The Reality of Dating in China

[@laowhy86]

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[@kalgore4906]

Your a boomer dude stop dressing like your in college

[@Dimitri-Jordania]

Why no subtitles 'doe buuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuudy?

[@Steampunkkids]

laowhy86, loving your California pride! That hat rules

[@gdog7391]

CalGore94 dude did they not teach you what a boomer was?

[@jacquiegallard3653]

@S C not earning enough from the yt vids? c'mon man

[@SupremeLeaderKimJong-un]

You got a nice seat at that crowded station

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Hehehe Kim Jong-un.

[@johnblackmouth]

Kimmie and Winnie sitting on a tree K-I-S-S-I-N-G. You’re everywhere these days!

[@smartypants4571]

I guess you are the only one in North Korea with a KZbin account ! CRAZY !

[@boyar1978]

I think you are the greatest leader alive. I would love to go live in North Korea and your Juche paradise. I hate America and the West. We must crush the West as it is evil.

[@sniper-jp8qe]

@@smartypants4571 Of course he has a KZbin account, (he studied in Switzerland) but the more interesting question is... How does he access it? * Insert X-files music *

[@YJ0AUF]

In 1925 my grandmother worked in a matchbox factory in Melbourne. She and other girls sometimes put notes in matchboxes. One made its way to an outback town 1000 miles away where my grandfather purchased a box with a note in it. They corresponded by mail for a year, then got married.

[@richardnokes6438]

That is way cool and way romantic!

[@YJ0AUF]

@@richardnokes6438 Yes indeed, but it did not last. To quote Simpsons Milhouse: "We were like Romeo and Juliette. Who would have thought it would end in tragedy?" Four years later, grandfather died from some type of blood disorder. Grandmother went shortly after with breast cancer (match factory chemicals?) So my father aged 4, with baby sister grew up in an orphanage during the depression years. Still, it was a good one that looked after the kids. Not one of those evil Catholic ones where they try to put things inside their charges. C est la vie...

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

Hope you are having a good life now.

[@YJ0AUF]

@@carvercapitalequitypartner122 Thanks for asking Michael. All this happened before I came along. For me, so far, so good. Father is still good too. 89 and just had his drivers license renewed for another 3 years.

[@YJ0AUF]

@The Flaneur True. I like to think of it as an early Matchmaking event.

[@marktuyet]

I married the first girl I met in Vietnam . I was there on a business trip exporting old Vespas to the USA. I met her the second week of my trip . We became good friends and stayed in touch for two years . Went back and we got engaged . Now live in Florida with the finist human being I have e er met . We are married now for 12 years and are still crazy about each other .

[@Bigblob2013]

Ive been dating my Chinese girlfriend for three years now. I can honestly say she is the sweetest, most thoughtful person I have ever dated. She is very light-hearted and non self-absorbed. She doesn't take selfies every five minutes! For me that is a HUGE thing here.

[@warmfridge3320]

This here is why I want to learn Chinese because the women aren't as self absorbed, American women are entitled af and it's exhausting

[@Youngbeautifulladies]

hello Bigblob, dating with online in dating aaps are good or scam? i am using dating app rightnow? I have no experience in this case, so i ask you.

[@EllaChinois]

A lot of people fall in love with the feeling of being in love. That certainly creates opportunities for individuals with alternative motives to take advantages of them.

[@andrejjovanovic02]

loool the later is me

[@moinkallo689]

Or for them to screw over other people. Because they dont know what that feeling is and they love the feeling and not anything else

[@j.i.s.l178]

🍿 🙄... 🤔

[@waywardson8360]

Our society was undermined with this modern idea of some emotional stimulation which was renamed 'love'. It was changed from something done by a person on purpose to an excitement and rush of adrenaline. We have had Communist agents in our government and media who have promoted so many of these destructive ideas .

[@spamasf3661]

I still can’t believe you aren’t over 1 million subs yet..I’ve been watching since before your daughter was born I enjoy learning new things and your channel is an amazing way to do so. Keep up the good work!

[@laowhy86]

Thank you!

[@gdog7391]

Yeah dude, why did you stall? You should be growing much quicker, at least matching Serpentza. I would try collab with Bald and Bankrupt!

