The realities of two working parents with mid-level corporate jobs

[@sheencascade]

Another core tip is if you have to flexibility to set your work hours, stagger your shifts. My husband does 7am to 3pm and I do 9 to 5. I handle all morning prep with the kids - breakfast, school send off, daycare drop-off. He does the opposite, he does daycare and school pickup, running errands, etc. When I get off work, I make dinner, he entertains the kids. After dinner he does dishes. Family time after dinner and bedtime we are a joint unit. My job is also way more flexible with midday interrupts such as sick kids or appoints, so I handle that more often, but if I'm back to back with meetings, he takes over because he's rarely expected to be in meetings. People act like it's impossible, it's not. It's about time management skills, and if you don't have that, I must ask -- why are you working a corporate job?

[@Bradiant]

Good luck if you live in a city. Work travel is 2.5-3hr round trip daily, and daycare pickup is 45 min round trip because daycare waitlists are long so you take what you can get. We also both worked demanding jobs that needed OT with ZERO notice no questions asked which doesn’t work for daycare… i did the 7-3 and she did the 9-5. It just did not work for us. Work all week to clean all weekend. No thanks. Screw the rat race. Thank god I got the flying fuck out of there, and I can be a homeowner and have my wife raise my kids.

[@WalkingandTalkingAussieGirl]

i know a couple who tag team sick days off with their kid, both can be prettt flexible

[@shawnbartels6091]

We need more mothers staying home to raise their children. It can be done if you don't give in to societal pressures that are not as important as raising your little human.

[@watermelondreasymone7144]

Fathers too

[@saritak4315]

Being the bread winner has been glorified so much and respected so much that women started wanting a piece of it, especially, after so many cases of domestic violence - both physical and emotional. My dad was the sole bread winner and never raised his hand towards my mom, yet my mom wanted us to have financial freedom. She regrets not pursuing higher education, not pursuing her ambitions. I always ask her why they had me, it would have been so easy for her if it was just my sister. But she had to take care of both of us. I would rather not be born than live to know what my mom gave up for us. And I'm sure my kids would too if I gave up my career for them.

[@Jim78Fly]

Pressures like making enough money to survive?

[@sheencascade]

Guess more men should quit their jobs and stay at home with their kids. Clearly men have not been raising their children and been bowing to societal pressure. All working parents raise their children, any notion otherwise is horribly insulting to all parents.

[@Bradiant]

@@saritak4315what’s a career worth compared to time with your kids? My wife much prefers staying home, we’ve done both. We saw them like 2.5hr per day during the week. It was horrible. They were the daycares kids. We were too busy to give them any attention. The plus is I now get to see them from 5pm until I put them to bed instead of seeing them from 7PM, make dinner, eat, and it’s bedtime.

[@jocelynesegundo3215]

I’m stressed just hearing this 😢

[@nikkimunir]

@@jocelynesegundo3215 it’s all about figuring out systems. I’d be lying if I said it was never stressful, but it’s figure-out-able for sure!