got laid off from work and couldn't afford a babysitter, so I got to go to college with my mom. She thought I was just sitting quietly playing with my Legos but I learned some things from her psychology class LOL. It helped me out a lot in the future.

[@akaltar]

No peers, no pressure....

[@irarelycomment2047]

Very true😉

[@lewismassie]

Being socially awkward makes it almost impossible to get me to do anything I don't want to

[@Pedro_Le_Chef]

Exactly the opposite, a socially akward person is more likely to cave in to the demands of others simply out of fear of drawing attention to himself.

[@Harkmagic]

@@Pedro_Le_Chef sounds highly subjective. I know as a socially awkward kid I never gave into peer pressure. I took all of those "dont give into peer pressure" warnings very seriously. Then again it didn't have much in the way of friends growing up either.

[@whyisgamora4191]

@@Pedro_Le_Chef Not true from personal experiences. My friends could tell me to go to (x) party as much as they wanted, I wouldn't go if I didn't want to.

[@unleashingpotential-psycho9433]

Learning to say no is one of the best things someone can learn in life. 🔥

[@htmlguy88]

I said no to every request from my father to objectify women ( 4+ years wasted). I've said no multiple times to going to my grandmothers to possibly get rid of any bed bugs first. Saying no alone, proves ineffective in a society that only accepts yes.

[@TheTexas1994]

You can’t get peer pressured into doing drugs if you already do drugs

[@CC-bp2hn]

living that tylenol life

[@kittybeans8192]

I do Advair erry day. Twice!

[@bobthegoat7090]

Exactly. That is what I tell people when I want to peer pressure them to do drugs

[@butter_nut1817]

Jesus Christ it's Gleason-Boure n

[@cantremember1904]

Can't argue wit that logic

[@joojoochen]

I've been trying to quit drinking, because I just don't like myself when I'm drunk and I don't like how I feel the next day physically and mentally. I genuinely enjoy going out sober though. Some of the best nights I ever had were when I was sober, but my friends get so mad at me for not drinking and call me boring. I know that makes my friends sound horrible, but apart from that they are really good people. I don't even think they are aware of why they say it, they have just heard it so many times from other people, that they started saying it themselves. I know in the end it's still my decision if I drink or not, but the peer pressure definitely makes it harder. I've managed to not drink since the beginning of the year and I hope I'll continue doing so.

[@TreespeakerOfTheLand]

Keep it up :)

[@AdeleiTeillana]

Anyone who doesn't like you when you're sober probably shouldn't be someone you call a friend. Also, real friends shouldn't be insulting each other, calling each other boring or pressuring each other to do something they don't want to do. Just a thought.

[@coach2923]

Your real friends like hanging out with you not because you drink/smoke, but because they enjoy your company.

[@safir2241]

Have no friends

[@christelheadington1136]

Make friends with Lewis Massie,but don't pressure each other.

[@matteussilvestre8583]

Outstanding move

[@GS42SCHOPAWE]

You always have yourself as a companion

[@saulo4302]

@@GS42SCHOPAWE That actually kind of scares me.

[@tomryan9827]

This is why people value outspoken leaders so much. They're the people who are brave enough to take the risk and speak up when everyone else is afraid to. They risk ostracism if they're wrong. But when they're right, they unite people around common interests that those people didn't realize were common. It often takes a leader to manifest the will of a group. It's also possible that more open communication in a group could mitigate this need.

[@livingbeings]

"*drag* you on a run"?? What?? I treasure any friend who helps motivate me to get exercise.

[@swampfox1007]

No they just need extra weight, by dragging you.

[@hilmaaarifatull]

But, if you don't like to do it, you can say no, I don't do it and you can do something you love ^^

[@genericangst8665]

I'm in that awkward spot where I'm gullible and indecisive, so when pressured, I do a weird halfway that is somehow worse than whatever I'm being told to do.

[@justinh2264]

An advice that I've learned about how to conquer peer pressure, is simply by being optimistic, because at first, I've struggled by how this was going to help, but actually it's like an opposition towards thinking critically about what the situation is all about

[@CC-bp2hn]

Hey guys, loving the new channel, and Mrs. Garner is doing an excellent job presenting and speaking on science. Love the videos, and keep up the good work lads and lasses.