[@jimmyhoac7]

Spam Asf because he just bullshit

[@ivanrobles1276]

i hope this channel dies soon

[@seoul2k11]

@@ivanrobles1276 why

[@unisic3789]

I have a good definition of what a true friend is: A friend is someone who knows you very well and likes you anyway.

[@bissetttom1738]

definition of what a true friend is: A friend is someone who knows you very well and likes you anyway. love it, thanks

[@scorpion_investor]

You keep getting better. This is good advice. I have seen this in Thailand a lot too. I'm glad that you're not being as judgemental as you used to be. You're not "calling people out" and you shouldn't. I hope people benefit from your video, advice and experience.

[@Harregarre]

Couldn't help but chuckle a little when your story went: "This hot skinny, tall Mongolian chick. And then I ended up with my wife." I'm sure you didn't mean it that way but man that was a transition.

[@mishkamishka1734]

Ultima MIc They are muscular (not fat) because of their abundant protein consumption. Most of them in fact very healthy skinny. If you want pictures, just open one more tab and look it yourself.

[@AozoraUltra2006]

lol yeah i also kinda chuckled like superficially he had it all

[@merinsan]

My wife knows a couple where the lady is Chinese, and can't speak English and the guy is Australian, and can't speak Chinese. She sold them a house (she's a real estate agent), and she had to act as a translator to communicate things between them. After the sale, the woman still contacted her on occasion for translation help. I told her they are crazy. I also have another friend who knows a couple just like this, but the woman is always talking about how she is going to scam the husband...in front of the husband. Since he doesn't know Chinese, he has no idea. Never a good idea to marry someone you can't talk to.

[@youtuber6185]

Some people speak the same language and also can’t talk to each other or even understand each other

[@cooliipie]

I disagree. Works fine

[@youtuber6185]

01001011 Nani?

[@cooliipie]

@@youtuber6185 I've dated a few people that I couldn't communicate with. It was great. Used translator. You really think it's a problem? That's like saying you can't date deaf or mute people LMAO 😂

[@merinsan]

@@cooliipie Translators are still not so accurate. And translating English to Chinese, and vice-versa, is very difficult, since the rules are so different. If you doubt this, go to China are read some of the signs that have English translations...and then laugh at how bad they are. On my last trip to China, I got to eat "Fried Enema"...because people relied on a translator. With deaf/mute people you can communicate using a common language - a written language. Good luck trying to communicate with them if you have no way to write.

[@miarena111]

absolutley agreed. if ppl get married, they should marry their best friend. WELL SPOKEN !

[@boyar1978]

No, If people get married each party should have something to gain from it. Marrying for love is pointless as emotions change over time. My ancestors married so they can create alliances with other houses and possibly to lay claim to that houses lands after the head of the family dies.

[@patrolman7792]

@@boyar1978 thats how tribal wars are made

[@miarena111]

@@boyar1978 now that would be the lowest reason of all time to get married. no thanks and i dont care how many ancestors would have handled it that way.

[@miarena111]

@@boyar1978 oh and btw, that´s called bussiness not marriage

[@garrettallen7427]

But I don't have any friends I can marry...

[@donlebo6824]

Man, you really get around in your chair there.

[@merissacarlisle8043]

Great advice, many realize this much too late.

[@StefanVerstappen]

That's your craziest stories? Dude you got off easy. Three of my buddies were stabbed by their Chinese wives, several more had to escape the country in the dead of night because their girlfriends had triad fathers, one was pushed off the 5th floor balcony and ended up a paraplegic.

[@happytrees4734]

Holy chit 😳😳

[@aoeu256]

你说的是对的？

[@BrianMax]

I've dated 2 Mongolian women, and they both had that fierce self-worth you described. One of them was insanely passionate and insane in general.

[@bracciodiferro1401]

yo holy crap i was in a super toxic relationship and I thought this is not a true relationship because in true relationships you feel comfortable having conversations with your person and exactly as you said u can be dirty or just act like yourself without feeling pressured and puling any kind of jokes without thinking about how disgusting they are. Idk but I feel you explained literally how I feel now towards relationships. Thank you Lao keep up the bomb ass work ;)

[@criskity]

I think it's pretty much universally accepted by fans and non fans alike that Empire Strikes Back is the best Star Wars movie

[@jasonsadventuresconversations]

Well done and pertinent, as usual. Had a barely Chinese speaking “girlfriend” who I thought I’d missed an opportunity with by returning to USA, but what you said re: the communication issue is pretty affirming.

[@JAY-wn2hr]

Wow, I have so much to say regarding this topic, but I'll try to keep it short for you all. In my time being here (I came to china march 2010) I have seen 15 people including myself getting divorced. (and more to come) Now back then Fuzhou was a tier 3 city (now it's a tier 2) and the Expat community never has been big here. Not all those marriages that ended up in a divorce where with Fuzhou girls. But a lot of them were. And for most guys that got together with the first girl they met when coming to China. One of the common mistakes that I have seen is that most didn't do their research or thought: this girl is different. And don't get me wrong, there are girls that are different and walk their own patch. Without any peer pressure or pressure from the family. But those are so rare, chances meeting one of those is small, to say the least. One of the big problems (this is also from my own personal experience) is elderly worship. Basically, do what your parents and or grandparents tell you to do. So partly you marry into the old ways of thinking, which in most cases or by western standards are: outdated contradicting and straight out rediculous to just name a few. I think something to consider if you want to get together with a Chinese girl would be: what are her motives? Because in general Chinese people get married because of opportunity (I know this also happens elsewhere) Ask yourself the question: Why is this "hot" girl not getting a wealthy Chinese guy for example. Or why is she 29+ and not married yet(24-28 is the time to do so here)? Do most girls marry out of love here? Not in my opinion. Do they marry because of getting a green card or to get a better financial situation for themselves and their families? Most definitely! Are foreigners the only option that is left for them after a specific age? Mainly Yes! Are all girls like that? No! But most are from what I have seen, and if you are ok with that. Then yeah go for it! My advice would be, only get married if the girl has lived abroad and has a more western mindset. And it will help in many ways if she is a self-made woman. (for more than one reason) All that is left to say would be: Do YOUR research! And if you have a bad feeling about it all, bail ship ASAP. *On the topic of crazy stories about foreigners and their girlfriends or wives. There a simply too many to write down here now, and this is already longer then I wanted to go for. I might do a video on that myself one day. That might include : *Crazy girl gets a locksmith to open an ex-boyfriend his door. *A guy that got married into a Chinese mob family and got hurt in more than one way. *A guy who's wife kidnapped his son to get her ways. Great video, keep them coming!

[@robertroe9563]

Oh boy do I have a story lol. I met this international student back in 2013 and she was extremely hot 🥵. High end model no exaggeration, she literally got invitations from Hermès, Prada, etc to model for events and she majored in fashion so she was quite the eye catching girl with a very charismatic and charming personality. We hit it off and spent the day together and then decided we didn’t want to end it there so she came to my place. It wasn’t just the physical chemistry but we talked for hours and hours about everything imaginable. The next morning I had to go to work so I dropped her off and she wanted me to pick her up after work so I did. She asked me to meet her at the mall in San Francisco to pick her up so I said sure. I get there and she has 10 huge bags of clothes that she bought... for ME! She bought me two Burberry coats, LV shoes, Hermès belt... you get the idea she spent roughly 15k. We spent every day together for a YEAR. She moved in with me and a little after a year we got married. Literally one month after we got married she cheated on me and moved in with another guy lmao. I was shocked 😳 to say the least. There is more craziness but I would have to write a book lmao.

[@sneedfeed]

Bruh

[@andreanavarro2341]

She married for the Visa.

[@robertroe9563]

Andrea Navarro I would agree but she didn’t get one from the marriage. She got one for academia and because her father is a famous medical specialist who lectures at universities globally (hence her deep pockets).

[@johnmckenna5782]

You are right, The Empire Strikes Back is definitely the best Star Wars movie.

[@dragondad7733]

Communication is EVERYTHING in a relationship, habits can change,mindsets can change,styles can change, but if you cant convey thoughts and feelings on a basic level then you aren't in a relationship and you are just marking time.

[@selohcin]

You're not even "marking time"; you're wasting time!