[@FleyDragon]

Hey, if someone is enjoying their music I'm not going to be the jerk to diss on their jams.

[@valzugg]

Well said

[@brendyn9901]

There is such thing as positive peer pressure. Going on a run with your friends is one of the healthiest thing you can do. You should encourage and even "pressure" them into it. We need to seek discomfort if it's going to improve and not harm us.

[@_tan2112]

So far best video i found on Peer Pressure. The hosting is too good in this video that i was able to understand each word without subtitle 😅. Keep making this kind of videos related to psychology. Again nice hosting skills you got there.

[@djb903]

Does this explain why a few misbehaved students can ruin the learning environment?

[@Chevelin_X]

If we are considering these few behaved students in a classroom setting be the majority individual, then yes, you do get this effect to where the minority are often afraid to speak out in fear of being put to shame for disagreeing. I really can’t say how the minority, despite them being able to know this majority is wrong in their behavior still opt towards openly protest while in this environment.

[@legendarytat8278]

@@Chevelin_X We don't give a damn to peers who don't care, that's the teacher's job. We only stop them when they get in our way.

[@vikkstar2638]

Mom can we get Elon musk Mom: we have Elon musk at home Elon musk at home:

[@1166NYC]

This is the truth behind influence marketing

[@christelheadington1136]

..and political parties.

[@marim0y]

Another great episode. As an aside: love the hair!

[@RangerRuby]

Peer Pressure is weird. You always think you will resistuntil... "Yeah, I love going to vegan restaurants and only eating beans!"

[@Wave_Boi]

That's how I met my wife.

[@raraavis7782]

Zannmaster 😂

[@therabbithat]

have you BEAN to a vegan restaurant? Actually they are amazing, vegan lasagne mmmmmm. Go to the right one. If you are going to eat out you might as well eat something you can't make yourself

[@bluesmurff6163]

@@therabbithat Berk, everyone is going crazy about vegan food these days, but honestly most of it is just... meh. I agree we eat too much meat but the "let's make a vegan everything" trend needs to slow down a bit

[@SolidBobert]

Going from "just say no," to "just say something and maybe it will go well" doesn't seem all that different to me.

[@CC-bp2hn]

Well, i think the difference is supposed to be in "I disagree, and here's my logic behind that" But to be honest, in my experience, avoiding peer pressure is more about self respect, and understanding, than what you counter peer pressure with. Know when to say no, and stand up for yourself, and know whether you're doing something FOR your friend or BECAUSE of your friend.

[@hilmaaarifatull]

Sometime peer pressure make me uncomfortable, and I can't do anything what I love, and it was like you hidden of yourself.

[@supernenechi]

So this is why classes in school can be so different from each other. I've been thinking about that for a while now and this is my best hypothesis yet

[@ApexPredatorWithSungGlasses]

Easier way to resist peer pressure: DON'T BE APPROACHABLE. If they won't attempt to approach you, there won't be peer pressure --- and if they do approach you, they're the one on pressure.

[@majinoyal]

Thanks SciShow Psych for breaking it Down for the General public. You've planted a vast amount of seeds and, more people can hopefully metaphorically wake up.

[@stavrosdenbeagel5676]

Peer pressure or not , who doesnt like my music in my house better stays silent 😀

[@TheRABIDdude]

3:37 wtf this is clearly an example of people bending to peer pressure, not ignoring it?!

[@jaggerra7]

Yes it was. She was talking about how to recognize it and what it's called. Why wouldn't she give examples of it?

[@TheZenytram]

but but i liked that music.

[@mleah7409]

The way i get away from peer presure is by: 1. Say no. 2. If they ask again I talk in passive agressive way or just toxic (without screaming). That's how i get away from it.

[@Liusila]

I was always saying no to others when I was a teenager, especially those I didn’t respect. I didn’t have many friends. Take from that what you will.

[@nadinemuller8493]

You realise that beeing pressured into going on a run is probably a good thing

[@tonyblackops]

I feel like the host is a psych genius who knows all of our emotions and is trying to control us

[@Kyle7K]

For me, peer pressure was bs. I grew up in a heavy metal crowd, in bands touring from 14 til 40, offered every substance possible and never touched a single drop of alcohol or consumed an illegal drug. Never have I received anything but respect for it.