[@deanalbertson7203]

Some people do fall in love quickly. And if you pass it up, to play the field, you might miss out on the right one. Having said that, I do agree with you that it is important to be able to communicate. So, you should both learn each other's language.

[@animal0mother]

11:38 "This house is not a home to you But you decide to go ahead and lay down, lay down There are no words to describe the depth of your indifference ’Cause I see you’re here to stay Should’ve known to pick my fate (Oh no) [Chorus] I’m so wrong, I’m so wrong (To let you in my) To let you in my home (Now you know where I sleep) Now you know where I sleep" The Weeknd, Twenty-Eight

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

Missed the live stream, and going to bed, so I'll need to catch this first thing tomorrow afternoon. Streaming that late on a Wednesday is a total Milkdog move though, bro.

[@laowhy86]

milkdogs 4 lyfe

[@NeverMetTheGuy]

@@laowhy86 - Just got around to watching it, and those were some solid stories. Having dated a Thai woman during postgrad, and lived with her, there's a LOT of similarities with the craziness and jealousy.

[@b.hagedash7973]

Please help, a while ago I bought a super realistic Chinese love doll. Everything was fine for a while but now she wants her elderly parents to come live with us. What should I do?

[@cafezo87934]

take a needle...

[@ngamashaka4894]

@@cafezo87934 This where acupuncture comes from...Trust me it fix everything

[@JeffNeelzebub]

Return to the manufacturer. Occasional defects are expected.

[@carvercapitalequitypartner122]

Never, repeat never, let the inlaws live with you. It is till death us do part.

[@youtuber6185]

Well if you love the doll you will want the doll to be happy and find a solution

[@davidmachemer1015]

You and Vivi have a great relationship. I can tell you were best buds before you were a couple. She's so open-minded and lots of fun.

[@gerwinfriedrichs6237]

But I had that with my wife. I saw her, I fell in love with her and here we are 21 years later. We have two boys and we are all happy!

[@yobentley7274]

15 years married, 13 together in the US, I still have a hard time understanding my Chinese wife. She is a US College Student now, straight A grades. Did the ELS classes and finished with Honor grades. I still don't understand half of what she says and her me. It is real.

[@freehickeys]

Free Prozzie

[@TechnoMinarchist]

Everyone wants a yandere before they get a yandere

[@PuerRidcully]

No one sane does want that. Weebs maybe.

[@30803080308030803081]

It seems like a good idea until I think about it for about ten seconds. If she’s so jealous towards me while I am not that way to her, then it’s clearly an unfair relationship. She could be cheating on me for all I know, yet she demands that I have no contact with any other girls? It would be clearly unbalanced in her favor.

[@CTcCaster]

no normal person would want a yandere wtf

[@Gelato41_]

@@30803080308030803081 the entire appeal of a Yandere is that her eyes are locked onto you and you only, hence the overly obsessed and infatuated personality

[@rodolfotonelli3689]

Laowhy86! Thanks for mentioning me yesterday bro. Love from San Diego, Ca

[@prof.m.ottozeeejcdecs9998]

You are young, but I give you that, the woman you can be friends with , and share everything with, is ultimately the person to spend your life with. Having lived and worked in China for near 15 years (no, I never studied Chinese, because I was teaching economics and management at 4 universities, in English) I can agree with some of your experiences, not all, simply because I am much older. Never got into a relationship with any of my students, not for lack of opportunity, but principles!

[@slam5]

That is why I tell my non-Chinese friends, the first thing you need to do if you are serious about a Chinese woman is to learn Chinese and understand the culture. This is especially true if you want to win over her family..

[@ErikPT]

I tried but then again, my girl isn’t on good terms with her parents who are abusing her.

[@zhubajie6940]

I am not one much for movie quotes when it comes to romance because they always have to get to happy ever after in two hours, but one should heed the well-written words from the 1965 movie Shenandoah taking place in the 1860s. When Sam asked his soon to be father-in-law Charlie Anderson for his daughter's Jennie hand, no more sincere and thoughtful advice was ever said. Charlie Anderson asked, "Do you like her?" Sam replied, "Well, I just said I..." "No, no. You just said you loved her. There's some difference between lovin' and likin'. When I married Jennie's mother, I-I didn't love her - I liked her... I liked her a lot. I liked Martha for at least three years after we were married and then one day it just dawned on me I loved her. I still do... still do. You see, Sam, when you love a woman without likin' her, the night can be long and cold, and contempt comes up with the sun."

[@andyl3655]

absolutely agreed on this, if two ppl cant even communicate what's the point....

[@Matt-qm7eq]

Would like to hear if Vivi thought it was an open relationship all those years LOL

[@andon3331]

Love the videos man, keep up the great work!

[@krollpeter]

Your story is my story. I met my wife through work. We met occasionally like friends for doing things together. No thoughts of love or relationship, anything than love at first sight. I had never touched anything else but her hands. It got serious after about a year. After 4 years we married.

[@specex]

Bro, your story is my story. We met in college but we were on and off while we both moved around for years... but kept getting together. I think it took 8 years for her family to finally come around... strange world we live in! lol

[@shadowmod3]

good for you, we are both Chinese and still cant get it to work after 20 years.

[@ScotInTheDot]

Think it's time ViVi did a similar video - and we can hear from her POV what being friends with you was like before marrying...

[@jangelbrich7056]

That inability to communicate is universal, not only between two cultures. It is why so many people break up.

[@maidengems304]

I love watching "life" in the background!

[@gingerjedi1980]

I can relate to so many things that you are taking about. I have been torn between what I should do with my on off ex Chinese girlfriend ( i feel so lucky to have been a part of her and her son's life, to me she is a person who I feel is is very smart caring beautiful and who only wants the best for me)( but one of the big main problems is that she is struggling to get to grips with the English language and adapt to my/our Western Way of living) ( also there is some doubt as to how her parents are going to feel about her being with a person like me) and you have helped me come to a decision that I/we need to improve our relationship so that we are much better friends before getting too involved with each other again as so not to hurt each other anymore and find out what we really have in common, as physical attraction is only getting us so far and then when we get into the more in-depth things like standards morals and expectations of each other and cultural differences end up causing at least me a lot of heart ache which I'm now struggling to cope with. So I am going to do my best to have indexed heart to heart conversation with r and C see where we go from here and and is it a case of us just remaining friends and seeing if it can work or if we are just friends or if we need to go our separate ways. I will be honest I am not looking forward to this but I need to do this for my own sanity. Thank you for your insight. I have been watching both your and Winston's videos for a few years now and I find them very interesting. keep up the good work

[@ZachMikeMoller]

I really enjoyed listening to your stories. You are one of the most commonsensical KZbinrs that I listen to/watch, and I have enjoyed most of what you have come out with.

[@domgrimaud]

You're my favorite spy !

[@JustDavidMinistries]

domgrimaud He ain’t no spy 😄😄😄

[@barahui9]

Shhh you're gonna get him killed

[@youtuber6185]

domgrimaud If he’s a spy then you think he stole some secret fish sauce successfully? Gtfoh

[@domgrimaud]

@@youtuber6185 great

[@Kronosbattlemaps]

great vid!. and can confirm Empire strikes back is the best star wars movie.

[@studentchaoren9805]

Congrats on your 365k subs... it is amazing that you and serpentza have come this far. Also interesting to hear your stories of the past like in this video.

[@penguinistas]

6:07 I can fully understand you getting lots of emails from people who have a dating / marriage problem but It's also important to remember that you are far less likely to get an email from someone who says "It's been great, and we're living happily ever after."... assuming that they learn to communicate.

[@MAPologeticsIPeter315]

The cultural differences between male and female is tough enough. But add the second layer of American culture vs. Chinese culture leads to a whole another level of challenges. A great book to read on the topic and help you work through the issues with someone you're dating is: G. Shelling and J. Fraser-Smith's "In Love But World's Apart." Buy it, read it, discuss it with your loved one.

[@sushilasaikar]

If I were in a romantic relationship with a Chinese girl, or any girl for that matter, I would NEVER prioritize any sort of patriotic love I might have for any particular nation over my love for the girl. My love for her would ALWAYS come first. Yet I’ve found the opposite to be true of most of the Chinese women I’ve encountered over the years. They’ve been brainwashed with so much nationalistic fervor from such an early age, that the zealous love and unquestioning devotion they feel toward their country and their Communist government will almost always be stronger than and take precedence over any love they may feel for you. And this is even more likely to be the case if you’re not Caucasian. They’re really not much different than religious extremists in this regard. Suffice to say, I would NEVER ACCEPT playing second fiddle to ANYONE, and especially not to a barbaric, genocidal political power.