[@yessirofficial6000]

Dam, Im only 14 bro and Im nervous about getting peer pressured.

[@Kyle7K]

@@yessirofficial6000 Be strong and avoid all that stuff. You don't need it. Thank me in 10 years when you are an adult and out of college being successful and most you grew up with are still hung up on substances and living for the party life with nothing real to show for it. Only the strongest can stay sober.

[@Ngamotu83]

So what's the difference between pluralistic ignorance and the bystander effect? Because they sound similar.

[@sarahp6512]

They do sound similar, but the bystander effect is when you think someone else will do the thing, pluralistic ignorance is thinking everyone else has a certain opinion on a thing that's different from yours. They often end with the same result, ie no one does anything.

[@Jemini4228]

The smoke experiment results could also be the result of the bystander effect. Some people may just leave the reporting it up to others in the group.

[@Chevelin_X]

This comes from a fallacy of thinking that someone else will take action, when the exact same scenario is being ran through the minds of others, thereby never achieving a true successor to the problem.

[@kenofjustice212]

When I used to work at Walmart, there were several people that liked to play loud music or turn the TV up really loud in the break room and I was dubbed "The Noise Police" because I would be the only one that was rude enough to ask them "Hey, could you please turn that down?" I visited my old workplace after a few months of being gone and many people have told me that they miss having the Noise Police because the loud music / TV bothered a lot more people than was immediately obvious and no one wants to speak up.

[@angelindenile]

In other words, if something is wrong, speak up!! If your friends are your friends, they will understand. The music analogy hit pretty square on, because there's a lot of music that aggravates migraines that I get pretty regularly. As a kid I wasn't sure how to tell others how the music made me feel (sometimes to the point of actually painful). Once I was older, I got over it, asking pretty quickly to at least turn the music down. Now even older, I know what causes the migraines, and I can actually listen to most of that music again and enjoy it (I know why they listened to Disturbed back then, they were and are still fantastic :P )

[@danboyle116]

The last two studies you cited (drinking and gender equality) seemed to me that the results may also have been resulting from peer pressure. I think the results of both are admirable, but the "everyone believes X" approach to change minds just seems to be the same thing.

[@errorexe3]

Working in certain fields can also cause you to develope a resistance to peer pressure.

[@lobaetoile8440]

When I was a teenager, I was pretty naive yet I was also really strong willed and kinda moralistic... I never gived in to peer pressure when I genuinely didn't want to do something... And honestly? It was hard, I felt really isolated and got into arguments because I couldn't adequate to social norms... Sometimes I wish I had been more flexible.

[@ArcaneOwlchemist]

I always say "yes" and then just not do it. People eventually just stop asking.

[@BlueSkies30]

You just inspired me. Next time someone says I should drink a beer or any other alcohol, I'm going to say yes then dump it down the sink as soon as they give it to me. lol

[@AdamDavis444]

@@BlueSkies30 Or if you don't want to tick them off for wasting it, say yes and walk away.

[@Chevelin_X]

Genius lol

[@ArcaneOwlchemist]

@@BlueSkies30 A better solution for that, just be the Designated Driver! As a fellow non-drinker, that is my go-to role. "Thanks, but I am the designated driver." Tons of perks! Some bars offer free soda to the DD, you get to drive everyone's car, you are always on the invite list, and if the passenger(s) act rude, tell them they forgot to pay for gas every 10 minutes and make bank!

[@BlueSkies30]

@@AdamDavis444 It was a joke.

[@AlexandrBorschchev]

peer pressure is a huge problem in schools. people should be more participant and apply their common sense to real life.

[@lightsideofsin8969]

I'm just way too stubborn. The more you pester me, the more I will resist. The more you try to force me into something, the more it's gonna hurt you when I finally snap. I never had a problem with peer pressure because none of my friends were assholes. They all asked but always accepted my no.

[@ThatTimeTheThingHappened]

Oooh this seems to help explain why people act the way they do on Twitter.

[@MajinSayon]

And this is why psychology classes should be mandatory in schools.