[@mrhallman64]

My parents told me to meet many people, date several and get to know yourself and to know them well before moving to marriage.

[@reggiemaron6310]

you guys are the best, you always make such a good content, also so informative ! cheers ! keep it up

[@candiceli3439]

Hahahaha YOU ARE SUCH A G! I love your vibe so much and you are so funny as well!! I’m like eyes wide open watch your vids at 2.30 am (I’m in Manchester) lol and I’m so enjoying it as a Chinese girl watching it hahahaha LITERALLY I can’t stop laughing. How did I not know you are so amazing before. All the best for you and your fam ❤️❤️❤️

[@candiceli3439]

Just a side note, me and my bf who’s from England, I’m so cherished for being with him as we quite understand each other, we legit talk about everything like you said, we make jokes about our past datings etc. without feeling weird about it. Although I’m pretty much a jelly person, we just trust each other so much and there’s nothing we can’t speak out. I’m so happy that I can relate with you and Vivi because you guys got married also had a cutie baby now which I want to achieve with him in the future. Like seriously even though we have different culture backgrounds, I believe that true love has no country boundaries but based on a good communication level for sure 😆

[@TheShadowofDormin]

I won't get in a relationship unless they can also be one of my best friends. I just feel like I am building a castle in a swamp and then also you can't be 100% honest or some things are weird and if you break up it is usually messy and you won't have a friendship you can still enjoy afterwards.

[@bbjazzmanjazzman7721]

True,so true..it will be the mundane everyday situations and decisions that will eventually add up in communication needs..yes you may really have heart invested but, understanding is them opens the world..sorry..but true. good luck to all in such relationships..everyone wants to be needed, no one wants to be lonely heart.

[@prdalien0]

Bruh... my relationship of over a year just went down the drain because her parents didn't want her to marry a foreigner. JUST

[@HexZwo]

My Chinese girlfriend told me she's trying to convince her dad..

[@philipshaw7393]

Great video. I had lived in China for a year and didn't have any dating experiences but my friend Brendan dated a Chinese girl. At first it seemed ok but she got extremely jealous even if just my friend and I were hanging out at my apartment playing video games or watching movies. She would think we were gay and ask him why he spent so much time with me together. She got so controlling that he had enough and left her not long before we both left the country.

[@CCMqueretaro]

As someone with a latina wife, good luck with the sharing exes one! Great that you can have the discourse, really. But culturally with a latina thats a no go haha

[@roberthalf1094]

Get her to pray the Rosary with you and you will find a whole new meaning to marriage.

[@andreanavarro2341]

Latinas are very different depends where you go. Chinese women are all pretty much the same. Copy and paste

[@ErikPT]

@@andreanavarro2341 I can confirm I’m Mexican and I dated Chinese and Mexican, I prefer the Chinese because of their charm though I enjoyed the time with my exes they lacked my attention

[@SilvanaDil]

The days of old cellphones. "Is that a phone in your pocket, or are just happy to see me?"

[@TilmanBaumann]

Oh dear, as I'm watching this I'm in the middle on an absolute breakup catastrophe with a Moroccan girl. I see the warning signs now.

[@waywardson8360]

You dont understand that they want their hair grabbed and to be mounted when they get sassy. If she is back talking and getting disrespectful it's to stimulate you into "Aktion"

[@gerwinfriedrichs6237]

Funny thing was, when I met my wife, neither of us wanted to be in a relationship. She was widowed and I had recently been divorced. And we told each other we weren't interested. Somehow that made it even more appealing!

[@LifeofPrime0014]

Thank you @Laowhy86 @33:52 I have been telling people about that for years!

[@EMMA-GAMES]

I love your nerd-in-love voice. Please bring back cao ni ma shirt

[@Crumliner]

Anyone who gets in a serious relationship with a person from a different country has to speak their native language to make things work properly. Unless both have a common language e.g. can communicate fluently in English. Everything else is bs.