[@chrysalizubeth88]

I always agreed to do things because of peer pressure, but then I’d bail at the last minute do to anxiety.

[@jangambler9998]

Hah, jokes on you! I don't have any peers... but the pressure..

[@rajatnegi3896]

I knew this stuff instinctively

[@kaiceecrane3884]

Peer pressure for big things (like smoking, drinking, sex, talking behind someone's back, or really doing anything that is contrary to my subjective understanding of morality) never could sway me, but people's insistence would give me massive anxiety. Peer pressure for smaller things, or things that aren't contrary to my understanding of morality, have been able to sway me when under deress even if I don't want to do those things and people easily stress me alot.... :/ led to me being taken advantage of numerous times

[@bldudas]

You have to care about what others think about you to give into peer pressure. If you do not care, peer pressure does not work.

[@ChristopherWanha]

this sounds like it is also related to the vice fender affect, or diffusion of responsibility. I've never made that connection until you made the example with people in a room of smoke.

[@bobthegoat7090]

I promise I won't give in to ignorance. So at 2:21 it didn't even take me a second to realize I should call the fire department to your location

[@JasonFennec]

This episode is about what separates leaders from followers, and nobody even noticed.

[@pummisher1186]

When I was a kid, I thought they were talking about "pure" pressure. No one had told me what a "peer" was. They should have made that more clear.

[@kateday8714]

I'm surprised they didn't mention the opposite thing that happens. It's like 60 people watch a crime go down in real time, but no one calls the police. I forget what it's called, but they know they're not the only one watching and each assumes enough people are seeing this that someone else has surely already called the police. It's similar to the CPR thing where they tell to assign a specific person to call 911 because just yelling "someone call 911" just results in everything thinking someone else will do it.

[@kateday8714]

Oh and that weird study where if a single person standing staring at the sky illisates confused passers by, but 2 or more people standing staring at the sky and other passers by stop to stare as well even if there isn't anything to look at.

[@sarahp6512]

It's called the bystander effect

[@saikarthik8551]

I have to give a speech about this topic in my online class and was a really good information now i could do it better please wish me luck!😀

[@ekaramdani6390]

Finally... This would prove to be useful to me

[@LightningSe7en]

I've been both sides. Into and out of. As you mature though, peer pressure seems an afterthought.

[@aronseptianto8142]

Tbh, not caving in to peer pressure is a gamble, sometimes people don't care, sometimes they see highly of you and sometimes they'll ridicule you All of them equally possible Problem is that it's hard to know what things will just set them off I was just asking to the lab instructor if I can use the 3D printer in school and everybody including the teacher ridiculed me for even thinking about using it (there's a notion in their mind that you have to program your own slicer and be a coding God to be able to use 3D printer)

[@brokenacoustic]

Jokes on you, cant have pressure if you dont have peers! lol

[@NewMessage]

I refused to submit to the pressure to watch this video early.

[@esaua.7455]

1:50 You should've played Travis Scott

[@dianedong1062]

If people are pressuring you to do something which is against your better judgement, then they are not your REAL friends anyway, so there's no loss in losing them.

[@ynotbme48]

Autism/Aspergers disorder video PLEASE.

[@AlienXtream1]

the advantage of being socially detached. If i were at a party (which i would not go to in the FIRST place) i would be that guy that just unplugs the music player XD

[@BlueSkies30]

Too loud or too annoying? For me, the outcome is always thumping headaches either way.

[@lahostia7285]

I think this is a cultural variation. I’m from Spain and I didn’t experiment extreme peer pressure situations, it’s weird that you feel compelled to like something you don't really

[@BlueSkies30]

Joke Version - Easy: Have No Peers Serious Version - Be selective about the friends you choose My Version - Don't worry about me. Nobody can force me to do anything except my mom and her glare eyes.

[@jermsmason2082]

Peer pressure never affected me much, maybe have something to do with my Aspergers.

[@abrustanolfie2366]

Peer pressure is the reason those college classmate of mine do drugs together. It is the reason my ex-friends gain up together hating on me, and people hating on me once they're friends with them. It's the reason I lie about my sexual orientation.

[@annellealexander4025]

Very interesting guys.