[@davecore9305]

I currently live in China and have been here over a year, but I'm dating a Thai girl. She is a better fit for me and my Thai girlfriend's parents and friends are very nice and accepting of me. I can't say the same for Chinese parents. I don't think I will date a Chinese girl. Nothing against Chinese girls, but the cultural differences are too different but at the same time a lot of Chinese girl are following the footsteps of western women.

[@snarkyguy]

Epic. Yeah that's the kind of love that I love as well. Well said, sir.

[@JustDavidMinistries]

Pure truth, Brother. Those of us in living here know what you are talking about

[@Schwachsinnn]

Dude I approach relationships literally the same way. The problem is: it takes years to find one. I always compare my feelings to if I could manage stay with this person without downsides that would catch up later (so I will have some feelings for a girl, but will sort out girls based on rational thinking). So there has been like 2 girls in these past years that are like you have described, friends I just love being around. But you know the actual downsides to them are their positives. Each of them has a boyfriend for years now. And I am not the kinda guy who steps in between, especially as I have come to like their boyfriends too. So it has been quite a while since I have managed to get into a serious relationship. But I hope that in the end it will pay off. It`s just weird as time flies by, sometimes one can be scared to never find what one does desire.

[@TrangleC]

Interesting. I met a young woman from Hubei province and she was weirdly flirtatious and kind of aggressive too. At least it seemed like it. It wasn't just normal, regular flirting though. Most of the times when I talked to her and there was nobody else in the room, she did weird stuff like putting her feet on the desk, fidget around with her pantyhose and play around with a fly swatter or a piece of bamboo that was used to tie potted plants to, normally. She would hit her palm, or her boots with it and stuff like that. I'm not sure whether I imagined things, but there always seemed this weird dominatrix vibe going on with her. I'm not into that and I was in a relationship at the time, so I didn't try to find out, but it was weird.

[@youtuber6185]

She was fidgeting because she was nervous but yea she would have near your ass In the bedroom

[@TrangleC]

@@youtuber6185 She would have near my ass in the bedroom? Sorry, not sure what you mean with that. I never was in a bedroom with her. The room where I had most of my talks with her was her office. I never even flirted with her. I usually was in her office when I had to wait for one of her bosses to take me somewhere and we just talked about regular stuff, while she gave off those weird vibes I explained in my initial comment, always playing around with a fly swatter or her bamboo stick as if it were a cane and she were getting ready to spank somebody. And no, she wasn't nervous. She was very confident and even a little bitchy at times, interrupting me and stuff like that. She just slowly and seemingly absentmindedly adjusted her pantyhose in a way that would have been clearly seductive if a character in a movie would have done it. I hesitate to say "She clearly tried to seduce me." because I don't want to be presumptuous, but I really don't know how else to interpret her weird behavior.

[@youtuber6185]

TrangleC She wanted your sausage, I think you seem a bit naïve or pure. That’s a good thing in a way. But yea, she wanted you

[@TrangleC]

@@youtuber6185 Hehe, not sure. She probably wanted some kind of sex, but if she wanted "my sausage" or whether she wanted to spank me, or something like that, that is the question. I wouldn't say I'm naive or pure. I was young back then, but not that young. It was the weird dominatrix thing that made me perplexed and made me ignore it. If it would have been regular flirting, I would have known how to handle it.

[@mikhailvasilkov4125]

Excellent idea with the changing video background!

[@thurin84]

no, no, no c-milk, being afraid of falling afoul of the disproving criminal father of a foreign girl isnt being beta. its being prudent.

[@30803080308030803081]

You think really clearly about all these matters. It seems like you and Vivi have a good marriage. I do think you dismiss romance too much. Your marriage is of the companionate type. It’s based on true friendship. That’s good. There are also good marriages of the romantic type. They’re based on true love. Although it’s rare, some people do find it. When you meet someone whom you have that special romantic compatibility with, it only takes a few days or a few weeks to know. Compared to the companionate type, it’s a somewhat different type of marriage, based on a somewhat different type of compatibility. Both types of marriages contain love and friendship, but the foundation is a little different. Both types can be very good.

[@The_Custos]

The problem with playing the field is that it damages the ability to pair bond.