[@KingsleyIII]

Don't interact with other people. No peers = no peer pressure.

[@flyingturret208thecannon5]

Sadly, I'm trying to find a constant method. This is what I've been doing, though it only goes so far as well, as eventually you start to feel like the antagonist again, because you are always the one to call it out.

[@thisaccountisdead9060]

Okay then. I declare a global emergency.

[@03david08]

Pluralistic ignorance is always so obvious to me and it gives me anxiety to be scared of saying what i think. I really want to be able to be unaffected by it.

[@zappy1073]

One time my sibling wanted me to watch a movie with him while I was on my phone I didn't want to watch the movie but I did anyway but before my brother was saying wanna watch the movie then he staring at me And I didn't know what to say

[@mckayleepugmire9947]

Here's a related question, how come no one ever takes the first or the last cookie/slice of pizza/etc?

[@ViniSocramSaint]

This could maybe explain political inclinations people have these days, as why people ignore or try to brush off a fact if it comes from the mouth of a political enemy, even if it is proven true and they know it's wrong to deny true stuff

[@BlueSkies30]

Politics are the worst form of eating everything your peers feed you.

[@ViniSocramSaint]

@@BlueSkies30 And yet we can't get enough of our fine cooks' soup. And we can't stay quiet while the enemies eat their tsukemen by pouring the toppings on the bowl of sauce and calling it ramen. By the way, when the cook and the fellow appreciators encourages us to worship his food and be very vocal against the ones that eat it with spoons, and we never ate anything else in any other form and are encouraged to never try, there aren't much differences between going political and just stating personal opinions. The people with challenged tastebuds are not as guilty, though sure as heck they are annoying as fucc

[@ToriKo_]

How does this relate to the bystander effect?

[@TankEpidemic]

I'll never stop playing Death Grips loudly in front of my friends. I don't need their pressure.

[@gwarscout1825]

If they are truly peers then they will understand no matter what. If not...F 'em.

[@greenredblue]

I think that last example about gender norms was bad. We were talking about how knowledge of pluralistic ignorance reduces assumed conformity, but that example *doesn’t* show that. It only shows that if you tell people “everybody thinks this” then they go along with it.

[@Seasonal-Shadow_4674]

Lol feels like a never ending battle

[@nicolaiveliki1409]

Next time my roommates aske me if Inwant to join their 10 km run, I'll be prepared. I'll be able to run 20 km!

[@BEASLAND000]

Wow 2:03 really burning death grips there

[@AstralTyde]

Why is it in dreams, when a fight scenario comes into play, punches feel like there going through heavy drag? The punches seem weak and ineffective.

[@ahuman2695]

I think it's because your brain is limited to simple movements during sleep and dreams, and punching is a complex muscle movement

[@Sluggii]

This kinda reminds me of how no one wants to be the first to turn in a test

[@Blindboard100]

Idk, a lot of my roommates drank and smoked a lot- when they offered and I refused, they said “okay no problem”. Peer pressure is a bigger problem in media than it actually is😆

[@legendarytat8278]

That's not peer pressure. If they openly force you to do something, that's bullying. Peer pressure is more going to a lesson and not calling out on the teacher's bs because no one is doing that.

[@robinchesterfield42]

I've never cared about fitting in with "the cool kids", ever since one day at school I noticed the cool kids being bullies. Right then and there, I consciously decided that I officially did not. CARE. About being "cool", and went on with my life. (I was only ten at the time, by the way.) Also, yeah, being a loner without many friends helps. When I did finally join a small group in high school, it was a close-knit NERD group and the worst we'd do is quote Monty Python and the Holy Grail in silly voices. :P

[@Jbm510]

Very cool topic! I never knew about this; guess I was pluralisticly ignorant :)

[@ThatEntityGirl]

Pluralistic Ignorance is one of the biggest fuels for drama. Bad circumstances sit and stew until it's unbearable and it all bursts. Don't let it happen

You know... that with "just say NO" doesn't work because we learned to ask "do you have anything against having sex with me?" Also, stopping at a red light is extreemly dangerous. Somebody could come from behind and run you over! I want to know more about that track! It sounds awesome! And, call me an ignorant but I just can't resist beer pressure. Never could - never will.