[@30803080308030803081]

Sentinel Among the Ruins Yeah, I think people need to speak more precisely about these matters. It’s important. I might be old-fashioned, but I think you can determine whether you’re romantically compatible with someone without having sex with that person. For me, it’s all about being 100% honest with myself about how I feel. As long as I do that, then I know what I should do. I think many people fail to have that honesty.

[@EssentialEvil98]

This video can be summed up with the “a couple of beers and stuff”

[@AmazingGrace945]

Well I’m pumped! I love your work.

[@Petteriks]

I found a Chinese girl from Tinder a while ago - she appeared pretty in the picture but when she sent me a voice message it sounded like a demon. Literally like a monster and that was it 🙆‍♂️

[@shawnsamurai766]

This happens. Indeed, this happens. There are a few out there posing as being younger, but are either scam artists or desperate in old age, primarily due to poor lifestyle decisions.

[@เรียนภาษาอังกฤษวันนี้]

so you can't get white girls ey.....

[@Petteriks]

@@เรียนภาษาอังกฤษวันนี้ only Chinese all others refuse me instantly.

[@ninalym6328]

@@Petteriks try black lol.

[@Petteriks]

@@ninalym6328 dunno how to rap

[@BGRock91]

Hey brother after a couple drinks anybody can be a dancer

[@andrewpoole160]

You two are awesome thanks for informative and thoughtful videos.

[@purrfekt]

That arsonist yandere girlfriend is not normal. She's insane, even for Chinese.

[@baoyouming]

"All my ex-bae live in Hubei"

[@ErikPT]

So did mine now my girl is from Guangdong a true Southern Chinese girl

[@quadq6598]

Love meister laowhy86 dishing the advice ❤❤❤ Your parents sound a lot like mine - blessed.

[@RobinTaiwan2008]

You are correct about most girls in Taiwan being level-headed... And I know first hand, I married one. :-)

[@col.cottonhill6655]

What place is more communist, mainland China or California?

[@whitehorse1959]

Col. Cotton Hill - lol, you make a difficult choice.

[@youtuber6185]

China is really a mixed economy but whereas California is capitalist but wanting full socialism /communism

[@cooliipie]

Honestly. I don't know

[@MrBollocks10]

I ain't saying a word

[@Detritis]

Do not EVER date at work. I don't care if you're with your spouse/coworker right now, I KNOW one of you tossed a rice cooker at each other at least twice.

[@canman5060]

Dating was something totally unheard of in my great grand and grand parents generation in China.All marriages were arranged.

[@karisma9565]

Yes good communication is everything

[@danielalt7508]

This sounds a lot like the song "shut up and dance with me" by WALK THE MOON

[@zippythechicken]

i would have to say it is very true about the language problem.. I talk with a few korean girls and i have grown to like a couple of them over time and it is not the only barrier from having a relationship but it is a very large factor.. I will never be able to learn a foreign language its just how my brain is wired and they don't speak english or don't speak it well enough for a full relationship... so in that sense it is sad because as far as it can go is some flirting and friendship

[@loubriccant9222]

C Milk’s greatest hits- tell the one where the girl at dinner catches on fire!! Lol BRUTAL

[@googlinstuff8910]

"GOT TO BE PC?" THATS IT FOR ME

[@kenkruger481]

LOL, @ 20:30 I can relate. My wife is from Hubei (Wuhan) and we met in Guangdong Province (Shenzhen)... One of he most aggressive women I ever met.

[@telegraphdude6823]

Although you never dated her, I was still hoping to hear the Burn Girl story again LOL

[@Lightwaverable]

I honestly thought he was in a train station for a sec

[@wreagfe]

He wasn't? 😳

[@kabedondon]

I didn't get the "stealing their women" bit, they usually are like "you're lucky you got a Chinese girl!" but they would treat my GF like she was a traitor.

[@solebrth]

Did`nt really get to know my Chinese wife long enough to realize she is very shallow and selfish and likes to talk about people behind their back ,even me !

[@Awesomeandawesomness]

Hey if you want to hear my story with a chinese girl I think it would be a good peace of content for a separate video. It’s something to stay aware of

[@SplitteR2B]

Whatched this live, you got some crazy stories right there